Some thoughts on love relationships

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Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to  destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships,  being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion,  genuine care, sharing and honesty. Tsem Rinpoche

 

In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your  relationship will grow stronger and better with time. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.  Tsem Rinpoche

 

It takes a years to earn the trust of your spouse, but one selfish mistake to break their heart. Then years to regain their trust again. Just be honest from the beginning and always be loyal. Tsem Rinpoche

 

There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Everyone has so much pain already. No one is not damaged goods. So why bring more pain to your partner. Love, cherish and respect your partner by being honest and always communicating. Tsem Rinpoche

 

I am sorry is ok once, twice but not three times. If you are always apologizing, maybe you are not respecting the relationship you are in. Either respect your relationship or create a prison. It’s up to you. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is intentional. So are affairs out of marriage. You choose what you want. But remember, whatever you choose will come back to you if you are choosing for selfish reasons. Tsem Rinpoche

 

No one forced you to have a relationship. So do not make excuses for hurting your partner. Take responsibility for all your actions starting with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues. Tsem Rinpoche

 

All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it…Tsem Rinpoche

 

When we look back and see how many partners we have changed, we can be sure it is a sign we have not fulfilled what we should be doing in life. Finding partners is just a delay tactic perhaps for what we should really be doing..Tsem Rinpoche

 

Partners and spouses are only ok to have when we are ok. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to hurt yourself and your partner is when you use them to hide  behind your selfish avoidances. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche

 

If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness. Tsem Rinpoche

 

You deserve what you give. The universe owes you nothing. But you owe the universe everything. Be comfortable with that thought first and then seek friends. Tsem Rinpoche

 

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  1. Louisa on Jan 14, 2014 at 8:08 pm

    I’m always learning and practising loving people around me unconditionally. Although I did not love my parents the way they expect, i still love them but they can never get enough. Just because I dont love them the way they want and they thought I dont love them. I really upset and dont know what more I can do.

  2. Carmen Lin @ KMP on Sep 23, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts, with folded hands. What Rinpoche said is very truth and applicable to anyone of all walks of life. I will read it again and again when friends of mine had relationship problem or I myself having the problem, I can know where to find the solution and words of advice. Thank you again Rinpoche, for your efforts to enhance the lives of others.

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  4. Joy on Feb 14, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    I like this quote the best… it is really true… most of us get in to a relationship for all the wrong reasons. They think life is like some Hollywood fantasy and they go chasing after this idealistic dream which in the end hurts us more than anything else when it does not fit our projections and expectations. And when get in to a relationship we tend to forget ourselves and our whole life revolves around that person, we do whatever that person wants, wishes, and sometimes we even allow ourselves to be use and abuse… all in the name of love. And we become dependent of this person like a puppet. I have seen this in so many of my friends… is it really love? Or is it because of our own insecurities and selfish reasons?

    Being true and comfortable with yourself, knowing who you are, where you stand and dealing with your own self first is far better because then when we do enter a relationship, we compliment the other instead of epecting, we give, instead of depending, we’re interdependent and it is a mutual, two way street kind of thing, where both can grow individually and together… especially if both partners were doing spirit Dharma practice together… it becomes a blessing to one another instead of an obstacle. A couple like this is a big inspiration… http://blog.tsemtulku.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/for-couples.html

  5. Paris on Feb 14, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    Rereading this again this Valentines’ day and thinking about how, at the heart of everything, is this real gritty honesty that we all need to look at, in every of our relationships. Once the razzle dazzle of moonlight, flowers and chocolates dies down, we are left ourselves to ourselves – then what?

    Then we start creating problems, either for ourselves, our parents, or both. The relationship itself doesn’t go wrong; nor is it our partner’s fault when things don’t peter out the way we want it to. At the end of the day, we have to remember that it takes two hands to clap and to ask ourselves what it is that *I* am doing right or wrong?

    Remember too, whenever things are tough, of the good times, the positive stuff and why it is we fell in love in the first place. Good always wins over the evil and yes, I do still believe that love can make the world go round, if only we stick with it.

  6. Paris on Feb 3, 2013 at 11:36 pm

    To add to this, Rinpoche gave a wonderful teaching on how to maintain a successful relationship at one of his students’ wedding a few years ago. I remember it being an especially beautiful teaching because the girl was Buddhist but the boy was Christian – and the advice given was just as relevant for both. Relive the teaching here! (it comes in three parts) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YO9yjD_j5HI

    David Lai has also written a book about relationships based on these teachings – a very cute way of presenting different thoughts on relationships, but with this same underlying message that Rinpoche gives us. Here! “Conversations in Love”: http://www.kechara.com/publications/publications/mind-body-spirit/conversations-in-love/

  7. Jessica Yap on Dec 7, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    Everything begins with me, myself, and I. How i feel, how i react to situations, how i treat others, everything is from me. These quotes should be read every now and then to contemplate on..

    Thank you for the profound quotes, Rinpoche!

  8. mitra on Jun 13, 2012 at 10:53 am

    good advice for every one.

  9. Wan Wai Meng on Mar 23, 2012 at 11:36 am

    These are really thought provoking thoughts about relationships. Thank you sharing them, such quotes will really help people think about what they are doing.

  10. su_zan on Mar 6, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Dear Rinpche thank you for all the above quotes. It reminds me of the talk you give during my wedding day.

