On October 25, 2013 I visited the gravesite of my parents. I hadn’t seen my parents since I left for India to become a monk in 1987. Since then they have both passed away. They disowned me after I became ordained. I was not fine with this but I had no choice. We had tremendous conflicts. Conflicts for years till I finally left home at 15. I wanted to become a monk and was determined. I had to sacrifice quite a lot to be ordained. They were against it and they had their reasons.
My parents were *Kalmuks. Kalmuks people are Mongolians and they have their own republic in Kalmykia which is in Russia. My parents along with hundreds of other Kalmuks migrated to the USA in the 1950’s and 60’s. At this time as they are Asians, they were not allowed to enter the USA. USA’s immigration policies did not favour Asians. But because Kalmuks lived in the European part of Russia and their names sounded Russian, it baffled the immigration authorities of the time. And the many Russians also were immigrating together with the Kalmuks helped. The Kalmuks have very close ties with Russians for centuries. Even with such close ties, the Kalmuks kept their culture, language, Buddhist religion and customs well in tact when they immigrated. The fellow Russians immigrating vouched to authorities that Kalmuks were ‘not Asians’ but Russians too!! On that basis they were allowed into the United States.
The Kalmuks lived closely to the Russians in Howell, New Jersey. There were Kalmuks scattered in Philadelphia and New York also. The Kalmuks and Russians shared much together that even in death, the Kalmuks are buried in Russian cemeteries in New Jersey.
This is a beautiful Russian orthodox church in Jackson, New Jersey (near Howell) and the Russians and Kalmuks are buried together. It was here I visited my parents who are buried side by side.
Many of my relatives, friends from childhood and elder people I grew up with are buried here also. Some of whom I did not know had passed away. It was strange to say the least to see so many people I knew while growing up, buried here.
The whole cemetery was empty except myself and my companions. It was very quiet and peaceful and my first time there also.
I brought offerings and items to perform a prayer for my parents and all the people buried in this cemetery. The day we arrived was a crisp October with good weather. I was able to do a good prayer (puja) and dedicate merits to my parents, relatives and friends here in the cemetery.
It was poignant, sad and strange. The tears didn’t flow while I was at the cemetery, but it all came out in torrents when I returned to the hotel in the evening. I guess seeing the gravesite and the ‘reality’ of their deaths only hit later when I was alone in my room. When I return to my parents 26 year later, they are dead. I am at their gravestone.
I bought red roses for my mom as they were her favorites. My mom loved roses. I love her.
Tsem Rinpoche
(*There are various spellings for Kalmuk. You do a search it can be Kalmyck, Kalmuck, Kalmyk, etc. I have spelled it differently in other blog posts also)
Seeing the gravestones of many other Kalmuks. Hundreds. It was surreal to say the least. So many are people I met, talked to, or knew as I grew up. So many have passed away. Many are here.
My parents.
Kalmuk gravestones can have a Buddhist Dharma wheel carved on them and also mantras. On the gravestone of my parents, Om Mani Peme Hung is carved.
I wanted to do puja for my parents and I am glad I got to do so. It’s incredible they are buried below the ground I am sitting on. I found out from a wonderful couple (Mr. and Mrs. Bullock who purchased our family home from my mom) that my mom showed them a photo of me and said she was proud of me. Amazing. In the end my mother did accept me as a monk and was proud. I was so happy to hear this. I wanted my mom to have peace with my decision. I love her and she was as kind as she can to me, her way. The way she knew. I accept this now as an adult.
When I was growing up, my cousin Gaga Toktun was very close to me. I visited her and hung out with her for hours every week. She is soft, kind and very loving towards me. She was considered the Kalmuk Elizabeth Taylor and men would drive from all parts of Philadelphia, New York and Jersey past her house to chance a gaze upon her, everyone said. They just wanted a glimpse of her! Yes, she was very beautiful especially on the inside. It was really strange to see Gaga Toktun here and buried right next to my parents. I will miss Gaga Toktun always. I wish she was around still. I love you Gaga Toktun.
I will never forget all the times we spent together Gaga Toktun. Thank you for being you.
I walked around and strangely it was a peaceful place.
I like this Russian Orthodox church dominating the cemetery with Madonna and child tiled fresco over the main entrance. Beautiful.
My uncle Giga is buried here. He was a nice guy! Aunt Matza loved him so much and she still does. She has purchased her plot next to his.
My Uncle Naran and his wife Aunt Honey are buried here together. They loved each other so much in life. Aunt Honey was a direct and very ‘loud’ lady. Loud in a very good way. She spoke her mind and was very direct but a good person. I miss her and Uncle Naran also. I loved when they visited us in our home as a kid.
This couple were Kalmuk neighbours that lived behind my house. I use to visit them as a kid. I didn’t really know they had both passed away. Mr Petro Taunov was a very devoted husband I remember and Mrs Nogala Taunov a very gentle lady. It sad to see them here but I did some prayers.
My father would take me to visit this couple when I was very young. They lived nearby around 10 minutes away. The wife is still alive and in her 90’s. But they will reserve their place ahead of time. This gravestone has the mantras of Vajrapani, Avalokitesvara and Manjushri carved on it.
This is Uncle Bomba and his wife. Uncle Bomba was Kalmuk and visited us often. Once a week at least and was close to my parents. He would join us for dinner very often and had many stories to share. His lovely wife was Russian. Uncle Bomba was Buddhist and his wife was Russian Orthodox Christian. You can see harmony here where over Uncle Bomba’s name is a Buddhist dharma wheel and over his wife’s is a crucifix. Many Kalmuks married Russians and they always lived in religious harmony. The Kalmuks never converted and the Russian spouses never converted. I’ve seen many cases of this religious harmony among the Kalmuks and Russians in life and now in death. This harmony is beautiful. This is good for the world. Uncle Bomba and his wife lived on the street behind us.
This is my beloved Uncle Otschir (Vajra). He was a gentle, easy and kind man to me. I always visited his house weekly. Gaga Toktun was his daughter. They lived in the same house. Uncle Otschir was respected and loved in the community. He was a natural healer as was his father. Uncle Otschir never went for training or medical studies but he was a born natural healer. Hundreds of people with sprained muscles, twisted nerves, broken bones, sprained ankles, twisted joints would visit Uncle Otschir. He lived around 10 minutes from our house. Uncle Otschir would listen to your problems, touch examine you and then proceed to heal by massage, pulling and stroking. I have twisted my ankles, fingers, toes, elbows and wrists many times as an active kid and I would be sent to see Uncle Otschir. He healed me each time without casts, x-rays or medicines. Incredible. He did this for hundreds of people for decades and he would never charge any money. He did this because he had a natural gift recognized among the Kalmuks and he was genuinely wanting to heal people. I loved him very much. I had a twisted finger once and he pulled the finger and pushed the joint back in place right in front of my eyes as I squealed in pain, then bandaged it and sprinkled it with warm salt water. For one week I would have to sprinkle salt water on it and then it’s fine. Amazing I know. Uncle Otschir was amazing and I miss him.
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Samfoonheei on Jun 19, 2020 at 3:52 pm
Rinpoche had never forgotten His parents, eventhough they are against his wish to be a monk, Rinpoche compassion and love for them never change over the years. They were no longer there anymore but at the end they are proud of Rinpoche. That’s a great relieved for Rinpoche. Having mixed feelings of sad and rejoice Rinpoche went through the cemetery of the Russians and Kalmuks. Its there both Rinpoche’s parents buried together and friends who were buried there too. Rinpoche did prayers for his parents with some roses flowers which Rinpoche’s mother favourite and had spent some times there. Looking at those pictures tells us all.
Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts with us.
1984 Los Angeles-Left to right: Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen, His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche, monk assistant to Zong Rinpoche and the 18-year-old Tsem Rinpoche prior to ordination. Read more- https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/category/me
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A poem inspired by seeing a picture of my teacher, Kyabje Zong Rinpoche…
In the sport of correct views,
all that is correct is just a view,
without permanence or substance.
As long as we hold onto views,
our sufferings are gathered
to be experienced without end.
Without the strong methods of emptiness
and compassion, bereft of merit,
we sink deeper without respite.
To arise from this samsara is but
a dreamscape on the deluded mind.
Therefore seek the guru, who confers the yidam,
hold your vows and fixate on liberation
free of new creations. Free of new experiences as
there are none.
~ Tsem Rinpoche
Composed in Tsem Ladrang, Kuala Lumpur on July 7, 2014
Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts of visiting your parents ‘s graves and wonderful people whom Rinpoche knew and had passed away. Rinpoche had not seen them since he left for India to become a monk. Visiting someone at their grave whom we loved dearly is extremely hard but Rinpoche still maintained a strong posture.
Inspiring stories …. to remind us that we must not give up , to persevere and persist despite obstacles and challenges , not to loose sight of Dharma and those we loved dearly. Despite all these and disowned by his parents Rinpoche , Rinpoche revisited them at the gravesite and did prayers for them. Rinpoche will always care for them even they are not around anymore, what is past is past. Its an example for us to forgive the past and moved on.
