Some thoughts on love relationships

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Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to  destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships,  being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion,  genuine care, sharing and honesty. Tsem Rinpoche

 

In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your  relationship will grow stronger and better with time. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.  Tsem Rinpoche

 

It takes a years to earn the trust of your spouse, but one selfish mistake to break their heart. Then years to regain their trust again. Just be honest from the beginning and always be loyal. Tsem Rinpoche

 

There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Everyone has so much pain already. No one is not damaged goods. So why bring more pain to your partner. Love, cherish and respect your partner by being honest and always communicating. Tsem Rinpoche

 

I am sorry is ok once, twice but not three times. If you are always apologizing, maybe you are not respecting the relationship you are in. Either respect your relationship or create a prison. It’s up to you. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is intentional. So are affairs out of marriage. You choose what you want. But remember, whatever you choose will come back to you if you are choosing for selfish reasons. Tsem Rinpoche

 

No one forced you to have a relationship. So do not make excuses for hurting your partner. Take responsibility for all your actions starting with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues. Tsem Rinpoche

 

All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it…Tsem Rinpoche

 

When we look back and see how many partners we have changed, we can be sure it is a sign we have not fulfilled what we should be doing in life. Finding partners is just a delay tactic perhaps for what we should really be doing..Tsem Rinpoche

 

Partners and spouses are only ok to have when we are ok. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to hurt yourself and your partner is when you use them to hide  behind your selfish avoidances. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche

 

If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness. Tsem Rinpoche

 

You deserve what you give. The universe owes you nothing. But you owe the universe everything. Be comfortable with that thought first and then seek friends. Tsem Rinpoche

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  1. Louisa on Jan 14, 2014 at 8:08 pm

    I’m always learning and practising loving people around me unconditionally. Although I did not love my parents the way they expect, i still love them but they can never get enough. Just because I dont love them the way they want and they thought I dont love them. I really upset and dont know what more I can do.

  2. Carmen Lin @ KMP on Sep 23, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts, with folded hands. What Rinpoche said is very truth and applicable to anyone of all walks of life. I will read it again and again when friends of mine had relationship problem or I myself having the problem, I can know where to find the solution and words of advice. Thank you again Rinpoche, for your efforts to enhance the lives of others.

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  4. Joy on Feb 14, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    I like this quote the best… it is really true… most of us get in to a relationship for all the wrong reasons. They think life is like some Hollywood fantasy and they go chasing after this idealistic dream which in the end hurts us more than anything else when it does not fit our projections and expectations. And when get in to a relationship we tend to forget ourselves and our whole life revolves around that person, we do whatever that person wants, wishes, and sometimes we even allow ourselves to be use and abuse… all in the name of love. And we become dependent of this person like a puppet. I have seen this in so many of my friends… is it really love? Or is it because of our own insecurities and selfish reasons?

    Being true and comfortable with yourself, knowing who you are, where you stand and dealing with your own self first is far better because then when we do enter a relationship, we compliment the other instead of epecting, we give, instead of depending, we’re interdependent and it is a mutual, two way street kind of thing, where both can grow individually and together… especially if both partners were doing spirit Dharma practice together… it becomes a blessing to one another instead of an obstacle. A couple like this is a big inspiration… http://blog.tsemtulku.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/for-couples.html

  5. Paris on Feb 14, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    Rereading this again this Valentines’ day and thinking about how, at the heart of everything, is this real gritty honesty that we all need to look at, in every of our relationships. Once the razzle dazzle of moonlight, flowers and chocolates dies down, we are left ourselves to ourselves – then what?

    Then we start creating problems, either for ourselves, our parents, or both. The relationship itself doesn’t go wrong; nor is it our partner’s fault when things don’t peter out the way we want it to. At the end of the day, we have to remember that it takes two hands to clap and to ask ourselves what it is that *I* am doing right or wrong?

    Remember too, whenever things are tough, of the good times, the positive stuff and why it is we fell in love in the first place. Good always wins over the evil and yes, I do still believe that love can make the world go round, if only we stick with it.

  6. Paris on Feb 3, 2013 at 11:36 pm

    To add to this, Rinpoche gave a wonderful teaching on how to maintain a successful relationship at one of his students’ wedding a few years ago. I remember it being an especially beautiful teaching because the girl was Buddhist but the boy was Christian – and the advice given was just as relevant for both. Relive the teaching here! (it comes in three parts) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YO9yjD_j5HI

    David Lai has also written a book about relationships based on these teachings – a very cute way of presenting different thoughts on relationships, but with this same underlying message that Rinpoche gives us. Here! “Conversations in Love”: http://www.kechara.com/publications/publications/mind-body-spirit/conversations-in-love/

  7. Jessica Yap on Dec 7, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    Everything begins with me, myself, and I. How i feel, how i react to situations, how i treat others, everything is from me. These quotes should be read every now and then to contemplate on..

    Thank you for the profound quotes, Rinpoche!

  8. mitra on Jun 13, 2012 at 10:53 am

    good advice for every one.

  9. Wan Wai Meng on Mar 23, 2012 at 11:36 am

    These are really thought provoking thoughts about relationships. Thank you sharing them, such quotes will really help people think about what they are doing.

  10. su_zan on Mar 6, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Dear Rinpche thank you for all the above quotes. It reminds me of the talk you give during my wedding day.

    For me the above quotes not only apply on a couple relationship, it applies to all kinds of relationships (friends, teachers, family, children and etc)

    One of which is
    “Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche”

  11. Melinda yap on Mar 1, 2012 at 7:14 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for your thoughts and advice on love and relationships. It is so so true what Rinpoche has shared. After reading, I looked back and pondered about my past relationships… It is true in order for a relationship to be in harmony,both parties should be honest plus have respect for each other from the beginning of the relationship. This will in time gives security and stability to the relationship…I love all the above thoughts by Rinpoche on love & relationships…I’ll save it so I could remind myself what love and relationship is all about! 😉

  12. Albert Ratchaga on Feb 29, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for the quotes, some times we can be very possessive when we love someone, either to our partner or family, we tend to be very controlling, and the reason of being like this is just because “I LOVE YOU”.

    just a simple word I Love You, it became a manifestation of our selfishness, instead of accepting the person we love, we tend to turn them into our ideally person to be. we expect everything from them but giving nothing from ourselves… so are we really loving them or we actually loves ourselves more? Is love a taking or giving?

  13. Julia Tan on Feb 29, 2012 at 3:05 am

    “All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it”

    Something as simple as saying NO and we can avoid hurting ourselves and our partners. We didn’t do it. We let it be.

    If you truly love your partners, do something about it, before it is too late..

  14. Uncle Lai on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:56 pm

    Thank you once again Rinpoche for all the wonderful quotes on love and relationships. You are the most caring person, always look into us and find ways to explain and teach how to live a happier life.

