Have you had a friend like this??

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Farewell Soo, loyal companion and dear friend.

THERE was great sadness in my home last week. Soolam, my senior service dog, was put down. He was 13. The decision to euthanize Soo, as my other dogs and I fondly knew him, was not at all easy.

The move  was quickly reached when the Golden Retriever could no longer stand or walk. He could not even eat his meals without throwing up.

However, everything about Soo’s final journey on earth turned out to be as intriguing and uncanny as the day when he first arrived.

He was  barely two months old then. The pup was a gift from a couple who were  doctors. The purpose was to see if a retriever could make a good service dog.


Friend for life: The writer spending precious moments with Soo before he was euthanised.

He needed to be fed as many as four times a day. I had to clean up after a dog that seemed to have an endless supply of poo.

The most difficult part, however, was to grab the pup and put him back in  his crate. Fortunately, his senior canine partners literally lent their  paws to solve the problem.

Soo had a knack of chasing the big dogs around the house. One of them would cleverly use the situation to  dash back to me so that I could grab Soo.

The experience of  raising and training Soo helped to psyche me up. And as for Soo, he went on to become a service dog that was parallel to none.

He was the perfect companion to attend meetings with. He’d been to church numerous times and even stayed completely unnoticed at government meetings. Some of the chairpersons discovered his presence only after the event.

He has helped me in unusual places, too. These include in the toilet at  the United Nations building in Kuala Lumpur (when my shoe was out of  reach and the soap fell on the floor).

He also sat through a serious discussion with people with AIDS at the Malaysian AIDS Council.

On top of all these, Soo had appeared scores of times in the media which  included newspapers, TV and radio. He was the main star of a special  video which featured my service dogs.

Once when I was caught in a 30-minute thunderstorm in a forest, Soo chose to get drenched with me  in the heavy downpour rather than seek shelter elsewhere.

In his  more than a decade of service, Soo relished his car rides the most – so  much so that I became his private chauffeur. We must have travelled  thousands of kilometres over the decade and only once, in all those  years, did he throw up in the back seat.

Once our adventure led  us all the way to Penang on a grueling 24-hour trip where Soo performed and wowed several hundred people at a dog event with his service dog  skills.

On that fateful Sunday morning, an extremely feeble Soo  looked straight into my eyes. It was as if he was telling me to be  strong for him and do the right thing to painlessly end his suffering.

He never once whimpered or flinched. He took every opportunity to lay his  head on my shoulder or hands whenever I was by his side.

Despite  the pain, Soo remained resolute and dignified in the back seat of my car during his final journey to the veterinarian. He was on my lap with his head held high as I wheeled into the clinic.

I made sure that my hero fell asleep before he entered into eternal sleep. The clinic  didn’t charge me anything for putting a great dog down.

Another doctor, who is an expert in dog show winning breeds, offered to bury Soo in his yard at home.

My king, I’m proud to say, is now privileged to be the only retriever laid to rest with other national and international champion Doberman and  German Shepherd Dog breeds that have crossed over the rainbow bridge  before him.

Even more amazing is the fact that Soo is buried in  the home of the mother of my latest and youngest service dog candidate,  Dobe Ace Zhar the Doberman.

Last Saturday, Zhar and I were at an  international dog show in KL with more than 200 dogs from all over Asia. And although I was the only person in a wheelchair there, Zhar stuck  close to me much like Soo used to do during happier days.

And by a very strange coincidence, Zhar kept climbing up on my lap several times as if to say: “Don’t worry, you’re safe now. I’m with you.”

Angels don’t always come with wings; sometimes they have tails, even if it happens to be a rather short one.


Thank you.



(This beautiful story was sent to me by CK Liew, the original story is from The Star… thanks for the story… very touching and painful.)


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  1. Edward ooi on Feb 23, 2014 at 2:14 am

    Dear Rinpoche, I don’t have a friend like that but I do wish for one. My mother promised me that she is going to buy me a golden retriever when we can afford to buy my mom’s dream house!!! I can’t wait to have a dog!!!