I was walking past a second hand shop on Western Ave selling old things. They had a Japanese-style clay Buddha which was beige in colour on the floor, holding the door open. I thought the shopkeeper would collect a lot of negative karma without knowing if he kept such a holy item on the floor as a doorstop. So I went in to talk to him, but he didn’t look like he wanted to talk or that he even cared. So I asked him the price and he said US$5. I purchased it so he did not collect more negative karma. I was 17 years old and that was in 1982.
I escorted my new Buddha home and washed it lightly and wiped it. I placed it on my altar and was happy with the Buddha. I would do my meditations, prayers, sadhanas, mantras and prostrations in front of this shrine daily. When I left for India in 1987, I could not bring this Buddha along and gave it to a friend. It was a nice size and I made offerings to this Buddha for many years in Los Angeles. In front of the Buddha I placed His Holiness the Dalai Lama’s photo. I remember I was so relieved that the price was affordable. But US$5 that time was still expensive for me but worth it I thought. But I was happy to have brought the Buddha home. Tsem Rinpoche
“Rinpoche’s Thoughts After Visiting His Parents’ Graves”.
Thank you Rinpoche for this very powerful teaching.
I wish to highlight two points in this powerful teaching by Rinpoche which has touched me deeply.
1.About Rinpoche and his Mother Dana
When Rinpoche refused to give up the idea of becoming a monk and showed a very strong inclination and fascination for the Dharma, Dana became more and more violent towards him thinking to bend him by force towards her will. She had been brought up to see that it was against Rinpoche’s interest to become a monk. SHE DID IT FOR RINPOCHE BECAUSE SHE THOUGHT IT WAS BEST FOR HIM.Putting aside her violence towards Rinpoche, which mostly stemmed from her mental ailment(she suffered from schizophrenia, but this was only discovered years later, after Rinpoche had left home), we see in her the powerful habituations of countless lifetimes of grasping at the “I am Right and others are Wrong” attitude , as well as the grasping at wrong fixed projections of how people and things should be . WE are all like Dana, with our grasping at the “I”and our fixed negative habituations of countless lifetimes and our fixation with cultural and conventional norms.
Rinpoche had said that both his parents were Buddhists only on a superficial level.They actually had the option to learn the Dharma and gain the knowledge to know how to transform a mind fixated with cultural norms and self-grasping and negative delusions habituated over many lifetimes. BUT they didn’t bother to study the Dharma and gain the knowledge to practice and transform. It is like many of us, who claim to be Buddhists but do not want to study the Dharma so as to transform ourselves: to remove all our negative habituations and habituated wrong projections and grasping at “I”,and rehabituate our minds with positive qualities of kindness, equanimity, generosity,compassion, tolerance, patience and the like. Only when we use the Dharma to transform ourselves in this way can we remove the root causes of our unhappiness. Only then can we attain total liberation from suffering or Enlightenment.
2. A Bodhisattva will go to all lengths, even make a ‘negative’ connection, with every being whom they encounter or who come within their sphere of experience.In this way, they hook these beings to them and plant seeds of Dharma in them so that they can continue their work of bringing them to enlightenment in future lives.
(In the Bodhisattva’s manifestation of such great compassion,I am reminded of Shantideva’s words: ” For as long as space remains and for as long as sentient beings remain, until then will I too remain to dispel the miseries of the world”).
Thus did Tsem Rinpoche hook Dana to him with his compassion. I am very happy that Dana had a change of heart before she died-she accepted Rinpoche being a monk and was proud of him. To my mind, I see (behind this)the work of a great Bodhisattva , who gave her a blessing to open up a powerful good imprint and caused her to manifest this positive change of heart. Dana had strong good imprints even in this life, from her kindness to Rinpoche(and the homeless), even though she manifested such great violence towards Rinpoche. Rinpoche recalls how Dana had nursed him when he was sick and we have seen pictures of Rinpoche with Dana in happier times.
In the Lamrim, we are told that in order to develop bodhicitta, the first steps are – recognize all beings as our mothers, remember their kindness to us and repay their kindness. Rinpoche has shown us ,by his own great example, how to carry out these three steps.
I am profoundly moved by Rinpoche’s deep love and care for all beings.He loves all with the same kind of love he has shown Dana. My precious human life has been made more precious because I met a Bodhisattva.
I PROSTRATE TO MY GURU WHO IS THE EMBODIMENT OF IMMEASURABLE INFINITE COMPASSION.
For the pursue of Dharma, Rinpoche decided to leave the family and away from USA for 26 years, it is certainly a very long journey when Rinpoche left USA and became ordain as a Sangha.
Rinpoche had never forgotten His parents, eventhough they are against His wish to be a monk, Rinpoche compassion and love for them never change over the years. It was Rinpoche persistency and love for Dharma, that now we have Kechara and so many online teaching from Rinpoche.
It has been 26 years that Tsem Rinpoche had not went back to USA or meet His step parents, Boris and Dana Bugayeff. Both parents had since passed away, and Rinpoche had never spoken or even repay their kindness no matter what Rinpoche faced during her younger age. Yet the long overdue meeting had Rinpoche visiting their grave and offer prayer for them.
Although Rinpoche faces abuse, trauma, yet Rinpoche still care for them.
I have a mixed feelings of sad and rejoice while Rinpoche went through his journey with us in the Kalmuks graveyard. I feel rejoice because Rinpoche’s mom Dana had finally accepted and proud of him in becoming a Buddhist monk. I believe that it was Rinpoche’s action in benefiting others that eventually changed her mind as action speaks louder than word. This post teaches me about impermanence and everyone closes to us would eventually pass away. It is important to reconnect with them before it’s too late and encourage them to practice Dhamma as this would be the best gift to them. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your personal story with us. I hope you have a chance to visit your childhood place and the Kalmuks community again soon. With folded palms.
Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thought after visiting your parents’ graves.
Re-visiting this post, 2 major thoughts came to mind. One was the happy thought that somehow or other, Dana (Rinpoche’s mother)was able to turn around and be happy and proud of Rinpoche becoming a monk and Spiritual Teacher. For this, Rinpoche was very happy for her and rejoiced for her. This remarkable change of attitude of Dana was most important for her.From the moment her mind accepted Rinpoche as a monk, she stopped collecting tremendous heavy negative karma and began to accumulate merits and positive karma and imprints. Whatever Rinpoche did in Dharma, a part of the merit started going to her. How wonderful for her that she was able to go to her death , having found peace with Rinpoche through her acceptance of him.
The second thought is that our minds have been so programmed and so habituated over lifetimes to see that only we are right and others wrong. Our minds are also deeply steeped in crippling cultural norms. Rinpoche was the Bugayeff’s only son. Only sons, culturally speaking, do not become monks. Furthermore, as their son, Boris and Dana had expected him to fulfil their American Dream for them. So Dana’s mind could not accept Rinpoche becoming a monk and she tried to bend him to her will, with the use of violence.This streak of violence was also reinforced by her mental ailment.
Rinpoche’s determination to do Dharma was stronger than any worldly boundaries and unlike any other child, this was yet another clear sign and indication of who Rinpoche was in Rinpoche’s previous lives… https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/autobiography/kentrul-thubten-lamsang.html (an account from a student of our Rinpoche’s immediate previous incarnation, Kentrul Rinpoche Thubten Lamsang). And you know what this means… how amazingly lucky we are to have cross path with a real Guru who is Boddhisattva. It is exactly as what Rinpoche’s mother said… “if the boy is truly the reincarnation of a High Lama, then he would eventually develop his spiritual path and find his way back to the monastery.” https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/h-e-the-25th-tsem-tulku-rinpoches-biography.html
And like what someone from blogchat recently mentioned; chris chong: “Rinpoche is high incarnation that can choose his next life and his parents. So, he must had chosen this life on his own will. I guess he wanted to show us that even with all the hardships and abuse he had went through, he still came out good and continue to persue dharma. His faith and will to learn dharma is so strong that nothing can shake it. His bad experiences also influenced some of the work that Rinpoche did today. An example will be soup kitchen because he understand what kind of harsh condition that a homeless have to go through on daily basis. Hence, he set up KSK hoping to help these homeless people as much as whe can.” in which I could not agree with it more and said it better.
It is never easy to look back and think about those you love who have passed, I can relate with Rinpoche to an extend but there is no graveyard to visit, just memories of the good and the bad. And it dawn on to me these are all just memories and we are still creating memories now as we speak. So I guess what truly matters is what we do today, right now to create that pass memory in the few seconds… and this thought I know would not have even manifest is because of the little bit of Dharma I have learnt from Rinpoche.