    Of all the quotes I like this the most. ‘In all relationships honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time.’ I fully agree with that because if we are honest we will not cheat, we dont lie, we trust and we are humble. I think this is so because it comes from inside us,

  15. patsy on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:55 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for sharing these useful quotes which we can use not only in relationships but with every one whether its friends relationship or love relationship. When we care for others and treat them well with respect, we will get the results of being treated well by others too.

    I like this one, “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.”

  16. Li Kheng on Feb 25, 2012 at 3:29 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for this insightful post on relationships. We spend so much time chasing after prince/princess charming whom we believe will make our world a better place. We often forget to consider using ourselves to make someone else’s world a better place. Thank you Rinpoche for this reminder. I especially like this quote:

    “There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche”

  17. Amala Sheilagh Mercer on Feb 25, 2012 at 2:54 pm

    Thank you , this is something , Dear Tsem Rinpoche, I will print put and read often ,I may also share it often to anyone open to reading it. And a copy in my washsroom, never know who reads the only reading matterial available to them there, I truly, realize and not all that long ago, that, there is an emotional love and then there is unconditional love,. That is a start , I believe, even though, this only scratches the surface, because of an out of body experience, it was difficult to fathom that much love . Yet changed my life. Now this here to read and remind me. .
    Love and Blessings
    Amala Sheilagh

  18. vc on Feb 25, 2012 at 1:03 pm

    Dear All,
    All of your opinions about relationship maybe right or wrong.But all you haven’t got there yet.To get out of six defiling objects from your mind.All of you are subjected to six dusts defiling senses which all of you are attracted to such as beauty,intelligent,smell,senses.Be honest to yourself and speak the truth.Don’t go and claim yourself you are the GOD and not attracted to anything and swear and curse others when you are now wearing the ‘Human Body’. If you think don’t like this world you can always calm your mind and return to the source,the Origin and achieve perfect enlightenment like the Buddha.If you think you like what you are doing,just go with the flow and don’t complain.

  19. Li Kim on Feb 25, 2012 at 5:23 am

    These quotes are true and real. Not the usual mambo jumbo you get in books and cards. Many of the quotes from Rinpoche brought back the sweet and fond memories of relationships for me. I am not bitter la but can say that I have become slightly disenchanted. I think that I will just enjoy the quotes and not think too much into relationships.

    “When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues.” – this applies to many I must say…

  20. Datuk May on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:54 pm

    The quote I like best is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty”. I totally agree with this and in my own view love is not confined to couples and family only but rather it is universal and to be practised unconditionally.

    Love is tough to give as it challenges our selfishness, ego etc etc that concocts most negative emotions in most people. Being as delusional as we are, we think we are in bliss when there is love.

    I totally disagree that Rinpoche is not an expert in relationships and love, if the above quote is what attracts me then it is true for me that Rinpoche is the only one person I know that truly gives love to every sentient being.

    Now that is tough to practise.

  21. Jean Ai on Feb 24, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    After reading this, putting it alongside the video Rinpoche sent to us (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLH6-P6rIv8), I gotta add to this post – never choose someone on the basis of their looks! It all fades with age, no matter how rich, poor, fat or skinny you are! And death comes to everyone, so how do you want to live your relationship? With anger, disharmony and bitterness, or do you want your relationship to be the cause of something bigger and better? Rinpoche always says some relationships drag people down, and others lead to better things…if yours is the former, time to stop being selfish and let go, both for your benefit and for your partner’s!

  22. vc on Feb 24, 2012 at 1:29 pm

    Rinpoche is very lucky to have get out of samsara and not involve in opposite sex relationships.Everyone should think they are indeed lucky and have the privilege to left the home life and seek the Way.We can only see what is worldly and not transcendental.This life is not just about humanity but transcendental to the ultimate reality.Nirvana.

  23. Wee Liang on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:43 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you so much for the dharma talk last night. Also thank you very much for all the quotes on love and relationships. Its very enlightening, makes me reflect. My favourite quote is ‘The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships, being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you.’ This one is harddddddd.

    Wee Liang

  24. Any Loke on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:53 pm

    Wow, is so true about what Rinpoche wrote. But, human is really selfish, sometimes, we never think that the problem of the relationship is actually created by oursleves. After all the teachings and Puja that I have done it really helped so much in all aspects.

  25. bengkooi on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:46 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these thought provoking quotes. My favourite is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty.”

    To share with those who have not had the fortune to hear one of Rinpoche’s talks about relationships… As Rinpoche has said many times, a dharma relationship is different from a secular relationship because we are not in it just for ourselves. When we enter a dharma relationship, we must be determined to make it last. We must be determined to make it work regardless of whatever problems come along. We cannot just try things out because we may hurt the other person and that is a big no no.

    Its good to be aware of these things, because there are people who jump into relationships or even dharma relationships unaware of what it really entails and the commitment that we must put in.

    Bottom line – dont hurt others.
    Bottom bottom line: be a monk/nun!

  26. Khoo HH on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:13 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for the sharing on love relationships.
    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness”
    How can we hurt a person if we truly love that person, and we know that the person also love us. I think “Selfishness” is the only explaination on this. A lot of time we are treating our partner good because we wanted to feel good, not because we want our partner to feel good. I have heard of this situation a lot of times from people around me. A guy wanted to bring his girlfriend for a nice dinner because he wanted to make his girlfriend happy. But he got angry with his girlfriend when she took a long time to makeup. Suppose to be a romantic dinner, ended up with a quarrel in the house. I will always think, what is the objective of this dinner? To not miss the reserved table, or to make your partner happy? Perhaps he thought that his effort of booking the table is greater than his partner. I think if a couple truly love each other, even a roadside stall will be a romantic dinner.

  27. SEreNa on Feb 23, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    Thanks for Rinpoche sharing on some thoughts for love and relationships.

    We must always remember to share and communicate with our love partner for every challenges we face in life. You have make your choice to spend the rest of your life with the loved one. SO, Be responsible and respect to the loved one. Don’t be selfish as pain will arise to the loved one including youself.

  28. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:02 pm

    And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is….

  29. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:01 pm

    “And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is”

  30. Uncle Eddie on Feb 23, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    Is love all we need to make a successful and fulfilling life relationship? Obviously, not all love relationships are the “Life Partnership kind”. It is important to realise and recognise that, and be okay with that. We can learn so much from the experiences of past relationships, to change towards the better, to a more adaptable, improved and acceptable one for both partners. It is everyone’s goal to have the desire of finding a life partner who caters to one’s entire needs and satisfaction. We all want someone who looks good, always make us laugh, supports us, respect us and trusts us well. Before we can find that ‘someone’, we need to be that person – that includes accepting all faults and short comings of oneself and that of your life partner too. A healthy relationship, essentially, should have a good building up of respect, loyalty, trust and a good admiration for each other; more similar to a house solid basic foundation structure, where the more love and nurturance we put into it, is what makes it a happy home, and a successful and fulfilling life relationship in the years to come.

