7 ways to ignore insults

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7 Ways to ingore insults

As a person with sensitivity, a blogger, and also a human, I receive much opinions and feedback from others. Some are very nice, honest, deep and some seem like personal attacks. Well in life, the reality is there are just some people who have their own issues and instead of dealing with them, they like to hurl attacks on others. They think that by giving pain to others, they rid themselves of their own pain, but to the contrary it does not. They actually ‘enjoy’ being not nice and hurting others purposely. I guess that is their space at the moment. It would be ok if they stay in their own space, but it’s when they come to yours you have to deal with it.

So other people’s behaviour should not disturb our goals, passion and equilibrium. We can refuse their negativities in this way:

 
1. What is the truth?

Contemplate what was said about you. Even if unpleasant. Is it constructive? Is there any grain of truth in what they said. Ignore how they said it. Be honest and think about what they said. In the end, if you apply it, will it benefit you? If it will, turn it around and make changes in yourself instead of fighting their words and them. If you make the changes within yourself, then no more attacks of this nature. If their words were meant to hurt you and it has no truth in it, then take it as self improvement and move on. Realize they are who they are and you don’t have to feed into it. Criticism from positive and negative sources can be fuel for self reflection leading to improvement. Take it as that. Nothing in life is easy or idyllic.

 
2. The source

Does this person deserve to be understood and your time? Are they jealous of you? Cannot accept your success? Cannot accept your kind disposition? Does not like the way you do things? What is the source of their hurtful words? Take a moment to assess why this person is doing what they are doing. You can’t psycho-analyze everyone but this one is on your front doorstep. If you can understand why this person is so negative towards you, it will help you to let go. Maybe they had been hurt or something really horrible happened in their lives and took it out on you from convenience. Maybe it was not about you. Maybe you triggered their hidden emotional baggage accidentally. Maybe you had offended them unknowingly and apology is due. Maybe their philosophy is different, but you are entitled to your own. Knowing why helps. If you cannot find out why, then move on.

 
3. Accept yourself and be better

Whatever we think of ourselves will become expression (words, etc.). Words become action. Action become results. So our thoughts about ourselves are a priority. If we always say we cannot, could not and/or avoid, then that is the message we send to ourselves which will fruition into results or the lack of it. Which means we are nowhere or we limited ourselves. If we always have self esteem that is low, then work hard, get success, stand up straight, don’t take defeat and through these methods build our self esteem. Self esteem is built from hard work and success. Big successes come from small everyday successes. Be on time. Keep your promises. Do your work without mistakes. Make everyone around you happy. Build integrity at all costs. Be kind. These methods will make you feel good about yourself and when you feel good then when others criticize to hurt you, it has no effect. Because you know it’s not true. Love yourself by achieving. Start with I can, will and achieve. This will translate into words, action then results. Be kind to yourself and love yourself the right way by results then insults become empty words that hardly ever irk you. You know where you are now, don’t be angry and realize it can improve. Accepting yourself doesn’t mean being stagnant. Know where you are, and target where you want to be and move towards it.

 
4. Talk to your support

If you have been kind, then you should have friends or people you go to for support. Support doesn’t mean draining them with your “poor me” stories. Pity parties are terrifically out of style and never going to be in vogue again for you. So abandon any pity party faces, body language and tactics. Easy way to let go and empty out the hurtful is with someone you like and trust. Share with them and let it out. Once it’s out, then you should be lighter. Mind you this is only part of the solution.

 
5. Reward yourself

Watch a movie. I love horror. Go shopping. Read a book, do some meditation, go for a walk, eat something you like (nevermind the diet for today!), watch a good Youtube documentary, solve someone else’s problem, contribute to a charity, or just have ice cream. Be good to yourself and have fun. Let it go. Enjoy. They don’t control you. You control you. You are allowed to be happy. You don’t need their approval. Their words are about themselves projected onto you perhaps.

 
6. What is important?

Remember what is your goals and what is important to you. Remember what matter at the end of the day, and are you going to let some criticism derail your goals and what matters? Look at your parents, teachers, mentors, pets, friends, children, and things that matter to you. Don’t give these people who are nasty any importance at all. Give what is important importance and move on!! If you don’t move on, the nasties win!! Remember your promises and words of honour. Remember your goals.

 
7. Be in charge of yourself

You know, you don’t have to accept any ‘gifts’ people give you that you don’t want. Especially if it is something that was meant to hurt you. Granted, easier said than done. When they leave the nasty package at your door and you open it, there it is and what can you do? Without your permission, people can still make you feel bad. That is the truth no matter what the old adage is. If you are carrying guilt, emotional baggage, and holding on, then when they say something close to home, it can hurt you.

So you have to go to a deeper truth. That is, you are affected because they said something close to home or something that was true that you avoided to deal with. You have to deal with yourself. You have to overcome yourself and your baggage. Because you can’t avoid what others see or think. Some may see the truth in you and some may not, but the point is, is there something in you unpleasant for them to see? You can’t avoid everyone. If you let go of your baggage, if you improve, then there is nothing to be criticized anymore. You have to empower yourself and reclaim yourself the right way. You can meet 300 persons and everyone will have an opinion of you. Some opinions may be true and some are not. But you will get 300 opinions of you. But your opinion of yourself is most important based on truth. Based on your hardwork on yourself.

Letting go of hurtful words and criticisms is possible although hard. With time, easier. Practice makes perfect. Accepting constructive criticisms are part and parcel. Let go of our baggage, fears and hiding. Open ourselves to bigger and better things. Let the radiance of wonderful people fill us up as we fill them up. If we do this, then criticisms won’t bother us much anymore.

Tsem Rinpoche
 

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  1. Pastor Moh Mei on Dec 24, 2015 at 1:50 am

    Everyone gets insults and criticisms. It’s not personal, it is just the way of samsara. How we handle insults though will make a difference as to whether it will benefit us or harm us.

    There can be truth in criticisms people make about us. If there is truth in them then it will benefit us to accept what is being said and change instead of being defensive. Consider the person relationship with you, their possible intent and purpose before reacting. If there is plausible intent to harm or that person has no basis, then just there is no need for concern nor holding grudges, let go. If this person has always been supportive and constructive, then allow the benefit of doubt and contemplate what the person has to say.

    It is almost impossible to remain stagnant, ever if nothing else in our lives change, one thing for certain we will age and as we age, inevitably there will be changes. Acceptance is important in order to move forward. As the saying goes, no man is an island. Seek out support from those close to us. Listen to another perspective from someone you trust or maybe just to share.

    We are the master of our lives. We are the one in control of our thoughts and actions. Allowing others to influence our actions still makes us responsible. So be in control and never blame others.

  2. keerthana on Feb 11, 2014 at 9:15 pm

    Thank you. Your words are really helpful and motivating the people who are sensitive. Thank you again.

  3. Jacinta Goh on Feb 4, 2014 at 4:03 pm

    These sevent point of negating insult are just what I needed today! Perhaps I just need some time to relax my mind and take it as self improvement. At the end of the day, I just need to remind myself of my ultimate motivation! By the way, the short story commented by Tenzin Ilhamo did make a lot so sense! Thanks a lot for uplifting my spirit!

  4. Sharon Ong on Dec 24, 2013 at 11:23 am

    Most of us are too sensitive and egoistic and think that we are always right. Great pointers to help us cope with insults. More important, the reminder to reflect on our own minds and actions. I love the closing as it is so apt and practical.

    “Letting go of hurtful words and criticisms is possible although hard. With time, easier. Practice makes perfect. Accepting constructive criticisms are part and parcel. Let go of our baggage, fears and hiding. Open ourselves to bigger and better things. Let the radiance of wonderful people fill us up as we fill them up. If we do this, then criticisms won’t bother us much anymore.”

    Thank you with folded hands.

  5. Luke on Dec 7, 2013 at 5:21 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche,
    I sometimes think this – if a thousand people call a tree a dog…it will always be a tree.

  6. Sharon Ong on Oct 9, 2013 at 10:59 am

    We are constantly surrounded by people who will say hurtful things to us. We cannot change them but we can learn how to cope with them. This is a very good article and I find this helpful for myself. I particularly like the closing para.

    “Letting go of hurtful words and criticisms is possible although hard. With time, easier. Practice makes perfect. Accepting constructive criticisms are part and parcel. Let go of our baggage, fears and hiding. Open ourselves to bigger and better things. Let the radiance of wonderful people fill us up as we fill them up. If we do this, then criticisms won’t bother us much anymore.”

    Thank you for posting this, Rinpoche.

    With Folded Hands.

  7. Jim Yeh on Sep 15, 2013 at 1:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for the 7 ways to ignore insults.

    If we think that nobody can judge us and what we do is always the right thing, then we’re pretty much a Buddha. If we defend our flaws very well and someone takes a jab at it, we became extremely volatile.

    It’s easy for me to get angry when that happens, but I always take some time to reflect and contemplate about what was said. Just like point number 3, I try to filter the criticism and distill only the constructive aspect of the criticism. I look deeper and see if they were right or not.

    Criticisms do tend to ruin a day for me and I am a very sensitive person as well, but instead of pouting about it and telling the whole world that the other person is 100% wrong, I try to better myself and take responsibility.

    For me to speak about it here seems easy, but at the heat of the moment, it’s the toughest battle in the entire galaxy. And I will continue this battle.

    Thank you for sharing this with us Rinpoche.