Thank you Rinpoche for your very personal sharing. What I learnt from this is that death happens to anyone and everyone and even those you love or hate. In the end nothing really matters and all that matters is how you were with them. The biggest lesson I learn from the death of those I hold dear and love “You don’t know what you got till it’s gone”
Rinpoche’s determination to do Dharma was stronger than any worldly boundaries and unlike any other child, this was yet another clear sign and indication of who Rinpoche was in Rinpoche’s previous lives… https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/autobiography/kentrul-thubten-lamsang.html (an account from a student of our Rinpoche’s immediate previous incarnation, Kentrul Rinpoche Thubten Lamsang). And you know what this means… how amazingly lucky we are to have cross path with a real Guru who is Boddhisattva. It is exactly as what Rinpoche’s mother said… “if the boy is truly the reincarnation of a High Lama, then he would eventually develop his spiritual path and find his way back to the monastery.” https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/h-e-the-25th-tsem-tulku-rinpoches-biography.html
And like what someone from blogchat recently mentioned “chris chong: @Martin, Rinpoche is high incarnation that can choose his next life and his parents. So, he must had chosen this life on his own will. I guess he wanted to show us that even with all the hardships and abuse he had went through, he still came out good and continue to persue dharma. His faith and will to learn dharma is so strong that nothing can shake it. His bad experiences also influenced some of the work that Rinpoche did today. An example will be soup kitchen because he understand what kind of harsh condition that a homeless have to go through on daily basis. Hence, he set up KSK hoping to help these homeless people as much as whe can.” in which I could not agree with it more and said it better.
It is never easy to look back and think about those you love who have passed, I can relate with Rinpoche to an extend but there is no graveyard to visit, just memories of the good and the bad. And it dawn on to me these are all just memories and we are still creating memories now as we speak. So I guess what truly matters is what we do today, right now to create that pass memory in the few seconds… and this thought I know would not have even manifest is because of the little bit of Dharma I have learnt from Rinpoche.
Thank you Rinpoche for your very personal sharing. What I learnt from this is that death happens to anyone and everyone and even those you love or hate. In the end nothing really matters and all that matters is how you were with them. The biggest lesson I learn from the death of those I hold dear and love “You don’t know what you got till it’s gone”
Thank you for the post. I am happy that Rinpoche’s step mother accepted Rinpoche’s Dharma aspiration and proud of Rinpoche. I rejoice for her because as Rinpoche explained, she collected the merit from the time she accepted/ approved of Rinpoche’s Dharma work.
Dear kalyāṇa-mitra (spiritual friend), Your Eminence,
I invite you and everyone that has lost loved ones, to create an online memorial in their honor, to cherish their memories. Thank you for sharing your story, thank you for your compassion and wisdom.
Wishing you true happiness, good health and long life. With metta, Anca (www.spirare.name)
It’s indeed very touching and happy moment that Rinpoche’s mother finally accepted and proud of Rinpoche becoming a monk. Rinpoche’s parent was able to collect positive karma before their passing from the negative karma they have due to not letting Rinpoche to learn Dharma & become a monk during Rinpoche’s teenage years.
It was a peaceful sight at Rinpoche’s parents graveyard to see inter-racial & inter-religion being practice where 2 different culture (in this case Kalmuks & Russians) are buried in the same cemetery. This indicates peace, acceptance and harmony between 2 cultures.
Performing puja enables us to dedicate merits to our loved ones to have good human rebirth. That they are also able to meet, understand and learn the Dharma in this lifetime and future lives. This is one way for us to repay their kindness and dedicate merits to them when they are alive or passed on.
At death we can’t take anything with us and the only thing we can take is the Dharma. As mentioned in the 3rd verse Yonten Shigyurma [Foundation of All Good Qualities] Lamrim Prayer by Lama Tsongkhapa. It says :-
Mindful of death, this life disintegrates
As swiftly as a bubble in turbulent water
And after death my good and bad
Karma follows me like my shadow
Thank you Rinpoche for giving this teaching whilst on your home visitation trip. Rinpoche is always thinking of others and wanting to benefit all beings with Dharma wherever Rinpoche goes. Its another inspiring and teaching to remind us that we must not loose sight of Dharma.
I wish Rinpoche a safe pleasant trip and health always. We await Rinpcohe’s safe return to Kechara Forest Retreat.
With the past encounter and of course by the blessing of Rinpoche, I have been able to receive some Dharma knowledge,…. “a person’s lifespan is not fixed Death is certain but the time will be uncertain depending on the ripening”. I read a column in the newspaper this morning, the writer has asked, Are we here to live a legacy or to leave a legacy?? The same words like a bell in my mind, what Rinpoche had in vision for many of us that we too can leave a legacy behind by participating in Rinpoche’s works.
Dear Rinpoche, reading this article reminds me of my parents who are extremely against me & Alex and my kids in our Dharma practice. Rinpoche, you have guided us through Dharma teachings and have always taught us to seek for the 6 Perfections, to be selfless and kind to others and always respect our parents. Through the 10 years that we have taken refuge with Rinpoche, we have seen tremendous transformation in ourselves. Despite that, my parents are still very against our Dharma practice. I do not blame them as i realize that it is not them but their ignorance that blinds them. It is very difficult to talk to them as every chance they have they would try to talk down on our Dharma practice, us being vegetarian, and to the extent of asking my siblings to stay away from us. Every day, when i do my daily sadhana, i visualize our Dharma Protector sending red lights to subdue their wrong views and may they one day have the merits to learn the holy Dharma. Now i only visit them on special occasions such as my parents’ birthday and Chinese New Year because i do not wish that they collect the negative karma on their negative comments on my holy Guru and my Buddhist organization. I feel very sad for them as they do not believe in rebirths and hence they dont care about karma, cause & effect. It is very difficult for me to talk to them so i distant myself from them but i still respect them as my parents. May they be always be blessed by the 3 Jewels.
Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your personal feelings about your family in New Jersey. i am truly glad and more than happy to know that Rinpoche’s mother has finally accepted Rinpoche as who You are now. All the hard works and sacrifices experienced by Rinpoche are truly worth more than all the good fortune around the world, for Dharma to grow and save all sentient beings without exception. Being a young guy in teenage years to leave family without the blessings from parents was indeed a very hard decision and sad feelings for anyone to absorb for 26 years. Thank you Rinpoche and rejoice for You to re-connect back with your parents although they have gone. May Your both parents and all the relatives and friends who were passed away in New Jersey, gain good rebirths and meet with Dharma in their next lives. May all of them be able to receive Your blessings and prayers as much as possible. Thank you Rinpoche for all your hard work and teachings to spread the Dharma in our country. We will never forget all the hardship and experience You have endured for the past 26 years.
your teachings and the very presence always move me to feel the nature os life and the ultimate nature of beings. i can’t imagine life you my only guru,i consider though i never met you…
may you live long to make every being to realise the true nature of life….
i take refuge in you….rinpoche
Rinpoche’s filial piety is truly marvellous beyond comparison, “as it concerns far from working solely for his own benefit, but for the salvation of all people, and aiding his family by so doing.” As it is believed, if one member of the family leaves the household to be a monk, then all other members of the family would benefit from the good fortune and lead superior lives. Yes, it was indeed “surreal” to see the gravestones of so many people whom Rinpoche knew were still alive before he left. Today on his visit,tomestones were the only ones left that Rinpoche saw! How terribly sad and frightening. But, the most consoling comfort at least is Rinpoche’s finding-out that his mother did feel proud of him becoming a monk, and that Rinpoche was successfully able to perform a Puja for his parents as planned during the visit. We greatly rejoice for you, Rinpoche for all compliance of your wishes!!! Om mani padme hung.
Looking at pictures of graves always evoke emotions that make me feel restless and conflicted. Maybe it’s the knowledge that some day I’ll also be dead and the fact that right now I living my life as if I’ll live forever.
I glad Rinpoche had finally found “closure” with Rinpoche’s parents especially Dana, Rinpoche’s foster mother who Rinpoche knew somehow was a kind lady but not well. I am so happy to know that she finally accepted and was proud of Rinpoche being a monk! That would have given her much peace towards the end of her life.
It is amazing how people come and go in life. This is another great teaching of impermanence in samsara. All is so surreal and nothing is ever solid yet we always grasp for it to be permanent. I guess Rinpoche kind of new this cos Rinpoche’s yearning for Dharma was so strong that Rinpoche had to do what Rinpoche knew was right deep down inside. Not many would dare thread such a path.
Now when we look back at those who have passed, they had no or very little Dharma. But look at what Rinpoche gained! The ability to return and do pujas for them. If Rinpoche did not follow the Dharma path and became a ordinary layman, married and with kids, I doubt Rinpoche would be able to do much for Rinpoche’s parents/love ones. Although they are 6 feet underground, at least Rinpoche could still do dedications to them. A great teaching for us all that all things will come to an end except the Dharma! Thank you Rinpoche for sharing so much intimate feelings and stories as it gives each and everyone a different take and appreciation of what we have… Rinpoche and the Dharma!
I’m glad Rinpoche found out your mother had found peace before she passed away and collected merits from this positive action. Rinpoche’s explanation is a valuable teaching of how important it is to find peace before one dies and to realise the Four Noble Truths. In samsara, “all actions lead to suffering”.
