Malaysian Wedding Customs

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In Malaysia, it is common for the Malay bride’s fingers to be decorated with henna for her wedding. (Photo credit: mariefranceasia.com)

Malaysian weddings are diverse, unique and colourful affairs, as is to be expected in a country that is a melting pot of cultures and faiths. Generally speaking, wedding customs in Malaysia are determined based on the couple’s race, religion or both. As a large percentage of Malaysians are Malays, and given that Malaysia’s constitution provides that all Malays are to be Muslims, Malay weddings are typically steeped in Malay traditions and solemnised according to the tenets of Islam.

On the other hand, Chinese wedding customs are diverse as there are many different sub-ethnic groups such as the Cantonese, Hokkiens, Hakkas and Peranakan Cina (Baba Nyonyas). Coupled with the different religions practised by Malaysian Chinese, there are numerous options of wedding rites and customs to choose from. The Chinese wedding may or may not include religious aspects but traditional Chinese rites are usually observed. Chinese Christians may include a church ceremony as part of their wedding while those who are Buddhists or Taoists may include a blessing ceremony at the temple.

Malaysians of Indian descent usually opt for weddings based on their religion, whether it is Hinduism, Christianity, Buddhism or Islam, as well as the sub-ethnic group they belong to. Hindu Indians usually incorporate a blessing and solemnisation ceremony at the temple while Christian Indians normally include a church ceremony as part of their wedding.

The sheer number of possible permutations based on ethnicity, sub-ethnicity, religious beliefs and personal preference results in a variety of wedding customs unlike anywhere else in the world. Some of the most unique Malaysian weddings are interracial marriages which are a fusion of the cultures and customs of the happy couple, resulting in a one-of-a-kind wedding where love and respect matter more than faith, colour or race.

No matter what race or religion, these are the elements that are usually present when a Malaysian couple gets married.

  1. Proposal
  2. Engagement ceremony
  3. Marriage registration
  4. Religious rites to solemnise the union
  5. Wedding rites
  6. Wedding celebration

 

Muslim Weddings

 

Merisik

The Malay wedding usually starts off with the merisik ceremony (loosely translated as ‘to investigate’) when the groom’s family pay a visit to the potential bride’s family to state their intention of marriage. When both parties are happy with the potential union of the bride and groom, the next step takes place.

 

Meminang

Once both families have reached an agreement for marriage, representatives from the groom’s family visit the bride’s family to discuss the meminang (engagement) ceremony. During the visit, a number of matters are also discussed including:

  • The date and time for the meminang ceremony
  • The amount the groom will pay for the wedding expenses
  • The gifts that will be exchanged
  • The date and time of the wedding and reception

On the day of the meminang ceremony, the groom will bring a set of gifts (hantaran) for the bride which usually includes a gold or diamond ring, a betel leaf container with betel leaves, a set of new clothes, a shawl, fruits or foods, a handbag and a pair of shoes. These gifts, with the exception of the ring, are then presented to the bride on an odd number of trays. The ring is then placed on the bride’s finger by her older sister or the groom’s aunt.

She will then return the trays with gifts for her future husband which will include a songkok (traditional hat), a prayer mat and a set of clothes. During the ceremony, the bride and groom are represented by relatives, whom they have carefully selected, to determine the date for the akad nikah (wedding) ceremony.

Hantaran

Beautifully decorated hantaran for the bride that includes a Quran, shoes, clothes, toiletries and jewellery. Some hantaran may also include fruits, cakes and chocolates.

 

Akad Nikah

This is the spiritual aspect of the wedding ceremony and is usually performed by a religious official, who ensures that the marriage is consensual. At times, this ceremony may also be performed by the bride’s father in the presence of a religious official. Two official witnesses must also be present. Thereafter, a marriage certificate is issued by the religious representatives of the state, which is signed by the bride, the groom and both witnesses.

 

Bersanding

The bersanding ceremony is the highlight of the Malay wedding. On the day of the bersanding, the groom is not allowed to enter the bride’s house until she sends him a prepared betel leaf, which is a sign that she is ready for his arrival. The groom then makes his way to the bride’s house with his procession, including his female relatives and musicians playing various drums.

The arrival of the groom is followed by a pencak silat (traditional Malay martial arts) performance, which is a sign of welcome for the groom. After the performance, the bride and groom are seated on a decorated dais, very much like how a king and queen sit on their thrones. Hence, it is common for the wedded couple to be called “Raja Sehari” or “King for a Day”.

The couple are then blessed by members of both families with rose water, henna, sandalwood paste and rice flour paste. After receiving their blessings, the couple makes their way to the foyer or garden for the reception and to meet well-wishers.

Malay wedding - Bersanding

The highlight of a Malay wedding is the bersanding ceremony where the bride and groom’s union is celebrated and blessed by all family members and friends.

 

Christian Weddings

Church Ceremony

A church wedding (Photo credit: MunKeat Studio)

A Christian wedding ceremony takes place in a church and is presided over by the priest or pastor. The ceremony starts with the bridal march where the bride walks in to the church on the arm of her father (or mother), preceded by her bridal procession. The bridal march is usually accompanied by music of the couple’s choice and the bridal procession may include ring bearers, flower girls, the maid of honour (usually someone who is married) and bridesmaids.

 

Introductory Rites

The priest or pastor starts by welcoming members of the congregation and then proceeds with a session of praise and worship. A short sharing or sermon usually follows and may include advice on how to have a meaningful marriage and how to walk the spiritual path together as a couple.

 

Solemnisation and Exchange of Rings

The priest or pastor presides over the solemnisation ceremony in the presence of the congregation and two witnesses. The couple exchange their vows which includes vows to be true to each other in good and bad times. The rings are then blessed and one is given to the groom to place on the bride’s finger. The other is given to the bride to place on the groom’s finger. While exchanging the rings, the couple declares their love and fidelity.

Exchange of rings

The exchange of rings is one of the highlights of a church wedding. (Photo credit: speechfoodie.com)

 

Recessional

The service continues with the concluding prayer and nuptial blessings for the couple’s well-being. After this, the bride and groom usually sign the marriage register and then proceed out of the church with their entourage. There may be a celebratory reception after the church service.

 

Chinese Buddhist Weddings

Buddhist weddings in Malaysia are normally associated with Chinese weddings although a Chinese wedding may not always be a Buddhist one. Couples usually register their marriage before the actual wedding and reception, which can be held at a later date. Weddings are a big deal in the Chinese community and couples go to great lengths in order to have a perfect wedding.

The Chinese wedding ceremony usually consists of two parts – the tea ceremony and the reception. Before the tea ceremony, the groom and his groomsmen make their way to the bride’s house. Upon arrival, the groom is not allowed in by the bridesmaids until his groomsmen perform some stunts or tricks while giving out traditional red packets of money (angpow) to the bridesmaids as a form of “payment” for the groom to get to the bride. Once the bridesmaids are happy with the payments, they will allow the groom into the bride’s room.

 

Tea Ceremony

The groom and the bride then make their way back to his house for the tea ceremony. During the tea ceremony, the couple serves tea to the groom’s parents, and then to the rest of the family beginning with the oldest member and ending with the youngest member. This usually applies to married relatives. After each person is served tea, the couple receives a red packet of money from them or jewellery.

When the couple has served tea to all the elders, they then take a seat for the younger, unmarried siblings and relatives to serve tea to them. After sipping the tea, the newlyweds will give an angpow to those who served them, denoting their new status as an elder. The bride and groom then return to the bride’s home for another tea ceremony with the bride’s parents and relatives.

Tea ceremony

The tea ceremony is one of the most important parts of a Malaysian Chinese wedding. (Photo credit: promessastudios.com)

Traditionally, the tea ceremony served as a marriage rite to validate the union. Prior to 1982, this customary marriage rite was sufficient to declare the union legal. However, after 1982, all marriages had to be registered with the National Registration Department to be considered legal.

After the tea ceremony, some couples visit the temple to pray for a blissful wedded life or to have a Buddhist wedding ceremony.

 

Kechara’s Marriage Ceremony

At Kechara House, the Buddhist marriage ceremony begins with the bride and groom being ushered to a private room where a Buddhist pastor performs their registration of marriage. After signing the marriage certificate, the couple recites vows composed by Kechara’s spiritual guide, H.E. the 25th Tsem Rinpoche. They then exchange rings.

Wedding Vows Composed by H.E. Tsem Rinpoche

  1. I will be faithful to you.
  2. I will support you in all difficulties.
  3. I will improve my weak points for you.
  4. I will defend you.
  5. I will respect your beliefs.
  6. I will share what I have with you.
  7. I make this promise to you.
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One of Kechara’s Buddhist pastors blessing the newlyweds.

After being pronounced husband and wife, the couple then goes to the main prayer hall where they are blessed by a pastor. The bride and groom can also offer candles and other items to the Buddhas such as incense, flowers, fruit, precious stones and monk robes.

To celebrate the marriage, a wedding reception or banquet is usually held after all rites and formalities are concluded. A typical Chinese wedding customarily includes loud toasts to the couple’s wedded bliss and a sumptuous nine-course banquet.

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Chinese weddings in Malaysia usually end with a vibrant wedding banquet. (Photo credit: Kechara Oasis)

 

Hindu Weddings

There are 11 different Indian sub-ethnic groups in Malaysia with Tamils being the largest. As such, there is no single standard Hindu wedding. In general, a Hindu wedding in Malaysia will consist of these three important ceremonies.