    For me the above quotes not only apply on a couple relationship, it applies to all kinds of relationships (friends, teachers, family, children and etc)

    One of which is
    “Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche”

  11. Melinda yap on Mar 1, 2012 at 7:14 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for your thoughts and advice on love and relationships. It is so so true what Rinpoche has shared. After reading, I looked back and pondered about my past relationships… It is true in order for a relationship to be in harmony,both parties should be honest plus have respect for each other from the beginning of the relationship. This will in time gives security and stability to the relationship…I love all the above thoughts by Rinpoche on love & relationships…I’ll save it so I could remind myself what love and relationship is all about! ;-)

  12. Albert Ratchaga on Feb 29, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for the quotes, some times we can be very possessive when we love someone, either to our partner or family, we tend to be very controlling, and the reason of being like this is just because “I LOVE YOU”.

    just a simple word I Love You, it became a manifestation of our selfishness, instead of accepting the person we love, we tend to turn them into our ideally person to be. we expect everything from them but giving nothing from ourselves… so are we really loving them or we actually loves ourselves more? Is love a taking or giving?

  13. Julia Tan on Feb 29, 2012 at 3:05 am

    “All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it”

    Something as simple as saying NO and we can avoid hurting ourselves and our partners. We didn’t do it. We let it be.

    If you truly love your partners, do something about it, before it is too late..

  14. Uncle Lai on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:56 pm

    Thank you once again Rinpoche for all the wonderful quotes on love and relationships. You are the most caring person, always look into us and find ways to explain and teach how to live a happier life.

    Of all the quotes I like this the most. ‘In all relationships honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time.’ I fully agree with that because if we are honest we will not cheat, we dont lie, we trust and we are humble. I think this is so because it comes from inside us,

  15. patsy on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:55 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for sharing these useful quotes which we can use not only in relationships but with every one whether its friends relationship or love relationship. When we care for others and treat them well with respect, we will get the results of being treated well by others too.

    I like this one, “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.”

  16. Li Kheng on Feb 25, 2012 at 3:29 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for this insightful post on relationships. We spend so much time chasing after prince/princess charming whom we believe will make our world a better place. We often forget to consider using ourselves to make someone else’s world a better place. Thank you Rinpoche for this reminder. I especially like this quote:

    “There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche”

  17. Amala Sheilagh Mercer on Feb 25, 2012 at 2:54 pm

    Thank you , this is something , Dear Tsem Rinpoche, I will print put and read often ,I may also share it often to anyone open to reading it. And a copy in my washsroom, never know who reads the only reading matterial available to them there, I truly, realize and not all that long ago, that, there is an emotional love and then there is unconditional love,. That is a start , I believe, even though, this only scratches the surface, because of an out of body experience, it was difficult to fathom that much love . Yet changed my life. Now this here to read and remind me. .
    Love and Blessings
    Amala Sheilagh

  18. vc on Feb 25, 2012 at 1:03 pm

    Dear All,
    All of your opinions about relationship maybe right or wrong.But all you haven’t got there yet.To get out of six defiling objects from your mind.All of you are subjected to six dusts defiling senses which all of you are attracted to such as beauty,intelligent,smell,senses.Be honest to yourself and speak the truth.Don’t go and claim yourself you are the GOD and not attracted to anything and swear and curse others when you are now wearing the ‘Human Body’. If you think don’t like this world you can always calm your mind and return to the source,the Origin and achieve perfect enlightenment like the Buddha.If you think you like what you are doing,just go with the flow and don’t complain.

  19. Li Kim on Feb 25, 2012 at 5:23 am

    These quotes are true and real. Not the usual mambo jumbo you get in books and cards. Many of the quotes from Rinpoche brought back the sweet and fond memories of relationships for me. I am not bitter la but can say that I have become slightly disenchanted. I think that I will just enjoy the quotes and not think too much into relationships.

    “When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues.” – this applies to many I must say…

  20. Datuk May on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:54 pm

    The quote I like best is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty”. I totally agree with this and in my own view love is not confined to couples and family only but rather it is universal and to be practised unconditionally.

    Love is tough to give as it challenges our selfishness, ego etc etc that concocts most negative emotions in most people. Being as delusional as we are, we think we are in bliss when there is love.

    I totally disagree that Rinpoche is not an expert in relationships and love, if the above quote is what attracts me then it is true for me that Rinpoche is the only one person I know that truly gives love to every sentient being.

    Now that is tough to practise.

  21. Jean Ai on Feb 24, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    After reading this, putting it alongside the video Rinpoche sent to us (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLH6-P6rIv8), I gotta add to this post – never choose someone on the basis of their looks! It all fades with age, no matter how rich, poor, fat or skinny you are! And death comes to everyone, so how do you want to live your relationship? With anger, disharmony and bitterness, or do you want your relationship to be the cause of something bigger and better? Rinpoche always says some relationships drag people down, and others lead to better things…if yours is the former, time to stop being selfish and let go, both for your benefit and for your partner’s!

  22. vc on Feb 24, 2012 at 1:29 pm

    Rinpoche is very lucky to have get out of samsara and not involve in opposite sex relationships.Everyone should think they are indeed lucky and have the privilege to left the home life and seek the Way.We can only see what is worldly and not transcendental.This life is not just about humanity but transcendental to the ultimate reality.Nirvana.

  23. Wee Liang on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:43 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you so much for the dharma talk last night. Also thank you very much for all the quotes on love and relationships. Its very enlightening, makes me reflect. My favourite quote is ‘The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships, being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you.’ This one is harddddddd.

