Some thoughts on love relationships

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Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to  destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships,  being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion,  genuine care, sharing and honesty. Tsem Rinpoche

 

In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your  relationship will grow stronger and better with time. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.  Tsem Rinpoche

 

It takes a years to earn the trust of your spouse, but one selfish mistake to break their heart. Then years to regain their trust again. Just be honest from the beginning and always be loyal. Tsem Rinpoche

 

There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Everyone has so much pain already. No one is not damaged goods. So why bring more pain to your partner. Love, cherish and respect your partner by being honest and always communicating. Tsem Rinpoche

 

I am sorry is ok once, twice but not three times. If you are always apologizing, maybe you are not respecting the relationship you are in. Either respect your relationship or create a prison. It’s up to you. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is intentional. So are affairs out of marriage. You choose what you want. But remember, whatever you choose will come back to you if you are choosing for selfish reasons. Tsem Rinpoche

 

No one forced you to have a relationship. So do not make excuses for hurting your partner. Take responsibility for all your actions starting with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues. Tsem Rinpoche

 

All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it…Tsem Rinpoche

 

When we look back and see how many partners we have changed, we can be sure it is a sign we have not fulfilled what we should be doing in life. Finding partners is just a delay tactic perhaps for what we should really be doing..Tsem Rinpoche

 

Partners and spouses are only ok to have when we are ok. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to hurt yourself and your partner is when you use them to hide  behind your selfish avoidances. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche

 

If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness. Tsem Rinpoche

 

You deserve what you give. The universe owes you nothing. But you owe the universe everything. Be comfortable with that thought first and then seek friends. Tsem Rinpoche

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  1. Louisa on Jan 14, 2014 at 8:08 pm

    I’m always learning and practising loving people around me unconditionally. Although I did not love my parents the way they expect, i still love them but they can never get enough. Just because I dont love them the way they want and they thought I dont love them. I really upset and dont know what more I can do.

  2. Carmen Lin @ KMP on Sep 23, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts, with folded hands. What Rinpoche said is very truth and applicable to anyone of all walks of life. I will read it again and again when friends of mine had relationship problem or I myself having the problem, I can know where to find the solution and words of advice. Thank you again Rinpoche, for your efforts to enhance the lives of others.

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  4. Joy on Feb 14, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    I like this quote the best… it is really true… most of us get in to a relationship for all the wrong reasons. They think life is like some Hollywood fantasy and they go chasing after this idealistic dream which in the end hurts us more than anything else when it does not fit our projections and expectations. And when get in to a relationship we tend to forget ourselves and our whole life revolves around that person, we do whatever that person wants, wishes, and sometimes we even allow ourselves to be use and abuse… all in the name of love. And we become dependent of this person like a puppet. I have seen this in so many of my friends… is it really love? Or is it because of our own insecurities and selfish reasons?

    Being true and comfortable with yourself, knowing who you are, where you stand and dealing with your own self first is far better because then when we do enter a relationship, we compliment the other instead of epecting, we give, instead of depending, we’re interdependent and it is a mutual, two way street kind of thing, where both can grow individually and together… especially if both partners were doing spirit Dharma practice together… it becomes a blessing to one another instead of an obstacle. A couple like this is a big inspiration… http://blog.tsemtulku.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/for-couples.html

  5. Paris on Feb 14, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    Rereading this again this Valentines’ day and thinking about how, at the heart of everything, is this real gritty honesty that we all need to look at, in every of our relationships. Once the razzle dazzle of moonlight, flowers and chocolates dies down, we are left ourselves to ourselves – then what?

    Then we start creating problems, either for ourselves, our parents, or both. The relationship itself doesn’t go wrong; nor is it our partner’s fault when things don’t peter out the way we want it to. At the end of the day, we have to remember that it takes two hands to clap and to ask ourselves what it is that *I* am doing right or wrong?

    Remember too, whenever things are tough, of the good times, the positive stuff and why it is we fell in love in the first place. Good always wins over the evil and yes, I do still believe that love can make the world go round, if only we stick with it.

  6. Paris on Feb 3, 2013 at 11:36 pm

    To add to this, Rinpoche gave a wonderful teaching on how to maintain a successful relationship at one of his students’ wedding a few years ago. I remember it being an especially beautiful teaching because the girl was Buddhist but the boy was Christian – and the advice given was just as relevant for both. Relive the teaching here! (it comes in three parts) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YO9yjD_j5HI

    David Lai has also written a book about relationships based on these teachings – a very cute way of presenting different thoughts on relationships, but with this same underlying message that Rinpoche gives us. Here! “Conversations in Love”: http://www.kechara.com/publications/publications/mind-body-spirit/conversations-in-love/

  7. Jessica Yap on Dec 7, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    Everything begins with me, myself, and I. How i feel, how i react to situations, how i treat others, everything is from me. These quotes should be read every now and then to contemplate on..

    Thank you for the profound quotes, Rinpoche!

  8. mitra on Jun 13, 2012 at 10:53 am

    good advice for every one.

  9. Wan Wai Meng on Mar 23, 2012 at 11:36 am

    These are really thought provoking thoughts about relationships. Thank you sharing them, such quotes will really help people think about what they are doing.

  10. su_zan on Mar 6, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Dear Rinpche thank you for all the above quotes. It reminds me of the talk you give during my wedding day.

