We Are Our Parents?

Nov 19, 2014 | Views: 4,718

So much thought has been put into nature versus nurture in regards to why we do what we do and how we do it… I believe nothing is simple and uncomplicated as a straightforward answer can imply. Our minds, karmas and hundreds of thousands of lifetimes of imprints are at work within each of us. Each lifetime of accumulated karmas adds to the complications..Yes..so it does not get less complicated, but more..it’s continuous as long as we operate from wrong perceptions.Wherever we are we definitely had the karma to be there. I mean, the simple fact that we are living in this world deluding ourselves thinking we are in control when we are not, sums up so many things already. From our childhood, to teenage years till now, how much more has life become complicated or we have made it more complicated thinking we will achieve what we want?

We are the unwanted and sometimes we don’t accept the products of our parents. We think, do, act, talk, eat, perform so much like our parents consciously and unconsciously that sometimes we are in denial. Some of us had ‘wonderful’ parents and some of us were with parents that should have never been parents. How does karma play into this, in our previous immediate life, we opened the karma at the time of our deaths by our thoughts to take rebirth into this predicament. We have the karma to take rebirth into thousands of scenarios and those karmas are still latent, it is just what is opened at the precise moment. Meaning while we are dying, what our thoughts trigger open our unlimited karmic storehouse of latent karma.

I mean environment impacts us so much, and living with our parents and being at the most impressionable period of our lives, who do we see and interact with daily? Our parents of course. Many of our good habits ‘come’ from our parents as well as the ‘bad’. Their influence is inestimable.

Many of our fears, likes, phobias, prejudices, problems, difficulties and avoidances come as a direct result of our parent’s psychological impact on us. I have talked to hundreds of people, and when I get to know them better and they start talking about their parents. As I listen, all the bells go off and I just say, oh, that’s why they act and think this way…very similar…For example, I have students whose parents were very stingy as they were growing up…stingy to the point of damage to the mind of the child. They weren’t stingy because they didn’t have money, but they valued it over the child. When this person speaks they are totally stingy and give me all types of reasons that their fathers taught them…I was like ‘ok’. But they are ok, if someone else pays for them…I mean how come you don’t protect other people’s money too? That is just part of it, many times these people are emotionally very stingy. They let you take the responsibilities while they quietly sit and hope YOU find the solutions.. I’ve met other students who are giving and not calculative BECAUSE when they were growing up their parents were super stingy and cheapskates and they didn’t like that type of atmosphere where everything including them were viewed through monetary worth. So they resolved when they grow up, they will not be like that. Both being stingy and generous were a direct result of their parents….

Although we have been conditioned by the good and bad of our parents (after all they are human and we should still respect and care for them if we can), we can change. It is not just our parents, it is also culture, schools, peers, tv, prevailing attitudes, our country and so many more factors. But the top of  the list, would be parents. I mean if we grew up in some backward and prehistoric country where people believe that if you are dark skinned you are inferior or if you are  a woman, you are much lesser than a man. It definitely had strong impact on us for better or worse. We know skin color has nothing to do with who a person is and how they should be treated but unfortunately many hold on to wrong views about that.

I grew up listening to my stepfather’s 100% convictions that women are lesser than men and that they are just to serve men. He really believed that and lived his life that way. I ignored his derogatory comments at first about women when growing up and then as I started to think more, I examined much more. I noticed that I was more impressed with my stepmom than him. She had so much more better qualities than he did (sorry). She was stronger, smarter, much much much more capable, was honest, was honest in her marriage to him, was loyal, was very hardworking and he was none of those qualities…I looked at my relatives, and it was the female relatives like my cousin Susie Gugajew who were more compassionate, giving, loving and nurtured me much more than male relatives. I mean I had nice male relatives, but they didn’t reach out much to me. I am not putting down males, but quite the contrary, I find men and women totally equal. I’ve had wonderful men in my life such as my gurus who were very kind to me and very nurturing..so it isn’t that women are worse and men better or vice versa, it is equal. My point, I didn’t believe my stepdad’s convictions that women are lesser and should serve men. I examined this and I find it false. So in me I have a strong equality fairness about gender BECAUSE of my father’s views..It had a strong impact on me.

Well my dad’s views on women is just an example of the impact our parents have on us again, for better or for worse. My stepmom with all her good points also was not a mentally healthy woman, left undiagnosed for three decades. She didn’t get the medication she needed very badly and as a result the people around her suffered tremendously. People around her forgive her because they know it is not her. But when I was growing up, I was told I would not make it and be a loser and not have any friends almost daily. My mother would say that to me always among many other negative words. And for a while I believed her. I innately trusted her and for years, I would live my life that way. I am not worth it. If anyone was nice to me, it would not last I thought. Don’t trust anyone because I am not good enough for them to be with me and be my friends.

When I was growing up in New Jersey and going to school, I had heavy daily racial slurs thrown at me. I was called all types of derogatory racial names when growing up and it lessened in high school. But in elementary school from 5th-8th grade it was very bad. I disliked that part about America very much. When I left New Jersey and went to LA, I don’t remember any racial slurs anymore much…except a few places people put me down for not getting a tan and I was too light skinned???!!! When confronted with racial slurs as a kid, I said to myself, I will never live in the US when I grow up..that I will move to Hawaii or the Far East. When I lived in India for 8 years, I never received any racial slurs from Indian people. The racial slurs scarred me for years. When I came to the Far East and saw what Asians do, or have done or their old/unique/rich culture, I felt many years of racial scarring melting away…I have grown up now to think no one East or West is better or worse, but how we act in life. I realized through a lot of searching that it is ‘ok’ for me to be Asian or Oriental or Yellow. And there is NOTHING WRONG WITH IT. But my growing up years made me appreciate more now that it is who I am inside that makes me worth it or not, and that what I am on the outside only affects those people who are not mature, accepting and intolerant. They have issues also. It’s ironic that America has a black president and China is a major power now on equal par (or near it ) with the US. US takes China very seriously. Not everyone in America are prejudice of course, but where I grew up, it was in my experiences. America’s black president and China’s meteoric climb to a major global player would have shocked all those kids in school that spewed the racial slurs to me and of course their parents where they got it from. Now it is totally not politically correct for racial slurs in America unlike when I was growing up. Kinda of like karma coming back and revolving round and round. The racial verbal attacks I suffered as a child, made me tolerant and accepting of other races now totally.

The good news is our parents were just like us. They were influenced by their parents. They acted out what they were taught on us. It was not really their fault. My parents have a lot of qualities I do not admire, but it does not make me hate them, dislike them or wish to disrespect them. I always realize they were influenced. I mean I disappointed, hurt and unwittingly damaged other people in the past because of my habits from my upbringing. The similar traits I acted out because that is all I knew learning from my parents.  I would like those people that I hurt to know that is not me….but my upbringing. Similarily for our parents and us. I have dharma to point this all out to me clearly, my parents did not. They never took the time to study or understand the dharma. So why keep acting the way we do  and blame our environmental upbringings. I mean I am not with my parents now and I have had more time away from them than with them…so I should have more environmental impact from the outside of my parent’s world now. So why do I need to act from those years with my parents. Some may argue those were the most formative years. But you know, when you look at it from the point of dharma, I have so many more lives in the future to take rebirth in and what I am learning now is formative too. So we shouldn’t look at things from a one life point of view and that is where reincarnation philosophy can really help us to move on. If I was going to live one life and for 80 years, ok the first 20 formative years of my life have a huge right to set my ways for the remaining 60 years of my life. Then maybe I would have some validity to act and stay the way I am for better or worse. But if you look at the perhaps 80 years you will be alive now as a drop in the ocean of the many more lives you will have, then it doesn’t make sense that just the 20 years would be formative or set the stage for the rest of my life and lives. In fact every year of this life should be the formative years of this life and future lives. It helps to realize we will have many more lives so I can  let go and move on. It helps to ‘be’ on the moon and look back at earth and us in it so see how we shouldn’t make everything so solid and big and permanent. We are ‘insignificantly’ significant.

