Some thoughts on love relationships

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Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to  destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships,  being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion,  genuine care, sharing and honesty. Tsem Rinpoche

 

In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your  relationship will grow stronger and better with time. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.  Tsem Rinpoche

 

It takes a years to earn the trust of your spouse, but one selfish mistake to break their heart. Then years to regain their trust again. Just be honest from the beginning and always be loyal. Tsem Rinpoche

 

There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Everyone has so much pain already. No one is not damaged goods. So why bring more pain to your partner. Love, cherish and respect your partner by being honest and always communicating. Tsem Rinpoche

 

I am sorry is ok once, twice but not three times. If you are always apologizing, maybe you are not respecting the relationship you are in. Either respect your relationship or create a prison. It’s up to you. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is intentional. So are affairs out of marriage. You choose what you want. But remember, whatever you choose will come back to you if you are choosing for selfish reasons. Tsem Rinpoche

 

No one forced you to have a relationship. So do not make excuses for hurting your partner. Take responsibility for all your actions starting with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues. Tsem Rinpoche

 

All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it…Tsem Rinpoche

 

When we look back and see how many partners we have changed, we can be sure it is a sign we have not fulfilled what we should be doing in life. Finding partners is just a delay tactic perhaps for what we should really be doing..Tsem Rinpoche

 

Partners and spouses are only ok to have when we are ok. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to hurt yourself and your partner is when you use them to hide  behind your selfish avoidances. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche

 

If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness. Tsem Rinpoche

 

You deserve what you give. The universe owes you nothing. But you owe the universe everything. Be comfortable with that thought first and then seek friends. Tsem Rinpoche

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  1. Louisa on Jan 14, 2014 at 8:08 pm

    I’m always learning and practising loving people around me unconditionally. Although I did not love my parents the way they expect, i still love them but they can never get enough. Just because I dont love them the way they want and they thought I dont love them. I really upset and dont know what more I can do.

  2. Carmen Lin @ KMP on Sep 23, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts, with folded hands. What Rinpoche said is very truth and applicable to anyone of all walks of life. I will read it again and again when friends of mine had relationship problem or I myself having the problem, I can know where to find the solution and words of advice. Thank you again Rinpoche, for your efforts to enhance the lives of others.

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  4. Joy on Feb 14, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    I like this quote the best… it is really true… most of us get in to a relationship for all the wrong reasons. They think life is like some Hollywood fantasy and they go chasing after this idealistic dream which in the end hurts us more than anything else when it does not fit our projections and expectations. And when get in to a relationship we tend to forget ourselves and our whole life revolves around that person, we do whatever that person wants, wishes, and sometimes we even allow ourselves to be use and abuse… all in the name of love. And we become dependent of this person like a puppet. I have seen this in so many of my friends… is it really love? Or is it because of our own insecurities and selfish reasons?

    Being true and comfortable with yourself, knowing who you are, where you stand and dealing with your own self first is far better because then when we do enter a relationship, we compliment the other instead of epecting, we give, instead of depending, we’re interdependent and it is a mutual, two way street kind of thing, where both can grow individually and together… especially if both partners were doing spirit Dharma practice together… it becomes a blessing to one another instead of an obstacle. A couple like this is a big inspiration… http://blog.tsemtulku.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/for-couples.html

  5. Paris on Feb 14, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    Rereading this again this Valentines’ day and thinking about how, at the heart of everything, is this real gritty honesty that we all need to look at, in every of our relationships. Once the razzle dazzle of moonlight, flowers and chocolates dies down, we are left ourselves to ourselves – then what?

    Then we start creating problems, either for ourselves, our parents, or both. The relationship itself doesn’t go wrong; nor is it our partner’s fault when things don’t peter out the way we want it to. At the end of the day, we have to remember that it takes two hands to clap and to ask ourselves what it is that *I* am doing right or wrong?

    Remember too, whenever things are tough, of the good times, the positive stuff and why it is we fell in love in the first place. Good always wins over the evil and yes, I do still believe that love can make the world go round, if only we stick with it.

  6. Paris on Feb 3, 2013 at 11:36 pm

    To add to this, Rinpoche gave a wonderful teaching on how to maintain a successful relationship at one of his students’ wedding a few years ago. I remember it being an especially beautiful teaching because the girl was Buddhist but the boy was Christian – and the advice given was just as relevant for both. Relive the teaching here! (it comes in three parts) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YO9yjD_j5HI

    David Lai has also written a book about relationships based on these teachings – a very cute way of presenting different thoughts on relationships, but with this same underlying message that Rinpoche gives us. Here! “Conversations in Love”: http://www.kechara.com/publications/publications/mind-body-spirit/conversations-in-love/

  7. Jessica Yap on Dec 7, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    Everything begins with me, myself, and I. How i feel, how i react to situations, how i treat others, everything is from me. These quotes should be read every now and then to contemplate on..

    Thank you for the profound quotes, Rinpoche!

  8. mitra on Jun 13, 2012 at 10:53 am

    good advice for every one.

  9. Wan Wai Meng on Mar 23, 2012 at 11:36 am

    These are really thought provoking thoughts about relationships. Thank you sharing them, such quotes will really help people think about what they are doing.

  10. su_zan on Mar 6, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Dear Rinpche thank you for all the above quotes. It reminds me of the talk you give during my wedding day.

    For me the above quotes not only apply on a couple relationship, it applies to all kinds of relationships (friends, teachers, family, children and etc)

    One of which is
    “Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche”

  11. Melinda yap on Mar 1, 2012 at 7:14 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for your thoughts and advice on love and relationships. It is so so true what Rinpoche has shared. After reading, I looked back and pondered about my past relationships… It is true in order for a relationship to be in harmony,both parties should be honest plus have respect for each other from the beginning of the relationship. This will in time gives security and stability to the relationship…I love all the above thoughts by Rinpoche on love & relationships…I’ll save it so I could remind myself what love and relationship is all about! 😉

  12. Albert Ratchaga on Feb 29, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for the quotes, some times we can be very possessive when we love someone, either to our partner or family, we tend to be very controlling, and the reason of being like this is just because “I LOVE YOU”.

    just a simple word I Love You, it became a manifestation of our selfishness, instead of accepting the person we love, we tend to turn them into our ideally person to be. we expect everything from them but giving nothing from ourselves… so are we really loving them or we actually loves ourselves more? Is love a taking or giving?