  8. Carmen Lin on Sep 4, 2013 at 11:43 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this post. It does help me to evaluate myself and avoid myself to react on the insults or harsh words of others, not just in Social media but as well when interacting with others as well.

  9. beatrix ooi on Aug 28, 2013 at 8:57 pm

    Thank You for sharing Rinpoche. These are the points that will help ourselves in order to become a better person. When a person judges us, instead of being angry we must contemplate; and if the second person says the same thing, it means that there must be something wrong about us and we should find out. Some people may be right and some may be wrong, one of the things we have to do is to check ourselves out daily.

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  11. Sean Wang on Jun 20, 2013 at 8:27 pm

    Thank you for one of the most important teaching for all residents of the Internets, a place where insults seem to spread extremely easily and people like to hurt people’s feelings, or as the common term being “Troll”. So, this blog post is extremely effective especially to those who get easily irritated by those who troll on the internet and retaliate, which ends up “feeding” the troll making the troll irritate the victim further.

    I like point 7 as it explains that you should be in charge of yourself. You should not allow someone else to disturb your mental process. You should control your own thoughts. You will meet many people in your life and you will not be able to satisfy all of them.

    An analogy that would be appropriate is the story of the man, lady and horse.

    One day a man was going to market with his son and his ass. they met a couple on the way.

    “Why walk when you have an ass to ride?” called out the husband, “seat the boy on the ass.”

    “I would like that,” said the boy, “help me up father.”

    And the father did that willingly.

    Soon they met another couple. “How shameful of you!” cried the woman, “let your father ride, won’t he be tired?”

    So, the boy got down and the father rode the ass. Again they marched on.

    “poor boy”, said the next person they met, “why should the lazy father ride while his son is walking?”

    So, the boy got onto the ass too. As they went on, they met some travellers.

    “How cruel of them!” They are up to kill the poor ass.” cried one of the travellers.

    Hearing this, the father and the son got down. Now they decided to carry the ass on their shoulders. As they did so, the travellers broke into laughter.

    The laughter frightened the ass. It broke free and galloped away.

    Source: http://www.kidsgen.com/moral_stories/you_cannot_please_everyone.htm

  12. Dextor on Mar 12, 2013 at 5:03 pm

    Thank you Rinpochi for sharing these helpful ways of how to fulfil and fruity our diary life. reminds me not to argue with others from self-concept, be responsible to self-motion and apply to positive and healthy way of being in living between inner-world and outer-reality. with a kind mind in compassion and understandings will lead to simply happiness and emptiness.

  13. mitra on Feb 22, 2013 at 11:01 pm

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful teachings . we take charge of who we want to be by understanding who we are. thank you rinpoche.

  14. Jace Chong on Feb 18, 2013 at 12:59 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for the advices of how to deal with insults.

    This is a big issue to me, I really didn’t know how to handle it. I always make the insults so big until I feel so bad, couldn’t really do much about the bad feeling. Sometimes I think of the 8 Verses of Thoughts Transformation that we have to give victory to others, I was confused. I didn’t know I should let the insults win or I should have more self confidence to prove it wrong.

    Like what Rinpoche has said, we should contemplate how the insults come and it’s very important that how we take it. I like point 6 very much that we should always remember what is matter in the end.

    Thank you Rinpoche, I will always keep my promises and the words of honour.

  15. Frederick Law on Feb 15, 2013 at 12:44 am

    most of the time when insult comes flying, we will defend ourself and retaliate to protect ourself, but most of the time what we are defending is our image, our ego.

    We never stop and listen to the insults or criticism and evaluate the truth behind it, because we are too indulge in our ego that we have to defend it and make ourself as perfect as we could. But somehow, some insults and criticism is actually the weakness that we have, the weakness that we ignore and un-notice that it might lead to more problems.

    What Rinpoche shares with us here is definitely what modern people especially the younger generation need,all 7 ways to ignore insult is very practical and can be apply onto ourself if we open our heart and mind to understand the reasons behind it, and then accept insults and criticism as it comes to better ourself.

    Thank You Rinpoche for this wonderful post.

    Tashi Delek.

  16. lewkwanleng on Feb 14, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    Last time we have the Stephen Covey’s 7 habits of highly effective people, now we have Tsem Rinpoche’s 7 ways to ignore insults. hehehe….

    When I grow up, my perspective about Dharma is about chanting, sitting on meditation cushion and hiding away in the mountain. But in the past 2-3 years, I see Dharma in action in Kechara, and that really got me contemplate quite a bit.

    Just like this 7 ways to ignore insults, I feel that there are so much Dharma knowledge in it, and once again, Dharma being applied to daily life.

    I particularly like the point 7, as it talks about responsibility and not blaming others.

  17. tenzin llhamo on Feb 12, 2013 at 8:29 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing the 7 ways to ignore insults. If someone were to insult me, I would think to myself, am I really doing that? How should I improve myself? Instead of being disturbed or angry, I would definitely better myself if the insults are true.

    It reminded me this story which I personally like very much.

    Gautuma Buddha was sitting under a banyan tree. One day, a furious Brahmin came to him and started abusing him.

    The Brahmin thought that Gautuma Buddha would reciprocate in the same manner, but to his utter surprise, there was not the slightest change in the expression on his face.

    Now, the Brahmin became more furious. He hurled more and more abuses at Buddha. However, Gautuma Buddha was completely unmoved. Actually there was a look of compassion on his face. Ultimately the Brahmin was tired of abusing him. He asked, “I have been abusing you like anything, but why are you not angry at all?”

    Gautuma Buddha calmly replied, “My dear brother, I have not accepted a single abuse from you.”

    “But you heard all of them, didn’t you?” The Brahmin argued half-heartedly. Buddha said, “I do not need the abuses, so why should I even hear them?”

    Now the Brahmin was even more puzzled. He could not understand the calm reply from Gautuma Buddha.

    Looking at his disturbed face, Buddha further explained, “All those abuses remain with you.”

    “It cannot be possible. I have hurled all of them at you,” the Brahmin persisted.

    Buddha calmly repeated his reply, “But I have not accepted even a single abuse from you ! Dear brother, suppose you give some coins to somebody, and if he does not accept them, with whom will those coins remain?”

    The Brahmin replied, “If I have given the coins and not needed by someone, then naturally they would remain with me.”

    With a meaningful smile on his face, Buddha said, “Now you are right. The same has happened with your abuses.. You came here and hurled abuses at me, but I have not accepted a single abuse from you. Hence, all those abuses remain with you only. So there is no reason to be angry with you.”

  18. Darren Kechara on Feb 5, 2013 at 3:32 am

    I will mostly likely to go for no.3 “Accept yourself & be better & no.5 Reward yourself.
    Although i like no.5 Reward myself but the problem doesn’t goes off if you don’t find the source and solve the problems.

  19. Milly on Feb 4, 2013 at 12:44 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for these wonderful advice. The saying “your enemies can be your best teachers” if we use it positively will bring good benefits to us instead of pain and anger. Point No. 1 if applied constructively will solve a lot of our mental misery when insults are thrown at us. We are not the best, flawless human being. Neither are we in our lifetime going to meet everyone who are perfect and will be our buddies. Point No. 7 “Letting go of hurtful words and criticisms is possible although hard. With time, easier. Practice makes perfect. Accepting constructive criticisms are part and parcel. Let go of our baggage, fears and hiding. Open ourselves to bigger and better things. Let the radiance of wonderful people fill us up as we fill them up. If we do this, then criticisms won’t bother us much anymore.”

  20. Henry Ooi on Feb 3, 2013 at 3:34 pm

    These truths will help me in combating my own ego. Thank you, Rinpoche.

  21. Sock Wan on Feb 2, 2013 at 7:46 pm

    I like point 3. If we do not accept who we are and dislike ourselves, who will? It is through accepting ourselves that we gain confidence and self-esteem. We all have our flaws and shortcomings, recognise them and work hard to improve.

  22. Venix on Feb 2, 2013 at 4:36 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for your sharing. It helps and guides me with 7 ways to ignore insults. I hope I can practice with what you have mentioned. Thanks again.

  23. sarahyap on Feb 1, 2013 at 9:12 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for these wonderful 7 points of wisdom, it will certainly help me to be a happier person once applied to myself.

    I can’t pin point a single one that I particularly like as I find all these 7 points are true and must be practiced until it’s like second nature to us.

    Many times, people tend to take criticism in a negative way, without a second thought that “Hey, perhaps I was in the wrong too”. We always have this ‘perfect’ view of ourselves that anything others say or when someone points out our weaknesses, we immediately enter into ‘defence’ mode or worst ‘being poor me’ (especially when we know we’re in the wrong but don’t want to admit it)… there are all self denial techniques that will eventually turn us to a very bitter person as time passes…

    Any criticism must be evaluated with positiveness… we are only so fortunate to receive criticism (especially from people around us) because it shows they cared enough to keep an eye on us, and point out our ill habits so that we can improve, knowing very well that they place themselves in a vulnerable position of potentially loosing your friendship etc… yes I know some people would say that it’s fine to loose a friend that behaves in such poor attitude, but being in Dharma, we always try our best to pull them up to be better individuals. Of course, sometimes the people who criticize us are doing so based on their own agenda, we are still in samsara after all… but that’s where we need to sit down, think and check with ourselves honestly… if what they said was really true, and if it is, change… if not, don’t argue, just discard that criticism without any ill feeling.

