Some thoughts on love relationships

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Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to  destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships,  being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion,  genuine care, sharing and honesty. Tsem Rinpoche

 

In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your  relationship will grow stronger and better with time. ~Tsem Rinpoche

 

What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.  Tsem Rinpoche

 

It takes a years to earn the trust of your spouse, but one selfish mistake to break their heart. Then years to regain their trust again. Just be honest from the beginning and always be loyal. Tsem Rinpoche

 

There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Everyone has so much pain already. No one is not damaged goods. So why bring more pain to your partner. Love, cherish and respect your partner by being honest and always communicating. Tsem Rinpoche

 

I am sorry is ok once, twice but not three times. If you are always apologizing, maybe you are not respecting the relationship you are in. Either respect your relationship or create a prison. It’s up to you. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Love is intentional. So are affairs out of marriage. You choose what you want. But remember, whatever you choose will come back to you if you are choosing for selfish reasons. Tsem Rinpoche

 

No one forced you to have a relationship. So do not make excuses for hurting your partner. Take responsibility for all your actions starting with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues. Tsem Rinpoche

 

All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it…Tsem Rinpoche

 

When we look back and see how many partners we have changed, we can be sure it is a sign we have not fulfilled what we should be doing in life. Finding partners is just a delay tactic perhaps for what we should really be doing..Tsem Rinpoche

 

Partners and spouses are only ok to have when we are ok. Tsem Rinpoche

 

Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt. Tsem Rinpoche

 

The best way to hurt yourself and your partner is when you use them to hide  behind your selfish avoidances. Tsem Rinpoche

 

When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche

 

If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness. Tsem Rinpoche

 

You deserve what you give. The universe owes you nothing. But you owe the universe everything. Be comfortable with that thought first and then seek friends. Tsem Rinpoche

 

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  1. tsemtulku on Feb 23, 2012 at 9:46 am

    Some thoughts on love and relationships..I am not the expert, but over the years I have to listen to alot of people and I came out with some of my own conclusions…

    • Sophia chung on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:19 am

      Dear Rinpoche,

      Thank you for your advice on relationship. It made me reflect on myself to improve tremendously..
      It was great pleasure to meet u in the gompa last nite. I feel very lucky to receive
      a dharma talk in person from you. Although shocking, It was priceless, the love and effort you put in for
      Your students. Thank you for taking the time to pay us the visit.

      Sophia

  2. freon on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:06 am

    With folded hand, Thank you Guru

  3. Irene on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:22 am

    But what about a situation in which one partner dominates the whole family, and always expects to be bowed and scraped to. He always complains about how nobody does anything right (like he wants), and threatens to leave if we don’t shape up. I often wonder how much of this is due to his family background. (He grew up in an abusive environment.)

    Don’t get me wrong–he can be charming and generous when he wants to be, but sometimes I think he does it in order to manipulate people. (When we do what he wants, he praises them or gives them little gifts, otherwise he criticizes and sulks.) If things get too quiet, then he’s good at manufacturing drama (like claiming to have a mortal illness), and he just loves to gossip. But he doesn’t think that HE is doing any of this, according to him he’s just humbly following what is right (as he was taught). And somehow he always ends up being the center of attention.

    I’m probably making him sound like a monster, but that’s not right. He can be loyal and compassionate (he loves animals, and gives to charity) and is obviously very hard working and a very good manager. He has the potential to make a positive impact on the world. But we’re in this lopsided relationship with him, in which he gets to set all the conditions, and anyone who can’t accept that can just leave. (He’s alienated a lot of people over the years, although he tells it a different way–who knows what the truth is.) Anyway, Rinpoche, I’m sure you know people like that. What to do…?

    • mrs cheung on Feb 23, 2012 at 8:12 pm

      dear rinpoche, i also know someone similar to what irene has written here in her reply, plus more. he also flirts with younger women but his sick and old wife could do nothing to stop him. facing such a monster, she could only soar and sob over her misfortune. uneducated, unemployed, unwanted, old and sick. she has no where to run to. what to do…?

  4. Hui Keng on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:35 am

    LOVE is in the air. Read on baby…How lucky Rinpoche giving advice around the clock! Rinpoche’s love is genuinely unconditional hence it survives all tests and challenges. We are pretty much lucky to have Rinpoche. We have sowed good seeds for this to happen and we must utilise fully given this opportunity. Rinpoche immensely love all of us, even more deeply than what our parents can do.

  5. skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:37 am

    Dear Rinpoche, thank you very much for the good advises.

    “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the same expectation on yourself.”

    “Trying to put away, hiding, or avoiding relationship issues won’t make them go away. You need to talk over or be clear about it.”

    “Always bringing up and rehashing previous issues mean the issue doesn’t solve go away or it just mean you’re not letting go and keep holding on to it.”

    • skyong on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:45 am

      Correction:
      “Be prepared to have huge disappointment if you expect your partner to act or be perfect in this way or that way while you put the _different_ expectation on yourself.”