As we are now, was the product of our environmental upbringing or the nurture factor. What brought us to this factor was our previously accummulated karma. Realizing that now and every moment are our formative years still and we are still learning helps us to let go of statements like it is too late for me or I am to old to change or too habituated or too damaged. Since we are the products of our nurturing or lack of it, we are still being nurtured now…What we experience everyday and every year should still affect us into positive change. We have the power and ability to make our environments positive. Nothing is permanent. We are not with our parents now. I am not experiencing racial slurs now…so why should those affect me anymore unless I am using those for an excuse for something more hidden and selfish. Not changing for the better is selfish. Not transforming and using lame old excuses is selfish. Examining and retrospecting endlessly without change is buying for time to be selfish. Being selfish is not permanent either. Using future tenses like I need more time, I WILL CHANGE, etc are also excuses to find reasons not to do what we need to do. There are exceptions as always to my views here. But I am just examining myself and maybe it would apply in bits and parts to others. None of this was written to blame, begrudge or lash out, but really self examinations…

Excuses that cover what we are not doing (but suppose to do) serves to further harden wrong habits, views and thinking. We should never use future tense or promises for change in the present. It should be now. It shouldn’t be hard, if we are sincere about it. It is only hard or difficult when we don’t consider others. It is only super problematic when we choose ourselves wrongly over others and our responsibilities.

I have a long way to go, but I have come a long way…the philosophy of reincarnation/karma was the 90% factor for me to look deeper and examine and think why. There are things in me that I like and there are more things in me that I don’t like. But this is who I am in for now in this life, but I am not permanent and who I am is changeable according to time, place and benefit. And I am changing and will continue to change. If I wish to get anywhere in life or in my spirituality I need to look beyond my ‘formative’ years. I need to look at myself now and say I am in control. Karma says so. Buddha says so. Reality says so. I say so. It is so. Change happens when we realize everything we experience adds to our forming consciousness and that formation needn’t stand still just like karma.

Change comes from our formation years which is right now.

Tsem Rinpoche

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  1. S.Prathap on Jan 14, 2020 at 4:25 pm

    This article really inspired me, every year we live is formative year for us as it affects our future life, so we should really let go those bad influence from our parents. What Rinpoche wrote is so true, most of us are either positive or negative after getting influenced by our parents.
    Dharma will make us face ourselves, acknowledge our weak and negative aspects of character and will then guide us to move forward in a positively transformative direction.Thank you very much for sharing this good article with us.

  2. Joy Kam on Dec 14, 2018 at 4:33 am

    1984 Los Angeles-Left to right: Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen, His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche, monk assistant to Zong Rinpoche and the 18-year-old Tsem Rinpoche prior to ordination. Read more- https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/category/me

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  3. JOY KAM on Oct 31, 2018 at 10:20 am

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    A poem inspired by seeing a picture of my teacher, Kyabje Zong Rinpoche…

    In the sport of correct views,
    all that is correct is just a view,
    without permanence or substance.
    As long as we hold onto views,
    our sufferings are gathered 
    to be experienced without end.

    Without the strong methods of emptiness
    and compassion, bereft of merit,
    we sink deeper without respite.
    To arise from this samsara is but
    a dreamscape on the deluded mind.
    Therefore seek the guru, who confers the yidam,
    hold your vows and fixate on liberation 
    free of new creations. Free of new experiences as 
    there are none. 

    ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    Composed in Tsem Ladrang, Kuala Lumpur on July 7, 2014

  4. Valentina Suhendra on Jul 26, 2018 at 6:13 am

    I was walking past a second hand shop on Western Ave selling old things. They had a Japanese-style clay Buddha which was beige in colour on the floor, holding the door open. I thought the shopkeeper would collect a lot of negative karma without knowing if he kept such a holy item on the floor as a doorstop. So I went in to talk to him, but he didn’t look like he wanted to talk or that he even cared. So I asked him the price and he said US$5. I purchased it so he did not collect more negative karma. I was 17 years old and that was in 1982.

    I escorted my new Buddha home and washed it lightly and wiped it. I placed it on my altar and was happy with the Buddha. I would do my meditations, prayers, sadhanas, mantras and prostrations in front of this shrine daily. When I left for India in 1987, I could not bring this Buddha along and gave it to a friend. It was a nice size and I made offerings to this Buddha for many years in Los Angeles. In front of the Buddha I placed His Holiness the Dalai Lama’s photo. I remember I was so relieved that the price was affordable. But US$5 that time was still expensive for me but worth it I thought. But I was happy to have brought the Buddha home. Tsem Rinpoche

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  5. Pastor Shin Tan on Jul 17, 2018 at 4:35 pm

    Tsem Rinpoche at Kechara Forest Retreat, Bentong, Malaysia

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  6. Meghna on Jun 13, 2018 at 10:19 am

    I’ve read/watched articles and videos about his His Eminence’s childhood – and each and every time I feel a sense of wonder. No matter how bad it got, he always managed to take to high road and see beyond the negativity. Not only in his pursuit of dharma – but everything in general. Ordinary teenagers would not react as he did.
    (I remember myself as a moody teenager and…then proceed to weep a little)
    The interview with the great lady Anila Thupten, especially, was so, so profound.

    And through his hard work – we are benefiting. I am thankful that I managed to come across this site and his teachings.
    In essence, its our karma, and we are the only ones who can do anything. That means internal transformation with the will to help others. Sometimes, challenges aren’t all bad – they help shape our personalities for the better or the worse – which depends on our ‘perceptions’ or ‘mis-perceptions’ of the world around us.

    Every life time is an opportunity to do good.

    Thankyou your Eminence, and Pastor Shin!

  7. Valentina Suhendra on Oct 20, 2017 at 1:06 am

    H.E. the 25th Tsem Rinpoche is very devoted to his root guru, H.H. Zong Rinpoche.

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  8. Joey Tan on Aug 17, 2017 at 11:08 pm

    “Excuses that cover what we are not doing serves to further harden wrong habits, views and thinking. We should never use future tense or promises for change in the present. It should be now. It shouldn’t be hard, if we are sincere about it. It is only hard or difficult when we don’t consider others. It is only super problematic when we choose ourselves wrongly over others and our responsibilities.”- this statement teaches me that there is no past or present but now. Honest to ourselves should not be difficult. However, it will be difficult if we don’t consider others. Thanks for the article.

  9. Lin Mun on Jun 25, 2016 at 8:33 pm

    I agree we do resemble our parents be it positive or negative values. Nevertheless it is for us to change if we realised that it is negative values that we are having.

    We cannot put all the blame to our parents. We control our mind and are responsible for our own behaviour. Especially now that we are learning dharma, the more it should trigger that we need to transform our mind for the better.

    Thank you Rinpoche for your teaching.

  10. Dense Kuek on Jan 3, 2015 at 1:38 am

    Thanks for sharing Rinpoche, this really inspired me, every year we live is formative year for us as it affects our future lifes, so we should really let go those bad influence from our parents, this does not mean we are not filial, it just show that we let go..and when we let go our bad habits/thinking from our parents, they will be treated by us with the new way that they never be treated, so we can change them..this is also a way to show our love to them..

  11. Edwin Tan on Nov 26, 2014 at 6:30 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for the article.

    What Rinpoche wrote is so true, most of us are either positive or negative after getting influenced by our parents.

    And I totally agree with Rinpoche that if we are to look beyond our current life, and think about how our future lives will impact us [karma] and how we should change our stingy, selfish selves, transform into better people, and importantly, constantly changing and improving ourselves, this lifetime, and future lifetimes.

    Thank you.

  12. Miriam Pia on Nov 24, 2014 at 2:08 am

    I did read that. Some of it I will even remember. Spiritual practice influences us as well of course. Some of us have practiced consistently, others inconsistently. Not everyone has the benefit of a guru from the beginning but many do. I am only 2 years younger than you so I relate easily to this stage of life. Now, we have adults longer than we were children and have had lots of chances to learn new ways and try to keep the good we learned while children.

  13. sonam yangchen on Nov 21, 2014 at 9:14 pm

    Thank you so much la rinpochoe for sharing la_()_

  14. Toh Cheng See on Nov 19, 2014 at 11:44 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    I grew up learning the “good” and “bad” qualities from my parents. On the “good” , they have brought me up well to respect the elderly to care for others and to be kind . I am glad these are the good qualities I learnt from them. Again there is always 2 sides of the coin. I believe I have learnt some “bad” too. There are many things about my parents that I disagree with which of course earn me the “stubborn” title :). But subconsciously even though I disagree to certain of their ways, it has in a way influence me to be just like them of which I “notice” in myself. I tried and am still trying to break free from this qualities that I hope to be able to change.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this article for it has remind me of how I should and should not influence my son. I will strive to remember the good to teach and show him and not to behave in certain manner which will have a negative impact in his future years. But having said that I know I can’t be 100% perfect and there are qualities in me that my boy will dislike and hope it will not carry into his growing up years and end up like the “bad side” of me :).I hope he will grow to learnt to “check for himself ” before he “believes” everything we as parents tells him. Hope he will be able to read this article of Rinpoche when he grows up. Thank you Rinpoche. With Folded hands.