  13. Julia Tan on Feb 29, 2012 at 3:05 am

    “All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it”

    Something as simple as saying NO and we can avoid hurting ourselves and our partners. We didn’t do it. We let it be.

    If you truly love your partners, do something about it, before it is too late..

  14. Uncle Lai on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:56 pm

    Thank you once again Rinpoche for all the wonderful quotes on love and relationships. You are the most caring person, always look into us and find ways to explain and teach how to live a happier life.

    Of all the quotes I like this the most. ‘In all relationships honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time.’ I fully agree with that because if we are honest we will not cheat, we dont lie, we trust and we are humble. I think this is so because it comes from inside us,

  15. patsy on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:55 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for sharing these useful quotes which we can use not only in relationships but with every one whether its friends relationship or love relationship. When we care for others and treat them well with respect, we will get the results of being treated well by others too.

    I like this one, “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.”

  16. Li Kheng on Feb 25, 2012 at 3:29 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for this insightful post on relationships. We spend so much time chasing after prince/princess charming whom we believe will make our world a better place. We often forget to consider using ourselves to make someone else’s world a better place. Thank you Rinpoche for this reminder. I especially like this quote:

    “There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche”

  17. Amala Sheilagh Mercer on Feb 25, 2012 at 2:54 pm

    Thank you , this is something , Dear Tsem Rinpoche, I will print put and read often ,I may also share it often to anyone open to reading it. And a copy in my washsroom, never know who reads the only reading matterial available to them there, I truly, realize and not all that long ago, that, there is an emotional love and then there is unconditional love,. That is a start , I believe, even though, this only scratches the surface, because of an out of body experience, it was difficult to fathom that much love . Yet changed my life. Now this here to read and remind me. .
    Love and Blessings
    Amala Sheilagh

  18. vc on Feb 25, 2012 at 1:03 pm

    Dear All,
    All of your opinions about relationship maybe right or wrong.But all you haven’t got there yet.To get out of six defiling objects from your mind.All of you are subjected to six dusts defiling senses which all of you are attracted to such as beauty,intelligent,smell,senses.Be honest to yourself and speak the truth.Don’t go and claim yourself you are the GOD and not attracted to anything and swear and curse others when you are now wearing the ‘Human Body’. If you think don’t like this world you can always calm your mind and return to the source,the Origin and achieve perfect enlightenment like the Buddha.If you think you like what you are doing,just go with the flow and don’t complain.

  19. Li Kim on Feb 25, 2012 at 5:23 am

    These quotes are true and real. Not the usual mambo jumbo you get in books and cards. Many of the quotes from Rinpoche brought back the sweet and fond memories of relationships for me. I am not bitter la but can say that I have become slightly disenchanted. I think that I will just enjoy the quotes and not think too much into relationships.

    “When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues.” – this applies to many I must say…

  20. Datuk May on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:54 pm

    The quote I like best is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty”. I totally agree with this and in my own view love is not confined to couples and family only but rather it is universal and to be practised unconditionally.

    Love is tough to give as it challenges our selfishness, ego etc etc that concocts most negative emotions in most people. Being as delusional as we are, we think we are in bliss when there is love.

    I totally disagree that Rinpoche is not an expert in relationships and love, if the above quote is what attracts me then it is true for me that Rinpoche is the only one person I know that truly gives love to every sentient being.

    Now that is tough to practise.

  21. Jean Ai on Feb 24, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    After reading this, putting it alongside the video Rinpoche sent to us (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLH6-P6rIv8), I gotta add to this post – never choose someone on the basis of their looks! It all fades with age, no matter how rich, poor, fat or skinny you are! And death comes to everyone, so how do you want to live your relationship? With anger, disharmony and bitterness, or do you want your relationship to be the cause of something bigger and better? Rinpoche always says some relationships drag people down, and others lead to better things…if yours is the former, time to stop being selfish and let go, both for your benefit and for your partner’s!

  22. vc on Feb 24, 2012 at 1:29 pm

    Rinpoche is very lucky to have get out of samsara and not involve in opposite sex relationships.Everyone should think they are indeed lucky and have the privilege to left the home life and seek the Way.We can only see what is worldly and not transcendental.This life is not just about humanity but transcendental to the ultimate reality.Nirvana.

  23. Wee Liang on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:43 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you so much for the dharma talk last night. Also thank you very much for all the quotes on love and relationships. Its very enlightening, makes me reflect. My favourite quote is ‘The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships, being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you.’ This one is harddddddd.

    Wee Liang

  24. Any Loke on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:53 pm

    Wow, is so true about what Rinpoche wrote. But, human is really selfish, sometimes, we never think that the problem of the relationship is actually created by oursleves. After all the teachings and Puja that I have done it really helped so much in all aspects.

  25. bengkooi on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:46 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these thought provoking quotes. My favourite is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty.”

    To share with those who have not had the fortune to hear one of Rinpoche’s talks about relationships… As Rinpoche has said many times, a dharma relationship is different from a secular relationship because we are not in it just for ourselves. When we enter a dharma relationship, we must be determined to make it last. We must be determined to make it work regardless of whatever problems come along. We cannot just try things out because we may hurt the other person and that is a big no no.

    Its good to be aware of these things, because there are people who jump into relationships or even dharma relationships unaware of what it really entails and the commitment that we must put in.

    Bottom line – dont hurt others.
    Bottom bottom line: be a monk/nun!