    For me the above quotes not only apply on a couple relationship, it applies to all kinds of relationships (friends, teachers, family, children and etc)

    One of which is
    “Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche”

  11. Melinda yap on Mar 1, 2012 at 7:14 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for your thoughts and advice on love and relationships. It is so so true what Rinpoche has shared. After reading, I looked back and pondered about my past relationships… It is true in order for a relationship to be in harmony,both parties should be honest plus have respect for each other from the beginning of the relationship. This will in time gives security and stability to the relationship…I love all the above thoughts by Rinpoche on love & relationships…I’ll save it so I could remind myself what love and relationship is all about! 😉

  12. Albert Ratchaga on Feb 29, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for the quotes, some times we can be very possessive when we love someone, either to our partner or family, we tend to be very controlling, and the reason of being like this is just because “I LOVE YOU”.

    just a simple word I Love You, it became a manifestation of our selfishness, instead of accepting the person we love, we tend to turn them into our ideally person to be. we expect everything from them but giving nothing from ourselves… so are we really loving them or we actually loves ourselves more? Is love a taking or giving?

  13. Julia Tan on Feb 29, 2012 at 3:05 am

    “All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it”

    Something as simple as saying NO and we can avoid hurting ourselves and our partners. We didn’t do it. We let it be.

    If you truly love your partners, do something about it, before it is too late..

  14. Uncle Lai on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:56 pm

    Thank you once again Rinpoche for all the wonderful quotes on love and relationships. You are the most caring person, always look into us and find ways to explain and teach how to live a happier life.

    Of all the quotes I like this the most. ‘In all relationships honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time.’ I fully agree with that because if we are honest we will not cheat, we dont lie, we trust and we are humble. I think this is so because it comes from inside us,

  15. patsy on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:55 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for sharing these useful quotes which we can use not only in relationships but with every one whether its friends relationship or love relationship. When we care for others and treat them well with respect, we will get the results of being treated well by others too.

    I like this one, “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.”

  16. Li Kheng on Feb 25, 2012 at 3:29 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for this insightful post on relationships. We spend so much time chasing after prince/princess charming whom we believe will make our world a better place. We often forget to consider using ourselves to make someone else’s world a better place. Thank you Rinpoche for this reminder. I especially like this quote:

    “There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche”

  17. Amala Sheilagh Mercer on Feb 25, 2012 at 2:54 pm

    Thank you , this is something , Dear Tsem Rinpoche, I will print put and read often ,I may also share it often to anyone open to reading it. And a copy in my washsroom, never know who reads the only reading matterial available to them there, I truly, realize and not all that long ago, that, there is an emotional love and then there is unconditional love,. That is a start , I believe, even though, this only scratches the surface, because of an out of body experience, it was difficult to fathom that much love . Yet changed my life. Now this here to read and remind me. .
    Love and Blessings
    Amala Sheilagh

  18. vc on Feb 25, 2012 at 1:03 pm

    Dear All,
    All of your opinions about relationship maybe right or wrong.But all you haven’t got there yet.To get out of six defiling objects from your mind.All of you are subjected to six dusts defiling senses which all of you are attracted to such as beauty,intelligent,smell,senses.Be honest to yourself and speak the truth.Don’t go and claim yourself you are the GOD and not attracted to anything and swear and curse others when you are now wearing the ‘Human Body’. If you think don’t like this world you can always calm your mind and return to the source,the Origin and achieve perfect enlightenment like the Buddha.If you think you like what you are doing,just go with the flow and don’t complain.

  19. Li Kim on Feb 25, 2012 at 5:23 am

    These quotes are true and real. Not the usual mambo jumbo you get in books and cards. Many of the quotes from Rinpoche brought back the sweet and fond memories of relationships for me. I am not bitter la but can say that I have become slightly disenchanted. I think that I will just enjoy the quotes and not think too much into relationships.

    “When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues.” – this applies to many I must say…

  20. Datuk May on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:54 pm

    The quote I like best is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty”. I totally agree with this and in my own view love is not confined to couples and family only but rather it is universal and to be practised unconditionally.

    Love is tough to give as it challenges our selfishness, ego etc etc that concocts most negative emotions in most people. Being as delusional as we are, we think we are in bliss when there is love.

    I totally disagree that Rinpoche is not an expert in relationships and love, if the above quote is what attracts me then it is true for me that Rinpoche is the only one person I know that truly gives love to every sentient being.

    Now that is tough to practise.

  21. Jean Ai on Feb 24, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    After reading this, putting it alongside the video Rinpoche sent to us (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLH6-P6rIv8), I gotta add to this post – never choose someone on the basis of their looks! It all fades with age, no matter how rich, poor, fat or skinny you are! And death comes to everyone, so how do you want to live your relationship? With anger, disharmony and bitterness, or do you want your relationship to be the cause of something bigger and better? Rinpoche always says some relationships drag people down, and others lead to better things…if yours is the former, time to stop being selfish and let go, both for your benefit and for your partner’s!

  22. vc on Feb 24, 2012 at 1:29 pm

    Rinpoche is very lucky to have get out of samsara and not involve in opposite sex relationships.Everyone should think they are indeed lucky and have the privilege to left the home life and seek the Way.We can only see what is worldly and not transcendental.This life is not just about humanity but transcendental to the ultimate reality.Nirvana.