  1. Kanyadaan: Giving away of the bride
  2. Panigrahana: A sacred fire ritual where the groom takes the hand of the bride as the sign of their union
  3. Saptapadi: The most important ritual called the seven-step ritual, where each step corresponds to a vow the groom makes to the bride, and a vow the bride makes to the groom.

After Saptapadi, the couple officially becomes husband and wife in accordance with Hindu tradition.

Hindu wedding

The Hindu wedding is vibrant, colourful and full of religious rituals.

 

Graha Shanti, Mehendi and Bangles Ceremony

During this ceremony, the Hindu bride is beautifully dressed and adorned with haldi, a turmeric-based herbal paste believed to purify the body, mind and spirit in preparation for the wedding day. Haldi also signifies protection in some Indian communities.

Next, the bride’s hands and feet are adorned with henna designs in the Mehendi ceremony. It is believed that the deeper the colour of the henna, the deeper the couple’s love will be in the future.

The bride is then presented with a set of colourful jewellery and bangles by the groom’s family. The bangles are blessed by a priest during the Bangles Ceremony. A Ganesh puja is performed to invoke the blessings of Lord Ganesha so that he removes any obstacles that may arise during the marriage ceremony. Other pujas are also performed dedicated to the couple’s happy married life.

 

Arrival of the Groom

On the wedding day, the groom and his entourage arrive with plenty of fanfare and they are greeted by the bride’s family and friends. The groom is then anointed on the forehead with a tilak (a vermillion paste traditionally used during special occasions) and a garland of flowers is placed around his neck. Next, the bride walks in with her entourage and she joins the groom for the subsequent marriage rites.

 

Kanyadan

During the Kanyadan ceremony, the father of the bride places her hand on the groom’s hand, symbolising him giving her hand in marriage. The bride’s mother then pours water into the bride’s father’s hand, who is holding a gold coin to symbolise his daughter. The groom accepts the coin and then hands it to his parents as a sign of them welcoming her into their family.

The next ritual is the highlight of a Hindu wedding – tying the thali. The groom ties the thali, a gold necklace that has been blessed by a Hindu priest, around the bride’s neck as a symbol of eternal love. It marks the start of their life together as man and wife.

 

Panigrahana

The Panigrahana ritual, meaning clasping of the hand, originated from an ancient Vedic gesture of friendship. It reminds us that a marriage is, in essence, a special kind of friendship.

In this ritual, the groom holds the bride’s hands before taking a vow that he will be responsible for protecting and caring for her. This ceremony takes place in front of the sacred fire that symbolises knowledge and power.

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Panigrahana or clasping of the hand signifies the groom’s vow to care for and protect the bride for as long as he lives.

 

Saptapadi

This ritual requires the couple to take seven steps around the sacred fire, led by the groom. As they walk around the sacred fire, the groom recites the seven marital vows:

  1. To love and be faithful to each other
  2. To treat each other’s families as their own
  3. To share joys and sorrows
  4. To care for children
  5. To cherish each other and continuously strengthen their love
  6. To support each other’s goals
  7. To remain lifelong friends

Upon completion of the Panigrahana and Saptapadi rituals, the couple are now officially husband and wife. Family and friends then take turns to offer their blessings to the newlyweds in a ritual called ashirvad.

 

Baba Nyonya Weddings

In the olden days, the Baba Nyonya wedding was a very elaborate affair lasting 12 days. It is said that the status of a Baba family can be measured by how grand the family wedding is. These days however, the Baba Nyonya wedding has been condensed to a more modern and practical version that still retains its colourful and meaningful heritage, rites and customs.

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Sang Jit and Lap Chai

The pre-nuptial ceremony, Sang Jit, is the presentation of the birth certificates of both the bride and groom. This stems from the matchmaking tradition of yesteryears when it was imperative to find a good match in order to have a long and happy marriage. The pair’s Chinese date and time of birth are given to a qualified geomancer who will do some calculations and consult the Buku Pek Ji, which is Ba Zi, to ascertain if the pair is a good match. If they are, the Lap Chai ceremony follows.

The Lap Chai ceremony usually takes place a few days before the wedding. On this day, the groom together with his entourage will visit the bride’s family bearing gifts which includes two bottles of liquor, a set of jewellery, clothes, shoes, a pair of dragon and phoenix candles, Pek Kim (the dowry), Wang Tetek (a monetary token to the bride’s mother for breastfeeding her), wedding cakes and pork trotters (to denote the bride’s virginity). In return, the bride’s family reciprocates with gifts such as a pair of red candles, juices, clothes and some food items.

After the Lap Chai ceremony, both families gather at the couple’s new home to set up their bridal chamber. This ceremony is known as Ann Chng.

 

Cheo Thau

The most important ceremony in a Baba Nyonya wedding is Cheo Thau, also known as the hair-combing ceremony. This is a significant rite of passage marking the transition from a Nyonya girl to a woman ready for the next milestone of her life – marriage. This lengthy ceremony has many meaningful rituals beginning with Naik Sanggol (combing the hair into an elaborate wedding hairdo complete with exquisite adornments and jewellery) to the donning of the traditional seven–layer wedding costume.

Prior to the Cheo Thau ceremony, the bride’s family performs the Pasang Lilin which is a prayer ritual of lighting candles at an elaborate altar called the Sam Kai, complete with richly embroidered tablecloths, Chanab (offerings handmade from flowers and fruits), bowls of fresh fruit, sugarcane, dried fruit, red dates and rock sugar, all decorated with intricate Chinese red paper cuttings. Once everyone has offered prayers to the God of Heaven and the ancestors, the bride then kneels and pays homage (sohjah) to her parents as a mark of respect.

This ceremony is presided over by a Sang Kek Em, a mistress of ceremonies who is familiar with all the rituals. A black veil is placed over the bride’s face at the conclusion of Cheo Thau and she then sits to wait for her groom.

 

Chim Pang and Chia Sia

The groom and his representatives arrive in a grand procession complete with a band playing traditional wedding music and men carrying auspicious lanterns. The Chim Pang ceremony then follows where the couple meets for the first time and the groom proceeds to unveil the bride. The couple is then served tea and sweet dumplings (kueh ee), symbolising a sweet and lasting marriage.

Next, the Chia Sia ceremony takes place in the bride’s room with all the guests present. The purpose of this ceremony is for the guests to make the bride laugh. If they succeed in making her laugh uncontrollably, the groom will then have to pay for everyone’s dinner. After this, and to signify the end of the ceremony, a rooster and hen are released under the couple’s bed. If the rooster emerges first, it’s a sign that the couple’s firstborn will be a boy.

 

Sohjah Tiga Hari

Although traditionally performed on the third day of the wedding, these days the Sohjah Tiga Hari ceremony is performed on the wedding day itself. During this ceremony, the couple pays their respects to their parents and the elders of the family by serving sweet tea according to the family hierarchy. In return, they will be given a red packet with money.

Once this is concluded, the couple is officially man and wife and it is time for a wedding feast called Makan Tok Panjang. In the olden days, the wedding banquet, consisting of many delicacies, was usually served on long tables and in the Baba patois, tok panjang means “long table”. The wedding festivities continue with music, joget (traditional Baba Nyonya dance of Malay origins) and Dondang Sayang, an art form where poems are sung to the signature Dondang Sayang tune.

Sohjah

During Sohjah Tiga Hari, the couple kneels and serves tea to pay respects to all the elders. (Photo credit: chasingfooddreams.com)

 

Melaka Chetti Weddings

 

Buang Suara

A chetti wedding kicks off when a representative from the groom’s family visits the bride’s family to ask for her hand in marriage.

 

Sandanggu

Once the union has been agreed upon, the next ceremony – sandanggu – takes place. During this ceremony, the bride is covered in a turmeric paste and bathed. This symbolises her purity before she enters into marriage. Thereafter, she is dressed in a traditional baju kebaya and a decorative hairpiece known as cucuk sanggul is pinned on her bun to symbolise that she is now a woman and ready for marriage.

Once the bride is dressed, a Hindu priest and five married women take turns to bless her. They wave their hands around her while holding a number of objects – rose water, dried cow dung, a pot of water, rice, a pestle, bread, a local sweet cake known as putu piring and an oil lamp. Once the ceremony has concluded, the bride eats the putu piring.

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Melaka Chetti wedding (Photo credit: nst.com.my)

 

Tukar Cincin

As the groom makes his way to the bride’s house for the engagement proper, he is accompanied by an entourage bearing seven trays on which are betel leaves, rose water, dried fragrant flower petals, rock sugar, a saree and bangles, jasmine flowers, fruits and an old coconut covered with turmeric.

The bride wears the saree that is presented to her and afterwards, the groom hands over the dowry (Duit Tetek) to the bride’s mother while gold jewellery is given to the bride. A Hindu priest usually presides over the ceremony. Once the bride and groom exchange rings, the ceremony is officially over. The newly-engaged couple then seek the blessings of the elders of both families.

 

Hantar Sirih Kuil

In the olden days, a pair of sirih pinang (betel nut set) were sent to family and friends as an invitation to the upcoming nuptials. These days, flower garlands, rose water, fruits, old coconuts, the wedding invitation card and sirih pinang are presented to the committee of the Chetti temple for blessings along with archanai or offerings made on behalf of the groom. After the blessings, wedding invitations are distributed to the bride and groom’s family and friends.