  15. Cliff on Apr 28, 2013 at 6:28 pm

    “I have grown up now to think no one East or West is better or worse, but how we act in life.” I have never received or experienced any racial slurs as bad as Rinpoche’s experience, but I see now that times has changed so much that rather than take it on a serious note society is able to make jokes about it and laugh about it together. I really do agree its not about what we look on the outside, our skin, our race, but what matters is how we behave in life. I see people who are racist still create conflict with their “own race”, what is the difference? It only creates more disharmony, there are people who are of different races taking care of each other even if they don’t know each other personally. Those who still practice racism I find still to be living in a life of denial, ignorance and delusion. Never being able to mature in life remaining stagnant in their own selfish little world.

    “But my growing up years made me appreciate more now that it is who I am inside that makes me worth it or not, and that what I am on the outside only affects those people who are not mature, accepting and intolerant.” Many people are different, thinking differently, living different, looking different, but I feel those who are happiest are those who are the most accepting of others. If whats “outside” means so important to some people, they would only continue to live their lives of unhappiness and hatred, because everyone is different.

    My parents have been the biggest influence in my life, I appreciate everything they have done for me bringing me up with love and patience. I know from my mother’s position it was never really easy for her to be yelling at us to her top of her lungs and hitting us just to get the message across into my thick dumb skull. It was never really easy for her but she did it because I know she loved us and didn’t want us to grow up the wrong way. Everyday before I act I try to stop and think what would my parents do, or what would my parents think of me if I were to do it. Some part of all of us we take from our parents, some form of behaviour, good or bad habits, even features comes from our parents. I am glad I had the karma to be born into this family and to be brought up with dharma seeds to be planted into my mind.

    I am happy not because of me, but because of my parents.

    Just some of my thoughts, Thank You for sharing with us this teaching Rinpoche. I can only forever be thankful for your continuous effort to teach us.

    I hope Rinpoche is well and rested.

  16. Lim Han Nee on Apr 13, 2013 at 4:22 pm

    Thank yor ,Rinpoche, for this ‘mind-opening’ blog post.We are the product mainly of nurture(upbringing),as well as of our culture and our environment to a certain extent. Also the throwing karma at point of death of previous life has also brought us to where we are at point of birth in this life.

    Having said that, when we mature and reach adulthood, we can take charge and control of our lives and determine whether we want to go in a positive or negative direction. We need not let our ‘negative ‘ upbringing drag us down as it did our parents. Nevertheless, Dharma still holds the key. If we have learnt the Dharma and let it influence our choice, we will choose wisely. Dharma will teach us to let go of our past and mould our future in terms of our future lives.

    Dharma will make us face ourselves, acknowledge our weak and negative aspects of character and will then guide us to move forward in a positively transformative direction.But Dharma works most beneficially and effectively for us only when we have a spiritual guide to show us the way.

  17. OTGOLT on Apr 9, 2013 at 10:22 am

    Best way we are parents are should be quite. First few months,When my son and daughter came from Mongolia been for me so hard. They didn’t listen all. After that i decided just quite. Quit to listen my son’s complaining issues, pick up him from nursing station any more.(2- 3 times calls every week) It’s not easy, but i couldn’t see any way. He quit school. After 3 years, he back to Mongolia. My daughter had so different history. She likes to dance. I couldn’t believe my kid is dancer. I’m pretty much like to do any beside dance, i think.

    We are we, kids are kids! Give them own chose!We stay healthy too. Blood pressure down, sleep better. Good luck!!!Don’t be Tiger moma

  18. Joy on Apr 6, 2013 at 4:14 pm

    This is really funny but also so true! When we were growing up the only people we have to look at as our mentors are our parents. They shape and nurture our thoughts and behavior… good or bad. Sometimes being born poor is not necessary good and being born rich is not necessary bad.

    However they, our parents are not the only ones to be blamed because it is also due to our very own karma that we are also born in a situation where the way we are nurtured are brought up is based on our own karma.

    How does karma play into this, in our previous immediate life, we opened the karma at the time of our deaths by our thoughts to take rebirth into this predicament. We have the karma to take rebirth into thousands of scenarios and those karmas are still latent, it is just what is opened at the precise moment. Meaning while we are dying, what our thoughts trigger open our unlimited karmic storehouse of latent karma.

    But this can be change when we apply the Dharma… nothing is ever fixed and permanent. Just like Rinpoche’s childhood experience, though it was bad, but look at what and who Rinpoche turned out to be. Instead of blaming his past experiences and upbringing, Rinpoche made a positive change from it. So instead of playing the “victim”, it is refreshing to kn ow you are in control and can turn it around! Buddha says so.

    YES if we wish to get anywhere in life or in my spirituality we need to look beyond my ‘formative’ years. We need to look at ourselves NOW… and make that change, it doesn’t have to be that way forever.

  19. David Lai on Apr 2, 2013 at 2:43 pm

    I think this teaching is a good guide for people to come to understand or for some, to come to understand themselves better. People usually don’t realize how much of an influence our parents are towards the development of our habits and minds. However, no matter how hardwired we are with the way we do things, the Buddha said we can always change things. We can always push for change and the best way to do that is to come to an understand and acceptance of who we are. Change and transformation cannot happen if we have not accepted our good and negative points.

    I am not saying this from the standpoint of someone who had realized this but from a theoretic standpoint considering how I noticed I am in denial of what sort of person I am. I think the Dharma has this magical effect if we keep listening and reading up on such articles combined with contemplation. But I definitely can see the benefits of the Dharma over the years and how I seen myself change and i definitely feel that acceptance is the key and definitely the collection of merits with the conviction that the 3 Jewels will bless us to open this realization within us. That’s how I see this as I was reading.

    • justin cheah on Apr 12, 2013 at 1:45 pm

      I agree with you David, one can only change once they realised the negative points that we thought ok at first. For example being late, we might think it is ok to be late for appointments but when we realised it is not good for the people waiting for you then we will not be wanting to let others wait for us and be punctual. Same with the case of work being assigned by bosses or superiors. It is harder for the person to be chasing you compared to the one who being chased all the time… 🙂

  20. henry ooi on Apr 1, 2013 at 9:56 am

    I guess most humans are like primates: monkey see, monkeys do. Dharma education is very beneficial for young children to provide for them the foundation to be virtuous and righteous adults.

  21. Jace Chong on Apr 1, 2013 at 1:26 am

    What Rinpoche says here is really making sense. I mean, yes, our parents do play an important role in formating our personality. For people who is unfortunate they might have bad influence and do the same things when they grow up. But like what Rinpoche says, it shouldn’t be the excuse that we couldn’t change.

    We should zoom out and see, hey, this life is just a dot in our never ending rebirth in samsara. When we understand more, we can reform it in a positive way to form a better future, this is much more practical than holding onto the negative attitude forever and telling the same excuse.

    Thanks Rinpoche for your words of wisdom. =)

  22. Chandra Golay on Feb 25, 2013 at 5:05 am

    My understanding from this teaching is that we are not bound my our past experiences. Because of the impermanent nature of karma and our lives moment to moment we are at freewill to lead ourselves and our lives where we choose. But what is a good way to practice teachings? When Buddhists say ”practice” what does it mean? I feel like at the end of the day all we want is to be happy but even happiness has a price- of hardwork, discipline, determination to achieve goals and all these has to be done with the correct selfless motivation because then all the effort put in but for selfish reasons is like ruining a white chanel dress!! haha. So, really makes me think Buddhas must be totally awesome and are good examples and role models for us. Why can’t kids be taught about the dharma at school rather than stupid maths and geography and taught to go for grades and high flying jobs? I know they are helpful to survive too but doesn’t make us happy. It’s almost like Karma is saying you cannot be anything but perfect, or else everything we do is like stabbing ourselves.