    Being honest with ourselves is extremely important in all aspects… it not only help us to realize how to improve on our weak points, but it also help us to excel in our responsibilities to it’s best within our current capabilities. Of course we should never remain stagnant, one cannot remain inert if one wants to bring Dharma to many.

    Also, we must always remember to ‘let go’… being in samsara, it is absolutely impossible to have gone through with life without any form of disappointment. Even if you have every material thing you can ever want, there is still some part within us that will feel unhappy or unfulfilled… that is the nature of human beings, that’s why I always believe a man’s desire can never be fulfilled even if they own the whole world. When we learn to let go, and live in the moment… to make every moment matter and beneficial to others.

    Just always remind yourself one thing, never let others bring you down because as a Dharma practitioner, your job is to bring them up.

  24. lakshmi on Jan 31, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    Reverened Master Thank u so much. Iam at my comfort zone. Iam trying to follow ur suggestions since so long but at times rather iam not able to cope up with myself.

    but idid not qut to be happy with alland myself. T T

  25. mrs,sundari murthy on Jan 31, 2013 at 1:59 am

    beautifully explained -thanks

  26. Martin on Jan 30, 2013 at 9:57 pm

    It is important to have these 7 points because we should not be in denial of insults or criticism because some might be valid feedback on our character and behaviour. Neither should we allow insults to drown our self-esteem and overpower us. I guess the key is to take something that is negative and use it to improve ourselves. In fact every situation in life provides us with the opportunity to improve or degenerate and if we are able to train our minds to approach insults in a healthy way then there is no down side.

    I like point number 6 that is not to let petty things like insult distract us from bigger goals. If we have a purpose that we know is a good one and we are committed to it, then we will not allow ourselves to be easily derailed. Achieving the good purpose becomes more important than how we feel. On the other hand if we take everything to heart and react to every little thing that people say and do to us then we will never reach our goals because so much time will be wasted reacting to every impulse.

    Only learn and take what is positive and can help us grow. Never take anything that makes us regress.

  27. MayOng on Jan 29, 2013 at 9:46 pm

    Some people choose to be rude, throw anger at us or insult us directly, rather literally. Perhaps we may also have done the same to them.

    So if we try to learn these 7 ways to deal with these outbursts emotions of ourselves towards others or the other way round, over a period of time, we learned to re-habituate to think differently and speak differently – hence criticism is not personal anymore.

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  29. uncle eddie on Jan 28, 2013 at 10:01 am

    Like Rinpoche said,”We should not let such behaviour of others to disturb our goals, passion and equilibrium” in our core practice to benefit all beings. We should be in charge ourselves, based on our hardwork contributions of course. Our own humble opinion on ourselves is also most important, based on the truth in examining our mind. Thereafter, just not let such jealousy, abuses, mistreatments, slander and so on, endanger ourselves and others to derail our goals and promises. As long as we continue to indulge in positive good deeds, words, actions and thoughts, we believe, we are on the right track of our Guru’s teachings, without our practice being defiled by the stains of the eight worldly concerns. Om Mani Padme Hum.

  30. Andrew Boon on Jan 27, 2013 at 7:11 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche again for such profound teachings and sharing which makes me look deeper into my own psyche to further understand the workings of my own mind and heart.

    It is not easy to take things “with a pinch of salt” per se. Often easier said then done. But this line rings so true in me:

    “That is the truth no matter what the old adage is. If you are carrying guilt, emotional baggage, and holding on, then when they say something close to home, it can hurt you.”

    We can be hurt if we allow ourselves to be hurt and on a higher perception, it is only hurt if we see it as hurt. If we truly see it as constructive criticism, it actually becomes a positive and even compassionate act. How can the same “hurtful” words have different meaning… it must then be how we perceive the words!

  31. Lim Han Nee on Jan 27, 2013 at 4:43 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for this excellent advice on how to how to ignore insults.

    It is hard indeed not to be cut to the quick by an insult. Yet, we must go beyond this insistent dwelling on the ‘me’ that’s being insulted which still appears to be larger than life. Reacting instinctively to insult is what brings the suffering. I must rehabituate the mind. As Rinpoche says, we need to hold back the reaction and reflect a little on the ‘truth’ in the insult.

    Again as far as truth is concerned, is it my truth from my perspective or their truth from their perspective? As Jamie quotes Rinpoche,” Why is it that my truth is more real than their truth?”
    Here than is a question of letting go of the insistence on “my truth”. If in analysis, we find there is a grain of truth in the insult, we have to do something about it and change that negative behavior into a positive one This way we will get no further criticism or insult about it. Otherwise , we will continue to suffer whenever someone insults us because we are stubborn and cling on to our insistence that we are right and others are wrong.

    If there is no truth in the insult, just let it go. Don’t let another person control us that way; making us angry and unhappy with words that have no basis of truth. Probably it’s karmic; we might have insulted the other in a previous life?

    Furthermore, if we look carefully, we may find that it’s coming from the other person who’s suffering from some negative emotional baggage. We learn to be compassionate as well, when we let it go.

    All told, we are actually showing love to ourselves by freeing ourselves from the suffering we experience each time we react negatively to insults.

  32. Erickksiow on Jan 27, 2013 at 2:42 pm

    I like point No3: Accept yourself and be better. Always like to judge my self to be a better person. ( Selfish to be a Better-man )

    Thank You Rinpoche. 🙂

    Best Regards : Erickksiow

  33. adelinewoon on Jan 27, 2013 at 4:23 am

    We are our own bosses, we take charge of who we want to be by understanding who we are. Being at peace with ourselves is the first step we take to get ourselves together and to release our excessive baggages. This does not mean that we will immediately live happily ever after, but at least we are more open towards critisim (true or false), more willing to hear what is being said.

    The key is definitely to learn to love ourselves, to see our good and bad sides, through cultivating the good sides, the bad ones will “vanished” eventually. Any comment that comes along during and after the process should be taken as either a view or advice for self improvements.

  34. Valentina Suhendra on Jan 25, 2013 at 7:11 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for the great advice. May I add that I think if we do things with no expectations or projections of how other should react or being conditional regarding how things should be, what people say whether they are good or bad will not matter much anymore. At the end it is between you and your karma. This way, one will not be much affected by other people’s opinion or outside condition and focus on one’s effort to reach a certain goal.

    Much love and care

    Valentina

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  36. Felix Kong on Jan 25, 2013 at 1:49 am

    Thank you Rinpoche sharing .

    Number 3: Accept yourself and be better.Whatever we think of ourselves will become expression (words, etc.). Words become action. Action become results. “We think we can , then sure we can do it “, our mind is very important .

    Number 6 : What is important .Remember what is your goals and what is important to you.

  37. Ashley on Jan 24, 2013 at 11:04 pm

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful advice. I do have mistakes and sometimes I just don’t realise that I was actually wrong, or I neglected people who care about me. At this moment, a family member or a friend that cares would usually point out my mistakes and I would take it as a constructive advice. The main thing is that I will change and never repeat the same mistake again. I would take Rimpoche’s advice on how to deal with people who insult us. Thank you Rimpoche.

  38. Sheryl KH (JB) on Jan 24, 2013 at 10:51 pm

    I think that whenever it comes to insults or criticisms, it is usually hard for the recipients to receive them at the first instance. We usually will get shocked and feel unhappy (in circumstances when we think that this is true and not true).

    At the end of the day, it is about us – about us reflecting on ourselves to see if we are really so, if yes, then we need to change (and it takes time), about us to accept these criticism and to take on them bravely and to change them. Once we have succeeded in changing for the better, no one can hurt us anymore.

    And, if it is not true, we may well just ignore them, time and energy can be better spent somewhere else than to argue with unnecessary people.

    We have to learn to let go. And yes, I do think that it helps to have an ice cream to just cool ourselves down. We have too many things in our lives, sometimes we just have to learn to take things easy.

    It is all about us, what is within us (courage and confidence, etc) and what we can do about ourselves that is more important than believing too much in what comes out from others’ mouths.

  39. Serena ^^ on Jan 24, 2013 at 7:13 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for the above article “7 ways to ignore insults”

    In this life, we have to deal with various kind of people either family, friends or working colleagues. We will hear a lot of “Stories” from different people. These stories may relate to ourselves or others.It can be praises or criticisms. These “Stories” may change a person’s perspectives towards certain person or situations. Worst, it may change a person’s life or attitude because of these “Stories”

    It all depends on us whether to let ourselves control our mind or let these “Stories” to control us. It happened to me as well in personal and working life. For example, in my work life, when I let other’s to control myself, I start depressed and changed my working attitude and starts to have the ignorance towards work. Eg: After hearing criticism from superiors, I start depressed and delayed the task completion even though I can manage it well beforehand if I want to.

    However, if we change our mind, accept people criticism and move on, we will find ourselves a lot of improvements in terms of behaviours and attitudes towards somethings. Then we will find that there is no longer depression or fear exists at our inner selves. We will be excited when there is any challenges or “impossible” missions are assigned. Most important, we must not stand still at the same point. But we have to trust ourselves that WE CAN DO IT, MOVE ON and put effort to make it happen. Whether the result is good or bad, it should not stop us to move forward. If the result is bad, we have to accept it and learn to improve or to avoid any similar issue arise in future. If the result is good, we should push ourselves to move forward for better result in future.