  2. Beatrix Ooi on Jan 3, 2014 at 12:20 am

    This is very touching, I think that Soo passed away in peace. At least his life partner treated him very well, it’s sad to know that he had to die this way. May Soo take a good rebirth and be reborn as a human. Thank You for sharing Rinpoche, this is a very great story.

  3. Vinnie Tan on Aug 15, 2013 at 7:49 pm

    It is definitely a touching story of how strong and deep relationship between a owner and their dog. The loyalty of the Soo is strong. Soo has such a caring nature for a service dog. I am really happy that the writer of the article has such as dog that accompanies him. It is just heart warming that the connection between the two of them are so deep and endearing.

    Although by putting dog Soo is the only way to end Soo’s misery, but I do not agree that we such end the animal’s life like that. They should be given the opportunity to life all the way till their life ends by itself instead of us as owners to say that it is times up for the animals.

  4. tenzin llhamo on Nov 21, 2012 at 11:10 pm

    This is such a touching story. Soo is such a loyal companion and although he was in pain, he stayed loyal till the end. I could never euthanize my pet if I was in such a situation. I would rather spend the time to take care of my dog till he dies. I often think that animals are better companions as they will be at your side no matter what happens. Such a beautiful story to remember…

  5. beatrix ooi on Nov 8, 2012 at 9:01 pm

    This is a very touching story. How many friends or family do we have like Soo? It’s so sad that they have to euthanise him, but I think it’s a better way for Soo to leave without any further suffering. He is such a wonderful friend. Thank You for sharing Rinpoche.
    Love, beatrix.

  6. Julien Roth on Nov 8, 2012 at 5:41 pm

    I love how no matter how hard it was to take care of this dog. They still did everything they could to love and care for him. This story was very painful yet touching. Its sad that the dog had been in so much pain. He couldn’t even eat his food or walk. Thank you for sharing Rinpoche.

  7. Sheryl KH (JB) on Jun 27, 2012 at 11:15 pm

    A really very touching story indeed! I love especially the last line – that ‘angels dont always come with wings; sometimes they have tails, even if it happens to be a rather short one’

    Dogs are loyal breed of beings. And I am glad I have one such angel with me.

  8. Yoke Fui on Feb 29, 2012 at 10:25 pm

    People usually think it is out of their love for the pets that they put their pets down.

    Is it truly so ?

    Could it be we can’t stand the sight of pain and suffering or we refuse to confront these feelings that we choose to put the animals down in the pretense of being kind ?

  9. Karen C. on Feb 3, 2012 at 9:54 pm

    I always believe the existence of real friendship between human and animals, especially dogs. Dogs are known to be loyal and faithful (if you treat them well). This is such a touching real story that just happened in our neighborhood, it’s not a story that made up by newspaper just to attract the viewerships. Dogs are really man’s best friend and dogs will never betray us.

    Here’s a link where it talks about dogs that saved their owner’s life and etc:


  10. Adeline on Feb 1, 2012 at 5:57 pm

    Facing such situation is very difficult to decide in this case,for some people it is better to endure short pain rather than long pain. To me in this case the owner is on wheelchair,may be he has to choose euthanasia for his dog.But i feel from buddhist point of view,no killing, if u have more people in the house who can take turn to look after the dog,it is better to let the dog die a natural death.

  11. William on Jan 21, 2012 at 12:47 pm

    This is such a touching story! Animals are caring and loving too as seen from Soo. It is love and loyalty from start to the end. I’m sure that Soo would have been reincarnated to a better place since he has taken care of his master during his lifetime and created a lot of merits for himself. I’m also happy that the owner manage to get another dog who is equally loving and loyal to him. A heart warming story.

  12. susan on Jan 18, 2012 at 12:11 am

    gosh… i feel for this man. So fortunate to have made such close bond with Soo, but the pain of losing such a companion is beyond words.

    Last year in August, I lost two of my beloved dogs Jannic and Abram, strangely…just one day a part from each other. Both died due to old age.

    A few weeks before Jannic died, she had so much health complication. She finally couldn’t lift herself up even to go poop or pee. So I had to clean her each night when i got home. She tried to muster up the strength to be cheerful though she couldn’t move much. After being cleaned, she’d put her head on my lap and her paw in my hand. She never ones winced.

