Some thoughts on love relationships

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Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to  destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships,  being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion,  genuine care, sharing and honesty. Tsem Rinpoche

 

In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your  relationship will grow stronger and better with time. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.  Tsem Rinpoche

 

It takes a years to earn the trust of your spouse, but one selfish mistake to break their heart. Then years to regain their trust again. Just be honest from the beginning and always be loyal. Tsem Rinpoche

 

There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Everyone has so much pain already. No one is not damaged goods. So why bring more pain to your partner. Love, cherish and respect your partner by being honest and always communicating. Tsem Rinpoche

 

I am sorry is ok once, twice but not three times. If you are always apologizing, maybe you are not respecting the relationship you are in. Either respect your relationship or create a prison. It’s up to you. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is intentional. So are affairs out of marriage. You choose what you want. But remember, whatever you choose will come back to you if you are choosing for selfish reasons. Tsem Rinpoche

 

No one forced you to have a relationship. So do not make excuses for hurting your partner. Take responsibility for all your actions starting with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues. Tsem Rinpoche

 

All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it…Tsem Rinpoche

 

When we look back and see how many partners we have changed, we can be sure it is a sign we have not fulfilled what we should be doing in life. Finding partners is just a delay tactic perhaps for what we should really be doing..Tsem Rinpoche

 

Partners and spouses are only ok to have when we are ok. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to hurt yourself and your partner is when you use them to hide  behind your selfish avoidances. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche

 

If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness. Tsem Rinpoche

 

You deserve what you give. The universe owes you nothing. But you owe the universe everything. Be comfortable with that thought first and then seek friends. Tsem Rinpoche

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  1. Louisa on Jan 14, 2014 at 8:08 pm

    I’m always learning and practising loving people around me unconditionally. Although I did not love my parents the way they expect, i still love them but they can never get enough. Just because I dont love them the way they want and they thought I dont love them. I really upset and dont know what more I can do.

  2. Carmen Lin @ KMP on Sep 23, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts, with folded hands. What Rinpoche said is very truth and applicable to anyone of all walks of life. I will read it again and again when friends of mine had relationship problem or I myself having the problem, I can know where to find the solution and words of advice. Thank you again Rinpoche, for your efforts to enhance the lives of others.

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  4. Joy on Feb 14, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    I like this quote the best… it is really true… most of us get in to a relationship for all the wrong reasons. They think life is like some Hollywood fantasy and they go chasing after this idealistic dream which in the end hurts us more than anything else when it does not fit our projections and expectations. And when get in to a relationship we tend to forget ourselves and our whole life revolves around that person, we do whatever that person wants, wishes, and sometimes we even allow ourselves to be use and abuse… all in the name of love. And we become dependent of this person like a puppet. I have seen this in so many of my friends… is it really love? Or is it because of our own insecurities and selfish reasons?

    Being true and comfortable with yourself, knowing who you are, where you stand and dealing with your own self first is far better because then when we do enter a relationship, we compliment the other instead of epecting, we give, instead of depending, we’re interdependent and it is a mutual, two way street kind of thing, where both can grow individually and together… especially if both partners were doing spirit Dharma practice together… it becomes a blessing to one another instead of an obstacle. A couple like this is a big inspiration… http://blog.tsemtulku.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/for-couples.html

  5. Paris on Feb 14, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    Rereading this again this Valentines’ day and thinking about how, at the heart of everything, is this real gritty honesty that we all need to look at, in every of our relationships. Once the razzle dazzle of moonlight, flowers and chocolates dies down, we are left ourselves to ourselves – then what?

    Then we start creating problems, either for ourselves, our parents, or both. The relationship itself doesn’t go wrong; nor is it our partner’s fault when things don’t peter out the way we want it to. At the end of the day, we have to remember that it takes two hands to clap and to ask ourselves what it is that *I* am doing right or wrong?

    Remember too, whenever things are tough, of the good times, the positive stuff and why it is we fell in love in the first place. Good always wins over the evil and yes, I do still believe that love can make the world go round, if only we stick with it.

  6. Paris on Feb 3, 2013 at 11:36 pm

    To add to this, Rinpoche gave a wonderful teaching on how to maintain a successful relationship at one of his students’ wedding a few years ago. I remember it being an especially beautiful teaching because the girl was Buddhist but the boy was Christian – and the advice given was just as relevant for both. Relive the teaching here! (it comes in three parts) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YO9yjD_j5HI

    David Lai has also written a book about relationships based on these teachings – a very cute way of presenting different thoughts on relationships, but with this same underlying message that Rinpoche gives us. Here! “Conversations in Love”: http://www.kechara.com/publications/publications/mind-body-spirit/conversations-in-love/

  7. Jessica Yap on Dec 7, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    Everything begins with me, myself, and I. How i feel, how i react to situations, how i treat others, everything is from me. These quotes should be read every now and then to contemplate on..

    Thank you for the profound quotes, Rinpoche!

  8. mitra on Jun 13, 2012 at 10:53 am

    good advice for every one.

  9. Wan Wai Meng on Mar 23, 2012 at 11:36 am

    These are really thought provoking thoughts about relationships. Thank you sharing them, such quotes will really help people think about what they are doing.

  10. su_zan on Mar 6, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Dear Rinpche thank you for all the above quotes. It reminds me of the talk you give during my wedding day.