  23. Wee Liang on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:43 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you so much for the dharma talk last night. Also thank you very much for all the quotes on love and relationships. Its very enlightening, makes me reflect. My favourite quote is ‘The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships, being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you.’ This one is harddddddd.

    Wee Liang

  24. Any Loke on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:53 pm

    Wow, is so true about what Rinpoche wrote. But, human is really selfish, sometimes, we never think that the problem of the relationship is actually created by oursleves. After all the teachings and Puja that I have done it really helped so much in all aspects.

  25. bengkooi on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:46 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these thought provoking quotes. My favourite is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty.”

    To share with those who have not had the fortune to hear one of Rinpoche’s talks about relationships… As Rinpoche has said many times, a dharma relationship is different from a secular relationship because we are not in it just for ourselves. When we enter a dharma relationship, we must be determined to make it last. We must be determined to make it work regardless of whatever problems come along. We cannot just try things out because we may hurt the other person and that is a big no no.

    Its good to be aware of these things, because there are people who jump into relationships or even dharma relationships unaware of what it really entails and the commitment that we must put in.

    Bottom line – dont hurt others.
    Bottom bottom line: be a monk/nun!

  26. Khoo HH on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:13 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for the sharing on love relationships.
    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness”
    How can we hurt a person if we truly love that person, and we know that the person also love us. I think “Selfishness” is the only explaination on this. A lot of time we are treating our partner good because we wanted to feel good, not because we want our partner to feel good. I have heard of this situation a lot of times from people around me. A guy wanted to bring his girlfriend for a nice dinner because he wanted to make his girlfriend happy. But he got angry with his girlfriend when she took a long time to makeup. Suppose to be a romantic dinner, ended up with a quarrel in the house. I will always think, what is the objective of this dinner? To not miss the reserved table, or to make your partner happy? Perhaps he thought that his effort of booking the table is greater than his partner. I think if a couple truly love each other, even a roadside stall will be a romantic dinner.

  27. SEreNa on Feb 23, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    Thanks for Rinpoche sharing on some thoughts for love and relationships.

    We must always remember to share and communicate with our love partner for every challenges we face in life. You have make your choice to spend the rest of your life with the loved one. SO, Be responsible and respect to the loved one. Don’t be selfish as pain will arise to the loved one including youself.

  28. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:02 pm

    And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is….

  29. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:01 pm

    “And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is”

  30. Uncle Eddie on Feb 23, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    Is love all we need to make a successful and fulfilling life relationship? Obviously, not all love relationships are the “Life Partnership kind”. It is important to realise and recognise that, and be okay with that. We can learn so much from the experiences of past relationships, to change towards the better, to a more adaptable, improved and acceptable one for both partners. It is everyone’s goal to have the desire of finding a life partner who caters to one’s entire needs and satisfaction. We all want someone who looks good, always make us laugh, supports us, respect us and trusts us well. Before we can find that ‘someone’, we need to be that person – that includes accepting all faults and short comings of oneself and that of your life partner too. A healthy relationship, essentially, should have a good building up of respect, loyalty, trust and a good admiration for each other; more similar to a house solid basic foundation structure, where the more love and nurturance we put into it, is what makes it a happy home, and a successful and fulfilling life relationship in the years to come.

  31. Ash Ng on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    Dear Rinpoche, You have given us some wonderful insights on having relationships with others. I especially agree with the few advises below;

    1) When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first.

    2) Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt.

    I feel these 2 major points encompass all the others and when we are REALLY ready after dealing with our deep seeded insecurities, comfortable and accepting ourselves then only we take the next step. Appreciate Your enlightening insights and You care for us with others. Will put in effort working on these as the essence of Dharma is compassion towards others and not hurting or harming them would be the first priority. Thus, working on oneself first is the key to happiness. Tashi delek

  32. Yvonne Yap on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche! this is a reminder , remind the things we know, but we always forgot.Because you care.

  33. abby on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:15 pm

    Love and compassion is the greatest lesson in everyone’s life.
    Yes, Rinpoche may not be the expert, but yes, Rinpoche do care about everyone. And with this compassion, Rinpoche is the Love Guru 🙂

  34. tenzin llhamo on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:46 pm

    This is the one I like the most. Because of being dishonest, so many relationships are destroyed. How sad! But now that we understand, we must be better. Treat relationships with respect, humility and honesty.

    ‘In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time’

  35. Margaretlee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts and experiences you have encountered with the many stories you were told.

    I think responsibility, honesty, sincerity and intergrity apply to everything we do in our life, be it work or relationship.

    There is a saying that people only starts to know themselves when they are in a relationship, it is indeed true when we realise we always demand this and that from our partner and never gives back, a state of complete self absorption. relationship is about giving and not taking.

    I paticularly like this quote from Rinpoche : “When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche”

    Going to share this blog with many of my samsara friends…..

  36. yekyee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:10 pm

    Each of Rinpoche is very logic and make sense. When we choose a relationship, must always our partner with real care and patient. No one is perfect. How can we go along with each other, tolerance is another good deed we need practice. I believe very strongly on it. My aunty friend always with me, it is not easy for two different character person live, eat, play, work together, need so much efforts and patient. I agreed. Thankyou for Rinpoche sharing.

  37. shivani on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    I want to know a little about Karmic Connection.We meet people but they leave us yet we cannot earse them

  38. Jace Chong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:59 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing these very useful quotes.

