Some thoughts on love relationships

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Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to  destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche


The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships,  being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you. ~Tsem Rinpoche


Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion,  genuine care, sharing and honesty. Tsem Rinpoche


In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your  relationship will grow stronger and better with time. ~Tsem Rinpoche


What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.  Tsem Rinpoche


It takes a years to earn the trust of your spouse, but one selfish mistake to break their heart. Then years to regain their trust again. Just be honest from the beginning and always be loyal. Tsem Rinpoche


There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche


Everyone has so much pain already. No one is not damaged goods. So why bring more pain to your partner. Love, cherish and respect your partner by being honest and always communicating. Tsem Rinpoche


I am sorry is ok once, twice but not three times. If you are always apologizing, maybe you are not respecting the relationship you are in. Either respect your relationship or create a prison. It’s up to you. Tsem Rinpoche


Love is intentional. So are affairs out of marriage. You choose what you want. But remember, whatever you choose will come back to you if you are choosing for selfish reasons. Tsem Rinpoche


No one forced you to have a relationship. So do not make excuses for hurting your partner. Take responsibility for all your actions starting with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche


When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues. Tsem Rinpoche


All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it…Tsem Rinpoche


When we look back and see how many partners we have changed, we can be sure it is a sign we have not fulfilled what we should be doing in life. Finding partners is just a delay tactic perhaps for what we should really be doing..Tsem Rinpoche


Partners and spouses are only ok to have when we are ok. Tsem Rinpoche


Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt. Tsem Rinpoche


The best way to hurt yourself and your partner is when you use them to hide  behind your selfish avoidances. Tsem Rinpoche


When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche


If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness. Tsem Rinpoche


You deserve what you give. The universe owes you nothing. But you owe the universe everything. Be comfortable with that thought first and then seek friends. Tsem Rinpoche


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49 Responses to Some thoughts on love relationships

  1. tsemtulku on Feb 23, 2012 at 9:46 am

    Some thoughts on love and relationships..I am not the expert, but over the years I have to listen to alot of people and I came out with some of my own conclusions…

    • Sophia chung on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:19 am

      Dear Rinpoche,

      Thank you for your advice on relationship. It made me reflect on myself to improve tremendously..
      It was great pleasure to meet u in the gompa last nite. I feel very lucky to receive
      a dharma talk in person from you. Although shocking, It was priceless, the love and effort you put in for
      Your students. Thank you for taking the time to pay us the visit.


  2. freon on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:06 am

    With folded hand, Thank you Guru

  3. Irene on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:22 am

    But what about a situation in which one partner dominates the whole family, and always expects to be bowed and scraped to. He always complains about how nobody does anything right (like he wants), and threatens to leave if we don’t shape up. I often wonder how much of this is due to his family background. (He grew up in an abusive environment.)

    Don’t get me wrong–he can be charming and generous when he wants to be, but sometimes I think he does it in order to manipulate people. (When we do what he wants, he praises them or gives them little gifts, otherwise he criticizes and sulks.) If things get too quiet, then he’s good at manufacturing drama (like claiming to have a mortal illness), and he just loves to gossip. But he doesn’t think that HE is doing any of this, according to him he’s just humbly following what is right (as he was taught). And somehow he always ends up being the center of attention.

    I’m probably making him sound like a monster, but that’s not right. He can be loyal and compassionate (he loves animals, and gives to charity) and is obviously very hard working and a very good manager. He has the potential to make a positive impact on the world. But we’re in this lopsided relationship with him, in which he gets to set all the conditions, and anyone who can’t accept that can just leave. (He’s alienated a lot of people over the years, although he tells it a different way–who knows what the truth is.) Anyway, Rinpoche, I’m sure you know people like that. What to do…?

    • mrs cheung on Feb 23, 2012 at 8:12 pm

      dear rinpoche, i also know someone similar to what irene has written here in her reply, plus more. he also flirts with younger women but his sick and old wife could do nothing to stop him. facing such a monster, she could only soar and sob over her misfortune. uneducated, unemployed, unwanted, old and sick. she has no where to run to. what to do…?

  4. Hui Keng on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:35 am

    LOVE is in the air. Read on baby…How lucky Rinpoche giving advice around the clock! Rinpoche’s love is genuinely unconditional hence it survives all tests and challenges. We are pretty much lucky to have Rinpoche. We have sowed good seeds for this to happen and we must utilise fully given this opportunity. Rinpoche immensely love all of us, even more deeply than what our parents can do.

  5. skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:37 am

    Dear Rinpoche, thank you very much for the good advises.

    “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the same expectation on yourself.”

    “Trying to put away, hiding, or avoiding relationship issues won’t make them go away. You need to talk over or be clear about it.”

    “Always bringing up and rehashing previous issues mean the issue doesn’t solve go away or it just mean you’re not letting go and keep holding on to it.”

    • skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:45 am

      “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the _different_ expectation on yourself.”

  6. kenny wong on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:10 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Again, thank you for you kind insights. We choose our partners ourselves and have to accept him/her for who she is. The good, the bad, the ugly and the whole. How we percieve and accept our patners is totally up to us, thus we control our own happiness in the relationship. But if we are not generous and cannot lose out in the relationship and must win all the time, we will definately be the one losing at the end…. being unhappy, unfulfilled and bitter.

    Your words of advice are so true and spot on Rinpoche.

  7. Nicholas on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:13 am

    Thanks for Rinpoche advice.

    Found that the teaching is not just for relationship but it is also applicable for anything we do in our life.

    It’s all about care. How much we want to do for others is how much we cares for others.
    We responsible for the relationship because no one can force us. We are the one choose to be and should go all the way. I like this! No point to regret on what we have not done to save the relationship because we can always be the one to take action first.

    It’s not about who love whom more than who suppose to take the first move, it’s how much you love, how much you appreciate and how far you want to go with your relationship.

    This is just applicable for everything in our life.

  8. Han Siew Fong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    All the advices will sink into my mind. .. and have a better relationship with my partner

    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness.” Tsem Rinpoche

    i contemplated on the above and i do realize the meaning of the quote.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this wonderful post

  9. Jace Chong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:59 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing these very useful quotes.

    Relationship used to be something very hard for me to juggle in between love and selfishness. When I had quarrel with partner, I always not sure this is because I want him to be my way, or I want my partner to improve. And the definition of improvement is vary to different people.

    “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications. ”

    This is a very practical way. I should not focus on what I want, but what is best for our partner.

    Even Rinpoche didn’t go through all these, Rinpoche understand better than everyone else what should we practice in relationship. Salute to Rinpoche, as always!