    Wee Liang

  24. Any Loke on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:53 pm

    Wow, is so true about what Rinpoche wrote. But, human is really selfish, sometimes, we never think that the problem of the relationship is actually created by oursleves. After all the teachings and Puja that I have done it really helped so much in all aspects.

  25. bengkooi on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:46 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these thought provoking quotes. My favourite is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty.”

    To share with those who have not had the fortune to hear one of Rinpoche’s talks about relationships… As Rinpoche has said many times, a dharma relationship is different from a secular relationship because we are not in it just for ourselves. When we enter a dharma relationship, we must be determined to make it last. We must be determined to make it work regardless of whatever problems come along. We cannot just try things out because we may hurt the other person and that is a big no no.

    Its good to be aware of these things, because there are people who jump into relationships or even dharma relationships unaware of what it really entails and the commitment that we must put in.

    Bottom line – dont hurt others.
    Bottom bottom line: be a monk/nun!

  26. Khoo HH on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:13 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for the sharing on love relationships.
    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness”
    How can we hurt a person if we truly love that person, and we know that the person also love us. I think “Selfishness” is the only explaination on this. A lot of time we are treating our partner good because we wanted to feel good, not because we want our partner to feel good. I have heard of this situation a lot of times from people around me. A guy wanted to bring his girlfriend for a nice dinner because he wanted to make his girlfriend happy. But he got angry with his girlfriend when she took a long time to makeup. Suppose to be a romantic dinner, ended up with a quarrel in the house. I will always think, what is the objective of this dinner? To not miss the reserved table, or to make your partner happy? Perhaps he thought that his effort of booking the table is greater than his partner. I think if a couple truly love each other, even a roadside stall will be a romantic dinner.

  27. SEreNa on Feb 23, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    Thanks for Rinpoche sharing on some thoughts for love and relationships.

    We must always remember to share and communicate with our love partner for every challenges we face in life. You have make your choice to spend the rest of your life with the loved one. SO, Be responsible and respect to the loved one. Don’t be selfish as pain will arise to the loved one including youself.

  28. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:02 pm

    And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is….

  29. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:01 pm

    “And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is”

  30. Uncle Eddie on Feb 23, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    Is love all we need to make a successful and fulfilling life relationship? Obviously, not all love relationships are the “Life Partnership kind”. It is important to realise and recognise that, and be okay with that. We can learn so much from the experiences of past relationships, to change towards the better, to a more adaptable, improved and acceptable one for both partners. It is everyone’s goal to have the desire of finding a life partner who caters to one’s entire needs and satisfaction. We all want someone who looks good, always make us laugh, supports us, respect us and trusts us well. Before we can find that ‘someone’, we need to be that person – that includes accepting all faults and short comings of oneself and that of your life partner too. A healthy relationship, essentially, should have a good building up of respect, loyalty, trust and a good admiration for each other; more similar to a house solid basic foundation structure, where the more love and nurturance we put into it, is what makes it a happy home, and a successful and fulfilling life relationship in the years to come.

  31. Ash Ng on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    Dear Rinpoche, You have given us some wonderful insights on having relationships with others. I especially agree with the few advises below;

    1) When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first.

    2) Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt.

    I feel these 2 major points encompass all the others and when we are REALLY ready after dealing with our deep seeded insecurities, comfortable and accepting ourselves then only we take the next step. Appreciate Your enlightening insights and You care for us with others. Will put in effort working on these as the essence of Dharma is compassion towards others and not hurting or harming them would be the first priority. Thus, working on oneself first is the key to happiness. Tashi delek

  32. Yvonne Yap on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche! this is a reminder , remind the things we know, but we always forgot.Because you care.

  33. abby on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:15 pm

    Love and compassion is the greatest lesson in everyone’s life.
    Yes, Rinpoche may not be the expert, but yes, Rinpoche do care about everyone. And with this compassion, Rinpoche is the Love Guru :)

  34. tenzin llhamo on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:46 pm

    This is the one I like the most. Because of being dishonest, so many relationships are destroyed. How sad! But now that we understand, we must be better. Treat relationships with respect, humility and honesty.

    ‘In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time’

  35. Margaretlee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts and experiences you have encountered with the many stories you were told.

    I think responsibility, honesty, sincerity and intergrity apply to everything we do in our life, be it work or relationship.

    There is a saying that people only starts to know themselves when they are in a relationship, it is indeed true when we realise we always demand this and that from our partner and never gives back, a state of complete self absorption. relationship is about giving and not taking.

    I paticularly like this quote from Rinpoche : “When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche”

    Going to share this blog with many of my samsara friends…..

  36. yekyee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:10 pm

    Each of Rinpoche is very logic and make sense. When we choose a relationship, must always our partner with real care and patient. No one is perfect. How can we go along with each other, tolerance is another good deed we need practice. I believe very strongly on it. My aunty friend always with me, it is not easy for two different character person live, eat, play, work together, need so much efforts and patient. I agreed. Thankyou for Rinpoche sharing.

  37. shivani on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    I want to know a little about Karmic Connection.We meet people but they leave us yet we cannot earse them

  38. Jace Chong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:59 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing these very useful quotes.

    Relationship used to be something very hard for me to juggle in between love and selfishness. When I had quarrel with partner, I always not sure this is because I want him to be my way, or I want my partner to improve. And the definition of improvement is vary to different people.