    IMPOSSIBLE will change to POSSIBLE if we don’t give up and do our BEST. 🙂

  40. Paris on Jan 24, 2013 at 4:07 pm

    This is tremendous, thank you Rinpoche and extremely helpful. I will need to read this a million times as a contemplation. Of all that Rinpoche has explained, I think the two most striking points is (1) acceptance and (2) not losing sight of our goals and the good things in our lives.

    For someone who famously hangs on only to the negative and finds it “difficult” to accept the positive things said about it, this is the first and most powerful starting point. I told Rinpoche once that when someone says something positive about me, I find it very difficult to believe them. They could say 10 good things and I wouldn’t believe it. But if they said one bad thing, I would believe it completely, and even exaggerate it further in my head.

    Rinpoche asked me this very simple question, “Why is it that your truth is more real and truthful than their truth?” So neither is true, or both are true – in the end it doesn’t matter. Both arise out of the individual’s perception so don’t hang on to either. Accept what is being said and think about it (as this blog post has advised), and change it if necessary; or accept your own goals as being true and good, and pursue that instead of being derailed by what others have said.

    Rinpoche has also once said to me that my yidam should be “ACCEPTANCE” which I didn’t really get at the time. This blog post though perfectly explains what this means now and if we choose to start just at this point, a lot of things can change for the way we interact and respond to the situations and people around us. Thank you Rinpoche. I will read this again and again, and the next time someone says something that hurts, well… perhaps next time it’ll feel like just a little prick and not like a punch in the stomach!

  41. Rita van der Wijden on Jan 24, 2013 at 3:30 pm

    Thank you for this good, understandable advice.

  42. jennifer on Jan 24, 2013 at 1:32 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for the very wise teachings on insults.
    The teachings makes a lot of sense, as not only do we learn how to handle insults and criticisms from other people, it also makes us realise that how awful it is to insult and criticize others.
    I understand that a lot of times the person who is hurting us , are hurt themselves and it is easier to hurt others than to admit that they are hurting inside.
    I also understand from the teachings that we must reflect on whatever nasty stuff that has been said to us, that there may be truth in it and we use this to change ourselves to be better people.And if upon reflection, the insult is coming to us because the other person is just being nasty and hurtful, we let it go . We should not take it to heart and give away our own power.
    ‘Let go of our baggage, fears and hiding. Open ourselves to bigger and better things.’
    I especially love the above saying, this is now my affirmation. Thank you Rinpoche.

  43. Sharon Saw on Jan 24, 2013 at 12:44 pm

    Thank you for this advice. It reminds me of the quote “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” by Eleanor Roosevelt. When we receive criticism, it is most painful when it comes from someone whose opinion we care about but sometimes we don’t look at what was said but instead focus on the emotions of hurt. This is when we can miss the point.

    Also, I used to get upset when someone told me something unpleasant and she was being hypocritical then i reflected and as Rinpoche said, just looked at the validity of what she said. Then i realised that what she said was true and that truth was regardless of whether she was hypocritical or not. If i wanted to be better, i could just take what she said at face value, reflect and see if it is relevant and if so, improve myself so since then, i have tried to do this whenever I receive feedback. Of course criticism still hurts because the stupid ego doesn’t like listening to negativities but it’s a matter of just acknowledging it and how fast i get over it.

    These 7 points are a useful guide to focus on what is important and not get caught up in fleeting emotions when receiving insults. Thank you.

  44. Linda Ortolano on Jan 24, 2013 at 5:35 am

    Thank you Your Eminence for writing this post. It can help me very much. I hope to be blessed to meet you in this life.

  45. Joy on Jan 24, 2013 at 5:26 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for these wonderful 7 points words of wisdom.

    I like point 7. Be in charge of yourself.
    I like this point which Rinpoche concluded as it makes so much sense “You can meet 300 persons and everyone will have an opinion of you. Some opinions may be true and some are not. But you will get 300 opinions of you. But your opinion of yourself is most important based on truth. Based on your hardwork on yourself.”

    In summary truth is, you are in control, and no matter who criticizes us, we need to “check in” and then we also need to “check out” and not hold on to it in a fixated way till it devours your whole being. I like Rinpoche’s advice because it has steps on how we can deal with situations, in this case, criticism and also understanding the ones who brought it to your doorstep!

    Yeah it is good if we can understand and know the one criticizing you’s position, where are they coming from – from a constructive place to help you improve or just purposely to put you down because they are unloading a baggage? And you can almost always sense it through the choice of words, tone and manner they present their criticism/words especially if done often enough you can tell if it is a bias or non-bias one. Once we understand where the hurtful words of trigger come from, we can learn to forgive, ignore, look deeper, take heed or let go and move on and have a fabulous day. Ultimately no one has the right to impose their projections on another especially in an aggressively rude way – firstly who would wanna listen even if it is helpful and non-bias. And no one can have this right if we do not allow them. So really it is in our hands and we do end up still making all the decision, to hurt and or to be hurt. This post is Food for thought for those criticizing and those receiving it.

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  • Stella Cheang
    Tuesday, Aug 22. 2017 10:58 PM
    Danny Bowman’s case is extreme, more of a mental problem instead of a vanity issue. However, many people around us are addicted to taking selfie. Even though it might be just showing off their beauty to gain attention, it should not be dismissed lightly. Because of their excessive love for themselves, they lack the empathy for others. This is the real issue. When someone place all the attention on themselves and expect others to do the same, it is against the practice of Bodhicitta. And if it not corrected at early stage, it will become a habituation and strong imprint that will also affect them in their next life.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/selfie-addiction-is-no-laughing-matter-psychiatrists-say.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Tuesday, Aug 22. 2017 05:59 PM
    Thank you, Rinpoche, for this sharing on Dr. Joona Repo’s work. In his book “Phabongka Dechen Nyingpo: His Collected Works and the Guru-Deity-Protector Triad,” Dr. Joona Repo’s impartial recollections of Pabongka Rinpoche serves to debunk certain perception people have towards this erudite master, who was brought into question because of his emphasis on Dorje Shugden and what was deemed as sectarianism practices.

    Through presenting the vastness and diversity of the works by Pabongka Rinpoche and records of his teaching against sectarianism, this book empirically presents a balanced view of Pabongka Rinpoche against those baseless allegations. The fact that Pabongka Rinpoche wrote extensively about Vajrayogini and had visions of Heruka proved that he is no ordinary Lama.

    Pabongka Rinpoche was, in fact, the reincarnation of a well-known scholar Changkya Rolpay Dorje who was the Royal Tutor to the Chinese Emperors. Because of this sensitivity, Pabongka RInpoche was not recognized his lineage by the power of the day. This in itself is a hint that there are more than meet the eyes.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/the-collected-works-of-h-h-pabongka-rinpoche.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Tuesday, Aug 22. 2017 12:24 PM
    Very inspiring and powerful quotes for us to have a deep thought of it. Which we will need to remember at all times in our spiritual journey.
    I do loves these quotes…
    Remember, if we wish to make an offering to our teacher, no offering is greater than that of our own dharma practice..~Geshe Tsutrim Gyeltsen

    Never abandon your spiritual teacher no matter how many inner obstacles you need to overcome……~Tsem Rinpoche

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing all these powerful quotes which will change our lives and should not be ignored.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/quotes-that-should-not-be-ignored.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Tuesday, Aug 22. 2017 12:23 PM
    Wow beautiful and meaningful this precious poem wrote by Rinpoche.And the lyrics of the song made from the poem below by Gavin Gooi is fabulous. Could not beliveve it from a poem to a lovely songs. Nice to hear and i love listerning each and every words said….very touching poem from sadness to happiness expressed .Rinpoche’s Guru Devotion and the love for His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche .
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing .

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/me/a-poem-to-my-teacher.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Tuesday, Aug 22. 2017 12:22 PM
    Its a interesting post with 2 giants countries discussing over movie market. Hollywood producers who are increasingly looking to tap the country’s fast-growing box office into China market.However there is restriction .They hopes China will increase the quota and the share of revenues more in line with international markets. And even has openly criticized China on trade.China is likely to raise the quota of imported films as part of recent trade talks.
    China are trying to protect its growing domestic film industry from Hollywood domination. The most best measure is the strict quota limiting the number.
    Brad Pitt was back in China nearly 20 years after being baned over a film about Tibet .Time has changed China policy on celebrities entering China.
    Thank you Pastor Loh Seng Piow for sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/china-raises-movie-quota-hollywood-on-best-behavior.html
  • Tsem Rinpoche
    Tuesday, Aug 22. 2017 10:05 AM
    You won’t believe what this former Citibank vice president has to say. One of the most powerful and inspiring speeches you will ever hear in your life! Plse take a few moments to listen to this. It is worth it.-
    https://www.facebook.com/mercyforanimals/videos/10152917764269475/?hc_ref=ARTTZV6szVgZXaepZJFJ_-wCZ1U-SiyFA3jzC20EoNgCNwsOyTV_ELImvK3Lq_IgBBQ
  • Lin Mun
    Monday, Aug 21. 2017 09:48 PM


    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these precious pictures. It shows so much about Guru Devotion and a very close Guru and student relationship. The love and care of a Guru to his students are unlimited.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/gurus-love-their-students.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Monday, Aug 21. 2017 07:53 PM
    This article reminds me of how, in general, people understand the need to have a strong and fit psychic body but rarely willing to take action to go through the training. Let alone Dharma training of the mind which is much more tougher. Because our habituation has conditioned us to perceive and think a certain way, and the need to unlearn and relearn is not part of our program.