  6. kenny wong on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:10 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Again, thank you for you kind insights. We choose our partners ourselves and have to accept him/her for who she is. The good, the bad, the ugly and the whole. How we percieve and accept our patners is totally up to us, thus we control our own happiness in the relationship. But if we are not generous and cannot lose out in the relationship and must win all the time, we will definately be the one losing at the end…. being unhappy, unfulfilled and bitter.

    Your words of advice are so true and spot on Rinpoche.

  7. Nicholas on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:13 am

    Thanks for Rinpoche advice.

    Found that the teaching is not just for relationship but it is also applicable for anything we do in our life.

    It’s all about care. How much we want to do for others is how much we cares for others.
    We responsible for the relationship because no one can force us. We are the one choose to be and should go all the way. I like this! No point to regret on what we have not done to save the relationship because we can always be the one to take action first.

    It’s not about who love whom more than who suppose to take the first move, it’s how much you love, how much you appreciate and how far you want to go with your relationship.

    This is just applicable for everything in our life.

  8. Han Siew Fong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    All the advices will sink into my mind. .. and have a better relationship with my partner

    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness.” Tsem Rinpoche

    i contemplated on the above and i do realize the meaning of the quote.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this wonderful post

  9. Jace Chong on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:59 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing these very useful quotes.

    Relationship used to be something very hard for me to juggle in between love and selfishness. When I had quarrel with partner, I always not sure this is because I want him to be my way, or I want my partner to improve. And the definition of improvement is vary to different people.

    “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications. ”

    This is a very practical way. I should not focus on what I want, but what is best for our partner.

    Even Rinpoche didn’t go through all these, Rinpoche understand better than everyone else what should we practice in relationship. Salute to Rinpoche, as always!

  10. shivani on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    I want to know a little about Karmic Connection.We meet people but they leave us yet we cannot earse them

  11. yekyee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:10 pm

    Each of Rinpoche is very logic and make sense. When we choose a relationship, must always our partner with real care and patient. No one is perfect. How can we go along with each other, tolerance is another good deed we need practice. I believe very strongly on it. My aunty friend always with me, it is not easy for two different character person live, eat, play, work together, need so much efforts and patient. I agreed. Thankyou for Rinpoche sharing.

  12. Margaretlee on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts and experiences you have encountered with the many stories you were told.

    I think responsibility, honesty, sincerity and intergrity apply to everything we do in our life, be it work or relationship.

    There is a saying that people only starts to know themselves when they are in a relationship, it is indeed true when we realise we always demand this and that from our partner and never gives back, a state of complete self absorption. relationship is about giving and not taking.

    I paticularly like this quote from Rinpoche : “When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. Tsem Rinpoche”

    Going to share this blog with many of my samsara friends…..

  13. tenzin llhamo on Feb 23, 2012 at 1:46 pm

    This is the one I like the most. Because of being dishonest, so many relationships are destroyed. How sad! But now that we understand, we must be better. Treat relationships with respect, humility and honesty.

    ‘In all relationships, honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time’

  14. abby on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:15 pm

    Love and compassion is the greatest lesson in everyone’s life.
    Yes, Rinpoche may not be the expert, but yes, Rinpoche do care about everyone. And with this compassion, Rinpoche is the Love Guru :)

  15. Yvonne Yap on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche! this is a reminder , remind the things we know, but we always forgot.Because you care.

  16. Ash Ng on Feb 23, 2012 at 2:56 pm

    Dear Rinpoche, You have given us some wonderful insights on having relationships with others. I especially agree with the few advises below;

    1) When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first.

    2) Sometimes deep seeded insecurities manifest in us not being able to keep a relationship and we keep changing them. We should work on ourselves instead of finding more partners to hurt.

    I feel these 2 major points encompass all the others and when we are REALLY ready after dealing with our deep seeded insecurities, comfortable and accepting ourselves then only we take the next step. Appreciate Your enlightening insights and You care for us with others. Will put in effort working on these as the essence of Dharma is compassion towards others and not hurting or harming them would be the first priority. Thus, working on oneself first is the key to happiness. Tashi delek

  17. Uncle Eddie on Feb 23, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    Is love all we need to make a successful and fulfilling life relationship? Obviously, not all love relationships are the “Life Partnership kind”. It is important to realise and recognise that, and be okay with that. We can learn so much from the experiences of past relationships, to change towards the better, to a more adaptable, improved and acceptable one for both partners. It is everyone’s goal to have the desire of finding a life partner who caters to one’s entire needs and satisfaction. We all want someone who looks good, always make us laugh, supports us, respect us and trusts us well. Before we can find that ‘someone’, we need to be that person – that includes accepting all faults and short comings of oneself and that of your life partner too. A healthy relationship, essentially, should have a good building up of respect, loyalty, trust and a good admiration for each other; more similar to a house solid basic foundation structure, where the more love and nurturance we put into it, is what makes it a happy home, and a successful and fulfilling life relationship in the years to come.

  18. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:01 pm

    “And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is”

  19. CPD- Centro de Patologia do Desenvolvimento on Feb 23, 2012 at 5:02 pm

    And it takes no time to fall in love
    But it takes you years to know what love is….

