Some thoughts on love relationships

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Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to  destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships,  being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion,  genuine care, sharing and honesty. Tsem Rinpoche

 

In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your  relationship will grow stronger and better with time. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.  Tsem Rinpoche

 

It takes a years to earn the trust of your spouse, but one selfish mistake to break their heart. Then years to regain their trust again. Just be honest from the beginning and always be loyal. Tsem Rinpoche

 

There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Everyone has so much pain already. No one is not damaged goods. So why bring more pain to your partner. Love, cherish and respect your partner by being honest and always communicating. Tsem Rinpoche

 

I am sorry is ok once, twice but not three times. If you are always apologizing, maybe you are not respecting the relationship you are in. Either respect your relationship or create a prison. It’s up to you. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is intentional. So are affairs out of marriage. You choose what you want. But remember, whatever you choose will come back to you if you are choosing for selfish reasons. Tsem Rinpoche

 

No one forced you to have a relationship. So do not make excuses for hurting your partner. Take responsibility for all your actions starting with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues. Tsem Rinpoche

 

All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it…Tsem Rinpoche

 

When we look back and see how many partners we have changed, we can be sure it is a sign we have not fulfilled what we should be doing in life. Finding partners is just a delay tactic perhaps for what we should really be doing..Tsem Rinpoche

 

Partners and spouses are only ok to have when we are ok. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to hurt yourself and your partner is when you use them to hide  behind your selfish avoidances. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche

 

If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness. Tsem Rinpoche

 

You deserve what you give. The universe owes you nothing. But you owe the universe everything. Be comfortable with that thought first and then seek friends. Tsem Rinpoche

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  1. Louisa on Jan 14, 2014 at 8:08 pm

    I’m always learning and practising loving people around me unconditionally. Although I did not love my parents the way they expect, i still love them but they can never get enough. Just because I dont love them the way they want and they thought I dont love them. I really upset and dont know what more I can do.

  2. Carmen Lin @ KMP on Sep 23, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts, with folded hands. What Rinpoche said is very truth and applicable to anyone of all walks of life. I will read it again and again when friends of mine had relationship problem or I myself having the problem, I can know where to find the solution and words of advice. Thank you again Rinpoche, for your efforts to enhance the lives of others.

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  4. Joy on Feb 14, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    I like this quote the best… it is really true… most of us get in to a relationship for all the wrong reasons. They think life is like some Hollywood fantasy and they go chasing after this idealistic dream which in the end hurts us more than anything else when it does not fit our projections and expectations. And when get in to a relationship we tend to forget ourselves and our whole life revolves around that person, we do whatever that person wants, wishes, and sometimes we even allow ourselves to be use and abuse… all in the name of love. And we become dependent of this person like a puppet. I have seen this in so many of my friends… is it really love? Or is it because of our own insecurities and selfish reasons?

    Being true and comfortable with yourself, knowing who you are, where you stand and dealing with your own self first is far better because then when we do enter a relationship, we compliment the other instead of epecting, we give, instead of depending, we’re interdependent and it is a mutual, two way street kind of thing, where both can grow individually and together… especially if both partners were doing spirit Dharma practice together… it becomes a blessing to one another instead of an obstacle. A couple like this is a big inspiration… http://blog.tsemtulku.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/for-couples.html

  5. Paris on Feb 14, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    Rereading this again this Valentines’ day and thinking about how, at the heart of everything, is this real gritty honesty that we all need to look at, in every of our relationships. Once the razzle dazzle of moonlight, flowers and chocolates dies down, we are left ourselves to ourselves – then what?

    Then we start creating problems, either for ourselves, our parents, or both. The relationship itself doesn’t go wrong; nor is it our partner’s fault when things don’t peter out the way we want it to. At the end of the day, we have to remember that it takes two hands to clap and to ask ourselves what it is that *I* am doing right or wrong?

    Remember too, whenever things are tough, of the good times, the positive stuff and why it is we fell in love in the first place. Good always wins over the evil and yes, I do still believe that love can make the world go round, if only we stick with it.

  6. Paris on Feb 3, 2013 at 11:36 pm

    To add to this, Rinpoche gave a wonderful teaching on how to maintain a successful relationship at one of his students’ wedding a few years ago. I remember it being an especially beautiful teaching because the girl was Buddhist but the boy was Christian – and the advice given was just as relevant for both. Relive the teaching here! (it comes in three parts) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YO9yjD_j5HI

    David Lai has also written a book about relationships based on these teachings – a very cute way of presenting different thoughts on relationships, but with this same underlying message that Rinpoche gives us. Here! “Conversations in Love”: http://www.kechara.com/publications/publications/mind-body-spirit/conversations-in-love/

  7. Jessica Yap on Dec 7, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    Everything begins with me, myself, and I. How i feel, how i react to situations, how i treat others, everything is from me. These quotes should be read every now and then to contemplate on..

    Thank you for the profound quotes, Rinpoche!

  8. mitra on Jun 13, 2012 at 10:53 am

    good advice for every one.

  9. Wan Wai Meng on Mar 23, 2012 at 11:36 am

    These are really thought provoking thoughts about relationships. Thank you sharing them, such quotes will really help people think about what they are doing.

  10. su_zan on Mar 6, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Dear Rinpche thank you for all the above quotes. It reminds me of the talk you give during my wedding day.