  31. Ash Ng on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    Dear Rinpoche, You have given us some wonderful insights on having relationships with others. I especially agree with the few advises below;

    1) When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first.

    2) Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt.

    I feel these 2 major points encompass all the others and when we are REALLY ready after dealing with our deep seeded insecurities, comfortable and accepting ourselves then only we take the next step. Appreciate Your enlightening insights and You care for us with others. Will put in effort working on these as the essence of Dharma is compassion towards others and not hurting or harming them would be the first priority. Thus, working on oneself first is the key to happiness. Tashi delek

  32. Yvonne Yap on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche! this is a reminder , remind the things we know, but we always forgot.Because you care.

  33. abby on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:15 pm

    Love and compassion is the greatest lesson in everyone’s life.
    Yes, Rinpoche may not be the expert, but yes, Rinpoche do care about everyone. And with this compassion, Rinpoche is the Love Guru 🙂

  34. tenzin llhamo on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:46 pm

    This is the one I like the most. Because of being dishonest, so many relationships are destroyed. How sad! But now that we understand, we must be better. Treat relationships with respect, humility and honesty.

    ‘In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time’

  35. Margaretlee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts and experiences you have encountered with the many stories you were told.

    I think responsibility, honesty, sincerity and intergrity apply to everything we do in our life, be it work or relationship.

    There is a saying that people only starts to know themselves when they are in a relationship, it is indeed true when we realise we always demand this and that from our partner and never gives back, a state of complete self absorption. relationship is about giving and not taking.

    I paticularly like this quote from Rinpoche : “When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche”

    Going to share this blog with many of my samsara friends…..

  36. yekyee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:10 pm

    Each of Rinpoche is very logic and make sense. When we choose a relationship, must always our partner with real care and patient. No one is perfect. How can we go along with each other, tolerance is another good deed we need practice. I believe very strongly on it. My aunty friend always with me, it is not easy for two different character person live, eat, play, work together, need so much efforts and patient. I agreed. Thankyou for Rinpoche sharing.

  37. shivani on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    I want to know a little about Karmic Connection.We meet people but they leave us yet we cannot earse them

  38. Jace Chong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:59 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing these very useful quotes.

    Relationship used to be something very hard for me to juggle in between love and selfishness. When I had quarrel with partner, I always not sure this is because I want him to be my way, or I want my partner to improve. And the definition of improvement is vary to different people.

    “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications. ”

    This is a very practical way. I should not focus on what I want, but what is best for our partner.

    Even Rinpoche didn’t go through all these, Rinpoche understand better than everyone else what should we practice in relationship. Salute to Rinpoche, as always!

  39. Han Siew Fong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    All the advices will sink into my mind. .. and have a better relationship with my partner

    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness.” Tsem Rinpoche

    i contemplated on the above and i do realize the meaning of the quote.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this wonderful post

  40. Nicholas on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:13 am

    Thanks for Rinpoche advice.

    Found that the teaching is not just for relationship but it is also applicable for anything we do in our life.

    It’s all about care. How much we want to do for others is how much we cares for others.
    We responsible for the relationship because no one can force us. We are the one choose to be and should go all the way. I like this! No point to regret on what we have not done to save the relationship because we can always be the one to take action first.

    It’s not about who love whom more than who suppose to take the first move, it’s how much you love, how much you appreciate and how far you want to go with your relationship.

    This is just applicable for everything in our life.

  41. kenny wong on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:10 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Again, thank you for you kind insights. We choose our partners ourselves and have to accept him/her for who she is. The good, the bad, the ugly and the whole. How we percieve and accept our patners is totally up to us, thus we control our own happiness in the relationship. But if we are not generous and cannot lose out in the relationship and must win all the time, we will definately be the one losing at the end…. being unhappy, unfulfilled and bitter.

    Your words of advice are so true and spot on Rinpoche.

  42. skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:37 am

    Dear Rinpoche, thank you very much for the good advises.

    “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the same expectation on yourself.”

    “Trying to put away, hiding, or avoiding relationship issues won’t make them go away. You need to talk over or be clear about it.”

    “Always bringing up and rehashing previous issues mean the issue doesn’t solve go away or it just mean you’re not letting go and keep holding on to it.”

    • skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:45 am

      Correction:
      “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the _different_ expectation on yourself.”

  43. Hui Keng on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:35 am

    LOVE is in the air. Read on baby…How lucky Rinpoche giving advice around the clock! Rinpoche’s love is genuinely unconditional hence it survives all tests and challenges. We are pretty much lucky to have Rinpoche. We have sowed good seeds for this to happen and we must utilise fully given this opportunity. Rinpoche immensely love all of us, even more deeply than what our parents can do.

  44. Irene on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:22 am

    But what about a situation in which one partner dominates the whole family, and always expects to be bowed and scraped to. He always complains about how nobody does anything right (like he wants), and threatens to leave if we don’t shape up. I often wonder how much of this is due to his family background. (He grew up in an abusive environment.)

    Don’t get me wrong–he can be charming and generous when he wants to be, but sometimes I think he does it in order to manipulate people. (When we do what he wants, he praises them or gives them little gifts, otherwise he criticizes and sulks.) If things get too quiet, then he’s good at manufacturing drama (like claiming to have a mortal illness), and he just loves to gossip. But he doesn’t think that HE is doing any of this, according to him he’s just humbly following what is right (as he was taught). And somehow he always ends up being the center of attention.

    I’m probably making him sound like a monster, but that’s not right. He can be loyal and compassionate (he loves animals, and gives to charity) and is obviously very hard working and a very good manager. He has the potential to make a positive impact on the world. But we’re in this lopsided relationship with him, in which he gets to set all the conditions, and anyone who can’t accept that can just leave. (He’s alienated a lot of people over the years, although he tells it a different way–who knows what the truth is.) Anyway, Rinpoche, I’m sure you know people like that. What to do…?

    • mrs cheung on Feb 23, 2012 at 8:12 pm

      dear rinpoche, i also know someone similar to what irene has written here in her reply, plus more. he also flirts with younger women but his sick and old wife could do nothing to stop him. facing such a monster, she could only soar and sob over her misfortune. uneducated, unemployed, unwanted, old and sick. she has no where to run to. what to do…?