    For me the above quotes not only apply on a couple relationship, it applies to all kinds of relationships (friends, teachers, family, children and etc)

    One of which is
    “Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche”

  11. Melinda yap on Mar 1, 2012 at 7:14 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for your thoughts and advice on love and relationships. It is so so true what Rinpoche has shared. After reading, I looked back and pondered about my past relationships… It is true in order for a relationship to be in harmony,both parties should be honest plus have respect for each other from the beginning of the relationship. This will in time gives security and stability to the relationship…I love all the above thoughts by Rinpoche on love & relationships…I’ll save it so I could remind myself what love and relationship is all about! ;-)

  12. Albert Ratchaga on Feb 29, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for the quotes, some times we can be very possessive when we love someone, either to our partner or family, we tend to be very controlling, and the reason of being like this is just because “I LOVE YOU”.

    just a simple word I Love You, it became a manifestation of our selfishness, instead of accepting the person we love, we tend to turn them into our ideally person to be. we expect everything from them but giving nothing from ourselves… so are we really loving them or we actually loves ourselves more? Is love a taking or giving?

  13. Julia Tan on Feb 29, 2012 at 3:05 am

    “All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it”

    Something as simple as saying NO and we can avoid hurting ourselves and our partners. We didn’t do it. We let it be.

    If you truly love your partners, do something about it, before it is too late..

  14. Uncle Lai on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:56 pm

    Thank you once again Rinpoche for all the wonderful quotes on love and relationships. You are the most caring person, always look into us and find ways to explain and teach how to live a happier life.

    Of all the quotes I like this the most. ‘In all relationships honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time.’ I fully agree with that because if we are honest we will not cheat, we dont lie, we trust and we are humble. I think this is so because it comes from inside us,

  15. patsy on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:55 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for sharing these useful quotes which we can use not only in relationships but with every one whether its friends relationship or love relationship. When we care for others and treat them well with respect, we will get the results of being treated well by others too.

    I like this one, “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.”

  16. Li Kheng on Feb 25, 2012 at 3:29 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for this insightful post on relationships. We spend so much time chasing after prince/princess charming whom we believe will make our world a better place. We often forget to consider using ourselves to make someone else’s world a better place. Thank you Rinpoche for this reminder. I especially like this quote:

    “There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche”

  17. Amala Sheilagh Mercer on Feb 25, 2012 at 2:54 pm

    Thank you , this is something , Dear Tsem Rinpoche, I will print put and read often ,I may also share it often to anyone open to reading it. And a copy in my washsroom, never know who reads the only reading matterial available to them there, I truly, realize and not all that long ago, that, there is an emotional love and then there is unconditional love,. That is a start , I believe, even though, this only scratches the surface, because of an out of body experience, it was difficult to fathom that much love . Yet changed my life. Now this here to read and remind me. .
    Love and Blessings
    Amala Sheilagh

  18. vc on Feb 25, 2012 at 1:03 pm

    Dear All,
    All of your opinions about relationship maybe right or wrong.But all you haven’t got there yet.To get out of six defiling objects from your mind.All of you are subjected to six dusts defiling senses which all of you are attracted to such as beauty,intelligent,smell,senses.Be honest to yourself and speak the truth.Don’t go and claim yourself you are the GOD and not attracted to anything and swear and curse others when you are now wearing the ‘Human Body’. If you think don’t like this world you can always calm your mind and return to the source,the Origin and achieve perfect enlightenment like the Buddha.If you think you like what you are doing,just go with the flow and don’t complain.

  19. Li Kim on Feb 25, 2012 at 5:23 am

    These quotes are true and real. Not the usual mambo jumbo you get in books and cards. Many of the quotes from Rinpoche brought back the sweet and fond memories of relationships for me. I am not bitter la but can say that I have become slightly disenchanted. I think that I will just enjoy the quotes and not think too much into relationships.

    “When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues.” – this applies to many I must say…

  20. Datuk May on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:54 pm

    The quote I like best is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty”. I totally agree with this and in my own view love is not confined to couples and family only but rather it is universal and to be practised unconditionally.

    Love is tough to give as it challenges our selfishness, ego etc etc that concocts most negative emotions in most people. Being as delusional as we are, we think we are in bliss when there is love.

    I totally disagree that Rinpoche is not an expert in relationships and love, if the above quote is what attracts me then it is true for me that Rinpoche is the only one person I know that truly gives love to every sentient being.

    Now that is tough to practise.

  21. Jean Ai on Feb 24, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    After reading this, putting it alongside the video Rinpoche sent to us (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLH6-P6rIv8), I gotta add to this post – never choose someone on the basis of their looks! It all fades with age, no matter how rich, poor, fat or skinny you are! And death comes to everyone, so how do you want to live your relationship? With anger, disharmony and bitterness, or do you want your relationship to be the cause of something bigger and better? Rinpoche always says some relationships drag people down, and others lead to better things…if yours is the former, time to stop being selfish and let go, both for your benefit and for your partner’s!

  22. vc on Feb 24, 2012 at 1:29 pm

    Rinpoche is very lucky to have get out of samsara and not involve in opposite sex relationships.Everyone should think they are indeed lucky and have the privilege to left the home life and seek the Way.We can only see what is worldly and not transcendental.This life is not just about humanity but transcendental to the ultimate reality.Nirvana.

  23. Wee Liang on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:43 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you so much for the dharma talk last night. Also thank you very much for all the quotes on love and relationships. Its very enlightening, makes me reflect. My favourite quote is ‘The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships, being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you.’ This one is harddddddd.

    Wee Liang

  24. Any Loke on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:53 pm

    Wow, is so true about what Rinpoche wrote. But, human is really selfish, sometimes, we never think that the problem of the relationship is actually created by oursleves. After all the teachings and Puja that I have done it really helped so much in all aspects.

  25. bengkooi on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:46 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these thought provoking quotes. My favourite is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty.”