    For me the above quotes not only apply on a couple relationship, it applies to all kinds of relationships (friends, teachers, family, children and etc)

    One of which is
    “Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche”

  11. Melinda yap on Mar 1, 2012 at 7:14 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for your thoughts and advice on love and relationships. It is so so true what Rinpoche has shared. After reading, I looked back and pondered about my past relationships… It is true in order for a relationship to be in harmony,both parties should be honest plus have respect for each other from the beginning of the relationship. This will in time gives security and stability to the relationship…I love all the above thoughts by Rinpoche on love & relationships…I’ll save it so I could remind myself what love and relationship is all about! ;-)

  12. Albert Ratchaga on Feb 29, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for the quotes, some times we can be very possessive when we love someone, either to our partner or family, we tend to be very controlling, and the reason of being like this is just because “I LOVE YOU”.

    just a simple word I Love You, it became a manifestation of our selfishness, instead of accepting the person we love, we tend to turn them into our ideally person to be. we expect everything from them but giving nothing from ourselves… so are we really loving them or we actually loves ourselves more? Is love a taking or giving?

  13. Julia Tan on Feb 29, 2012 at 3:05 am

    “All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it”

    Something as simple as saying NO and we can avoid hurting ourselves and our partners. We didn’t do it. We let it be.

    If you truly love your partners, do something about it, before it is too late..

  14. Uncle Lai on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:56 pm

    Thank you once again Rinpoche for all the wonderful quotes on love and relationships. You are the most caring person, always look into us and find ways to explain and teach how to live a happier life.

    Of all the quotes I like this the most. ‘In all relationships honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time.’ I fully agree with that because if we are honest we will not cheat, we dont lie, we trust and we are humble. I think this is so because it comes from inside us,

  15. patsy on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:55 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for sharing these useful quotes which we can use not only in relationships but with every one whether its friends relationship or love relationship. When we care for others and treat them well with respect, we will get the results of being treated well by others too.

    I like this one, “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.”

  16. Li Kheng on Feb 25, 2012 at 3:29 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for this insightful post on relationships. We spend so much time chasing after prince/princess charming whom we believe will make our world a better place. We often forget to consider using ourselves to make someone else’s world a better place. Thank you Rinpoche for this reminder. I especially like this quote:

    “There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche”

  17. Amala Sheilagh Mercer on Feb 25, 2012 at 2:54 pm

    Thank you , this is something , Dear Tsem Rinpoche, I will print put and read often ,I may also share it often to anyone open to reading it. And a copy in my washsroom, never know who reads the only reading matterial available to them there, I truly, realize and not all that long ago, that, there is an emotional love and then there is unconditional love,. That is a start , I believe, even though, this only scratches the surface, because of an out of body experience, it was difficult to fathom that much love . Yet changed my life. Now this here to read and remind me. .
    Love and Blessings
    Amala Sheilagh

  18. vc on Feb 25, 2012 at 1:03 pm

    Dear All,
    All of your opinions about relationship maybe right or wrong.But all you haven’t got there yet.To get out of six defiling objects from your mind.All of you are subjected to six dusts defiling senses which all of you are attracted to such as beauty,intelligent,smell,senses.Be honest to yourself and speak the truth.Don’t go and claim yourself you are the GOD and not attracted to anything and swear and curse others when you are now wearing the ‘Human Body’. If you think don’t like this world you can always calm your mind and return to the source,the Origin and achieve perfect enlightenment like the Buddha.If you think you like what you are doing,just go with the flow and don’t complain.

  19. Li Kim on Feb 25, 2012 at 5:23 am

    These quotes are true and real. Not the usual mambo jumbo you get in books and cards. Many of the quotes from Rinpoche brought back the sweet and fond memories of relationships for me. I am not bitter la but can say that I have become slightly disenchanted. I think that I will just enjoy the quotes and not think too much into relationships.

    “When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues.” – this applies to many I must say…

  20. Datuk May on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:54 pm

    The quote I like best is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty”. I totally agree with this and in my own view love is not confined to couples and family only but rather it is universal and to be practised unconditionally.

    Love is tough to give as it challenges our selfishness, ego etc etc that concocts most negative emotions in most people. Being as delusional as we are, we think we are in bliss when there is love.

    I totally disagree that Rinpoche is not an expert in relationships and love, if the above quote is what attracts me then it is true for me that Rinpoche is the only one person I know that truly gives love to every sentient being.

    Now that is tough to practise.

  21. Jean Ai on Feb 24, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    After reading this, putting it alongside the video Rinpoche sent to us (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLH6-P6rIv8), I gotta add to this post – never choose someone on the basis of their looks! It all fades with age, no matter how rich, poor, fat or skinny you are! And death comes to everyone, so how do you want to live your relationship? With anger, disharmony and bitterness, or do you want your relationship to be the cause of something bigger and better? Rinpoche always says some relationships drag people down, and others lead to better things…if yours is the former, time to stop being selfish and let go, both for your benefit and for your partner’s!

  22. vc on Feb 24, 2012 at 1:29 pm

    Rinpoche is very lucky to have get out of samsara and not involve in opposite sex relationships.Everyone should think they are indeed lucky and have the privilege to left the home life and seek the Way.We can only see what is worldly and not transcendental.This life is not just about humanity but transcendental to the ultimate reality.Nirvana.

  23. Wee Liang on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:43 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you so much for the dharma talk last night. Also thank you very much for all the quotes on love and relationships. Its very enlightening, makes me reflect. My favourite quote is ‘The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships, being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you.’ This one is harddddddd.

    Wee Liang

  24. Any Loke on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:53 pm

    Wow, is so true about what Rinpoche wrote. But, human is really selfish, sometimes, we never think that the problem of the relationship is actually created by oursleves. After all the teachings and Puja that I have done it really helped so much in all aspects.

  25. bengkooi on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:46 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these thought provoking quotes. My favourite is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty.”