    Relationship used to be something very hard for me to juggle in between love and selfishness. When I had quarrel with partner, I always not sure this is because I want him to be my way, or I want my partner to improve. And the definition of improvement is vary to different people.

    “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications. ”

    This is a very practical way. I should not focus on what I want, but what is best for our partner.

    Even Rinpoche didn’t go through all these, Rinpoche understand better than everyone else what should we practice in relationship. Salute to Rinpoche, as always!

  39. Han Siew Fong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    All the advices will sink into my mind. .. and have a better relationship with my partner

    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness.” Tsem Rinpoche

    i contemplated on the above and i do realize the meaning of the quote.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this wonderful post

  40. Nicholas on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:13 am

    Thanks for Rinpoche advice.

    Found that the teaching is not just for relationship but it is also applicable for anything we do in our life.

    It’s all about care. How much we want to do for others is how much we cares for others.
    We responsible for the relationship because no one can force us. We are the one choose to be and should go all the way. I like this! No point to regret on what we have not done to save the relationship because we can always be the one to take action first.

    It’s not about who love whom more than who suppose to take the first move, it’s how much you love, how much you appreciate and how far you want to go with your relationship.

    This is just applicable for everything in our life.

  41. kenny wong on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:10 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Again, thank you for you kind insights. We choose our partners ourselves and have to accept him/her for who she is. The good, the bad, the ugly and the whole. How we percieve and accept our patners is totally up to us, thus we control our own happiness in the relationship. But if we are not generous and cannot lose out in the relationship and must win all the time, we will definately be the one losing at the end…. being unhappy, unfulfilled and bitter.

    Your words of advice are so true and spot on Rinpoche.

  42. skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:37 am

    Dear Rinpoche, thank you very much for the good advises.

    “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the same expectation on yourself.”

    “Trying to put away, hiding, or avoiding relationship issues won’t make them go away. You need to talk over or be clear about it.”

    “Always bringing up and rehashing previous issues mean the issue doesn’t solve go away or it just mean you’re not letting go and keep holding on to it.”

    • skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:45 am

      Correction:
      “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the _different_ expectation on yourself.”

  43. Hui Keng on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:35 am

    LOVE is in the air. Read on baby…How lucky Rinpoche giving advice around the clock! Rinpoche’s love is genuinely unconditional hence it survives all tests and challenges. We are pretty much lucky to have Rinpoche. We have sowed good seeds for this to happen and we must utilise fully given this opportunity. Rinpoche immensely love all of us, even more deeply than what our parents can do.

  44. Irene on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:22 am

    But what about a situation in which one partner dominates the whole family, and always expects to be bowed and scraped to. He always complains about how nobody does anything right (like he wants), and threatens to leave if we don’t shape up. I often wonder how much of this is due to his family background. (He grew up in an abusive environment.)

    Don’t get me wrong–he can be charming and generous when he wants to be, but sometimes I think he does it in order to manipulate people. (When we do what he wants, he praises them or gives them little gifts, otherwise he criticizes and sulks.) If things get too quiet, then he’s good at manufacturing drama (like claiming to have a mortal illness), and he just loves to gossip. But he doesn’t think that HE is doing any of this, according to him he’s just humbly following what is right (as he was taught). And somehow he always ends up being the center of attention.

    I’m probably making him sound like a monster, but that’s not right. He can be loyal and compassionate (he loves animals, and gives to charity) and is obviously very hard working and a very good manager. He has the potential to make a positive impact on the world. But we’re in this lopsided relationship with him, in which he gets to set all the conditions, and anyone who can’t accept that can just leave. (He’s alienated a lot of people over the years, although he tells it a different way–who knows what the truth is.) Anyway, Rinpoche, I’m sure you know people like that. What to do…?

    • mrs cheung on Feb 23, 2012 at 8:12 pm

      dear rinpoche, i also know someone similar to what irene has written here in her reply, plus more. he also flirts with younger women but his sick and old wife could do nothing to stop him. facing such a monster, she could only soar and sob over her misfortune. uneducated, unemployed, unwanted, old and sick. she has no where to run to. what to do…?

  45. freon on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:06 am

    With folded hand, Thank you Guru

  46. tsemtulku on Feb 23, 2012 at 9:46 am

    Some thoughts on love and relationships..I am not the expert, but over the years I have to listen to alot of people and I came out with some of my own conclusions…

    • Sophia chung on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:19 am

      Dear Rinpoche,

      Thank you for your advice on relationship. It made me reflect on myself to improve tremendously..
      It was great pleasure to meet u in the gompa last nite. I feel very lucky to receive
      a dharma talk in person from you. Although shocking, It was priceless, the love and effort you put in for
      Your students. Thank you for taking the time to pay us the visit.

      Sophia

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  • Stella Cheang
    Saturday, Jul 30. 2016 06:35 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for the video and beautiful photos from yester-years, they certainly bring us down memory lane to the days when Dalai Lama was deemed as the king of state. At that time, Tibetan Buddhism is sheltered and mysterious to the eyes of the world, while Tibet often illustrated by the westerners as the Shangri-la tucked away in between the glorious mountains of China and India.

    As the turn of events unfolded, Tibetans were suddenly landed as stateless refugee at the door of India, following the 1959 Tibetan exodus. The Prime Minister of India then, Jawaharlal Nehru graciously took them in and provided Tibetans under the leadership of Dalai Lama with a base to rebuild Tibet. While Panchen Lama stayed and looked after Tibetans who remained in Tibet. In retrospective, this is akin to compassion of the loving father (Dalai Lama) and mother (Panchen Lama) who care for their only child (people of Tibet).