    To share with those who have not had the fortune to hear one of Rinpoche’s talks about relationships… As Rinpoche has said many times, a dharma relationship is different from a secular relationship because we are not in it just for ourselves. When we enter a dharma relationship, we must be determined to make it last. We must be determined to make it work regardless of whatever problems come along. We cannot just try things out because we may hurt the other person and that is a big no no.

    Its good to be aware of these things, because there are people who jump into relationships or even dharma relationships unaware of what it really entails and the commitment that we must put in.

    Bottom line – dont hurt others.
    Bottom bottom line: be a monk/nun!

  26. Khoo HH on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:13 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for the sharing on love relationships.
    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness”
    How can we hurt a person if we truly love that person, and we know that the person also love us. I think “Selfishness” is the only explaination on this. A lot of time we are treating our partner good because we wanted to feel good, not because we want our partner to feel good. I have heard of this situation a lot of times from people around me. A guy wanted to bring his girlfriend for a nice dinner because he wanted to make his girlfriend happy. But he got angry with his girlfriend when she took a long time to makeup. Suppose to be a romantic dinner, ended up with a quarrel in the house. I will always think, what is the objective of this dinner? To not miss the reserved table, or to make your partner happy? Perhaps he thought that his effort of booking the table is greater than his partner. I think if a couple truly love each other, even a roadside stall will be a romantic dinner.

  27. SEreNa on Feb 23, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    Thanks for Rinpoche sharing on some thoughts for love and relationships.

    We must always remember to share and communicate with our love partner for every challenges we face in life. You have make your choice to spend the rest of your life with the loved one. SO, Be responsible and respect to the loved one. Don’t be selfish as pain will arise to the loved one including youself.

  28. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:02 pm

    And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is….

  29. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:01 pm

    “And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is”

  30. Uncle Eddie on Feb 23, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    Is love all we need to make a successful and fulfilling life relationship? Obviously, not all love relationships are the “Life Partnership kind”. It is important to realise and recognise that, and be okay with that. We can learn so much from the experiences of past relationships, to change towards the better, to a more adaptable, improved and acceptable one for both partners. It is everyone’s goal to have the desire of finding a life partner who caters to one’s entire needs and satisfaction. We all want someone who looks good, always make us laugh, supports us, respect us and trusts us well. Before we can find that ‘someone’, we need to be that person – that includes accepting all faults and short comings of oneself and that of your life partner too. A healthy relationship, essentially, should have a good building up of respect, loyalty, trust and a good admiration for each other; more similar to a house solid basic foundation structure, where the more love and nurturance we put into it, is what makes it a happy home, and a successful and fulfilling life relationship in the years to come.

  31. Ash Ng on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    Dear Rinpoche, You have given us some wonderful insights on having relationships with others. I especially agree with the few advises below;

    1) When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first.

    2) Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt.

    I feel these 2 major points encompass all the others and when we are REALLY ready after dealing with our deep seeded insecurities, comfortable and accepting ourselves then only we take the next step. Appreciate Your enlightening insights and You care for us with others. Will put in effort working on these as the essence of Dharma is compassion towards others and not hurting or harming them would be the first priority. Thus, working on oneself first is the key to happiness. Tashi delek

  32. Yvonne Yap on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche! this is a reminder , remind the things we know, but we always forgot.Because you care.

  33. abby on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:15 pm

    Love and compassion is the greatest lesson in everyone’s life.
    Yes, Rinpoche may not be the expert, but yes, Rinpoche do care about everyone. And with this compassion, Rinpoche is the Love Guru :)

  34. tenzin llhamo on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:46 pm

    This is the one I like the most. Because of being dishonest, so many relationships are destroyed. How sad! But now that we understand, we must be better. Treat relationships with respect, humility and honesty.

    ‘In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time’

  35. Margaretlee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts and experiences you have encountered with the many stories you were told.

    I think responsibility, honesty, sincerity and intergrity apply to everything we do in our life, be it work or relationship.

    There is a saying that people only starts to know themselves when they are in a relationship, it is indeed true when we realise we always demand this and that from our partner and never gives back, a state of complete self absorption. relationship is about giving and not taking.

    I paticularly like this quote from Rinpoche : “When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche”

    Going to share this blog with many of my samsara friends…..

  36. yekyee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:10 pm

    Each of Rinpoche is very logic and make sense. When we choose a relationship, must always our partner with real care and patient. No one is perfect. How can we go along with each other, tolerance is another good deed we need practice. I believe very strongly on it. My aunty friend always with me, it is not easy for two different character person live, eat, play, work together, need so much efforts and patient. I agreed. Thankyou for Rinpoche sharing.

  37. shivani on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    I want to know a little about Karmic Connection.We meet people but they leave us yet we cannot earse them

  38. Jace Chong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:59 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing these very useful quotes.

    Relationship used to be something very hard for me to juggle in between love and selfishness. When I had quarrel with partner, I always not sure this is because I want him to be my way, or I want my partner to improve. And the definition of improvement is vary to different people.

    “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications. ”

    This is a very practical way. I should not focus on what I want, but what is best for our partner.

    Even Rinpoche didn’t go through all these, Rinpoche understand better than everyone else what should we practice in relationship. Salute to Rinpoche, as always!

  39. Han Siew Fong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    All the advices will sink into my mind. .. and have a better relationship with my partner

    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness.” Tsem Rinpoche

    i contemplated on the above and i do realize the meaning of the quote.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this wonderful post

  40. Nicholas on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:13 am

    Thanks for Rinpoche advice.

    Found that the teaching is not just for relationship but it is also applicable for anything we do in our life.

