My mom’s lifestyle was destructive to me

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I grew up with two moms: here’s the uncomfortable truth that nobody wants to hear

by Robert Oscar Lopez, Tue Aug 14, 2012

(thePublicDiscourse.com) – Between 1973 and 1990, when my beloved mother passed away, she and her female romantic partner raised me. They had separate houses but spent nearly all their weekends together, with me, in a trailer tucked discreetly in an RV park 50 minutes away from the town where we lived. As the youngest of my mother’s biological children, I was the only child who experienced childhood without my father being around.

After my mother’s partner’s children had left for college, she moved into our house in town. I lived with both of them for the brief time before my mother died at the age of 53. I was 19. In other words, I was the only child who experienced life under “gay parenting” as that term is understood today.

Quite simply, growing up with gay parents was very difficult, and not because of prejudice from neighbors. People in our community didn’t really know what was going on in the house. To most outside observers, I was a well-raised, high-achieving child, finishing high school with straight A’s.

Inside, however, I was confused. When your home life is so drastically different from everyone around you, in a fundamental way striking at basic physical relations, you grow up weird. I have no mental health disorders or biological conditions. I just grew up in a house so unusual that I was destined to exist as a social outcast.

My peers learned all the unwritten rules of decorum and body language in their homes; they understood what was appropriate to say in certain settings and what wasn’t; they learned both traditionally masculine and traditionally feminine social mechanisms.

Even if my peers’ parents were divorced, and many of them were, they still grew up seeing male and female social models. They learned, typically, how to be bold and unflinching from male figures and how to write thank-you cards and be sensitive from female figures. These are stereotypes, of course, but stereotypes come in handy when you inevitably leave the safety of your lesbian mom’s trailer and have to work and survive in a world where everybody thinks in stereotypical terms, even gays.

I had no male figure at all to follow, and my mother and her partner were both unlike traditional fathers or traditional mothers. As a result, I had very few recognizable social cues to offer potential male or female friends, since I was neither confident nor sensitive to others. Thus I befriended people rarely and alienated others easily. Gay people who grew up in straight parents’ households may have struggled with their sexual orientation; but when it came to the vast social universe of adaptations not dealing with sexuality—how to act, how to speak, how to behave—they had the advantage of learning at home. Many gays don’t realize what a blessing it was to be reared in a traditional home.

My home life was not traditional nor conventional. I suffered because of it, in ways that are difficult for sociologists to index. Both nervous and yet blunt, I would later seem strange even in the eyes of gay and bisexual adults who had little patience for someone like me. I was just as odd to them as I was to straight people.

Life is hard when you are strange. Even now, I have very few friends and often feel as though I do not understand people because of the unspoken gender cues that everyone around me, even gays raised in traditional homes, takes for granted. Though I am hard-working and a quick learner, I have trouble in professional settings because co-workers find me bizarre.

In terms of sexuality, gays who grew up in traditional households benefited from at least seeing some kind of functional courtship rituals around them. I had no clue how to make myself attractive to girls. When I stepped outside of my mothers’ trailer, I was immediately tagged as an outcast because of my girlish mannerisms, funny clothes, lisp, and outlandishness. Not surprisingly, I left high school as a virgin, never having had a girlfriend, instead having gone to four proms as a wisecracking sidekick to girls who just wanted someone to chip in for a limousine.

When I got to college, I set off everyone’s “gaydar” and the campus LGBT group quickly descended upon me to tell me it was 100-percent certain I must be a homosexual. When I came out as bisexual, they told everyone I was lying and just wasn’t ready to come out of the closet as gay yet. Frightened and traumatized by my mother’s death, I dropped out of college in 1990 and fell in with what can only be called the gay underworld. Terrible things happened to me there.

It was not until I was twenty-eight that I suddenly found myself in a relationship with a woman, through coincidences that shocked everyone who knew me and surprised even myself. I call myself bisexual because it would take several novels to explain how I ended up “straight” after almost thirty years as a gay man. I don’t feel like dealing with gay activists skewering me the way they go on search-and-destroy missions against ex-gays, “closet cases,” or “homocons.”

Though I have a biography particularly relevant to gay issues, the first person who contacted me to thank me for sharing my perspective on LGBT issues was Mark Regnerus, in an email dated July 17, 2012. I was not part of his massive survey, but he noticed a comment I’d left on a website about it and took the initiative to begin an email correspondence.

Forty-one years I’d lived, and nobody—least of all gay activists—had wanted me to speak honestly about the complicated gay threads of my life. If for no other reason than this, Mark Regnerus deserves tremendous credit—and the gay community ought to be crediting him rather than trying to silence him.

Regnerus’s study identified 248 adult children of parents who had same-sex romantic relationships. Offered a chance to provide frank responses with the hindsight of adulthood, they gave reports unfavorable to the gay marriage equality agenda. Yet the results are backed up by an important thing in life called common sense: Growing up different from other people is difficult and the difficulties raise the risk that children will develop maladjustments or self-medicate with alcohol and other dangerous behaviors. Each of those 248 is a human story, no doubt with many complexities.

Like my story, these 248 people’s stories deserve to be told. The gay movement is doing everything it can to make sure that nobody hears them. But I care more about the stories than the numbers (especially as an English professor), and Regnerus stumbled unwittingly on a narrative treasure chest.