 

Naik Tiang

Prior to commencing any preparations for the wedding proper, a branch of the kalyana murunga, translated as “wedding tree”, is planted in front of the house.

 

Sembahyang Thali

The wedding thali is first bathed in milk and blessed by family members, along with the wedding clothes. A thali or mangalasutram is a necklace given by the groom to the bride carrying the same significance as a wedding ring. Once the prayers are completed, married women of the family help with the berinai — the couple get their fingertips and toes covered with freshly made henna paste.

 

Hari Kahwin

On the actual wedding day, the bride and groom walk from their respective homes to the temple, accompanied by family members, an entourage of musicians, kompang and bunga manggar. After a visit to the temple, the newly-weds join family, relatives and friends for a feast before being escorted back to the groom’s house.

 

Mandi Mandi

In the fun-filled mandi mandi, family members followed by the entire community present take turns to bathe the couple with air bunga (water scented with flowers). A Chetti wedding celebration is not complete without joget (a local folk dance) and Dondang Sayang, where impromptu verses of poetry are sung to traditional music.

 

Orang Asli Weddings

There are 18 different Orang Asli ethnic groups in Malaysia, each with its own unique language, lifestyle and customs. Marriage for the Orang Asli is a very casual affair and the wedding ceremony differs from tribe to tribe. Some groups do not even have a “formal” wedding ceremony as the couple is considered married once they start sleeping or living together.

These days, many Orang Asli have assimilated the wedding customs of other ethnic groups that live near their villages. Furthermore, with the introduction of Islam and Christianity, religious rites have replaced traditional animistic rituals.

Below are the wedding customs of the Semai tribe, the largest Orang Asli ethnic group in Peninsular Malaysia. For the Semai, the courtship and prenuptial rituals are just as significant as the actual wedding itself.

Orang Asli wedding

Although there are 18 different Orang Asli groups, each with unique wedding customs and rites, one of the common customs practised by most groups is the membentang belanja.

 

Mencari Jodoh

This is the stage where a young male Orang Asli of marrying age searches for a suitable lady as his life partner. The male Orang Asli travels to other villages to seek his bride. In the olden days, Orang Asli villages were far apart and it took four to six days to travel from one village to another on foot.

Once he finds a suitable candidate, he will spend the night at his future bride’s house. His presence and intentions are usually understood by the head of the bride’s family, who then proceeds to the next stage.

 

Pelawaan

At dusk, the father or head of the family will request his daughter to place a mat beside her bed. The potential groom will then be invited by the father to choose his resting place for the night. Should he wish to marry her, he will choose the mat or sleeping place set out by the potential bride. However, if he chooses not to marry her, he will opt to sleep in the living room.

Should there be more than one daughter of marrying age in the house, the father will have them all lay out mats at their respective beds and the young suitor will indicate his preference by sleeping on the mat laid out by the maiden of his choice. Once the couple has spent the night together, they are deemed husband and wife by the community.

It is common for couples to choose not to have any celebration or “formal” wedding and just continue to live as husband and wife with either the wife’s or husband’s family.

 

Merisik

Should there be a wedding ceremony, the pre-nuptials begin with merisik. During the merisik ceremony, both sets of parents discuss the wedding arrangements with the bride and groom.

Once they have reached an agreement, they will meet with the village head (Tuk Penghulu) to seek his blessings and request his agreement to preside over the wedding. The Tuk Penghulu will also give the bride and groom advice and guidance on married life.

 

Meminang

In this betrothal ceremony, the groom-to-be sends gifts to the bride-to-be, which includes her wedding attire (salin tiga), a dowry of RM60.25 (belanja tubuh), a head scarf (selendang), a silver ring (cincin perak) and a betel nut set (sirih pinang). The betel nut set is used during the wedding discussions.

 

Tanggung Nafkah

While they are engaged, it is customary for the groom-to-be to give his future wife an “allowance”, which can be cash (RM15 per month) or groceries sent directly to the bride’s home.

 

Bertunang

During the engagement period, the groom brings gifts that will be used during their wedding such as a set of bedding, a wedding gown and shoes. At this stage, the groom will also start preparing his own wedding attire which includes a black songkok (traditional Malay headgear), kain selempang dada/selendang (a sash-like cloth worn across the chest), and baju melayu (traditional formal attire for Malay men) complete with sampin and shoes.

 

Hari Perkahwinan

Before the bersanding ceremony, which is usually the highlight of the wedding, the couple undergoes many customary rituals to ward off unwanted bad luck that may jeopardise the wedding. These rituals include henna painting, a haircut for the groom, and a mandatory lime bath. During the preparation of the lime bath, protective spells to ward off misfortune are infused into the bath water through special rituals. Once these preliminary rites are completed, the couple puts on their wedding attire which includes traditional headgear made from nipah leaves.

 

Istiadat Berarak

This is the bridal procession where the groom and his entourage make their way to the bride’s home. Should the groom be the son of the village head, he will be carried on a sedan chair. A musical troupe accompanies the groom’s entourage and this colourful lively procession also includes poetry recitations (berbalas pantun).

 

Merenjis/Menabur

Traditionally, the top corner of the bride’s main door will be decorated with banana leaves. Upon his arrival, the groom performs the merenjis ritual before entering the bride’s home. He sprinkles some water on the banana leaves and tosses some rice puffs. The bride’s side of the family welcomes the groom by saying “Selamat datang” three times.

 

Memohon Tanda

The entrance to the bride’s room is draped with a curtain as a symbolic barrier. Before the groom is granted permission to see his bride, he must pass Mas Wali (the bride’s eldest representative) and his/her group. Mas Wali will first mohon tanda (request for signs) before admitting the groom into the bridal chamber. This may be in the form of pantun or Malay poems. Permission to enter is only granted after three rounds of mohon tanda.

Ibu Wali (the groom’s oldest representative) and his/her group then presents the groom with a keris (traditional Malay dagger) signifying that he is the correct groom. In a Semai tribal wedding, the couple’s parents rarely have significant ceremonial roles as these are the responsibility of the four oldest family members, usually the grandparents or grandparents’ siblings, who act as representatives (wali) of the bride and groom.

 

Bersanding

Once the curtain is drawn, the groom and his entourage make their way onto the wedding dais and the groom is seated on the right of the bride. The ceremonies of Istiadat Menyuap Nasi Kunyit/Nasi Damai, where the couple feed each other with turmeric-flavoured rice — their first official meal as a couple, and Makan Daun Sirih (chewing betel nuts) will then commence, witnessed by the bridal couple’s closest family members and representatives.

 

Menyembah

Lastly, the couple pays their respects to their parents, in-laws and other family members in the menyembah ceremony. Thereafter, it is customary to perform the ceremony known as membentang belanja dalam adat, where the dowry and monetary gifts are presented including:

  • Belanja hangus (RM100) and belanja tambahan kenduri (an amount for the wedding banquet)
  • Belanja tubuh 60 tengah 3, dalam adat atau kering which is essentially the dowry to the bride. Dalam adat means that half the dowry is presented while kering means that the full dowry is given.

During this ceremony, advice and guidance on married life is given to the newlyweds by the person presiding over the proceedings, usually the Tuk Penghulu. Once this is concluded, the couple is deemed husband and wife according to Semai customs.

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The bride’s representative blessing the couple

 

Iban Weddings

 

Nanya Indu

The nanya indu or engagement ceremony is the first part of the Iban wedding, where the groom and his entourage usually enter the bride’s house with much fanfare and amidst tawak (gong beats) to ask her parents for her hand in marriage. This is done in the presence of his parents and her relatives.

Once the bride’s parents have given their consent, the two families discuss important matters such as the size of the wedding and where the couple will live after getting married.

Iban wedding

A traditional Iban wedding (Photo credit: malaysia.my)

 

Melah Pinang

One of the most important ceremonies of the Iban wedding is the melah pinang, during which the bride and groom are dressed in traditional Iban garb. The groom wears a woven loincloth, an animal-skin vest, silver armlets, a belt and a woven hat of hornbill and pheasant feathers and goat fur. Meanwhile, the bride wears a woven skirt adorned with silver coins, tiny brass bells, a silver and rattan corset, a beaded collar, silver bangles, armlets and anklets. Her outfit is completed with a silver headpiece that is secured with silver hairpins.

The ceremony is carried out with the bride and groom seated on a gong and draped with a pua kumbu, a colourful ceremonial cloth. An Iban priest, known as the lemambang, blesses the couple by sacrificing a white rooster. This is followed by a blessing ceremony and the rooster is then placed on a receptacle as an offering.

Thereafter, the couple exchange pua kumbu and a woven skirt is gifted to the bride. To conclude the ceremony, a betel nut is placed on the pua kumbu and chopped in half. If one side faces up and the other faces down, it is a good omen.

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An Iban couple is greeted by well-wishers at the end of their wedding ceremony. (Photo credit: Iban Warrior Facebook page)

 

Kadazan Weddings

 

Merisik

The Kadazan wedding starts with the merisik process where the parents of the groom visit the family of the bride. The groom’s father usually begins the conversation by saying that he has a son of marriageable age. He then proceeds to say that he would like to have his son married to the prospective bride.

Once the bride’s parents accept the proposal, they will visit the groom’s family to get to know the groom better and to gauge whether his family is able to afford the dowry. After this visit and once both parties agree for the couple to be wed, the groom’s family makes a second visit to the bride’s family to discuss the wedding preparations.