    It’s all about care. How much we want to do for others is how much we cares for others.
    We responsible for the relationship because no one can force us. We are the one choose to be and should go all the way. I like this! No point to regret on what we have not done to save the relationship because we can always be the one to take action first.

    It’s not about who love whom more than who suppose to take the first move, it’s how much you love, how much you appreciate and how far you want to go with your relationship.

    This is just applicable for everything in our life.

  41. kenny wong on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:10 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Again, thank you for you kind insights. We choose our partners ourselves and have to accept him/her for who she is. The good, the bad, the ugly and the whole. How we percieve and accept our patners is totally up to us, thus we control our own happiness in the relationship. But if we are not generous and cannot lose out in the relationship and must win all the time, we will definately be the one losing at the end…. being unhappy, unfulfilled and bitter.

    Your words of advice are so true and spot on Rinpoche.

  42. skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:37 am

    Dear Rinpoche, thank you very much for the good advises.

    “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the same expectation on yourself.”

    “Trying to put away, hiding, or avoiding relationship issues won’t make them go away. You need to talk over or be clear about it.”

    “Always bringing up and rehashing previous issues mean the issue doesn’t solve go away or it just mean you’re not letting go and keep holding on to it.”

    • skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:45 am

      Correction:
      “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the _different_ expectation on yourself.”

  43. Hui Keng on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:35 am

    LOVE is in the air. Read on baby…How lucky Rinpoche giving advice around the clock! Rinpoche’s love is genuinely unconditional hence it survives all tests and challenges. We are pretty much lucky to have Rinpoche. We have sowed good seeds for this to happen and we must utilise fully given this opportunity. Rinpoche immensely love all of us, even more deeply than what our parents can do.

  44. Irene on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:22 am

    But what about a situation in which one partner dominates the whole family, and always expects to be bowed and scraped to. He always complains about how nobody does anything right (like he wants), and threatens to leave if we don’t shape up. I often wonder how much of this is due to his family background. (He grew up in an abusive environment.)

    Don’t get me wrong–he can be charming and generous when he wants to be, but sometimes I think he does it in order to manipulate people. (When we do what he wants, he praises them or gives them little gifts, otherwise he criticizes and sulks.) If things get too quiet, then he’s good at manufacturing drama (like claiming to have a mortal illness), and he just loves to gossip. But he doesn’t think that HE is doing any of this, according to him he’s just humbly following what is right (as he was taught). And somehow he always ends up being the center of attention.

    I’m probably making him sound like a monster, but that’s not right. He can be loyal and compassionate (he loves animals, and gives to charity) and is obviously very hard working and a very good manager. He has the potential to make a positive impact on the world. But we’re in this lopsided relationship with him, in which he gets to set all the conditions, and anyone who can’t accept that can just leave. (He’s alienated a lot of people over the years, although he tells it a different way–who knows what the truth is.) Anyway, Rinpoche, I’m sure you know people like that. What to do…?

    • mrs cheung on Feb 23, 2012 at 8:12 pm

      dear rinpoche, i also know someone similar to what irene has written here in her reply, plus more. he also flirts with younger women but his sick and old wife could do nothing to stop him. facing such a monster, she could only soar and sob over her misfortune. uneducated, unemployed, unwanted, old and sick. she has no where to run to. what to do…?

  45. freon on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:06 am

    With folded hand, Thank you Guru

  46. tsemtulku on Feb 23, 2012 at 9:46 am

    Some thoughts on love and relationships..I am not the expert, but over the years I have to listen to alot of people and I came out with some of my own conclusions…

    • Sophia chung on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:19 am

      Dear Rinpoche,

      Thank you for your advice on relationship. It made me reflect on myself to improve tremendously..
      It was great pleasure to meet u in the gompa last nite. I feel very lucky to receive
      a dharma talk in person from you. Although shocking, It was priceless, the love and effort you put in for
      Your students. Thank you for taking the time to pay us the visit.

      Sophia

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  • NUTroll.
    Tuesday, Feb 9. 2016 03:34 PM
  • Tsem Rinpoche
    Tuesday, Feb 9. 2016 02:21 PM
    Since very young, I’ve never accepted what ordinary life had to offer. I have never seen any true or deep lasting purpose in it. I would see my parents and their peers and always hoped my life will not turn out like theirs which is very banal. I am not criticizing them at all, but it was not for me. I was a always a seeker. I always find books on spirituality, Buddhism, metaphysics, paranormal, yogis, Tibet, Hindu masters, bigfoot, aliens and the likes. I always knew I would cross the big ocean and live far from where I grew up. I just knew. I dreamed of mountains, meeting great masters of tantra & studying with them & then living in mastering of spiritual awakening. I use to often meditate on Avalokitesvara & Manjushri. I can still remember that I did not want an ordinary life. Fear of death use to visit me often. I would meditate on the fragility of life & how it would end and how best was to use my life. I concluded it would be like the Mahasiddhas of the past. To live and practice like the great Mahasiddhas of the past would be the best way to use my life and spend my time. This yearning in me was very strong. I was going to do this or die trying I use to think. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Stella Cheang
    Tuesday, Feb 9. 2016 01:32 PM
    Thank You Mr Tan for sharing something about yourself with all of us.

    The opening of this article resonates with what I encountered. After learning a little bit about dharma, I feel less compelled to hold on to my self-cherishing image, which had developed and evolved over time into this humongous inflated egoistic monster. It is as if that I started to shred the attachment to the monster, or at least attempted to. As a result, I let go of what I perceived as the best perceived image for myself and just act the way I would like to (of course as appropriately to the occasion as possible). I see this change in myself as a positive one. It is as if I have returned to the younger me, when I was carefree, but with dharma knowledge in my system. How wonderful.