    Many years had passed since then, Tibetan Buddhism was “rebranded” into a world renowned religion not only slipping into the daily lives of many people in the west, but also renewing its connection with people from the east. Dalai Lama and many Tibetan in exile worked tirelessly to keep Tibetan Buddhism alive amidst hardship and instability. It is, perhaps, now time for Tibet to step up and retake the world stage for Tibetan Buddhism.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/the-dalai-lama-panchen-lama-in-india-in-1956.html
  • samfoonheei
    Saturday, Jul 30. 2016 04:35 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these interesting article about Buddhism in China..It would be amazing and wonderful if Buddhism can be the second largest religion in the world.Buddhism has never been a religion that encourages others to convert.The majority of Chinese are Buddhist and the population is growing day by day More people are practicing Buddhism and it will benefit more people in the future..If all religions in this world teaches the same …to develop love and compassion it will be peaceful world to live in without war then.
    Thanks again
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/buddhism-the-second-largest-religion-in-the-world.html
  • samfoonheei
    Saturday, Jul 30. 2016 01:58 PM
    Thank you Herman for sharing .I do enjoyed reading as it explained deeply ,very informative for us to understand.Do agree with Herman a true religion should never condemn other religions but instead accept and embrace the differences. We are so fortunate to have Rinpoche that teach us the correct path …. to be a better person with kindness and compassion and so forth.
    Thanks again
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/guest-contributors/spirituality-without-religion.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Friday, Jul 29. 2016 01:44 PM
    Guru for Hire and Enlightenment for Sale is not just any Dharma book (or DVD). It is the holy “bible” for all of us who are keen and genuine in wanting to immerse ourselves in Dharma. The guidelines mentioned in this book is very logical and practical. For example, how should we manage or handle new students, what are the basic infrastructure required for a retreat centre or dharma centre, and how should we handle VIP that is brought in by another member? It certainly sound funny the way Rinpoche articulated it, but some of those examples are true stories in real life. We committed those “silly mistakes” because we, citizen of this beautiful country, do not have the mass consciousness for Buddhism. We are lacking in the general knowledge or etiquette of being a Buddhist, leave alone knowing the protocol on how to respect a lama, or understand the importance to sponsor a lama and the holy sangha. In Tibet, a revered high lama like Rinpoche will not be subjected to all the mundane chores like how Rinpoche used to be doing for his students. But Rinpoche did. We are very fortunate to have Rinpoche laid down plainly the guidelines as well as procedures for us, hence we must cherish the knowledge, learn up as best as we can, and be ready to share it with others.

    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Han Nee for this sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/students-friends/gurus-for-hire-enlightenment-for-sale%E2%80%93-a-review.html
  • samfoonheei
    Friday, Jul 29. 2016 01:31 PM
    Thanks for sharing this book review…..interesting there s so much to know and learn from , even though it just a review all from Ronpoche teachings.I read it over and over again to understand better.Mr.Edward Ooi…did a good job putting all important points down for us to understand better.Thanks you Mr Edward Ooi I will recommend this book to my friends .May all of us be blessed and be more compassionate.
    With folded hands
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/students-friends/reason-why-you-should-read-this-book.html
  • sonny tan
    Friday, Jul 29. 2016 11:37 AM
    sonny tan on Jul 29, 2016 at 11:36 am
    Thank you Rinpoche for this highlight on cruelty to animals. It really made me wants to puke and sick to my stomach reading and seeing this senseless pictures of animals being tortured. It is totally beyond my ordinary human comprehension that these farmers are still resorting to such cruel acts. It is totally outrageous, disgusting to say the least that such cruelty acts still exist in the animal’s farm. I am pretty sure that industrialized countries would have adopted a more humane way of killing these animals rather than bludgeoning them, killing them with rifles pointing at their heads. For instance like putting these animals in a cold room and they would naturally sleep without any pain instituted on them, well it is an afterthought not that I would want encourage killing of animals.
    It made me wonder why humans still believe that animals meat protein is essential for their well-being this misinformation on animal protein good for human has already been debunked and human are still eating it. It has also been discovered that when fear arises in the animals about to be slaughtered they release hormones that would have contents of poison detrimental for human consumption.
    However, on a religious standpoint a simply analogy would be ‘as you sow, so shall you reap’
  • Stella Cheang
    Thursday, Jul 28. 2016 10:50 PM
    Very nice to read about how mankind can actually be loyal and loving in treating their furry best friend. We have too many stories about brutal and violence treatment on animals by human, hence this story is very refreshing. I can only imagine the anxiety and the worry-some feeling experience by Sylvester Stallone and Butkus during those moments of separation. And the adrenaline rush when Stallone gotten his paycheck and wanting to “claim” Butkus back. Given this strong feeling he had for Butkus, I would say the price tag is secondary. I admire Stallone for his loyalty and conviction in his friendship with Butkus.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this uplifting story with us.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/sylvester-stallones-best-friend.html
  • Lin Mun
    Thursday, Jul 28. 2016 09:43 PM
    Keisha is definitely a very brave and compassion girl. Who would dare to stand up for others when she is all alone and surrounded by so many people. I really respect her courage to protect the man even though she may get hurt. It is real kindness that she protects the weak.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this story.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/a-mighty-girl.html
  • Pastor Shin Tan
    Thursday, Jul 28. 2016 05:25 PM
    PHOTOS ON THE GO SHARED BY H.E. TSEM TULKU RINPOCHE:

    Never forget to do our Vajra Yogini practice. We can lose our money, we can lose our friends, we can lose our position, we can lose our family, we can lose our wife, we can lose our husband and we can lose our materialistic possession because in the end we will lose all outer objects anyway, but NEVER lose our Vajra Yogini practice. Everything lost is meant to be lost because we are in samsara and whatever we enjoy in samsara will not last and will be lost. It is their nature.