  26. Khoo HH on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:13 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for the sharing on love relationships.
    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness”
    How can we hurt a person if we truly love that person, and we know that the person also love us. I think “Selfishness” is the only explaination on this. A lot of time we are treating our partner good because we wanted to feel good, not because we want our partner to feel good. I have heard of this situation a lot of times from people around me. A guy wanted to bring his girlfriend for a nice dinner because he wanted to make his girlfriend happy. But he got angry with his girlfriend when she took a long time to makeup. Suppose to be a romantic dinner, ended up with a quarrel in the house. I will always think, what is the objective of this dinner? To not miss the reserved table, or to make your partner happy? Perhaps he thought that his effort of booking the table is greater than his partner. I think if a couple truly love each other, even a roadside stall will be a romantic dinner.

  27. SEreNa on Feb 23, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    Thanks for Rinpoche sharing on some thoughts for love and relationships.

    We must always remember to share and communicate with our love partner for every challenges we face in life. You have make your choice to spend the rest of your life with the loved one. SO, Be responsible and respect to the loved one. Don’t be selfish as pain will arise to the loved one including youself.

  28. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:02 pm

    And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is….

  29. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:01 pm

    “And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is”

  30. Uncle Eddie on Feb 23, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    Is love all we need to make a successful and fulfilling life relationship? Obviously, not all love relationships are the “Life Partnership kind”. It is important to realise and recognise that, and be okay with that. We can learn so much from the experiences of past relationships, to change towards the better, to a more adaptable, improved and acceptable one for both partners. It is everyone’s goal to have the desire of finding a life partner who caters to one’s entire needs and satisfaction. We all want someone who looks good, always make us laugh, supports us, respect us and trusts us well. Before we can find that ‘someone’, we need to be that person – that includes accepting all faults and short comings of oneself and that of your life partner too. A healthy relationship, essentially, should have a good building up of respect, loyalty, trust and a good admiration for each other; more similar to a house solid basic foundation structure, where the more love and nurturance we put into it, is what makes it a happy home, and a successful and fulfilling life relationship in the years to come.

  31. Ash Ng on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    Dear Rinpoche, You have given us some wonderful insights on having relationships with others. I especially agree with the few advises below;

    1) When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first.

    2) Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt.

    I feel these 2 major points encompass all the others and when we are REALLY ready after dealing with our deep seeded insecurities, comfortable and accepting ourselves then only we take the next step. Appreciate Your enlightening insights and You care for us with others. Will put in effort working on these as the essence of Dharma is compassion towards others and not hurting or harming them would be the first priority. Thus, working on oneself first is the key to happiness. Tashi delek

  32. Yvonne Yap on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche! this is a reminder , remind the things we know, but we always forgot.Because you care.

  33. abby on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:15 pm

    Love and compassion is the greatest lesson in everyone’s life.
    Yes, Rinpoche may not be the expert, but yes, Rinpoche do care about everyone. And with this compassion, Rinpoche is the Love Guru 🙂

  34. tenzin llhamo on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:46 pm

    This is the one I like the most. Because of being dishonest, so many relationships are destroyed. How sad! But now that we understand, we must be better. Treat relationships with respect, humility and honesty.

    ‘In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time’

  35. Margaretlee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts and experiences you have encountered with the many stories you were told.

    I think responsibility, honesty, sincerity and intergrity apply to everything we do in our life, be it work or relationship.

    There is a saying that people only starts to know themselves when they are in a relationship, it is indeed true when we realise we always demand this and that from our partner and never gives back, a state of complete self absorption. relationship is about giving and not taking.

    I paticularly like this quote from Rinpoche : “When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche”

    Going to share this blog with many of my samsara friends…..

  36. yekyee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:10 pm

    Each of Rinpoche is very logic and make sense. When we choose a relationship, must always our partner with real care and patient. No one is perfect. How can we go along with each other, tolerance is another good deed we need practice. I believe very strongly on it. My aunty friend always with me, it is not easy for two different character person live, eat, play, work together, need so much efforts and patient. I agreed. Thankyou for Rinpoche sharing.

  37. shivani on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    I want to know a little about Karmic Connection.We meet people but they leave us yet we cannot earse them

  38. Jace Chong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:59 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing these very useful quotes.

    Relationship used to be something very hard for me to juggle in between love and selfishness. When I had quarrel with partner, I always not sure this is because I want him to be my way, or I want my partner to improve. And the definition of improvement is vary to different people.

    “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications. ”

    This is a very practical way. I should not focus on what I want, but what is best for our partner.

    Even Rinpoche didn’t go through all these, Rinpoche understand better than everyone else what should we practice in relationship. Salute to Rinpoche, as always!

  39. Han Siew Fong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    All the advices will sink into my mind. .. and have a better relationship with my partner

    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness.” Tsem Rinpoche

    i contemplated on the above and i do realize the meaning of the quote.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this wonderful post

  40. Nicholas on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:13 am

    Thanks for Rinpoche advice.

    Found that the teaching is not just for relationship but it is also applicable for anything we do in our life.

    It’s all about care. How much we want to do for others is how much we cares for others.
    We responsible for the relationship because no one can force us. We are the one choose to be and should go all the way. I like this! No point to regret on what we have not done to save the relationship because we can always be the one to take action first.

    It’s not about who love whom more than who suppose to take the first move, it’s how much you love, how much you appreciate and how far you want to go with your relationship.

    This is just applicable for everything in our life.

  41. kenny wong on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:10 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Again, thank you for you kind insights. We choose our partners ourselves and have to accept him/her for who she is. The good, the bad, the ugly and the whole. How we percieve and accept our patners is totally up to us, thus we control our own happiness in the relationship. But if we are not generous and cannot lose out in the relationship and must win all the time, we will definately be the one losing at the end…. being unhappy, unfulfilled and bitter.

    Your words of advice are so true and spot on Rinpoche.

  42. skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:37 am

    Dear Rinpoche, thank you very much for the good advises.