    To share with those who have not had the fortune to hear one of Rinpoche’s talks about relationships… As Rinpoche has said many times, a dharma relationship is different from a secular relationship because we are not in it just for ourselves. When we enter a dharma relationship, we must be determined to make it last. We must be determined to make it work regardless of whatever problems come along. We cannot just try things out because we may hurt the other person and that is a big no no.

    Its good to be aware of these things, because there are people who jump into relationships or even dharma relationships unaware of what it really entails and the commitment that we must put in.

    Bottom line – dont hurt others.
    Bottom bottom line: be a monk/nun!

  26. Khoo HH on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:13 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for the sharing on love relationships.
    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness”
    How can we hurt a person if we truly love that person, and we know that the person also love us. I think “Selfishness” is the only explaination on this. A lot of time we are treating our partner good because we wanted to feel good, not because we want our partner to feel good. I have heard of this situation a lot of times from people around me. A guy wanted to bring his girlfriend for a nice dinner because he wanted to make his girlfriend happy. But he got angry with his girlfriend when she took a long time to makeup. Suppose to be a romantic dinner, ended up with a quarrel in the house. I will always think, what is the objective of this dinner? To not miss the reserved table, or to make your partner happy? Perhaps he thought that his effort of booking the table is greater than his partner. I think if a couple truly love each other, even a roadside stall will be a romantic dinner.

  27. SEreNa on Feb 23, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    Thanks for Rinpoche sharing on some thoughts for love and relationships.

    We must always remember to share and communicate with our love partner for every challenges we face in life. You have make your choice to spend the rest of your life with the loved one. SO, Be responsible and respect to the loved one. Don’t be selfish as pain will arise to the loved one including youself.

  28. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:02 pm

    And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is….

  29. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:01 pm

    “And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is”

  30. Uncle Eddie on Feb 23, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    Is love all we need to make a successful and fulfilling life relationship? Obviously, not all love relationships are the “Life Partnership kind”. It is important to realise and recognise that, and be okay with that. We can learn so much from the experiences of past relationships, to change towards the better, to a more adaptable, improved and acceptable one for both partners. It is everyone’s goal to have the desire of finding a life partner who caters to one’s entire needs and satisfaction. We all want someone who looks good, always make us laugh, supports us, respect us and trusts us well. Before we can find that ‘someone’, we need to be that person – that includes accepting all faults and short comings of oneself and that of your life partner too. A healthy relationship, essentially, should have a good building up of respect, loyalty, trust and a good admiration for each other; more similar to a house solid basic foundation structure, where the more love and nurturance we put into it, is what makes it a happy home, and a successful and fulfilling life relationship in the years to come.

  31. Ash Ng on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    Dear Rinpoche, You have given us some wonderful insights on having relationships with others. I especially agree with the few advises below;

    1) When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first.

    2) Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt.

    I feel these 2 major points encompass all the others and when we are REALLY ready after dealing with our deep seeded insecurities, comfortable and accepting ourselves then only we take the next step. Appreciate Your enlightening insights and You care for us with others. Will put in effort working on these as the essence of Dharma is compassion towards others and not hurting or harming them would be the first priority. Thus, working on oneself first is the key to happiness. Tashi delek

  32. Yvonne Yap on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche! this is a reminder , remind the things we know, but we always forgot.Because you care.

  33. abby on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:15 pm

    Love and compassion is the greatest lesson in everyone’s life.
    Yes, Rinpoche may not be the expert, but yes, Rinpoche do care about everyone. And with this compassion, Rinpoche is the Love Guru :)

  34. tenzin llhamo on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:46 pm

    This is the one I like the most. Because of being dishonest, so many relationships are destroyed. How sad! But now that we understand, we must be better. Treat relationships with respect, humility and honesty.

    ‘In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time’

  35. Margaretlee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts and experiences you have encountered with the many stories you were told.

    I think responsibility, honesty, sincerity and intergrity apply to everything we do in our life, be it work or relationship.

    There is a saying that people only starts to know themselves when they are in a relationship, it is indeed true when we realise we always demand this and that from our partner and never gives back, a state of complete self absorption. relationship is about giving and not taking.

    I paticularly like this quote from Rinpoche : “When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche”

    Going to share this blog with many of my samsara friends…..

  36. yekyee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:10 pm

    Each of Rinpoche is very logic and make sense. When we choose a relationship, must always our partner with real care and patient. No one is perfect. How can we go along with each other, tolerance is another good deed we need practice. I believe very strongly on it. My aunty friend always with me, it is not easy for two different character person live, eat, play, work together, need so much efforts and patient. I agreed. Thankyou for Rinpoche sharing.

  37. shivani on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    I want to know a little about Karmic Connection.We meet people but they leave us yet we cannot earse them

  38. Jace Chong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:59 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing these very useful quotes.

    Relationship used to be something very hard for me to juggle in between love and selfishness. When I had quarrel with partner, I always not sure this is because I want him to be my way, or I want my partner to improve. And the definition of improvement is vary to different people.

    “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications. ”

    This is a very practical way. I should not focus on what I want, but what is best for our partner.

    Even Rinpoche didn’t go through all these, Rinpoche understand better than everyone else what should we practice in relationship. Salute to Rinpoche, as always!

  39. Han Siew Fong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    All the advices will sink into my mind. .. and have a better relationship with my partner

    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness.” Tsem Rinpoche

    i contemplated on the above and i do realize the meaning of the quote.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this wonderful post

  40. Nicholas on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:13 am

    Thanks for Rinpoche advice.

    Found that the teaching is not just for relationship but it is also applicable for anything we do in our life.