  45. freon on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:06 am

    With folded hand, Thank you Guru

  46. tsemtulku on Feb 23, 2012 at 9:46 am

    Some thoughts on love and relationships..I am not the expert, but over the years I have to listen to alot of people and I came out with some of my own conclusions…

    • Sophia chung on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:19 am

      Dear Rinpoche,

      Thank you for your advice on relationship. It made me reflect on myself to improve tremendously..
      It was great pleasure to meet u in the gompa last nite. I feel very lucky to receive
      a dharma talk in person from you. Although shocking, It was priceless, the love and effort you put in for
      Your students. Thank you for taking the time to pay us the visit.

      Sophia

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  • Alice Tay
    Monday, Aug 29. 2016 01:53 AM
    Animals have feelings just like us. We should respect the animals just as much as everything else because they might be once be our mother in many lifetime ago. If we abuse animal, who knows , maybe we abuse our mother too. Always remind ourselves that nothing deserves to be abused or suffer. We hope others will treat us good and therefore we should treat others how we would like to be treated.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this post. Hope this post can create more awareness to the people in order to stop hurting the animals but to protect and treat them as human beings.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/why-dont-you-love-me-anymore.html#comment-723340
  • Stella Cheang
    Sunday, Aug 28. 2016 10:59 PM
    Thank you Mr Miles Kessler for the insightful sharing of his spiritual journey. What I found meaningful is Kessler’s realization of the unfound attachment to Akido (it can be anything, e.g. possession, fame, or social status, etc). And when this unfound attachment is being examined under the scope of Dharma; quoting Kessler’s own words “…My future and past were all hanging in the balance in that very moment with an unbearable intensity.” Once we are stripped naked of what we falsely hold on to as a cover to the true us, we will feel exposed and vulnerable. For that reason, we must always be grounded to Dharma as the bearing of our life to and to nurture our mind according to the 3 Baskets.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/sometimes-what-i-am-is-not-me.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Sunday, Aug 28. 2016 10:26 PM
    The history of mankind is forever tainted because of the cruelty mankind did (and still doing) on those who are harmless and unable to fend for themselves. While the larger population of this planet prefer to remain as silent endorsers of the many tragedies that happened because some humans took advantage of their physically able human form or advantagous position to abuse others. Just try to google, and we will see sexual child abuse, animal abuse, forced extinction of species, crimes against aborigines, “witch hunt” and a list of never-ending list of abuse that we should be very ashamed of. What does this make us? Bullies! Big bullies with no conscious. It is really sad. Please spread love and kindness, and stop any form of abuse, mental or physical.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this post.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/why-dont-you-love-me-anymore.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Sunday, Aug 28. 2016 10:04 PM
    As we are learning about Dorje Shugden and some of us may even benefitted from Dorje Shugden’s practice, it is important for us to study his previous incarnation who made the promise to eventually arise as a Dharmapala for the protection of Lama Tsongkhapa’s middle way teaching and Gaden lineage. Dulzin Drakpa Gyeltsen was the one who made that promise when he was the main disciple of Lama Tsongkhapa. The first incarnation of Dulzin Drakpa Gyeltsen was Chiwu Gopam who lived during the era of a previous Buddha, Lopa Desi. In his inspirational prayers made to the Buddha, he prayed that he would always be able to practice the Dharma in all his lives; and he would be reborn in barren lands where Buddha’s Dharma can benefit people directly.

    For the six subsequent rebirths of Dulzin Drakpa Gyeltsen, his prayers materialized and he successfully spread Buddha’s Dharma in barbarian lands as the king of those lands. For many lives from thereon, he took rebirth as learned monks and panditas to teach the Dharma. In the incarnation just before Dulzin Drakpa Gyeltsen, he took rebirth in a heaven where he was known as Lhayipu Shiwui Tog, who taught Dharma to the gods. As Dulzin Drakpa Gyeltsen, he devoted himself solely to the work of benefitting sentient beings, spreading and preserving the Dharma. The most famous activity was building Gaden Monastery, which he then offered up to his teacher, Lama Tsongkhapa.

    Thank you very much Rinpoche and Pastor Jean Ai for this educational article. Thank you Pastor David and Pastor Adeline for the dharma sharing sessions.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/becoming-dulzin-drakpa-gyaltsen.html
  • Lin Mun
    Sunday, Aug 28. 2016 09:55 PM
    Rejoice for the children. It is very important to instil dharma seed and knowledge from young so they will grow up with right values and mind.

    It is the best gift from a parents compared to other material stuff.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/letters-cards-gifts/manjushri-for-li-kims-boys.html
  • nut20-27SEP2016WEEK=PaINfull=,iWEAK
    Sunday, Aug 28. 2016 01:45 AM
    AFTER NEPAL many thousand stupas fall! STill!no conslussions in The Lamas ‘ ilussions https://www.thestar.com/news/world/2016/08/25/nearly-200-ancient-temples-damaged-in-burma-quake.html so will [email protected] be more more more more re.edu:(( https://www.thestar.com/news/world/2016/08/25/nearly-200-ancient-temples-damaged-in-burma-quake.html all is unfinish!i know TR&TEAMtry&do best.
  • nut20-27SEP2016WEEK=PaINfull=,iWEAK
    Saturday, Aug 27. 2016 10:13 PM
    so DS’ppl are.. let’s say good will ,as moust try have.WE LIVE IN KALIYOUGA. NEPAL QUAKES asKING4MORE MORE MORE MORE MORE MORE MORE favourite ole’mantra. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PVzljDmoPVs DRUGS as SEX same BRAin!part$ activate as ADICTiON. guess what part REPTILIAN’ not anunaki or mamamals same as CTA not ds or completter 100.00%pure white LIONS dorje change ole siting on grey%&ROULEasDAL!i!
  • nutLASTweekPaINfull(fool?)been&ISlikeIS
    Saturday, Aug 27. 2016 10:07 PM
    next knife at back ?!!! HH TRIJANG i do respect!own ways. btw CTAswiss$$$$&DIAMONDWAY$$$$ are many similar altrough in diferent aspects THE DOORS THERE ARE THINGS KNOWN AND UNKNOWN AND BETWEEN ARE THE DOORS OF PERCEPTION. tHE#PANCHEN LAMA it’s not .my “issue”. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bg92QpjRcJk .
  • nutLASTweekPaINfull(fool?)been&ISlikeIS
    Saturday, Aug 27. 2016 10:01 PM
    WELComE @in# ole’Z.er0 ^\\cryTIC$$ _zONE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xnKhsTXoKCI