The dowry for the bride usually consists of 15 buffaloes, 10 brass cannons, 3 large Chinese jars and a brass gong. If the bride’s parents want more, then negotiations will take place. Once both parties have come to an agreement, they will discuss the terms of payment, whether the dowry will be paid in instalments or substituted with money for some objects. While everything else can be paid for with cash, two buffaloes cannot be substituted for cash.

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A traditional Kazadan wedding

 

The Ceremony

On the day of their wedding, the couple sits in the middle of the house and they are served rice, which must be from a wok to symbolise that they will always have enough. Then, the bride and groom are each given a rice ball, which they must feed to each other. This act symbolises their unification as husband and wife.

Once this is done, the guests are then served from the communal work. The bride and groom are also given chicken drumsticks to eat as the groom is not allowed to eat the meat from the buffalo that was slaughtered for the feast for fear he will not be able to father children.

The day after the wedding, the groom takes his bride to his parents’ home where they will stay until they can afford to move out to their own house. Three months after the wedding, the groom visits his in-laws, bringing with him a pig which will be ceremoniously slaughtered and eaten by the whole family. This is to signify that they are now blood relatives.

Kazadan wedding

The bride and groom feeding each other with rice balls, a symbol of their union as husband and wife.

 

References:

  • https://www.planyourwedding.my/blog/a-guide-hindu-weddings-malaysia
  • http://www.chasingfooddreams.com/2013/07/a-southern-peranakan-wedding-affair.html
  • http://www.malaysia.my/article/culture/a_peranakan_affair/
  • http://adatbudayapermata.blogspot.my/2009/03/adat-dan-budaya-orang-asli-siri-1.html
  • http://www.malaysia.my/article/culture/a_longhouse_engagement/
  • http://www.flyingdusun.com/004_Features/013_Kadazanwedding.htm

 

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  1. Jacinta Goh on May 24, 2018 at 4:30 pm

    This is neat. There are many details in it and yet many more to discover since we have so many “kaum” and different religion. As I read along, I noticed these:
    1. In Chinese Buddhist wedding, shouldn’t they have tea ceremony at the bride’s place first? But nowadays, some opted to do it during dinner reception.
    2. For Hindu wedding, (just a personal feeling) I find it more spiritual than the others.
    3. For the the Baba Nyonya, they have so many customs! No wonder can take up to 12 days 😱. Perhaps I always mix with the Hokkiens and hence the names are very familiar to me.
    4. The Melaka Chetti wedding is the union between Malay and Indian?
    5. The orang asli is the simplest if they didn’t have any customs to follow whereby through “sleeping together” they are considered as couple.
    6. Is Kadazan considered Chinese? I saw you’ve mentioned Chinese jars and giving pig when going back to visit the bride’s parents after marriage. Besides, giving 15 buffaloes is extensive although you’ve mentioned that all others can be replaced by giving cash but then at least 2 buffaloes must be given. I guess, this says a lot of their culture and their way of life very much related to fields still.

    I wonder if the list can be added on with the Sikh😅 since I’ve read a little bit about them lately. Anyway, really thank you for this as I’ve learnt more. Thanks Sharon.

    • Sharon Ong on May 24, 2018 at 10:32 pm

      Hi, Jacinta

      Thank you for your good questions. Here are the replies to your questions.
      1. Chinese weddings have quite a number of variations that can differ from state to state, and also the clan they belong to ie Hokkien, Hakka, Cantonese etc. Traditionally, the tea ceremony was to take place at the groom’s house first, as the bride is marrying into his family and has to pay her respects to her in-laws first. After tea ceremony at the groom’s, then only the couple returns to her house to pour tea to her parents. But these days, modern couples make it easier and more practical by doing everything at the bride’s place first before going back to the groom’s house.

      2. Yes. I agree with you. A Hindu wedding is very spiritual and colourful. Each ceremony has a rich symbolic meaning.

      3. You are right. The traditional Baba wedding does have many many elaborate customs and “procedures”. The Baba language, especially the one spoken by Penang Babas, have many borrowed words from Hokkien.

      4. The Melaka Chetty is actually the Indian version of the Baba Nyonya. This community was born when the Indian traders landed in Melaka and married the local Malays during the Malacca Sultanate era. This unique culture is a beautiful fusion of the Indian and Malay culture. You can see Malay influences in the way they dress, speak and their cuisine. The Indian/Hindu influences can be observed through the various religious celebrations and customs.

      5. I find the Orang Asli wedding one of the most unique as it truly reflects their basic lifestyle and the true meaning of a marriage.

      6. The Kadazans are the indigenous people of Sabah. They are not Chinese, but many have married Chinese and they are known as Sino-Kadazan. They were traditionally farmers and this is also reflected in their customs and celebrations such as Tadau Kaamatan or Harvest Festival. Those days, pigs and buffaloes were prized possessions and deemed suitable as dowry. However, for the modern couple, they might not be farmers any more and having too many farm animals as dowry may not be logistically feasible for their wedding.

      Thank you for your questions and hope that my answers have helped. Perhaps you could briefly share with us a bit on the uniqueness of a Sikh wedding. 🙂

  2. Stella Cheang on May 16, 2018 at 9:44 pm

    Thank you, Sharon, for this sharing. Malaysia is a multiracial country, we get to enjoy and participate in wedding celebrations of another race and faith through invitation or through being the bride, groom or part of the family. By virtue of my circle of friends, I had attended Malay, Chinese,Indian and the not so traditional “white”weddings. I hope I get to attend weddings of the other traditions too. Being presence to send well wishes to couples who are committed to continue the rest of their life together is, after all, a joyous experience.

  3. Samfoonheei on May 14, 2018 at 12:45 pm

    Wow …….interesting and details post of most of the wedding from different faith and religions. Its good to know some knowledge as we live in a multi – racial country. I have only witnessed a Malay, Indian and Chinese wedding ,hence to know the rest is interesting and knowledgeable especially about their customs and so forth.. Kadazan , Orang Asli and iban weddings sounds interesting. The bride and groom in their traditional dress looks beautiful . Each ethnics wedding differ from each faths and reliligion. Having unique customary way to solemnise ,celebrabe it and so forth. In all the weddings all brides and groms always wear the best they could as its a once a life occasion.
    Thank you Rinpoche and Sharon Ong for this sharing

  4. Datuk May on May 12, 2018 at 3:02 pm

    As a Malaysian, I had always know that there are specific customs for weddings in accordance to religion, race and traditional culture & practices. However never did I understand the reasons for these customs and practices.

    What an interesting article with well researched information for the reader.

    Thank you, Sharon for your contribution to Tsemrinpoche.com, a cyber encyclopaedia with articles of diverse interests for all.

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  • Stella Cheang
    Thursday, May 24. 2018 09:52 PM
    The article about Walter Evans-Wentz is an interesting read. His greatest work, the Tibetan Book of the Dead, which he collaborated with Lama Kazi Dawa Samdup, had been an acclaimed publication and important book on Tibetan Buddhism in the west for decades. The Tibetan Book of the Dead is based on the sacred text called Bardo Thodol, a teaching given Padmasambhava and written down by his Tibetan consort and student, Yeshe Tsogyal. The text is “meant to be a guide for the deceased person to navigate through the experiences of the consciousness in the bardo, or the intermediate state between death and the next rebirth. This text also includes chapters on the death process and a ritual to be performed just before death and after it has taken place.” It is a pity that the translation of this important book from Tibetan to English capped by Walter’s limited understanding of the concept and influenced by his prior knowledge in Theosophy and other metaphysical schools. Thank you for this sharing, Pastor David.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/walter-evans-wentz-american-pioneer-scholar-on-tibetan-buddhism.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, May 24. 2018 12:46 PM
    The freedom to choose a religion without interference from one another. We have our rights to choose what we like to pray and beliefs. All religions, cultures, and beliefs deserve the same amount of respect, even if they are different from your own. All teachings must have a lineage, once we understand and have accepted it we go all the way. May the Dorje Shugden controversy be resolved soon.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this clear insight article and those beautiful and rare pictures of great Masters.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/i-pray-to-what-i-want-to.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, May 24. 2018 12:44 PM
    Buddhism teaches us love, compassion ,tolerance, forgiveness , and so forth. Once we have choose our guru, then we should go all the way out on the spiritual side.. We should not criticise or make negative comments if we decided not to follow a Guru. What ever ,happen never ,never ever bad mouth one another , just let go and let it be. Its always a case how much or great we do ,there is always people saying some thing when they are not satisfied but when we are spiritual we will think twice .As it stated clearly in Fifty Verses Of Guru Devotion, no matter how much we practice, study and meditate we will gain no attainments without purifying our karma.
    We are fortunate to have met our Guru H.E the 25th Tsem Rinpoche and guiding us and learning the Dharma teachings .
    May Rinpoche live long ,good health and continue turning the Dharma wheel to benefit all sentient beings.
    Thank you Rinpoche with folded hands

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/are-you-secular-or-spiritual.html