    Never waste time, energy and keep procrastinating, but do our Vajra Yogini practice intensely and strongly and be firm. Samsara never grants permanence and happiness, but Vajra Yogini’s practice will hand the universe and all the joys within it to you.
    -Tsem Rinpoche

    From: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?nggpu=www.tsemrinpoche.com/wp-content/gallery/photos-on-the-go/photo_160723184021_0.jpg
  • samfoonheei
    Thursday, Jul 28. 2016 12:34 PM
    Amazing lady… Jane Goodall!..An inspiring article to know so much of this kind and compassionate lady.I do enjoyed watching the video and reading it. Thank you Rinpoche and team for sharing.She is a truly inspiring lady with a strong determination, selflessness and mindfulness to do what she wanted by all means to create a friendly environment and preservation of wild life.She is an example for us to follow.
    Thanks again.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/something-incredible-about-jane-goodall.html
  • sonny tan
    Thursday, Jul 28. 2016 09:57 AM
    sonny tan on Jul 28, 2016 at 9:56 am
    Thank you Rinpoche for this highlight on death, a morbid and taboo subject, everyone knows about death but few wants to hear it, talk or discuss about it but eventually we will all have to face this moment one day. It is an inevitable fact that we have to embrace it when our numbers are up, a highly respected sage was asked about death he replied that we are all heading towards death the minute we are born, go to every householder and you will realize that there is always death in every family for no can or will ever escape from it.
    There will always be extreme fear, uncertainties, mental confusion, depression and fearing of the unknown as many of us are unprepared when it really and eventually arrived at our door step. What will be my thoughts then when it comes? I would feel the same situation as everyone else prior to my coming here at Kechara. At least now in Kechara with constant Rinpoche’s teaching and discourses on so many subjects about life and hereafter and being guided on the so many steps, ways, meditation practices that I can learn and prepare for the final moments I would say it somewhat has lessened the fear and hopefully be more brave to accept it as a reality and should not shun it and be in denial mode but be properly prepare for it.
    It is rather unfortunate that many of our elders has not guided us, prepare us or discuss with us on this subject however, if they had done so we would have been better equip with the knowledge on death. I guess they are also in the dark on this subject unless they are spiritually inclined especially towards Buddhism.
  • Lin Mun
    Wednesday, Jul 27. 2016 09:40 PM
    So glad to see 2 religious leaders come together for a dialogue. This show mutual respect and freedom of religious among the society.

    It is so important to practise our belief in peace and harmony environment. Religion should not bring any force but with understanding of good values and intention.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/this-is-so-needed.html
  • samfoonheei
    Wednesday, Jul 27. 2016 03:44 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing his beautiful inspiring spiritual journey.May Rinpoche be united as one with Vajrayogini and
    may all of us have the great merits to be blessed with the precious Vajrayogini practice. If i can have fantasy imagination so beautiful too will be great. Those pictures shown above was very beautiful and simple in a way. I liked it.We are fortunate to have Rinpoche sharing his teachings in KFR
    with folded hands,thanks again
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/she-smiles-at-me.html
  • samfoonheei
    Wednesday, Jul 27. 2016 02:37 PM
    Thank you, Rinpoche, for sharing the above videos.I have still quite a lot to learn ..Its really so kind and generous for Rinpoche to show us his altar…..so beautiful and neatly arranged.The Mother Vajrayogini is so beautiful too. Its a blessing that we are given a chance to see it. I do enjoy seeing those beautiful statues and offerings.I do hope i will have more offerings at my altar too in future.
    Thanks again
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/see-my-beautiful-shrine.html
  • sonny tan
    Wednesday, Jul 27. 2016 01:02 PM
    sonny tan on Jul 27, 2016 at 1:01 pm
    Thank you Pastor Niral and team for producing such exciting and powerful explanation on the God and Goddesses realm. Though mind boggling but interesting to note that the Gods have a lifespan same like us here on earth but perhaps they lived much longer period.
    It would be interesting to know when residing in the Gods realm would there be any further dharma teachings to ascend to higher consciousness or merely a realm indulging in extreme pleasures while waiting for the karma to be depleted.
    It is very enlightening to know that Lord Buddha transformed into a combined form of Heruka and Vajrayogini to subdue Heruka and consort. I always have this idea that Lord Buddha is in a realm where he resides in total sublime bliss and peace but I guess he is omnipresent and omniscient in every aspect.
    Meditation on death and Vajrayogini practice as taught by Rinpoche would be a fast and good gateway to reach the higher consciousness realm and return to our true nature and not enjoying the sensual pleasures of the Gods realm.