  23. Julia Tan on Jul 8, 2012 at 11:10 am

    As parents we do have a lot of responsibilities on how to bring up our kids in a correct way. But what are the correct ways? Are there any guide line that guarantee us that we can bring up our kids well?

    Kids have their own thinking and feelings. Some kids have very strong mind but some very weak. On top of that are we as parents strong and good enough to guide them, protect them and lead them by example? if not how?

    I read many books about parenting, about how to discipline our kids, about how to train them to be a strong and tough person, about how to let them be who they are etc. After all, i realized that parenting is not ONLY about parents and the child but environment that has a bit of bitterness, a lot of encouragement and moral discipline, moderate fun I think.

    The most beneficial step that I took was I joined Dharma. For all these years Kechara serve as a supportive ground for me and my kids to learn and to live our lives in our guru’s mandala which I feel extremely secure and it’s a good and right path for my kids to go.

  24. Wan Wai Meng on Nov 12, 2011 at 11:54 pm

    This is a real gem for me, as it gives hope to many people who may claim they have been ‘damaged’ by their parents or the past. The future can change and we have the ability to make a different future for ourselves. Rinpoche had such a difficult childhood but due to his determination and guidance from his lamas he turned out without bitterness and blaming the past.

  25. marie pohorelsky on Aug 13, 2011 at 4:06 am

    If we are extention of our parents and I have no children there is no more extention of me? Am I sort of like last Mohican in my time?

  26. Lim Tat Ming on Apr 21, 2011 at 3:59 pm

    Thank You Rinpoche for explaining clearly how life works.

    Below are my thoughts.

    Our upbringing affects our present behavior and perception of the world around us. Our childhood, schooling years, friends, colleagues, associates, neighbours, working environments, TV, internet, newspapers, advertisements etc. all influence how we behave. Hence we need to be careful not to be influenced by these.

    Without the knowledge of Dharma, we really have no hope of turning around. Fortunately, everything is not permanent. We can still change for the better. There is hope. We have the Guru and Three Jewels to help us transform.

    How we act moment to moment affect the result of every experience that we get in the future. Actions follow our thoughts. Hence we must control how we think moment to moment.

    This is already proven. For example, why do successful and wealthy people continue to be successful and wealthy? We know their past karma play a role here. However it is how these successful and wealthy people think and condition their minds moment to moment that determines their continued success and wealth.

    The formula looks pretty simple: create the correct causes moment to moment to experience the expected results that we want.

    The biggest obstacle that we face is our deluded mind which is hard to tame. This monkey mind of ours is constantly challenging us to act in a negative way. We had been so well conditioned through countless past lives imprints that we refuse to change.

    Also we have the obstacles of not knowing what future experiences will ripen upon us should we not completely purify them.

    Furthermore we must persevere faithfully in creating these positive causes moment to moment. Imagine the amount of effort that we need to create these positive causes to counter all our past negative imprints! There is so much to do and yet we have so little time left in this life. It is now or never!

    When we understand the above we start to appreciate the benefits of Vajrayana preliminary practices of doing 100,000 or 400,000 or more of prostration, confession, offering etc. These are skillful ways of reconditioning our minds towards something positive and useful for our future happiness. When we do these preliminary practices correctly with concentration, we don’t allow our deluded minds to control us.

    Another skillful way is doing Dharma work fulltime with the correction motivation direct our mind towards benefiting others every moment. This helps to create causes moment to moment for our future happiness.

    One more point to contemplate on is: What is the real meaning of life to us?

  27. Su Ming on Apr 3, 2011 at 11:21 am

    At the end of the day, the choice is ours.

    We have a choice and we should NOT blame anyone cause in the first place we should ask ourselves WHY DO WE ENCOUNTER THESE TYPE OF PEOPLE, FAMILY OR SITUATION? It brings us back to the law of karma. It is our karma to be born in our family may it be pleasant or unpleasant.

    Everyone of us have come across unpleasant and pleasant experiences, how we choose to react is what will determine whether we truly believe 100% in KARMA. Rinpoche has mentioned in one of his teachings before, KARMA DOES NOT SLEEP when we are depressed, angry, happy, and etc. We should always continue to do more positive actions, stop hurting others by using our past as an excuse and control our minds. Results speaks for itself.

    THE CHOICE IS ALWAYS OURS

  28. William on Mar 21, 2011 at 12:23 pm

    We are who we are and we decide who we want to be. Our parents did what they know best and that is who they are. We are not them eventhough they do influence our lives. Blame should not come into the picture as it only shuns our growth as a person. Thank you Rinpoche for the teaching. It strikes a chord when I think that this life is just a drop in the ocean when there are many many lifetimes to come. I am still growing and learning all the time, no matter how old I am.

  29. Abe on Mar 19, 2011 at 5:05 am

    Go Easy on Yourself, a New Wave of Research Urges

    Do you treat yourself as well as you treat your friends and family?

    “Self-compassion is really conducive to motivation”.

    http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/02/28/go-easy-on-yourself-a-new-wave-of-research-urges/?ref=health

  30. Mimi on Feb 24, 2011 at 2:39 pm

    LIGHT & SHADOW….
    There is a trap, Peculiar to information societies. Those who know too much, Grow increasingly suspicious. Their eyes spot flaws more that they spot virtures. Then, comparing themselves with others, They suffer; They fall into blaming & resenting themselves. If only it would occur to them that all they are doing is reaffirming their misery.

    When your surroundings are brightly lit, the shadows deepen from the contrast. It is impossible to cast them away because as long as there is light, shadows will be made. The only way to get rid of them is to sink everything into darkness. But is that what we really want?

    Do not allow the shadows to burden your heart. Just turn towards the light. Our minds cannot think of two things at once.

  31. Anila on Feb 22, 2011 at 3:21 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for the long rich and productive teachings in your Blog. Most people will hide their faults and portray good qualitites about themselves. The habits gathered from our parents can be good or bad. If only we can accept our bad qualities and tell it out honestly. And when we are told we are wrong we don’t accept and we justify. It will be much easier for us to accept another’s criticism and advise and learn from it. I have noticed in most families, the children will always take on the habits of their parents. Some say it is the genes from the parents. When we grow up we have the freedom to choose what is right and what is wrong. It is up to us to choose our character not only to follow our parents. But we are what we want to be is for us to choose.

  32. benji on Feb 21, 2011 at 5:56 am

    Thank you very much, Rinpochela, for the good fodder to chew upon. i do agree with Sandy – i think we need to ‘through constant raising of awareness’ and ‘proper education’, change for better. It’s another precious teaching from Rinpochela i must contemplate on.

  33. Sandy Clarke on Feb 18, 2011 at 7:35 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    I think overall, the essence of what you say here is spot on. I remember watching a Hindu teacher give a talk a long while ago and he talked about how, when we reach a certain stage in our lives, our parents’ influence shouldn’t be so great and that, ultimately, we make our own choices; we develop the critical mind that says, “Hold on…that isn’t right.” Environments and people can be “blamed” for maybe 20% of what/who we are, but in the end, we can choose what to accept and what not to accept.

    However, I’ve talked about this subject lots of times, especially with school teachers and education/social care workers who work with children who are “products of their environment”. A few of them have said something like “lots of people have a hard time growing up, but it’s not compulsory to turn out a certain way because of what surrounds you.”

    To an extent, I agree with this, but on the other hand there needs to be a recognition that some people simply don’t have the intelligence and/or mental fortitude to swim against the tide, so to speak. It’s very easy to say, “Well, I had a difficult life and I turned out fine”, but surely in a sense, people who say that are simply projecting their own mental capacity onto others? Not everyone has that ability to take control and steer the ship in the right direction, and I don’t think it always boils down to excuses or laziness.

    It seems a real grey area to me. Sure, there will be a lot of people who say, “Oh, that’s just the way I was brought up – I can’t help it.” They will use the excuses to shield their laziness, no doubt, but I strongly believe some just don’t have it in them to take hold of “now”, either because they just don’t know how to or because they’re so riddled with fear and/or have zero self-confidence.

    If one has the intelligence (how can you fix a problem you’re not aware of?) and the critical mind to really battle with themselves, then I’d say progressively, one can definitely work towards positive self-conditioning and over-turning negative influences and shut out any future occurences of external conditioning. However, if one grows up in a run-down area with little education, no real encouragement and no real natural capability, it’s very unlikely such a person would be able to turn themselves around.