  10. shivani on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    I want to know a little about Karmic Connection.We meet people but they leave us yet we cannot earse them

  11. yekyee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:10 pm

    Each of Rinpoche is very logic and make sense. When we choose a relationship, must always our partner with real care and patient. No one is perfect. How can we go along with each other, tolerance is another good deed we need practice. I believe very strongly on it. My aunty friend always with me, it is not easy for two different character person live, eat, play, work together, need so much efforts and patient. I agreed. Thankyou for Rinpoche sharing.

  12. Margaretlee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts and experiences you have encountered with the many stories you were told.

    I think responsibility, honesty, sincerity and intergrity apply to everything we do in our life, be it work or relationship.

    There is a saying that people only starts to know themselves when they are in a relationship, it is indeed true when we realise we always demand this and that from our partner and never gives back, a state of complete self absorption. relationship is about giving and not taking.

    I paticularly like this quote from Rinpoche : “When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche”

    Going to share this blog with many of my samsara friends…..

  13. tenzin llhamo on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:46 pm

    This is the one I like the most. Because of being dishonest, so many relationships are destroyed. How sad! But now that we understand, we must be better. Treat relationships with respect, humility and honesty.

    ‘In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time’

  14. abby on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:15 pm

    Love and compassion is the greatest lesson in everyone’s life.
    Yes, Rinpoche may not be the expert, but yes, Rinpoche do care about everyone. And with this compassion, Rinpoche is the Love Guru :)

  15. Yvonne Yap on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche! this is a reminder , remind the things we know, but we always forgot.Because you care.

  16. Ash Ng on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    Dear Rinpoche, You have given us some wonderful insights on having relationships with others. I especially agree with the few advises below;

    1) When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first.

    2) Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt.

    I feel these 2 major points encompass all the others and when we are REALLY ready after dealing with our deep seeded insecurities, comfortable and accepting ourselves then only we take the next step. Appreciate Your enlightening insights and You care for us with others. Will put in effort working on these as the essence of Dharma is compassion towards others and not hurting or harming them would be the first priority. Thus, working on oneself first is the key to happiness. Tashi delek

  17. Uncle Eddie on Feb 23, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    Is love all we need to make a successful and fulfilling life relationship? Obviously, not all love relationships are the “Life Partnership kind”. It is important to realise and recognise that, and be okay with that. We can learn so much from the experiences of past relationships, to change towards the better, to a more adaptable, improved and acceptable one for both partners. It is everyone’s goal to have the desire of finding a life partner who caters to one’s entire needs and satisfaction. We all want someone who looks good, always make us laugh, supports us, respect us and trusts us well. Before we can find that ‘someone’, we need to be that person – that includes accepting all faults and short comings of oneself and that of your life partner too. A healthy relationship, essentially, should have a good building up of respect, loyalty, trust and a good admiration for each other; more similar to a house solid basic foundation structure, where the more love and nurturance we put into it, is what makes it a happy home, and a successful and fulfilling life relationship in the years to come.

  18. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:01 pm

    “And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is”

  19. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:02 pm

    And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is….

  20. SEreNa on Feb 23, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    Thanks for Rinpoche sharing on some thoughts for love and relationships.

    We must always remember to share and communicate with our love partner for every challenges we face in life. You have make your choice to spend the rest of your life with the loved one. SO, Be responsible and respect to the loved one. Don’t be selfish as pain will arise to the loved one including youself.

  21. Khoo HH on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:13 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for the sharing on love relationships.
    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness”
    How can we hurt a person if we truly love that person, and we know that the person also love us. I think “Selfishness” is the only explaination on this. A lot of time we are treating our partner good because we wanted to feel good, not because we want our partner to feel good. I have heard of this situation a lot of times from people around me. A guy wanted to bring his girlfriend for a nice dinner because he wanted to make his girlfriend happy. But he got angry with his girlfriend when she took a long time to makeup. Suppose to be a romantic dinner, ended up with a quarrel in the house. I will always think, what is the objective of this dinner? To not miss the reserved table, or to make your partner happy? Perhaps he thought that his effort of booking the table is greater than his partner. I think if a couple truly love each other, even a roadside stall will be a romantic dinner.

  22. bengkooi on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:46 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these thought provoking quotes. My favourite is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty.”

    To share with those who have not had the fortune to hear one of Rinpoche’s talks about relationships… As Rinpoche has said many times, a dharma relationship is different from a secular relationship because we are not in it just for ourselves. When we enter a dharma relationship, we must be determined to make it last. We must be determined to make it work regardless of whatever problems come along. We cannot just try things out because we may hurt the other person and that is a big no no.

    Its good to be aware of these things, because there are people who jump into relationships or even dharma relationships unaware of what it really entails and the commitment that we must put in.

    Bottom line – dont hurt others.
    Bottom bottom line: be a monk/nun!

  23. Any Loke on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:53 pm

    Wow, is so true about what Rinpoche wrote. But, human is really selfish, sometimes, we never think that the problem of the relationship is actually created by oursleves. After all the teachings and Puja that I have done it really helped so much in all aspects.

  24. Wee Liang on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:43 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you so much for the dharma talk last night. Also thank you very much for all the quotes on love and relationships. Its very enlightening, makes me reflect. My favourite quote is ‘The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships, being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you.’ This one is harddddddd.

    Wee Liang

  25. vc on Feb 24, 2012 at 1:29 pm

    Rinpoche is very lucky to have get out of samsara and not involve in opposite sex relationships.Everyone should think they are indeed lucky and have the privilege to left the home life and seek the Way.We can only see what is worldly and not transcendental.This life is not just about humanity but transcendental to the ultimate reality.Nirvana.

  26. Jean Ai on Feb 24, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    After reading this, putting it alongside the video Rinpoche sent to us (, I gotta add to this post – never choose someone on the basis of their looks! It all fades with age, no matter how rich, poor, fat or skinny you are! And death comes to everyone, so how do you want to live your relationship? With anger, disharmony and bitterness, or do you want your relationship to be the cause of something bigger and better? Rinpoche always says some relationships drag people down, and others lead to better things…if yours is the former, time to stop being selfish and let go, both for your benefit and for your partner’s!

  27. Datuk May on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:54 pm

    The quote I like best is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty”. I totally agree with this and in my own view love is not confined to couples and family only but rather it is universal and to be practised unconditionally.

    Love is tough to give as it challenges our selfishness, ego etc etc that concocts most negative emotions in most people. Being as delusional as we are, we think we are in bliss when there is love.

    I totally disagree that Rinpoche is not an expert in relationships and love, if the above quote is what attracts me then it is true for me that Rinpoche is the only one person I know that truly gives love to every sentient being.

    Now that is tough to practise.