  • Samfoonheei
    Wednesday, May 23. 2018 08:13 PM
    Dorje Shugden been practiced for 300 years by many great masters not until the ban instituted by the Tibetan Leadership (CTA.) Only now ,suddenly that Dorje Shugden is negative, harmful and will hurt HH Dalai Lama. Ridiculous ….to say that for four hundred years so many great lamas and practitioners were wrong in their practice. If Dalai Lama says all his Gurus were wrong, what make Dalai Lama right? HH Dalai Lama, has previously practiced Dorje Shugden and even wrote a praise to Dorje Shugden. How can it possible Dorje Shugden could have harmed him.
    Our Guru Rinpoche has this practice bestowed by his root guru who practiced for his whole life. The ban of Dorje Shugden is illogical and should be lifted for the harmonious o the people. The Tibetan Leadership (CTA) has instituted this ban against Dorje Shugden for the last 20 years. Many families are torn apart and lamas ,monks and practitioners had to break away from their monasteries. Many has suffered discrimination and segregation due to that. The Tibetan leaders should have a peaceful dialogue to resolve this issue once for all. May HH Dalai Lama please lift the ban.
    Thanks Rinpoche and Pastor David Lai for such an informative article for us to understand more on Dorje Shugden’s ban.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/our-lama-vs-the-dalai-lama-the-underlying-reasons-for-the-ban.html
  • Lin Mun
    Tuesday, May 22. 2018 10:02 PM
    Every human is unique in their own way. It’s an interesting article to learn about human behaviour and how our mind function. Psychopath is apparently inherent brain. If so I wonder can drugs help them? While psychopath can be good or evil then how can we help those who are evil? I believe we some how we inherited certain behaviour from our previous imprint and therefore portraying it in this life. I guess it about understanding ourselves better, accept and keep transforming to be better.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/why-some-dont-think-of-the-long-term-damage.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Tuesday, May 22. 2018 09:37 PM

    Li Gotami is an extraordinary woman with incredible talents. She documented Tibet and Buddhism at the time and space where it remained out of reach to the world at large. Her work left us with valuable books, art and photographs. It was the same period of time when acclaimed contributors to Tibetan Buddhism, like Lama Anagarika, Walter Evans-Went, John Blofeld actively unveiled Tibet from a religion and cultural perspective. Thank you for this informative sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/li-gotami-the-woman-who-dedicated-her-life-to-the-arts.html#comments
  • Samfoonheei
    Tuesday, May 22. 2018 06:52 PM
    Is very heart breaking to read about the way the practitioners been treated and sufferings felt by the Tibetan people who lack religious freedom to practise how and what they want. The unfairness, discrimination and so forth since the ban on Dorje Shugden instituted by the Tibetan Leadership (CTA). Despite there is enough evidence showing that there is a ban on Dorje Shugden practice yet many supporters of the Tibetan leadership continue to insist that there is no ban. If there is no ban, why is H.H Dalai Lama imposing rules on Dorje Shugden’s practitioners. Dorje Shugden practitioners are denied medical care, education, services, employment and so forth. Its really sad, they have suffered for too many years, the ban should end for the better furture.
    May H.H. the Dalai Lama please lift the ban on Dorje Shugden.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/the-dalai-lama-speaks-clearly-about-the-dorje-shugden-ban.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Tuesday, May 22. 2018 06:51 PM
    Interesting description of a great Master……….Lama Yeshe by his student Champa Legshe. Lama Yeshe received the teachings of both sutra and tantra from a long line of erudite masters such as Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche, Kyabje Ling Rinpoche to name a few. Through his establishment of Kopan Monastery, in Kathmandu, he started spreading Buddhism among the westerners. Described by his student as humble, down to earth caring and loving teacher, friendly and many goodness of a highly respected attained Lama for his different approach and modern interpretation of Buddhism. From what I understand after reading Champa Legshe description , Lama Yeshe is definitely a great teacher . And Rinpoche has all the qualities and characteristics as Lama Yeshe … caring, loving, jovial, good- humoured, way of teaching Dharma to his students.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/lama-yeshe-the-great-mahasiddha.html
  • Lin Mun
    Monday, May 21. 2018 10:12 PM
    The ban on Dorje Shugden practitioners are so apparent in those places. And how can the CTA said there is no ban and discrimination? They are creating so much fear among the people which we can clearly see in the videos. Question is being a committed government, they should take care of the welfare of everyone regardless of their belief, race and colours. There should be no discrimination and segregation among the communities. I hope the ban will be lifted and the people in “Little Tibet” can regain their basic human rights that is freedom of religion very soon.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/they-said-no.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Monday, May 21. 2018 01:48 PM
    Great news for Tibet befriending China. Time has changed and finally the Tibetans leadership has made the right choice to amend ties between the two countries. China has transformed itself becoming the largest economy in the world in no time. The world economy is rapidly changing, China’s economy will become more significant and will surpass America soon. Many countries in the world is making friend with China. With this meeting Tibet and China’s friendship in long term will benefits both sides. In time may HH Dalai Lama have dialogue with China to solved the controversy on the Dorje Shugden ban for the benefits of the people . Dorje Shugden has nothing to do with China. Because of the Tibetan Leadership political agenda, many has suffered and divided. Its more than a year since the workshops ,nothing has improved. Do hope both countries friendship will continue to pave way for more meetings. May HH Dalai Lama then solve the long controversy.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/the-importance-of-tibet-befriending-china.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Monday, May 21. 2018 01:46 PM
    Even though it’s a old post, which I came across , still it’s a wonderful moment many had invited home this beautiful Setrap statues. Dharmapala Setrap is the enmanation of buddha Amithaba and highly enlightened beings. For 600 years hundreds of thousands of great masters, lamas and practitioners have since relied on Setrap as their principle protector. Rejoice to those who have invited one as family protector.
    Thank you Rinpoche for bringing this Powerful Dharmapala Setrap to Malaysia.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/more-people-invite-setrap.html
  • Lin Mun
    Sunday, May 20. 2018 10:12 PM
    Rejoice for Hecelus to engage in retreat during school holidays. What a great way to spend instead of indulging in video games, movies and hanging out with friends. I am sure he will inspire more teenager to engage in retreat as this is a cool way to spend their holiday too.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/letters-cards-gifts/hecelus-wants-to-do-more.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Sunday, May 20. 2018 01:30 PM
    Our faith and religion is our choice. We choose what we want to practice . That’s our choice. We should respect each other choice and should not be biased, segregate, discriminate or hurt any one of a different faith to have a better environment to live in. Those who believe in Dorje Shugden should be treated equally and respected as others too. Politics is politics and has nothing to do with religion. Once mixed it s become harmful to another and used by another for political agenda. Tibetan leadership(CTA) should stopped contradicting itself and discriminating based on faith, for the benefit of Tibetan people. The ban instituted by the Tibetan Leadership (CTA) has created disharmony and disunity among their communities. There are more than enough evidence to prove that there is no religious freedom or true democracy and discrimination against Shugden people within. May the ban on Dorje Shugden be lifted soon and they have the freedom and rights to practice freely.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/dorje-shugden-people.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Sunday, May 20. 2018 01:28 PM
    The Tibetans in exile….. after leaving Tibet does not seem to improve much all these years in India. Since the establishment of the Tibetan leardership nothing was done for the welfare of the Tibetan people. The situation now is still the same as before. More and more Tibetans are speaking up and moving out or back to look for better jobs opportunities else where. The Tibetan Leadership has caused Shugden practitioners much suffering and hardship ,all these years . It is heartfelt to see situation like these, the Tibetans are being torn apart and divided . Even after 50 years, there is nothing that has changed and the CTA did not amend the ties between the CTA and China. Time has changed for the better everywhere, the CTA must change. Thank you Tibet Lover for your comment, hopefully more people will speak up against the wrong-doings done by CTA . May the Tibetans living in exiles have a peaceful and happy solution solved someday. May the ban on Dorje Shugden be lifted soon

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/tibetan-refugee-youth-speaking-up.html
  • Lin Mun
    Saturday, May 19. 2018 07:28 PM
    All religions emphasis love, compassion and peace. If there are violence imposed, I believe it most probably are the wrong view of the practitioners. Hence it is NOT right to impose violence in the name of moral principle. Having the right understanding is very important to mold a peaceful and harmony world. For a start we as individual have to understand, accept and practise it in our daily life. No point talking and not putting it into action.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/violence-in-the-name-of-moral-principle-is-very-sad-the-dalai-lama.html#comment-785925

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What my mom shared with me as a young boy that I carry with me till now. She was very caring and giving when she was well: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=160069
A beautiful painting of the enlightened protector Dorje Shugden in the very rich tradition of Aztec art of South America. I wanted to commission something in this rich tradition which is filled with spiritual journeys into other worlds, magic, purification, the supernatural, astral visitations, gods and other dimensions and it has manifested. I have successfully combined the divinity of Tibet with the rich artistic tradition of the Aztecs. The artist we had is amazing. We have many more beautiful art pieces here for you to enjoy and download: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=144924