    Of course, there are exceptions to the rule. “Bad” parenting can inspire kids to push themselves in order that they don’t follow down the same path and they turn out to be really great people. Similarly, great parents can spawn selfish children who don’t achieve much at all.

    Again, it’s a tricky situation. I’d say it’s all too easy for people who are mentally strong and secure and able to push themselves, to expect others to find it just as easy, or even posssible. And of course, we are the result of the sum of our upbringings and environment, or at least a significant part of us is made up of that sum. I don’t think anyone (the few exceptions excluded) who has faced or been brought up with a hard life is bound to realise that there can be another way, if only they’d just push themselves: even people who are aware can find this difficult.

    I don’t think there’s any arguing with the logic that we’re in control, because we are – there’s no debate there. However, where it does fall a little flat is that there seems to be an implication that all one has to do is realise one is in control of one’s life and that’s all that’s needed. Self-help books, chat-show hosts, education workers and so on seem to miss out a lot of the time that this realisation is fine when you have the mental capacity to investigate and imply on such a huge level, but for a lot of people, this just isn’t possible and I think this is why a lot of children especially can be left depressed or unhappy, because the one-size-fits-all approach fails to take into consideration seemingly real factors within peoples’ minds. Whether obstacles are real or not is irrelevant – to the person possessing them, they are very real, and it’s only through proper education and the constant raising of awareness that I think progress can be made. However, when people say “Oh but Jesus had nothing, Gandhi had nothing, Martin Luther King faced hardship and look what THEY achieved!”, that’s fine for them, but not everyone is Jesus or Gandhi and when people use that sort of pop-psychology, I think carries a potential danger of adding to the problem, rather than help towards liberating people from their mental chains.

    Kind regards,
    Sandy

    • Sandy Clarke on Feb 18, 2011 at 7:39 am

      **SHOULD READ** “when you have the mental capacity to investigate and implement on such a huge level…”

  34. Mavis on Feb 18, 2011 at 6:48 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for this article, it really opened up my eyes in a whole new dimension.

  35. […] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Tsem Tulku Rinpoche, Philip Yong. Philip Yong said: RT @tsemtulku: Are we our parents? For good or for bad? http://bit.ly/fK0vFj #tsemtulku #buddhism #parents #inspirational […]

  36. Lars on Feb 18, 2011 at 1:36 am

    Thank you. Living in a society who thrives on blaming parents and childhood as the roots to all our mental problems, I find teachings like this very sobering. Hope you get well soon.

    • tsemtulku on Feb 18, 2011 at 2:38 am

      Dear Lars, I like what you wrote. Parents and childhood are just the extensions of the actual cause. But if we come to peace with our parents and childhoods, it helps, but only symptomatic. Any help is welcomed of course. Tsem Rinpoche

      • Lars on Apr 2, 2013 at 7:35 am

        So funny, really benefited from a teaching like this today/this time in my life. For the first time in my life I strongly Believe that I am honestly trying to change. Not just for a while to trick myself and others to believe that I am more of a winner then I’m really am. But because I now have the experience that as Buddha said, the only fate that is set in stone is if you do not take charge. And that is not a pleasant one, more so, so little chance to be of benefit to anyone when you live your life not even benefitting yourself. I really have experienced my limit of weakness, to the point where I physically actually can not do the most basic of activities do to lack of strenght. The funny part in all of this is that I found it being a good sign seing that someone sharing my name had left the first comment. I read it and just started to laugh.. It was my comment! I had just forgot that Ive already read this teaching and commented on it!! Haha, talk about getting a second chance.:) I will take it to heart this time, and thank you again Rinpoche and thank you for the kind reply you gave me the last time around.:)

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  • Samfoonheei
    Sunday, Oct 25. 2020 02:41 PM
    The heartbreak of grief is the hardest. The death of a loved one who was a meaningful part of our life can absolutely lead to significant shifts. Those people in deep sorrow at the loss of a loved one need mental support and a lift up. Having Rinpoche blessing the mind of the deceased and let them have a …good rebirth is really beautiful indeed. That’s the time the family of the departed needs most the company of friends and so forth. The behind scenes of Rinpoche did was really touching not only the Dharma teachings, Rinpoche will go all the way to help the deceased family, spending every minute of every day thinking, working and acting for the benefit of all around him and many of whom he hardly knows.
    Thank you Seng PIow for sharing the look behind the scenes of what Rinpoche does.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/behind-the-scenes/rinpoche-in-funerals.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Sunday, Oct 25. 2020 02:41 PM
    Meditation has been shown to have mental benefits, such as improved concentration, happiness, memory, self-control, academic performance and more to go. Even researchers found that meditation may have other health benefits as well, including improved metabolism, heart rate, respiration, and blood pressure .Consistent practice over the long-term can boost our empathy, resilience and compassion too. Having just ten minutes is good enough for us all and powerful.
    Its good to do death meditation when we still have the time now. Visualizing our bodies actually decaying and on death will be good. It is a good practice to do so before the time is up.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this wonderful teachings.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/ten-minutes.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Sunday, Oct 25. 2020 02:40 PM
    Tibetan sacred dance, Tibetans referred to as a journey into the religious and folk traditions. Tibetan culture of oracular trance has a great significance as them, where the Tibetans will seek divine help and blessing. Tibet was one of the few places where traditions continued virtually untouched and unspoilt. They do believe the spirits descend from the mountains and enter the bodies of mediums who have inherited the role, celebrated in all the villages. On that day the villagers will dressed up colourfully to welcome the Mountain Gods and join in the dances as well.
    Reading this interesting article tells us more the Tibetans do practice spirit worship centuries ago, so as the Tibetan oracles been practice . The Tibetan Leadership believes that Dorje Shugden is a spirit , hence why not they ban all these mountain gods spirit worship too. Dorje Shugden is definitely not a spirit but a Dharma Protector bound by oath. Dorje Shugden is being used as a scapegoat by the Tibetan Leaderships for their own agenda.
    Thank you Rinpoche, for this insightful sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/art-architecture/tibetans-welcome-mountain-spirits-in-faith-ceremony.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Saturday, Oct 24. 2020 12:08 PM
    Inspiring post where Rinpoche had showed us the way to be compassionate, kind and observant while going round driving, walking or in restaurant. Any place or so nor matter where showing the light to those who needed help, foods and so forth. Rinpoche is truly a Bodhisattva.
    Thank you Rinpoche been so kind, helpful and compassion helping everyone regardless of race and religion . A good example for us.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/etc/driving-in-west-hollywood-today.html
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    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this powerful White Manjushri sadhana practice. This practice is beneficial to help us to clear delusions and ignorance. Manjushri practice especially helps us develop our wisdom. It is a great blessing for Moh Mei to have received the White Manjushri practice.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/white-manjushri-sadhana.html
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    Thank you Pastor Seng Piow for this sharing.

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    Traditionally all retreats has a beautiful landscape and quiet environment for anyone to have more freedom, peace and happiness in our daily life. It is also a chance to nurture our inner growth as it’s take time to look deeply in order to transform both our individual difficulties and the difficulties in our society.

    We are so fortunate with Rinpoche kindness to have a similar retreat for us to get away from the hustle and bustle of the city. Such a great place to practice dharma in nature with walks, breath meditations and fresh air.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this article and giving an opportunity to explore the beautiful retreats in the world.