    To me, understanding the need to be trained and having the courage to go through the training is a process in itself. The mind has to be conditioned to understand the need of the training which is to eliminate the “i” and the importance of the training which is to speed up the journey of crossing the ocean of samsara.

    Most importantly, we must recognize it is very rare for us to be in a perfect human condition, meet the dharma and the perfect Guru, therefore, we must not imagine that we have time by thinking there will always be tomorrow. Actually this is the conversation in my mind sometimes… lol.

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for this article.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/training-shouldnt-be-optional.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Monday, Aug 21. 2017 10:54 AM
    A beautiful true story shared, I have seen patients suffered under cancer treatment ,at times I felt sad for them and lost of words at times. Most practitioners I have come across thinks of their profit but did not take a real effort to understand their patients pain. When we care for our patients, encourage them really makes a big difference in their life. In my line of duty I have seen many patients suffered in pain, fear, anxiety and very emotional. When we are in the patients shoe,, we can understand and feels the pain as well. As a health provider its only my duty to provide words of encouragement, help and care for them.
    Dr.Richard Teo spoke the very truth ,to inspire the younger generations of furture doctors when embark on their journey to be in health professioner ,to think of others too. Do agree with Dr.Richard Teo in private practice doctors made lots of money but at the end of the day they are not happy in life. We go through life attaching to things, wanting them to last forever. But they don’t last anyway. .Over time, we just came to accept that all good things in life must end. Nothing is impermanent
    Since we all know death is inevitable. To Live a meaningful life till to the fullness to learn and practice Dharma ,to transform ourselves, lighten up and makes us a better person.If you want happiness for a lifetime, helping, caring for others can change our life. We should always appreciate people when they are alive.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these inspiring post and hope more people will be inspired . Saluting Dr Richard Teo, who have touched the lives of thousands on views of life at the end of his lives.At the time of writing he has passed away since in 2012.May he have a swift rebirth.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/this-will-change-your-life.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Monday, Aug 21. 2017 10:53 AM
    Amazing worth travelling there to see for myself such a holy place. Being there will be a tremendous blessing as it is one of the places where Manjushri the Buddha of Wisdom’s energy abides.Wow ….As a natural reserve it is the home of China’s three holy mountains, which are Jampelyang, Chenresig and Chana Dorje.Looks very beautiful and the scenic views were just amazing to be there.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing ,i would like to travel there someday to enjoy the beauty of these Holy mountains.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/travel/excellent-travelogue-of-holy-places-in-tibet.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Monday, Aug 21. 2017 10:52 AM
    The former N.B.A. player Stephon Marbury has become a beloved celebrity since playing for professional basketball in China. Marbury was able to change China’s basketball culture.From NBA to CBA …he lead the team to national victory, winning three Chinese Basketball Association.
    A 300-square foot museum dedicated to Stephon Marbury’s career was opened in China, where the former NBA star has flourished since deciding to play there.He was given a Green card for his outstanding contributions.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this inspiring…Never give up even though he failed with the NBA but he found success after playing for CBA.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/stephon-marbury-embraces-china.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Sunday, Aug 20. 2017 03:09 PM
    Beautiful ,meaningful songs if you listern and reading the lyrics.
    In the stillness of remembering What you had,And what you lost…,And what you had…and what you lost …..well said i love this part.
    Fleetwood Mac was not my favourite singer though yet i enjoyed this oldies songs.
    Since now i have Dharma in me i do like to listern to Buddhist songs example of Tsongkhapa’s blessings songs and Tibetan music.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this meaningful song for relaxing after a stressful day.
  • jason
    Sunday, Aug 20. 2017 02:56 AM
    Past few years, my grandmother,Aunty, Uncle passed away. I feel sad but this also create awareness to me that death is the final destination of everyone in samsara. Practicing of Dharma really help me in knowing that we must achieve final liberation and no more rebirth.
    Besides that, we must appreciate the moment we gather with anyone and share Dharma to them.
    Thanks Datuk May to remind me that to spend more time with the love one. I really grateful to my family and friends.

    Jason

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/guest-contributors/a-generation-gone.html
  • Tsem Rinpoche
    Sunday, Aug 20. 2017 01:03 AM
    For steven d –

    Dear Steven, Thank you for your question. I appreciate your wish to become better, improve your health and to continue your journey.

    In regards to your question, there are many dimensions that need to be addressed in order to ‘assign’ a specific Buddha’s practice for a person. Some of the factors are:

    1. Temperament
    2. Malady
    3. karmic affinity
    4. Immediate pressing needs
    5. Long term needs
    6. If the person has been in dharma and understand dharma well
    7. How much time a person has daily or in general for practice/what other practices they have
    8. Living conditions (has space and quiet or with busy family)
    9. If the person is willing to take vows as there are ‘higher’ and more in-depth practices if vows can be taken
    10. How many or what other sadhanas/practices is already being done. Sometimes we can intensify one of the practices the person is already doing.

    These are a few of the factors I would examine before I suggest a practice for someone.


    Remember to always go for a qualified medical treatment in your country or place of residence and then with this treatment you can apply various spiritual practices in addition to the medical treatment.

    Spiritual practices can help heal as they purify the karma fueling the problem but medical treatment takes care of the problem that is karmically already opened. So important to do both. By doing practice you can ‘lessen’ the problem either by intensity or duration. and sometime get well. If you ask me to give a general sweeping answer for the general crowd or for a person I don’t know much about, I would suggest these practices:

    1. Black Manjushri http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=70674
    2. Avolokitesvara (Chenresig) (four armed, thousand armed, etc)
    3. Loma Gyonma http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=64691
    4. Medicine Buddha http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=44277

    Any of the the above four practices is helpful in general and overall. You don’t have to do all but just one would suffice and according to your tradition of Buddhism. You do not need initiation or take on vow commitment but you can do these practices daily and or in full retreat. Would be good to be vegetarian with good motivation as less harm done to other sentient beings directly and indirectly will help the healing process. Read up on the practices well before starting. Much information on the internet.

    It is good to learn up on the 9 round breath meditation daily also. Take 20 minutes daily to do this breath meditation. You can do the breath meditation first and then any of the four practices you choose or just breath meditation alone. (Theravadin Buddhist can just do the 9 round breath meditations daily and be consistent with this practice and you will see your mind release, open up and become calmer. You can do this breath meditation no matter who you are and if you are ill or healthy. This meditation has many benefits you can research and learn up. No ill effects with this meditation even if done ‘wrongly’.) Breath meditation is highly recommended by me for all persons both spiritual or not, young or elderly, Buddhist or otherwise as using the breath powerful and can be done anywhere and anytime. Breath is fundamental and we must breathe, so this is using meditation to manipulate the breath to heal our bodies and bring some peace to our minds. Done daily is highly beneficial.

    I hope this sincerely helps you. I send you my good wishes and for your healing. We all need healing. May you be happy, well and achieve your goals, Tsem Rinpoche
  • steven d
    Saturday, Aug 19. 2017 10:28 PM
    Namaste,

    Thank you for sharing all this beautiful buddha images, prayers and information for so many to learn from and be guided.

    Question for Rinpoche:

    What practice, prayer or deity (‘s mantra) would you advise for the uninitiated in regards to healing the causes of trauma, ptsd, dissociation and grounding into your physical body?

    I got diagnosed with PTSD 6 yrs ago, at age 29, right after my spiritual awakening after which all the past rauma revisited me in the course of 2 weeks.

    I wasn’t under the guidance of a lama or teacher at that time and still am not.

    Are there any practices you would advise? As there are so many people with trauma and PTSD (10% of the population in Western countries) , there would be so many to benefit from your wise words.

    I have read that certain deities have more affinity for certain diseases/imbalances. Are there any deities that are specifically related to releasing trauma or the above-mentioned afflictions/asymptoms.