    Abram (cocker spaniel) had been with me since he was a little puppy, while I was living in the US and we had journeyed together to many places and even flew on the plane with me when I return back to Malaysia for good. I was with Abram the day he died,…saw him finally stopped breathing, stroking his head gently while reciting prayers. But I couldn’t get home in time to be there for Jannic when she passed away the very next day after Abram died.

    It crossed my mind if it would have been an act of mercy to euthanize Jannic when I saw she was in so much suffering. I couldn’t and didn’t want to euthanize Jannic. It just wasn’t an option for me. The vet finally gave up talking any sense to me about the option to euthanize Jannic but relented to making Jannic as comfortable as they can and to do their best so Jannic doesn’t have to experience so much pain. Jannic died at the vet, surrounded by the veterinarians and their staff. I was told they all prayed in their different faith for Jannic!

  13. Wan Wai Meng on Jan 17, 2012 at 3:58 am

    I had to put down one of my cats that was having kidney problems. I called her mummy she had a litter of three kittens at my house. She was very sweet cat. And It was running through my mind, did the doctors do all they could before deciding to put her down. Animals can become our good friends through many situations. one should not underestimate how close we can be to animals.

  14. comel loo on Jan 6, 2012 at 1:06 pm

    Hi, please find attached 10 tops dogs of 2011 that I find truly inspiring and wish to share.

  15. Thierry Janssens on Jan 5, 2012 at 9:36 pm

    “Angels don’t always come with wings; sometimes they have tails, even if it happens to be a rather short one.”

    Oh yeah… And so do Buddhas too!

    One thing seem to be sure is that Soo has created causes to take a rebirth in circumstances that are even more conducive to practice compassion and care.

  16. Margaretlee on Jan 5, 2012 at 8:33 am

    Seeing a loyal friend slowly dying, be it a human or animal is heart wrenching. I could have probably made the same decision like the owner of Soo as well, who wants to see the pet suffer everyday??

    But having learnt the law of karma and understanding that basically we do not have any right to end the lives of any being, I would do my ulmost to give Soo the best treatment and take care of him until his last breath.

    Another simple way to help our pet to take a good rebirth, is any form of prayers, we can do “Om Mani Peme Hum” every day for 49 days and dedicate the merits to the pet for his swift and good rebirth. The passing of an animal and a human is the same. And Soo is definitely a very special dog, his loyalty to the owner could surpassed that of a human.

    I lit a candle for Soo and may your kind soul take a very good human rebirth!

  17. su_zan on Jan 5, 2012 at 6:34 am

    thank you for sharing the story. I is sad that such decision has to be made. It is not easy to make such decision after spending years with Soo.

    May Soo rest in peace n have a good rebirth.

  18. Mc on Jan 5, 2012 at 3:43 am

    This story certainly tugs at my heart strings. Some of the best moments I have had, a lot of the happy ones, and a fair share of sad moments have been spent with my best friends who just happen to be dogs. They are always there with only one purpose ie to comfort. They have always been there for me. I, on the other have not always been there for them and this post is a timely reminder for me to make time for my furry friends. And good quality time at that.

    I read the post and I can see clearly the image of a man caught in a storm in a wheelchair and his friend deciding to be by his side, not minding some water. Not a lot of human friends would do that. It takes unconditional loyalty, and real friendship. These two sums up love.

    In my kiddish mind, I always feel that animals who come and spread so much joy without making demands should surely just earn an automatic great rebirth. They live with only one purpose…ie to love, to please and to comfort.

    Those friends like Soo, deserve so much. So, so very much.

  19. bengkooi on Jan 5, 2012 at 3:28 am

    Very touching story about Soo. It is never easy when deciding to euthanise a beloved pet, let alone a service dog where the bond between dog and owner would be even stronger from years of reliance and trust. How do you decide when is the right time? How do you know when to give up hope? Is it really better to euthanize than to allow the natural lifespan to be lived out, especially in Buddhist philosophy?

    Anyone have any thoughts to share?