    had been nice.. HH TRIJANG(DEAR RINPOCHE) who play4who.we willNOTseeLATER-IS NOW
    tHE teachers :dalai&ole ‘aRE very.very.special!SAme &saME.
  • nutLASTweekPaINfull(fool?)been&ISlikeIS
    Saturday, Aug 27. 2016 09:55 PM
    Furthermore, some Karma Kagyu practitioners have even gone so far as to place the blame squarely on Lama Ole Nydahl for causing the 1992 split within the Karma Kagyu School, _ – _ INDEED OLE IS UNDER GREAT PRESURE BY YEARS TOO …but!!!!!hard2prove,in students’mind MisterNYDAHLbyYEARS%planting!HATE4MUSLIMS(sure have dangerous%too,but) ()() (UKconsiderNOTgaveOLEvisaDUE2HATE’speach) &YOGI OLE useWORD KAGYUwar!is fine.for lama’…..Causing unHHHealability !makes split stronger.Abt qualitys of mind notOutter,or Inner ,but sECRETlewwel “i” not wanth write here. #PEACEnotMEAN1WAY diamond can mean penis too.to have balls mean to be honest!instead…have ‘own’ perfect comfort zONE$.sure it’s good to write well abt.every1,but when happens HURTEDppl undeR teacheR’GUaiDance than?it’s not my karma,sure only colective karma’cRUSH!my cv/&many ppl’liveFORCE @PastorDavid wish you more medit than write.HigHly POSIBLE that” GIRL AFTER ABORTION WILL NOT WRITE HERE “.and some the greatest yogis STill! funHave2Have.suggesting adoption instead abortion -its total misunderstaning womens’instincts!with own unconrtoLED desire poweRED.@haveAniceDAY##25TR-politician%?fewToo
  • nutLASTweekPaINfull(fool?)been&ISlikeIS
    Saturday, Aug 27. 2016 09:33 PM
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/lama-ole-nydahl.html
    some teachers do suferingToo&overUSE OWN POWER&POSITION2COVERit
    when you give audience,when not know how it is!than?____/its:PLAY>drama(“DHARMA”)
    [email protected]
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sw1_h1dwIPQ WHENallVICTIMSareSILENCEDbyFORCE!white?
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    past?NEPALuncounTABLEstupasFALL:( #LASTweekMYANMAR=minimum!200.pagodas/stupasFALL(iFELTveryVERYweak)
    THE SAINTEST!OFthe SAINTS$::oleNYDAHL..suRE!!
    samajas=us!earth-unPRotected. so ole quote:1997 panchen will not be free till hhdl wrong17
    yet PanchenlamaNr0 been in KagyuREfTREEtoo.(isFUEL2fiRE,it’solutiON?)4MONOPOLIST$ as dalai&nydahl”lamas”
    when ppl sufering even in some%becouse lamas than is thay are 100.00%ok, or??
    ____it’s good to be sure YOU PLAY4HH TRIJANG!orN0T.future is unknown&can be painfull__al is nice&fine!Public have to be AS IDIOT=colectiv karma blooding/stupasFalling
  • Lin Mun
    Saturday, Aug 27. 2016 03:12 PM
    Rejoice for Hecules for completing his puja and retreat during his school holidays. So determined in dharma even at a very young age. I still remember that I mostly spent my time watching tv and playing during my school holidays.

    I have been to retreat twice recently and it was a good time to calm our mind from the busy life.

    May Hecules sharing will inspire more people to engage in retreat and dharma practise.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/letters-cards-gifts/hecelus-wants-to-do-more.html
  • Lin Mun
    Saturday, Aug 27. 2016 02:54 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these beautiful pictures and video on Wat Muang. It is an amazing Buddha statue and I love that it is build in the middle of the paddy field.

    So natural and stunning in every angle and time. May the statue bless everyone who visited the place and also the area.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/largest-buddha-in-thailand.html
  • Lin Mun
    Saturday, Aug 27. 2016 02:42 PM
    It is heart wrenching reading this article. Animals is also living being and deserve to be loved, care and respected too. Why would anyone abandon him in a dumpsite and let him be disposed?

    Please stop abusing and torturing animals.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/why-dont-you-love-me-anymore.html
  • Tsem Rinpoche
    Saturday, Aug 27. 2016 07:10 AM
    You must read this. Wait till you are in a quiet place and not out on the streets or some cafe, but in your rooms and read this twice at least..it is so powerful. I just found it.


    Enjoy it and understand it well: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=107335

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The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
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 Rinpoche\'s quote is on my mom\'s final resting place. It was chosen by my dad and at that time he said it is the best one for both of them. My dad would be interred next to her when his time comes in the distant future. Pastor David Lai
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Rinpoche's quote is on my mom's final resting place. It was chosen by my dad and at that time he said it is the best one for both of them. My dad would be interred next to her when his time comes in the distant future. Pastor David Lai
Kechara\'s kindly Pastor Shin is in Mumu\'s room doing long life Amitayus retreat and blessings for Mumu, Dharma and Oser (my three doggies) right now. I am very grateful for this. She will complete 10,000 mantras in three days mini retreat to increase their lives, plant positive imprints in their mindstream, bless their health and collect merit indirectly for their future lives to practice dharma..... Tsem Rinpoche August 28, 2016.
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Kechara's kindly Pastor Shin is in Mumu's room doing long life Amitayus retreat and blessings for Mumu, Dharma and Oser (my three doggies) right now. I am very grateful for this. She will complete 10,000 mantras in three days mini retreat to increase their lives, plant positive imprints in their mindstream, bless their health and collect merit indirectly for their future lives to practice dharma..... Tsem Rinpoche August 28, 2016.
You must read this. Wait till you are in a quiet place and not out on the streets or some cafe, but in your rooms and read this twice at least..it is so powerful. I just found it. 