    In love

    Steven


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One of the nicest Taras I've seen. I like her shade of green and the lotus on the left which is lower as her hand is lower so it's very balanced looking. Her face looks young, motherly, kind and yet regal.
(1st photo) Kyabje Lati Rinpoche in the centre and Ven Kensur Rinpoche Lobsang Phende on the extreme right. After the unfair ban against Dorje Shugden practitioners was forcibly instituted by Tibetan leadership onto the people and monasteries, the monasteries split. Over 600 monks from Gaden Shartse Monastery left and set up Shar Gaden Monastery. The Tibetan leadership did their best to get the authorities to close Shar Gaden Monastery but Shar Gaden had registered so there was nothing Tibetan leadership can do. It was very sad. Kensur Rinpoche Lobsang Phende left Gaden Shartse Monastery to be the abbot of the newly formed Shar Gaden Monastery in South India where they can continue Dorje Shugden practice. Prior to the ban Lati Rinpoche and Kensur Rinpoche Lobsang Phende can meet up, share and be close as they all had been very close. After the ban this was not allowed anymore. Dorje Shugden and non-Dorje Shugden people had to be segregated. They cannot mix. The previous prime minister of the Tibetan exiled government said that Dorje Shugden people and non Dorje Shugden people are like the mustache and the mouth and it has to be separated. Tsem Rinpoche
4 days ago
(1st photo) Kyabje Lati Rinpoche in the centre and Ven Kensur Rinpoche Lobsang Phende on the extreme right. After the unfair ban against Dorje Shugden practitioners was forcibly instituted by Tibetan leadership onto the people and monasteries, the monasteries split. Over 600 monks from Gaden Shartse Monastery left and set up Shar Gaden Monastery. The Tibetan leadership did their best to get the authorities to close Shar Gaden Monastery but Shar Gaden had registered so there was nothing Tibetan leadership can do. It was very sad. Kensur Rinpoche Lobsang Phende left Gaden Shartse Monastery to be the abbot of the newly formed Shar Gaden Monastery in South India where they can continue Dorje Shugden practice. Prior to the ban Lati Rinpoche and Kensur Rinpoche Lobsang Phende can meet up, share and be close as they all had been very close. After the ban this was not allowed anymore. Dorje Shugden and non-Dorje Shugden people had to be segregated. They cannot mix. The previous prime minister of the Tibetan exiled government said that Dorje Shugden people and non Dorje Shugden people are like the mustache and the mouth and it has to be separated. Tsem Rinpoche
You can see in this 2nd photo, Kyabje Lati Rinpoche blessing a child and Kensur Rinpoche Lobsang Phende standing next to the child. The monasteries were happy, united and had good samaya with each other prior to the ban. The ban destroyed everything and unity and harmony. It is very sad to see this. These pictures are from Kensur Rinpoche Lobsang Phende\'s collection. Tsem Rinpoche
4 days ago
You can see in this 2nd photo, Kyabje Lati Rinpoche blessing a child and Kensur Rinpoche Lobsang Phende standing next to the child. The monasteries were happy, united and had good samaya with each other prior to the ban. The ban destroyed everything and unity and harmony. It is very sad to see this. These pictures are from Kensur Rinpoche Lobsang Phende's collection. Tsem Rinpoche
His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche on the throne, His Eminence Lati Rinpoche (next to Zong Rinpoche) and below Lati Rinpoche is Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche (sitting below Lati Rinpoche). This is a puja in Gaden Shartse Monastery. A rare and blessed photo and nice to save. Tsem Rinpoche
4 days ago
His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche on the throne, His Eminence Lati Rinpoche (next to Zong Rinpoche) and below Lati Rinpoche is Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche (sitting below Lati Rinpoche). This is a puja in Gaden Shartse Monastery. A rare and blessed photo and nice to save. Tsem Rinpoche
ou can save this rare thangka of 1,000 armed Heruka. I\'ve never seen this thangka or any of this form before and it\'s the first time. You can print out or keep or use. I found this online and it\'s beautiful. Kyabje Zong Rinpoche mentioned this Heruka 30 years ago to us and since then I have never seen this in painting or statue at all till now. He has many legs and many faces too. Very special and unique. Seeing Heruka or thinking of Heruka plants the seeds of enlightenment in our mindstream. Tsem Rinpoche
4 days ago
ou can save this rare thangka of 1,000 armed Heruka. I've never seen this thangka or any of this form before and it's the first time. You can print out or keep or use. I found this online and it's beautiful. Kyabje Zong Rinpoche mentioned this Heruka 30 years ago to us and since then I have never seen this in painting or statue at all till now. He has many legs and many faces too. Very special and unique. Seeing Heruka or thinking of Heruka plants the seeds of enlightenment in our mindstream. Tsem Rinpoche
This is Venerable Lhakpa Tsering from Tibet. He has passed away a few years back of natural causes and as he was older. He was one of the high ranking and official oracle of Dorje Shugden, Namka Barzin, Kache Marpo and several other high protectors. He was famous in Tibet for his correct trance of Dorje Shugden and extremely powerful clairvoyance advice of Dorje Shguden. He has been taking trance since Tibet. In 1959 he left Tibet for India and settled in Kalimpong. He continued to take trance in Kalimpong of Dorje Shugden for government officials, local persons, high lamas, monasteries, nuns, monks and even foreigners. For over 40 years his wonderful oracular ability to take trance and give advice and prophecies has benefited so many people. He was trained and blessed as an oracle by the previous Dromo Geshe Rinpoche of Sera Jey Monastery. I\'ve had a chance to stay at his house, meet him and see him in trance. It was a great blessing and amazing experience. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
This is Venerable Lhakpa Tsering from Tibet. He has passed away a few years back of natural causes and as he was older. He was one of the high ranking and official oracle of Dorje Shugden, Namka Barzin, Kache Marpo and several other high protectors. He was famous in Tibet for his correct trance of Dorje Shugden and extremely powerful clairvoyance advice of Dorje Shguden. He has been taking trance since Tibet. In 1959 he left Tibet for India and settled in Kalimpong. He continued to take trance in Kalimpong of Dorje Shugden for government officials, local persons, high lamas, monasteries, nuns, monks and even foreigners. For over 40 years his wonderful oracular ability to take trance and give advice and prophecies has benefited so many people. He was trained and blessed as an oracle by the previous Dromo Geshe Rinpoche of Sera Jey Monastery. I've had a chance to stay at his house, meet him and see him in trance. It was a great blessing and amazing experience. Tsem Rinpoche
Why seek anything else when you have the illustrious practice of Vajra Yogini from the lineage of the Crazy Wisdom Mahasiddha Naropa? Nothing in samsara created by ordinary men can surpass the practice of Vajra Yogini elucidated to us by the Buddha. Nothing in samsara’s knowledge no matter how incredible can surpass the knowledge embodied in the dharma by the Buddha. Samsara knowledge is limited. When we study Buddha’s knowledge (Dharma) it guarantees our future with no limitations. Spend more time studying dharma than samsaric knowledge. Why even compare? Surrender samsara as death and loss are it’s only results and engage in Dharma practice all the way. Vajra Yogini is dharma and dharma is Vajra Yogini. Give everything for Vajra Yogini’s practice. Start now as a preliminary practice even without initiation (blog article: Starting on Vajra Yogini Now- http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=4395). Humbly, Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
Why seek anything else when you have the illustrious practice of Vajra Yogini from the lineage of the Crazy Wisdom Mahasiddha Naropa? Nothing in samsara created by ordinary men can surpass the practice of Vajra Yogini elucidated to us by the Buddha. Nothing in samsara’s knowledge no matter how incredible can surpass the knowledge embodied in the dharma by the Buddha. Samsara knowledge is limited. When we study Buddha’s knowledge (Dharma) it guarantees our future with no limitations. Spend more time studying dharma than samsaric knowledge. Why even compare? Surrender samsara as death and loss are it’s only results and engage in Dharma practice all the way. Vajra Yogini is dharma and dharma is Vajra Yogini. Give everything for Vajra Yogini’s practice. Start now as a preliminary practice even without initiation (blog article: Starting on Vajra Yogini Now- http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=4395). Humbly, Tsem Rinpoche
The young Tsem Rinpoche with his cousin Sada Andreyev. She visited him in Los Angeles. Taken in Tsem Rinpoche\'s room in Thubten Dhargye Ling Dharma centre.
3 weeks ago
The young Tsem Rinpoche with his cousin Sada Andreyev. She visited him in Los Angeles. Taken in Tsem Rinpoche's room in Thubten Dhargye Ling Dharma centre.
Young Tsem Rinpoche with his cousin Sonia Waskin. She visited him in Los Angeles, California.
3 weeks ago
Young Tsem Rinpoche with his cousin Sonia Waskin. She visited him in Los Angeles, California.
Pictures of the teenage Tsem Rinpoche with his two cousins Sonia and Sada. Taken outside of Thubten Dhargye Ling Buddhist Centre where Tsem Rinpoche was living. Los Angeles, California, USA
3 weeks ago
Pictures of the teenage Tsem Rinpoche with his two cousins Sonia and Sada. Taken outside of Thubten Dhargye Ling Buddhist Centre where Tsem Rinpoche was living. Los Angeles, California, USA
Pictures of the teenage Tsem Rinpoche with his two cousins Sonia and Sada. Los Angeles, California, USA
3 weeks ago
Pictures of the teenage Tsem Rinpoche with his two cousins Sonia and Sada. Los Angeles, California, USA
The young Tsem Rinpoche with his parents Boris and Dana Bugayeff. And on the extreme right is Tsem Rinpoche\'s cousin Toktun Gugajew. This was in Howell, New Jersey, USA
3 weeks ago
The young Tsem Rinpoche with his parents Boris and Dana Bugayeff. And on the extreme right is Tsem Rinpoche's cousin Toktun Gugajew. This was in Howell, New Jersey, USA
Tsem Rinpoche attending the wedding of Carmen Kichikov\'s brother. Tsem Rinpoche is 2nd from the right and in his adolescence. Howell, New Jersey, USA
3 weeks ago
Tsem Rinpoche attending the wedding of Carmen Kichikov's brother. Tsem Rinpoche is 2nd from the right and in his adolescence. Howell, New Jersey, USA
When my adorable Dharma boy came home to me. I love you Dharma boy. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
When my adorable Dharma boy came home to me. I love you Dharma boy. Tsem Rinpoche
Tsem Rinpoche in Taiwan as a baby where he was born
3 weeks ago
Tsem Rinpoche in Taiwan as a baby where he was born
Tsem Rinpoche as a baby holding an umbrella
3 weeks ago
Tsem Rinpoche as a baby holding an umbrella
Think about this...
3 weeks ago
Think about this...
Our frustrations have meaning when it\'s for others and a greater cause.
3 weeks ago
Our frustrations have meaning when it's for others and a greater cause.
It is much better to be doing good things for others than just for ourselves.
3 weeks ago
It is much better to be doing good things for others than just for ourselves.
Contemplate this please...
3 weeks ago
Contemplate this please...
Is there life beyond the grave? If the soul exists, does it survive death? If so, when did the belief first arise that the soul may reincarnate, to be born anew in another physical body? Before we unlock the future we must find the keys to the past. I’m Leonard Nimoy. Join me and open the door to ancient mysteries beginning now, here on A&E. Continue reading here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=37831
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Is there life beyond the grave? If the soul exists, does it survive death? If so, when did the belief first arise that the soul may reincarnate, to be born anew in another physical body? Before we unlock the future we must find the keys to the past. I’m Leonard Nimoy. Join me and open the door to ancient mysteries beginning now, here on A&E. Continue reading here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=37831
It was a great honour for myself and Kechara to have His Eminence Kensur Rinpoche Jetsun Lobsang Phende visiting us. He is a courageous and extremely brave abbot emeritus of the monastery during it\'s most difficult time.~Tsem Rinpoche - Please read more here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=132602
4 weeks ago
It was a great honour for myself and Kechara to have His Eminence Kensur Rinpoche Jetsun Lobsang Phende visiting us. He is a courageous and extremely brave abbot emeritus of the monastery during it's most difficult time.~Tsem Rinpoche - Please read more here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=132602
This is a powerful picture of Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen, Kensur Kyabje Lati Rinpoche and the current incarnation of Trijang Rinpoche meeting together in the year 2000 when Trijang Rinpoche was 18. All three lamas are Dorje Shugden practitioners. In fact Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen was the one that first encouraged my practice of Dorje Shugden when I was 16 years old when I joined his beautiful Thubten Dhargye Ling centre in Los Angeles. I lived with Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen for 8 years before proceeding to Gaden Monastery in South India. Later Kyabje Zong Rinpoche came to our Los Angeles centre and granted sogtae (permission ceremony) to practice Dorje Shugden for life as requested by Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen. Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen had tremendous faith in Trijang Rinpoche. 