So why the code of silence from LGBT leaders? I can only speculate from where I’m sitting. I cherish my mother’s memory, but I don’t mince words when talking about how hard it was to grow up in a gay household. Earlier studies examined children still living with their gay parents, so the kids were not at liberty to speak, governed as all children are by filial piety, guilt, and fear of losing their allowances. For trying to speak honestly, I’ve been squelched, literally, for decades.

The latest attempt at trying to silence stories (and data) such as mine comes from Darren E. Sherkat, a professor of sociology at Southern Illinois University at Carbondale, who gave an interview to Tom Bartlett of the Chronicle of Higher Education, in which he said—and I quote—that Mark Regnerus’s study was “bulls**t.” Bartlett’s article continues:

Among the problems Sherkat identified is the paper’s definition of “lesbian mothers” and “gay fathers”—an aspect that has been the focus of much of the public criticism. A woman could be identified as a “lesbian mother” in the study if she had had a relationship with another woman at any point after having a child, regardless of the brevity of that relationship and whether or not the two women raised the child as a couple.

Sherkat said that fact alone in the paper should have “disqualified it immediately” from being considered for publication.

The problem with Sherkat’s disqualification of Regnerus’s work is a manifold chicken-and-egg conundrum. Though Sherkat uses the term “LGBT” in the same interview with Bartlett, he privileges that L and G and discriminates severely against the B, bisexuals.

Where do children of LGBT parents come from? If the parents are 100-percent gay or lesbian, then the chances are that the children were conceived through surrogacy or insemination, or else adopted. Those cases are such a tiny percentage of LGBT parents, however, that it would be virtually impossible to find more than a half-dozen in a random sampling of tens of thousands of adults.

Most LGBT parents are, like me, and technically like my mother, “bisexual”—the forgotten B. We conceived our children because we engaged in heterosexual intercourse. Social complications naturally arise if you conceive a child with the opposite sex but still have attractions to the same sex. Sherkat calls these complications disqualifiable, as they are corrupting the purity of a homosexual model of parenting.

I would posit that children raised by same-sex couples are naturally going to be more curious about and experimental with homosexuality without necessarily being pure of any attraction to the opposite sex. Hence they will more likely fall into the bisexual category, as did I—meaning that the children of LGBT parents, once they are young adults, are likely to be the first ones disqualified by the social scientists who now claim to advocate for their parents.

Those who are 100-percent gay may view bisexuals with a mix of disgust and envy. Bisexual parents threaten the core of the LGBT parenting narrative—we do have a choice to live as gay or straight, and we do have to decide the gender configuration of the household in which our children will grow up. While some gays see bisexuality as an easier position, the fact is that bisexual parents bear a more painful weight on their shoulders. Unlike homosexuals, we cannot write off our decisions as things forced on us by nature. We have no choice but to take responsibility for what we do as parents, and live with the guilt, regret, and self-criticism forever.

Our children do not arrive with clean legal immunity. As a man, though I am bisexual, I do not get to throw away the mother of my child as if she is a used incubator. I had to help my wife through the difficulties of pregnancy and postpartum depression. When she is struggling with discrimination against mothers or women at a sexist workplace, I have to be patient and listen. I must attend to her sexual needs. Once I was a father, I put aside my own homosexual past and vowed never to divorce my wife or take up with another person, male or female, before I died. I chose that commitment in order to protect my children from dealing with harmful drama, even as they grow up to be adults. When you are a parent, ethical questions revolve around your children and you put away your self-interest . . . forever.

Sherkat’s assessment of Regnerus’s work shows a total disregard for the emotional and sexual labor that bisexual parents contribute to their children. Bisexual parents must wrestle with their duties as parents while still contending with the temptations to enter into same-sex relationships. The turbulence documented in Mark Regnerus’s study is a testament to how hard that is. Rather than threatening, it is a reminder of the burden I carry and a goad to concern myself first and foremost with my children’s needs, not my sexual desires.

The other chicken-and-egg problem of Sherkat’s dismissal deals with conservative ideology. Many have dismissed my story with four simple words: “But you are conservative.” Yes, I am. How did I get that way? I moved to the right wing because I lived in precisely the kind of anti-normative, marginalized, and oppressed identity environment that the left celebrates: I am a bisexual Latino intellectual, raised by a lesbian, who experienced poverty in the Bronx as a young adult. I’m perceptive enough to notice that liberal social policies don’t actually help people in those conditions. Especially damning is the liberal attitude that we shouldn’t be judgmental about sex. In the Bronx gay world, I cleaned out enough apartments of men who’d died of AIDS to understand that resistance to sexual temptation is central to any kind of humane society. Sex can be hurtful not only because of infectious diseases but also because it leaves us vulnerable and more likely to cling to people who don’t love us, mourn those who leave us, and not know how to escape those who need us but whom we don’t love. The left understands none of that. That’s why I am conservative.

So yes, I am conservative and support Regnerus’s findings. Or is it that Regnerus’s findings revisit the things that made me conservative in the first place? Sherkat must figure that one out.

Having lived for forty-one years as a strange man, I see it as tragically fitting that the first instinct of experts and gay activists is to exclude my life profile as unfit for any “data sample,” or as Dr. Sherkat calls it, “bullshit.” So the game has gone for at least twenty-five years. For all the talk about LGBT alliances, bisexuality falls by the wayside, thanks to scholars such as Sherkat. For all the chatter about a “queer” movement, queer activists are just as likely to restrict their social circles to professionalized, normal people who know how to throw charming parties, make small talk, and blend in with the Art Deco furniture.