Enjoy it and understand it well: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=107335
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You must read this. Wait till you are in a quiet place and not out on the streets or some cafe, but in your rooms and read this twice at least..it is so powerful. I just found it. Enjoy it and understand it well: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=107335
This is a short and powerful blog post..be ready to have your heart broken. But you should still read this: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=107363
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This is a short and powerful blog post..be ready to have your heart broken. But you should still read this: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=107363
100 holy and beautiful Tsongkapas arrived today!
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100 holy and beautiful Tsongkapas arrived today!
(Tsem Rinpoche\'s doggy) hehehe...Mumu\'s face is always so cute..Mumu is very human-like, when you look into his eyes, it seems like you\'re looking into a human\'s eyes. Mumu has a very different energy than other dogs. He is really like a human.-Karen Chong
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(Tsem Rinpoche's doggy) hehehe...Mumu's face is always so cute..Mumu is very human-like, when you look into his eyes, it seems like you're looking into a human's eyes. Mumu has a very different energy than other dogs. He is really like a human.-Karen Chong
The amount of suffering, fear and pain they have to experience should be experienced by no one whether animal or human. It is heartbreaking to continuously see the sufferings animals endure for our \'pleasures\'. I do feel helpless, but helpless or not, we must create more awareness tirelessly. With awareness, their suffering can eventually be reduced. The ones who are slaughtered, it\'s too late. We can only shed tears but we have to still be concerned about future slaughter of animals and try to prevent. Helping and being kind to animals is not spiritual, strange or unnatural, but pure empathy of understanding their pain in that no sentient beings would want to suffer. Tsem Rinpoche
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The amount of suffering, fear and pain they have to experience should be experienced by no one whether animal or human. It is heartbreaking to continuously see the sufferings animals endure for our 'pleasures'. I do feel helpless, but helpless or not, we must create more awareness tirelessly. With awareness, their suffering can eventually be reduced. The ones who are slaughtered, it's too late. We can only shed tears but we have to still be concerned about future slaughter of animals and try to prevent. Helping and being kind to animals is not spiritual, strange or unnatural, but pure empathy of understanding their pain in that no sentient beings would want to suffer. Tsem Rinpoche
Dear Rinpoche,  I\'ve made some porridge for Rinpoche to have later when Rinpoche is hungry.  Thank you,  Beatrix (Sometime a pot of porridge tells you so much about another person and you just know why you appreciate them so much. Beatrix is such a caring and kind young person. It\'s a pleasure to work with her and have her around. Tsem Rinpoche)
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Dear Rinpoche, I've made some porridge for Rinpoche to have later when Rinpoche is hungry. Thank you, Beatrix (Sometime a pot of porridge tells you so much about another person and you just know why you appreciate them so much. Beatrix is such a caring and kind young person. It's a pleasure to work with her and have her around. Tsem Rinpoche)
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Sent from Samsung tablet.
Keep it up!
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Keep it up!
Karen does a nice sharing
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Karen does a nice sharing
Something nice from Wan San
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Something nice from Wan San
The holy statue of Vajra Yogini at Sanku, Nepal
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The holy statue of Vajra Yogini at Sanku, Nepal
“We need, in a special way, to work twice as hard to help people understand that the animals are fellow creatures, that we must protect them and love them as we love ourselves.” 
― César Chávez
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“We need, in a special way, to work twice as hard to help people understand that the animals are fellow creatures, that we must protect them and love them as we love ourselves.” ― César Chávez
Beautiful monastery in Eastern Tibet.
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Beautiful monastery in Eastern Tibet.
An alpine lake at more than 4000 meters in elevation in eastern Tibet
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An alpine lake at more than 4000 meters in elevation in eastern Tibet
This is Mount Kailash in Tibet where Vajra Yogini resides. Many Tibetans will go and pay homage to this mountain and do prayers at the base.
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This is Mount Kailash in Tibet where Vajra Yogini resides. Many Tibetans will go and pay homage to this mountain and do prayers at the base.
 The three most important statues of Buddha Shakyamuni, the Founder of Buddhism. The 1st photo is the Buddha aged 8, the 2nd photo is the Buddha aged 12 and the 3rd photo is the Buddha age 35. These three statues of Buddha Shakyamuni are believed to have been created 2,500 years ago and have the blessings of Buddha Shakyamuni. Two of the statues are in Tibet and one is in India. The statue of Buddha aged 8 is in the Ramoche Temple, the statue of Buddha aged 12 is in the Jhokang Temple and statue of Buddha aged 35 is in India at Bodhgaya.
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The three most important statues of Buddha Shakyamuni, the Founder of Buddhism. The 1st photo is the Buddha aged 8, the 2nd photo is the Buddha aged 12 and the 3rd photo is the Buddha age 35. These three statues of Buddha Shakyamuni are believed to have been created 2,500 years ago and have the blessings of Buddha Shakyamuni. Two of the statues are in Tibet and one is in India. The statue of Buddha aged 8 is in the Ramoche Temple, the statue of Buddha aged 12 is in the Jhokang Temple and statue of Buddha aged 35 is in India at Bodhgaya.
This gorgeous area is in Kongpo Tibet. Notice the village nestled among the purple trees. Such a beautiful place to live with a blue lake and clear mountains.
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This gorgeous area is in Kongpo Tibet. Notice the village nestled among the purple trees. Such a beautiful place to live with a blue lake and clear mountains.
Beautiful Gaden monastery built by Lord Tsongkapa over 600 years ago has produced countless powerful mahasiddhas, teachers, practitioners and masters in Tibet.
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Beautiful Gaden monastery built by Lord Tsongkapa over 600 years ago has produced countless powerful mahasiddhas, teachers, practitioners and masters in Tibet.
This stairway nestled among green hills is Sanku Vajra Yogini temple in Kathmandu, Nepal. It is one of the five sacred shrines and temples dedicated to Her. In this temple a lady who was an emanation of Vajra Yogini showed many miracles and when she passed they made a likeness of her body and enshrined it here. So we can worship Vajra Yogini in the form of this lady at this sacred temple in Sanku. I visited here with many of my dharma friends years ago to pay homage to this sacred Vajra Yogini. Tsem Rinpoche
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This stairway nestled among green hills is Sanku Vajra Yogini temple in Kathmandu, Nepal. It is one of the five sacred shrines and temples dedicated to Her. In this temple a lady who was an emanation of Vajra Yogini showed many miracles and when she passed they made a likeness of her body and enshrined it here. So we can worship Vajra Yogini in the form of this lady at this sacred temple in Sanku. I visited here with many of my dharma friends years ago to pay homage to this sacred Vajra Yogini. Tsem Rinpoche
They are digging up so much more ancient and beautiful Buddhist arts, statues/artifacts in Afghanistan. They have been buried for hundreds of years...Look at this recent find of a BEAUTIFUL Buddha head dug up in Hadda Afghanistan. Afghanistan of course was Buddhist in ancient times.
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They are digging up so much more ancient and beautiful Buddhist arts, statues/artifacts in Afghanistan. They have been buried for hundreds of years...Look at this recent find of a BEAUTIFUL Buddha head dug up in Hadda Afghanistan. Afghanistan of course was Buddhist in ancient times.
Dharma and sangha friends from the Monastery
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Dharma and sangha friends from the Monastery
Absolutely beautiful lake. I like the clearness of the water and vegetation very much
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Absolutely beautiful lake. I like the clearness of the water and vegetation very much
Something I just thought of....
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Something I just thought of....
Such a beautiful scene of a Japanese man made lake. Wish to do something like this so much.
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Such a beautiful scene of a Japanese man made lake. Wish to do something like this so much.
Did you know this about Vincent van Gogh?
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Did you know this about Vincent van Gogh?
AN ALTERNATIVE FARM FAMILY PORTRAIT SHOWS A HIGHER LOVE...this chicken mamma has adopted a puppy...and her biological child wonders why her new sibling looks so strange...and wants to get some love and some warmth, too...but this mother is not a speciesist...she loves all children of all species, equally...and this puppy is so big, he is getting all the warmth...wait your turn, chickie, she has lots to spare...LOVE MULTIPLIES AS YOU GIVE IT OUT, LOVE ALL BEINGS....Animal Freedom Fighter--Chickens have this type of capacity to care and love. They are sensitive beings...We should never harm or eat them.
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AN ALTERNATIVE FARM FAMILY PORTRAIT SHOWS A HIGHER LOVE...this chicken mamma has adopted a puppy...and her biological child wonders why her new sibling looks so strange...and wants to get some love and some warmth, too...but this mother is not a speciesist...she loves all children of all species, equally...and this puppy is so big, he is getting all the warmth...wait your turn, chickie, she has lots to spare...LOVE MULTIPLIES AS YOU GIVE IT OUT, LOVE ALL BEINGS....Animal Freedom Fighter--Chickens have this type of capacity to care and love. They are sensitive beings...We should never harm or eat them.
In Thailand, they also make large images of their holy gurus and or well known holy monks for people to honor, worship and make offerings to. We do the same in the Tibetan Buddhist tradition.
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In Thailand, they also make large images of their holy gurus and or well known holy monks for people to honor, worship and make offerings to. We do the same in the Tibetan Buddhist tradition.
This picture says it all. I wonder always why constructed items these days wear out so fast.
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This picture says it all. I wonder always why constructed items these days wear out so fast.
This is a beautiful portrait
1 month ago
This is a beautiful portrait
Sacred art work on Vajra Yogini
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Sacred art work on Vajra Yogini
Never forget to do our Vajra Yogini practice. We can lose our money, we can lose our friends, we can lose our position, we can lose our family, we can lose our wife, we can lose our husband and we can lose our materialistic possession because in the end we will lose all outer objects anyway, but NEVER lose our Vajra Yogini practice. Everything lost is meant to be lost because we are in samsara and whatever we enjoy in samsara will not last and will be lost. It is their nature. Never waste time, energy and keep procrastinating, but do our Vajra Yogini practice intensely and strongly and be firm. Samsara never grants permanence and happiness, but Vajra Yogini\'s practice will hand the universe and all the joys within it to you.-Tsem Rinpoche
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Never forget to do our Vajra Yogini practice. We can lose our money, we can lose our friends, we can lose our position, we can lose our family, we can lose our wife, we can lose our husband and we can lose our materialistic possession because in the end we will lose all outer objects anyway, but NEVER lose our Vajra Yogini practice. Everything lost is meant to be lost because we are in samsara and whatever we enjoy in samsara will not last and will be lost. It is their nature. Never waste time, energy and keep procrastinating, but do our Vajra Yogini practice intensely and strongly and be firm. Samsara never grants permanence and happiness, but Vajra Yogini's practice will hand the universe and all the joys within it to you.-Tsem Rinpoche