Kyabje Lati Rinpoche was innovative, dedicated and very much focused on bringing dharma to many. He had tremendous faith in Dorje Shugden as I had the honour to meet him many times. He would seek advice from Dorje Shugden many times via the oracle of Gaden Monastery. Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen and Kensur Kyabje Lati Rinpoche have since passed away while the current Trijang Rinpoche is a perfect lineage holder and practitioner of Dharma while he keeps Dorje Shugden as his personal protector as he has done so for many lifetimes. 

This is a powerful and beautiful picture of three great lamas of Buddha’s lineage and also of Gaden Monastery. ~Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
This is a powerful picture of Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen, Kensur Kyabje Lati Rinpoche and the current incarnation of Trijang Rinpoche meeting together in the year 2000 when Trijang Rinpoche was 18. All three lamas are Dorje Shugden practitioners. In fact Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen was the one that first encouraged my practice of Dorje Shugden when I was 16 years old when I joined his beautiful Thubten Dhargye Ling centre in Los Angeles. I lived with Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen for 8 years before proceeding to Gaden Monastery in South India. Later Kyabje Zong Rinpoche came to our Los Angeles centre and granted sogtae (permission ceremony) to practice Dorje Shugden for life as requested by Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen. Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen had tremendous faith in Trijang Rinpoche. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche was innovative, dedicated and very much focused on bringing dharma to many. He had tremendous faith in Dorje Shugden as I had the honour to meet him many times. He would seek advice from Dorje Shugden many times via the oracle of Gaden Monastery. Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen and Kensur Kyabje Lati Rinpoche have since passed away while the current Trijang Rinpoche is a perfect lineage holder and practitioner of Dharma while he keeps Dorje Shugden as his personal protector as he has done so for many lifetimes. This is a powerful and beautiful picture of three great lamas of Buddha’s lineage and also of Gaden Monastery. ~Tsem Rinpoche
A beautiful photograph of a path walking down from Manjushri Hill in Kechara Forest Retreat in Malaysia.
1 month ago
A beautiful photograph of a path walking down from Manjushri Hill in Kechara Forest Retreat in Malaysia.
This picture is of KB lovingly holding Mumu while he tries to stand up. I was in the room with them and someone else took this picture. It is a very sad and poignant picture because just a short while after this picture was taken, Mumu passed away with all of us present. This was the last picture of my little Mumu alive. We immediately did puja for Mumu and he is sorely missed by many as he touched our lives deeply. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
This picture is of KB lovingly holding Mumu while he tries to stand up. I was in the room with them and someone else took this picture. It is a very sad and poignant picture because just a short while after this picture was taken, Mumu passed away with all of us present. This was the last picture of my little Mumu alive. We immediately did puja for Mumu and he is sorely missed by many as he touched our lives deeply. Tsem Rinpoche
For years I have been doing this everywhere I go, no matter where or what country I am in. Always be kind to animals.
1 month ago
For years I have been doing this everywhere I go, no matter where or what country I am in. Always be kind to animals.
Practising makes you better at something. If you keep practising in laziness, that is what you will become good in. If you keep practising generosity, that is what you will develop. Keep practising in what you want to become good at.
1 month ago
Practising makes you better at something. If you keep practising in laziness, that is what you will become good in. If you keep practising generosity, that is what you will develop. Keep practising in what you want to become good at.
Real spirituality is kindness.
1 month ago
Real spirituality is kindness.
Our time on this earth in this lifetime is short. It\'s our choice what will look back on when we are in our final moments.
1 month ago
Our time on this earth in this lifetime is short. It's our choice what will look back on when we are in our final moments.
Materialism, desire and greed never result in happiness.
1 month ago
Materialism, desire and greed never result in happiness.
Never ever eat our friends. Go vegetarian.
1 month ago
Never ever eat our friends. Go vegetarian.
It is a privilege to serve the Dharma and to serve others. Real freedom comes in serving others.
1 month ago
It is a privilege to serve the Dharma and to serve others. Real freedom comes in serving others.
Compared to humans and all other sentient beings, animals have just as much right to happiness and freedom.
1 month ago
Compared to humans and all other sentient beings, animals have just as much right to happiness and freedom.
Dharma is not something I engage in as something separate from me. Dharma has been me since young.
1 month ago
Dharma is not something I engage in as something separate from me. Dharma has been me since young.
How much we are willing to suffer is how compassionate we are.
1 month ago
How much we are willing to suffer is how compassionate we are.
Dharma is the medicine of the mind prescribed by the Buddha.
1 month ago
Dharma is the medicine of the mind prescribed by the Buddha.
How much effort we are willing to put into our practice, is how much results we will get.
1 month ago
How much effort we are willing to put into our practice, is how much results we will get.
What do you worship on your altar, meat or compassion? One develops coldness and encourages lack of empathy, and one choice encourages attainments.
1 month ago
What do you worship on your altar, meat or compassion? One develops coldness and encourages lack of empathy, and one choice encourages attainments.
Where does patience come from? Think about it closely
1 month ago
Where does patience come from? Think about it closely
Indian sadhus and mendicants also very happy to receive Bhagwan Dorje Shugden
1 month ago
Indian sadhus and mendicants also very happy to receive Bhagwan Dorje Shugden
Tsem Rinpoche with the great Geshe Namgyal Wangchen of Drepung Loseling Monastery. Read more: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=132495
2 months ago
Tsem Rinpoche with the great Geshe Namgyal Wangchen of Drepung Loseling Monastery. Read more: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=132495
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(1st row) Alexandra David-Neel, Nicholas Roerich, Helena Roerich, Anagarika Govinda
(2nd row) Walter Evans-Wentz, John Blofeld, Bill Porter (Red Pine), Ekai Kawaguchi
2 months ago
Some of my favorite people (1st row) Alexandra David-Neel, Nicholas Roerich, Helena Roerich, Anagarika Govinda (2nd row) Walter Evans-Wentz, John Blofeld, Bill Porter (Red Pine), Ekai Kawaguchi
Do share this message and create more awareness. Thank you
2 months ago
Do share this message and create more awareness. Thank you
All that we want in samsara is just fleeting and illusionary and we are tired of chasing something that is so short lived, Lady Buddha Dakini Vajra Yogini, please embrace me as you did Naropa with great affection and lift me to your Kechara Paradise in my rainbow body. ~Tsem Rinpoche
3 months ago
All that we want in samsara is just fleeting and illusionary and we are tired of chasing something that is so short lived, Lady Buddha Dakini Vajra Yogini, please embrace me as you did Naropa with great affection and lift me to your Kechara Paradise in my rainbow body. ~Tsem Rinpoche
Lady Buddha Diamond Dakini Vajra Yogini, you appear in so many forms, guises and methods out of great compasion to bring me to your paradise of Kechara heaven. Bless me to waste no more time and engage in my spirituality thoroughly and may I see your coral visage soon. Bless me that I surrender all my games, attachments, projections and endless chasing of all that is futile in samsara now.... Tsem Rinpoche
3 months ago
Lady Buddha Diamond Dakini Vajra Yogini, you appear in so many forms, guises and methods out of great compasion to bring me to your paradise of Kechara heaven. Bless me to waste no more time and engage in my spirituality thoroughly and may I see your coral visage soon. Bless me that I surrender all my games, attachments, projections and endless chasing of all that is futile in samsara now.... Tsem Rinpoche
Sri Lanka is one of the most beautiful places I have visited. There is so much to explore. I have compiled 20 MUST VISIT places for you to see in Sri Lanka. Enjoy the post and the great pictures! Enjoy: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=127234
3 months ago
Sri Lanka is one of the most beautiful places I have visited. There is so much to explore. I have compiled 20 MUST VISIT places for you to see in Sri Lanka. Enjoy the post and the great pictures! Enjoy: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=127234
 http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/wp-content/gallery/chat-pictures/chat-8yzmaqog68754.jpg Sacred and holy Lady Buddha Vajra Yogini being escorted from the Vajra Yogini temple on the streets on festival day to bless the masses. Tsem Rinpoche
3 months ago
http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/wp-content/gallery/chat-pictures/chat-8yzmaqog68754.jpg Sacred and holy Lady Buddha Vajra Yogini being escorted from the Vajra Yogini temple on the streets on festival day to bless the masses. Tsem Rinpoche
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  • August 22, 2017 01:55
    jason asked: what is the significance of a solar eclipse in terms of sadhana practice besides multiplying merit