    Thank You Rinpoche, and Mr Tan for this blog article. I will keep up my practice based on His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche’s teaching.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/art-architecture/tai-chi-and-spirituality.html
  • NUTroll.greenKECHARA4ALL
    Tuesday, Feb 9. 2016 05:54 AM
    SAVE LIVES how you cut grass?in#KECHARA HANDLY MANUAL BY SHARP IRON as in past? or by machine elecrticity & oil!powered##POSIBLE INSECTS in GRASS KILLINGS.?. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VsJEWYnZgq4&feature=youtu.be very very nice to hear remind learn slow MIGTSEMA …just remind me cut grass i dislike by electric cuttings:(.,,and very nice grass see, so write #LOSAR #WISH #KARMA #CUMULATION . ….””my””long time abeyance mandala RESISTANCEdetails usefull! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rqW7gaUaKfI __nice _GRASS=INSECTS deserve to live.____ its details but quantity? #SAVE LIVES grass cutting!how?
  • NUTroll.4TR&all
    Tuesday, Feb 9. 2016 05:16 AM
    power i$ matter of ca$H ,not huMAN’healtH ….radioA$ tv or web$’order$ all have ”own”mainstream.#LOSAR #INTENTION #PRAY #WISH #PURE #MIND #LONGLIVE4EVERY1 #HHDL https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jK-NcRmVcw ##LOSAR2016^#ACT_#EFFECTS #CHANGE.&/#OPORTUNITY #WIN&WIN=#OPTIONS /#NOW #CLEAN all old unnecessary bLOCKs effortlessly lamas/real HHess’can own FACEbook as morning twittings in HHHarmony
  • NUTroll.
    Tuesday, Feb 9. 2016 04:58 AM
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ALwwgBGw7BI message for TR dont you live to love LOSAR TWITTER now HHDL #OPORTUNITY KARMA CUMULATION NOW
  • jason
    Tuesday, Feb 9. 2016 03:15 AM
    Thx Pastor Niral Patel.Puja is needed to clear our negative karma and collect merits as well.The instructions given by oracle when take trance is a guideline for us to achieve our goals.The most important that we must listen to our guru who always emphasized on mind transform when we are learning n sharing dharma.Doing dharma works will facing many difficulties.we need dharma protectors like Dorje Shugden to help us in the path to enlightenment .
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/the-puja-of-following-an-enlightened-being%E2%80%99s-advice.html#comments
  • Lin Mun
    Sunday, Feb 7. 2016 07:15 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this quote. This is a very good reminder to me especially, who always fear and lazy to face the difficulty and think of other people’s perception on me.

    I agree that we should have a different mindset that our action is to inspire others and not stressing it on ‘me’.

    Thank you again for always encourage and motivate us to do better.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/do-something-so-you-dont-regret-later.html
  • Lin Mun
    Sunday, Feb 7. 2016 07:03 PM
    Rinpoche, thank you for giving us a chance to know and learn about the very sacred female Buddha. It gives us great opportunity to collect merits and make offering by having Vajrayogini stupa and statue in Kechara Forest Reteat.

    I hope more people would know about Vajrayogini and the practise.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/kechara-13-depts/make-offerings-to-vajrayogini-in-kechara-forest-retreat.html
  • Lin Mun
    Sunday, Feb 7. 2016 06:42 PM
    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this article as it provides a very good definition of karma.

    Karma is not a punishment but an action that will bring positive and negative result based on our intention. By understanding this we will be more mindful with our every thought, speech and action.

    The ‘Law of change’ again reminded me to always remember that if we don’t want to go through a certain condition then we must learn and change it. It is until we learn that we will not need to experience it again.

    Thank you again for sharing this article.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/12-little-known-law-of-karma-that-will-change-your-life.html
  • Alice Tay
    Sunday, Feb 7. 2016 02:23 PM
    一个民主的国家都会以人民为主,达到一定的共识,然后设立严谨的条例或措施来维护和保障人民的利益。而芒康县人民政府也因为要维护人民的安全与和平相处,因此颁布此通告来制止他人有意利用多杰雄登(俱力护法神)供废分歧而制造社会的纷争。此通告里的十条规例非常清楚的列出,如果他人意图的利用多杰雄登的课题来制造纷争和破坏民族团结等,此人将会被起诉和负起刑事的责任。

    这是一个值得高兴和赞扬的公告。因为一个开明的政府,才能够让当地人民可以有信仰自由的保障和继续地修持多杰雄登。而当每个人都可得到护法的庇佑,他们不但可以专心的持修和同时也可以宣扬佛法,利益更多人。

    虽然目前芒康县的人口只有八万一千人得到人民政府的保障,可以继续地修持多杰雄登。不过,相信不久的将来,芒康县的附近,如贡觉县、左贡县、察雅县等等甚至整个中国或是世界各地的政府都可以了解到多杰雄登护法是可以带给每个人和平与和谐。

    感谢仁波切这篇值得高兴的博文。祈愿大家得到多杰雄登护法的加持,世界和平。

    Om Benza Wiki Bitana Soha _/\\_

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/markam-illegal-to-create-conflict.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Sunday, Feb 7. 2016 11:57 AM
    The core of the issue never sway from the discrimination imposed by the Tibetan leadership on Dorje Shugden practitioners. The badge mandated by Sera Jey is evidentially one of those unjust rulings that instead of promoting peace, love and harmony, it spreads hatred, discrimination and suffering. These actions are blatantly against the teaching of Buddha and Lam Rim, not to mention against basic human rights and freedom of religion.