  20. SEreNa on Feb 23, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    Thanks for Rinpoche sharing on some thoughts for love and relationships.

    We must always remember to share and communicate with our love partner for every challenges we face in life. You have make your choice to spend the rest of your life with the loved one. SO, Be responsible and respect to the loved one. Don’t be selfish as pain will arise to the loved one including youself.

  21. Khoo HH on Feb 23, 2012 at 10:13 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche for the sharing on love relationships.
    “If you hurt your partner in anyway and blame it on a outside reason, it is a clear indication you are covering your deep selfishness”
    How can we hurt a person if we truly love that person, and we know that the person also love us. I think “Selfishness” is the only explaination on this. A lot of time we are treating our partner good because we wanted to feel good, not because we want our partner to feel good. I have heard of this situation a lot of times from people around me. A guy wanted to bring his girlfriend for a nice dinner because he wanted to make his girlfriend happy. But he got angry with his girlfriend when she took a long time to makeup. Suppose to be a romantic dinner, ended up with a quarrel in the house. I will always think, what is the objective of this dinner? To not miss the reserved table, or to make your partner happy? Perhaps he thought that his effort of booking the table is greater than his partner. I think if a couple truly love each other, even a roadside stall will be a romantic dinner.

  22. bengkooi on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:46 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these thought provoking quotes. My favourite is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty.”

    To share with those who have not had the fortune to hear one of Rinpoche’s talks about relationships… As Rinpoche has said many times, a dharma relationship is different from a secular relationship because we are not in it just for ourselves. When we enter a dharma relationship, we must be determined to make it last. We must be determined to make it work regardless of whatever problems come along. We cannot just try things out because we may hurt the other person and that is a big no no.

    Its good to be aware of these things, because there are people who jump into relationships or even dharma relationships unaware of what it really entails and the commitment that we must put in.

    Bottom line – dont hurt others.
    Bottom bottom line: be a monk/nun!

  23. Any Loke on Feb 23, 2012 at 11:53 pm

    Wow, is so true about what Rinpoche wrote. But, human is really selfish, sometimes, we never think that the problem of the relationship is actually created by oursleves. After all the teachings and Puja that I have done it really helped so much in all aspects.

  24. Wee Liang on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:43 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you so much for the dharma talk last night. Also thank you very much for all the quotes on love and relationships. Its very enlightening, makes me reflect. My favourite quote is ‘The best way to love someone is to be the best you can be. In all relationships, being the best can only boost your partner’s trust in you.’ This one is harddddddd.

    Wee Liang

  25. vc on Feb 24, 2012 at 1:29 pm

    Rinpoche is very lucky to have get out of samsara and not involve in opposite sex relationships.Everyone should think they are indeed lucky and have the privilege to left the home life and seek the Way.We can only see what is worldly and not transcendental.This life is not just about humanity but transcendental to the ultimate reality.Nirvana.

  26. Jean Ai on Feb 24, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    After reading this, putting it alongside the video Rinpoche sent to us (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLH6-P6rIv8), I gotta add to this post – never choose someone on the basis of their looks! It all fades with age, no matter how rich, poor, fat or skinny you are! And death comes to everyone, so how do you want to live your relationship? With anger, disharmony and bitterness, or do you want your relationship to be the cause of something bigger and better? Rinpoche always says some relationships drag people down, and others lead to better things…if yours is the former, time to stop being selfish and let go, both for your benefit and for your partner’s!

  27. Datuk May on Feb 24, 2012 at 4:54 pm

    The quote I like best is “Love is a word used lightly sometimes. Love must entail loyalty, compassion, genuine care, sharing and honesty”. I totally agree with this and in my own view love is not confined to couples and family only but rather it is universal and to be practised unconditionally.

    Love is tough to give as it challenges our selfishness, ego etc etc that concocts most negative emotions in most people. Being as delusional as we are, we think we are in bliss when there is love.

    I totally disagree that Rinpoche is not an expert in relationships and love, if the above quote is what attracts me then it is true for me that Rinpoche is the only one person I know that truly gives love to every sentient being.

    Now that is tough to practise.

  28. Li Kim on Feb 25, 2012 at 5:23 am

    These quotes are true and real. Not the usual mambo jumbo you get in books and cards. Many of the quotes from Rinpoche brought back the sweet and fond memories of relationships for me. I am not bitter la but can say that I have become slightly disenchanted. I think that I will just enjoy the quotes and not think too much into relationships.

    “When you can’t keep a relationship and it always ends after a while. That is your subconscious saying you really don’t want a relationship but you are using this as perhaps an excuse to avoid some bigger issues.” – this applies to many I must say…

  29. vc on Feb 25, 2012 at 1:03 pm

    Dear All,
    All of your opinions about relationship maybe right or wrong.But all you haven’t got there yet.To get out of six defiling objects from your mind.All of you are subjected to six dusts defiling senses which all of you are attracted to such as beauty,intelligent,smell,senses.Be honest to yourself and speak the truth.Don’t go and claim yourself you are the GOD and not attracted to anything and swear and curse others when you are now wearing the ‘Human Body’. If you think don’t like this world you can always calm your mind and return to the source,the Origin and achieve perfect enlightenment like the Buddha.If you think you like what you are doing,just go with the flow and don’t complain.