    • Mc on Jan 5, 2012 at 3:58 am

      It always seems “easier” to euthanize the dying and suffering. BUT easier doesn’t make it right. What seems “better” may in a very subtle way, be due to our selfish reasons i.e. it is easier for us because we cannot bear to see them suffer. In the bigger picture, all life must live-out their karma to completion even if that completion is difficult to see and experience. I wonder whether by cutting short a being’s suffering, we could be denying them the opportunity to work out their karma and by so doing, force them to take rebirth into another life where they then also need to work out the rest of the suffering.

      Whether as a man or a dog, if I have to live horribly and suffer terribly before I die, my hope is that all the bad stuff are exhausted then and I can move on to better things.

      The best we can wish for a friend is an excellent rebirth or even better ie totally out of samsara. The second best is that they die without suffering. I prefer my friends to have the best.

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  • xuliang
    Friday, Nov 20. 2015 06:24 PM
    Religion has become superstition and image-worship, belief and ritual. It has lost the beauty of truth; incense has taken the place of reality. Instead of direct perception there is in its place the image carved by the hand or the mind. The only concern of religion is the total transformation of man. And all the circus that goes on around it is nonsense. That’s why the truth is not to be found in any temple or church, however beautiful they are. Beauty of truth and the beauty of stone are two different I things. One opens the door to the immeasurable and the other to, the imprisonment of man; the one to freedom and the other to the bondage of thought. Romanticism and sentimentality deny the very nature of religion, nor is it a plaything of the intellect. Knowledge in the area of action is necessary to function efficiently and objectively, but knowledge is not the means of the transformation of man; knowledge is the structure of thought and thought is the dull repetition of the known, however modified and enlarged. There is no freedom through the ways of thought, the known.
  • xuliang
    Friday, Nov 20. 2015 12:19 PM
    We may have a great deal of knowledge and be vastly poor. The poorer we are the greater the demand for knowledge. We expand our consciousness with great varieties of knowledge, accumulating experiences and remembrances and yet may be vastly poor. The skilful use of knowledge may bring us wealth and give us eminence and power but there may still be poverty. This poverty breeds callousness; we play while the house is burning. This poverty merely strengthens the intellect or gives to the emotions the weakness of sentiment. It’s this poverty that brings about imbalance, the outer and inner. There’s no knowledge of the inner, only of the outer. The knowledge of the outer informs us erroneously that there must be knowledge of the inner. Self-knowing is brief and shallow; the mind is soon beyond it, like crossing a river. We make a lot of noise in going across the river and to mistake the noise as knowledge of the self is to expand poverty. This expansion of consciousness is the activity of poverty. Religions, culture, knowledge, can in no way enrich this poverty.
    The skill of intelligence is to put knowledge in its right place. Without knowledge it’s not possible to live in this technological and almost mechanical civilization but it will not transform the human being and society. Knowledge is not the excellence of intelligence; intelligence can and does use knowledge and thus transforms man and his society. Intelligence is not the mere cultivation of the intellect and its integrity. It comes out of the understanding of the whole consciousness of man, ourselves and not a part, a separate segment, of yourselves. The study and the understanding of the movement of our own mind and heart give birth to this intelligence. We are the content of our consciousness; in knowing ourselves we will know the universe. This knowing is beyond the word for the word is not the thing. The freedom from the known, every minute, is the essence of intelligence. It’s this intelligence that is in operation in the universe if we leave it alone. We are destroying this sacredness of order through the ignorance of yourselves. This ignorance is not banished by the studies others have made about us or themselves. We ourselves have to study the content of our own consciousness. The studies the others have made of themselves, and so of us, are the descriptions but not the described. The word is not the thing.
    Only in relationship can we know yourself, not in abstraction and certainly not in isolation. Even in a monastery we are related to the society which has made the monastery as an escape, or closed the doors to freedom. The movement of behaviour is the sure guide to yourselves; it’s the mirror of our consciousness; this mirror will reveal its content, the images, the attachments, the fears, the loneliness, the joy and the sorrow. Poverty lies in running away from this, either in its sublimations. or in its identities. Negating without resistance this content of consciousness is the beauty and compassion of intelligence.