    What bothers me and pain my heart very much is the fact that these anti-Buddhism rulings were imposed by one of the most prestige Tibetan Buddhism Monastery college. I grew up watching movies and reading stories that depict how monks from Shaolin Buddhist Temple would rather die in honor than to let villains take a life of the innocent. What Sera Jey had done shocked me to the core. Has the world become so degenerated where Buddhism institution values fame, glory and material gain over the duty to be compassion? And allow ignorance to rule instead of confronting the Shugden issue with logic, reasoning and dialogue?

    To the people in Sera Jey, I hope you will come to realize that this ruling will have long and unduly negative effect on Tibetan Buddhism and on practitioners’ spiritual practice. We are already living in an era far away from Buddha’s pure teachings, full of distractions and disasters; please do not create more suffering and causes to divert us from the path.

    Thank You very much, Rinpoche, Joy and Pastor David for the latest news from Sera Jey. This opens my eyes that the 3 poisons can be in any form or shape.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/badge-of-shame.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Saturday, Feb 6. 2016 11:28 PM
    Kyabje Ling Rinpoche is a renowned lama who is the longest Gaden throneholder in history. He was also the tutor to the 6th HHDl, 12th HHDL, 13th HHDL in his previous lifetimes. Before Kyabe Ling Rinpoche entered clear light, he was one of the two tutors to the 14th HHDL. Given that it is world known fact for the selection of HHDL’s tutors to adhere to stringent conditions and under the scrutiny of the Tibetan government, hence it is safe to say that the tutors to HHDL must be flawless in their Buddhism knowledge and practice.

    The point is, by virtue of their command of Buddhism knowledge, they cannot be propitiating to anything evil. And we have facts to show that Kyabje Ling Rinpoche and Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche are both Dorje Shugden practitioners. To me, it is uplifting to know that the tutors to the current HHDL are Dorje Shugden practitioners. It presents the other side of the coin to what CTA and HHDL’s followers claimed. The ban imposed by the CTA in the name of HHDL since 1996 causes many sufferings to Dorje Shugden practitioners as they are not allowed to basic public services and even restaurants; some of the monks were chased out of the monastery and forced to disparage their own Guru.

    How inhume is this going to get before HHDL lifts the ban?! I pray that the ban be lifted soonest and hatred be elevated from the heart of Anti-Shugden people.

    Thank You Rinpoche and Pastor Jean Ai for this informative blog post on Kyabje Ling Rinpoche.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/kyabje-ling-rinpoche-does-dorje-shugden.html
  • NUTroll.
    Saturday, Feb 6. 2016 11:16 PM
    (In some cases) Diferent VIEW

    https://www.facebook.com/hashtag/hrhthegyalsey

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    Than CTA(‘standarts)

    http://dalailama.com/webcasts/post/353-tibetan-new-years-message-from-his-holiness-the-dalai-lama


    BOW2TR’writtings&patience: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/12-little-known-law-of-karma-that-will-change-your-life.html good Stella Cheang reFOCUS me, its need better understand&USE2USE,what takes time!in old habits&acumulations priv&colective ,, ,,,LIVE IS LIKE DREAM AS BARDO ilusoric, but (not so) easy to disolve some old&new ”karmas”in us? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xLMECUlIc40
  • Stella Cheang
    Saturday, Feb 6. 2016 10:49 PM
    Vajrayogini is a female Buddha who bestows the swiftest practice in this degenerated age. She promises 7 lifetimes (according to H.E. Tsem Rinpoche’s lineage) of meeting Vajrayogini again and continuing her practice until practitioners ascend to her pure realm of Kechara Paradise. Vajrayogini is one of the most sacred and profound of practices within H.E. the 25th Tsem Rinpoche’s lineage, and Kyabje Pabongka Rinpoche is one of the main lineage holder.

    It is our very good fortune to come across His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche who aspired to spread the Vajrayogini’s lineage here in Malaysia when his students and followers are ready. Rinpoche’s pure intention are seen when He named the Buddhist organization he founded ‘Kechara’, and the logo of Kechara is the Tibetan syllable ‘BAM’. This is meant to create the cause for people who enter Kechara organization be implanted with the spiritual seeds of Vajrayogini that is embodied in the name Kechara, her pure realm and the syllable BAM, which embodies Vajrayogini herself in the form of sound.

    In addition to this, Rinpoche arranged to build a Vajrayogini Stupa in Kechara Forest Retreat. And now, Rinpoche has arranged for a 2-feet statue of Vajrayogini to be placed in the old container/cabin where Rinpoche used to reside in Kechara Forest Retreat, for the public to make a sacred connection by making offering to Her in the form of Gold Dust or Jewels. This is a exceptional opportunity for us to create the cause to receive Vajrayogini’s sacred initiation and master Her practice.

    Thank You so much, Rinpoche, for always thinking of us, and making arrangement just so that we can create the cause to be nearer to the path.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/kechara-13-depts/make-offerings-to-vajrayogini-in-kechara-forest-retreat.html

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What Am I Writing Now


 

The Unknown

The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
So go pursue all the way with the unknown,
because all unknown with familiarity becomes the known.
~Tsem Rinpoche