Rinpoche has become a very beneficial being to everyone around him and Rinpoche’s prayers for his parents will certainly yield tremendous benefits and come true for his parents. The Kalmyks have so much respect for Buddhism that they engrave mantras and buddhist symbols on their graves.
A mother’s love to their children is incomparable no matter what happened, even when there is huge conflict between the mother and the children, but at the end of the day, the mother will still love them unconditionally, with their own ways, sometimes they may love them with the wrong and selfish way, but it doesn’t mean they are bad, it’s because that’s the only way they know for loving their kids.
it’s been 30 over years that rinpoche didn’t see his mother, Rinpoche loved her and missed her throughout this 30 years++, today finally Rinpoche got to visit her, but it is her tombstone. It is definitely sad to see this. The impermanence of life is just showed here, so many people Rinpoche used to know when he was younger at USA and now some of them already laying down under the ground.
life is impermanent, everyone will be laying down there one day. never wait till too late before we know to regret.
The cemetery looks neat and peaceful and very well maintained. Glad to hear that Rinpoche’s beloved late mother had finally accepted Rinpoche as a monk and was proud of Him. So now Rinpoche can have peace when he knew that his beloved mom had passed away in peace. This meant a lot to Rinpoche.
I also pray and hope that Rinpoche’s another wish will come true soon i.e.may Rinpoche will be able to meet and reunite with His biological mother, the Mongolian princess during this trip to the US.
I m glad that Rinpoche parents has accepted him as a monk and do feel pround about his work. This is very important for both parents because they will able to collect tremendous amount of merits so that in the future they can continue to meet BuddhaDharma teaching. Thank you Rinpoche for all the beautiful photos I must said the cemetery look very neat and clean.
A little thought from me:
– I noted that many parents imposed their own ambitions and perceptions to their children. I witnessed children were being bombarded with various lessons to “help” them. Sometimes it is really suffocating. A simple solution is a strong mind (financial independence helps a lot as well).
– I witnessed firsthand within my family that once the son/ daughter do something “unxpected”, the parents are extremely unhappy. A lot of yelling and throwing things.
I wonder how much sufferings can be caused by someone’s perceptions and expectations
In our human life we have accumulated more and more baggage as day passed. we all know that we can’t take any of ours tangible possessions with us at the time of death. it is our non tangible possessions part that are worrisome. ie our views, grudges, discontentment… Thank you Rinpoche for having this blog post to teach us how take the necessary actions and remedy to let go for it before death come.
Thank you so much for sharing such a personal and poignant journey with us. It must have not been an easy visit to your parents’ grave. I am glad that your late mother finally found peace and acceptance. I also rejoice at the fact that she was indeed proud of you and you got to know that through the nice people who bought over your late parents’ house.
Your beautiful narration in the first video stirred many emotions and invoke many thoughts for contemplation. Given the childhood that you went through, I truly admire your sense of filial piety, selfless compassion and unconditional love.
The cemetery really is a peaceful place. It’s so serene that all religion are in harmony with each other. The part that touched me the most is when Rinpoche’s mother finally accepted and is proud of what Rinpoche is doing. I think it is her way of showing kindness by letting Rinpoche pursue what Rinpoche really wanted even it means of temporary heartbreak. It’s really glad to know that she is in peace and happy with Rinpoche’s choice. What really touches me is the acceptance of Rinpoche’s mother, it means a lot for a child to have the acceptance and supports from the parents. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts as it made me stay firm with my choice in pursuing my Dharma work. Namtse!
Thank You Rinpoche for this very personal post and sharing with us what is very close to your life. There is no escaping the law of karma and everything is impermanent. This is a teaching by itself and Rinpoche kindly give this teaching via some so personal shows Your compassion and all encompassing mind.
I wish Rinpoche a good stay in the US and may Rinpoche return as soon as Rinpoche deem fit. Meanwhile, we continue to do the work to spread the Dharma from Malaysia.
Rinpoche has always wanted to return to US for a rather long time, and I am happy that Rinpoche made this trip this time round.
I am often amazed at the “sacrifice” Rinpoche made and I will always be grateful towards Rinpoche for this. In Malaysia, Rinpoche is often alone and this is due to the “sacrifice” he has made. That is the reason we have Rinpoche here today in Kechara and also a blog which has 3.5million viewership. The blog and its content has saved many from today’s common problem ie depression/sickness & etc. It has prevented mothers from leaving their kids, stop people from hurting or damaging themselves & etc.
Kechara has also provided real “homes” to many of us, we have fed the homeless & also urban poor in Malaysia/Indonesia/Shanghai (and I am talking about thousands packet of food going out on a weekly basis) and in some instances provide jobs to the homeless. And all this was possible because of Rinpoche’s sacrifice.
What I am doing is only a mere fraction of what Rinpoche had to leave behind and reading this article inspires me to do more.
Thank you for this wonderful post, all the photos and the videos. I really get to know Rinpoche more from this post, thank you Rinpoche for patiently explaining every details for us.
It was a difficult decision for Rinpoche to say goodbye without the blessings/approval from Rinpoche’s parents to go to India to become a monk and Rinpoche was still so so young. What kept Rinpoche to make this hard decision is that Rinpoche wants to do something with Rinpoche’s life, to benefit others. It was so hard and impossible to explain to Rinpoche’s parents for them to understand the intention of Rinpoche becoming a monk. Rinpoche loves Dana so much yet Rinpoche has to leave. It was sad.
It really bring tears to me, tears of happiness that Rinpoche’s mother(Dana) finally understood and accepted Rinpoche becoming a monk and I can understand that, I do. The happiness is, Rinpoche’s mother finally understand the intention of Rinpoche and know Rinpoche is using the whole life to benefit others. She doesn’t lose her son and the same loving nature towards others that Rinpoche and Dana share, keep Rinpoche and Dana together even though they are not together physically. I am very very sure Rinpoche’s mother was happy and proud and was at peace when she accepted Rinpoche as a monk. The time that Rinpoche wasn’t being with her was not “wasted” as Rinpoche uses all the time to benefit others and help others. Dana knew that and that’s the reason why she was at peace I guess.
What inspired me too is that even though at first we don’t get support from the others for what we want to do, but if we achieve result, they will finally support us too! There are too many examples already. But in the end, whether getting support or approval or not, that’s not the point anymore. Before we pursue, we know what we want and what we can achieve, just work towards it. Sometimes, we just need to earn that approval/support.
And I love the inter-religious harmony in New Jersey, especially within the Russian and Kalmyk community. It is beautiful to see they share their different religion together. Another eye-opening scene to me.
Glad to see Rinpoche is fine there. This post also gives me teachings about death. Life is really empty when we don’t use it fully to do something good to others and the world. Life is empty if we just let it pass without doing anything. When we die, it is just gravestone and our name is carved on it. Nothing more. But if we practice Dharma before our death, Dharma will be kept in the mind and continue to “grow”.
This post reminded me a lot about how easy it is for someone to just pass away. We must love our family now and give them all our love. And when they pass, we must always show good respect for them. Rinpoche here is showing a lot of respect to his loved ones, i am also very sorry to hear about all of this Rinpoche. But i Rinpoche has thought me something here, and that is to always show our respects to our loved ones, no matter whether they are dead or alive.
This video may look like a “story-telling” but it is a teaching of impermanence, determination and karma to me.
When I first come to know Rinpoche, I always wonder why would a Rinpoche reincarnate in such a “difficult” environment to practice Dharma. Now I know: it is to show us that besides all the hardship, it is definitely possible to practice Dharma. Thank you so much for “suffering for us” and there is no excuse for me not to practice especially we are given such conducive environment
It must have been surreal to be in the cemetery with the tombstones carved in the names of Rinpoche’s parents, relatives and friends. The last time Rinpoche was in New Jersey, they were stillalive. 26 years later, they are just memories. The disagreements, the fears, anger, laughter, sadness are all now just memories. Just like in a movie….
Thank you for sharing with us some of Rinpoche’s personal moments together at Rinpoche’s parents’ grave. I know it has been a very emotional packed journey for Rinpoche especially having known that Rinpoche’s mom, Dana had come to terms with Rinpoche’s ordination and is actually proud of Rinpoche. I am pretty sure Rinpoche’s unshakable motivation in renunciation has change the due course of her karma and led her to this realization. Coupled with the years of serving Rinpoche’s gurus, I am sure somehow over the years news had spread back home to Howell how well Rinpoche has been doing in the monasteries and Malaysia.
With no doubt committing our lives to the Dharma is the best thing we can do with our lives. Rinpoche comes from an Asian background and leaving home and the family is a big deal/obstacle but Rinpoche overcame that obstacle not because He’s Rinpoche but Rinpoche understood the importance of the Dharma and the advise of His noble Gurus. Without these instructions, we would not have been able to receive such tremendous benefit of the Dharma today.
For many facing objection from their families in practicing the Dharma, be brave and look at the benefit of serving the Dharma for we are serving our parents’ well being now and in the future.