  28. Li Kim on Feb 25, 2012 at 5:23 am

    These quotes are true and real. Not the usual mambo jumbo you get in books and cards. Many of the quotes from Rinpoche brought back the sweet and fond memories of relationships for me. I am not bitter la but can say that I have become slightly disenchanted. I think that I will just enjoy the quotes and not think too much into relationships.

    “When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues.” – this applies to many I must say…

  29. vc on Feb 25, 2012 at 1:03 pm

    Dear All,
    All of your opinions about relationship maybe right or wrong.But all you haven’t got there yet.To get out of six defiling objects from your mind.All of you are subjected to six dusts defiling senses which all of you are attracted to such as beauty,intelligent,smell,senses.Be honest to yourself and speak the truth.Don’t go and claim yourself you are the GOD and not attracted to anything and swear and curse others when you are now wearing the ‘Human Body’. If you think don’t like this world you can always calm your mind and return to the source,the Origin and achieve perfect enlightenment like the Buddha.If you think you like what you are doing,just go with the flow and don’t complain.

  30. Amala Sheilagh Mercer on Feb 25, 2012 at 2:54 pm

    Thank you , this is something , Dear Tsem Rinpoche, I will print put and read often ,I may also share it often to anyone open to reading it. And a copy in my washsroom, never know who reads the only reading matterial available to them there, I truly, realize and not all that long ago, that, there is an emotional love and then there is unconditional love,. That is a start , I believe, even though, this only scratches the surface, because of an out of body experience, it was difficult to fathom that much love . Yet changed my life. Now this here to read and remind me. .
    Love and Blessings
    Amala Sheilagh

  31. Li Kheng on Feb 25, 2012 at 3:29 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for this insightful post on relationships. We spend so much time chasing after prince/princess charming whom we believe will make our world a better place. We often forget to consider using ourselves to make someone else’s world a better place. Thank you Rinpoche for this reminder. I especially like this quote:

    “There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche”

  32. patsy on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:55 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for sharing these useful quotes which we can use not only in relationships but with every one whether its friends relationship or love relationship. When we care for others and treat them well with respect, we will get the results of being treated well by others too.

    I like this one, “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.”

  33. Uncle Lai on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:56 pm

    Thank you once again Rinpoche for all the wonderful quotes on love and relationships. You are the most caring person, always look into us and find ways to explain and teach how to live a happier life.

    Of all the quotes I like this the most. ‘In all relationships honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time.’ I fully agree with that because if we are honest we will not cheat, we dont lie, we trust and we are humble. I think this is so because it comes from inside us,

  34. Julia Tan on Feb 29, 2012 at 3:05 am

    “All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it”

    Something as simple as saying NO and we can avoid hurting ourselves and our partners. We didn’t do it. We let it be.

    If you truly love your partners, do something about it, before it is too late..

  35. Albert Ratchaga on Feb 29, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for the quotes, some times we can be very possessive when we love someone, either to our partner or family, we tend to be very controlling, and the reason of being like this is just because “I LOVE YOU”.

    just a simple word I Love You, it became a manifestation of our selfishness, instead of accepting the person we love, we tend to turn them into our ideally person to be. we expect everything from them but giving nothing from ourselves… so are we really loving them or we actually loves ourselves more? Is love a taking or giving?

  36. Melinda yap on Mar 1, 2012 at 7:14 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for your thoughts and advice on love and relationships. It is so so true what Rinpoche has shared. After reading, I looked back and pondered about my past relationships… It is true in order for a relationship to be in harmony,both parties should be honest plus have respect for each other from the beginning of the relationship. This will in time gives security and stability to the relationship…I love all the above thoughts by Rinpoche on love & relationships…I’ll save it so I could remind myself what love and relationship is all about! ;-)

  37. su_zan on Mar 6, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Dear Rinpche thank you for all the above quotes. It reminds me of the talk you give during my wedding day.

    For me the above quotes not only apply on a couple relationship, it applies to all kinds of relationships (friends, teachers, family, children and etc)

    One of which is
    “Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche”

  38. Wan Wai Meng on Mar 23, 2012 at 11:36 am

    These are really thought provoking thoughts about relationships. Thank you sharing them, such quotes will really help people think about what they are doing.

  39. mitra on Jun 13, 2012 at 10:53 am

    good advice for every one.

  40. Jessica Yap on Dec 7, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    Everything begins with me, myself, and I. How i feel, how i react to situations, how i treat others, everything is from me. These quotes should be read every now and then to contemplate on..

    Thank you for the profound quotes, Rinpoche!

  41. Paris on Feb 3, 2013 at 11:36 pm

    To add to this, Rinpoche gave a wonderful teaching on how to maintain a successful relationship at one of his students’ wedding a few years ago. I remember it being an especially beautiful teaching because the girl was Buddhist but the boy was Christian – and the advice given was just as relevant for both. Relive the teaching here! (it comes in three parts)

    David Lai has also written a book about relationships based on these teachings – a very cute way of presenting different thoughts on relationships, but with this same underlying message that Rinpoche gives us. Here! “Conversations in Love”:

  42. Paris on Feb 14, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    Rereading this again this Valentines’ day and thinking about how, at the heart of everything, is this real gritty honesty that we all need to look at, in every of our relationships. Once the razzle dazzle of moonlight, flowers and chocolates dies down, we are left ourselves to ourselves – then what?

    Then we start creating problems, either for ourselves, our parents, or both. The relationship itself doesn’t go wrong; nor is it our partner’s fault when things don’t peter out the way we want it to. At the end of the day, we have to remember that it takes two hands to clap and to ask ourselves what it is that *I* am doing right or wrong?

    Remember too, whenever things are tough, of the good times, the positive stuff and why it is we fell in love in the first place. Good always wins over the evil and yes, I do still believe that love can make the world go round, if only we stick with it.

  43. Joy on Feb 14, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    I like this quote the best… it is really true… most of us get in to a relationship for all the wrong reasons. They think life is like some Hollywood fantasy and they go chasing after this idealistic dream which in the end hurts us more than anything else when it does not fit our projections and expectations. And when get in to a relationship we tend to forget ourselves and our whole life revolves around that person, we do whatever that person wants, wishes, and sometimes we even allow ourselves to be use and abuse… all in the name of love. And we become dependent of this person like a puppet. I have seen this in so many of my friends… is it really love? Or is it because of our own insecurities and selfish reasons?

    Being true and comfortable with yourself, knowing who you are, where you stand and dealing with your own self first is far better because then when we do enter a relationship, we compliment the other instead of epecting, we give, instead of depending, we’re interdependent and it is a mutual, two way street kind of thing, where both can grow individually and together… especially if both partners were doing spirit Dharma practice together… it becomes a blessing to one another instead of an obstacle. A couple like this is a big inspiration…

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  45. Carmen Lin @ KMP on Sep 23, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts, with folded hands. What Rinpoche said is very truth and applicable to anyone of all walks of life. I will read it again and again when friends of mine had relationship problem or I myself having the problem, I can know where to find the solution and words of advice. Thank you again Rinpoche, for your efforts to enhance the lives of others.