    “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the same expectation on yourself.”

    “Trying to put away, hiding, or avoiding relationship issues won’t make them go away. You need to talk over or be clear about it.”

    “Always bringing up and rehashing previous issues mean the issue doesn’t solve go away or it just mean you’re not letting go and keep holding on to it.”

    • skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:45 am

      Correction:
      “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the _different_ expectation on yourself.”

  43. Hui Keng on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:35 am

    LOVE is in the air. Read on baby…How lucky Rinpoche giving advice around the clock! Rinpoche’s love is genuinely unconditional hence it survives all tests and challenges. We are pretty much lucky to have Rinpoche. We have sowed good seeds for this to happen and we must utilise fully given this opportunity. Rinpoche immensely love all of us, even more deeply than what our parents can do.

  44. Irene on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:22 am

    But what about a situation in which one partner dominates the whole family, and always expects to be bowed and scraped to. He always complains about how nobody does anything right (like he wants), and threatens to leave if we don’t shape up. I often wonder how much of this is due to his family background. (He grew up in an abusive environment.)

    Don’t get me wrong–he can be charming and generous when he wants to be, but sometimes I think he does it in order to manipulate people. (When we do what he wants, he praises them or gives them little gifts, otherwise he criticizes and sulks.) If things get too quiet, then he’s good at manufacturing drama (like claiming to have a mortal illness), and he just loves to gossip. But he doesn’t think that HE is doing any of this, according to him he’s just humbly following what is right (as he was taught). And somehow he always ends up being the center of attention.

    I’m probably making him sound like a monster, but that’s not right. He can be loyal and compassionate (he loves animals, and gives to charity) and is obviously very hard working and a very good manager. He has the potential to make a positive impact on the world. But we’re in this lopsided relationship with him, in which he gets to set all the conditions, and anyone who can’t accept that can just leave. (He’s alienated a lot of people over the years, although he tells it a different way–who knows what the truth is.) Anyway, Rinpoche, I’m sure you know people like that. What to do…?

    • mrs cheung on Feb 23, 2012 at 8:12 pm

      dear rinpoche, i also know someone similar to what irene has written here in her reply, plus more. he also flirts with younger women but his sick and old wife could do nothing to stop him. facing such a monster, she could only soar and sob over her misfortune. uneducated, unemployed, unwanted, old and sick. she has no where to run to. what to do…?

  45. freon on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:06 am

    With folded hand, Thank you Guru

  46. tsemtulku on Feb 23, 2012 at 9:46 am

    Some thoughts on love and relationships..I am not the expert, but over the years I have to listen to alot of people and I came out with some of my own conclusions…

    • Sophia chung on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:19 am

      Dear Rinpoche,

      Thank you for your advice on relationship. It made me reflect on myself to improve tremendously..
      It was great pleasure to meet u in the gompa last nite. I feel very lucky to receive
      a dharma talk in person from you. Although shocking, It was priceless, the love and effort you put in for
      Your students. Thank you for taking the time to pay us the visit.

      Sophia

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  • Pastor Adeline
    Monday, May 30. 2016 04:08 AM
    Such an interesting post, Beatrix. There are so many interesting facts that never crossed my mind and I am glad you share them with us. I always remember that goldfish have a short memory few seconds, that’s why they can live in a small glass tank amusing themselves with the views which always seems new and interesting for them. I mean few seconds of memory means things are always new to them. Hence, we always use “a goldfish memory” on someone who had a bad memory, hehe! Thank you kindly for sharing with us.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/amazing-things-you-didnt-know-about-them.html#comment-717341
  • Jason
    Monday, May 30. 2016 02:49 AM
    I heard Toyols very long time ago especially from Thailand. Some says Toyols can help the master to bring more business or wealth .I really don’t agree with those take advantage of Toyols. S/he is in spirit /ghost realm, we should help them to transcend spirit realm. The jobs given by their master will create more negative karma because most of the job are self benefits.
    Thanks Pastor Shin for the clear write up and let us know the way to tame s/he and protect ouself from Toyols by recite Dorje Shugden mantra.

    Jason
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/toyols-the-child-spirits.html#comment-717318

  • Lin Mun
    Sunday, May 29. 2016 09:00 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this article.

    I respect the Markham government in enforcing laws to make the ban on Shugden illegal. This law is against those who use the conflict of the practice of Protector Dorje Shugden to incite religious discriminations, create social conflicts, destroy national unity, and attempt to split the motherland.

    It is extremely important to have this law. Everyone has human rights and religios freedom. The segregation and discrimination have bring lots of suffering to Dorje Shugden practioners.

    With more of this article being shared via social media, I hope more people are aware of this unfair treatment and will help lift the ban.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/markam-illegal-to-create-conflict.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Sunday, May 29. 2016 07:43 PM
    Thank you very much for your kind comment. We are really appreciative of your continuous support to Kechara Dharma Sunday School. Many parents are not aware of the importance of letting young children receive Dharma values at the onset of life, to develop a proper sense of values that emphasis on self-effort, self-control, and respect for others. And it is precisely these sets of values that I have observed from your 3 beautiful, kind and gifted children. From time to time, I noticed they are not shy to focus out and help others during lessons and after classes. They are also polite and have good manners. Even the more timid little one has become cheerful and participates in activities.