I thank Mark Regnerus. Far from being “bulls**t,” his work is affirming to me, because it acknowledges what the gay activist movement has sought laboriously to erase, or at least ignore. Whether homosexuality is chosen or inbred, whether gay marriage gets legalized or not, being strange is hard; it takes a mental toll, makes it harder to find friends, interferes with professional growth, and sometimes leads one down a sodden path to self-medication in the form of alcoholism, drugs, gambling, antisocial behavior, and irresponsible sex. The children of same-sex couples have a tough road ahead of them—I know, because I have been there. The last thing we should do is make them feel guilty if the strain gets to them and they feel strange. We owe them, at the least, a dose of honesty. Thank you, Mark Regnerus, for taking the time to listen.

Robert Lopez is assistant professor of English at California State University-Northridge. He is the author of Colorful Conservative: American Conversations with the Ancients from Wheatley to Whitman. This year he will be publishing novels he wrote in the 1990s and 2000s. Reprinted with permission from thePublicDiscourse.com

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  1. Wan Wai Meng on Apr 26, 2016 at 2:36 am

    This is an interesting insight in to the lives of children growing up in same sex couples and the challenges they face. I think this article has opened my eyes a lot more.

  2. Phng Keng Hwa on Jan 31, 2016 at 9:34 pm

    Well, this was a vastly interesting article. Very informative and very thought-provoking.

    Right now, after reading this article, I feel very amazed at this side of the story we have never heard of. Granted, I’m not very interested in the LGBT or any of the actives or political issues concerning gay or bi-sexual people, this article really was an eye-opener for me.

    I’m quite shocked to see that even in the gay society,there is still a sense of hierarchy and boundaries within the community. Then again, I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised, seeing that this world seems to be addicted to drama and have a certain leisurely glee towards social entitlements.

    This article was, to me, profound in the sense that through his experience, Mr. Lopez was able to realise, in some way, that attachment leads to suffering. And though I am far from odd, I can relate to him in a small way, as I have been and still am, called weird. But for me, the weird people are the best people in the world. But even then, that view is very subjective.

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for sharing this article. It was very thought-provoking and expands our view of the world.

    Your student,
    Keng Hwa. _/|\_

    • Jorge Arbes on Feb 5, 2016 at 3:07 pm

      All the issues in his childhood are results from an intolerant society which lack compassion, kindness and love. Where do you think gay people come from? Homosexuality is not an oddity. One cannot be ‘turned’ from staight to homosexual or visa versa. It simply just is. LGBT issues are at the core, fundamental issues about equality and basic human right to happiness. It would be helpful with less prejudice, hate and ignorance. Compassion, love, kindness are qualities inherent to the overall happiness in our society.

  3. Choo Weng Loong on Dec 16, 2015 at 5:40 pm

    Growing children does mirror their parents in many ways . That’s why parents need to set a good example . Having said that parents themselves are not faultless and may negligently pass on negative qualities to their kids . Not every person is the same , some are more affected by their childhood than others . For me , at different stages of our life, priority & goals change . We never stop learning new things in life .

  4. Joy on Dec 6, 2015 at 12:38 am

    Firstly I am amazed to learn that children who were brought up in an environment where both parents are of the same sex can grow up with so much psychological issues, now I understand why certain same gender parenting kids have somewhat weird behaviour that doesn’t quite fit it anywhere.

    This has broaden my understanding and empathy for them because I would think they would be more open and more adaptable to situations. I did not realise children of same-sex couples have such a tough road ahead of them.

    I also did not realise that even in LGBT groups there are stereotypes and people who make others feel guilty for being different. This is so funny coming from a group of people who themselves who had struggle for themselves to be accepted and hence created the LGBT movement.

    I am glad that Robert manage in the end to find that light at the end of the tunnel and somehow managed to write his issues out in support of many who are like him. I see him as a kind and sensitive being who cares for those like himself and wish them and different experience.

    At the end of it all I guess samsara will always be samsara… most importantly is how we deal with our situation and instead of creating more negative karma, we should create positive ones and Robert is finally doing that.

    • Jorge Arbes on Feb 5, 2016 at 3:11 pm

      Your response if full of ignorance and negativity. Try meditating on compassion, love and kindness. Oh, LGBT people are people too; not aliens.

      • Joy on Feb 5, 2016 at 4:17 pm

        Dear Jorge Arbes,
        I did not say that LGBT people are aliens, where did I mentioned so? In fact I am surrounded by them and some are family and even best friends.
        So there is no shame in that which I believe you have misunderstood and I apologise if what I said appear to be negative to you.

        However, the article gave me a better understanding on how tough it can be for a kid growing up in such a home as I mentioned “This has broaden my understanding and empathy for them because I would think they would be more open and more adaptable to situations. I did not realise children of same-sex couples have such a tough road ahead of them.” With better understanding which this post is trying to highlight, we can create a better society that is more compassionate to others being it gay or straight.

        To me I see them as just another human being who needs love, same like everyone else. In fact I admire some of them and their creativity. Some of my best friends are homosexual so I have no issues with them at all and like I said, some are even my family, and we love them all the same.

        Please be at peace as no one here is criticising LGBTs/Gays/Straight here. Those are all just “LABELS” after all, and striping it all off, we are all the same humans which is emphasised in Buddhist teachings. We are all here to learn, be open, and accepting.

        Thank you and hope you have a positive day.