  46. Louisa on Jan 14, 2014 at 8:08 pm

    I’m always learning and practising loving people around me unconditionally. Although I did not love my parents the way they expect, i still love them but they can never get enough. Just because I dont love them the way they want and they thought I dont love them. I really upset and dont know what more I can do.

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  • the pacifier
    (Thursday, Apr 24. 2014 08:38 PM)
    Indeed another round of deleting my points and my message and left the ones that are just nice for everyone to see and watch. Im not here to cause any troubles nor create any conflicts but somehow rather the admin of teh blog indeed seems to be unfair and treated the ones who wanted to post the blog with their truthful comments for which for which i myself personally saw and witness. How about ask rinpoche to post blogs about Jesus as a vegetarian and a so called monk in a christian website hence perhaps a blog..see what is their reaction? Again rinpoche do not and did not encounter Jesus personally or having an intimate relationship as the christian are and yet he can posted Bible verses which rinpoche felt those verses relate to11 buddhism? since when the bible relate to buddhism?
  • Pastor David Lai
    (Thursday, Apr 24. 2014 02:17 AM)
    Dear Dwayne Johnson, the pacifier and Vincent Tan,
    With all due respect to you guys, please respect Rinpoche’s blog and do not have unnecessary misunderstandings here. This comment section was setup to “share your opinions, thoughts and feelings about whatever interests you”. Please use it wisely to share your thoughts and opinions constructively and I would advice you guys to share your opinions about the posts that Rinpoche posted if you truly respect Rinpoche. If you obsessively post things on a particular religion or master, you are proselytising. If you post once in awhile to share something universal and moving, that’s alright. But to proselytize here, that’s not particularly respectful especially if its from a different faith from Rinpoche’s. Yes, Rinpoche do regular posts things on masters and practitioners from various faiths because he is broadminded and wishes to share the universality of spirituality. This should not be used as an excuse to proselytize on his blog. This is not hard and fast rules but mere etiquette of someone who respects one another’s faith and beliefs. Don’t you think? This is not meant to offend anyone but meant to clarify things.
  • Dwayne Johnson
    (Thursday, Apr 24. 2014 01:09 AM)
    to both Vincent and the pacifier, even you yourself are confuse of what you are posting. “if this blog side just share only buddhism..whats the point that guru shared about Jesus Christ, Mother Theresa, posted pictured of Dalai Lama with Blessed Pope John Paul II and so on and so forth..the 84000 of syakmuni’s teaching do not include points that rinpoche shared on other religious figures and yet he shared from his perspective point of views which he believes would drawn many people to visit his blog and to create interest so as to benefits others..besides..he shared too other teachings on nick vujicic, the no arms and no legs charismatic evangelical pastor, and other dharma center master cheng yen.”- by Vincent. yes, you wrote that correctly, Rinpoche shares about the all this and also the other religion in a manner that allow everyone here to understand about other religions, but Rinpoche articles is all about facts and informative articles that allow all of us understand more about the others, but did you ever see Rinpoche posted any prayers or even praises to other religious community blog? you can say i am biased, but ask yourself the real reason you keep on posting praises in a Buddhist blog, and yet what is the point what you want to convey?
    What ever point i am referring here is that is you as a guest visiting the house of a person, shouldn’t you be respecting owner of the house, lets say if the owner is a Buddhist, shouldn’t you in a respective manner as acknowledge the customs of the owner? We do not mind if you share about facts on the similarity that Christian and Catholic has with Buddhism, but really from you sharing it leans towards one side. This blog is not meant a platform to convert people to either side of the religion, but more of knowledge and understanding. I can say if you have been following Rinpoche blog and read all the articles here, you should have understand what Rinpoche is conveying.
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  • the pacifier
    (Wednesday, Apr 23. 2014 11:27 AM)
    people are sharing useful wisdom to each and everyone of you and hence I did saw Vincent posted a Tibetan chant translated in English in taking the calls of becoming protectors of other sentient beings. are all of you [...] doing that? instead of throwing tantrums, all of you trying to escape the truth and make ways for wrath and anger and mishandle the comments in an unfair manner. guru himself, as all of you said is generous and giving and that’s why he allows other articles to come and drop by to make his blog interesting as once Paul said, Buddhist is the only religion that embrace other religious beliefs?
  • Anonymous
    (Tuesday, Apr 22. 2014 08:55 PM)
    Vincent, Rinpoche shares about other religions and other religious figures to create religious harmony. He is open, generous and giving. You are ‘sharing’ to create religious disparity and trying to convert. There is a huge difference. Go share on a Muslim site and see the reaction.
  • Tim
    (Tuesday, Apr 22. 2014 08:52 PM)
    Dear Vincent, please respect all the Buddhists here. Your religion is not superior to any other religion. Create your own blog and preach there please. Thanks.
  • vincent tan
    (Tuesday, Apr 22. 2014 02:41 PM)
    Wisdom that Works
    by Berni Dymet
    Prov. 1:7 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction.
    I don’t think there’s one person on this planet that doesn’t want to have some more wisdom. I mean wisdom’s a good thing – right? So why aren’t we all a whole bunch wiser than we actually are?
    Answer: because wisdom involves sacrifice. The dictionary definition of wisdom is this: having experience, knowledge, and good judgment; and the soundness of an action or decision by applying this experience and knowledge, and good judgment.
    Boil that down and there are two parts to Wisdom. Knowing what to do – and then actually getting on and doing it.
    And therein lies the problem. We’re all happy to have a bit of a theory lesson – but when it gets to putting that wisdom into action – we discover that wisdom has a cost.
    According to King Solomon – the beginning of wisdom is the fear of the Lord. But then, many people don’t want to hear that. So here’s what happens – they keep on making the same mistakes, over and over and over again.
  • vincent tan
    (Tuesday, Apr 22. 2014 10:56 AM)
    Hi that your real name..i should say..well..its doesnt matter..sorrry to assume that you are a Christian..good to know that you are raised a buddhist and grown up as a must be worthwhile spiritual journey for you to go through.the theme called 1 sect 1 dharma center that emphasize on buddhist teachings ONLY i should say would defeat the purpose what rinpoche wanted to emphasize on his blog..this blog has been visited more than a million visitors and its open..its never restricted or block anyone to go in to share their views which includes the chatroom..all views and opinions are most welcome which the administration allows that and i believe rinpoche would love more opionionated views and other articles to be post here which everyone is free to share.if this blog side just share only buddhism..whats the point that guru shared about Jesus Christ, Mother Theresa, posted pictured of Dalai Lama with Blessed Pope John Paul II and so on and so forth..the 84000 of syakmuni’s teaching do not include points that rinpoche shared on other religious figures and yet he shared from his perspective point of views which he believes would drawn many people to visit his blog and to create interest so as to benefits others..besides..he shared too other teachings on nick vujicic, the no arms and no legs charismatic evangelical pastor, and other dharma center master cheng yen.eventhough he shared ghostly figures on ghouls and spirits-big foot and fairies etc.are these teachings based on ONLY buddhist teaching or just merely [...]?.so having said…did rinpoche of the blog basically shared only ONE and his OWN views and just purely based on the 84000 texts or just the lam rim texts? NO..he shared other world views to make his blog visitable and interesting..what do you think now..
  • Dwayne Johnson
    (Tuesday, Apr 22. 2014 12:27 AM)