  30. Amala Sheilagh Mercer on Feb 25, 2012 at 2:54 pm

    Thank you , this is something , Dear Tsem Rinpoche, I will print put and read often ,I may also share it often to anyone open to reading it. And a copy in my washsroom, never know who reads the only reading matterial available to them there, I truly, realize and not all that long ago, that, there is an emotional love and then there is unconditional love,. That is a start , I believe, even though, this only scratches the surface, because of an out of body experience, it was difficult to fathom that much love . Yet changed my life. Now this here to read and remind me. .
    Love and Blessings
    Amala Sheilagh

  31. Li Kheng on Feb 25, 2012 at 3:29 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for this insightful post on relationships. We spend so much time chasing after prince/princess charming whom we believe will make our world a better place. We often forget to consider using ourselves to make someone else’s world a better place. Thank you Rinpoche for this reminder. I especially like this quote:

    “There is so much samsara out there, why bring more samsara into your relationship with your partner. Tsem Rinpoche”

  32. patsy on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:55 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for sharing these useful quotes which we can use not only in relationships but with every one whether its friends relationship or love relationship. When we care for others and treat them well with respect, we will get the results of being treated well by others too.

    I like this one, “What you get out of a relationship is what you put into it. You want it to be positive then treat your partner with respect, loyalty, honesty and good communications.”

  33. Uncle Lai on Feb 25, 2012 at 11:56 pm

    Thank you once again Rinpoche for all the wonderful quotes on love and relationships. You are the most caring person, always look into us and find ways to explain and teach how to live a happier life.

    Of all the quotes I like this the most. ‘In all relationships honesty is most important. If you are honest, your relationship will grow stronger and better with time.’ I fully agree with that because if we are honest we will not cheat, we dont lie, we trust and we are humble. I think this is so because it comes from inside us,

  34. Julia Tan on Feb 29, 2012 at 3:05 am

    “All things are avoidable, it’s how selfish we are not to avoid it”

    Something as simple as saying NO and we can avoid hurting ourselves and our partners. We didn’t do it. We let it be.

    If you truly love your partners, do something about it, before it is too late..

  35. Albert Ratchaga on Feb 29, 2012 at 9:50 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for the quotes, some times we can be very possessive when we love someone, either to our partner or family, we tend to be very controlling, and the reason of being like this is just because “I LOVE YOU”.

    just a simple word I Love You, it became a manifestation of our selfishness, instead of accepting the person we love, we tend to turn them into our ideally person to be. we expect everything from them but giving nothing from ourselves… so are we really loving them or we actually loves ourselves more? Is love a taking or giving?

  36. Melinda yap on Mar 1, 2012 at 7:14 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for your thoughts and advice on love and relationships. It is so so true what Rinpoche has shared. After reading, I looked back and pondered about my past relationships… It is true in order for a relationship to be in harmony,both parties should be honest plus have respect for each other from the beginning of the relationship. This will in time gives security and stability to the relationship…I love all the above thoughts by Rinpoche on love & relationships…I’ll save it so I could remind myself what love and relationship is all about! ;-)

  37. su_zan on Mar 6, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Dear Rinpche thank you for all the above quotes. It reminds me of the talk you give during my wedding day.

    For me the above quotes not only apply on a couple relationship, it applies to all kinds of relationships (friends, teachers, family, children and etc)

    One of which is
    “Never make promises then you break them with your spouse. It is the best way to destroy something good. Tsem Rinpoche”

  38. Wan Wai Meng on Mar 23, 2012 at 11:36 am

    These are really thought provoking thoughts about relationships. Thank you sharing them, such quotes will really help people think about what they are doing.

  39. mitra on Jun 13, 2012 at 10:53 am

    good advice for every one.

  40. Jessica Yap on Dec 7, 2012 at 4:52 pm

    Everything begins with me, myself, and I. How i feel, how i react to situations, how i treat others, everything is from me. These quotes should be read every now and then to contemplate on..

    Thank you for the profound quotes, Rinpoche!

  41. Paris on Feb 3, 2013 at 11:36 pm

    To add to this, Rinpoche gave a wonderful teaching on how to maintain a successful relationship at one of his students’ wedding a few years ago. I remember it being an especially beautiful teaching because the girl was Buddhist but the boy was Christian – and the advice given was just as relevant for both. Relive the teaching here! (it comes in three parts) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YO9yjD_j5HI

    David Lai has also written a book about relationships based on these teachings – a very cute way of presenting different thoughts on relationships, but with this same underlying message that Rinpoche gives us. Here! “Conversations in Love”: http://www.kechara.com/publications/publications/mind-body-spirit/conversations-in-love/

  42. Paris on Feb 14, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    Rereading this again this Valentines’ day and thinking about how, at the heart of everything, is this real gritty honesty that we all need to look at, in every of our relationships. Once the razzle dazzle of moonlight, flowers and chocolates dies down, we are left ourselves to ourselves – then what?