Remember those wonderful Carlos Castaneda books? I use to read them many years back in my room back in New Jersey as a kid. His learning journey with Don Juan was amazing! Those books inspired my commissioning of this beautiful Aztec Dorje Shugden. May you be blessed. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
A beautiful painting of the enlightened protector Dorje Shugden in the very rich tradition of Aztec art of South America. I wanted to commission something in this rich tradition which is filled with spiritual journeys into other worlds, magic, purification, the supernatural, astral visitations, gods and other dimensions and it has manifested. I have successfully combined the divinity of Tibet with the rich artistic tradition of the Aztecs. The artist we had is amazing. We have many more beautiful art pieces here for you to enjoy and download: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=144924 Remember those wonderful Carlos Castaneda books? I use to read them many years back in my room back in New Jersey as a kid. His learning journey with Don Juan was amazing! Those books inspired my commissioning of this beautiful Aztec Dorje Shugden. May you be blessed. Tsem Rinpoche
H.H. the Dalai Lama’s sudden change of mind about China-backed Panchen Lama is incredible and stunning. His Holiness\'s new stance will bring more harmony, peace and understanding. I thank His Holiness the Dalai Lama very much for this. Humbly, Tsem Rinpoche (Please read here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=159261)
4 weeks ago
H.H. the Dalai Lama’s sudden change of mind about China-backed Panchen Lama is incredible and stunning. His Holiness's new stance will bring more harmony, peace and understanding. I thank His Holiness the Dalai Lama very much for this. Humbly, Tsem Rinpoche (Please read here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=159261)
Sculpture demigoddesses Singhini (lioness goddess) on the upper terrace in front of Nyatapola temple in Bhaktapur, Nepal.
1 month ago
Sculpture demigoddesses Singhini (lioness goddess) on the upper terrace in front of Nyatapola temple in Bhaktapur, Nepal.
How fortunate I am to be sitting in my room, with a rosary in my hand reciting the mantra given to me by my compassionate guru and to meditate in developing a compassionate heart and purifying my karmas. How fortunate I am to be able to spend my time in such a meaningful manner. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
How fortunate I am to be sitting in my room, with a rosary in my hand reciting the mantra given to me by my compassionate guru and to meditate in developing a compassionate heart and purifying my karmas. How fortunate I am to be able to spend my time in such a meaningful manner. Tsem Rinpoche
Comic drawn by Tendor, a prominent Free Tibet activist-Every Tibetan knows that although His Holiness the Dalai Lama says he is retired from politics, he is in full control of the Tibetan government in exile. No member of the government will dare carry out any decisions without His Holiness\' approval. He is retired for the sake of the west so he does not look like a dictator.~Tenzin Damchoe
3 months ago
Comic drawn by Tendor, a prominent Free Tibet activist-Every Tibetan knows that although His Holiness the Dalai Lama says he is retired from politics, he is in full control of the Tibetan government in exile. No member of the government will dare carry out any decisions without His Holiness' approval. He is retired for the sake of the west so he does not look like a dictator.~Tenzin Damchoe
It would be wonderful if everyone can recite these two mantras 100k each focusing on Shakyamuni Buddha and His powerful healing energies. Not collectively but each person 100k each of each mantra. Praise to Shakyamuni the Sage who showed us a permanent way to bliss.
3 months ago
It would be wonderful if everyone can recite these two mantras 100k each focusing on Shakyamuni Buddha and His powerful healing energies. Not collectively but each person 100k each of each mantra. Praise to Shakyamuni the Sage who showed us a permanent way to bliss.
In Tibet Shannan area Riwoche Ling Monastery, devotees are putting Tsem Rinpoche\'s photo inside the cabinet together with the Buddha he loves - Dorje Shugden
在西藏山南日乌曲林寺,信徒们把詹杜固仁波切的法照和他最敬爱的多杰雄登护法像摆在一起
3 months ago
In Tibet Shannan area Riwoche Ling Monastery, devotees are putting Tsem Rinpoche's photo inside the cabinet together with the Buddha he loves - Dorje Shugden 在西藏山南日乌曲林寺,信徒们把詹杜固仁波切的法照和他最敬爱的多杰雄登护法像摆在一起
Please read this..thank you.
3 months ago
Please read this..thank you.
A beautiful Dorje Shugden depicted in Druid and newage style. There are many more here and free downloads in high file: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=144924
3 months ago
A beautiful Dorje Shugden depicted in Druid and newage style. There are many more here and free downloads in high file: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=144924
Here, His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche (left), one of the tutors of His Holiness the Dalai Lama, confers one of the many countless tantric initiations on the Dalai Lama (right). You can see a young Dalai Lama bowing in this picture with Trijang Rinpoche blessing him. Trijang Rinpoche is therefore undoubtedly the Dalai Lama’s tantric master. A great master at that. Tsem Rinpoche
4 months ago
Here, His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche (left), one of the tutors of His Holiness the Dalai Lama, confers one of the many countless tantric initiations on the Dalai Lama (right). You can see a young Dalai Lama bowing in this picture with Trijang Rinpoche blessing him. Trijang Rinpoche is therefore undoubtedly the Dalai Lama’s tantric master. A great master at that. Tsem Rinpoche
This is a very sacred statue of Buddha Chenresig (Avalokitesvara/Kuan Yin) that manifested many miracles in North India. Read and see more pictures and understand the background here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=153802
4 months ago
This is a very sacred statue of Buddha Chenresig (Avalokitesvara/Kuan Yin) that manifested many miracles in North India. Read and see more pictures and understand the background here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=153802
Wonderful updated version of The Promise book is out! Please get your copy. Much more new information included.
4 months ago
Wonderful updated version of The Promise book is out! Please get your copy. Much more new information included.
\"Bhagavani, source of all wonders, Vasudhara, Goddess of splendour and fortune, bestower of auspicious mental desires; homage to the Goddess Wish-fulfilling Wheel.\" (Sakya liturgical verse).
4 months ago
"Bhagavani, source of all wonders, Vasudhara, Goddess of splendour and fortune, bestower of auspicious mental desires; homage to the Goddess Wish-fulfilling Wheel." (Sakya liturgical verse).
Beautiful and sacred Vajra Yogini in Pharping, Nepal. The caretaker said it was owned by the Great Marpa the translator who was the guru of Milarepa. Wow.
4 months ago
Beautiful and sacred Vajra Yogini in Pharping, Nepal. The caretaker said it was owned by the Great Marpa the translator who was the guru of Milarepa. Wow.
In the Lankavatara Sutra, Lord Buddha says: \"For innumerable reasons, the Bodhisattva, whose nature is compassion, is not to  any meat. Thus Mahamati, whenever there is the evolution of living beings, let people cherish the thought of kinship with them, and thinking that all beings are [to be loved as if they were] and only child, let them refrain from eating meat.  Mahamati, meat is not eaten by anybody for any reason, there will be no destroyer of life. Thus, Mahamati, meat-eating I have not permitted to anyone, I do not permit, I will not permit.\"
4 months ago
In the Lankavatara Sutra, Lord Buddha says: "For innumerable reasons, the Bodhisattva, whose nature is compassion, is not to any meat. Thus Mahamati, whenever there is the evolution of living beings, let people cherish the thought of kinship with them, and thinking that all beings are [to be loved as if they were] and only child, let them refrain from eating meat. Mahamati, meat is not eaten by anybody for any reason, there will be no destroyer of life. Thus, Mahamati, meat-eating I have not permitted to anyone, I do not permit, I will not permit."
At times I have to be a trendsetter in spirituality as opposed to just being a follower and that is why I take chances and try. I may not be liked always for it, but I have to do it. In this way I have been introducing Dorje Shugden to the world. I know Shugden is good and will help so many and that is why I do it.
4 months ago
At times I have to be a trendsetter in spirituality as opposed to just being a follower and that is why I take chances and try. I may not be liked always for it, but I have to do it. In this way I have been introducing Dorje Shugden to the world. I know Shugden is good and will help so many and that is why I do it.
Courage is doing something you know the majority will not agree with and perhaps even some will scorn you for it, but you do it anyway because you know it\'s right and will benefit people at the cost of your own reputation. That\'s how I feel when I share Dorje Shugden\'s practice with the world.
4 months ago
Courage is doing something you know the majority will not agree with and perhaps even some will scorn you for it, but you do it anyway because you know it's right and will benefit people at the cost of your own reputation. That's how I feel when I share Dorje Shugden's practice with the world.
Courage is doing something you know the majority will not agree with and perhaps even some will scorn you for it, but you do it anyway because you know it\'s right and you are true to yourself.
4 months ago
Courage is doing something you know the majority will not agree with and perhaps even some will scorn you for it, but you do it anyway because you know it's right and you are true to yourself.
At times I have to be a trendsetter in spirituality as opposed to just being a follower and that is why I take chances and try. I may not be liked always for it, but I have to do it. In this way I have been introducing Dorje Shugden to the world. I know Shugden is good and will help so many and that is why I do it.