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Nice friends who help each other in Dharma works.
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Nice friends who help each other in Dharma works.
Venerable Geshe Puntsok speaks so well in both Tibetan and English: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=idQF6_6BD6s and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OZ-jCJQWMMs&t=0s
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Venerable Geshe Puntsok speaks so well in both Tibetan and English: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=idQF6_6BD6s and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OZ-jCJQWMMs&t=0s
Beautiful image of Avalokitesvara who has spoken before. Housed in Ladakh
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Beautiful image of Avalokitesvara who has spoken before. Housed in Ladakh
Our Panglung Kuten taking trance of Dorje Shugden in Tibet where he is greatly sought after
1 month ago
Our Panglung Kuten taking trance of Dorje Shugden in Tibet where he is greatly sought after
Beautiful painting of Atisha
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Beautiful painting of Atisha
Beautiful Tara has arrived in Kechara Forest Retreat. See many more pictures: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=105289
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Beautiful Tara has arrived in Kechara Forest Retreat. See many more pictures: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=105289
Gorgeous Buddha carved into the mountain in China
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Gorgeous Buddha carved into the mountain in China
Beautiful Dorje Shugden Gyenze statue by Kechara available at vajrasecrets.com
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Beautiful Dorje Shugden Gyenze statue by Kechara available at vajrasecrets.com
I like this Buddha image very much
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I like this Buddha image very much
Beautiful Buddha in the Bodhgaya enlightenment stupa
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Beautiful Buddha in the Bodhgaya enlightenment stupa
Pastor Lanse, contact her if you have questions..she is kind and helpful.
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Pastor Lanse, contact her if you have questions..she is kind and helpful.
Interesting
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Interesting
Buddha sat under this tree when he gained enlightenment
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Buddha sat under this tree when he gained enlightenment
Buddha Goddess Dukkar. Beautiful image.
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Buddha Goddess Dukkar. Beautiful image.
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  • Dog Abandoned - Why Don't You Love Me Anymore?
    2 days ago
    Dog Abandoned - Why Don't You Love Me Anymore?
    Dear friends around the world, I have come across so many stories of suffering, pain and abandonment but sometimes one stands out stronger than the rest. What happened to this little boy doggie is heartbreaking. I am re-posting here to create awareness and to bring attention to the heroes that help animals and create awareness to their suffering. The purpose of creating awareness is to let people know how much suffering animals go through and to not contribute towards this. To help lessen the suffering. Giving pain to any animal never brings good luck or happiness to anyone. Never harm animals and never eat them. Tsem Rinpoche Article link: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/why-dont-you-love-me-anymore.html *********************************** Dear mom and dad. They found me inside the dumpster you toss me in around 8 in the night. I was crying for u begging for u to come take me back. What have I done wrong. I feel pain all over my body. My joints ached, the hole in my buttocks hurt, I cannot see my behind. I try to get up but I can’t. I cry and cry until a man who was dumping his garbage heard me. He got the shock of his life finding me in the pile of rubbish. It was wet and smelly here. The worms are eating me inside out. Again I keep thinking, what have I done wrong. The vet said my condition is pretty bad. My old body won’t be able to handle it for long. I was full of lice, fleas and ticks. I had blood parasite too. My white blood count is too high. I am an old boy, in pain and suffering. After lengthy tests, they finally decide to let me go. I understand. I am not angry. I am just sad you are not with me. They gave me a nice meal, my last supper. It reminds me of you when I was young. You used to love me and handfed me when I was a baby. People cry around me. They held my hand as I closed my eyes. And then I finally let go and my heart beat the last. Dear mom and dad. I am now in heaven. For whatever I did wrong to you, I hope you won’t do to another dog what you did to me. I will always love you. Until we meet again. Remarks: Many thanks to Century Animal Medical Centre (Putatan) Dr Adit and Frankie for your help, for the love to animals you waited for us to help him even you were was closing. Thank you again for your compassion towards the less fortunate animals and rest in peace doggy.
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    It's Tibetan Language Video
  • Please see what this young boy says about grass.
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    Please see what this young boy says about grass.
  • Benji's touching story
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    Benji's touching story
  • Kyabje Zong Rinpoche giving Dharma teaching 2
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    Kyabje Zong Rinpoche giving Dharma teaching 2
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    Kyabje Zong Rinpoche giving Dharma teaching 1
  • Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
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    Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
  • Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
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    Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
  • Taking Trance
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    Taking Trance
  • See what humans can do
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    See what humans can do
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    Shocking undercover video shows animal abuse at 'humane cert
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    Video reveals what goes on inside 'humane slaughterhouse' in
  • People can really live their lives to save others. This is a good way to live. Beautiful video.
    7 months ago
    People can really live their lives to save others. This is a good way to live. Beautiful video.
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    9 months ago
    All beings have feelings and do not want pain, to be hurt or harmed. Therefore we must respect this and not harm animals. See this video how this man has made good friends with a special fish who comes when he rings for the fish. Touching. Tsem Rinpoche
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    11 months ago
    HH the Dalai Lama prays with HH Trijang Rinpoche and HH Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche. Such a beautiful video of His Holiness Dalai Lama, His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and His Holiness Dilgo Kyentse Rinpoche (Very exalted high Nyingma lama) are all praying together. In the background you see a young Kyabje Lati Rinpoche too. So beautiful. This is how it was before the ban. All the sects and high lamas were superbly harmonious. After the Dorje Shugden ban things changed for the worse. May the ban be released soon. Tsem Rinpoche