    Then we start creating problems, either for ourselves, our parents, or both. The relationship itself doesn’t go wrong; nor is it our partner’s fault when things don’t peter out the way we want it to. At the end of the day, we have to remember that it takes two hands to clap and to ask ourselves what it is that *I* am doing right or wrong?

    Remember too, whenever things are tough, of the good times, the positive stuff and why it is we fell in love in the first place. Good always wins over the evil and yes, I do still believe that love can make the world go round, if only we stick with it.

  43. Joy on Feb 14, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    When you are comfortable with yourself and you can be by yourself, that is when you know you are ready for a real relationship. It’s not about the other person, it’s about how you have accepted yourself first. ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    I like this quote the best… it is really true… most of us get in to a relationship for all the wrong reasons. They think life is like some Hollywood fantasy and they go chasing after this idealistic dream which in the end hurts us more than anything else when it does not fit our projections and expectations. And when get in to a relationship we tend to forget ourselves and our whole life revolves around that person, we do whatever that person wants, wishes, and sometimes we even allow ourselves to be use and abuse… all in the name of love. And we become dependent of this person like a puppet. I have seen this in so many of my friends… is it really love? Or is it because of our own insecurities and selfish reasons?

    Being true and comfortable with yourself, knowing who you are, where you stand and dealing with your own self first is far better because then when we do enter a relationship, we compliment the other instead of epecting, we give, instead of depending, we’re interdependent and it is a mutual, two way street kind of thing, where both can grow individually and together… especially if both partners were doing spirit Dharma practice together… it becomes a blessing to one another instead of an obstacle. A couple like this is a big inspiration… http://blog.tsemtulku.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/for-couples.html

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  45. Carmen Lin @ KMP on Sep 23, 2013 at 9:37 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts, with folded hands. What Rinpoche said is very truth and applicable to anyone of all walks of life. I will read it again and again when friends of mine had relationship problem or I myself having the problem, I can know where to find the solution and words of advice. Thank you again Rinpoche, for your efforts to enhance the lives of others.

  46. Louisa on Jan 14, 2014 at 8:08 pm

    I’m always learning and practising loving people around me unconditionally. Although I did not love my parents the way they expect, i still love them but they can never get enough. Just because I dont love them the way they want and they thought I dont love them. I really upset and dont know what more I can do.

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  • Pastor Adeline
    (Monday, Apr 27. 2015 03:59 PM)
    April 27, 2015 @ 1:31am (GMT 8+)

    It’s been more than 36 hours and over 90 aftershocks have been experienced so far. 25 of those have been equal / near-equal to the magnitude of Saturday’s quake.

    Fresh tremor of 5.4 magnitude felt in Nepal at around 22:20 NST (12:35am Malaysia time GMT 8+).

    Death toll exceeds 2,288 (Source: United Nations), at least 1100 killed in Kathmandu Valley and 1200 outside Kathmandu Valley (Home Ministry).
    - 200 in Bhaktapur
    - 151 in Lalitpur
    - 50 in Eastern zone
    - 1000 in Central
    - 200 in Western region (Kantipur)

    At least 6,239 people injured. At least 41 climbers on Everest were injured.Over 200 people missing in the Everest region.

    Death toll in India stands at 67; death toll in Tibet stands at 18.

    Six Royal Nepalese Army soldiers and Three Nepal Police officers have lost their lives during the relief operations.

    120 people rescued from Barpak Village in Gorkha (near the epicentre of Saturday’s quake).

    A collective funeral will be held for unclaimed bodies.

    People will be spending their second night outdoors due to continued aftershocks.

    Government has requested the people to remain alert till 3pm tomorrow.
    Meteorological department forecasts heavy rainfall.

    Nepal government has urged everyone to donate their blood.

    6,600,000 people affected (Source: UN).

    Rural parts of Nepal have suffered landslides and roads are cut off.

    Constant power outage, telephone line congestion and crowded hospitals.

    Hotels and wealthy homes have their own generators but are reliant on diesel being trucked in from India. Supplies are dwindling due to road closures.

    On Sunday, the government began setting up 16 relief stations across Kathmandu and the rest of the country, to ease distribution of water, food and medicine (Source: Ministry of Home Affairs).

    Kathmandu Airport has resumed operations.