    “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications. ”

    This is a very practical way. I should not focus on what I want, but what is best for our partner.

    Even Rinpoche didn’t go through all these, Rinpoche understand better than everyone else what should we practice in relationship. Salute to Rinpoche, as always!

  39. Han Siew Fong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    All the advices will sink into my mind. .. and have a better relationship with my partner

    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness.” Tsem Rinpoche

    i contemplated on the above and i do realize the meaning of the quote.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this wonderful post

  40. Nicholas on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:13 am

    Thanks for Rinpoche advice.

    Found that the teaching is not just for relationship but it is also applicable for anything we do in our life.

    It’s all about care. How much we want to do for others is how much we cares for others.
    We responsible for the relationship because no one can force us. We are the one choose to be and should go all the way. I like this! No point to regret on what we have not done to save the relationship because we can always be the one to take action first.

    It’s not about who love whom more than who suppose to take the first move, it’s how much you love, how much you appreciate and how far you want to go with your relationship.

    This is just applicable for everything in our life.

  41. kenny wong on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:10 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Again, thank you for you kind insights. We choose our partners ourselves and have to accept him/her for who she is. The good, the bad, the ugly and the whole. How we percieve and accept our patners is totally up to us, thus we control our own happiness in the relationship. But if we are not generous and cannot lose out in the relationship and must win all the time, we will definately be the one losing at the end…. being unhappy, unfulfilled and bitter.

    Your words of advice are so true and spot on Rinpoche.

  42. skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:37 am

    Dear Rinpoche, thank you very much for the good advises.

    “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the same expectation on yourself.”

    “Trying to put away, hiding, or avoiding relationship issues won’t make them go away. You need to talk over or be clear about it.”

    “Always bringing up and rehashing previous issues mean the issue doesn’t solve go away or it just mean you’re not letting go and keep holding on to it.”

    • skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:45 am

      Correction:
      “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the _different_ expectation on yourself.”

  43. Hui Keng on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:35 am

    LOVE is in the air. Read on baby…How lucky Rinpoche giving advice around the clock! Rinpoche’s love is genuinely unconditional hence it survives all tests and challenges. We are pretty much lucky to have Rinpoche. We have sowed good seeds for this to happen and we must utilise fully given this opportunity. Rinpoche immensely love all of us, even more deeply than what our parents can do.

  44. Irene on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:22 am

    But what about a situation in which one partner dominates the whole family, and always expects to be bowed and scraped to. He always complains about how nobody does anything right (like he wants), and threatens to leave if we don’t shape up. I often wonder how much of this is due to his family background. (He grew up in an abusive environment.)

    Don’t get me wrong–he can be charming and generous when he wants to be, but sometimes I think he does it in order to manipulate people. (When we do what he wants, he praises them or gives them little gifts, otherwise he criticizes and sulks.) If things get too quiet, then he’s good at manufacturing drama (like claiming to have a mortal illness), and he just loves to gossip. But he doesn’t think that HE is doing any of this, according to him he’s just humbly following what is right (as he was taught). And somehow he always ends up being the center of attention.

    I’m probably making him sound like a monster, but that’s not right. He can be loyal and compassionate (he loves animals, and gives to charity) and is obviously very hard working and a very good manager. He has the potential to make a positive impact on the world. But we’re in this lopsided relationship with him, in which he gets to set all the conditions, and anyone who can’t accept that can just leave. (He’s alienated a lot of people over the years, although he tells it a different way–who knows what the truth is.) Anyway, Rinpoche, I’m sure you know people like that. What to do…?

    • mrs cheung on Feb 23, 2012 at 8:12 pm

      dear rinpoche, i also know someone similar to what irene has written here in her reply, plus more. he also flirts with younger women but his sick and old wife could do nothing to stop him. facing such a monster, she could only soar and sob over her misfortune. uneducated, unemployed, unwanted, old and sick. she has no where to run to. what to do…?

  45. freon on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:06 am

    With folded hand, Thank you Guru

  46. tsemtulku on Feb 23, 2012 at 9:46 am

    Some thoughts on love and relationships..I am not the expert, but over the years I have to listen to alot of people and I came out with some of my own conclusions…

    • Sophia chung on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:19 am

      Dear Rinpoche,

      Thank you for your advice on relationship. It made me reflect on myself to improve tremendously..
      It was great pleasure to meet u in the gompa last nite. I feel very lucky to receive
      a dharma talk in person from you. Although shocking, It was priceless, the love and effort you put in for
      Your students. Thank you for taking the time to pay us the visit.

      Sophia

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  • xuliang
    Monday, Aug 31. 2015 03:42 PM
    Here is an extract (quite lengthy) taken from an interesting article written by a Buddhist teacher :-