    It’s all about care. How much we want to do for others is how much we cares for others.
    We responsible for the relationship because no one can force us. We are the one choose to be and should go all the way. I like this! No point to regret on what we have not done to save the relationship because we can always be the one to take action first.

    It’s not about who love whom more than who suppose to take the first move, it’s how much you love, how much you appreciate and how far you want to go with your relationship.

    This is just applicable for everything in our life.

  41. kenny wong on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:10 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Again, thank you for you kind insights. We choose our partners ourselves and have to accept him/her for who she is. The good, the bad, the ugly and the whole. How we percieve and accept our patners is totally up to us, thus we control our own happiness in the relationship. But if we are not generous and cannot lose out in the relationship and must win all the time, we will definately be the one losing at the end…. being unhappy, unfulfilled and bitter.

    Your words of advice are so true and spot on Rinpoche.

  42. skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:37 am

    Dear Rinpoche, thank you very much for the good advises.

    “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the same expectation on yourself.”

    “Trying to put away, hiding, or avoiding relationship issues won’t make them go away. You need to talk over or be clear about it.”

    “Always bringing up and rehashing previous issues mean the issue doesn’t solve go away or it just mean you’re not letting go and keep holding on to it.”

    • skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:45 am

      Correction:
      “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the _different_ expectation on yourself.”

  43. Hui Keng on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:35 am

    LOVE is in the air. Read on baby…How lucky Rinpoche giving advice around the clock! Rinpoche’s love is genuinely unconditional hence it survives all tests and challenges. We are pretty much lucky to have Rinpoche. We have sowed good seeds for this to happen and we must utilise fully given this opportunity. Rinpoche immensely love all of us, even more deeply than what our parents can do.

  44. Irene on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:22 am

    But what about a situation in which one partner dominates the whole family, and always expects to be bowed and scraped to. He always complains about how nobody does anything right (like he wants), and threatens to leave if we don’t shape up. I often wonder how much of this is due to his family background. (He grew up in an abusive environment.)

    Don’t get me wrong–he can be charming and generous when he wants to be, but sometimes I think he does it in order to manipulate people. (When we do what he wants, he praises them or gives them little gifts, otherwise he criticizes and sulks.) If things get too quiet, then he’s good at manufacturing drama (like claiming to have a mortal illness), and he just loves to gossip. But he doesn’t think that HE is doing any of this, according to him he’s just humbly following what is right (as he was taught). And somehow he always ends up being the center of attention.

    I’m probably making him sound like a monster, but that’s not right. He can be loyal and compassionate (he loves animals, and gives to charity) and is obviously very hard working and a very good manager. He has the potential to make a positive impact on the world. But we’re in this lopsided relationship with him, in which he gets to set all the conditions, and anyone who can’t accept that can just leave. (He’s alienated a lot of people over the years, although he tells it a different way–who knows what the truth is.) Anyway, Rinpoche, I’m sure you know people like that. What to do…?

    • mrs cheung on Feb 23, 2012 at 8:12 pm

      dear rinpoche, i also know someone similar to what irene has written here in her reply, plus more. he also flirts with younger women but his sick and old wife could do nothing to stop him. facing such a monster, she could only soar and sob over her misfortune. uneducated, unemployed, unwanted, old and sick. she has no where to run to. what to do…?

  45. freon on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:06 am

    With folded hand, Thank you Guru

  46. tsemtulku on Feb 23, 2012 at 9:46 am

    Some thoughts on love and relationships..I am not the expert, but over the years I have to listen to alot of people and I came out with some of my own conclusions…

    • Sophia chung on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:19 am

      Dear Rinpoche,

      Thank you for your advice on relationship. It made me reflect on myself to improve tremendously..
      It was great pleasure to meet u in the gompa last nite. I feel very lucky to receive
      a dharma talk in person from you. Although shocking, It was priceless, the love and effort you put in for
      Your students. Thank you for taking the time to pay us the visit.

      Sophia

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  • NUTroll~~MADZIUSRI’needy
    Wednesday, May 4. 2016 02:48 PM
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, May 4. 2016 02:38 PM
    As student, it is our sincere unadulterated wish for the Guru to turn the wheel of dharma in this & future lives, for only He can infer profound Buddha’s teaching to us that suits our highly deluded mind. Without our Guru, who will guide us on our spiritual path? We should view our Guru as one with the Buddha. If we do so, how can we expect the living Buddha to succumb to our level and humor us with feel-good-factor? It is akin to asking the Buddha to discard the truth and endorse our deluded ways of live. If we are not convinced that our Guru is one with Buddha who is qualified and capable of expounding Buddha’s teaching to us, then we should examine our motive / motivations of being at the dharma centre and be close to the Guru.

    I pray for the good health of His Eminence the 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche to continue turn the wheel of dharma.

    Thank you very much, Rinpoche for the loving kindness and being here for us.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/shall-i-teach.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, May 4. 2016 01:13 PM
    The quotes are short but powerful. The quotes fuel us with permutation in setting our mind on the right spiritual direction. I am very appreciative of the following powerful words:

    “However difficult something might appear, it will become easier through persistence combined with enthusiasm and effort.” By Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen

    How true. Everything is difficult if that is all we are focusing on. But when we put in our mind and passion in trying to make things work or achieve the goals, over time with our consistent effort, we will be able to make it.

    Thank you very much, Rinpoche, for sharing these powerful quotes with us. I like them very much.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/quotes-that-should-not-be-ignored.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    Wednesday, May 4. 2016 10:49 AM
    It is very sad to see what the Tibetan youth has to say about their governance body, the CTA. It is true that the love for His Holiness will not change even though his methods is not acceptable. The methods do not override his kindness, compassion and his great deeds in benefiting so many. Like this person who is disappointed with the CTA, we the Dorje Shugden practitioners are also disappointed with the extend the CTA will go to use our sacred practice to draw attention away from their failure for the last 60 years.