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    Friday, Oct 23. 2020 11:55 AM
    China to Open its Own Nalanda University in Hainan Province . The campus of Nanhai Buddhism Academy was designed by internationally acclaimed architect which is located in the scenic Nanshan Cultural Tourism Zone. That’s wonderful. It’s the only institute of higher education in the world offering instruction. Offering various programs on Buddhist Studies in Han-Chinese Buddhism, Tibetan Buddhism and Southern Buddhism . The Chinese government are willing to invest billions in having such a university to benefits the people and for most spreading Buddhism .
    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/art-architecture/new-nalanda-university-in-china.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Friday, Oct 23. 2020 11:53 AM
    Came across this old post . Well for someone to admit one mistakes , realised the true , having the courage to swallow one’s pride and apologise, I rejoice for them. Some might not have the courage to admit it. Admitting a mistake is not a weakness after all on the contrary, it shows an openness of our heart. Every one of us might have made mistakes along our life path. We learn from our mistakes, admit our own before we point out someone else’s and grow from there.
    Lobsang Monlam ‘s message is very touching , its better for him to say sorry now than never. Or else he will regret forever. A good teacher like our Lama is hard to find. We are very fortunate to have met Rinpoche in this life , Rinpoche had changed the lives of many.
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Seng Piow for this sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/students-friends/dear-rinpoche-i-am-sorry.html
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    Friday, Oct 23. 2020 11:51 AM
    Depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and lack of interest. Different causes can often combine to trigger depression. Whatever it is ….depression comes from our own karma for what we did in this life or the previous life. People who suffer from depression often report feelings of loneliness and isolation. If not treated it could lead to more serious matters related. It will interfere with our daily life for sure. Learning Dharma, practicing it will help us to transform our mind more positively. We will see the light even in the darkest of times in our life.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this teachings with folded hands.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/etc/some-thoughts-on-depression.html
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    Thursday, Oct 22. 2020 11:51 PM
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    A vegan diet is the most beneficial to mankind as it is one of the healthiest diets in the world, it is the world’s most environmentally friendly diet. Many vegans have found themselves starving while they are traveling and not being able to find any foods free of animal products on the road and this will be very convenient.

    Thank you for the interesting sharing, Hope to hear and see more countries could have Vegan Grocery. It will be extremely beneficial to the planet and will encourage a healthier lifestyle.

    https://bit.ly/3ji9V0F
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    Thursday, Oct 22. 2020 12:48 PM
    We have to do our homework……yes I agree with what Rinpoche had said. We can’t go back and change the beginning but we can start where we are and change the present. We have to work it out somehow even there is a hurdle or obstacles to go. In life we bond to have obstacles to clear along the path of life. Accepting those obstacles as they come , learn from there and let it be. Choosing to learn, practice Dharma and putting it into action is the best choice. Doing Dharma I have chosen have make my life filled with happiness.
    Thank you Rinpoche for these teachings.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/20668.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Oct 22. 2020 12:45 PM
    The Heart Sutra is the most widely known sutra of the Mahayana tradition of Tibetan Buddhism. We may try changing who we are in an attempt to fit in and even if we achieve a new feeling of belonging, the emptiness remains. Emptiness is an important door to liberation in life. The Heart Sutra is a very condensed contemplation manual. Will read it over and again to understand better . I still have a long way to go trying to absorb what ever I could. We have to develop a soft heart and compassion, firstly before we read the sutras. At the heart of emptiness is compassion….quoted.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this great teachings.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/emptiness-with-a-heart-of-compassion.html
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    Thursday, Oct 22. 2020 12:44 PM
    Unbelievable what they did…. Mumu and Oser. They saved an injured tiny bird, bringing to Rinpoche. They are like one of us , can feel and knew that the bird needed help. Mumu and Oser knew who to bring to. Great Job, they did their best, sadly the injured bird passed away. But fortunate to have Rinpoche blessing. Mumu and Oser are amazing dogs had showed us an example to give care, love and be kind even they were of different species.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/a-tale-of-a-bird.html

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Dharmapalas are not exclusive to Tibetan culture and their practice is widespread throughout the Buddhist world - https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=193645
One of our adorable Kechara Forest Retreat\'s doggies, Tara, happy and safe, and enjoying herself in front of Wisdom Hall which has been decorated for Chinese New Year
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One of our adorable Kechara Forest Retreat's doggies, Tara, happy and safe, and enjoying herself in front of Wisdom Hall which has been decorated for Chinese New Year
Fragrant organic Thai basil harvested from our very own Kechara Forest Retreat farm!
9 months ago
Fragrant organic Thai basil harvested from our very own Kechara Forest Retreat farm!
On behalf of our Puja House team, Pastor Tat Ming receives food and drinks from Rinpoche. Rinpoche wanted to make sure the hardworking Puja House team are always taken care of.
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On behalf of our Puja House team, Pastor Tat Ming receives food and drinks from Rinpoche. Rinpoche wanted to make sure the hardworking Puja House team are always taken care of.
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By the time I heard about Luang Phor Thong, he was already very old, in his late 80s. When I heard about him, I immediately wanted to go and pay my respects to him. - http://bit.ly/LuangPhorThong
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It's very nice to see volunteers helping maintain holy sites in Kechara Forest Retreat, it's very good for them. Cleaning Buddha statues is a very powerful and effective way of purifying body karma.
Kechara Forest Retreat is preparing for the upcoming Chinese New Year celebrations. This is our holy Vajra Yogini stupa which is now surrounded by beautiful lanterns organised by our students.
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Kechara Forest Retreat is preparing for the upcoming Chinese New Year celebrations. This is our holy Vajra Yogini stupa which is now surrounded by beautiful lanterns organised by our students.
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One of the most recent harvests from our Kechara Forest Retreat land. It was grown free of chemicals and pesticides, wonderful!
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Third picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal. Height: 33ft (10m)
Second picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal.
Height: 33ft (10m)
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Second picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal. Height: 33ft (10m)
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Height: 33ft (10m)
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First picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal. Height: 33ft (10m)
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The first title published by Kechara Comics is Karuna Finds A Way. It tells the tale of high-school sweethearts Karuna and Adam who had what some would call the dream life. Everything was going great for them until one day when reality came knocking on their door. Caught in a surprise swindle, this loving family who never harmed anyone found themselves out of luck and down on their fortune. Determined to save her family, Karuna goes all out to find a solution. See what she does- https://bit.ly/2LSKuWo
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Very powerful story! Tibetan Resistance group Chushi Gangdruk reveals how Dalai Lama escaped in 1959- https://bit.ly/2S9VMGX
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At Kechara Forest Retreat land we have nice fresh spinach growing free of chemicals and pesticides. Yes!
See beautiful pictures of Manjushri Guest House here- https://bit.ly/2WGo0ti
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See beautiful pictures of Manjushri Guest House here- https://bit.ly/2WGo0ti
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Beginner’s Introduction to Dorje Shugden~Very good overview https://bit.ly/2QQNfYv
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Fresh eggplants grown on Kechara Forest Retreat's land here in Malaysia
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Most Venerable Uppalavanna – The Chief Female Disciple of Buddha Shakyamuni - She exhibited many supernatural abilities gained from meditation and proved to the world females and males are equal in spirituality- https://bit.ly/31d9Rat
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Thailand’s ‘Renegade’ Yet Powerful Buddhist Nuns~ https://bit.ly/2Z1C02m
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Mahapajapati Gotami – the first Buddhist nun ordained by Lord Buddha- https://bit.ly/2IjD8ru
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Dorje Shugden works & archives - a labour of commitment - https://bit.ly/30Tp2p8
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Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha.
Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha. She was his step-mother and aunt. Buddha\'s mother had passed away at his birth so he was raised by Gotami.
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Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha. She was his step-mother and aunt. Buddha's mother had passed away at his birth so he was raised by Gotami.
Another nun disciple of Lord Buddha\'s. She had achieved great spiritual abilities and high attainments. She would be a proper object of refuge. This image of the eminent bhikkhuni (nun) disciple of the Buddha, Uppalavanna Theri.
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Another nun disciple of Lord Buddha's. She had achieved great spiritual abilities and high attainments. She would be a proper object of refuge. This image of the eminent bhikkhuni (nun) disciple of the Buddha, Uppalavanna Theri.
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Wandering Ascetic Painting by Nirdesha Munasinghe
High Sri Lankan monks visit Kechara to bless our land, temple, Buddha and Dorje Shugden images. They were very kind-see pictures- https://bit.ly/2HQie2M
1 year ago
High Sri Lankan monks visit Kechara to bless our land, temple, Buddha and Dorje Shugden images. They were very kind-see pictures- https://bit.ly/2HQie2M
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First Sri Lankan Buddhist temple opened in Dubai!!!
1 year ago
This is pretty amazing! First Sri Lankan Buddhist temple opened in Dubai!!!
My Dharma boy (left) and Oser girl loves to laze around on the veranda in the mornings. They enjoy all the trees, grass and relaxing under the hot sun. Sunbathing is a favorite daily activity. I care about these two doggies of mine very much and I enjoy seeing them happy. They are with me always. Tsem Rinpoche