    “………. What’s the point of all this? The vital point is that we must and need to accept that religion is an illusion, or religion is about illusion. Notice how we cannot really prove empirically or co¬n¬vinc¬ingly that any of our religious beliefs — God, heaven, nirvana, Amitabha, Guanyin, karma, rebirth – are really true. Yet, for some reason, we find them (or any of them) meaningful.
    Note that I do not say that they are false ideas — we don’t really know. Hence, they are illusions. An illusion, like desert mirages, can be real (we can actually see them). But we know that mirages, despite their visibi¬lity, do not really exist. Mirages have beauty and mystery – like works of art – to which extent, such illusions can be inspiring and healing. But, we must not delude ourselves that they are real, as you and I are real! Otherwise, we really need to carefully read Erik Erik¬son’s Young Man Luther.
    If we make serious efforts to see our true personality with the eye of honesty, we will see that we do have serious personal problems, especially when we take up religion seriously, especially if we are religious teachers (lay or monastic). To the extent that religion has contained us or mellowed us, that is good. But, as religious teachers, what we speak before an audience can move or mold them in more ways than we can imagine.
    The question we must ask ourself in our truest moments with ourself is: Am I teaching reli¬gion, or am I teaching my self? Am I really teaching Dharma, or am I projecting my ego? As a rule, if we are still unawakened, we can only teach our self: we share what we know and feel. These are all illusions, no matter how true or beautiful they may be (remember the mirage?)
    If we strongly and stubbornly believe that what we teach is as “real” as you and I are real, then we are saying that these religious mirages we believe in are real! If we insist that we have tasted joy, peace and wisdom in such realities, then we are (consciously or unconsciously) claim¬ing to be enlightened (when we are not) – we seem to be talking Zen. This is the grandest of delusions. And those who believe us, would be heading down the same path as we are.
    Animals believe what their senses show them to be real – these are, in fact, the only realities they know and act on. They would not know what a mirage is; they do not know the difference between illusion and delusion, between true and false. If we do not know what a mirage is, and we do not know what delusion is – what does that make us?
    No wonder the Buddha says that if we hold on to wrong views, we would become animals. And if we encourage others in our delusion, then we will bring upon ourself hellish sufferings. We create our own delusory (but virtual¬ly real) worlds. We will be playing our own virtual games for aeons.
    On a deeper level, all that has been written here points us to a recollection of non-self. Under¬lying all things, all our thoughts, actions and words, is the principle that there is no abiding essence, no immortal soul, no eternal self. Immortal soul or eternal self are an illusion. If we think that we have a permanent or eternal soul or self, then we are deluded (we are seeing what is not there, or looking at something but seeing something else). If we see and accept illusion as illusion, to that extent we are wise.”
  • Pastor Adeline
    Monday, Aug 31. 2015 03:30 PM
    The pastorship role was conceptualized by His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche to preserve the Dharma and to give laypeople an opportunity to commit to benefiting others. The first Buddhist Pastors were ordained on 24th October 2011 and every year since then, more have made this commitment to bring the Buddha’s teachings to people in our modern era.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/kechara-13-depts/support-the-kechara-pastors.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    Monday, Aug 31. 2015 03:29 PM
    These are some delicious Tibetan favorites of many. What is wonderful is that they are vegetarian. So they taste good and harm no one. I am not very fond of cooking but I know many are. I wonder if there is anyone out there who can make these? They are delicious.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/can-you-make-this.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    Monday, Aug 31. 2015 03:27 PM
    One of the lamas who first recognised me as a tulku back in 1987 was His Eminence Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche. His Eminence is a world renown healing lama from Sera Monastery who now resides in Italy thanks to the ban on Dorje Shugden. Despite the obstacles, Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche has worked tirelessly for many decades to promote world peace and provide social services to the community. He has set up schools to provide education to the underprivileged, and clinics to provide medical assistance that is both based on Western and Eastern disciplines. Gangchen Rinpoche has met with various world leaders to establish initiatives that foster harmony, and also does pujas and rituals to stabilise and bless the environments.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/respects-to-kyabjegangchen-rinpoche.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    Monday, Aug 31. 2015 03:24 PM
    We are attempting to plant some fresh vegetables and so far the results are promising. Today I was presented with our own homegrown lettuce and I must say it was delicious. I had three bowls of it and there were plenty more! Thank you! We are attempting to experiment, perfect as we go along and become better at planting a variety of vegetables. If we can grow more of our vegetables to consume, that would be wonderful. We can have natural pesticide free vegetables and help to defray growing food prices. It’s very rewarding to eat what we grow. Being vegetarian, most of my food comes from vegetables. I am looking forward to this very much as well as many others.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/we-are-starting-to-plant.html
  • xuliang
    Monday, Aug 31. 2015 12:01 PM
    Till the false is seen as false, truth is not.
  • xuliang
    Monday, Aug 31. 2015 06:57 AM
    The Maha Parinibbāna Sutta records the Buddha as declaring to us, “Dwell with yourself as an island, with yourself as refuge, with no other refuge – dwell with the Dharma as an island, with the Dharma as refuge, with no other refuge.”
  • xuliang
    Monday, Aug 31. 2015 06:07 AM
    If everything is impermanent, unsatisfactory and non-self, it means that there is no abiding agent — something like a creator-God or powerful being out there — who can help us in understanding
    the true nature of life, an understanding that liberates us from craving and ignorance, from suffering. Since we need to understand such vital truths for ourselves, it means that the true answers must lie only within ourselves. We cannot rely on anything outside of ourselves, even through rituals and vows (which are ways of seeking outside succour or salvation). Indeed, this is the only way to spiritual salvation — through self-reliance and selfrealization.
  • Erickksiow
    Monday, Aug 31. 2015 05:53 AM
    PREVIEW Peace & Love ( Meditation Music ) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9SjsBvKi8Ko
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  • Erickksiow
    Monday, Aug 31. 2015 04:25 AM
    Peace & Love ( Meditation Music ) Please support Kechara – https://itunes.apple.com/my/album/peace-love-meditation-music/id1031614972?i=1031615084
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  • mar
    Saturday, Aug 29. 2015 09:40 AM
    Valuable article – Speaking of which , if anyone has been looking for a 2013 WV DoR IT-140 , my company found a fillable form here http://pdf.ac/2QdZ8Q
  • tsemtulku
    Thursday, Aug 27. 2015 06:50 PM
    I like to look after and give attention to people who others kinda don’t want to look after. I feel they have enough in their lives to bring them down so I like to add a little sunshine into their world if I may.~Tsem Rinpoche
  • Pastor Adeline
    Thursday, Aug 27. 2015 02:27 PM
    克切拉佛教講法師的各種面貌