    On the other hand, the Reuters has disappointed us again by giving us a misleading report that is biased and with a clear intention to put China down by drawing a negative picture of them. Instead of making peace between China and His Holiness, Reuters further fuel the already tense situation between the two thus making it even harder for a dialogue to take place, ignoring the needs of the Tibetans in China and their wish to see His Holiness home.

    What CTA and Reuters need to do is to really make friends with China in order for a meeting and discussion to be granted thereby giving His Holiness or CTA a chance to come to terms with China and work together for the benefits of both Tibetan-in-exile and those in China. This discussion and meeting is very necessary and has now become urgent as there’s not much time left before the rental of land use in India is due in 30 years. Failing which the Tibetans-in-exile will lose their identity and culture that His Holiness has been working hard to protect and preserve all these years.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/tibetan-refugee-youth-speaking-up.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    Wednesday, May 4. 2016 10:01 AM
    I have always enjoyed folklore and stories like this one because it opens my mind to things I have not thought of and at the same time give me an opportunity to understand a certain culture and belief. All these information help me to understand our world and people better. This is important.

    The world of the paranormal is vast and mystical. There are so much for us to learn and to understand each day. This report on the pukwudgie is an interesting one, with a combination of a creator Maushop, a wife Granny Squanit and also a group of jealous pukwudgies. The Maushop is believed to have created the land to house the tribe, his wife, and the jealous pukwudgies. Wonder if the pukwudgies existed before Maushop and whether the Maushop created the pukwudgies. It will be interesting to know why Maushop created the pukwudgies to attack him if that is the case too.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/the-eerie-legend-of-the-pudwudgie.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    Wednesday, May 4. 2016 09:46 AM
    We know we have the choice to make changes because nothing is permanent. No one is permanently angry at us or like us as a matter of fact as we all function from impermanent perceptions on everything. We are given a chance to change our perception to lift or drag ourselves every single moment. We can choose to apologise or to hide, we can choose to study and improve or choose to stay stagnant and complaint. Either way, we have a choice.

    We are making choices constantly from the moment we wake up to sleep – we have to decide what to eat, what to wear, what to do, who to meet, where to eat, shop, park, walk…and the list goes on. Our choices range from big to small, significant to insignificant etc. All these choices determine the results of our choices. So it is important that we make good choices that yield positive results.

    We might have made many wrong decisions in life based on our perceptions. Since the choice to make changes are there, we can always do something about it. We can choose to fail; by failing we are telling everyone that we are selfish and we care only for ourselves. When we choose to fail, we are making our loved ones worrying about us, constantly on the look out for us and making things difficult for them. If we truly love someone, we will choose to be successful, to be independent and happy. At the end of the day, we are in charged and we decide who we want to be, what we want for ourselves and people around us.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/why-are-excuses-impermanent.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    Wednesday, May 4. 2016 08:37 AM
    Parenthood is not an easy one for it will either uplift or destroy a child’s future. Many children, regardless of their background and family environment, are brought up with experiences that bring them suffering on many levels. Those who are lucky turned out to be a good leader, a spiritual master, a caring and loving individual who bring peace and harmony to the world. Those who are unlucky turned out to be bitter, depressed, destroyed and cause chaos in the world. Either way, those are the results of individual’s choice.

    His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche has been brought up with a lot of sufferings, his choice to run away from home later did not make things any easier for him either. He was not given the choice to pursue spirituality and was confused with the ever changing set of parents. All these are a lot to bear on for any individual. Anyone who has gone through what he had, which I wish no one has to, would be acceptable to be a disturbed and angry adult. Instead, Rinpoche has become a Spiritual Advisor of Malaysia’s largest Tibetan Buddhist organisation that bring countless benefits to the local and international people.

    Rinpoche has decided to use his experience for better purposes instead. Although in great pain, both physically and mentally, he chose to continue with life and to work towards his goal to benefit others. Rinpoche has never let his past experience stop him from advancing and from being successful. Rinpoche has shown us the positive results from negative causes, breaking our perception of how things should be according to his life story. Rinpoche has given us a clear and loud message that changes are instant, choices are in our hands. We choose to become who we are and things can be different from the point onwards in just a split second.

    Seldom do we come across a good example like that of Rinpoche’s, and if we are planning to be a parent or already are, we should first make the instant choice to be a loving and kind person so that we can be good examples for our child as parents are the basis for the formation of their child’s behaviour and personalities. There is a desperate need for peace and harmony-makers in our world and we rely pretty much on good parents for that to happen.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/me/its-an-instant-choice.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    Wednesday, May 4. 2016 07:44 AM
    It is true that there is a ban and this ban is on that suppress the Dorje Shugden practice that has a long history proven to be beneficial. This ban is not an act that goes according to the Buddhist teachings but one that ignores humanity, diversity, harmony, peace; freedom of speech, practice, choice etc. This ban started as an advice and still, it is said to be an advice, but the reactions and actions that follow are showing the clear sign of the existence of a ban.

    A ban happens when people are prohibited from something and punishment in the form of fine, jail, deportation etc. will follow when one insisted on not following it. In India where the Tibetans-in-exile is, the lay Dorje Shugden practitioners who insist on keeping their Dorje Shugden practice are also banned from employment and education opportunities, medical needs, travel document application etc. For the ordained, they are not allowed to travel, to raise funds, to see their teachers, so that the lineage that they carry will be eliminated.