    Pastor Niral Patel answered: Dear Jason, Thank you for your question. It is good to see you here. As you have rightly pointed out, during solar eclipses the merit from engaging in virtuous actions are greatly multiplied. Therefore there are many prescribed practices one can do during these times to generate a lot of merit, such as engaging in prayers, making abundant offerings, animal liberation, taking precepts for the day, etc. In terms of sadhana practice, the main benefit here would be the multiplication of merits generated. However on a tantric level, since the movements of the planets are linked to the movement of energy within the universe, and therefore one’s body, there would be subtle changes in the psychic winds within the body as well. On the whole, the patterns of the universe are mirrored within the psychic winds in the body as well. The tantric system that deals with these movements in the most detail is the Kalachakra Tantra, which you can read more about here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/tibetan-astrology/introduction-to-tibetan-astrology.html In the Kalachakra Tantra it is said that when a solar eclipse occurs, merit is either multiplied a thousand, ten-thousand times, or a hundred-thousand times. The sun and the moon are linked with the psychic winds, channels and drops with tantric practice. According to the Kalachakra Tantra everyone breathes 21,600 time every day and our minds are said to ride on the winds within our bodies. The majority of the winds within out body are karmic winds, in that they come about and are affected by karmic tendencies. During an eclipse however, more wisdom winds are said to prevail in the body. As these circulate in the body, doing Dharma practice, especially tantric practices in which you use these winds, one can achieve spiritual attainments at a speed that would not normally be possible. In traditional mythology, there is a celestial body known as Rahu. This isn’t actually a physical planet, but a node on the orbit of the moon. When Rahu appears, he is said to swallow the sun for some time, this is the ancient explanation of a solar eclipse. Rahu is also known as the “dragon’s head”. Within the Kalachakra Tantra, practitioners use Rahu to bring the sun and the moon under control. As the sun is associated with psychic channels on the right side of the body, and the moon with psychic channels on the left side of the body, what this means is that the practitioner controls these energies and brings them into the central psychic channel instead. Thereby the solar eclipse is said to mirror a tantric yogi’s ability to bring the psychic energies of the left and right side into the central channel. Once in the central channel the yogi can engage in the higher psychic energy meditations in order to gain spiritual attainments and even enlightenment. For an everyday practitioner therefore, the main benefit of practicing during a solar eclipse is the multiplication of merit. For a tantric practitioner however, it is a time that they can make use of the energies of nature to boost their practices. I hope this helps. Thank you.
  • August 18, 2017 01:27
    Todd asked: Does Rinpoche have any information on the deity Rakta Yamari, who is believed to be an emanation of Manjushri?
    Pastor Niral Patel answered: Dear Todd, Thank you for your interesting question. Rakta Yamari is indeed a wrathful emanation of Manjushri, in the form of a yidam or meditational deity belonging to the Anuttarayoga, or highest tantra, class of deities. The practice has been incorporated into all four major schools of Tibetan Buddhism: the Nyingma, Kagyu, Sakya and Gelug. Generally speaking some of the wrathful forms of Manjushri can be classified into three groupings, the Rakta (blood-red), Krishna (blue-black), and Vajrabhairava (adamantine terrifying). Since Rakta Yamari is therefore a classification of deities, it would be hard to give information here on all of them. The specific forms of Rakta Yamari differ in how the main figure appears and the number of other deities in the mandala. Of particular note, is that each of these forms and their practices has their own lineage of practice as well. Whilst there are forms of all three classifications within the four main schools of Tibetan Buddhism, certain lineages place more emphasis on a particular form than others. For example, within the Gelug lineage emphasis is placed on Vajrabhairava Yamantaka, of which there are two forms in particular that are practiced: 13-deity Yamantaka, and Solitary Hero Yamantaka. In fact Vajrabhairava Yamantaka is one of the three main Anuttarayoga Tantra deities practiced in the Gelug lineage, which we follow, alongside the Akshobhyavajra variant of Guhyasamaja and Chakrasamvara. There are two important lineages of Rakta Yamari practice: the 13-deity Rakta Yamari, and the 5-deity Rakta Yamari practice. Both of these practices can be traced back to an important lineage holder, the Indian Mahasiddha Virupa. In the case of the 5-deity Rakta Yamari lineage, he was taught the practice by a wisdom dakini. I hope this helps. Thank you.
  • August 17, 2017 19:26
    Aldric Wilson DuXing asked: How can the alleged "DiSanShr" "Dorje Chang Fo" Yi Yun Gao be the actual incarnation of Buddha Dipankara Buddha?
    Pastor Niral Patel answered: Dear Aldric Wilson DuXing, Thank you for your question. Unfortunately, I do not know much about Yi Yun Gao to be able to comment on this. However, within Buddhism we do believe that the Buddhas, out of their compassion appear in human form to help sentient beings in whatever way they can. Within Tibetan Buddhism there is a long history of recognising great masters as the physical body emanations (also known as tulkus) of the Buddhas. The logic behind this is that the Buddhas are all compassionate and so help sentient beings in any and all means that they can. This would obviously include taking the physical form of a human. To say that the Buddhas cannot or do not do this, would be limiting the abilities of the enlightened beings, which goes against the scriptures. In fact, in the scriptures it states that Buddhas can emanate out in countless different forms at the same time. This includes animate beings, such as humans, animals, etc., and also inanimate objects such as bridges, or other things. These emanations, or incarnations if in human form, can be recognised by those who have the ability to perceive the enlightened beings, such as highly attained masters or other emanations themselves. That is why you see only the highest masters within the Tibetan Buddhist traditions recognise others as incarnations of the Buddhas. Other methods of confirming this can include checking with an enlightened Dharma protector, such as Dorje Shugden, when in trance of a qualified oracle. Those who really are emanations of the enlightened beings do not actually need to be recognised as such, as they will always help others no matter if they are recognised or not. However the recognition of such beings is more for us, as practitioners to gain merit by helping them achieve their goal of helping other sentient beings. But as I mentioned earlier, these beings do not self-proclaim themselves but are recognised as such by other highly attained masters who are trustworthy and really work for the cause of helping others by upholding and practicing the holy teachings of Lord Buddha. I hope this helps. Thank you.
  • August 16, 2017 00:47
    Anonymous asked: Sorry about the link not working. They can be found at dharmawheel.net and then looked under Tibetan Buddhism and then under topics which are under all the other lineage topics. Since this is recent, the title "Crazy Scandal somewhat related to Gelug hitting Taiwan" should come up. But anyway, here are the sources in that case: https://ladakh2017blog.wordpress.com/2017/08/12/mary-jin-gebis/ https://maisonneuve.org/article/2013/06/18/when-monks-come-town/ https://ladakh2017blog.wordpress.com/2017/08/14/bw-dorje-shugden/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ad355FqDQuo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XzvPhv_eldk http://www.blisswisdom.org/statement/1854-1006 https://ladakh2017blog.wordpress.com/2017/07/24/dalai-lama-speaks-to-chinese-devotees-about-bliss-and-wisdom/
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  • August 15, 2017 01:43
    Anonymous asked: Hi, although this is not a question, I would like to bring awareness towards a particular cult in China and Taiwan that has been having scandals with their leader, Mary Jin. The cult has been defaming the Dalai Lama and has begun supporting Shugden here even though that's not really bad. However, I would like to bring attention so they may not begin corrupting the Buddhists here. Even though I used a dharmawheel website, it has links to its sources: https://dharmawheel.net/viewtopic.php?f=40
    pastor answered: Dear Anonymous, Thank you for bringing this to our attention, however the link you provided does not work. I do not know anything about this particular person or their organisation, so I really can’t say much. However, there are some people out there who use religion for their personal gain, and twist the teachings to suit their greed. These sorts of people are often embroiled in scandals and the like and often have views that go against common sense. That is why it is very important to check that a teacher is qualified, is practicing, and is teaching the Dharma as it should be according to the scriptures. All students are encouraged do to so and this in mentioned clearly in the scriptures themselves. The actions of a teacher should be in line with actions laid out in the scriptures and their views should match the logic laid out in the scriptures as well. Once we see a teacher’s qualities, and we have made sure that what they practice is real and genuine, we can devote ourselves to that person fully. We at Kechara, following the teachings of His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche, think very highly of His Holiness the Dalai Lama, as he is the emanation of the Buddha of compassion, Chenrezig. Similarly, we also believe that Dorje Shugden is the emanation of the Buddha of wisdom, Manjushri. For us, both are enlightened beings, and many practitioners all around world follow this belief as well. We are saddened to see or hear when others talk badly about either, since both are enlightened beings capable of benefiting the world tremendously. Thank you.
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