    每位講法師都有自己的專長,各就各位為上師、三寶、護法利益大眾的使命而努力,竭盡所能多方面服務大眾。懇請十方大德支持我們 http://www.youcaring.com/kechara-pastors-405767!

    阿尼洛桑杰舜
    https://www.facebook.com/anilobsangkyabjom

    https://www.facebook.com/anilobsangkyabjom/posts/902261346521070
  • Pastor Adeline
    Thursday, Aug 27. 2015 01:40 PM
    PHOTOS ON THE GO

    Nice painting of Tibetan King Trisong Deutsen who did alot for the propagation of Dharma during his reign. He is worshipped as a Dharma king and attained being also. H.E. 25th Tsem Rinpoche

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?nggpu=www.tsemrinpoche.com/wp-content/gallery/photos-on-the-go/photo_150822183110_0.jpg
  • Pastor Adeline
    Tuesday, Aug 25. 2015 02:24 PM
    For Gyaltsen –

    Dear Gyaltsen,

    You might like to read “The Treasury of Knowledge: Book Six, Part Four: Systems of Buddhist Tantra” written by Jamgon Taye for your questions earlier.

    Thank you.

    With best wishes,
    Pastor Adeline

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I must thank my dharma blog team who are great assets to me, Kechara and growth of dharma in this wonderful region. I am honoured and thrilled to work with them. I really am. Maybe I don't say it enough to them, but I am saying it now. I APPRECIATE THESE GUYS VERY MUCH!

Tsem Rinpoche

What Am I Writing Now


 

The Unknown

The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
So go pursue all the way with the unknown,
because all unknown with familiarity becomes the known.
~Tsem Rinpoche