    On the other hand, Kechara Sunday Dharma School will not cease to bring Buddha’s Dharma that the teachers learnt from His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche to children in an innovative and unconventional manner. Learning Dharma can be fun and enjoyable too.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/kechara-13-depts/volunteer-as-pre-school-dharma-teacher.html
  • Vijaya K Pandji
    Sunday, May 29. 2016 05:28 PM
    Hello,
    I have watched Rinpoche talk on commitments after receiving Vajrayogini initiation and he mentions making available a tantra implement sheet ..!!! Can you tell me where I might find this on your blog? Or could you send me a email with an attachment of this sheet?
    Thank you very much
    Vijaya
  • Alice Tay
    Saturday, May 28. 2016 11:45 PM
    这是一篇很特别的博文有关夏威夷女神~Pele的故事。非常感谢仁波切的分享,因为这是本人第一次接触与知道Pele女神的存在。

    据说Pele女神在夏威夷是非常著名以及备受人崇拜。每当游客想从夏威夷那里收集或取走一些石块或泥土等等,Pele女神就会让他们发恶梦或陷入一些困难的情况,直到他们回来,然后放回去他们当时拿走的东西为止。除此,夏威夷人还特别安排的一些仪式来向Pele女神祈祷。因为他们相信Pele女神是非常快速和有效的回应。

    虽然Pele女神或是当地的土神,山神等等都不是证悟者,但我们也必需要尊重他们。因为他们就像护法神一样,有重大的责任那就是保护他们的地区不受外界来的破坏或毁灭。

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/pele-hawaiian-goddess.html
  • samfoonheei
    Saturday, May 28. 2016 06:15 PM
    Dear Beatrix Ooi
    Thanks for sharing this interesting article.I didn’t know at all till i read it.
    Do agree with you that kindness is the greatest wisdom.
    Thanks again.http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/amazing-things-you-didnt-know-about-them.html
  • sonny tan
    Friday, May 27. 2016 10:31 AM
    sonny tan on May 27, 2016 at 10:26 am

    Thank you Pastor Han Nee for this review I bought this book on the advice of Pastor Tat Meng as I was guru hopping for quite sometime not knowing what’s guru devotion. I purchased this book at KP Sunway even though it was a browsing copy.
    Rinpoche indepth explanation clearly define the objectives, repercussion and advice of this important step we take in defining our religious pursuit.
    Pastor Adeline also advise me on the importance of lineage when seeking a guru, this important and pretty much overlooked aspect did not crossed my mind when I requested to be a disciple with my previous master. Upon acceptance by my previous master, vows were made as it is a prerequisite to discipleship. I mentioned to Pastor Adeline that I am keen to seek refuge in Rinpoche and ask her whether I am eligible knowing my predicament she advise me to seek blessings from my previous master to offically release me.
    I went through several steps and measures to seek my previous master blessings and also request a official release letter and finally after about two months they officially requested back my discipleship card and release me as a disciple.
    Though I have not been granted a refuge by Rinpoche up to this moment but I remembered he says that if my devotion is from my sincere heart it can be done by just with folded palms silently wish for a refuge at the altar.
    Coming from a Hinanaya background whenever I do my prayers and meditation the first salutation I do is to seek refuge in Lord Buddha followed by his dhamma and sangha. Thank you, Sadhu, sadhu, sadhu
  • Lin Mun
    Friday, May 27. 2016 10:11 AM
    Thank you Pastor Antoinette for sharing the various methods to prevent mice and rats. I especially like methods that are natural and not by way of killing or hurting them.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/how-to-prevent-mice-and-rats-in-your-house.html?nomobile
  • Alice Tay
    Thursday, May 26. 2016 10:50 PM
    这是一篇非常好的博文来让大家了解如何可以用自然的方法对治,甚至可以降低伤害这些老鼠。

    相比以前,在还未接触佛法时,我们都会以最方便的方法,那就是购买老鼠的毒药来解决老鼠所制造的问题。从未想过真正的原因其实是出自我们没有妥善的处理食物及等等。

    当接触佛法之后,慢慢的了解一切的众生皆有情。我们应一视同仁的对待所有的众生。时常的提醒自己这些老鼠们或是其他众生可能曾经是我们前世的母亲。而因为个人所造下业力的关系,以致使他们今天转世为鼠辈。

    感谢仁波切和Pastor Antoinette 的分享。希望看到此博文的读者,可以改用这里所提到的方法来对治老鼠。

    对治老鼠的方法于此:
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/how-to-prevent-mice-and-rats-in-your-house.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Thursday, May 26. 2016 10:46 PM
    Everyone wants to be happy. I have never come across anyone who does not want to be happy. Being happy is a state of mind free of negative emotions. Hence it is very disturbing to read the bitter, vengeful and malicious comments by haters who come to His Eminence’s blog, Fanpage or Facebook. They hurl merciless insult to a high lama; i.e. His Eminence as well as Shugden practitioners just to be seen as pro-HHDL. Seriously, how could being the follower of a world renowned lama be so provocative and barbaric? And how these negative poisons e.g. ignorance, anger and hatred would help them on their spiritual path?

    I am very grateful and extremely lucky to have met with His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche, who tirelessly instill in us impeccable good Dharma practice. He taught us to return hatred and anger with love and kindness. He taught us how to be happy. He taught us Buddha Dharma from pure lineage in a simplistic and humorous manner. He showed us how to cultivate compassion and focus out. Most importantly, He walked the talk.

    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Han Nee for this sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/be-happy.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Thursday, May 26. 2016 09:32 PM
    Dwelling in a developing and fast moving city like KL, more and more of my female peers are singleton. Unlike in olden days where female depended largely on their partner or their maiden family for financial support, women today are financially independent. However, it is rather apparent that most of these ladies are not singleton by choice. Many were divorcee from problematic spouse while some missed their boat due to heart-broken history.

    While it is human instinct to yearn for companion-ship, we must understand that our image of a relationship / marriage could be a delusion. The temporary pleasure and happy feeling lure our deluded mind into clinging on to the perishable happiness, thinking it will last forever, but it will not. It is the unmet expectation and strong attachment on the other person that causes our suffering.

    As long as we are not attached to the person or the fleeting happiness, a relationship / marriage can be a positive injection in life. Especially if both share the same interest and values in life, each can be the pillar of strength and support for the other in both good and bad times.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/young-single-and-what-about-it.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Thursday, May 26. 2016 08:37 PM
    As Buddhist practitioner, we are aware of the existence of other beings who share the same dimension as us, who can not be seen by our naked eyes. We should be respectful of the other sentient beings who share this space with us, instead of summoning them to entertain us.