    Israel: preparing to send two Boeing-747s carrying 260 aid workers and more than 90 tonnes of cargo to Kathmandu.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/nepal-disaster-2015.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Monday, Apr 27. 2015 03:45 PM)
    The best anyone can do if not enlightenment for now, is to gain mastery over taking rebirth coupled with developing Three Principle Paths. Where you want to take rebirth can be determined by yourself if you practice the sacred Vajra Yogini Tantra thoroughly.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/starting-on-vajra-yogini-now.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Monday, Apr 27. 2015 03:44 PM)
    I thought I would share this compilation for anyone wishing to practice without initiation and heavy commitments of tantra. Without initiation you can practice as I have compiled below. May you be blessed. May you be protected by the mystical, magical, peaceful, wrathful and secret emanations of Lord Manjushri until enlightenment.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/white-manjushri-sadhana.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Monday, Apr 27. 2015 03:44 PM)
    Amongst all pujas, the fire puja is considered the king of all Pujas. It is the most powerful of all pujas within Tibetan Buddhism and its purpose is basically to remove all obstacles and its stains – drima to enlightenment.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/what-is-fire-puja.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Monday, Apr 27. 2015 03:43 PM)
    Reincarnation forms the basis of Buddhism. It is the pillar of belief which gives rise to the cause and effect way of living or karma. Reincarnation has been followed not only by Buddhism but by the one billion Hindus currently and also in the past many religions including Christianity.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/film-tv-music/reincarnation-videos-you-must-watch.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Monday, Apr 27. 2015 03:42 PM)
    Gyenze is Dorje Shugden in a wealth form specifically to help us gain resources through correct means. ~ H.E. Tsem Rinpoche

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/prayers-and-sadhanas/dorje-shugden-gyenze-to-increase-life-merits-and-wealth.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Monday, Apr 27. 2015 03:42 PM)
    From time to time we come across some very special people who have many huge challenges in life. I’ve not met him or had the pleasure to inquire further, but the documentary is touching. Whatever they wish to do, their surroundings are not easy or conducive. But they don’t give up. They don’t just say it’s too hard. They continue and persevere and then they succeed under the most trying circumstances.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/visma-raj-paudel.html
  • james
    (Sunday, Apr 26. 2015 05:57 PM)
    Dear Rinpoche, Thank you for your extensive works for living beings. Beautiful.

    I’ve just completed notes from an oral commentary on Samayavajra I received from the attendant to the late Trijang Dorjechang, Gelong Losang Choepel, and searching images found a link to your Samayavajra Puja page where you offer to perform various pujas for others.

    I’ve completed this preliminary many times, practice it daily within Lama Chopa, and was surprised and curious to see your mention of it as it is generally not talked about much…hence my request and receiving the commentary from Gen-la.

    I see mention on your page of a small and medium sized puja. Does this mean you have short and long sadhanas of Samayavajra, or is this referring to the length of the puja performed for others? Having a special connection, I am interested in any information or other sadhanas about this Guru-Deity. I use the sadhana included in Guide to Dakini Land, with slight augmentation based on Gen-la’s commentary.

    Thanks again.

    Yours,
    james
  • tsemtulku
    (Sunday, Apr 26. 2015 11:47 AM)
    Kache Marpo has entered a oracle monk now and speaking to a large group of faithful who have gathered. They have made the traditional offerings and asking questions. He is in full trance and compassionately speaking. Tsem Rinpoche
  • tsemtulku
    (Sunday, Apr 26. 2015 06:35 AM)
    Do you know what happened on April 26th? It is shocking and very heart-wrenching. I’ve collected some information and pictures here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=65159
  • xuliang
    (Sunday, Apr 26. 2015 04:41 AM)
    The secret of a Master. ….. There was a silence. Then he said in a soft, almost shy voice, “You see, I don’t mind what happens”.

    I don’t mind what happens. That is the essence of inner freedom. It is a timeless spiritual truth: release attachment to outcomes, and deep inside oneself – one will feel good no matter what. One will feel good because one is connected to, one with, the energy of the universe, the beauty and power of creation itself.

    Or as the Master put it: “‘When you live with this awareness, this sensitivity, life has an astonishing way of taking care of you. Then there is no problem of security, of what people say or do not say, and that is the beauty of life.’
  • Andrew Hibberd
    (Saturday, Apr 25. 2015 07:52 PM)
    how many rinpoches are there in the world ?
  • Andrew Hibberd
    (Saturday, Apr 25. 2015 07:43 PM)
    In Australia there is a famous saying
    do not piss in anyones pocket

    the translation to english means
    do not say sweet things to someone for benefit
    of you and yours

    Where we live it is as if through our understanding of indigenous voice
    and vision and the nasty way the english stole the country away from the indigenous ones that time is near where we can ask everyone to not visit here and let this island repair itself
    Australia is not designed to have 100 million people we have hundreds of billions of sentient beings and animals we need to protect to become the lungs of the future of the world . check your science dont come here ,
  • Andrew Hibberd
    (Saturday, Apr 25. 2015 07:38 PM)
    being the change?
    pleased to listen to the answer moving forward
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Saturday, Apr 25. 2015 04:33 PM)
    Next week’s blog chat How to Know No-Trungpa Rinpoche http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/how-to-know-no.html.

    DATE and TIME:
    Saturday 2nd May, 11am-12pm (GMT+8)
    USA Friday 1st May, 8pm (PST)

    Please be prepared and see you soon!