  5. Pastor Lim Han Nee on Nov 30, 2015 at 4:08 pm

    I see Robert Lopez as a courageous person who never let his ‘unstable tumultuous years’ of childhood and teen years affect him. From the age of two till the age of 19(when his mum died), he was raised by his mother and her lesbian partner.He never knew a father figure and never knew any stabilizing influence of healthy parenting.He was treated as a social outcast and he himself isolated himself from others because as he said he hadn’t learnt anything “about traditional male and female social mechanisms”.

    After he was left on his own, he fell in with terrible company, as he joined the gay underworld.

    Despite such a negative state of things, he transcended it all as he made a sea-changing decision to lead a straight life and have a straight relationship with one woman, within the bounds of marriage, and to raise his family as a ‘conservative’ father.

    “Once I was a father, I put aside my own homosexual past and vowed never to divorce my wife or take up with another person, male or female, before I died. I chose that commitment in order to protect my children from dealing with harmful drama, even as they grow up to be adults. When you are a parent, ethical questions revolve around your children and you put away your self-interest . . . forever”. He took charge and took responsibility.As the responsible and loving father that he was, his children’s needs became his prime concern.

    Lopez reminds me very much of my Guru Tsem Rinpoche. Tsem Rinpoche also did not let a childhood of abuse from foster parents drag him down. He made a similar decision to transcend an ugly childhood. He put the needs of others before his own. He became a monk and has unwaveringly devoted his life to benefiting others through the spread of Dharma, showing love, care and compassion unremittingly all the way.Thank you Rinpoche.

    • Jorge Arbes on Feb 5, 2016 at 2:56 pm

      This is a rather immature view on this issue. It is not a question of gay/straight; as straight couples bring up insecure and traumatised children too. Actually more tsraight couples do that. How does one explain staright couples bringing up gay kids? Where do you think gay kids come from? Perhaps, if society was a kinder place where tolereance and acceptance is the norm; then, such bullying experienced by the writer will not exist. It is disappointing to see that as a pastor, you are not mindful of the big picture. Tolerance, compassion, loving kindness are traits missing in society today. No one transcend homosexuality. If so, can a staright person try to be gay? I think not. Dont let your prejudice misguide your judgement.

      • Pastor Han Nee on Feb 7, 2016 at 8:32 pm

        Dear Jorge Arbes,

        I just wish to point out that I have not criticized nor made any comment of my own about gay or straight marriages or partnerships. My comment on this blogpost was to highlight the courageous decision of Mr Robert Lopez. He has made me see and understand better about how society can put such terrible negative pressures on gay marriages and children of these marriages and partnerships. I am happy for Mr Lopez that his story has a happy ending as he relates it.

        I have good friends who are in gay relationships and straight relationships. Doesn’t make any difference to me. To me they are equally warm and caring people.

        I sincerely hope that such blogposts as this will make people more understanding and caring of others, especially those in gay relationships or marriages.

        Thank you.

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  • Lin Mun
    Wednesday, Oct 18. 2017 05:22 PM
    It is very worrying that there are such high percentage of plastic fibres found in our tap water. Even developed country such as UK, Germany and France has 72% of their tap water contaminated with plastic fibres. I guess this is the price we have to pay. With improve technologies and new science inventions we keep coming out with new products that uses various types of plastics and chemicals to bring down the production cost. But unfortunately, nothing comes free as human who will have to suffer the implication of these plastics fibres in the form of water and air, and it is alarming to our health. I think the only way is to create awareness to people telling them how harmful it can bring to us and we should avoid using the products that contribute the pollution and use alternative.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/do-you-know-what-you-are-drinking.html
  • Lin Mun
    Wednesday, Oct 18. 2017 05:04 PM
    It is good news that Tibetan MP Venerable Tenpa Yarphel speaks up against Nechung. Why would a democratic country listen to an oracle to seek advise for the country governance and administration? It just puzzled me. If Nechung is right, why isn’t the country and people progressing but divided further with the Dorje Shugden ban? What more Nechung is an not enlightened dharma protector. It was proven that so many Nechung’s prophecies was wrong but none would question and CTA would still follow the wrong advice. The CTA leaders continue to segregate, discriminate and remove all the human rights against Dorje Shugden practitioners such as education, medical, religion and etc. This is so illegal.