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The teenage kids are helping the Deco team for Lantern Festival, on 03.09.16 at Kechara House. Please do come and pay a visit and enjoy the program with all night long. Victoria Lam KSDS
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The teenage kids are helping the Deco team for Lantern Festival, on 03.09.16 at Kechara House. Please do come and pay a visit and enjoy the program with all night long. Victoria Lam KSDS
To train the kids to build their confidence level, Teacher Jesvin do guide them with group presentation and sharing for learning during their class . Victoria Lam KSDS
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To train the kids to build their confidence level, Teacher Jesvin do guide them with group presentation and sharing for learning during their class . Victoria Lam KSDS
Beside of learning of Buddha story, the kids do enjoying with other methods of Yoga during the class. Teacher Serena teach the kids of age group 5-6 years old. Victoria Lam KSDS
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Beside of learning of Buddha story, the kids do enjoying with other methods of Yoga during the class. Teacher Serena teach the kids of age group 5-6 years old. Victoria Lam KSDS
Dance ! Dance ! just Dance ! Guess what are they doing for behind the scene? Victoria Lam KSDS
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Dance ! Dance ! just Dance ! Guess what are they doing for behind the scene? Victoria Lam KSDS
Teacher Jaycee always teach with creatively and use different methods of teaching in group age of 9 - 10 years old. Victoria Lam KSDS
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Teacher Jaycee always teach with creatively and use different methods of teaching in group age of 9 - 10 years old. Victoria Lam KSDS
English and Chinese adult Dharma classes at Kechara House on Sundays. Lucy Yap
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English and Chinese adult Dharma classes at Kechara House on Sundays. Lucy Yap
Great experience meditating at dawn , in the living presence of the rising sun during the 2D 1N Inner Peace Retreat at Kechara Forest Retreat. Lucy Yap
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Great experience meditating at dawn , in the living presence of the rising sun during the 2D 1N Inner Peace Retreat at Kechara Forest Retreat. Lucy Yap
Garrick was blowing a balloon after his class at Kechara Sunday Dharma School. Stella Cheang, KSDS
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Garrick was blowing a balloon after his class at Kechara Sunday Dharma School. Stella Cheang, KSDS
Happy faces at Kechara Sunday Dharma School. Stella Cheang, KSDS
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Happy faces at Kechara Sunday Dharma School. Stella Cheang, KSDS
Posh from KSDS 7-8 years old class listening attentively. Stella Cheang, KSDS
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Posh from KSDS 7-8 years old class listening attentively. Stella Cheang, KSDS
Teacher Kien from KSDS 7-8 years old class did a story sharing. Stella Cheang, KSDS
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Teacher Kien from KSDS 7-8 years old class did a story sharing. Stella Cheang, KSDS
KSDS 5-6 years old student Wen Xin participating in class. Stella Cheang, KSDS
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KSDS 5-6 years old student Wen Xin participating in class. Stella Cheang, KSDS
Focus on mantra recitation before the class start. KSDS, Alice Tay
yesterday
Focus on mantra recitation before the class start. KSDS, Alice Tay
Teacher Kien led the class doing 3 prostrations. KSDS, Alice Tay
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Teacher Kien led the class doing 3 prostrations. KSDS, Alice Tay
Dance practice by the KSDS students after the dharma class. KSDS, Alice Tay
yesterday
Dance practice by the KSDS students after the dharma class. KSDS, Alice Tay
Creative artworks done by KSDS students. KSDS, Alice Tay
yesterday
Creative artworks done by KSDS students. KSDS, Alice Tay
KSDS children are practicing for the Mitsegma mantra song.
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KSDS children are practicing for the Mitsegma mantra song.
Meditation at Chamang Waterfall during the 2D 1 N Inner Peace Retreat at Kechara Forest Retreat. Lucy Yap
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Meditation at Chamang Waterfall during the 2D 1 N Inner Peace Retreat at Kechara Forest Retreat. Lucy Yap
Participants of 2D 1N Inner Peace Retreat were led to " walking meditation" at beautiful Tara Walk in Bentong, Pahang Malaysia. Lucy Yap
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Participants of 2D 1N Inner Peace Retreat were led to " walking meditation" at beautiful Tara Walk in Bentong, Pahang Malaysia. Lucy Yap
Participants of 2D 1N Inner Peace Retreat in "walking meditation" at beautiful Tara Walk. Lucy Yap
yesterday
Participants of 2D 1N Inner Peace Retreat in "walking meditation" at beautiful Tara Walk. Lucy Yap
Fundamental Meditation by Pastor Tat Ming at Kechara Forest Retreat  - 27/8/16 - Jill Yam
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Fundamental Meditation by Pastor Tat Ming at Kechara Forest Retreat - 27/8/16 - Jill Yam
We always recite Migsetma before start of our Sunday dharma class to ensure we have a clear mind & motivation. Lin Mun KSDS
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We always recite Migsetma before start of our Sunday dharma class to ensure we have a clear mind & motivation. Lin Mun KSDS
Children are encourage to share and present their thoughts during Sunday dharma class. Lin Mun KSDS
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Children are encourage to share and present their thoughts during Sunday dharma class. Lin Mun KSDS
For a change, outdoor class was conducted in one of the Sunday dharma class. Lin Mun KSDS
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For a change, outdoor class was conducted in one of the Sunday dharma class. Lin Mun KSDS
We always encourage group sharing during Sunday dharma class. Lin Mun KSDS
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We always encourage group sharing during Sunday dharma class. Lin Mun KSDS
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