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The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
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because all unknown with familiarity becomes the known.
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I have just finished my post with my team on Wealth Gyenze- a method to increase wealth both inner and outer- http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=59965
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This is so important to remember. Tsem Rinpoche 
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When you have loved, given care, resources, material needs, support, emotional bonding and your sincerity to someone, but they don't have the merits to see it, let them be. Tsem Rinpoche 
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My beautiful Kache Marpo statue
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My small room in Gaden
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These are my thoughts here....
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Be balanced.
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Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche visited me in my house in Gaden Monastery in this picture. Tsem Rinpoche
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Gaden Shartse Monastery 1975.
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Graceful & elegant White Manjushri.
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Very unusual form of Lord Manjushri. Fascinating and holy.
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Beautiful statue of Yamantaka who is a practice highly recommended by Je Tsongkapa.
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My grandmother Dechen Minh, she is from the ruling family of Xianjiang
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left to right: My cousin Judy, My mother (red), my cousin Toktun
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Left to right: My mother, family friend and my grandmother
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My mother Dewa Nimbo.
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My grandmother Dechen Minh with my mother Dewa Nimbo.
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Beautiful  5 meter rock carving in Dzongsar Monastery in China. 
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Such a beautiful picture of a fully enlightened teacher. Tsem Rinpoche 
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When statues are consecrated, the actual Buddhas are invited to reside within these holy objects. This sacred statue of Vajra Yogini in Tibet has spoken to sincere practitioners on several occasions. Tsem Rinpoche (More to read on Vajra Yogini here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/category/vajra-yogini)
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This person in the picture with me is a very humble, kind and knowledgable senior monk. I have the great merits to be considered his friend. He has been very kind to me on many occasions. I have the deepest respects for him and he has been serving others for nearly 40 years as the personal authorized oracle of Dorje Shugden, Kache Marpo, Setrap, Shidak Gyenze. He was trained up as a monk oracle by His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and Kyabje Domo Geshe Rinpoche. He is fully qualified and benefits many with his oracular abilities. You can see him here in full trance in the monastery with hundreds of monks and people: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Xbghs-mdNc I thank Dorje Shugden for appearing in oracles to speak to us and I thank this oracle monk for his services. The authentic and beneficial oracle tradition of Tibet is 1,000 year old. Tsem Rinpoche
1 week ago
Wonderful people with me. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 weeks ago
I will never give up Dorje Shugden just because you taunt and ban me. Tsem Rinpoche 
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This really happened.
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Hate is not good.
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This is good!!! Share it please!
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I've always not felt comfortable reading on computer screen for over a decade now. When I do, I feel I am slower. I thought it's just me, studies show it's most people. I am always faster and more efficient and catch more things when items are printed out for me. I enjoy books much more than reading online. I dread reading on the phone. I am super slow.Nice little trivia that affirms my habit.
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Take a look at the face carefully. Always be kind to animals. Tsem Rinpoche 
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So many beautiful items to support our spiritual practice. Go to http://www.vajrasecrets.com immediately.
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Dear friends, I have just completed the following blog posts: 1. Who is Tulku Drakpa Gyeltsen: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=60008 2. Dorje Shugden Retreat: A powerful practice to fulfill wishes: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=62422 3. Ganden Sumtseling Monastery the beautiful: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=61321 4. Why Hide and Attack A Monk? http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=63287 5. YAKs at the Taman Megah Orphanage! http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=62929 6. They Want to Kill Me : http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=63769 Do enjoy most of the articles, information and beautiful pictures. Some are surprising to say the least. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
Dear friends, I have just completed the following blog posts: 1. Who is Tulku Drakpa Gyeltsen: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=60008 2. Dorje Shugden Retreat: A powerful practice to fulfill wishes: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=62422 3. Ganden Sumtseling Monastery the beautiful: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=61321 4. Why Hide and Attack A Monk? http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=63287 5. YAKs at the Taman Megah Orphanage! http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=62929 Do enjoy most of the articles, information and beautiful pictures. Some are surprising to say the least. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
How fortunate to meet these holy and erudite beings. To be in the presence of His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche is result of merits. To be student of erudite Geshe Kelsang is fortunate. Respects to them. Tsem Rinpoche 
3 weeks ago
A holy statue of Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen lak. I miss him so much. I lived with him and served him for 8 years. Tsem Rinpoche 
3 weeks ago
Very nice message. Thanks. 