    In this age, we should be able to think and fight for our rights. I hope more people like Venerable Tenpa Yarphel will speak up against the unfair Tibetan leadership towards their people. Everyone should be treated equally and especially for a Buddhism country.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/tibetan-mp-tenpa-yarphel-speaks-up-against-nechung.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Wednesday, Oct 18. 2017 11:29 AM
    Shocking to read and hear this, happening in our own country. Even though this post is old , feeling sad for those cats starving been kept at two pet boarding premises which they called pets hotel. Pets owner discovered that those pets were left abandoned and starved . They also found dead cats and many were in a sad condition. Our local newspapers reported that about 200 cats and a dog were rescued from that premise alone .Another location about 100 cats were found and rescued. These episode was highlighted in news national wide. It such a shameful act .How can the owner of the premises do it for their own selfishness just because of celebrations.
    It is good that the authorities took a stern legal action against the owners of the centre.
    Animals are ignorant and do not deserve to be treated so badly. Be kind and caring to all sentient beings. Have empathy.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/300-starved-and-13-died-petknode.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Wednesday, Oct 18. 2017 11:28 AM
    A beautiful approach by the British MPs has recommended that people reduce the amount of meat they eat to help prevent food shortages in Britain . Even though it is political approach yet still happy as less animals will be killed for foods on the table.
    The massive increase in meat consumption in recent decades has led to the price of grain increase which used for animal feed. Its also lead to widespread deforestation and pressure on agricultural land. The MP are trying to tackle food wastage as half the food bought from UK supermarkets goes in the bin. The UK population are encouraged to eat less meat in long run.
    Thank you for sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/british-mps-says-eat-less-meat.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Wednesday, Oct 18. 2017 11:27 AM
    So touching ….watching this beautiful videos , could not controlled my tears too. Its such a warm moment when the two of them met again after a long search nearly 25 years of a hopless search . Mitchell Shigemoto has never forgotten how James Pearson saved his life. In foreign places, and the way Shigemoto’s relationship with James Pearson training together and fighting ,along side in the war ,they became best friends.
    James Pearson is truly a selfless ,kind and friendly person, nor matter what happen stands by Mitchell Shigemoto.
    Thank you Pastor Loh Seng Piow for sharing this inspiring post.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/mitchell-shigemoto-and-james-pearson-best-friends-in-war.html
  • Alice Tay
    Wednesday, Oct 18. 2017 12:42 AM
    Venerable Tenpa Yarphel showed great courage to voice up and pointed out that if the Tibetan Government-in-Exile is really practice democracy, basically no one will be discriminated and segregated regardless of ethnic group, gender, religious and etc. The people should work together for the growth of the state instead of just listened or seek advice from Nechung and ultimate decisions are still come from HH the Dalai Lama in spite of his retirement from politics.
    Miraculously, Tibetan community continues to believe the Nechung although they have experienced the false prophecies given by Nechung with the possible reason that no one can fully understand the language that Nechung speaks.

    Hope there are more people like Ven. Tenpa Yarphel stand firm and continue to speak up for truth just to benefit and bring no harm to the people.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/tibetan-mp-tenpa-yarphel-speaks-up-against-nechung.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Tuesday, Oct 17. 2017 11:08 AM
    So sad and heart breaking watching this video ,did not able to watch that part when our best friend was put into the boiling pot. Disgusting and cruel indeed. How can they do it and later sold as meat in restaurants…..so inhuman and shocking. My heart sink for a moment to see what happening to those poor dogs. They were tortured, abused before death. Dog meat trade should stop in this modern civilization , where dog deserved much better to live ,love, like us. They are our men best friends after all. They are one of us ,accompany us ,guard our house and keeps us happy. Please do not hurt them i plea.
    Hope the government or people concerned stop the dog meat trade industries. Go on vegetarian is the right healthy choice.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing .

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/dog-meat-trade.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Tuesday, Oct 17. 2017 11:07 AM
    Unseen beings do exists . We human cannot see but our best friends do sense the unseen being existing around and are sensitive too. Animals do behave unusually .
    There must be some kind or unhappy event happened long time ago. A fire or someone killed ?? The unseen being are trapped ,maybe which we won’t know. They need the couple to set them free from sufferings and pain. Whatever it is , its up to the couple after they have investigated of what happen. Hope the haunted house with unseen being have a happy ending.
    Thank you for sharing, interesting videos .

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/film-tv-music/the-haunted-terror-at-maple-dale-farm.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Tuesday, Oct 17. 2017 11:06 AM
    Very weird and strange creatures which i have not come across before .The first sight looks scary to me but interesting to know the true facts of it which came from different countries across the globe. There might be more strange creatures around which the researchers have not found them yet. Well it is best to leave them alone or else those weird creatures will be extinct in the near future. Give them a chance and they deserve to live in the wild or sea or anywhere they belong and call home.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing.

  • Lin Mun
    Monday, Oct 16. 2017 10:46 PM
    I have just heard about the 9th year theory few weeks ago. It seems to bring bad luck or omen. Never really believe in such thing but I guess everyone will have their ups and down, and I believe all this is due to our karma ripening. I for example was born on Friday the 13th, of which a very unlucky number for westerners. But so far life have been good. We are all very fortunate to have Rinpoche to give us Dorje Shugden teachings. When we have full trust on Dorje Shugden the dharma protector, we should not be afraid of the 9th year or even 13th theory.
    Thank you Datuk May for your sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/guest-contributors/a-blind-corner-at-each-decade.html

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October 2017, His Holiness Gaden Trisur Rinpoche Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal graciously reading our Kechara album and updates as presented by Beng Kooi and Martin. He was very pleased with our progress and offers his blessings. Tsem Rinpoche
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October 2017, His Holiness Gaden Trisur Rinpoche Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal graciously reading our Kechara album and updates as presented by Beng Kooi and Martin. He was very pleased with our progress and offers his blessings. Tsem Rinpoche
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His Holiness Gaden Trisur Rinpoche grants audience to Beng Kooi and Martin in France. Read more on His Holiness Gaden Trisur Rinpoche: http://bit.ly/1PlaNNS
Recently Beng Kooi and Martin on behalf of myself and Kechara was lucky to have audience with His Holiness Gaden Trisur Rinpoche Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal of Gaden Shartse Monastery. He lives in around Paris, France. His Holiness is 91 years old and very healthy and alert. He was the 101st throne holder for Tsongkapa and was the head of the Gelugpa school of Buddhism and was very successful during his tenure. He is a strong practitioner of both Sutra and Tantra of Je Tsongkapa\'s tradition and a master of all Buddhist knowledge. He holds steadfast to his protector Dorje Shugden very strongly. So we can see even the highest throneholders who are masters of Sutra and Tantra also practices Dorje Shugden knowing the benefits.

Beng Kooi and Martin brought photo albums of Kechara Forest Retreat/Kechara and updates on Kechara and our works. His Holiness was very pleased to listen and offered some gifts back. 