4 months ago
At times I have to be a trendsetter in spirituality as opposed to just being a follower and that is why I take chances and try. I may not be liked always for it, but I have to do it. In this way I have been introducing Dorje Shugden to the world. I know Shugden is good and will help so many and that is why I do it.
Courage is doing something you know the majority will not agree with and perhaps even some will scorn you for it, but you do it anyway because you know it\'s right and you are true to yourself.
4 months ago
Courage is doing something you know the majority will not agree with and perhaps even some will scorn you for it, but you do it anyway because you know it's right and you are true to yourself.
Courage is doing something you know the majority will not agree with and perhaps even some will scorn you for it, but you do it anyway because you know it\'s right and will benefit people at the cost of your own reputation. That\'s how I feel when I share Dorje Shugden\'s practice with the world.
4 months ago
Courage is doing something you know the majority will not agree with and perhaps even some will scorn you for it, but you do it anyway because you know it's right and will benefit people at the cost of your own reputation. That's how I feel when I share Dorje Shugden's practice with the world.
Beautiful Buddha built in Sarnath, India. Sarnath was the place where Lord Buddha first starting teaching the sacred Dharma. Tsem Rinpoche
5 months ago
Beautiful Buddha built in Sarnath, India. Sarnath was the place where Lord Buddha first starting teaching the sacred Dharma. Tsem Rinpoche
 This is so good. I need to remember this and not allow people to do this to me anymore. Being kind is one thing, but when they are doing it and it harms, it is not a matter of kindness anymore but taking advantage.
5 months ago
This is so good. I need to remember this and not allow people to do this to me anymore. Being kind is one thing, but when they are doing it and it harms, it is not a matter of kindness anymore but taking advantage.
Incredible Lama Thubten Phurbu and His Activities - http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=150927
6 months ago
Incredible Lama Thubten Phurbu and His Activities - http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=150927
Huffington Post has just released their SECOND EXPOSÉ of the Dorje Shugden issue. You can read about it here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=151328
6 months ago
Huffington Post has just released their SECOND EXPOSÉ of the Dorje Shugden issue. You can read about it here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=151328
Please read what Kyabje Trijang Choktrul Rinpoche says about people\'s religion.
6 months ago
Please read what Kyabje Trijang Choktrul Rinpoche says about people's religion.
A gorgeous Dorje Shugden painted in traditional art style of China. Chinese art has flourished for over 5,000 years and highly sought after. This form of Dorje Shugden is sitting on a seat as you see painted in his chapel (Trode Khangsar) in Lhasa, Tibet. Dorje Shugden can be on a seat or Lion.  More downloads here.  http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/downloads/buddha-images.html
6 months ago
A gorgeous Dorje Shugden painted in traditional art style of China. Chinese art has flourished for over 5,000 years and highly sought after. This form of Dorje Shugden is sitting on a seat as you see painted in his chapel (Trode Khangsar) in Lhasa, Tibet. Dorje Shugden can be on a seat or Lion. More downloads here. http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/downloads/buddha-images.html
Dear friends, The Dorje Shugden oracle of Gaden Shartse Monastery was authorized and blessed by both Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and Kyabje Zong Rinpoche. He was a favorite among high lamas for his smooth trances and clear prophecies. This video is a one-of-a-kind where you see the Choyang Dulzin Kuten oracle take trance of the peaceful form of Dorje Shugden wearing the robes of a high lama giving teachings, blessings and transmissions. Very sacred and rare video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pawS1TMOe8k
6 months ago
Dear friends, The Dorje Shugden oracle of Gaden Shartse Monastery was authorized and blessed by both Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and Kyabje Zong Rinpoche. He was a favorite among high lamas for his smooth trances and clear prophecies. This video is a one-of-a-kind where you see the Choyang Dulzin Kuten oracle take trance of the peaceful form of Dorje Shugden wearing the robes of a high lama giving teachings, blessings and transmissions. Very sacred and rare video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pawS1TMOe8k
Beautiful contemporary art piece of Dorje Shugden for free high res download here:  http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/downloads/buddha-images.html
6 months ago
Beautiful contemporary art piece of Dorje Shugden for free high res download here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/downloads/buddha-images.html
The Huffington Post extensively covers the Dorje Shugden issue. I had no idea that this article was being written. I was not contacted, not asked for an interview or asked for any comments, and then it was published and my students alerted me to it. So it was a very, very pleasant and encouraging surprise to read such balanced coverage from such a reputable news website. You can read it here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=149806
6 months ago
The Huffington Post extensively covers the Dorje Shugden issue. I had no idea that this article was being written. I was not contacted, not asked for an interview or asked for any comments, and then it was published and my students alerted me to it. So it was a very, very pleasant and encouraging surprise to read such balanced coverage from such a reputable news website. You can read it here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=149806
དེ་རིང་ང་ཁྱེད་རང་ཚོ་མཉམ་དུ་བོད་མིའི་ཆབ་སྲིད་ནང་གི་བློ་མགུ་ནུས་པའི་མངོན་འགྱུར་ཞིག་ཞུའི་ཡིན། གང་དག་བོད་པའི་སྤྱི་ཚོགས་ནང་ཆོས་ལུགས་ཁྱད་པར། དབྱེ་འབྱེད། ཕྱོགས་རིས་ཐོག་ལ་གང་འདྲ་སྟངས་འཛིན་བྱེད་དགོས་ཀྱི་སྐོར་ངེས་གཏན་སྣུན་ཤུགས་བྱེད་ཐུབ། http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/tibetan-mp-tenpa-yarphel-speaks-up-against-nechung-tibetan.html
6 months ago
དེ་རིང་ང་ཁྱེད་རང་ཚོ་མཉམ་དུ་བོད་མིའི་ཆབ་སྲིད་ནང་གི་བློ་མགུ་ནུས་པའི་མངོན་འགྱུར་ཞིག་ཞུའི་ཡིན། གང་དག་བོད་པའི་སྤྱི་ཚོགས་ནང་ཆོས་ལུགས་ཁྱད་པར། དབྱེ་འབྱེད། ཕྱོགས་རིས་ཐོག་ལ་གང་འདྲ་སྟངས་འཛིན་བྱེད་དགོས་ཀྱི་སྐོར་ངེས་གཏན་སྣུན་ཤུགས་བྱེད་ཐུབ། http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/tibetan-mp-tenpa-yarphel-speaks-up-against-nechung-tibetan.html
བོད་པའི་དབུ་ཁྲིད་ཚོའི་རྡོ་རྗེ་ཤུགས་ལྡན་བསྟེན་མཁན་ཚོར་མ་ཉེས་ཁ་ཡོག་གི་བརྙན་ཕྲིན་གསར་པ། http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/tibetan-leaderships-new-anti-shugden-video-tibetan.html
6 months ago
བོད་པའི་དབུ་ཁྲིད་ཚོའི་རྡོ་རྗེ་ཤུགས་ལྡན་བསྟེན་མཁན་ཚོར་མ་ཉེས་ཁ་ཡོག་གི་བརྙན་ཕྲིན་གསར་པ། http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/tibetan-leaderships-new-anti-shugden-video-tibetan.html
(Drepung) Dear friends, In the effort to be creative about something as holy and beneficial as Dorje Shugden, we\'ve come out with these new and realistic depictions. One is Dorje Shugden visiting the Potala Palace and the other is Dorje Shugden arising from Drepung Monastery where he lived in Zimkhang Gangma Ladrang as a high lama. Please enjoy and be blessed. Sincerely, Tsem Rinpoche (High resolution downloads: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/downloads/buddha-images.html )
6 months ago
(Drepung) Dear friends, In the effort to be creative about something as holy and beneficial as Dorje Shugden, we've come out with these new and realistic depictions. One is Dorje Shugden visiting the Potala Palace and the other is Dorje Shugden arising from Drepung Monastery where he lived in Zimkhang Gangma Ladrang as a high lama. Please enjoy and be blessed. Sincerely, Tsem Rinpoche (High resolution downloads: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/downloads/buddha-images.html )
Dear friends, In the effort to be creative about something as holy and beneficial as Dorje Shugden, we\'ve come out with these new and realistic depictions. One is Dorje Shugden visiting the Potala Palace and the other is Dorje Shugden arising from Drepung Monastery where he lived in Zimkhang Gangma Ladrang as a high lama. Please enjoy and be blessed. Sincerely, Tsem Rinpoche (High resolution downloads: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/downloads/buddha-images.html )
6 months ago
Dear friends, In the effort to be creative about something as holy and beneficial as Dorje Shugden, we've come out with these new and realistic depictions. One is Dorje Shugden visiting the Potala Palace and the other is Dorje Shugden arising from Drepung Monastery where he lived in Zimkhang Gangma Ladrang as a high lama. Please enjoy and be blessed. Sincerely, Tsem Rinpoche (High resolution downloads: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/downloads/buddha-images.html )
I had this painting commissioned. Please read more here on this great master-
 http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=146195
7 months ago
I had this painting commissioned. Please read more here on this great master- http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=146195
How can all the high lamas of Tibet and all the protectors not be able to defeat Dorje Shugden? This is food for thought: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Bj0254UG-Y
7 months ago
How can all the high lamas of Tibet and all the protectors not be able to defeat Dorje Shugden? This is food for thought: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Bj0254UG-Y
致全世界的华人:这是我一份小小的心意:一幅富有古中国传统艺术的作品。希望你们会喜欢! http://bit.ly/2zLOjnK
7 months ago
致全世界的华人:这是我一份小小的心意:一幅富有古中国传统艺术的作品。希望你们会喜欢! http://bit.ly/2zLOjnK
“One has not only a legal but a moral responsibility to obey just laws. Conversely, one has a moral responsibility to disobey unjust laws.”