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3 days ago
So picturesque: Japanese small towns are quaint, neat, clean and very organized and it has very rustic feeling and they connect with nature. They are timeless with modern conveniences but old world feel. I love small Japanese towns.
3 days ago
Japanese small towns are quaint, neat, clean and very organized and it has very rustic feeling and they connect with nature. They are timeless with modern conveniences but old world feel. I love small Japanese towns.
4 days ago
This Vajra Yogini is in Rashi Gempil Temple in Howell, New Jersey. My guru Kensur Rinpoche invited this from India and enshrined Her in his house next to the temple. His house was right next to the temple. I use to go and look at Her always extremely fascinated. The statue is there now and here it is. Beautiful. Tsem Rinpoche
1 week ago
Whenever we think we can't we should take refuge in Manjushri and do his practice and retreats and then our minds will open up more and then we will understand we can. That nothing is can't but everything should be CAN!~ Tsem Rinpoche
1 week ago
H.H.Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche drew this Buddha.
1 week ago
Four wonderful people at a very holy and sacred location making pilgrimage. Many dakinis were sighted in this area.
1 week ago
Nice painting of Tibetan King Trisong Deutsen who did alot for the propagation of Dharma during his reign. He is worshipped as a Dharma king and attained being also.
2 weeks ago
Congratulations to Kyabje Zawa Rinpoche in Canada! See: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=73108
2 weeks ago
The personal statue of Lord Dorje Shugden of His Holiness Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche. Very holy and sacred. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
Dorje Shugden statues to be given away
2 weeks ago
Some Dharma protectors have the special karmic link to take trance in people to speak. Gaden had a such a great oracle called Choyang Dulzin Kuten who took trance of Dorje Shugden, Setrap and Kache Marpo. This is a picture of the oracle of Gaden in full trance.
2 weeks ago
Two of the best people anyone can have as friends in their life. Left is Beng Kooi and right is Su Ming.
2 weeks ago
His Eminence Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche visited me in my house in Gaden Monastery back in 1994. What an honour. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
My personal thangka. Centre is H.H. Kyabje Zong Rinpoche. Left is emanating from his heart is Vajra Yogini. Right is Dorje Shugden. I am at the bottom eternally prostrating to them. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
Each one of us should write a respectful letter to this temple head and try to release this poor elephant..Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
Powerful!!
2 weeks ago
I want to be this Yogi in the picture. I want to be just like him deep within myself exploring the outer universe because I have conquered and mastered my inner universe. Because everything on my inside is explored, purified, cleaned and awakened, I venture out to the thousands of universes and limitless minds to bring them the truth of existence and phenomena. I wish to travel the three realms, various planes and six forms of existences. I wish to share vision of emptiness and bodhicitta which is the view to liberate the countless beings still trapped within themselves and their surroundings. I wish to be of tremendous benefit as I sit by my tree and placid lake. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
Lord Buddha shows a miracle by ascending above the river into the sky to resolve a dispute
2 weeks ago
Something short and special to share: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=73042
2 weeks ago
I am with Dato Wira Eric and Jp to plan Kechara Forest Retreat a few years back
2 weeks ago
I love this poster next to our Kechara outlets in the shopping malls
2 weeks ago
Does this work? Has anyone tried this? Click on picture to enlarge.
3 weeks ago
Very nice picture. Keep as screensaver. It is our stupa at Kechara Forest Retreat.
3 weeks ago
Whatever picture you see on the feet is the internal organ you benefit when press on that area. This is Chinese reflexology. TR
3 weeks ago
On our Tsem Rinpoche's http://www.tsemrinpoche.com, a while back an article was posted "DORJE SHUGDEN: MY SIDE OF THE STORY", where Rinpoche shares about his personal journey of Dorje Shugden's practice, history and why he continues his practice even with so much personal attacks for his choice. This blog post has since reached over 100,000 now. This is news to rejoice. Many people have viewed this post and gained further knowledge on Tsem Rinpoche's relationship with Dorje Shugden and in the process learned more about the practice of Dorje Shugden. Tsem Rinpoche on this post speaks with clarity, strength and logic: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=65988
3 weeks ago
There is no photo-shopping at all. Look at what is in the sky. TR
3 weeks ago
Maghada Sangmo on the top of the roof offering incense and requestiong Buddha to her home. Her relatives making offerings to naked Jain sadhus in her home. (right side). The left side sees Buddha arriving miraculously heralded by his entourage/students of Arhats riding various animal mounts. The Arhats have gained certain supernatural abilities. Buddha descends to the house and is at the door. Receives alms from Maghada Sangmo and gives dharma teachings. As a result, the city has taken refuge from listening to the Buddha and many achieve Arhatship. Due to Sangmo's devotion, faith and trust in Buddha, the Buddha arrives at her home and turns the wheel of dharma and many enter into the dharma because of this. This is a clip from a old thangka. TR
3 weeks ago
Ms. Su Ming is one of the most reliable and kindest persons I have met. It is anyone's good luck to be her friend. Here she is with her beloved nephew at Kechara Forest Retreat. May they be blessed always.
4 weeks ago
This was taken at Kechara Forest Retreat. If you click and enlarge the photo, you can see what is illuminated under the moonlight. Very nice.
4 weeks ago
This picture was taken on Sunset Boulevard, West Hollywood, Los Angeles, California. I was around 19 years old I think. I was living in Thubten Dhargye Ling Buddhist centre under the holy guide of Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen whom I love and respect so much. I was lucky to be a young boy in a huge city like Los Angeles and living under the guidance of a great master like him. I feel I have very good karma to find this master and trust him, follow him and live with him when other teenagers were doing such different things in a big city. My interest was always dharma. Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
This was my tiny small room in Gaden for the first few years. The space next to my rooms are where the cows stayed. I had a huge crack in my wall and I can see the cows and they can see me! My room leaked very badly when it rained with a separate toilet nearby. The toilet barely worked and rarely flushed and had snakes in the toilet or behind the door a few times. The manager of the place told me I can get a better room that does not leak if I raise funds to build more rooms. I was barely getting enough to eat let alone raise funds for buildings. This was back in 1988 till around 1992 I lived in the small room in Gaden Shartse Monastery. I was having such a difficult time finding sponsorship, I could not at that time. But even still I was grateful to be in Gaden and always miss it. This room has since been renovated and fixed up. It has alot of memories for me. Spiritual memories. Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
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4 weeks ago
Nice Picture! Kache Marpo in full trance offering a khata to our sacred Kechara Forest Dorje Shugden statue. When Kache Marpo flings the khata (Tibetan white offerings scarf), it really just flies to the massive statue!! Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
Duo Bao Jiang Si Monastery in China. Beautiful.
4 weeks ago
Tsem Rinpoche's immediate previous incarnation. Kentrul Thupten Lamsang of Phari.
4 weeks ago
Intricate Heruka. What is nice is Marpa and Milarepa is on this. Marpa initiated Milarepa into Heruka's tantra and Milarepa practiced and became enlightened from this practice. We know the famous Milarepa but he relied on Heruka for full enlightenment.
4 weeks ago
Beautiful Buddha image and strong message.
4 weeks ago
What a BEAUTIFUL Vajra Yogini. I like this so much. The face and body is so very nice. I like the flames behind Her also. This is very nicely done.
1 month ago
When we seek pleasure, we always end up in pain eventually. All phenomena is subject to compositional decay and nothing is permanent. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Do click on this picture as it really hits home. TR
1 month ago
This is such a spectacular photo of Kechara Forest Retreat. Must download and save!
1 month ago
A very meaningful picture for me with important people in my life. TR
1 month ago
This one is a real good one. TR
1 month ago
profound and powerful
1 month ago
Peace is what we need.
1 month ago
Some people have the freedom and some people don't. But all deserve it. 
1 month ago
We all have a choice of how others view us and where we end up. Have shared my thoughts here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=70726
2 months ago
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  • His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
    2 days ago
    His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
  • A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
    2 weeks ago
    A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 1)
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    Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 1)
  • Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 2)
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    Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 2)
  • His Holiness Trijang Rinpoche accepts Long Life puja
    2 months ago
    His Holiness Trijang Rinpoche accepts Long Life puja
  • Dorje Shugden/Kache Marpo makes offerings to Tsem Rinpoche
    2 months ago
    Dorje Shugden/Kache Marpo makes offerings to Tsem Rinpoche
  • My good friend Justin Ripley
    2 months ago
    My good friend Justin Ripley
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    3 months ago
    I requested Choji Lah to do a trusol, rabney and soongdroop for our large DS and Buddha. In this video, he is performing trusol which is ritually 'bathing' the environment and blessing all those who come to visit our Wisdom Hall and Dorje Shugden. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Bigfoot arrives!!!
    3 months ago
    Bigfoot arrives!!!
    Tsem Rinpoche is an avid follower of the paranormal such as bigfoots. For more interesting writings and posts on the subject, please go to http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/category/yeti-bigfoot-sasquatch
  • Mumu Loves Snack!
    3 months ago
    Mumu Loves Snack!
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    3 months ago
    For H.E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche, a blog post is not just a blog post but Dharma work that generates merits which should be dedicated. Click here to find out what blog post Rinpoche was dedicating the merits for when he recited this prayer: http://bit.ly/1KiXWf9 ~Ani Lobsang Pema
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    3 months ago
    Panchen Lama in Beijing on CCTV - China's official news. The respect and position they give His Holiness Panchen Lama is great.
  • Magical fish tank with Buddha statue
    3 months ago
    Magical fish tank with Buddha statue
  • His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Dorje Chang chants the prayer of Dorje Shugden
    4 months ago
    His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Dorje Chang chants the prayer of Dorje Shugden
  • Gongkar the bird at Kechara Forest Retreat
    4 months ago
    Gongkar the bird at Kechara Forest Retreat
    For much more information, pictures and videos about the rescued birds at the aviary of Kechara Forest Retreat, click here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/aviary-kfr.html