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2 hours ago
This is the truth!
2 hours ago
I really like this red toned version of Vajra Yogini. Very beautiful.
4 hours ago
Beautiful Vajra Yogini. Must click on image to see large size.
4 hours ago
This is a beautiful image. Must click on image to see.
8 hours ago
Did you know His Holiness the Omniscient and all compassionate Panchen Rinpoche composed a medium puja text to World Peace Protector Dorje Shugden? Someone as dharmically attained as him also worshipped Dorje Shugden. See the beautiful pictures of his monastery. See here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=68698
16 hours ago
Although he only became celebrated following his death, Paul Gaugin was regarded as an influential figure to many of modernism's biggest names, including Pablo Picasso and Henri Matisse. Gauguin painted this piece during his first trip to Tahiti, where he had hoped to create "primitive" art. He then found a fondness for Tahitian women, painting many pictures of them. This particular painting, which had been on loan to the Kunstmuseum in Basel, was privately sold for a whopping $300 million in February last year. Source: http://www.buro247.my/culture/art-and-design/what-makes-these-the-most-expensive-paintings-in-t.html
4 days ago
Nice someone presented a Buddha image to President Obama.
5 days ago
This is the holy cave of the Mahasiddha Tilopa in India where he meditated. He had visions of Heruka & Vajra Yogini & received 6 Yogas of Naropa from Heruka. After receiving the 6 Yogas from Heruka, he practiced and became accomplished in this supreme practice and passed it to Naropa. Naropa practiced and accomplished it with good omens. Wrote it down and passed it to his disciples. Today it is known as 6 Yogas of Naropa...
1 week ago
Action Vajra Yogini hence not much ornaments
1 week ago
STUNNING Photo of Kechara Forest Retreat during Sunset taken by the talented Photographer Pastor Seng Piow. See more: http://retreat.kechara.com/
2 weeks ago
René Dahinden was a well-known Bigfoot researcher. Dahinden was born in Switzerland but moved to Canada at the end of October 1953, where he would live for the rest of his life. For more on Bigfoot: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/category/yeti-bigfoot-sasquatch
2 weeks ago
Holy mountain of Avalokitesvara, Manjushri and Vajrapani in Tibet.
2 weeks ago
MUST CLICK AND OPEN THIS PICTURE and read..Powerful logic.
2 weeks ago
How long will they keep this up? Where do we all go? Do we just stay away? Shall we make parameters of where we can go and not go?
2 weeks ago
Our wonderful Kechara people under the direction of Karen Chong is in the process of beautifying our town where Kechara Forest Retreat is. We want to make our Bentong Pahang beautiful with art that is unique, bright, colorful and also meaningful. This Dorje Shugden mural represents wealth, protection, health and prosperity for everyone in the coming Lunar New Year's! We love Bentong and it may be small but we can make it more beautiful. It's a gift to the people here. Tsem Rinpoche.
2 weeks ago
You will be shocked to see what a 'badge of shame' is: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=86165
2 weeks ago
I was glad to have visited Mt Shasta town in Northern California at the base of Mt Shasta. This mountain is a spiritually charged holy place according to the Native American Indians. Many powerful spiritual beings abide and reside within the mountain. When one does spiritual practices, meditations and so on on this mountain or near it, one is blessed for success much faster than in other places. Mt Shasta is powerfully charged with spiritual energy and one of the power places of our planet. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
The tutor of His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama is His Holiness Kyabje Ling Rinpoche. Did you know His Holiness Kyabje Ling Rinpoche propitated Dorje Shugden and composed texts to him? Please see here clearly: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=86074
2 weeks ago
This is so powerful..please read and share.
3 weeks ago
You know, been working on this new post with powerful messages for the last 8 hours with a small great team. Just finished 10 mins ago. Sharing here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=85658
3 weeks ago
This is a must read. Click on picture. Very powerful.
3 weeks ago
Our beautiful Dorje Shugden chapel in Kechara Forest Retreat.
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His Eminence Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, Trijang Choktrul Rinpoche and His Eminence Kensur Jampa Yeshe. What a beautiful picture.
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Chenresig bone relic of Panchen Sonam Dragpa ( one of the previous incarnations of Tulku Trakpa Gyaltsen) at Drepung Gompa in Tibet. -From Francesco This is a image of Ary Avalokitesvara (Chenresig) spontaneously arising from the bone of Panchen Sonam Dragpa. It is highly blessed. It shows the special connection of Avalokitesvara with this master and he is highly attained.
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The personal statue of Buddha Vajra Yogini belonging to Dromo Geshe Rinpoche in Samten Choling Monastery-India.
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“As long as Man continues to be the ruthless destroyer of lower living beings, he will never know health or peace. For as long as men massacre animals, they will kill each other. Indeed, he who sows the seed of murder and pain cannot reap joy and love.” ― Pythagoras
4 weeks ago
Very good illustration...
4 weeks ago
This is important. Plse click on picture to read.
4 weeks ago
Something for you to read. Click on picture please
4 weeks ago
I was around 25 years old here. Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
This is very logical.
4 weeks ago
Great Master Changkya Rolpai Dorje who was the tutor to the Imperial Emperor of China. He was a previous incarnation of Kyabje Pabongka Rinpoche.
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His Eminence Kyabje Dagom Rinpoche before his passing. He was my teacher too and a great master.
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Myself in the extreme lower right. Part of my face is cut off in picture. I am here to attend Kalmyck language class in Howell, New Jersey with other Kalmuck kids. I was around 9 or 10 years old I think.
1 month ago
Happy discovery of the day: Khedrup Je was vegetarian! ---- "In Khedrup Je's commentary on The Three Vows, it is said that, on the whole, only the Bodhisattvas are required to abstain from meat. Therefore, all who have taken the vow of bodhichitta, whether they be monks, nuns, or lay people, must abstain from meat. For if Bodhisattvas, who have thus become an object of praise, eat meat, a strong desire for the taste of it will grow in them. As a result, their compassion will wane. Therefore the fully ordained, the shramaneras, kings, ministers, leaders, and lay people who practice the Mahayana should refrain from eating meat." (This was found and posted by Pastor Jean Ai)
1 month ago
Oh my goodness! Click on this picture to see clearly.
1 month ago