    Dear Vincent, thank you for your lengthy explanation on your journey from Buddhist and becoming a Catholic, with all due respect we are all happy that you found a religion that you find comfort in and suitable to you. And for your information, i was never an Atheist or even or Christian, i was brought up as a Buddhist from young, well assuming the person of such and such without proper investigation and even understanding of the background is very much not necessary. For your info, i respect all religions, and even the person from other faith, because all religion main purpose is to bring about change and teaches about right moral conduct and bring about peace to all. But from the point of view of what this blog was created in the first place, it is to bring Dharma to all people, and even utmost importance is for those who are seeking spirituality in Buddhism, is to be FOCUS to one, and not be distracted from the others. It is due to this reason, many of those who Centre hopping, from one centre to another, does not find the answer they are looking for, why? it is Because they receive too many different advice and information which shrouded their mind, it cause more confusion, and that is why they could not even progressed in their practice, and then blame and getting angry at.
    Tsem Rinpoche always promote 1 Lama, 1 Centre, and encourage those seeking spirituality in Buddhism to focus on one and go all the way, yet not losing the value of respecting other religion, which is what we see in Tsem Rinpoche. So my point is, it is not being selfish to just learn ONLY one religion, because when one FCOUS ONLY on one religion and study all the way, it provide faster and more concrete results then being half heartedly learning Buddhism, and then confusing their mind with another. if you Look even in all the Great Attain Master, i believe that you do since you went to many centre before, all of this Great Master focus on their own Sect and their Yidam.
    Not everyone mind is the same that is why Buddha Shakyamuni has 84,000 teaching that is the remedies to all 84,000 mind. As a religious practitioner, i think we should respect other religion, understanding the vision and goal of the centre, before posting things which can create confusion. what if there are people posting prayers in tibetan or in Pali in a Christian blog, what would the visitor think? do you think they will be confused, and the community in that blog will feel that their space is being disrespected. The praises that you posted are beautiful, i believe you can benefit more people if you post in forum Lowyat and other religious community blog.
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  • vincent tan
    (Monday, Apr 21. 2014 09:57 PM)
    Continue from below, some even close themselves and left their previous paths because they are upset and no answer on their prayers..and they go on searching and searching until they found their own path of their choice in the name of one can control them as they cant accept the fact that they themselves protesting or angry on certain issues which made them close their heart, mind, soul and spirit to accept the fact all paths are meant to be peaceful, loving and caring..but some perceive in a wrong way and some even said that the scriptures or holy books regress instead of progressing without they themselves knowing or studying the books by their own..the translations went ugly more than benefit others..but who translated it? Humans? Or gurus? Or yourself? People tend to look at the ugly side of everything instead the positive and beautiful angles as we tend to be in this manner.we opt and tend to look at the dark side instead on the bright side..i dont mean to offend anyone but be more open instead of being selfish to ONLY learn one’s religion..
  • vincent tan
    (Monday, Apr 21. 2014 09:40 PM)
    Hi dwayne..hope you are doing fine and well.dont be disheartened.Your devotion to the triple jewel especially to guru amazed me..this blog absolutely its free for everyone to go in and to post their opinion and articles which definitely will benefit many so as to deepened understanding of one’s another religion.i believe that this very main aim of the blog is to create understanding of each other beliefs and religion and paths so as to reach harmony..all teachings and religion as well as paths coexist together and leads to the One True God. Besides, guru himself wrote articles about Jesus and embedded Mother Theresa’s pictures onto his blog..He has his motivation to religion nor any paths own by a single organisation or a community as we have our own free will to embrace and practice them..same to you..i believe before you are might be an antheist or Christian but you chose to believe in buddhism. Me a buddhist but chose to embrace catholicsm on my own free will and beliefs as well as encounters..all articles posted is to benefits all and no danger of that so as long as you are open..i am catholic by faith but i did join several at gompas as well as temples and moreover joined in in the spirit of goodwill to attend dharma classes, and quranic studies to deepened my understanding on each paths so as to enlightened myself to be more adaptable and respect others as human being and beings on the love each other as Christ commanded and taught.
  • vincent tan
    (Monday, Apr 21. 2014 03:24 PM)
    The Great Confirmer
    Revelation 3:14
    The word Amen solemnly confirms what went before, and Jesus is the great Confirmer; immutable forever is “the Amen” in all His promises . Sinner , I would comfort you with this reflection. Jesus Christ said, “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” 1 If you come to Him, He will say “Amen” in your soul; His promise shall be true to you . He said in the days of His flesh, “A bruised reed he will not break.” 2 Poor, broken, bruised heart, if you come to Him, He will say “Amen” to you, and it will be true in your soul as in hundreds of cases in years gone by.
    Christian , isn’t this very comforting to you also, that there is not a word that has come from the Savior’s lips that He has ever retracted? The words of Jesus will stand when heaven and earth pass away. If you get ahold of but half a promise, you will find it true. Watch out for those who ignore the promises and so miss much of the comfort of God’s Word.
    Jesus is Yes and Amen in all His offices . He was a Priest to pardon and cleanse once; He is Amen as Priest still. He was a King to rule and reign for His people and to defend them with His mighty arm; He is an Amen King, the same still. He was a Prophet of old, to foretell good things to come; His words remain trustworthy and true—He is an Amen Prophet. He is Amen as to the merit of His blood; He is Amen as to His righteousness. That sacred robe will remain most fair and glorious when nature shall decay. He is Amen in every single title that He bears; your Husband, never seeking a divorce; your Friend, sticking closer than a brother; your Shepherd, with you in death’s dark vale; your Help and your Deliverer; your Refuge and your Strong Tower; the Vessel of your strength, your confidence, your joy, your all in all, and your Yes and Amen in everything.
    1 Matthew 11:28 2 Matthew 12:20
    Family Bible reading plan
    verse 1 Ecclesiastes 6
    verse 2 2 Timothy 2
  • Oya
    (Monday, Apr 21. 2014 12:04 PM)
    For tsemtulku – i Offer my deepest regard and respect. i offer prostrations of body , speech and mind to my Gurus, Buddha , Dharma, and Sangha. In a world that changes on a dime, i offer up my preconceived ideas of what unconditional love really is and pray for insight into the four giving, that i will one day become enlightened and for the benefit of all my mothers throughout space and time. Thank you Rinpoche for what must be endless hours of caring for us all.
    Om Ah Hung, Om Ah Hung, Om Ah Hung
  • Dwayne Johnson
    (Monday, Apr 21. 2014 12:42 AM)
    why is the Admin of the blog not doing their job filtering the post in Rinpoche Blog??? are you all sleeping on your job, shouldn’t you be protecting the asset of the Guru?
    [no sender]
  • Dwayne Johnson
    (Monday, Apr 21. 2014 12:39 AM)
    For vincent tan – please respect this page, this page belongs to H.E Tsem Rinpoche, although we welcome and respect all religion, but please do not come here and post something that keep on emphasizing your religion, you are disrespecting the Owner of this page, and you are disrespecting other people in this blog as well. they are many other channels that you can share you post to, but here is mainly for all those who want to learn about Dharma. what if others go and post about their religion in your own community blog and keep sharing and annoys others??? Please RESPECT others if you want people to respect you as well, same goes to religion! thank you!
    [no sender]