It is so touching of a happy ending story of Rinpoche’s parent. Doing Dharma collects tremendous merits to dedicate to our parents whether alive or deceased. If you have not started any dharma dedication to your parents you can start right now. Do not procrastinate. Time and Tide waits for no man.
It brought tears to my eyes while I was reading through the whole post, it was very touching. People come and people die, but most importantly, they pass on with no regrets.I’m very glad to know that Rinpoche’s mother accepted and was proud of the decision Rinpoche made decades ago, I think this is very important not only because Rinpoche has her blessings but also she has let go of it before she passes on, she must has been a very proud mother 🙂 Please take care Rinpoche.
Thanks Rinpoche for sharing this post for us to create a strong Awareness to us. We should do as much for ourself, our love one, parents, family members and our Guru within our this precious human lifetime.
Life is Impermanence, most of us know about this but the key is how it become a Alert to us to move on. As we get know more Dharma from Rinpoche, we really really really do our practice consistently hence generate more Merits to purify our negative Karma and on the same time create the Merits for a better future for not only ourself but to our love on, parents, family members and also our Guru.
We hope we able to do as much we can in this lifetime to help more to Rinpoche projects hence to generate more Merits to support our better future…
The cemetery is a great place to practice impermanence and to meditate on death. How people come and go, how one day our life will end in the same way. All these thoughts go through our minds when we are near graveyards. There is so much to be learned.
Thank you Rinpoche for sharing such intimate feelings about Rinpoche’s family. It is really touching.
The gravestones are very beautiful because the names that’s carved on it are relatives and incredible moving stories from Rinpoche, they become much more than gravestones. I think it is unusual that Rinpoche is telling these amazing stories of Rinpoche’s life from tombstones. And like many of the stories, Rinpoche tells it with a lot of colour with added dimension of wisdom and incredible insight and realization. It makes me feel warm and come to know Rinpoche a little more and come to a deeper closer understanding of the Dharma one way or another. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing.
Reading the post brought tears to my eyes as they clearly show that as mortals we will leave this planet. And what is left behind are memories and stories that those who are alive remember and they tell others about them. Thank you for sharing the loving warm moments of these wonderful folks. I am happy that Rinpoche was able to perform prayers for Rinpoche’s parents.
Thank you so much for sharing on this. I hope they all have a swift and a good rebirth and able to get connected with Dharma. Am also glad to know that Rinpoche’s mother is proud and accept on Rinpoche being a monk. Thank you and once again Rinpoche shows everyone on being grateful and appreciate people who are still with us now.
As I read the articles You’ve written, listen to the videos You recorded and the pictures, images You’ve taken, I suddenly realized You’d really missed Your family, friends and relatives back home in united states. It wasn’t an easy journey for You since from a very young age. My guess not many would endure such hardship. Leaving home for India to become an ordained monk for the sake of others was indeed greater than any personal love You had for Your own family. I felt the hard-to-part feeling of Yours especially when You mentioned about Your parents. It must have been a difficult time for You, my dear guruji. Am elated to hear the acceptance of Your parents regards to Your renunication and Your pursue as a dharma teacher eventually, something which is very precious and beautiful and recognising their son whom has done remarkable great things in life. I do feel they were feeling very proud of You, guruji though it wasn’t spoken directly to You.
My dear teacher, I feel Your lose and pain You experienced when You visit the grave of Your parents……
I am very grateful to You, my dear guruji, whom You have saved my mother’s life so much so that she can still continue her spiritual journey in this life and that I could continue my filal piety. Though You might have few left in states looking forward to, You gained many devoted students and loyal friends with some as close as family members already in Malaysia.
Your story and spiritual journey have been miraculously inspiring and motivating with many, astonishingly willing to follow……
After watching the 2 videos here, it pains me to think that Rinpoche had not been home ie. New Jersey since the day you decided to be a monk. Now that Rinpoche had visited your old home, did you discover the fact that your mum had actually approved you being a monk and was totally happy with that before her passing.
I think this meant a whole lot to Rinpoche deep down and discovered the fact after so many years of wondering. If you had not gone back to your old home and knocked on the door, you wouldn’t have known that. I rejoice for you for you deserve peace and happiness, just like everyone else.
It must be both surreal and moving for Rinpoche to be walking among the tombstones, with his parents and relations (who were once alive and with whom he was very close) now lying beneath the ground he was walking on.Everything spelt and ‘screamed’ IMPERMANENCE.
The most beautiful thing that happened was that Rinpoche’s mum, in the end, accepted that he had become a monk and she WAS PROUD OF HIM BECOMING A MONK!
I felt so much more from this post from Rinpoche than many other posts. Thank you for sharing Rinpoche. I’m so glad you got to be in America again and reconnecting with your self.
The cemetery was indeed a most serene setting… calm and peaceful. It was very poignant for Rinpoche I am sure as the last time Rinpoche saw his parents they were still very much alive. And even through it all, Rinpoche returns as a devoted son and does a puja just for them! I am very touched and speechless!
Dear Martin,
Thank you. But I will stick to Bomba because his proper name could have been Badma, but we were always told to call him Uncle Bomba. We use to spell it to each other that way also.
For example, my father’s proper name was Buertsche but everyone called him Boris and all the kids called him Uncle Boris. And it is the first time I’ve seen his name spelled this way as a matter of fact. 🙂 As to Uncle Bomba’s wife, we use to call her Chocha. I am glad to know her proper name is Stafanya. Everyone called her Chocha.
I wish I can read Russian. Many Kalmuks are fluent in reading, speaking and writing Russian and many also in Yugoslavian. Thanks for your care and translation of Russian. Very kind of you.
Tsem Rinpoche
Thank you, dear Rinpoche. Another way of spelling her name and may be more proper is “Stefania”. I checked it in Google translate. Please excuse me if I misled you.
Will you be giving any teachings while you are in America? I have been reading and following your teachings online for many years now and have always hoped to travel to Kechara to meet you one day. May your travels be safe and filled with joy.
Dear Jessie, I appreciate your learning of Dharma. I really appreciate your exploration of the meaning of your precious life in regards to Dharma. Please keep up your practice. Keep your your studies and please apply it. I sincerely encourage you.
I haven’t any plans for teachings in America so far.
Thank you. Tsem Rinpoche
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The Kechara Forest Retreat is a unique holistic retreat centre focused on the total wellness of body, mind and spirit. This is a place where families and individuals will find peace, nourishment and inspiration in a natural forest environment. At Kechara Forest Retreat, we are committed to give back to society through instilling the next generation with universal positive values such as kindness and compassion.
Momo is a dumpling made of all-purpose flour and filled with either meat or vegetables. Inspired by Tibetan dumplings, the dish is a very popular Nepali street food. It is one of my favourite foods. Last year while in Kathmandu I am fortunate given the opportunity to learn and made vegetarian Momos.
Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing as it reminds me of trip there visiting some of the Holiest sites and trying my hand making momos then.
Bouddha, also known as Boudhanath, is a stupa in Kathmandu, Nepal which is located about 11 km from outskirts of Kathmandu. Its massive mandala makes it one of the largest spherical stupas in Nepal and the world. The Boudhanath Stupa pyramid is coated with over 60 pounds of gold, is one of the largest and one of the most significant Buddhist monuments in the world. This great Stupa is home to precious relics and this semi-circular structure stands out with its majestic mandala, recognized by UNESCO in 1979 as a World Heritage Site. The Boudhanath is the most sacred sites in Tibetan Buddhism outside of Tibet, reflecting the cosmological tenets of Buddhism. Was there last year June joining thousands of pilgrims circumambulate the stupa.
The aerial view of this Boudhanath Stupa is magnificent indeed. Looking merely at the pictures is a blessing.
Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.
Shanti Stupa in Pokhara was built by Nipponzan-Myōhōji monk Morioka Sonin with local supporters under the guidance of Nichidatsu Fujii, a Buddhist monk and the founder of Nipponzan-Myōhōji
A famous site where locals as well as foreign tourists will go there throughout the year. One have to climb 400 steep steps to get to the Pagoda, it was worth the climb, as its situated on the Anadu Hill at the height of 1100 meters.
Shanti Stupa shrine was built as a symbol of peace designed to provide a focus for people of all races and creeds, and to help unite them in their search for world peace. It has also become a tourist attraction as it provides a panoramic view of the Annapurna range, Pokhara city and Fewa Lake. The white pagoda has two tiers for tourists and religious visitors to circumambulate. Its location on the hilltop provides a splendid view of sunrise and sunset for visitors. Hopefully I could visit this amazing Holy site soon.
Thank you Rinpoche for this great sharing
Its an old blog yet its hold many wonderful memories for The Tsem Ladrang team , I am sure. They are the ones who found a beautiful house in the hills of Naranthan in Kathmandu, Nepal. The place is serene and peaceful with beautiful mountains ranges. Looking at the old pictures its breath-taking and brilliant. The Ladrang is surrounded by scenery of outstanding natural beauty. Having a spacious yard, guest quarters, butterlamp house, to mention a few. The Ladrang has a spectacular views of the surrounding mountains and Kathmandu Valley.
Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing and teachings.
Buddhist Pilgrimage in Nepal is the best trip that takes us to the spiritual centers where Buddhism’s practices and meditations emerged. Nepal is popular for its Buddhism practices and itself is the birthplace of the originator Gautam Buddha. This beautiful Himalayan nation hosts the amazing Buddhist trails, monuments and stupas. It’s the place where the Buddha meditated and the Buddha enlightened the people with wisdom. Kathmandu, the capital of Nepal, boasts many caves, stupas, and monasteries that are associated with Bodhisattvas, Buddha and Siddhas. The cave of Naropa and his guru Tilopa is beside Pashupatinath temple, bank of the holy Bagmati River. All these caves is considered as the holy site and Buddhist pilgrimage sites as the caves is the place where Naropa received training, teachings and had visions of Vajrayogini.
I am fortunate to have visited this Holy caves while at Kathmandu last year.
Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing .
The Lord Buddha was born in 623 BC in the sacred area of Lumbini, southern Nepal.Lumbini is one of the world’s most important spiritual sites for the Buddhist pilgrims from around the world. The site is a popular place of Buddhist pilgrimage for many yearly. It was designated a UNESCO World Heritage site in 1997. The tranquility, aura and peace that we would experience in Lumbini makes it among the most holy places to visit in the world. I am fortunate going to this holiest place of Buddha birthplace last year with my Dharma brothers and sisters .It is the place where, according to Buddhist tradition, worth visiting
Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.
Very interesting and informative article. In most cultures, women is consider as lower in status compared with men. Ancient times in India, man took the lead while women is seconded. But times has changed for the better where women are not degraded in society. They receive equal recognition, appreciation, and stature, yet in countries and places around the world, women are still viewed as inferior and treated accordingly. But in Buddhism women have been increasing in number and has proven that many of them have gained full enlightenment in a female body. In Buddhism is concerned there’s no discrimination toward women ,both men and women are equal. There‘s many female Mahasiddhas and Yoginis as in this blog. May it inspired many more to come. Interesting article and its great sharing knowledge.
Thank you Rinpoche with folded hands,
Sleep paralysis is a feeling of being conscious but unable to move. It occurs when a person passes between stages of wakefulness and sleep. During these transitions, one may be unable to move or speak for a few seconds up to a few minutes. Some people may also feel pressure or a sense of choking. Sleep paralysis is a temporary inability to move or speak. It’s not harmful and should pass quickly, but at times can be frightening. It can affect anyone but is most common in young adults and they might have hallucination. The scary facts about sleep paralysis is those who suffer from it have said it felt like someone was choking them on their chest so they could not breathe.
As for me I have not experience as such before as least i know now what i can to do.
Thank you Vinnie Tan for sharing. Interesting read of these stories related to sleep paralysis.
nteresting as this texts been composed after being inspired to do so . That’s interesting as this nature are traditionally considered exceptionally potent in their blessings if the claim of divine inspiration is authentic. According to the account in the introduction, the author composed this text after being divinely inspired to do so. It’s a very rare kind and its acceptance been recognised and received praise by very high lamas of our tradition. Reading this article tell us all of how powerful Dorje Shugden when we invoke in our prayers.
Interesting read of the short biography of Ven. Geshe Kunchok Gyaltsen, the author of Mass of Vajra Fire.
Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.
That’s wonderful Rinpoche has composed prayers in English so as everyone could recite and practice. For beginners is such a meaningful insights and perspectives without commitments and initiation. Moreover each prayers is for a specific blessing that helps practitioners to gain attainments and overcome obstacles. Easy and simple for everyone to start off.
We are fortunate that everything Rinpoche did brought tremendous benefit to all sentient beings. Whatever prayers Rinpoche has composed are especially potent with blessings.
Thank you Rinpoche and writers for this sharing.
A great article , revisit this again of Tibetan Lamas and their dogs. As now I have a pet doggie with me, I came to understand more of them . Dogs are the most amazing creatures, they give us unconditional love. For me, they are the role model for being alive. Buddhists believe dogs also have the potential to become enlightened and can teach us about responsibility, love, and other Buddhist principles. The Q & A by Sandra Klein’s interview with the Venerable Gonsar Rinpoche gave us a better understanding and very informative of Tibetan dogs under Lamas care. ccording to the Buddha Dharma, all sentient beings have Buddha nature — from ants to humans. Though we often look at dogs as wonderful companions an teach us to embrace Buddhist principles. They, themselves, embody many of these principles.
Thank you Rinpoche for this great sharing.
Living with my wife, whose world is meticulously painted with the hues of OCD, is a journey that intertwines the essence of love with the complexities of the human mind. Her relentless pursuit of cleanliness and order, transforming even the most negligible corner into a testament of organization, often dances on the fine line between admiration and frustration. The sight of her steering clear from trash bins as if they were labyrinths of chaos, serves as a poignant reminder of the battles she fights within. Yet, it’s through these very battles that I’ve learned the profound language of patience and the unspoken strength of support. Therapy, in its gentle embrace, has been a beacon of light for her, guiding her through the stormy seas of OCD. It has not only offered her solace but has also unveiled the strength of her spirit, teaching us both the beauty of resilience. As she journeys through the pathways of healing, I stand by her, a testament to the power of love and the enduring promise of hope. Together, we navigate the complexities of her world, discovering that within the challenges lie opportunities for growth, understanding, and an unbreakable bond. https://www.mindfullyaliveonline.com/obsessive-compulsive-disorder-ocd/
Venerable Ajahn Chah was a Thai Buddhist teacher of the Buddhadhamma and a founder of two major monasteries in the Thai Forest Tradition. Well respected and loved as a man of great wisdom, he was also instrumental in establishing Theravada Buddhism in the West. Interesting life story, how he chose to leave the settled monastic life and became a wandering ascetic. Walking across Thailand, lived in forests, caves and cremation grounds while learning from the meditation monks of the Forest of various monasteries. He wandered through the countryside in quest of quiet and secluded places for developing meditation. He even lived in tiger and cobra infested jungles, using reflections on death to penetrate to the true meaning of life. After years of wandering, Venerable Ajahn Chah established a monastery where he taught simple, practice-based form of meditation, and attracted a numerous of students including western foreigners. He was one of the greatest Dhamma teachers of the modern era. His wise teachings have continued to guide thousands of people along the path of Dharma. Venerable Ajahn Chah’s teachings of the Thai Forest Tradition gradually spread across all over the world. Several of Ajahn Chah’s Western students have since established monasteries throughout the world. Just in Thailand itself, there are more than 300 branch monasteries in Ajahn Chah’s tradition. Ven erable Ajahn Chah used his ill health as a teaching point, emphasizing that it was a living example of the impermanence of all things and reminded people to endeavour to find a true refuge within themselves. The legacy of Venerable Ajahn Chah’s teachings and legacy continues into the modern age.
Thank you Rinpoche for this great sharing.
Wonderful blog written on the practice of Kalarupa for us to understand better. As an emanation of Manjushri, Kalarupa’s practice helps us to destroy ignorance and to develop wisdom overcoming our anger and suffering . Awesome Kalarupa manifested in multiple forms to help sentient beings who personifies enlightenment by the conquest of anger. Kalarupa also regard as one of the three main Dharma protectors of the Gelugpa is extremely fierce and ugly, and tames all kinds of spiritual ugliness. The fierceness of his iconography teaches us to remind ourselves that all the causes and effects of anger arising from ignorance are dreadful and distorted.
Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Antionette for this detailed sharing,
Nepal is a very spiritual country, having a huge Dorje Shugden mural in Kathmandu, is indeed a big achievement for Kechara. Located on Charkhal Road in Dilli Bazaar, the mural can be found midway between our two Dorje Shugden chapels which are in Putalisadak and Chabahil. It is also very close to one of Kathmandu’s largest shopping malls. Many locals , tourist will be able to connect them to a powerful deity that is so closely associated with their culture. Well the mural not only beautiful but also full of symbolism and everyone merely by seeing it is blessed. Thanks to those talented artists and generous sponsors making it a success.
Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.
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Tsem Rinpoche
About Rinpoche
Name
H.E. Tsem Rinpoche
Root Guru
H.H. Zong Rinpoche
Ordained by
H.H. the 14th Dalai Lama
Affiliations
Pukhang Khangtsen, Gaden Shartse Monastery
Founder and Spiritual Advisor, Kechara House Buddhist Association Malaysia
President, Tsem Rinpoche Foundation, Inc.