~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
7 months ago
“One has not only a legal but a moral responsibility to obey just laws. Conversely, one has a moral responsibility to disobey unjust laws.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
Download for free this high res photo of Lord Shugden: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/downloads/buddha-images.html
7 months ago
Download for free this high res photo of Lord Shugden: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/downloads/buddha-images.html
Whatever we can do to spread the teachings of our Guru, we should do so.
7 months ago
Whatever we can do to spread the teachings of our Guru, we should do so.
 These three (Dharma, Oser and Mumu) are super adorable.
7 months ago
These three (Dharma, Oser and Mumu) are super adorable.
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  • Monthly Dorje Shugden Puja Performed at Nagu Monastery, Dechen, Yunnan, China for Tsem Rinpoche
    2 weeks ago
    Monthly Dorje Shugden Puja Performed at Nagu Monastery, Dechen, Yunnan, China for Tsem Rinpoche
  • His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche with his student Venerable Geshe Kelsang Gyatso
    2 months ago
    His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche with his student Venerable Geshe Kelsang Gyatso
    His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche of Gaden Shartse Monastery was one of the teachers of Venerable Geshe Kelsang Gyatso. Here in this beautiful video is Geshe Kelsang Gyatso showing his centre to Kyabje Zong Rinpoche, then proceeding to sit down to receive teachings. For more information, please go to http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/category/kyabje-zong-rinpoche
  • Super neat footage of Patty the Bigfoot!
    2 months ago
    Super neat footage of Patty the Bigfoot!
    In 1967, Bob Gimlin and Roger Patterson stumbled across an incredible sight whilst out in Bluff Creek, in the California wilderness. At a creek which had been freshly washed-out by recent floods, they witnessed a female Bigfoot swiftly traverse the rugged landscape. Since their filmed encounter with the Bigfoot, who has since been nicknamed Patty, many have disputed the authenticity of their recording but no one has been able to successfully prove that it is a fake. Credits for this video goes to entirely to windvale for the original footage.
  • Adorable Tibetan kids wishing Happy New Year 2018
    3 months ago
    Adorable Tibetan kids wishing Happy New Year 2018
    The children and their little well-wishing voices are adorable!! It is a must listen. They recite prayers to Dorje Shugden to invoke blessings for everyone for the New Year 2018! At one point, they sprinkle some of the drink into the air as per tradition as an offering to Dorje Shugden. Shugden's practice in Tibet has been strong for four hundred years and is continuing to grow. Happy New Year (Losar) to everyone. May everyone have peace. Sarva Mangalam!
  • Dogs are super intelligent. This dog was trained as a service dog to help his owner who suffers from seizures. It even goes to the extent whereby he will lie under her head when she has a seizure, to protect her head from banging on the floor.
    3 months ago
    Dogs are super intelligent. This dog was trained as a service dog to help his owner who suffers from seizures. It even goes to the extent whereby he will lie under her head when she has a seizure, to protect her head from banging on the floor.
  • Beautiful Tibetan children wishing Happy New Year!
    3 months ago
    Beautiful Tibetan children wishing Happy New Year!
  • Ven Lobsang Jigme of Tsem Monastery in Yara, Tibet is passing out pictures of Tsem Rinpoche to the locals.
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    Ven Lobsang Jigme of Tsem Monastery in Yara, Tibet is passing out pictures of Tsem Rinpoche to the locals.
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KSK Penang team redistributed 360.60kg worth of surplus food and 235 pcs buns to the needy families in Flat PPR and Flat MBPP. Thank you to all the dedicated volunteers benefitting these families who are facing long term difficulties. Thank you Tesco for doing your part to help the less fortunate community! Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
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KSK Penang team redistributed 360.60kg worth of surplus food and 235 pcs buns to the needy families in Flat PPR and Flat MBPP. Thank you to all the dedicated volunteers benefitting these families who are facing long term difficulties. Thank you Tesco for doing your part to help the less fortunate community! Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
Recently we had a bird liberation on Medicine Buddha Hill. The practice of animal liberation benefits not only the animals, but also those who contribute towards this meritorious activity, offering the benefits of healing, longevity and purification of negative actions. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
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Recently we had a bird liberation on Medicine Buddha Hill. The practice of animal liberation benefits not only the animals, but also those who contribute towards this meritorious activity, offering the benefits of healing, longevity and purification of negative actions. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
More pictures of the surplus food collected from hotels and restaurants to be redistributed to the needy. Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
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More pictures of the surplus food collected from hotels and restaurants to be redistributed to the needy. Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
Last night in KL. Surplus food collection from hotels and restaurants around town. Thank you very much to the following hotels: Sunway Resorts Hotel Hotel Stripes KL The Majestic Hotel Impiana KLCC Concorde Shah Alam Al Amar Pavilion Grand Hyatt KL Concorde KL MSU And not forgetting the wonderful volunteers. Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
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Last night in KL. Surplus food collection from hotels and restaurants around town. Thank you very much to the following hotels: Sunway Resorts Hotel Hotel Stripes KL The Majestic Hotel Impiana KLCC Concorde Shah Alam Al Amar Pavilion Grand Hyatt KL Concorde KL MSU And not forgetting the wonderful volunteers. Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
The collection from surplus food helps prevent food wastage; we redistribute to the needy families. Thank you to Tesco for this surplus food and also grateful to the volunteers for helping!!! Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
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The collection from surplus food helps prevent food wastage; we redistribute to the needy families. Thank you to Tesco for this surplus food and also grateful to the volunteers for helping!!! Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
Mr. Cheah Fook Wan has offered lights and incense on behalf of KISG in Ipoh. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
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Mr. Cheah Fook Wan has offered lights and incense on behalf of KISG in Ipoh. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
KISG has carried out prayer recitations to Mother Tara in Ipoh today. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
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KISG has carried out prayer recitations to Mother Tara in Ipoh today. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
The close bonding between teacher and students in Sunday Dharma Class. Lin Mun KSDS
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The close bonding between teacher and students in Sunday Dharma Class. Lin Mun KSDS
Teacher Kien leading the prayer session before we start the class lesson. Lin Mun KSDS
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Teacher Kien leading the prayer session before we start the class lesson. Lin Mun KSDS
Teacher Alice share the guidelines and lay out the class rules before start of lesson. Lin Mun
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Teacher Alice share the guidelines and lay out the class rules before start of lesson. Lin Mun
Andrea and Chloe always very participating during the Q&A session. Lin Mun KSDS
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Andrea and Chloe always very participating during the Q&A session. Lin Mun KSDS
Animal liberation is held every 2nd week of the month in Kechara House. Sunday Dharma School students will also join this meritorious session. Lin Mun KSDS
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Animal liberation is held every 2nd week of the month in Kechara House. Sunday Dharma School students will also join this meritorious session. Lin Mun KSDS
Dedication will be done after the dharma lessons and activities were ended. Alice Tay, KSDS
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Dedication will be done after the dharma lessons and activities were ended. Alice Tay, KSDS
Teacher Kien is very passionate to help the students in art decorations. Alice Tay, KSDS
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Teacher Kien is very passionate to help the students in art decorations. Alice Tay, KSDS
Teacher Asyley asked students to pay close attention to the video teaching. Alice Tay, KSDS
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Teacher Asyley asked students to pay close attention to the video teaching. Alice Tay, KSDS
Teacher Alice explained the classroom rules to the children. Alice Tay, KSDS
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Teacher Alice explained the classroom rules to the children. Alice Tay, KSDS
KSDS students learn to use mala during Manjushri mantra recitation. Alice Tay, KSDS
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KSDS students learn to use mala during Manjushri mantra recitation. Alice Tay, KSDS
Thank you for your kind food sponsorship Jade Choong and happy birthday to you! Thank you for doing this on your birthday! Bring a lot of meaning and joy to everyone on the streets. The clients love it especially when we are serving fruit juice! Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
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Thank you for your kind food sponsorship Jade Choong and happy birthday to you! Thank you for doing this on your birthday! Bring a lot of meaning and joy to everyone on the streets. The clients love it especially when we are serving fruit juice! Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
133kg of vegetables were redistributed to 41 families in Orang Asli village here in Bentong yesterday. Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
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133kg of vegetables were redistributed to 41 families in Orang Asli village here in Bentong yesterday. Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
Majlis Pelancaran Bulan Bermakna, launch Tesco Food Drive for the holy month of Ramadan to be channelled to our food bank and Food Aid Foundation to be redistributed to the poor families. Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
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Majlis Pelancaran Bulan Bermakna, launch Tesco Food Drive for the holy month of Ramadan to be channelled to our food bank and Food Aid Foundation to be redistributed to the poor families. Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
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Photo from antoinette kass
Learn, Play, Grow together at Kechara Sunday Dharma School. Every Sunday 9am to 10.30am. Come Come join us!!!We have alot of Fun By Asyley Chia KSDS
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Learn, Play, Grow together at Kechara Sunday Dharma School. Every Sunday 9am to 10.30am. Come Come join us!!!We have alot of Fun By Asyley Chia KSDS
Learn, Play, Grow together at Kechara Sunday Dharma School. Every Sunday 9am to 10.30am. Come Come join us!!!We have alot of Fun By Asyley Chia KSDS
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Learn, Play, Grow together at Kechara Sunday Dharma School. Every Sunday 9am to 10.30am. Come Come join us!!!We have alot of Fun By Asyley Chia KSDS
Learn, Play, Grow together at Kechara Sunday Dharma School. Every Sunday 9am to 10.30am. Come Come join us!!!We have alot of Fun By Asyley Chia KSDS
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Learn, Play, Grow together at Kechara Sunday Dharma School. Every Sunday 9am to 10.30am. Come Come join us!!!We have alot of Fun By Asyley Chia KSDS
Learn, Play, Grow together at Kechara Sunday Dharma School. Every Sunday 9am to 10.30am. Come Come join us!!!We have alot of Fun By Asyley Chia KSDS
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Learn, Play, Grow together at Kechara Sunday Dharma School. Every Sunday 9am to 10.30am. Come Come join us!!!We have alot of Fun By Asyley Chia KSDS
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