Always be kind to animals and eat vegetarian- https://bit.ly/2Psp8h2
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My Dharma boy (left) and Oser girl loves to laze around on the veranda in the mornings. They enjoy all the trees, grass and relaxing under the hot sun. Sunbathing is a favorite daily activity. I care about these two doggies of mine very much and I enjoy seeing them happy. They are with me always. Tsem Rinpoche Always be kind to animals and eat vegetarian- https://bit.ly/2Psp8h2
After you left me Mumu, I was alone. I have no family or kin. You were my family. I can\'t stop thinking of you and I can\'t forget you. My bond and connection with you is so strong. I wish you were by my side. Tsem Rinpoche
1 year ago
After you left me Mumu, I was alone. I have no family or kin. You were my family. I can't stop thinking of you and I can't forget you. My bond and connection with you is so strong. I wish you were by my side. Tsem Rinpoche
This story is a life-changer. Learn about the incredible Forest Man of India | 印度“森林之子”- https://bit.ly/2Eh4vRS
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This story is a life-changer. Learn about the incredible Forest Man of India | 印度“森林之子”- https://bit.ly/2Eh4vRS
Part 2-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
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Part 2-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
Part 1-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
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Part 1-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
The great Protector Manjushri Dorje Shugden depicted in the beautiful Mongolian style. To download a high resolution file: https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
1 year ago
The great Protector Manjushri Dorje Shugden depicted in the beautiful Mongolian style. To download a high resolution file: https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
The Mystical land of Shambhala is finally ready for everyone to feast their eyes and be blessed. A beautiful post with information, art work, history, spirituality and a beautiful book composed by His Holiness the 6th Panchen Rinpoche. ~ https://bit.ly/309MHBi
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The Mystical land of Shambhala is finally ready for everyone to feast their eyes and be blessed. A beautiful post with information, art work, history, spirituality and a beautiful book composed by His Holiness the 6th Panchen Rinpoche. ~ https://bit.ly/309MHBi
Beautiful pictures of the huge Buddha in Longkou Nanshan- https://bit.ly/2LsBxVb
1 year ago
Beautiful pictures of the huge Buddha in Longkou Nanshan- https://bit.ly/2LsBxVb
The reason-Very interesting thought- https://bit.ly/2V7VT5r
1 year ago
The reason-Very interesting thought- https://bit.ly/2V7VT5r
NEW Bigfoot cafe in Malaysia! Food is delicious!- https://bit.ly/2VxdGau
1 year ago
NEW Bigfoot cafe in Malaysia! Food is delicious!- https://bit.ly/2VxdGau
DON\'T MISS THIS!~How brave Bonnie survived by living with a herd of deer~ https://bit.ly/2Lre2eY
1 year ago
DON'T MISS THIS!~How brave Bonnie survived by living with a herd of deer~ https://bit.ly/2Lre2eY
Global Superpower China Will Cut Meat Consumption by 50%! Very interesting, find out more- https://bit.ly/2V1sJFh
1 year ago
Global Superpower China Will Cut Meat Consumption by 50%! Very interesting, find out more- https://bit.ly/2V1sJFh
You can download this beautiful Egyptian style Dorje Shugden Free- https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
1 year ago
You can download this beautiful Egyptian style Dorje Shugden Free- https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
Beautiful high file for print of Lord Manjushri. May you be blessed- https://bit.ly/2V8mwZe
1 year ago
Beautiful high file for print of Lord Manjushri. May you be blessed- https://bit.ly/2V8mwZe
Mongolian (Oymiakon) Shaman in Siberia, Russia. That is his real outfit he wears. Very unique. TR
1 year ago
Mongolian (Oymiakon) Shaman in Siberia, Russia. That is his real outfit he wears. Very unique. TR
Find one of the most beautiful temples in the world in Nara, Japan. It is the 1,267 year old Todai-ji temple that houses a 15 meter Buddha Vairocana statue who is a cosmic and timeless Buddha. Emperor Shomu who sponsored this beautiful temple eventually abdicated and ordained as a Buddhist monk. Very interesting history and story. One of the places everyone should visit- https://bit.ly/2VgsHhK
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Find one of the most beautiful temples in the world in Nara, Japan. It is the 1,267 year old Todai-ji temple that houses a 15 meter Buddha Vairocana statue who is a cosmic and timeless Buddha. Emperor Shomu who sponsored this beautiful temple eventually abdicated and ordained as a Buddhist monk. Very interesting history and story. One of the places everyone should visit- https://bit.ly/2VgsHhK
Manjusri Kumara (bodhisattva of wisdom), India, Pala dynesty, 9th century, stone, Honolulu Academy of Arts
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Manjusri Kumara (bodhisattva of wisdom), India, Pala dynesty, 9th century, stone, Honolulu Academy of Arts
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Last weekend a Soup Kitchen activities @ Penang, Johor & Kuala Lumpur. Hot food, water, masks, biscuits, buns & fruits. This is what we give out to our friends living on the streets. Thank you to our sponsor & volunteers that make it happen. Come spread more love by being a volunteer at our activities. WhatsApp us today at 010-333-3260! See you soon! #kecharafoodbank #kecharaempowerment #kecharasoupkitchen - Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
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Last weekend a Soup Kitchen activities @ Penang, Johor & Kuala Lumpur. Hot food, water, masks, biscuits, buns & fruits. This is what we give out to our friends living on the streets. Thank you to our sponsor & volunteers that make it happen. Come spread more love by being a volunteer at our activities. WhatsApp us today at 010-333-3260! See you soon! #kecharafoodbank #kecharaempowerment #kecharasoupkitchen - Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
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Thank you Domino's Pizza Malaysia, Kasih & Piza campaign for sponsoring 85 boxes of pizza to our friends who live on the streets. Your flavourful pizzas have put a smile on their faces. Thank you! - Vivan @ Kechara Soup Kitchen #kecharafoodbank #kecharaempowerment #kecharasoupkitchen #KasihdanPiza #ItsAllAboutYou
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Thank you Domino's Pizza Malaysia, Kasih & Piza campaign for sponsoring 85 boxes of pizza to our friends who live on the streets. Your flavourful pizzas have put a smile on their faces. Thank you! - Vivan @ Kechara Soup Kitchen #kecharafoodbank #kecharaempowerment #kecharasoupkitchen #KasihdanPiza #ItsAllAboutYou
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Thank you Novo Nordisk! Your kind monetary donation and 1,320 boxes of masks will benefit many needy families under the Kechara Food Bank Program. Thank you! Much love from the needy families ~ Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen #kecharafoodbank #kecharaempowerment #kecharasoupkitchen #novonordisk #novonordiskmalaysia
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We were graced with the presence of Tengku Zatashah & The Alice Smith School Foundation yesterday. 130 homeless were blessed to be served by them. RM 20,000 donated by Alice Smith School Foundation will benefit 100 families registered under Kechara Food Bank Program. Thank you! Much love from the needy families ~ Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen #kecharafoodbank #kecharaempowerment #kecharasoupkitchen #alicesmithschoolfoundation #alicesmithschool #volunteerism #homeless
Thanks to the effort of our outstation team, we were able to mobilise food provisions to 600 families living in Kelantan, Penang, Negeri Sembilan, Melaka and Johor during the Raya period with each of these families receiving RM200 worth of provisions. Adding onto the current 368 families in Klang Valley, a total of 968 families were benefitted from this. Special thanks to the sponsors who have contributed especially Hong Leong Foundation and partially from Tesco Malaysia (where we also ordered the provisions from). ~ Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
4 months ago
Thanks to the effort of our outstation team, we were able to mobilise food provisions to 600 families living in Kelantan, Penang, Negeri Sembilan, Melaka and Johor during the Raya period with each of these families receiving RM200 worth of provisions. Adding onto the current 368 families in Klang Valley, a total of 968 families were benefitted from this. Special thanks to the sponsors who have contributed especially Hong Leong Foundation and partially from Tesco Malaysia (where we also ordered the provisions from). ~ Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
So glad that our soup kitchen operations are back in full swing. Good to see the clients are observing the SOPs. Some of them lost their job during MCO and ended up on the streets. Special thanks to our sponsors and volunteers for the great support! - Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
4 months ago
So glad that our soup kitchen operations are back in full swing. Good to see the clients are observing the SOPs. Some of them lost their job during MCO and ended up on the streets. Special thanks to our sponsors and volunteers for the great support! - Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
From serving cooked food to the homeless clients on the streets to mobilising provisions to the needy individuals in PPRs and shelters, we thank everyone of our Johor Bahru team for their kind contributions and effort to make it for the needy despite all the challenges! - Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
5 months ago
From serving cooked food to the homeless clients on the streets to mobilising provisions to the needy individuals in PPRs and shelters, we thank everyone of our Johor Bahru team for their kind contributions and effort to make it for the needy despite all the challenges! - Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