This is a beautiful picture and the great blessings bestowed on us from His Holiness Gaden Trisur Rinpoche Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal.

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Recently Beng Kooi and Martin on behalf of myself and Kechara was lucky to have audience with His Holiness Gaden Trisur Rinpoche Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal of Gaden Shartse Monastery. He lives in around Paris, France. His Holiness is 91 years old and very healthy and alert. He was the 101st throne holder for Tsongkapa and was the head of the Gelugpa school of Buddhism and was very successful during his tenure. He is a strong practitioner of both Sutra and Tantra of Je Tsongkapa's tradition and a master of all Buddhist knowledge. He holds steadfast to his protector Dorje Shugden very strongly. So we can see even the highest throneholders who are masters of Sutra and Tantra also practices Dorje Shugden knowing the benefits. Beng Kooi and Martin brought photo albums of Kechara Forest Retreat/Kechara and updates on Kechara and our works. His Holiness was very pleased to listen and offered some gifts back. This is a beautiful picture and the great blessings bestowed on us from His Holiness Gaden Trisur Rinpoche Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal. Humbly, Tsem Rinpoche Read more on His Holiness Gaden Trisur Rinpoche: http://bit.ly/1PlaNNS
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This is so powerful. It is a must read and must share.
Beng Kooi meeting with the scholar and teacher Geshe Konchok Gyeltsen lak. Geshe Konchok Gyeltsen has been very active and you can see his youtubes in Tibetan speaking about the benefits of Dorje Shugden practice. He is a direct student of Trijang Rinpoche and Zong Rinpoche.
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Beng Kooi meeting with the scholar and teacher Geshe Konchok Gyeltsen lak. Geshe Konchok Gyeltsen has been very active and you can see his youtubes in Tibetan speaking about the benefits of Dorje Shugden practice. He is a direct student of Trijang Rinpoche and Zong Rinpoche.
Martin meeting with Gen Tashi. Gen Tashi is a very devoted and committed activist of Dorje Shugden\'s cause. He is tireless in speaking for the truth. They enjoyed sharing some time together.
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Martin meeting with Gen Tashi. Gen Tashi is a very devoted and committed activist of Dorje Shugden's cause. He is tireless in speaking for the truth. They enjoyed sharing some time together.
Martin meeting with the well known strong and devoted Dorje Shugden activist and scholar Geshe Konchok Gyeltsen lak. Geshe lak was very happy to meet Martin and shared so much wonderful information. Beautiful meeting.
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Martin meeting with the well known strong and devoted Dorje Shugden activist and scholar Geshe Konchok Gyeltsen lak. Geshe lak was very happy to meet Martin and shared so much wonderful information. Beautiful meeting.
Beng Kooi meeting with friend and strong and devoted Dorje Shugden activist Gen Tashi
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Beng Kooi meeting with friend and strong and devoted Dorje Shugden activist Gen Tashi
Another stunning digital print art of Dorje Shugden from an artist in Peru. Tsem Rinpoche
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Another stunning digital print art of Dorje Shugden from an artist in Peru. Tsem Rinpoche
This beautiful Dorje Shugden is from an artist in the Ukraine. Tsem Rinpoche
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This beautiful Dorje Shugden is from an artist in the Ukraine. Tsem Rinpoche
Please never get tired of speaking for those who do not have a voice. If we can alleviate their pain or try our best, why not? Thank you all so much. Tsem Rinpoche
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Please never get tired of speaking for those who do not have a voice. If we can alleviate their pain or try our best, why not? Thank you all so much. Tsem Rinpoche
Pastor Antoinette of Kechara arranged a Malaysian artist to paint this special Dorje Shugden painting conceptualized by myself. She oversaw the process and completed it. Wonderful beautiful Dorje Shugden Malaysian style by Malaysian artist. Tsem Rinpoche
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Pastor Antoinette of Kechara arranged a Malaysian artist to paint this special Dorje Shugden painting conceptualized by myself. She oversaw the process and completed it. Wonderful beautiful Dorje Shugden Malaysian style by Malaysian artist. Tsem Rinpoche
Sometimes after my prayers, reading on sasquatch is relaxing. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
Sometimes after my prayers, reading on sasquatch is relaxing. Tsem Rinpoche
This gorgeous outdoor bronze Buddha is in Korea. Would be lovely to pay homage to Him there.
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This gorgeous outdoor bronze Buddha is in Korea. Would be lovely to pay homage to Him there.
Beautiful old vintage photo of Kamakura Buddha in Japan. I had the good fortune to visit this holy Buddha a few years back. I do hope I can go again with some students. Tsem Rinpoche
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Beautiful old vintage photo of Kamakura Buddha in Japan. I had the good fortune to visit this holy Buddha a few years back. I do hope I can go again with some students. Tsem Rinpoche
Tsem Rinpoche with Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia during the Medicine Buddha festival.
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Tsem Rinpoche with Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia during the Medicine Buddha festival.
This is a unique thangka of Pelden Hlamo with Dorje Shugden and Setrap and Nechung. Of course they all get along unlike what Tibetan leadership likes to say they don\'t get along. All enlightened beings get along with other enlightened beings and unenlightened beings. Enlightened beings have no karma to not get along with others. Tsem Rinpoche
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This is a unique thangka of Pelden Hlamo with Dorje Shugden and Setrap and Nechung. Of course they all get along unlike what Tibetan leadership likes to say they don't get along. All enlightened beings get along with other enlightened beings and unenlightened beings. Enlightened beings have no karma to not get along with others. Tsem Rinpoche
I love this picture. I wish it will all settle down soon.
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I love this picture. I wish it will all settle down soon.
 I love this picture of Mumu peeking through the screen and window to see what is going on. He is always been very busy body and active. He has to know what is going on. I love you Mumu.
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I love this picture of Mumu peeking through the screen and window to see what is going on. He is always been very busy body and active. He has to know what is going on. I love you Mumu.
How would you like to get one piece of this beautiful piece of art?
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How would you like to get one piece of this beautiful piece of art?
First time PM Tenpa Yarphel speaks up against Nechung. It has created a huge stir. Must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=144220