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The Unknown

The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
So go pursue all the way with the unknown,
because all unknown with familiarity becomes the known.
~Tsem Rinpoche

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2 days ago
This is the opposite of self discovery or spiritual practice expected. What do you think this means? Very profound. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 days ago
This is excellent. The needs of the many are greater than the needs of the one is a good philosophy to live by. After a while our petty desires do go away when we apply the remedies. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 days ago
Excellent  statue of Lord Manjushri. TR
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"Some people spend all their energy, and even risk their lives to achieve fame. Fame and notoriety are both no more than an empty echo. Your reputation is an alluring mirage that can easily lead you astray. Discard it without a second thought, like the snort you blow from your nose."~Kyabje Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche
5 days ago
Over 22,000 views here on engaging in this practice that will purify and protect your environment from powerful spiritual disturbances:
5 days ago
Dakinis are Buddhas' wisdom in feminine form. Without respect of the feminine, there can be no enlightenment. Tsem Rinpoche 
5 days ago
Unusual & nice depiction of Manjushri. Tsem Rinpoche
5 days ago
“If you utilize obstacles properly, then it strengthens your courage, and it also gives you more intelligence, more wisdom. Because there is obstacle, you make attempt; so have to think, have to try something. Have to try certain way; so this gives strength and also wisdom and intelligence. If you use them in wrong way, then discourage, failure, depression.”~His Holiness The Dalai Lama
5 days ago
Very nice painting. Tsem Rinpoche 
5 days ago
We should treat animals very well. They have feelings just like us and do not deserve any sufferings just like us. They can be our best friends. Tsem Rinpoche
6 days ago
I wish more Buddhas are painted more realistically like this. Who did this? Tsem Rinpoche
6 days ago
There is a lama under the canopy at the temple entrance giving teachings and look at all the monks in the snow receiving teachings. When you want dharma bad enough, nothing can stop you. Tsem Rinpoche
6 days ago
I like this inviting scenery at the Nunnery of Tsogyal Latso area in Tibet. Beautiful small temple, holy stupa, trees, green, bright and look at the mountains surrounding. Not barren or dry. Perfect place to live, practice, age, retreat, meditation and pass away. Tsem Rinpoche
6 days ago
We have 13 Buddhist Pastors in Kechara. Four were newly ordained last night. After the ordination it rained for 15 minutes I am told while the sun continued to shine brightly in the area. One Pastor is in the USA right now so not pictured. Tsem Rinpoche
7 days ago
My Mumu boy is so alert, cute and intelligent. I can never get tired of loving him. Tsem Rinpoche 
1 week ago
I had commissioned this Thirteen Deity Yamantaka thangka. With Lord Tsongkapa above centre representing all lineage masters. Manjushri to the left and H.H. Kyabje Zong Rinpoche to the right. Sacred, beautiful and pure wisdom embodied in this thangka. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
This tastes really good!!! Easy to make. Some frozen items you have to heat up, take out of microwave, stir and put back in to continue cooking for a few mins more. This one you just put on for 5 mins and eat. But it tastes REALLY good and tastes home cooked too. Nice surprise. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
When can I find a location, house and environment like this? This is the kind of place I would like to spend the rest of my life in. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 weeks ago
Jill Yam and also Mr. Hee always conducts wonderful pujas for those who come to Kechara House and request. I am very happy about that. The pujas offer tremendous results and therefore benefits for many. Our puja requests are growing very much. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
Even animals can show great compassion and sense when another needs it. Be kind to animals and be vegetarian. Collect less negative karma by not eating meat. Be kind always. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
Portraits of People Living on a Dollar a Day- You absolutely must see the stunning photos and background. See here:
2 weeks ago
This mechanism was recovered from the Antikythera shipwreck in 1901. Its complexity and purpose was not understood for another hundred years. Dated to around 200 BC, it is identified to be an analog computer used to calculate the astronomical position of the stars and planets. Its juxtaposition among other ancient artifacts is akin to finding a jet airplane inside King Tutankhamun’s tomb. The device, whose inner workings are far more complex than a Swiss watch, is capable of accurately measuring the movement of the sun, the moon (and all its phases), eclipse cycles and the position of the planets. Who could have built this?~
2 weeks ago
Prince Palta is my maternal grandfather. Princess Nirjidma is my aunt. She has two sons. The sons are my cousins. Wonder if they are alive or not? Where are they? Any offsprings? Interesting to find out. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 weeks ago
Never be angry at your guru, Hold a grudge against your guru. Never seek revenge against your guru. Never talk badly about your guru to cover your mistakes. Don't abandon your guru or ignore  your guru because he loved you for you as no one else  did and dared to love your potential too. Never hold your anger for long against your guru. Your guru was only doing his 'job' by teaching you, showing you better, explaining the dharma to you and was very brave to do so for you as no one else would dare do so. No one would dare take that job. No one else dared to love you and give you more. ~Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
Nothing would make me MORE HAPPIER than to retire in this environment. I hope this manifest soon. By the karma of myself and the people I have hopes in will help it to manifest. I love this so much. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
A very important poem to understand:
3 weeks ago
Billy Meier took the best pics of UFOs. I watched a documentary about him with Seng Piow and we were both stunned how good the documentary is. It's alittle older but relevant. When you watch, you must please pay full attention as they have accents, but understandable. Listen closely to the technical information when his material goes through tests for authenticity:
3 weeks ago
Nobody should put beautiful grandma to sleep ever and nobody should put that lovely dog or any animals to sleep. No animals should be harmed, butchered or caged. We are humans and supposedly more intelligent. So let's act like it by being kind to those animals that are 'lesser' than us and our intelligence. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
This is exactly what Buddha taught. What Tsongkapa explained. What H.H. Trijang Rinpoche embodied and what H.H. Zong Rinpoche shared with me.~Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
NEW POST-And some partners just drag each other down anyways because it’s convenient to be with that person. It’s not love but just using each other. I’ve seen that clearly in a few cases. People can hide with their partners and avoid real efforts because they are in denial, but denial or not, it will catch up. I am deeply sorry to say things like that too. But it’s true..please read on:
3 weeks ago
Do you know about Raimundo Arruda Sobrinho? If you don't you should find out now!! It is totally necessary to find out and share with others:
3 weeks ago
It's fortunate for the student to meet a caring and real teacher in this day and age. It is also very fortunate for the teacher to meet a caring and genuine student. It benefits the dharma and many beings when a genuine teacher and genuine student meet and work together to benefit others. Very powerful and good combination.-See what I mean please:
3 weeks ago
The evil ways of some completely amaze me every single day.. They better take a deep breath when they close their eyes for the last time, because it's not going to be pretty. This is how this little sweetheart was dumped on the street.-From Harbored Souls Rescue (FB)
3 weeks ago
Dear friends, a special letter for Frederick but it might benefit everyone out there who are really seeking inner change and spirituality. I invite you to read as I just posted now:
3 weeks ago
Click on photo to enlarge and see what this six year old has to share with the world. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
My dad rescued her from an abandoned store front two years ago. They watch TV like this together! -Via Reddit (facebook)
3 weeks ago
My shrine here in the USA. Do you like it? Tsem Rinpoche 
3 weeks ago
Dear friends, as you know part of my ancestry is Mongolian (Kalmyk). The Kalmyk Republic is one of the republics in Russia. And Kalmyk Republic is the only European republic that is Buddhist and they are Mongols in ancestry. They are proud people. I found a video that is very good. It showcases all the dances of the various Russian Republics. Very beautiful and rich Russian heritage. At 27:59 of the video you will see the Kalymk performers doing the Mongol-Kalmyk dance. I use to dance in a Kalymk dance troupe as a kid, but I couldn't dance like this! I was amazed how beautiful it was done and talented the Kalmyk dancer are as well as the other republics. I want to share with you. Please see: -Thank you- Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