Honorary Doctor of Psychology, The Open International University
Hear the holy voice of Kyabje Zong Rinpoche giving advice on the practice of Dorje Shugden to those who had received the life-entrustment initiation. Kyabje Zong Rinpoche wanted to make sure those present received the maximum benefits from their practice, and that they kept their practice well. LEARN MORE >>
In Tibetan Buddhism, it is always said that whatever we practice must come from an enlightened source to be beneficial in our spiritual journey. As such in this video, Kyabje Zong Rinpoche shares with us the history and reincarnation lineage of Dorje Shugden to explain how great this Dharma protector is through the examples of his previous lives, showing us his powerful spiritual attainments. LEARN MORE >>
Dear everyone... This is a good condensed talk I gave on Guru Yoga of Tsongkapa. This is the one you should share with others when they are interested in a not too lengthy explanation. It is the perfect practice for everyone who wants simplicity yet effective blessings. You can share this with more people, it will be good.
"If you say you don't have money to help a animal shelter, why then do you have money to buy meat?"
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"Eating animals is not our God-given right, but being kind to them is."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"What makes us good humans is not how we abuse animals, but how much we allow them to live and be happy freely."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"We need another and wiser and perhaps a more mythical concept of animals.... We patronize them for their incompleteness, for their tragic fate of having taken form so far below ourselves. And therein we err, and greatly err. For the animal shall not be measured by man. In a world older and more complex than ours they moved finished and complete, gifted with extensions of the senses we have lost or never attained, living by voices we shall never hear. They are not brethren, they are not underlings; they are other nations, caught with ourselves in the net of life and time, fellow prisoners of the splendour and travail of the earth."
~ Henry Beston, The Outermost House
"Not eating animals is only unnatural when we are not used to it."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES
"We may encounter defeat, but we must not be defeated."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"What you are today, is the choice you made yesterday."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"You think you can choose your life? What an ego trip!"
~ Lama Yeshe
"If TODAY you are dissatisfied, you must make the changes to create different results for TOMORROW."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
SPIRITUAL QUOTES
“Meditating on Dorje Shugden while reciting his mantra will open the gateways to higher dimensions, blessings and protection.”
~ Tsem Rinpoche
“If one does the recitation of the Lama Tsongkhapa guru yoga prayer for even one month using one of the visualizations for great or clear or quick wisdom, one will definitely see development of that wisdom. It is proved by experience. There is no doubt that by doing the Lama Tsongkhapa guru yoga practice one can meet Lama Tsongkhapa’s teachings from life to life. And furthermore, it gives one the opportunity to be born in the pure realm of Lama Tsongkhapa, Tushita, whenever death happens.”
~ Pabongkha Rinpoche
"I was 18 years old in 1983. That was a very special year as I met His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche and received innumerable precious teachings and empowerments from Him at Thubten Dhargye Ling Centre in Los Angeles, California. It was the best time of my life. A time that seems so magical and surreal to me. Kyabje Zong Rinpoche is Heruka Buddha and I met Heruka."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"If being me offends you, maybe I'm not the problem."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"Never abandon your spiritual teacher no matter how many inner obstacles you need to overcome."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"Actions to force something to be permanent makes all the karmas arise."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"The dharma is not easy to listen to… because some people take it as criticism. But Dharma should not be just feel good only for the moment but for deeper contemplations."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"Whether we do work and suffer but for others or we do work and suffer for ourselves, either way we have to suffer. That is the nature of samsara. So let us suffer for others and then suffering has meaning."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"Those who really want the dharma to grow within themselves and to grow for others should never fear hard work, timing, difficulties, struggles, disappointments because it is for a good cause. Working for Dharma is not a prison or work, but it is purely spiritual practice. It is purely collection of merit and purification. Actually not doing dharma work is the real prison."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"His Holiness Zong Rinpoche stressed the need to continue to practice even when we come up against obstacles, and that we should continually review our progress. He stated that a happy, luxurious life was like a good dream, and that obstacles and difficulties were like a bad dream. We should give them no significance, but simply carry on working towards real, everlasting happiness."
~ Ngala ’ö-Dzin Tridral
"Things in samsara always go wrong. That's its nature. Don't be surprised."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"Knowledge never quenches the thirst, only application."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
LIFE QUOTES
"I pity men who occupy themselves exclusively with the transitory in things and lose themselves in the study of what is perishable, since we are here for this very end-that we may make the perishable imperishable, which we can do only after we have learned how to approach both."
~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
"Money amplifies negative characteristics and that can cause problems.
To walk away from that was actually very easy. I didn't even consider it."
~ Angeline Francis Khoo
"I shall not commit the fashionable stupidity of regarding everything I cannot explain as a fraud."
~ Carl Jung
"There is a devil there is no doubt, but is he trying to get into us or trying to get out?"
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"If you love someone, show it by being honest, respectful & honorable with them."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see."
~ Henry David Thoreau
"If I can just be the way I am & you the way you are & we accept each other, world peace is near."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"I am Asian, you are some other beautiful color. Together we make diversity so beautiful."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"It's amazing how some people have never met me or know who I am, but based on a few things they read here & there & rumours, they have formulated a new personality for me & all the things I've never done they passionately speak about....I find it funny and entertaining now. I guess we can't spend our lives fighting rumours...we just have to work hard & then rumours get proven wrong on it's own as a by product. No point explaining repeatedly. Just do our work & show results!!"
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"There's a difference between patience and laziness. Patience comes from respect while laziness from disrespect of others."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"Although outwardly we have so much, we have so many conveniences, inwardly we have become more unhappy, so, acquisition is not the secret to happiness. The more we get, the more we have, the more unhappy we become."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"Before we experience any pain, we already had a fixed view of how things should be. When the experience we encounter contradicts our views, then the pain arises. The pain arises due to our fixed views not so much the experience itself. So the secret is changing the views. Re-educating ourselves on our views."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"You know since very young, for better or worse, I always did the things that others told me not to do. I wasn't really good at following the rules. Even now with how I share Dharma and my practice, I just do it the way I think it should be done but I do it sincerely. Not what others tell me what I can and can't do."
~ Tsem Rinpoche
"Love me or hate me, both are in my favor... If you love me, I'll always be in your heart... If you hate me, I'll always be in your mind."
~ William Shakespeare
"One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous or honest."
~ Maya Angelou
Devotional Songs
Sung by Mary Fewel Tulin, these mystical songs in praise of the guru originate from the Sikh tradition. Yet, they are applicable to all traditions for those who want to venerate their guru.
The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
So go pursue all the way with the unknown,
because all unknown with familiarity becomes the known.
~Tsem Rinpoche
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4 years ago
According to legend, Shambhala is a place where wisdom and love reign, and there is no crime. Doesn't this sound like the kind of place all of us would love to live in? https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=204874
4 years ago
108 candles and sang (incense) offered at our Wish-Fulfilling Grotto, invoking Dorje Shugden's blessings for friends, sponsors and supporters, wonderful!
4 years ago
Dharmapalas are not exclusive to Tibetan culture and their practice is widespread throughout the Buddhist world - https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=193645
4 years ago
One of our adorable Kechara Forest Retreat's doggies, Tara, happy and safe, and enjoying herself in front of Wisdom Hall which has been decorated for Chinese New Year
4 years ago
Fragrant organic Thai basil harvested from our very own Kechara Forest Retreat farm!
4 years ago
On behalf of our Puja House team, Pastor Tat Ming receives food and drinks from Rinpoche. Rinpoche wanted to make sure the hardworking Puja House team are always taken care of.
4 years ago
By the time I heard about Luang Phor Thong, he was already very old, in his late 80s. When I heard about him, I immediately wanted to go and pay my respects to him. - http://bit.ly/LuangPhorThong
4 years ago
It's very nice to see volunteers helping maintain holy sites in Kechara Forest Retreat, it's very good for them. Cleaning Buddha statues is a very powerful and effective way of purifying body karma.
4 years ago
Kechara Forest Retreat is preparing for the upcoming Chinese New Year celebrations. This is our holy Vajra Yogini stupa which is now surrounded by beautiful lanterns organised by our students.
4 years ago
One of the most recent harvests from our Kechara Forest Retreat land. It was grown free of chemicals and pesticides, wonderful!
5 years ago
Third picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal.
Height: 33ft (10m)
5 years ago
Second picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal.
Height: 33ft (10m)
5 years ago
First picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal.
Height: 33ft (10m)
5 years ago
The first title published by Kechara Comics is Karuna Finds A Way. It tells the tale of high-school sweethearts Karuna and Adam who had what some would call the dream life. Everything was going great for them until one day when reality came knocking on their door. Caught in a surprise swindle, this loving family who never harmed anyone found themselves out of luck and down on their fortune. Determined to save her family, Karuna goes all out to find a solution. See what she does- https://bit.ly/2LSKuWo
5 years ago
Very powerful story! Tibetan Resistance group Chushi Gangdruk reveals how Dalai Lama escaped in 1959- https://bit.ly/2S9VMGX
5 years ago
At Kechara Forest Retreat land we have nice fresh spinach growing free of chemicals and pesticides. Yes!
Fresh eggplants grown on Kechara Forest Retreat's land here in Malaysia
5 years ago
Most Venerable Uppalavanna – The Chief Female Disciple of Buddha Shakyamuni - She exhibited many supernatural abilities gained from meditation and proved to the world females and males are equal in spirituality- https://bit.ly/31d9Rat
Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha.