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What Am I Writing Now


 

The Unknown

The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
So go pursue all the way with the unknown,
because all unknown with familiarity becomes the known.
~Tsem Rinpoche

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2 days ago
This picture says it all. I wonder always why constructed items these days wear out so fast.
6 days ago
This is a beautiful portrait
6 days ago
Sacred art work on Vajra Yogini
1 week ago
Never forget to do our Vajra Yogini practice. We can lose our money, we can lose our friends, we can lose our position, we can lose our family, we can lose our wife, we can lose our husband and we can lose our materialistic possession because in the end we will lose all outer objects anyway, but NEVER lose our Vajra Yogini practice. Everything lost is meant to be lost because we are in samsara and whatever we enjoy in samsara will not last and will be lost. It is their nature. Never waste time, energy and keep procrastinating, but do our Vajra Yogini practice intensely and strongly and be firm. Samsara never grants permanence and happiness, but Vajra Yogini's practice will hand the universe and all the joys within it to you.-Tsem Rinpoche
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1 week ago
Nice friends who help each other in Dharma works.
2 weeks ago
Venerable Geshe Puntsok speaks so well in both Tibetan and English: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=idQF6_6BD6s and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OZ-jCJQWMMs&t=0s
2 weeks ago
Beautiful image of Avalokitesvara who has spoken before. Housed in Ladakh
2 weeks ago
Our Panglung Kuten taking trance of Dorje Shugden in Tibet where he is greatly sought after
2 weeks ago
Beautiful painting of Atisha
2 weeks ago
Beautiful Tara has arrived in Kechara Forest Retreat. See many more pictures: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=105289
2 weeks ago
Gorgeous Buddha carved into the mountain in China
3 weeks ago
Beautiful Dorje Shugden Gyenze statue by Kechara available at vajrasecrets.com
3 weeks ago
I like this Buddha image very much
3 weeks ago
Beautiful Buddha in the Bodhgaya enlightenment stupa
3 weeks ago
Pastor Lanse, contact her if you have questions..she is kind and helpful.
3 weeks ago
Interesting
3 weeks ago
Buddha sat under this tree when he gained enlightenment
3 weeks ago
Buddha Goddess Dukkar. Beautiful image.
3 weeks ago
Such a nice retreat house for extended meditations and prayers.. ..incredible. With trees, sunshine, pond, lotus leaves and purple flowers. I love this whole setting. Even creepers growing on the roof of the house. How perfect this place is for me.
4 weeks ago
Tsem Rinpoche brings home Dharma and this was his first day home.
4 weeks ago
White Tara mantra in Sanskrit
4 weeks ago
Beautiful thangka of Buddha of wisdom Saraswati
4 weeks ago
Beautiful image of Tulku Drakpa Gyeltsen in Kechara
4 weeks ago
A beautiful and blessed Dharma family. May Lord Manjushri guide, bless and keep them close to Him in this and all lives. Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
One of the things I love about my Guru is that his teachings are never dry and far from boring. Rinpoche would joke, poke fun and tease but there is always an insightful, if not profound, teaching in each joke or teasing. I consider myself very blessed to have found a Guru who has the skillful means to drum some Dharma into this numbskull of mine. -From Sharon Ong
4 weeks ago
I really like outdoor Buddhas.
4 weeks ago
Dorje Shugden takes trance of the senior Choyang Dulzin Kuten in Gaden Monastery.
4 weeks ago
His Holiness Kyabje Zong Choktrul Rinpoche sitting on my lap during a teaching in Dharamsala. I am so happy to hold the reincarnation of my precious teacher. Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
This is a beautiful picture of Choktrul Zemey Rinpoche. May he bless all of us and manifest the teaching of Tsongkapa's doctrine again.
4 weeks ago
This is really nicely done. Welcome!
4 weeks ago
Good friends with good motivation coupled with a kind heart to be of benefit to others is time worth spent. Life is over so fast and anytime it can be snuffed out, so therefore do dharma, practice dharma, and engage in dharma. Tsem Rinpoche.
1 month ago
Sacred Manjushri Kumara 9th Century Pala Dynasty India
1 month ago
This sacred White Tara is on the Bodhgaya enlightenment stupa marking the very spot Lord Buddha achieved enlightenment.
2 months ago
Myself at the sacred lake at Dromo Geshe Rinpoche's residence
2 months ago
Myself at Dromo Geshe Rinpoche's house where there is a sacred lake on his property. The Five Sister Protector Goddesses abide at this lake. I am making offerings to the divinities in the lake here. Many contractors or workers who come to do work often observe 'Asian ladies' dressed very well walking around the perimeter of the lake and there are no Asian ladies living nearby at all. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Myself sitting at a lake where Bigfoots are often sighted in Willow Creek, California. This area in Northern California is a hot spot for Bigfoot sightings for hundreds of years till present day. We spent the afternoon there and we did our sadhanas and enjoy the BEAUTIFUL cool/dry weather (no humidity) and you don't sweat. The water was clear and sparkling. It is one of the most beautiful places I have been too and I can easily live there in this area. It was hard to leave this place. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Such a beautiful conservatory. How I would love to have a room like this among woodlands.
2 months ago
Another beautiful Gyenze statue arrives made by Kechara
2 months ago
My Mumu boy is super duper cute. I love you Mumu.
2 months ago
Pastor Adeline leads a holy and beneficial Tsongkapa retreat group in Kechara Forest Retreat today. Very nice to see this. I like it when our Pastors and senior students encourage, nurture others into the dharma. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Images of the Buddha are always a great blessing
2 months ago
Beautifully painted Shakyamuni the Buddha
2 months ago
Nice painting of Lord Tsongkapa
2 months ago
Beautiful painting of His Holiness Panchen Rinpoche the omniscient.
2 months ago
This is a traditional thangka painting of the Karma Gadri style, which was especially commissioned by Tashi Mannox on the rarely depicted great calligrapher and scholar Thönmi Sambhota. Sambhota is a historical figure responsible for developing the foundation of the Tibetan writing systems in the seventh century A.D, which form the basis of the Tibetan language today.
2 months ago
Spectacular outdoor Tsongkapa in Mongolia
2 months ago
BEAUTIFUL Tara statue! Magnificent
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  • Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
    2 months ago
    Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
  • Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
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    Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
  • Taking Trance
    3 months ago
    Taking Trance
  • See what humans can do
    5 months ago
    See what humans can do
  • Shocking undercover video shows animal abuse at 'humane cert
    5 months ago
    Shocking undercover video shows animal abuse at 'humane cert
  • Video reveals what goes on inside 'humane slaughterhouse' in
    5 months ago
    Video reveals what goes on inside 'humane slaughterhouse' in
  • People can really live their lives to save others. This is a good way to live. Beautiful video.
    6 months ago
    People can really live their lives to save others. This is a good way to live. Beautiful video.
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    8 months ago
    All beings have feelings and do not want pain, to be hurt or harmed. Therefore we must respect this and not harm animals. See this video how this man has made good friends with a special fish who comes when he rings for the fish. Touching. Tsem Rinpoche
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    10 months ago
    HH the Dalai Lama prays with HH Trijang Rinpoche and HH Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche. Such a beautiful video of His Holiness Dalai Lama, His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and His Holiness Dilgo Kyentse Rinpoche (Very exalted high Nyingma lama) are all praying together. In the background you see a young Kyabje Lati Rinpoche too. So beautiful. This is how it was before the ban. All the sects and high lamas were superbly harmonious. After the Dorje Shugden ban things changed for the worse. May the ban be released soon. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Nice Dorje Shugden rock painting
    11 months ago
    Nice Dorje Shugden rock painting
  • His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
    11 months ago
    His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
  • A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
    11 months ago
    A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 1)
    11 months ago
    Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 1)
  • Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 2)
    11 months ago
    Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 2)
  • His Holiness Trijang Rinpoche accepts Long Life puja
    1 years ago
    His Holiness Trijang Rinpoche accepts Long Life puja