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CHAT PICTURES

12 minutes ago
Weekly White Tara puja led by Pastor KH Ng, assisted by Pastor Gim Lee every Tuesdays at 8.00pm - 9.30pm. Lucy Yap
7 hours ago
Pastor Yek Yee presenting Frederick and Cecelia with flowers to welcome them to our big family at Kechara House gompa. May they progress in their spiritual practice and be blessed by the Three Jewels. Lucy Yap
7 hours ago
Kechara House and Kechara Puja House staffs viewed the blogchat topic "What are pujas?" at Kechara House gompa this afternoon. Pastor Yek Yee is very good at her explanation on compassion when doing pujas for the benefit of others in need. http://bit.ly/1eDQloy Lucy Yap
8 hours ago
**Meditate with Nature**Kechara Forest Retreat.~Wee KPVH
8 hours ago
Altar set up for Menlha puja. By Puja House 1 September 2015
8 hours ago
Dukkar Puja is a very popular puja at Puja House; mostly requested by sponsors with legal cases. By Puja House 1 September'15
10 hours ago
Kechara Pastors meeting on improving our services with Pastor Yek Yee at Kechara House gompa today. http://bit.ly/13EbeQe Lucy Yap
10 hours ago
A big Dorje Shugden puja was conducted in Puja House today for Sponsor to clear obstacles. By Puja House, 1 September 2015
12 hours ago
Pastor Adeline and Pat setting a positive motivation the first thing in the morning with prayers at Kechara House gompa. Our precious Guru, H.E. Tsem Rinpoche emphasizes the practical application of the Buddha's teachings in our daily lives. Read more on Rinpoche at here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2qwYpuAfq1E Lucy Yap
14 hours ago
The divine prayer that benefits all sentient beings, Dorje Shugden & Setrap puja ( E ) is led by Pastor KH Ng weekly on Mondays at 8.00pm - 9.30 pm. Lucy Yap
15 hours ago
Before puja begin, Puja team will light incense offer to Buddha. By Puja Team, 1 September 2015
yesterday
During Outcall puja today, Pastor Yek Yee blessed the environment of the Sponsor's house. 31 August '15
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Dorje Shugden puja is held in Puja House today for Sponsor to clear obstacles. By Puja House 31 August'15
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Puja Team was preparing for tonight protector puja which held in Gompa every Monday. By Puja House 31 August'15
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Dukkar puja was held today for Sponsor to clear her severe illness. By Puja House 31 August'15
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Cynthia Ng led tonight's weekly Monday ( Chinese ) Dzambala puja at Kechara House gompa .Time : 8.00pm - 9.30pm. Lucy Yap
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走错路,总比不走好,起码因误会得福。不走,就真的没路了。阿尼洛桑杰舜-Wee KPVH
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29/8/15 星期六,经过四个小时的导领,温婉如讲法师上巴士致词道别,感谢来自柔佛的参访团。最后参访活动在众人的掌声和欢笑声中圆满结束。Asyley Chia KSDS
yesterday
放生能让小生命重获生存的机会,是累积长寿,健康功德的好办法,所以生日放生是最适合不过了。-Wee KPVH
yesterday
When we surrender our ego to Dorje Shugden, we give rise to wisdom & compassion. Pastor Adeline
yesterday
We deserve the right to practice without prejudice like any other spiritual faith. - His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche (posted by Pastor Adeline)
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在上周六的参访团,多般是长者,最年长的有85岁,年纪最轻的11岁,所以说克切拉禅修林是老少皆宜休闲观光的好地方。Asyley Chia KSDS
yesterday
Contradiction is common among people who want things their way - whatever that serves their selfish agenda. Pastor Adeline
yesterday
在上周六,克切拉禅修林的鱼塘首次公开供访客参观。绿叶红花净水鱼塘,访客们个个都笑容满面。Asyley Chia KSDS
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