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These 8 monks are very special. There is a lot more than meets the eye. You will be able to learn some interesting knowledge. Have free download too! See what I mean: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=63299
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There is a very interesting story behind this card. You have to find out here!! :) Enjoy: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=57485
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Taken in Kechara Forest Retreat's Wisdom Hall. Wisdom Hall is dedicated to the practice of Dorje Shugden. Tsem Rinpoche 
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This was taken in Kechara Forest Retreat where we have a lovely statue. Take a look. Tsem Rinpoche 
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Did you know the LARGEST Dorje Shugden statue in the world is in Kechara? Take at look at never before published photos: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=63142
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Tashi Choling in Tibet where His Holiness Kyabje Pabongka Rinpoche resided and did his incredible meditational retreats. He had many visions of various Buddhas in this location in Tibet. Now it is a pilgrimage sight. Tsem Rinpoche
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This beautiful statue of Tulku Drakpa Gyeltsen is in my personal altar in my home.
4 weeks ago
This is my 2nd grade class photo. Can you tell which one is me?
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From this blue container, someone obeyed the 'call of the divine' and worked hard and hence Findhorn was born. Inspiring thousands for clean, spiritual, eco living. Tsem Rinpoche 
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Entrance into Kechara Forest Retreat. Beautiful photo by Pastor Seng Piow. Tsem Rinpoche 
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The sacred Vajra Yogini stupa in Kechara. Contains many holy relics and precious items associated with Vajra Yogini. Tsem Rinpoche 
4 weeks ago
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    In the 1960s, H.H. Yongzin Kyabje Ling Rinpoche would always organize Lama Chöpa (Guru puja-composed by Panchen Rinpoche) with 1000 offerings in Bodhgaya and would often be joined in by H.H. Yongzin Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche, and sometimes the 16th Karmapa would even join in. Wonderful. Watch this blessed and old footage of the two Yongzins doing Lama Chöpa in Bodhgaya. Yongzin is the special title to those who were the root and close teachers of His Holiness the Dalai Lama. There were two official Yongzins. Trijang Rinpoche and Ling Rinpoche were the Yongzins of the current Dalai Lama for over 40 years living nearby to Dalai Lama and passing him all the teachings necessary. They were extremely kind and giving all necessary teachings, empowerments and oral transmissions that Dalai Lama is disseminating to the world today to millions. Tsem Rinpoche http://www.tsemrinpoche.com
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    I just purchased an empty locket from an art store for around $10 and had a nice picture of His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche inserted in the front and His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche inserted on the others side at home. Attached a str...ing and it's good to wear for blessings. Look how beautiful. I am the type, I devote myself to my practice but I remember it is the sole kindness of the guru's teachings. Without the guru there is no dharma at all as I cannot speak to Buddha directly. Tsem Rinpoche
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    I was gifted this wonderful blingy shiny new pen by a spiritual friend. I didn't know Swarovski pens write so smoothly. I am going to enjoy writing with this. Thank you Jessica Pimentel. Tsem Rinpoche
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    This is a very inspiring video by Jim Carrey you must see
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    It's really hard to educate a generation of people born in conditions where they take things for granted. A simple slogan campaign that says, "Save water, It's precious" isn't sticky enough to make inroads. That's exactly where this video steps in: to make people realize how precious water actually is. A brilliant video that follows the heartbreaking story of a young girl that cannot cry. Sounds like fiction? Sadly, it is not.
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    The appreciation shown here is so deep and touching.
    Dear friends, See this incredible video. This chimp was found in captivity for many years. Dr Jane Goodall released him into the wild. Look how he comes back to thank her with deep apprecition. It's amazing. Animals have such strong feelings of pain and happiness just like us. We should never hurt them and share with others to not hurt them. Tsem Rinpoche http://www.tsemrinpoche.com
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    Aki drinking some water in the aviary
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    Jamyang enjoying some fresh corn
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Dear all, KH(JB ) will be a Dorje Shugden puja for the Nepal earthquake victims at tonight 7pm. All are welcome join us!!! From: June Tang (Khjb)
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HH @Dalailama~Practising Dorje Shugden not meant to go against ur advice but to keep our samaya with our guru. From: June Tang (Khjb)
4 hours ago
HH @Dalailama~Please lift the ban! From: June Tang (Khjb)
4 hours ago
HH @Dalailama~We need your compassion! From: June Tang (Khjb)
5 hours ago
HH @Dalailama~Please solve the issue of Dorje Shugden. From: June Tang (Khjb)
5 hours ago
HH @Dalailama~Please end the suffering, segregation and prejudice! From: June Tang (Khjb)
5 hours ago
Dzambala puja + Dorje Shugden puja progress at Kechara (JB). From: June Tang (Khjb)
5 hours ago
HH @dalailama, please see the sufferings & difficulties . From: June Tang (Khjb)
5 hours ago
To all haters!!! From: June Tang (Khjb)
5 hours ago
Dorje Shugden arose to benefit many. ~tsemtulku From: June Tang (Khjb)
5 hours ago
Do not use social media to hurt beings #tsemtulku From: June Tang (Khjb)
5 hours ago
The end is near, it's just a matter of time.~ #tsemtulku From: June Tang (Khjb)
5 hours ago
The best way to deal with loss, anger and hurt, is to meditate on impermanence.~TSEM RINPOCHE From: June Tang (Khjb)
5 hours ago
Death meditation is not morbid, but results in letting go and hence, freedom. Not doing so is morbid and you remain in denial.~TSEM RINPOCHE From: June Tang (Khjb)
5 hours ago
5 hours ago
Please, even in eating, you should choose recipes based on compassion. ~Tsem Rinpoche From: June Tang (Khjb)
5 hours ago
Medical help for Ragawan kindly provided by our volunteer doctor Dr Madhu. Justin@KSK
6 hours ago
Chin checking in to New Creation Home to begin his rehabilitation programe. Thank you Mr Ng from New Creation Home for accepting Chin to begin his new lease of life. Justin@KSK
6 hours ago

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