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First time PM Tenpa Yarphel speaks up against Nechung. It has created a huge stir. Must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=144220
I always like my rooms to smell clean, fresh, woodsy and a bit like the forest. my favorite types of essential oils to burn daily or as an offering to the Buddhas are Juniper, Cypress, Black Spruce, Peppermint and sometimes Rosemary. I like the smell of the forest, woods and wooded areas very much. I\'ve been using essential oils in my rooms for years. I don\'t necessarily purchase the brand you see in the picture as I buy any brand as long as it\'s made naturally. Tsem Rinpoche
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I always like my rooms to smell clean, fresh, woodsy and a bit like the forest. my favorite types of essential oils to burn daily or as an offering to the Buddhas are Juniper, Cypress, Black Spruce, Peppermint and sometimes Rosemary. I like the smell of the forest, woods and wooded areas very much. I've been using essential oils in my rooms for years. I don't necessarily purchase the brand you see in the picture as I buy any brand as long as it's made naturally. Tsem Rinpoche
In the bitter coldness of Yachen Gar, Tibet, several nuns are practicing meditation. You can see many small single \'huts\' in the background. They do this yearly and throughout the year. It is very inspiring to see people practice even under extreme conditions because they realize how samsara is so full of deceptions. Praise to the Dharma that liberates us with truth and practice. Tsem Rinpoche
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In the bitter coldness of Yachen Gar, Tibet, several nuns are practicing meditation. You can see many small single 'huts' in the background. They do this yearly and throughout the year. It is very inspiring to see people practice even under extreme conditions because they realize how samsara is so full of deceptions. Praise to the Dharma that liberates us with truth and practice. Tsem Rinpoche
More than you have....
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More than you have....
The holiest place for the spiritual seeker is where our guru abides. Tsem Rinpoche
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The holiest place for the spiritual seeker is where our guru abides. Tsem Rinpoche
Beautiful flowers offered on my shrine to Sacred Vajra Yogini. Tsem Rinpoche
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Beautiful flowers offered on my shrine to Sacred Vajra Yogini. Tsem Rinpoche
This is my favorite image of Lord Manjusri. I had this exact same image as a kid in the 1980\'s and treasured it very much. Tsem Rinpoche
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This is my favorite image of Lord Manjusri. I had this exact same image as a kid in the 1980's and treasured it very much. Tsem Rinpoche
I love this idyllic painting of a beautiful Buddhist temple in a small town with foliage, natural, blue skies and country living. I can definitely live in this type of environment any time. I love living near nature. I wish I can go inside this picture to start living there now. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
I love this idyllic painting of a beautiful Buddhist temple in a small town with foliage, natural, blue skies and country living. I can definitely live in this type of environment any time. I love living near nature. I wish I can go inside this picture to start living there now. Tsem Rinpoche
Another gorgeous Byzantine style painting. As the crowd is lead to the hill of light, atop the hill is St. Dorje Shugden ready to give rest to the weary. And hope to the hopeless and help to the helpless. Tsem Rinpoche
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Another gorgeous Byzantine style painting. As the crowd is lead to the hill of light, atop the hill is St. Dorje Shugden ready to give rest to the weary. And hope to the hopeless and help to the helpless. Tsem Rinpoche
Ms Gerbrick was a very special person in my childhood. When I finally found her again, I had lost her - http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=144296
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Ms Gerbrick was a very special person in my childhood. When I finally found her again, I had lost her - http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=144296
I just did another one. See how it\'s done-
 http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=144259
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I just did another one. See how it's done- http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=144259
I like this sketch I just did. Tsem Rinpoche
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I like this sketch I just did. Tsem Rinpoche
One of my sketches just finished. Tsem Rinpoche
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One of my sketches just finished. Tsem Rinpoche
More of my drawings.  Tsem Rinpoche
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More of my drawings. Tsem Rinpoche
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Plse click on this and read and share. Important thoughts regarding our teacher. Tsem Rinpoche
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Plse click on this and read and share. Important thoughts regarding our teacher. Tsem Rinpoche
The stupa dedicated to the great Changkya Rolpai Dorje in 5 peaks of Manjushri - China. Changkya Rolpai Dorje was one of the previous life of His Holiness Pabongka Rinpoche. In that life, he was the imperial tutor to the Emperor of China.  Photo from Karen Chong
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The stupa dedicated to the great Changkya Rolpai Dorje in 5 peaks of Manjushri - China. Changkya Rolpai Dorje was one of the previous life of His Holiness Pabongka Rinpoche. In that life, he was the imperial tutor to the Emperor of China. Photo from Karen Chong
Please click on this picture and see what the adorable boy is doing.
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Please click on this picture and see what the adorable boy is doing.
Learn a new word and see what Fauvism means here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=143633
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Learn a new word and see what Fauvism means here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=143633
Please click on this picture to enlarge and read. It is important and share with others. Thank you. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Please click on this picture to enlarge and read. It is important and share with others. Thank you. Tsem Rinpoche
The handprint of His Holiness Kyabje Pabongka Rinpoche Jetsun Dechen Nyingpo
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The handprint of His Holiness Kyabje Pabongka Rinpoche Jetsun Dechen Nyingpo
Dear friends, For the first time in art history you will see a Tibetan divinity in Byzantine art form. Just published! Please be amazed and see the whole artwork here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=143348
1 month ago
Dear friends, For the first time in art history you will see a Tibetan divinity in Byzantine art form. Just published! Please be amazed and see the whole artwork here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=143348
我这里有一副最庄严印度风格法力强大护法的画作。点击这里观赏与下载: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=142950
1 month ago
我这里有一副最庄严印度风格法力强大护法的画作。点击这里观赏与下载: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=142950
A separate Tibetan state? 