The Medicine Buddha is the composition of the buddhas. This means that when we practice the seven-limb prayer and make offerings with the seven limbs, we receive the same merit as we would if we had made offerings to all the Buddhas. Similarly, when we recite the mantra of Medicine Buddha, we collect unbelievable merit just as when we offer the seven-limb practice to Medicine Buddha. Be the cause for many to come to receive the healing of the Medicine Buddha and seal tremendous merits for yourself and your family in this life and the other lives to come.~Martin Get involved:
3 weeks ago
Dear friends, Came across this which is short and gives hope. Do see: Always trying my best to expose you to all types of knowledge, information and inspirations, Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
I love country roads. I wish this one lead to a secluded wooden retreat house where I lived away and far from the trappings of samsara and it's endless deceptions. Those who agree or participate in the deceptions will not only invite depression and disillusionment, but perhaps eventually be 'crippled' by it and trapped for long spells of 'time'. TR
3 weeks ago
What a nice comment by Antonio Rocco Romeo left on my facebook comments. I like people who have gratitude and show it. Not just say it but show it because they are the people who will get far and be less self-introverted creating less unhappiness in their minds. Happiness comes from having gratitude. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
March 29, 2014-Went to a Native American Indian store yesterday to find stones to make offerings to the Buddhas. Tsem Rinpoche 
3 weeks ago
In horror of death, I took to the mountains— Again and again I meditated on the uncertainty of the hour of death, Capturing the fortress of the deathless unending nature of mind. Now all fear of death is over and done. ~ MILAREPA
1 month ago
This is what my 1972 blue Volkswagon beetle looked like when I had it in the 80's.  This is the exact color too. I drove it all over Los Angeles. It didn't have alot of power but it got me around. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo: "However dark our minds may be, however hard our hearts may be, this is not our true nature... enlightenment is when we finally come into our true humanity." ... pic Korea Nov 2013 ( We must keep practicing and applying the dharma strongly to bring our real nature out. Don't let temporary emotions and dark feelings let us give up our dharma practice or works. Don't listen to people who have done very little for us or what they did for us heralds only more sufferings. Listen to the dharma. Tsem Rinpoche )
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    Dear everyone, All sentient beings deserve to live, be happy and not hurt, including animals. We should never hurt them or eat them. Look how much this chicken welcomes a hug and love. Observe carefully. Don't eat beings who can feel pain because the karma comes back. Tsem Rinpoche
    5 days ago
  • The appreciation shown here is so deep and touching.
    The appreciation shown here is so deep and touching.
    Dear friends, See this incredible video. This chimp was found in captivity for many years. Dr Jane Goodall released him into the wild. Look how he comes back to thank her with deep apprecition. It's amazing. Animals have such strong feelings of pain and happiness just like us. We should never hurt them and share with others to not hurt them. Tsem Rinpoche
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  • Aki drinking some water in the aviary
    Aki drinking some water in the aviary
    Aki is a rescued bird, he now lives in Kechara Forest Retreat Aviary
    2 months ago
  • Jamyang enjoying some fresh corn
    Jamyang enjoying some fresh corn
    Jamyang is one of our rescue birds that live in Kechara Forest Retreat Aviary
    2 months ago
  • The Cute Mumus Practising Dog Orchestra at Kechara Forest Retreat
    The Cute Mumus Practising Dog Orchestra at Kechara Forest Retreat
    Today the Mumus (dogs) decided to do a dog orchestra rehearsal together with the Kechara Forest Retreat (KFR) dogs.
    2 months ago
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    Incredible footage you must see!
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    Gongkar is our new bird for Kechara Forest Retreat's aviary. Gongkar never had friends and the original owner could not bring him to his destination. Now he is with us and assimilating in his cage within the aviary for a few weeks then released into aviary. Look at how much he wants attention from the other birds. Cute. Tsem Rinpoche
    6 months ago
  • Mumu, Oser and Dharma running and having a good time. I love seeing them playing. Tsem Rinpoche
    Mumu, Oser and Dharma running and having a good time. I love seeing them playing. Tsem Rinpoche
    6 months ago
  • Mumus running at Kechara Forest Retreat
    Mumus running at Kechara Forest Retreat
    7 months ago
  • Kechara Forest Retreat panorama, September 2013
    Kechara Forest Retreat panorama, September 2013
    7 months ago
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    Dechog our cockatoo at Kechara Forest Retreat grabbing long beans which he loves. Nice bird. We love him. Tsem Rinpoche
    10 months ago
  • The mumus having outdoor evening stroll!!!
    The mumus having outdoor evening stroll!!!
    11 months ago
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    17 May 2013, heavy rain at Kechara Forest Retreat from 7am-8am (1 hour). Water overflowed the existing drain and also opened up a much wider new "route" for itself.
    11 months ago
  • Must see video from Rajendra on our disciplined dogs
    Must see video from Rajendra on our disciplined dogs
    1 years ago
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    Dato' Ruby won the Bella Awards!
    1 years ago
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    This is a wonderful video for Moh Mei because she is sleeping in the KECHARA FOREST RETREAT CONTAINERS all alone...ehehehhehe...this is a new friend to keep her company....tsem rinpoche
    1 years ago
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    Answer to Jo
    1 years ago
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    The 2 tortoises in Tsem Ladrang, Kadro and Menlha are enjoying their fresh veggie meal.
    1 years ago
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    Organic vegetables at Kechara Forest Retreat
    1 years ago
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    This is Dorje our friendly fish that lives with us. He captured my attention the first time because he was exceptionally friendly. TR
    1 years ago
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    Mumus go bye bye!!!
    1 years ago
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    SP's mom said that she is from Penang. This is her first trip to bodhgaya, and she truly finds bodhgaya is very holy and spiritual.
    1 years ago
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    Very touching video...Buddha said it was very important to visit the four holy places associated with Him before our deaths. Remembering this, I had instructed Paul to take this senior group to Bodhgaya and make sure they are able to plant imprints. When this life of 'fun', money, parties and socials are over, we cannot leave empty handed. Tsem Rinpoche
    1 years ago
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    Our two rescued tortoises who live at Tsem Ladrang happily and will be transferred to Kechara Forest Retreat where they will have much more space to roam and run. Tsem Rinpoche
    1 years ago
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    Aki is the old African Grey that was abandoned by his owner. Because he is old, no one wanted him. Well we wanted him and we took him and in and love him. He is in a big aviary and he likes his cage. We leave his cage open at all times so he can go in and out as he likes. His cage is his security blanket. Cute. He gets nice food and sunshine daily and also we play monks chanting for him to be blessed. We love you Aki. Tsem Rinpoche
    1 years ago
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    Meal time for all the cute mumus!
    1 years ago
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    Dear james, very nice video of Kechara outlet and the activity led by Kien. You must always make more videos. Thank you. Tsem Rinpoche
    1 years ago
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    This little birdie was at a pet shop. He has maimed leg, permanent damage to his wing and cannot fly and also one eye blind. I don't think anyone would want the poor thing, so I adopted him and keep him safe, fed and with lots of fresh air. He's also in a large aviary so he can be with other birds and not be alone. He is alert, active, and has a good appetite. I like him very much and will make sure he is safe, happy and has a good life. I name him Lucky. Lucky will always be safe now. Tsem Rinpoche
    1 years ago
  • Setrap's mantra
    Setrap's mantra
    2 yearss ago
  • Rinpoche does Baby Jane!
    Rinpoche does Baby Jane!
    2 yearss ago