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What Am I Writing Now


The Unknown

The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
So go pursue all the way with the unknown,
because all unknown with familiarity becomes the known.
~Tsem Rinpoche

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2 weeks ago
Please see the WONDERFUL NEW PHOTOS taken just this morning (November 13, 2015) here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=81688 (Be sure to scroll to the bottom until part 2 to see the pictures)
2 weeks ago
We at Kechara Forest Retreat had the honor to have a visit from Yang Dipertua Mohammad Shahid bin Ismail who is the Head of the Bentong Municipal Council. We thank him for taking the time as he was very busy. Thank you very much. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
Pastor David giving a well received talk on the practice of Black Manjushri
2 weeks ago
Found a green patch of land to spend with friends...
2 weeks ago
Nice to see our fellow Modern Buddhist Fellowship members engaged in Dharma.
2 weeks ago
Manjushri-ghosha, Kumara (English: Youthful Prince, Melodious Voice)
2 weeks ago
Wonderful certificates of our Kechara pastors..meaningful and touching.
2 weeks ago
This office table has something interesting on it.
2 weeks ago
Powerfully true
2 weeks ago
To have kind and caring people in our lives is a blessing
2 weeks ago
2 weeks ago
I really wanted to share this incredible picture of the Tibetologist Alexandra David-Neel outside of her retreat cave in Tibet. She's one of the first non-Tibetans who penetrated Tibet to engage in the practice of Tibetan Buddhism. She really practiced and even wrote books on Buddhism and Tibet which are still available now. ~Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
A photo taken by Pastor Shin of Tsem Rinpoche's Dorje Shugden traditional mask. This is on Tsem Rinpoche's shrine. Very nice photo.
3 weeks ago
At Chin Swee Temple with my long time friend Dato' Wira Eric.
3 weeks ago
Amogha-pasa Avalokitesvara
3 weeks ago
I love small quaint towns in Japan. No matter how rural or small any village is in Japan, it is still kept very clean and asthetic matching nature. 
3 weeks ago
Left to right: Gekula (disciplinarian), Abbot Geshe Konchok Tsering, Tsem Rinpoche, H.E. Kensur Jampa Yeshe Rinpoche-We are inviting Kensur Rinpoche for tenshug. Tenshug is grand puja to request Kensur Rinpoche to live long. This is in Gaden and we are inviting him to the prayer hall to perform the tenshug. Tsem Rinpoche is the requester and sponsor.
3 weeks ago
This is a nice picture
3 weeks ago
Kyabje Lati Rinpoche and Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen
3 weeks ago
Kyabje Lati Rinpoche and Kari Kensur Rinpoche of Gaden Shartse Monastery
3 weeks ago
Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche, H.H. Zong Rinpoche & Kyabje Lati Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
Kyabje Lati Rinpoche makes offerings to H.H. Trijang Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
Kyabje Lati Rinpoche makes offering to their Holinesses Kyabje Ling and Trijang Rinpoches
3 weeks ago
Lady Buddha Janguli who protects from snakes and venom poisoning.
4 weeks ago
If there is a blind man walking towards a well and he can fall in, whose fault is it if he falls in? This can be related back to those in dharma should act to guide others by example otherwise you let everyone fall into the well. If they do fall in samsara's well, whose fault is it? Have the courage, integrity and fortitude to practice dharma and bring dharma to others to help them.~ Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
This group in Kechara Forest Retreat completed a Singdongma retreat on October 28, 2015.
4 weeks ago
Magnificent and Glorious Buddha Goddess Singdongma the Lion Faced lady who dispells all fear from the ten directions for those who invoke upon her fercocious and volcanic like power. Praise to this wrathful lady that burns all gnosis and projections! Remover of all that harms and obstructs and trampled under her feet. Tsem Rinpoche--To learn more about Singdongma: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=31904
4 weeks ago
Xiaqiong Monastary, Qinghai, Tibet, China. Over 100 meters tall Lord Tsongkapa statue. The only one of it's kind. Totally amazing. Picture 2
4 weeks ago
Xiaqiong Monastary, Qinghai, Tibet, China. Over 100 meters tall Lord Tsongkapa statue. The only one of it's kind. Totally amazing. Picture 1
1 month ago
This was taken in Kechara House. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
This was taken in Gaden Shartse Monastery on the day of my enthronement as Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
I think I was in Sera Mey Monastery when this was taken over 18 years ago. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
1 month ago
Many times we hear great Vajra Yogini practitioners when cremated, their fire pyres appear in the form of Vajra Yogini. We hear this many times as a sign they went to Kechara Paradise, gained high realizations or enlightened by Vajra Yogini's path. Although this picture does not depict a funeral pyre of a great practitioner, but the fire looks curiously like Vajra Yogini. Enjoy and may all be blessed by Vajra Yogini. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
1 month ago
When you work hard and produce results, everyone is silenced and those who make noise is just noise and society allows you some freedoms. You have to have the integrity to finish what you started and what you promised. Do it for others, those concerned and for yourself.~Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