Mr. Jamyang Norbu is a powerful Tibetan writer and blogger. He is one of the few people who tell the truth about the Tibetan Leadership and what happens within the Tibetan communities. It is a fact that if you disagree with Tibetan Leadership in Dharamsala on any issue, they get you ostracized and then perhaps the crowd against you. That could be dangerous. This is not pleasant but true. Recently with the Tibetan in exiled 'election' of the new Prime Minister, they did everything they can to get rid of Lukar Jam who wants corruption to end in Tibetan leadership and unite Tibetans regardless of their spiritual orientation. Indeed a rare breed. This is a excellent article to read..Again I am not interested in politics but this shows clearly how the CTA or Tibetan leadership accepts no opposition in their secular and religious decisons right or wrong..and how my choice of spirituality has brought me problems which should not happen in a real democracy. Since it's related I post here. So by all means take a look at how unethical Tibetan Leadership is through the eyes of a well known Tibetan writer: http://www.jamyangnorbu.com/blog/2015/11/13/election-by-divine-intervention/
1 month ago
To be the bearer of light, one needs to see the darkness within and overcome. Face the darkness without more delays. ~Tsem Rinpoche 
1 month ago
His Holiness the Dalai Lama speaks very clearly about an issue that is hurting so many people: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=83853
1 month ago
Kb is a kind person always. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Beng Kooi is one of the best friends anyone is blessed to have. She has made such a huge difference to our dharma works to bring benefit to others. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
It seems that Reuters Anti-Dorje Shugden report backfired into China re-affirming it's stance to give religious freedom to all it's citizens. Also in an open statement, China officially recognizes Dorje Shugden! MUST READ POST: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=83332
2 months ago
There are good people everywhere. Treasure them always. Life is too short for anything else.
2 months ago
This picture is just a small fraction of how big the lake is. It is behind the Batu Caves area-Malaysia. This lake is called Batu Dam at Jalan Uluyam Bharu. It is around 30 mins from Bandar Utama if no traffic. We drove along it and the lake was so beautiful. To be around that area reminded me of Northern California. Would be lovely to live in that area along the edge of the lake. Karen kindly took this photo of myself overlooking the lake. Tsem R
2 months ago
This is powerful. Do read it well and understand this explanation- China officially supports Dorje Shugden: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=83091
2 months ago
Before the unethical ban against the spiritual practice of Dorje Shugden, all the teachers are friendly, they are in contact and support each other. There was much harmony and everyone was focused on bringing the Buddha dharma to many. They often met up with each other, or in communication and even attended eachother's events. The harmony was palpable, beneficial and everyone was united. You an see here how Lama Zopa Rinpoche comes to one of Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche's events in Nepal. How warmly they greet eachother and there is so much spirituality radiating from this blessed picture. Now because of this unethical ban against Shugden, these lamas are not allowed to meet although they have the same root guru. Because of the unethical ban against Dorje Shugden the whole Tibetan Buddhist world is divided. Those who wish to practice Dorje Shugden are not allowed to participate or be friends with those who do not practice Dorje Shugden. What is incredible is why are Tibetan Buddhists divided by religion? Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Wouldn't it be nice that we chose to do something with our lives beyond materialism that made a difference to millions and bettered their lives? Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Dear everyone, Plse read this carefully if you have pets as it's important and simple: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=82688
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    2 months ago
    All beings have feelings and do not want pain, to be hurt or harmed. Therefore we must respect this and not harm animals. See this video how this man has made good friends with a special fish who comes when he rings for the fish. Touching. Tsem Rinpoche
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    5 months ago
    HH the Dalai Lama prays with HH Trijang Rinpoche and HH Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche. Such a beautiful video of His Holiness Dalai Lama, His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and His Holiness Dilgo Kyentse Rinpoche (Very exalted high Nyingma lama) are all praying together. In the background you see a young Kyabje Lati Rinpoche too. So beautiful. This is how it was before the ban. All the sects and high lamas were superbly harmonious. After the Dorje Shugden ban things changed for the worse. May the ban be released soon. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Nice Dorje Shugden rock painting
    5 months ago
    Nice Dorje Shugden rock painting
  • His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
    5 months ago
    His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
  • A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
    6 months ago
    A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 1)
    6 months ago
    Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 1)
  • Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 2)
    6 months ago
    Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 2)
  • His Holiness Trijang Rinpoche accepts Long Life puja
    7 months ago
    His Holiness Trijang Rinpoche accepts Long Life puja
  • Dorje Shugden/Kache Marpo makes offerings to Tsem Rinpoche
    7 months ago
    Dorje Shugden/Kache Marpo makes offerings to Tsem Rinpoche
  • My good friend Justin Ripley
    7 months ago
    My good friend Justin Ripley
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    8 months ago
    I requested Choji Lah to do a trusol, rabney and soongdroop for our large DS and Buddha. In this video, he is performing trusol which is ritually 'bathing' the environment and blessing all those who come to visit our Wisdom Hall and Dorje Shugden. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Bigfoot arrives!!!
    8 months ago
    Bigfoot arrives!!!
    Tsem Rinpoche is an avid follower of the paranormal such as bigfoots. For more interesting writings and posts on the subject, please go to http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/category/yeti-bigfoot-sasquatch
  • Mumu Loves Snack!
    9 months ago
    Mumu Loves Snack!
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    9 months ago
    For H.E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche, a blog post is not just a blog post but Dharma work that generates merits which should be dedicated. Click here to find out what blog post Rinpoche was dedicating the merits for when he recited this prayer: http://bit.ly/1KiXWf9 ~Ani Lobsang Pema
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    9 months ago
    Panchen Lama in Beijing on CCTV - China's official news. The respect and position they give His Holiness Panchen Lama is great.

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