Should this group of Tibetans have their own autonomous state?
In a world full of trials and tribulations, this group of Tibetans continues to defy all odds against a difficult leadership. Should they have their own state, their own country to live free and in harmony? Read and decide-Part 1: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=142741 and Part 2: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=142868
1 month ago
A separate Tibetan state? Should this group of Tibetans have their own autonomous state? In a world full of trials and tribulations, this group of Tibetans continues to defy all odds against a difficult leadership. Should they have their own state, their own country to live free and in harmony? Read and decide-Part 1: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=142741 and Part 2: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=142868
When I first arrived in Gaden Monastery in January 1988, I lived in this small room: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=100092
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When I first arrived in Gaden Monastery in January 1988, I lived in this small room: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=100092
This is Mahakala of the Tent (Gonpo Kur) and this particular sacred and very alive image is in Sakya temple in Tibet. It is so beautiful, ferocious and at the same time frightening. He frightens our self absorbed ego into submission to dharma.-Tsem Rinpoche
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This is Mahakala of the Tent (Gonpo Kur) and this particular sacred and very alive image is in Sakya temple in Tibet. It is so beautiful, ferocious and at the same time frightening. He frightens our self absorbed ego into submission to dharma.-Tsem Rinpoche
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    This video went viral and it's a must watch!!
  • SEE HOW THIS ANIMAL SERIAL KILLER HAS NO ISSUE BLUDGEONING THIS DEFENSELESS BEING.
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    SEE HOW THIS ANIMAL SERIAL KILLER HAS NO ISSUE BLUDGEONING THIS DEFENSELESS BEING.
    This happens daily in slaughterhouse so you can get your pork and Bak ku teh. Stop eating meat.
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    Fishes circumambulate around the sacred Manjushri image at Kechara Forest Retreat-Malaysia.
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    Look what China is doing about meat-eating!
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    Beautiful Buddha being sculpted from clay.
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    After a while, you are are numb and you just keep doing it. You don’t know what you are doing and you don’t see it for what it really is. Tsem Rinpoche
    Please share this as much as possible. Please care. Please help: http://www.patreon.com/weanimals
  • OSER GIRL IS SO SMART AND CUTE AND EVERYONE LOVES HER
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    OSER GIRL IS SO SMART AND CUTE AND EVERYONE LOVES HER
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    It is a very painful process before the animals are finally dead.
  • After a while, you are are numb and you just keep doing it.
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    After a while, you are are numb and you just keep doing it.
    You don't know what you are doing and you don't see it for what it really is. Tsem Rinpoche Please share this as much as possible. Please care. Please help: http://www.patreon.com/weanimals
  • If slaughterhouses had glass walls, everyone would be a vegetarian.
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    If slaughterhouses had glass walls, everyone would be a vegetarian.
  • Take a look at what singer Nicki Minaj did.
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    Take a look at what singer Nicki Minaj did.
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    Animals are enslaved to do a human’s job, this must stop.
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    This is how the chickens are killed in the farm, they die a very horrible death.
  • America likes to police the world but their own record of civil rights is not on track. Watch this video from people of color in the US.
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    America likes to police the world but their own record of civil rights is not on track. Watch this video from people of color in the US.
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    Important video to watch and learn.
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    Bigfoot’s voice captured on tape.
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    Amazing video that you will not regret watching.
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    This is so wonderful.
  • If you turn up the volume, you can hear them crying.
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    If you turn up the volume, you can hear them crying.
  • Norma Jean
    2 months ago
    Norma Jean
    These are the heartbreaking scenes we see over and over again, that we share in the hopes of telling the stories of those who otherwise would have suffered and vanished from this earth without a trace. This is Norma Jean. Free for a little over five months, she knew more happiness than millions of her sisters ever will. But she couldn’t escape the fate genetically programmed into her as an egg producing machine. She seemed more lethargic than usual this morning, so we brought her inside to administer fluids and antibiotics in the hopes of pulling her through until we could get her in to see our vet. She couldn’t hang on. She died this evening shortly after this video was taken, severely infected from the rotting egg yolk adhered to various organs throughout her abdominal cavity. Like virtually every single one of her sisters, caged or free range, rescued or not, she paid the ultimate price for eggs (from FB)
  • If you want to change the world, start of by making your bed
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    If you want to change the world, start of by making your bed
    If you want to change the world, measure a person by the size of their heart
  • Canadian PM Justin Trudeau visits a Hindu mandir (temple)
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    Canadian PM Justin Trudeau visits a Hindu mandir (temple)
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