You can work with me and we finish the dreams. You can leave citing any reasons you may have. You may join back again with me and my arms are open to you. Or you may go away as an enemy or remain friends. However you do I will accept. I dream big and work hard and sometimes it's hard for you, others and me, but if we finish, there is great satisfaction. Satisfaction doesn't come free. But one thing for sure, I will finish what I have started with or without you. Too many depend on it and many have hopes in it. We need to remember our words, our promises and our hopes we gave others and not shatter it. Sometimes we need to put our personal feelings aside and just get it done with a bang and be happy about it because in the end letting others down is not a way of life. Be kind, have integrity, don't make excuses, don't justify but just complete the works that make the dreams materialize and in the process you fulfill the dreams of many others. Others is always the key. Others and oneself are intertwined. Life is then fulfilled. That is life. Life is like that.~Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Please click on picture to see this special mantra
1 month ago
Long Manjushri mantra: Namo Manjushriye Kumara Bhutaya Bodhisattvaya Maha-sattvaya Maha-karuni-kaya Tayatha Om Aradzey Biradzey Shuddhey Bishuddhey Shodaya Bishodayey Amaley Bimaley Nirmaley Dzaya-varey Ruru-tsaley Hung Hung Hung Phet Phet Phet Soha!
1 month ago
Love is.....
1 month ago
Very powerful. Must click on picture and read and share.
1 month ago
Some people just work quietly in the background and do their best in their own way to benefit others. They don't say much but work super hard. I must say Pastor Dr. Lanse is one of them. She does not need attention, she does not complain and she does not ever create problems. She is independent and yet kind. She is our wonderful translator who works very hard to get translations of many dharma teachings into Chinese. This is just something short and sweet to let everyone know how much I appreciate Pastor Lanse and enjoy being with her work and her. Because of her and several other vital and lovely people, much practical dharma is in the Chinese speaking world. I thank Pastor Dr. Lanse from my heart. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Materialism is prevalent because the societal norms teaches people to be consumers at a young age. Buying things we don't need all to feed the ego. You can drive an expensive vehicle, but at the end of the day its still just a car. You can buy a flashy watch, but in reality all it does is tell time. People are more concerned with image and feeding their egos than being a beneficial person to society. Investing money on the outside to appear a certain way to others, yet forgetting to invest in yourself to becoming a better person. People spend their whole lives working to attain materialistic things using their accumulation of materialism to validate their existence, but when you die you can't take any of it with you. Don't let this system turn you into a vanity slave, realize you're worth much more than that. Feed your soul not your ego.-from Dr Asky (Powerful words of wisdom even from the secular point of view)
1 month ago
I love little Dharma boy.
2 months ago
Lord Tsongkhapa's holy retreat house in Tibet. Huge pilgrimage spot.
2 months ago
Lama Tsongkhapa footprint as a child
2 months ago
Kedrub Je's personal statue of Yamantaka
2 months ago
Prince Siddhartha with his maternal aunt Queen Mahaprajapati Gotami
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    2 months ago
    HH the Dalai Lama prays with HH Trijang Rinpoche and HH Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche. Such a beautiful video of His Holiness Dalai Lama, His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and His Holiness Dilgo Kyentse Rinpoche (Very exalted high Nyingma lama) are all praying together. In the background you see a young Kyabje Lati Rinpoche too. So beautiful. This is how it was before the ban. All the sects and high lamas were superbly harmonious. After the Dorje Shugden ban things changed for the worse. May the ban be released soon. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Nice Dorje Shugden rock painting
    2 months ago
    Nice Dorje Shugden rock painting
  • His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
    3 months ago
    His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
  • A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
    3 months ago
    A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 1)
    3 months ago
    Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 1)
  • Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 2)
    3 months ago
    Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 2)
  • His Holiness Trijang Rinpoche accepts Long Life puja
    4 months ago
    His Holiness Trijang Rinpoche accepts Long Life puja
  • Dorje Shugden/Kache Marpo makes offerings to Tsem Rinpoche
    4 months ago
    Dorje Shugden/Kache Marpo makes offerings to Tsem Rinpoche
  • My good friend Justin Ripley
    5 months ago
    My good friend Justin Ripley
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    6 months ago
    I requested Choji Lah to do a trusol, rabney and soongdroop for our large DS and Buddha. In this video, he is performing trusol which is ritually 'bathing' the environment and blessing all those who come to visit our Wisdom Hall and Dorje Shugden. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Bigfoot arrives!!!
    6 months ago
    Bigfoot arrives!!!
    Tsem Rinpoche is an avid follower of the paranormal such as bigfoots. For more interesting writings and posts on the subject, please go to http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/category/yeti-bigfoot-sasquatch
  • Mumu Loves Snack!
    6 months ago
    Mumu Loves Snack!
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    6 months ago
    For H.E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche, a blog post is not just a blog post but Dharma work that generates merits which should be dedicated. Click here to find out what blog post Rinpoche was dedicating the merits for when he recited this prayer: http://bit.ly/1KiXWf9 ~Ani Lobsang Pema
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    6 months ago
    Panchen Lama in Beijing on CCTV - China's official news. The respect and position they give His Holiness Panchen Lama is great.
  • Magical fish tank with Buddha statue
    6 months ago
    Magical fish tank with Buddha statue