    This ban is one that bring about serious consequences which will eliminate the Dorje Shugden lineage forever. We require everyone’s help in spreading the truth about this ban, the benefits of the Dorje Shugden practice so that the ban will be lifted, discrimination will end and humanity will once be practiced again.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/guest-contributors/united-colors-of-spirituality.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    Wednesday, May 4. 2016 07:05 AM
    Perception can be changed while the environment, the people, the society remain the same. The same person, same thing, same job etc. can be seen as good, neutral, bad all based on our perceptions. Perception is what caused us suffering and give rise to negative emotions. Although some perception brings about positive emotions, it is still not the truth that we are looking at. When truth strikes, our perception will be challenged, and we will most likely have negative emotions following that.

    The meaning of practising in the Buddhist sense is to clear the wrong perceptions by transforming the mind. The mind is very much deluded by perceptions that cause us to be narrow-minded, to have fear, anger, jealousy, greed, doubt, suspicion etc. By understanding what perception is and apply the method to change them, the mind will transform and expand.

    The transformation of the mind brings about true freedom – liberation from samsara, we all longed for. Samsara is suffering, no one wish to be stuck in such condition forever. While we find comfort in samsara, learning how our mind works and how harmful perception is to us, we will embark on spiritual practices and work towards ultimate happiness.

    Thanks to Vinnie we now have a good summary of what perception is. It is a very good reference for us who are serious about investing for real happiness.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/nothing-changes-everything-changes-book-review.html
  • Lin Mun
    Tuesday, May 3. 2016 10:20 PM
    Dear Sarah,

    Thanks for sharing this article. I agree that we in Malaysia are very fortunate as we have the freedom in religious practice. Unlike other countries like Tibet where the government discriminate and segregate Dorje Shugden practitioners in many ways.

    I pray every country, every leader would exercise fairness and freedom to the people and not propagating bias for their own selfish agenda.

    No one should put down another person’s practice. May everyone has religious freedom.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/guest-contributors/what-would-you-do-if-your-religion-was-criticised.html
  • NUTroll~~TR’thinking allowed
    Tuesday, May 3. 2016 08:41 AM
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  • wooishen
    Monday, May 2. 2016 08:06 PM
    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for posting this article… For all pets owner must be responsible ..
    Pets can’t speak.. we need more time to observe and more care with them..

    Then we will know what’s happening on them…

    If have time have meal with them together… we will know know more..

    Be a responsible pet lover…. give more time accompany them…

    All the best…

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/7-signs-your-dog-is-in-pain-and-trying-to-hide-it.html
  • Jason
    Monday, May 2. 2016 03:55 PM
    This article published in the right time for me. Many of my friends (non Kecharian )keep asking why I am so busy with my dharma work till not much time to socialize with them. I did keep myself alone and think why I should do dharma. Why I should follow instructions or task given by Guru(Tsem Rinpoche)?
    On 17 April 2016, Pastor Seng Piow talk really answer all the questions about this.He said Guru will give us a task which need us to handle it with the right attitude by applying dharma knowledge.Guru has higher attainment than us. He know the way to train us to become a better person and guide us to the enlighten path.
    The Fifty verses on Guru Devotion must be understand and practice by us. This will enable us to have strong and unshakable affirmative to our Guru. The most important of Guru’s teaching are selflessness and emptiness. These two elements will guide us to do more dharma to benefit others.
    Last but not least, I would like to thanks Rinpoche for your good and easy understanding teaching so everyone can understand it and practice it.I hope everyone (Kecharian or non Kecharian )will appreciate teachings from Guru. Guru is given us a guidelines but most important is ourself to change.

    With folded hands,
    Jason

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/shall-i-teach.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    Monday, May 2. 2016 08:53 AM
    It takes a lot of merits for us to meet with a qualified lama, one who is well learned and exhibits the dharma spontaneously; someone who sees through delusions and works directly with the nature of our mind, to bring out the goodness in us. He or she does not judge us for our delusions, but happily love and genuinely care for who we really are. Therefore, a qualified lama is one who will not let go of anyone regardless how he or she is being treated because they see the buddha nature in the subject they are working with.

    We are lucky, I am lucky, that we are so fortunate to have met with such a highly attained lama, who works 24 hours every day just to make sure someone is benefitted from the dharma, to be liberated from sufferings, to open up from their wrong perceptions, to transform for the better. His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche does exactly this and more! He really put his needs, his dream, his “comfort”, his wishes, etc. aside just to help someone, even if it is just for ONE person. He does that regardless, whether he or she is a student, a friend, a stranger, an “enemy”, animals, seen or unseen beings. To Rinpoche, everyone is equal and they all deserves happiness. Rinpoche does his best so that everyone has true freedom, freedom for self-deceptive illusions. A truly free person is one who is not bound by attachment, specifically inner attachment.

    Rinpoche does a lot of works behind the scene to help and to care for others quietly because he has no ego and self-interest. He can be seen doing prayers, getting a group of people to organise light offerings, to fly overseas to meet people; to teach, to cook, to share, to give, to help, to feed, etc. every single moment of his day for someone who is in a dire situation, in need or for a bigger picture we are too short sighted to see. There’s no one moment that he does what he did for himself. The priority is others always.

    Rinpoche seldom rest for that is a sign of the realisation of impermanence, emptiness, and death; a sign of one who truly functions from bodhicitta. He reminds us always how time is short and we should not waste our precious human life for meaningless samsara pleasures but to focus on mind transformation. He is a perfect example of what he preaches, a walking and living dharma so precious you can hardly find.