    Like us, unseen beings that exist in the Six Realms of Existence are temporary and imperfect; they too are bound by desire and attachment that stem from ignorance. And given the condition they are in, they are likely to be malice and with the intention to harm.

    So, why take the chances to engage in activities that could potentially summon a malevolent being, for example Zozo. Zozo comes across as a cunning and malice spirit waiting to strike a deal and possess the soul of whomever he engages with. Even though this is the first time I came across Zozo, but Ouiji Board and the terrifying consequences are not unheard of and certainly cannot be dismissed as urban legend.

    Thank you Rinpoche and Vinnie for this sharing about Ouiji Board and info on Zozo. This is a good reminder that we should not engage in fun activities with unseen beings.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/zozo-the-ouija-board-demon.html
  • Jason
    Thursday, May 26. 2016 03:13 AM
    I am single so I love this article so much .Many people think that married is MUST in our life but I don’t think so. After I joined Kechara, dharma is higher priority than others. Single is more freedom to practice dharma rather than married or relationship with others.
    Many single lady especially 40 year old above will get a title “leftover women” from society. This so rude and unfair to them.So called “Left over women” “is nothing wrong , they ability earn money and stay single and independent .
    Single or married is just a label.Most important is we must practice more dharma work in this life to benefit others and get a liberation.
    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing this.

    With folded hands,
    Jason

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/young-single-and-what-about-it.html
  • Lin Mun
    Wednesday, May 25. 2016 08:58 PM
    Interesting article on single and staying alone. They are more people who prefer to live alone now. We have seen more of this happening in developed and developing country. Some do it because they move from small town to big city to work. But generally I think people now prefer to have their own space, freedom and independence.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/young-single-and-what-about-it.html

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The Unknown

The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
So go pursue all the way with the unknown,
because all unknown with familiarity becomes the known.
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Myself walking with my teacher the then abbot fo Gaden Shartse Monastery. H.E. Kensur Rinpoche Jampa Yeshe and I was leaving the main prayer hall of Gaden Shartse and walking through the debate courtyard.
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Emperor Kangxi's official state seal
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Such a beautiful Yamantaka Statue
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Grand looking painting of the Gelug Savant His Holiness Chankgya Rolpai Dorje
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My shrine in Los Angeles back in 2014. I just came across this picture from: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/etc/look-what-i-found.html
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Very unique art work of Dorje Shugden
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Beautiful 7ft Tara arrives today. See the beautiful picture and video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Okk8P3WIWFo
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35 Confessional Buddhas
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Please do not hate us
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Beautiful statue [image: Inline image 1]
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Such a stunning White Tara!
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Neerja's mother accepting the highest award in India on behalf of her daughter. Her daughter's bravery saved 300 people. Her strength, compassion and presence of mind during great tragedy earned Neerja a deep place in our hearts forever. Tsem Rinpoche
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Goddes supreme, with a wave of your right hand the 84,000 demonic interfering beings are repelled. With the powerful umbrella you hold in your left grants supreme protection upon your devotees. Although beautiful to behold you are fully attained and beyond samsara and a perfect refuge. Grant us protection, love and wisdom with your sacred mantra powerful Dukkar Goddess. ~Tsem Rinpoche 
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I love Japan so much. The water is so blue and clean. The landscape is so magical. It's such a beautiful country and a great place to engage in meditational retreats.
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A good meme by Pastor Seng Piow!
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Gaden Jangtse Kensur Rinpoche Lobsang Chojor together with Tsem Rinpoche in Gaden Monastery
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May 31, 1990, the day Tsem Rinpoche was enthroned formally in Gaden Shartse Monastery
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Panglung Oracle in trance back in 1925
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More lamas/Tibetans are speaking up. This has nothing to do with Dorje Shugden ban although it helps the Dorje Shugden cause because there is more unrest and disharmony from many sectors within Tibetans showing the world so many are unhappy with the leadership.-Lodreu Rabsel Rinpoche's strong letter to the Dalai Lama regarding giving religious freedom within the Karma Kagyu sect of Buddhism is a MUST READ- and he is applauded as courageous for writing this: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=99364
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The beautiful truth
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Manjushri notes
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Karma Kagyu’s Lodreu Rabsel Rinpoche asks the Dalai Lama for Religious Freedom-This is explosive-Must read! http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=99364
4 weeks ago
The place where Lord Tsongkapa's holy remains are housed for pilgrims to visit in Gaden Monastery Tibet.
4 weeks ago
How death is so near, yet I cherish my ego more than my guru, more than his instructions and my protector. They are the only ones significant at death for me and yet I still think I have time. Tsem Rinpoche 
1 month ago
Would be so nice to live in an area where Bigfoot is prevalent and sighted. That would include mountains and lakes too.