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10 hours ago
Gratitude makes us happier. H.E. The 25th Tsem Rinpoche. http://on.fb.me/1NthEpL Lucy Yap
15 hours ago
Dorje Shugden: The Protector Of Our Time! This unique full-colour graphic novel brings to life the history, lineage and miraculous activities of Dorje Shugden, the special protector of the 600-year-old Gelugpa lineage founded by Lama Tsongkhapa. http://www.vajrasecrets.com/dorje-shugden-the-protector-of-our-time-english
18 hours ago
Big Dorje Shugden puja conducted this morning to clear Sponsor's obstacles on her cancer treatment. By Puja House 24 November'15
18 hours ago
Sponsor sponsored offering for weekly puja . By Puja House 24 November'15
18 hours ago
Team making torma for today's puja. By Puja House 24 November'15
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2 days ago
I am not alone ! From:June Tang(Khjb)
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Never give up ! From:June Tang(Khjb)
2 days ago
Stop segregation ! ~Tsem Rinpoche From:June Tang(Khjb)
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Face the truth ~Tsem Rinpoche From:June Tang(Khjb)
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Respect our religious freedom. From:June Tang(Khjb)
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Create peace now ~Tsem Rinpoche From:June Tang(Khjb)
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Let me be me. ~Tsem Rinpoche From:June Tang(Khjb)
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Consider this.. ~Tsem Rinpoche From:June Tang(Khjb)
2 days ago
When to stop? ~Tsem Rinpoche From:June Tang(Khjb)
2 days ago
CTA help. ~Tsem Rinpoche From:June Tang(Khjb)
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We want harmony. ~Tsem Rinpoche From:June Tang(Khjb)
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Give peace a chance. ~Tsem Rinpoche From:June Tang(Khjb)
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What do you think? ~Tsem Rinpoche From:June Tang(Khjb)
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Think about this. ~Tsem Rinpoche From:June Tang(Khjb)
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Magical ~Tsem Rinpoche From:June Tang(Khjb)
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Abundance of offering offered for Dorje Shugden puja. By Puja House 23 November'15
2 days ago
Dorje Shugden puja did for Sponsor who are in need of Dorje Shugden's help. By Puja House 23 November'15
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49 bowls of water offering for Traveling Puja. By Puja House 23 November'15



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