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~Living at home, the real reasons?~ Find yourself. Be with yourself. Fail and then achieve. There’s so much more out there. Find your inner freedom by making a change from the outside as a start. You can achieve. You can do it… why not… failure is only when you don’t try and go all the way… there’s really nothing to lose that you won’t lose anyway if you don’t do it! ~Tsem Rinpoche From: June Tang (Khjb)
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~You wanna be rich?~ Life is to live… living is dependent on everyone around you… so live for them, with them and together with them in integrity. Spread the message of true integrity, honesty and kindness… then you will be the richest person, alive and dead. Do work that is beneficial to others no matter what society says. Be special because you are, be different. Think different.~Tsem Rinpoche From: June Tang (Khjb)
2 hours ago
~Be low maintenance~ After five years in the Dharma, you should be a student who is ‘low maintenance’ or no maintenance which would mean you have transformed because you took the Dharma to heart…Very little ups and downs should disturb your practice after five years. Having ups and downs is fine, but it should not ever usurp your practice, faith and diligence because you know to accept it to be karma arising you have accrued and have to experience. Be a student that maintains others and not need further maintenance always otherwise you should transform yourself faster.~Tsem Rinpoche From: June Tang (Khjb)
2 hours ago
Don't invest in temporary happiness. ~Tsem Rinpoche From: June Tang (Khjb)
2 hours ago
The 11th Tsongkhapa Retreat at Kechara House (JB).Dedicate to passengers and crew of flight MH370.May they be blessed by the three Jewels. From: June Tang (Khjb)
2 hours ago
May you be well and recover soon! You're such a brave girl. Pastor Adeline
2 hours ago
The usual Green Tara is called the Drolma of Sandalwood Forest (Tibetan: tsenden ngachi drolma), who holds a lotus flower, sometimes with a wheel on it, usually blue lotus or utpala flower that is bluish. Her activity is to summon (call) and to give fearlessness. When Tara became enlightened she dedicated all her positive actions saying "Whoever is connected to me in any way, may they be able to have very swift progress, may they have swift benefit, may my swift actions effect them." 18" Partly gold copper Green Tara on throne. Indian style. Available at Kechara outlet Viva Home Mall. Pastor Adeline
3 hours ago
A Dzambala puja conducted in Puja House for our regular sponsor today morning. Pastor Yek Yee
5 hours ago
All the participants who are joining ritual class by invited. Most of them are devoted puja teams. Thank you for their hard works. Pastor Yek Yee
5 hours ago
First ritual class specially for who interest in puja and ritual training. The topic of first day is "What is pujas about?" and also watched Tsem Rinpoche's video teaching "Discover Yourself". Pastor Yek Yee
5 hours ago
Mr Paan Yee Long who admitted in hospital last year December, doctor prescribed he has only 20% percent recover. However after few pujas done in Puja House and care by Kechara pastor, Mr Paan was recovered and even volunteering in Kechara now. Rejoice for him. Pastor Yek Yee
6 hours ago
Speak the word with integrity. PHan Nee
6 hours ago
After conducted baby blessing prayer for Jamyang Tan baby, took a group picture with his mother Jaonna Tan, father Mr Tan and grandma Mrs Tan.Pastor Yek Yee
6 hours ago
Leonard Chia from Kuantan Study Group come down from Kuantan volunteer in Puja House. He with his first torma! Pastor Yek Yee
7 hours ago
Stunning 2 feet Vajrayogini now available for invite at Kechara House souvenir shop. Lucy Yap
9 hours ago


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