More photos taken from our "Hari Raya Hampers" distribution this week. Making sure everyone of our clients have something to be cheerful about. Apart from food, daily used items such as hygiene products, kitchen utensils, assorted fabric items, stationary items and toys were also included into our hamper bags making it extra heavier this month! Food items alone were about 35kg per family! Taking this opportunity to wish everyone of our Muslim volunteers, friends, supporters and clients a Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri and Maaf Zahir Batin. No doubt this year's celebration will be very different but appreciate everyone is safe and protected from the pandemic. We are in this together and let's work to fight this pandemic together! Thanking all sponsors and donors for the generous support enabling us to continue serve the needy with food, love and care. Big shoutout too to our wonderful team which already depleted by our very own strict SOP. All of you who worked tirelessly behind the s
5 months ago
More photos taken from our "Hari Raya Hampers" distribution this week. Making sure everyone of our clients have something to be cheerful about. Apart from food, daily used items such as hygiene products, kitchen utensils, assorted fabric items, stationary items and toys were also included into our hamper bags making it extra heavier this month! Food items alone were about 35kg per family! Taking this opportunity to wish everyone of our Muslim volunteers, friends, supporters and clients a Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri and Maaf Zahir Batin. No doubt this year's celebration will be very different but appreciate everyone is safe and protected from the pandemic. We are in this together and let's work to fight this pandemic together! Thanking all sponsors and donors for the generous support enabling us to continue serve the needy with food, love and care. Big shoutout too to our wonderful team which already depleted by our very own strict SOP. All of you who worked tirelessly behind the s
Our team have been working extra hours for the past few weeks to deliver provisions and hamper goodies to the needy families before Hari Raya! Heart warming to see the smiling faces of our recipients upon receiving 3 bags full of food and daily used items. Thanks to everyone of you who have contributed to our foodbank enabling us to give all our recipients (especially those celebrating) a Raya to remember! - Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
5 months ago
Our team have been working extra hours for the past few weeks to deliver provisions and hamper goodies to the needy families before Hari Raya! Heart warming to see the smiling faces of our recipients upon receiving 3 bags full of food and daily used items. Thanks to everyone of you who have contributed to our foodbank enabling us to give all our recipients (especially those celebrating) a Raya to remember! - Vivian @ Kechara Soup Kitchen
Thankful to all donors and those who have been committed in contributing not just money but time over the past testing weeks to help us ease the work of our frontliners and also the livelihood of the needy, their struggles over this pandemic period seemed a little easier to bear with because of your contributions! - Vivian @Kechara Soup Kitchen
5 months ago
Thankful to all donors and those who have been committed in contributing not just money but time over the past testing weeks to help us ease the work of our frontliners and also the livelihood of the needy, their struggles over this pandemic period seemed a little easier to bear with because of your contributions! - Vivian @Kechara Soup Kitchen
KSDS Level 2 virtual class, Lin Mun KSDS
5 months ago
KSDS Level 2 virtual class, Lin Mun KSDS
KSDS Level 3 virtual class. Lin Mun KSDS
5 months ago
KSDS Level 3 virtual class. Lin Mun KSDS
Wesak 2020
6 months ago
Wesak 2020
Recycle today for a better tomorrow. KEP-Serena
7 months ago
Recycle today for a better tomorrow. KEP-Serena
Today we are having recycling at Kechara Soup Kitchen. Do drop by here if you would like to get ride of the recyclable items from home. KEP - Serena
7 months ago
Today we are having recycling at Kechara Soup Kitchen. Do drop by here if you would like to get ride of the recyclable items from home. KEP - Serena
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Seen here is Bam, Vajrayogini’s seed syllable and also Kechara's logo. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
7 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Seen here is Bam, Vajrayogini’s seed syllable and also Kechara's logo. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: More melted butter was offered. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
7 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: More melted butter was offered. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
H.E. Zawa Rinpoche in deep concentration. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
7 months ago
H.E. Zawa Rinpoche in deep concentration. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Geshela is seen here wearing ceremonial hat called tsoksha. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
7 months ago
Geshela is seen here wearing ceremonial hat called tsoksha. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
The Shize Fire Puja was performed according to scriptural sources. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
7 months ago
The Shize Fire Puja was performed according to scriptural sources. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
To find out more about the substances offered during jinsek/fire puja, have a read here: http://bit.ly/WhatIsFirePuja - shared by Pastor Antoinette
7 months ago
To find out more about the substances offered during jinsek/fire puja, have a read here: http://bit.ly/WhatIsFirePuja - shared by Pastor Antoinette
More about the symbolism of the offering items here: http://bit.ly/WhatIsFirePuja - shared by Pastor Antoinette
7 months ago
More about the symbolism of the offering items here: http://bit.ly/WhatIsFirePuja - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Amongst all pujas, the fire puja is considered the king of all Pujas. It is the most powerful of all pujas within Tibetan Buddhism and its purpose is basically to remove all obstacles and its stains to enlightenment.
7 months ago
Amongst all pujas, the fire puja is considered the king of all Pujas. It is the most powerful of all pujas within Tibetan Buddhism and its purpose is basically to remove all obstacles and its stains to enlightenment.
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Graceful hand mudras were also part of the ritual. - shared Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Graceful hand mudras were also part of the ritual. - shared Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: One by one the offering substances were offered accompanied by traditional Tibetan recitations. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: One by one the offering substances were offered accompanied by traditional Tibetan recitations. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: JP Thong ensuring that Geshela's ritual items are within easy reach. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: JP Thong ensuring that Geshela's ritual items are within easy reach. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Pastor David Lai & Frederick Law were also on hand to assist with the puja ritual substances. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Pastor David Lai & Frederick Law were also on hand to assist with the puja ritual substances. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Pastor Niral Patel assisting H.E. Zawa Rinpoche during the puja. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Pastor Niral Patel assisting H.E. Zawa Rinpoche during the puja. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Peaceful fire pujas are excellent to remove inauspiciousness, problems that might be coming to our lifespan, wisdom, wealth, growth of Dharma. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Peaceful fire pujas are excellent to remove inauspiciousness, problems that might be coming to our lifespan, wisdom, wealth, growth of Dharma. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Over 100 Kecharians & their loved ones spent the Sunday evening immersed in this obstacle pacifying puja. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Over 100 Kecharians & their loved ones spent the Sunday evening immersed in this obstacle pacifying puja. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: H.E. Zawa Dakpa and Geshe Janchup Gyaltsen Lama inspecting the offering substances. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: H.E. Zawa Dakpa and Geshe Janchup Gyaltsen Lama inspecting the offering substances. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: H.E. Zawa Rinpoche & Geshe Janchup making last minute checks before the commencement of the Jinsek or Fire Puja. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: H.E. Zawa Rinpoche & Geshe Janchup making last minute checks before the commencement of the Jinsek or Fire Puja. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: The arrival of the Sangha conducting this sacred puja accompanied by Changtso Beng Kooi and Pastor Niral Patel - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: The arrival of the Sangha conducting this sacred puja accompanied by Changtso Beng Kooi and Pastor Niral Patel - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: The site of the Peaceful Fire Puja the calls upon the pacifying energies of Shize Shugden. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: The site of the Peaceful Fire Puja the calls upon the pacifying energies of Shize Shugden. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: A close-up of the ladle. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: A close-up of the ladle. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Substances such as sticks, melted butter, kusha grass, lentils and barley were traditionally offered during the prayers to create the causes for merits, long life and to pacify obstacles. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Substances such as sticks, melted butter, kusha grass, lentils and barley were traditionally offered during the prayers to create the causes for merits, long life and to pacify obstacles. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Beautifully handcrafted torma or food offering to the Buddha. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Beautifully handcrafted torma or food offering to the Buddha. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Some of the many offering items & substances used during this highly blessed Fire Puja. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
8 months ago
Highlights from the Shize Peaceful Fire Puja: Some of the many offering items & substances used during this highly blessed Fire Puja. - shared by Pastor Antoinette
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