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CHAT PICTURES

19 hours ago
Children loves the face art section during the KSDS Art Exhibition 2016. Lin Mun KSDS
19 hours ago
Great move team. They are practicing for their coming year end performance. Lin Mun KSDS
19 hours ago
Look at how close the bonding between student and teacher in Sunday Dharma class. :) Lin Mun KSDS
19 hours ago
Children leaning the move shown in the screen as part of their year end performance. Lin Mun KSDS
19 hours ago
Children of Sunday Dharma School joined Pastor Yek Yee during animal liberation session. Lin Mun KSDS
22 hours ago
Whenever you feel angry, chant Manjushri's mantra & think things through thoroughly. Don't act on emotions & from anger, Regrets ; OM AH RA PA TZA NA DHI– Tsem Rinpoche (By Freon 29 July'16)
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The teens are very focus reading the paper in their hand. KSDS-Serena Boon
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KSDS teachers are not just teaching but also having fun with kids. KSDS-Serena Boon
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Kids like to share their favourites with teachers. KSDS-Serena Boon
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Teacher Alice brief to teens about the role play for graduation drama. KSDS-Serena Boon
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Teacher Serena is discussing with teens about the graduation preparations. KSDS-Serena Boon
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Setrap Puja@ KH,Penang on 31/7/16. Inserted by Leonard Ooi
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Set Lunch at Kechara Oasis Jaya One "Wan Tan Noodle" #vegetarian #dumpling #char siew #vegetables #simple #delicious #visit #try ~ Guat Hee
2 days ago
Thank you to teacher Lai, our senior Kecharian. Keep on assisting in the KSDS too. KSDS / Kien
2 days ago
Teacher Calista very new in KSDS Dharma class. But, she is very committed and happy to teach. Nice to have her. KSDS / Kien
2 days ago
Youngest kids class of teacher Stella and Calista have some funs during Dharma class. KSDS / Kien
2 days ago
Teacher Stella lading the kids to sing the Mantra in the class. KSDS / Kien
2 days ago
A caring sister Nadia with the brother in the Sunday Dharma class. KSDS / Kien
2 days ago
By Freon 28 July'16
2 days ago
Dukkar grants powerful protection from over 60 classes of spirits if we recite her mantra. OM SITA TA PA TREY HUM PHET..Dukkar fortifies our body so strongly that spirits literary cannot invade. She is very healing and helps to strengthen the body against physical problems. bit.ly/1Tq0Kg Lucy Yap
3 days ago
We meet from KSK, now we share and learn from KH, all because of our Guru, Thank you. Ray Thing, KSDS.
3 days ago
SMILE, a beautiful way to reach each others. Ray Thing, KSDS.
3 days ago
Fun times. Ray Thing, KSDS.
3 days ago
When students sharing, teacher listening. Ray Thing, KSDS.
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Teacher Victor & students having discussion on role playing. Ray Thing, KSDS.

 
 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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