    In a time where materialism is a priority, people are brought up thinking that life is about everything we desire, dharma becomes foreign and difficult to digest. It is not because Rinpoche has said anything offensive, he merely shares the truth that has long forgotten the hurts because we are too egoistic to see how deluded we are. The discomfort of knowing the truth made them turn away from dharma, disparage Rinpoche, the Three Jewels, taking refuge in one’s own laziness and ignorance.

    A truthful, sincere and genuine lama does not like us to stay ignorant, for it is much easier for us to keep it that way and he does not need to think of creative ways to challenge our ignorance so life is wonderful for everyone. Rinpoche is truthful, sincere, genuine, kind, compassionate and full of wisdom, he wants us to enjoy what we deserve and be who we really are, so we are independent of our delusion and advanced without having to stick to the vicious cycle of suffering.

    Of course, Rinpoche should continue to teach, because he has everything it takes to teach. He is more than qualified, but the question though is: whether we deserve him; do we show with the actions of our body, speech and mind that we do. The ball is in our hands, we decide whether Rinpoche continues to teach and whether we have what it takes to support Rinpoche’s stay in this life with us.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/shall-i-teach.html
  • Yeo Kwai Gin
    Monday, May 2. 2016 03:44 AM
    Yeo Kwai Gin on May 2, 2016 at 3:41 am
    皈依上师
    皈依佛
    归依法
    皈依僧

    在佛教三大乘,小乘,大乘和金刚乘,藏传佛教属于金刚乘。在金刚乘里,如果弟子拥有足够的功德和业障足够的净化,还有最重要的是弟子与上师的三昧耶够清净,弟子的精进修持,那么在修行上得到上师的加持与指导,就容易证得更高的成就。上师在我们走向更高成就的修行道路上,是非常非常的重要!

    尊贵的上师詹杜固仁波切在短短的十多年内,从身无分文直到现在成立了克切拉佛教中心,拥有13个部门,每个部门都是仁波切的用心良苦的策划,让不同的嗜好与兴趣人都有机会参与佛法事业,藉此来累积功德。还有位于彭亨文冬的克切拉禅修林,有文殊山,智慧殿,度母走道,金刚瑜伽母佛塔,财王殿等等,没有一个不是为了利益众生而建筑起来的。上师每一分每一秒都在想着如何让弟子和众生脱离轮回,走向解脱之道!

    因为每个人都拥有不同的业力所牵引,拥有不同的果报要承受,仁波切用心良苦的运用不同的方法,不同的方式,以最快最直接的,让我们以最快的方式达到净化业障和累积功德效果。如身业很重的人,上师会要求他们大量的结缘佛像给他人方式,严厉责骂方式,要求做大量次数大礼拜方式等等。但是,很可悲的,很多人误解上师的用心良苦,离开了上师,还在外头宣扬上师的不是,那是多么的可悲呀!一位具格的上师,转世回来的上师,都是乘愿而来的,都是为了利益众生转世回来的。上师教导我们,给我们指示,就是要我们活的更好,应该要好好地珍惜 !

    愿上师长寿,健康,常转法轮,吉祥如意 !

    OM AH GURU KIRTI DAZA SHASEN DARA KYANDI SHIDDI HUNG HUNG

    感恩合十
    YEO KWAI GIN

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/shall-i-teach.html

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What Am I Writing Now


 

The Unknown

The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
So go pursue all the way with the unknown,
because all unknown with familiarity becomes the known.
~Tsem Rinpoche