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Because of the ban against Dorje Shugden followers started in 1996, 700 monks had to cut from Sera Mey Monastery and start this new monastery. This new Serpom Monastery located in South India still suffers tremendous hatred and prejudice, but the brave monks continue their practice and lineage.
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Vietnamese monk who self immolated hoping to bring change in his country. He sacrificed his life and sat still during the immense pain of his body burning.
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Protector of the Sakya School of Buddhism, Gonpo Gur or Mahakala Panjarnata
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Such a wondrous place to be with such a view that heals the soul. Why live in a city where it is unnatural and polluted. Everyday in the city is a day away from where we belong. We belong among the greens, forest, mountains and clean air. We belong in such a place and doing our retreats, sadhanas and mantras to find the ultimate place of belonging and peace....the ultimate place is within us with a developed spiritual mind. Hard to achieve among distractions in the city. 
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This is the five foot Arya Avalokitesvara statue I have offered Gaden Shartse Monastery many years ago. It still graces the main prayer hall of Gaden Shartse Monastery.
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Painting of 31st Sakya Trizin Kunga Lodro- Did you know that 7 of the great throneholders of the Sakya lineage of Tibetan Buddhism practiced Dorje Shugden and even composed extensive prayers to him? Take a look here and see what you can learn: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=98227
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This is a good motto to work by within a team.
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Beautiful painting of Pandit Naropa
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Beautiful painting of Lord Buddha's miraculous birth.
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Beautiful image of Tara.
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This is a good read. Evocative and memory filled: http://www.davidlai.me/2015/04/20/memory-of-the-vw-van/
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Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche and Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
It was nice to meet them.
2 months ago
Good friends came to visit me. I was happy to see them as they have brave hearts and pure samaya. Tsem Rinpoche
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Lef to right: Cousin Tsagan, dad, Aunt Meda, mom, sister Lidshma, cousin Liz, Aunt Elena, friend from France and Susie in Green dress. People whom I am fond of from the distant past..
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Some friends went on a spiritual pilgrimage to Nepal recently and when they returned they gifted me with these wonderful books on Yeti/Bigfoot which I don't have. Wow! I like to thank Ms. Yee Lee, Mr. Swee Keong, Ms. Phoebe Yong, Mr. CK Siah & Ms. Wei Theng for their generosity and indulging me in my bigfoot hobby. Tsem Rinpoche
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The famous 5th Panglung Oracle
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Mysterious print of Pelden Hlamo the Goddess protector
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This is a thangka of Cittamani Tara where her body mandala appears clearly. This image was circulated back in Thubten Dhargye Ling when HH Zong Rinpoche taught her sacred practice which was a pure vision of Thapu Dorje Chang. Thapu Dorje Chang received this practice in a pure vision. He was the guru of Pabongka Rinpoche.
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Beautiful article on the Drigung Kagyu Achi Chokyi Drolma: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=94766
2 months ago
Tsem Rinpoche making offerings of robes to Lord Buddha in Bodhgaya
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What was once very beautiful destroyed by hatred, anger and prejudice.
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What His Holiness Panchen Rinpoche composed about Dorje Shugden: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=87240
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    Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
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    Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
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    Taking Trance
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    See what humans can do
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  • People can really live their lives to save others. This is a good way to live. Beautiful video.
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    People can really live their lives to save others. This is a good way to live. Beautiful video.
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    6 months ago
    All beings have feelings and do not want pain, to be hurt or harmed. Therefore we must respect this and not harm animals. See this video how this man has made good friends with a special fish who comes when he rings for the fish. Touching. Tsem Rinpoche
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    HH the Dalai Lama prays with HH Trijang Rinpoche and HH Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche. Such a beautiful video of His Holiness Dalai Lama, His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and His Holiness Dilgo Kyentse Rinpoche (Very exalted high Nyingma lama) are all praying together. In the background you see a young Kyabje Lati Rinpoche too. So beautiful. This is how it was before the ban. All the sects and high lamas were superbly harmonious. After the Dorje Shugden ban things changed for the worse. May the ban be released soon. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Nice Dorje Shugden rock painting
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    Nice Dorje Shugden rock painting
  • His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
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    His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
  • A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
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    A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 1)
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    Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 1)
  • Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 2)
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    Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 2)
  • His Holiness Trijang Rinpoche accepts Long Life puja
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    His Holiness Trijang Rinpoche accepts Long Life puja