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7 days ago
Would be so nice to live in an area where Bigfoot is prevalent and sighted. That would include mountains and lakes too.
7 days ago
Because of the ban against Dorje Shugden followers started in 1996, 700 monks had to cut from Sera Mey Monastery and start this new monastery. This new Serpom Monastery located in South India still suffers tremendous hatred and prejudice, but the brave monks continue their practice and lineage.
7 days ago
Vietnamese monk who self immolated hoping to bring change in his country. He sacrificed his life and sat still during the immense pain of his body burning.
1 week ago
Protector of the Sakya School of Buddhism, Gonpo Gur or Mahakala Panjarnata
1 week ago
Such a wondrous place to be with such a view that heals the soul. Why live in a city where it is unnatural and polluted. Everyday in the city is a day away from where we belong. We belong among the greens, forest, mountains and clean air. We belong in such a place and doing our retreats, sadhanas and mantras to find the ultimate place of belonging and peace....the ultimate place is within us with a developed spiritual mind. Hard to achieve among distractions in the city. 
1 week ago
This is the five foot Arya Avalokitesvara statue I have offered Gaden Shartse Monastery many years ago. It still graces the main prayer hall of Gaden Shartse Monastery.
1 week ago
Painting of 31st Sakya Trizin Kunga Lodro- Did you know that 7 of the great throneholders of the Sakya lineage of Tibetan Buddhism practiced Dorje Shugden and even composed extensive prayers to him? Take a look here and see what you can learn: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=98227
3 weeks ago
This is a good motto to work by within a team.
3 weeks ago
Beautiful painting of Pandit Naropa
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Beautiful painting of Lord Buddha's miraculous birth.
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Beautiful image of Tara.
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This is a good read. Evocative and memory filled: http://www.davidlai.me/2015/04/20/memory-of-the-vw-van/
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Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche and Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
It was nice to meet them.
3 weeks ago
Good friends came to visit me. I was happy to see them as they have brave hearts and pure samaya. Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
Lef to right: Cousin Tsagan, dad, Aunt Meda, mom, sister Lidshma, cousin Liz, Aunt Elena, friend from France and Susie in Green dress. People whom I am fond of from the distant past..
4 weeks ago
Some friends went on a spiritual pilgrimage to Nepal recently and when they returned they gifted me with these wonderful books on Yeti/Bigfoot which I don't have. Wow! I like to thank Ms. Yee Lee, Mr. Swee Keong, Ms. Phoebe Yong, Mr. CK Siah & Ms. Wei Theng for their generosity and indulging me in my bigfoot hobby. Tsem Rinpoche
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The famous 5th Panglung Oracle
1 month ago
Mysterious print of Pelden Hlamo the Goddess protector
1 month ago
This is a thangka of Cittamani Tara where her body mandala appears clearly. This image was circulated back in Thubten Dhargye Ling when HH Zong Rinpoche taught her sacred practice which was a pure vision of Thapu Dorje Chang. Thapu Dorje Chang received this practice in a pure vision. He was the guru of Pabongka Rinpoche.
1 month ago
Beautiful article on the Drigung Kagyu Achi Chokyi Drolma: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=94766
1 month ago
Tsem Rinpoche making offerings of robes to Lord Buddha in Bodhgaya
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What was once very beautiful destroyed by hatred, anger and prejudice.
1 month ago
What His Holiness Panchen Rinpoche composed about Dorje Shugden: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=87240
1 month ago
Comprehensive proof of Dorje Shugden in the Sakya school of Buddhism even before Gelugpa. Interesting: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=92860
2 months ago
When we see others who behave not according to our expectations and just to ‘get them back’ we throw all caution to the wind and we get angry, retaliate, fight back, scream, yell and then quit, it shows our mind. Everything is about our own mind. That is not to say they are not at fault. But if we want the world to act perfectly in our presence and then we don’t get angry, that is SO INCREDIBLE IDEALISTIC AND WE ARE DOOMED FROM THE START in anything we do. We have to keep our equilibrium always. Remember our vows, promises and our own state of mind. Be kind to ourselves and not let the other person throw us off because we have to be in control of our own minds. Remember, our mind and how it reacts is the key.--- H.E Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Ekai Kawaguchi -Three Years in Tibet-Read more: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=92725
2 months ago
Read about the Hawaiian Pele Goddess: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=92534
2 months ago
Good friends. March 2016
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Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche meeting with Kyabje Pabongka Rinpoche March-2016.
2 months ago
My dog Mumu is so cute always
2 months ago
His Holiness the 16th Karmapa's prophecy as written in Kyabje Dagom Rinpoche's writings: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=92317
2 months ago
This important text "Music Delighting the Ocean of Protectors" is a must have text composed by H.H. Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche. Download here free: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=87242
2 months ago
This is the beautiful statue of Dorje Shugden in Wong Yew Kien's altar. He had it done up very nicely at Kechara. If you look, due to the faith of Kien, Dorje Shugden statue looks alive and glowing...Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Stunning antique looking Vajra Yogini statue.
2 months ago
I like this fact about Buddhism very much. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
I love Nepal very much. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
A wonderful & simple post on Lama Govinda who was a great pioneer of Buddhism. A must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=90085
2 months ago
Dear friends, We have a wonderful new post out explaining each one of the holy lamas on our Kechara Forest Retreat shrine which houses the largest Dorje Shugden in the world. Do please learn up on each of the holy lamas and enjoy the pictures: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=88558 Do see this interesting new post on your computer for better viewing. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Blessed gifts from Geshe Kelsang Gyatso Rinpoche has arrived to Kechara. Thank you. Please see here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=85976
2 months ago
A 19th century Sakya thangka depicting the Five Emanations of Dorje Shugden. At the bottom left is the grandson of Kunga Lodro, the 33rd Sakya Throneholder Pema Dudul (1792–1853) . This form of an enthroned Dorje Shugden is similar to another thangka in Trode Khangsar
2 months ago
Dear Rinpoche We have another full house at KSK night rounds today. It's great to see so many wish to spend more time on helping others . I really hope we can share more of Rinpoche's potent kindness with more people so that they can spread the kindness far and wide- Love grace (March 5,2016)
2 months ago
So this is a general overview of Guhyasamaja. I’ve only hit on some of the high points of it. There’s a lot more in it. So when we think of Guhyasamaja practice, we shouldn’t just think in terms of some set of rituals. It’s important to realize that this is a vast system that, as I said, offers the template for what is going on in general in anuttarayoga tantra practice on the generation stage and complete stage. And it has extraordinary detail on the death, bardo, and rebirth process, how to work with it, how to recognize what’s going on. And then there’s the whole apparatus with we can actually derive the meaning of the tantra from the obscure type of language in which it was written. Read more - http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=87052
2 months ago
Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.-Ralph Waldo Emerson  
2 months ago
His Holiness 97th Gaden Tripa Kyabje Ling Rinpoche with His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche. Two sacred lamas of Je Tsongkapa's order. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
The reincarnation of His Eminence Dagom Rinpoche
2 months ago
This is very worrying news about the state of His Holiness the Dalai Lama's health. I very much hope he recovers quickly. I very much hope he lives very long. Tsem Rinpoche See: http://www.tbo.com/ap/dalai-lama-assures-faithful-hes-in-good-health-20160221/
2 months ago
Dear friends, Our hardworking team for the last four days have put so much energy, research and compilation for this latest blog post which will be a tremendous benefit. I highly recommend you take some quiet time out and read each of the descriptions with each picture and leave a comment for our team. It is very good to know how many great masters have shared our practice. I am very happy to have this information out after much research by our team. I thank my team who did everything to bring this knowledge to the world. They really did a good job and worked very hard which shows their dedication towards the preservation of our holy lineage. My humble thanks to my team. See here please: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=88907 Sincerely, Tsem Rinpoche
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