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  • May 30, 2016 00:06
    Thorim asked: Is there a pratice to deal with social anxiety/ "bad" inhibition? Yet it is really hard for me to enjoy party and people with this anxiety that arise when I'm in public, it also make it difficult to help people with compassion in public, for example if a person fall and that there is a lot of people around, I have a really big "freeze" because of the social anxiety. Thanks
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  • May 29, 2016 05:01
    Lukas asked: What would happen if such a thing like everyone is nice and passionated about his "opponent" would become "reality" on this earth? Obviously theoretically lol My narcistic mind forces me to put reality and opponent in quotes duality you know. I'm a wise human being so fuckin reflected hah PS: I like you but seem a bit crazy try some of my western medicine my doctor is very patient about my neuroses and anger managment attempts...
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  • May 28, 2016 04:05
    Bradley asked: On page 43 of the Diamond Path. It states DS's emenations are endowed with the 27 enlightened activities, may I ask what are the 27?
    pastor answered: Dear Bradley, Thank you for your question. The verse you are referring to is the first verse of the Praise to Dorje Shugden:
    “Though gone to the state of the Sugatas countless aeons ago, In order to benefit the teachings and migrators, as whatever tames beings, Your hundreds of emanations are endowed with the 27 enlightened activities; Praise to the pervading lord, mighty Dorje Shugden.”
    These twenty-seven enlightened activities are enumerated in the last verses of Chapter Eight of the Abhisamayalankara taught by Maitreya to Arya Asanga. It is commonly called the Ornament of Clear Realisation in English. This text is of great importance to most Tibetan Buddhist lineages and in the Lam Rim Chenmo, or Great Stages on the Path to Enlightenment, Lama Tsongkhapa actually states that it is the root text of the Lam Rim tradition as founded by Jowo Dipamkara Atisha. This text is still one the five great texts studied by monks in the Geshe programme throughout Gelug monasteries. A thorough explanation of these twenty-seven points is a topic of intense philosophical study, however I have listed them below:
    1. The enlightened being performs deeds that appease beings in the Six Realms (God Realm, Demi-god Realm, Human Realm, Animal Realm, Hungry Ghost Realm and Hell Realm).
    2. Bringing sentient beings to the Dharma using four ways: generosity, using good speech, training them according to their level of intelligence and in stages, and by practicing what they teach.
    3. Having the understanding of what defilements are and the methods of purifying them.
    4. The true character of their activities for the benefit of all sentient beings, which is from the basis of realising that all sentient beings do not exist inherently.
    5. The practice of the Six Perfections: generosity, morality, patience, joyous effort, concentration and wisdom.
    6. Teaching the virtuous path to Buddhahood, which is the abandonment of the 10 non-virtues: killing, stealing, sexual misconduct, lying, divisive speech, harsh words, idle talk, covetousness, ill-will and wrong view.
    7. The practice of insight into the emptiness of all phenomena.
    8. The non-dual nature of all phenomena.
    9. The understanding that all dharmas as being merely conventional symbols.
    10. The insight into the absence of a basis in all dharmas.
    11. The maturing of living beings along their spiritual path through skilful means.
    12. The path of a Bodhisattva.
    13. The systematic effort to block all inclinations to make realistic assumptions.
    14. The attainment of enlightenment.
    15. A residence in various Buddha-fields.
    16. Displaying the form of a being who is to take only one more rebirth, thereby ensuring the attainment of enlightenment.
    17. Working tireless for the benefit of all sentient beings in cyclic existence.
    18. The virtuous acts which consist in looking after all beings.
    19. The limbs of enlightenment.
    20. The condition in which the fruits of his actions are never lost, diminish or extinguished.
    21. The vision of true reality, knowing all phenomena of experience.
    22. The forsaking of all perverted views.
    23. The cognition which allows the understanding of the method which allows him to forsake the perverted views assuming the absence of all entities.
    24. The state of complete purity.
    25. The ability to have various forms to engage in various activities, which results from his pure condition.
    26. The comprehension of the non-distinction between conditioned and unconditioned phenomena.
    27. Nirvana – full and complete enlightenment.
    When listing them out completely, it can get somewhat overwhelming to understand how this relates to us as practitioners. In order to make them more relatable, they have been categorised into three parts, which make us understand them better:
    1. Activities through which the Buddhas bring beings to the Dharma.
    2. Activities through which the Buddhas help sentient beings to practice the Dharma.
    3. Activities through which the Buddhas help sentient beings to achieve enlightenment.
    In essence, all the emanations of Dorje Shugden display the above twenty-seven activities. In brief these bring people to the Dharma, help beings practice the Dharma and ultimately help beings gain full and complete enlightenment themselves. I hope this helps. Thank you.
  • May 27, 2016 02:34
    T asked: Is there a teaching to deal with insomnia and fatigue?
    pastor answered: Dear T, Both insomnia and fatigue can be caused by a worried or stressed mind, if not from physical exhaustion. In this case, one needs to calm the mind and relax the body in order to ease insomnia and fatigue. There are many techniques that can help with this. I’ll mention two here. The first is mental quiescence meditation or single pointed concentration meditation. Even with this there are many methods you can use, but to make it simple, you can use the breath as your focus. This is known as breathing meditation. To practice this, sit in a quiet place either cross legged or in a chair if you prefer. And simply become aware of your breathing, concentrating on the space between your upper lip and your nose. Gently become aware of breathing in and out. If any thought comes into your mind, do not get carried away with the thought, but simply bring your focus back to your breathing and let the thought disappear by itself. There are other more advanced methods once you are familiar with breathing meditation, which can be found in texts such as Liberation in the Palm of Your Hand by Pabongka Rinpoche (Day 21), which concentrates on a visualised image of Buddha Shakyamuni instead of the breath. But one things to remember is that meditation can be difficult for people, so it is better to start with short sessions, not longer than 5-10 minutes at first. Gradually over time you will be able to increase this time frame. The key to meditation is to consistently engage in it every day. This shouldn’t be difficult because it is only 5-10 minutes long. The second is to engage in the Guru Yoga of Lama Tsongkhapa, concentrating on the recitation of the Mig Tse Ma mantra. This is an extremely beneficial practice as it invokes upon the energies and blessings of Lama Tsongkhapa, and helps to significantly calm the mind, even if we are not consciously aware how troubled our mind is. Concentrating on the mantra recitation also acts as focus for single pointed concentration as well. You can watch a commentary to this practice by His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/me/tsongkapas-daily-practice-video-commentary.html. If you are interested in this practice, there is a box set which can help you start the practice available here: http://www.vajrasecrets.com/tsongkhapa-boxset-english and a written commentary available here: http://www.vajrasecrets.com/tsongkhapa-a-simple-guide-to-a-powerful-practice. I hope this helps. Thank you.
  • May 26, 2016 04:00
    Thori asked: Thanks for your answer. But when you say "This can be coupled with various visualisations during the mantra recitations as well."what visualisations should I do, for example for the sadhana "DISSOLVING JE RINPOCHE INTO OURSELVES"? Other question, can the Sadhana be recitated in english? Andn we must recite them with high voice or can it be recitated simply in the mind? Thanks!
    pastor answered: Dear Thorim, For the visualisations of the Guru Yoga of Lama Tsongkhapa, during which you recite the Mig Tse Ma mantra, His Eminence 25th Tsem Rinpoche has given a very good commentary on the practice, available to watch here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/me/tsongkapas-daily-practice-video-commentary.html The most common forms of visualisations for this practice can be found in the book ‘TSONGKHAPA – A Simple Guide to a Powerful Practice’ which is available at any Kechara Paradise outlet in Malaysia, or can be invited only here: http://www.vajrasecrets.com/tsongkhapa-a-simple-guide-to-a-powerful-practice. This includes the visualisations on gaining the Seven Wisdoms, as well as other visualisations. These visualisations are excellent, as they not only help a person achieve meditative stabilisation, but invoke the blessings and energy of Lama Tsongkhapa. As for the Sadhana, it does not need to be recited in Tibetan. It can be recited in English or any other language. In fact, I would suggest, as you start your practice that you recite in the language you are familiar with, as you will be able to understand the words and meaning of each verse clearer. Later on, if you want, you can start reciting in Tibetan. Sadhanas and especially mantras should be recited out aloud, but softly. Sadhanas and mantras are not recited in the mind, but spoken. For mantras as they are the form of the Buddhas in sound, they should be softly vocalised. I hope this helps.
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