5 years ago
Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha. She was his step-mother and aunt. Buddha's mother had passed away at his birth so he was raised by Gotami.
5 years ago
Another nun disciple of Lord Buddha's. She had achieved great spiritual abilities and high attainments. She would be a proper object of refuge. This image of the eminent bhikkhuni (nun) disciple of the Buddha, Uppalavanna Theri.
5 years ago
Wandering Ascetic Painting by Nirdesha Munasinghe
5 years ago
High Sri Lankan monks visit Kechara to bless our land, temple, Buddha and Dorje Shugden images. They were very kind-see pictures- https://bit.ly/2HQie2M
5 years ago
This is pretty amazing!
First Sri Lankan Buddhist temple opened in Dubai!!!
5 years ago
My Dharma boy (left) and Oser girl loves to laze around on the veranda in the mornings. They enjoy all the trees, grass and relaxing under the hot sun. Sunbathing is a favorite daily activity. I care about these two doggies of mine very much and I enjoy seeing them happy. They are with me always. Tsem Rinpoche
Always be kind to animals and eat vegetarian- https://bit.ly/2Psp8h2
5 years ago
After you left me Mumu, I was alone. I have no family or kin. You were my family. I can't stop thinking of you and I can't forget you. My bond and connection with you is so strong. I wish you were by my side. Tsem Rinpoche
5 years ago
This story is a life-changer. Learn about the incredible Forest Man of India | 印度“森林之子”- https://bit.ly/2Eh4vRS
5 years ago
Part 2-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
5 years ago
Part 1-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
5 years ago
The great Protector Manjushri Dorje Shugden depicted in the beautiful Mongolian style. To download a high resolution file: https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
5 years ago
The Mystical land of Shambhala is finally ready for everyone to feast their eyes and be blessed. A beautiful post with information, art work, history, spirituality and a beautiful book composed by His Holiness the 6th Panchen Rinpoche. ~ https://bit.ly/309MHBi
DON'T MISS THIS!~How brave Bonnie survived by living with a herd of deer~ https://bit.ly/2Lre2eY
5 years ago
Global Superpower China Will Cut Meat Consumption by 50%! Very interesting, find out more- https://bit.ly/2V1sJFh
5 years ago
You can download this beautiful Egyptian style Dorje Shugden Free- https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
5 years ago
Beautiful high file for print of Lord Manjushri. May you be blessed- https://bit.ly/2V8mwZe
5 years ago
Mongolian (Oymiakon) Shaman in Siberia, Russia. That is his real outfit he wears. Very unique. TR
5 years ago
Find one of the most beautiful temples in the world in Nara, Japan. It is the 1,267 year old Todai-ji temple that houses a 15 meter Buddha Vairocana statue who is a cosmic and timeless Buddha. Emperor Shomu who sponsored this beautiful temple eventually abdicated and ordained as a Buddhist monk. Very interesting history and story. One of the places everyone should visit- https://bit.ly/2VgsHhK
5 years ago
Manjusri Kumara (bodhisattva of wisdom), India, Pala dynesty, 9th century, stone, Honolulu Academy of Arts
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4 years ago
Pig puts his toys away
Animals are so intelligent. They can feel happiness, joy, pain, sorrow, just like humans. Always show kindness to them. Always show kindness to everyone.
5 years ago
Always be kind to animals-They deserve to live just like us.
Whales and dolphins playing with each other in the Pacific sea. Nature is truly incredible!
5 years ago
Bodha stupa July 2019-
Rainy period
5 years ago
Cute Tara girl having a snack. She is one of Kechara Forest Retreat’s resident doggies.
5 years ago
Your Next Meal!
Yummy? Tasty? Behind the scenes of the meat on your plates. Meat is a killing industry.
5 years ago
This is Daw
This is what they do to get meat on tables, and to produce belts and jackets. Think twice before your next purchase.
5 years ago
Don’t Take My Mummy Away!
Look at the poor baby chasing after the mother. Why do we do that to them? It's time to seriously think about our choices in life and how they affect others. Be kind. Don't break up families.
5 years ago
They do this every day!
This is how they are being treated every day of their lives. Please do something to stop the brutality. Listen to their cries for help!
5 years ago
What happened at Fair Oaks Farm?
The largest undercover dairy investigation of all time. See what they found out at Fair Oaks Farm.
5 years ago
She’s going to spend her whole life here without being able to move correctly. Like a machine. They are the slaves of the people and are viewed as a product. It’s immoral. Billions of terrestrial animals die annually. Billions. You can’t even imagine it. And all that because people don’t want to give up meat, even though there are so many alternatives. ~ Gabriel Azimov
5 years ago
Our Malaysian Prime Minister Dr. Mahathir speaks so well, logically and regarding our country’s collaboration with China for growth. It is refreshing to listen to Dr. Mahathir’s thoughts. He said our country can look to China for many more things such as technology and so on. Tsem Rinpoche
5 years ago
This is the first time His Holiness Dalai Lama mentions he had some very serious illness. Very worrying. This video is captured April 2019.
5 years ago
Beautiful Monastery in Hong Kong
5 years ago
This dog thanks his hero in such a touching way. Tsem Rinpoche
These people going on pilgrimage to a holy mountain and prostrating out of devotion and for pilgrimage in Tibet. Such determination for spiritual practice. Tsem Rinpoche
5 years ago
Beautiful new casing in Kechara for Vajra Yogini. Tsem Rinpoche
5 years ago
Get ready to laugh real hard. This is Kechara’s version of “Whatever Happened to Baby Jane!” We have some real talents in this video clip.
5 years ago
Recitation of Dorje Dermo‘s mantra or the Dharani of Glorious Vajra Claws. This powerful mantra is meant to destroy all obstacles that come in our way. Beneficial to play this mantra in our environments.
5 years ago
Beautiful
Beautiful sacred Severed Head Vajra Yogini from Tsem Rinpoche's personal shrine.
5 years ago
My little monster cute babies Dharma and Oser. Take a look and get a cute attack for the day! Tsem Rinpoche
5 years ago
Plse watch this short video and see how all sentient beings are capable of tenderness and love. We should never hurt animals nor should we eat them. Tsem Rinpoche
5 years ago
Cruelty of some people have no limits and it’s heartbreaking. Being kind cost nothing. Tsem Rinpoche
5 years ago
SUPER ADORABLE and must see
Tsem Rinpoche's dog Oser girl enjoying her snack in her play pen.
We were told by Uncle Wong he is very faithful toward Dorje Shugden. Dorje Shugden has extended help to him on several occasions and now Uncle Wong comes daily to make incense offerings to Dorje Shugden. He is grateful towards the help he was given.
5 years ago
Tsem Rinpoche’s Schnauzer Dharma boy fights Robot sphere from Arkonide!
5 years ago
Cute baby owl found and rescued
We rescued a lost baby owl in Kechara Forest Retreat.
5 years ago
Nice cups from Kechara!!
Dorje Shugden people's lives matter!
5 years ago
Enjoy a peaceful morning at Kechara Forest Retreat
Chirping birds and other forest animals create a joyful melody at the Vajrayogini stupa in Kechara Forest Retreat (Bentong, Malaysia).
6 years ago
This topic is so hot in many circles right now.
This video is thought-provoking and very interesting. Watch! Thanks so much to our friends at LIVEKINDLY.
6 years ago
Chiropractic CHANGES LIFE for teenager with acute PAIN & DEAD LEG.
6 years ago
BEAUTIFUL PLACE IN NEW YORK STATE-AMAZING.
6 years ago
Leonardo DiCaprio takes on the meat Industry with real action.
6 years ago
Do psychic mediums have messages from beyond?
7 years ago
Lovely gift for my 52nd Birthday. Tsem Rinpoche
7 years ago
This 59-year-old chimpanzee was refusing food and ready to die until...
she received “one last visit from an old friend” 💔💔
7 years ago
Bigfoot sighted again and made it to the news.
7 years ago
Casper is such a cute and adorable. I like him.
7 years ago
Dorje Shugden Monastery Amarbayasgalant Mongolia's Ancient Hidden Gem
7 years ago
Don't you love Hamburgers? See how 'delicious' it is here!
7 years ago
Such a beautiful and powerful message from a person who knows the meaning of life. Tsem Rinpoche
7 years ago
What the meat industry figured out is that you don't need healthy animals to make a profit.
Sick animals are more profitable... farms calculate how close to death they can keep animals without killing them.
That's the business model.
How quickly they can be made to grow, how tightly they can be packed, how much or how little can they eat, how sick they can get without dying...
We live in a world in which it's conventional to treat an animal like a block of wood.
~ Jonathan Safran Foer
7 years ago
This video went viral and it's a must watch!!
7 years ago
SEE HOW THIS ANIMAL SERIAL KILLER HAS NO ISSUE BLUDGEONING THIS DEFENSELESS BEING.
This happens daily in slaughterhouse so you can get your pork and Bak ku teh. Stop eating meat.
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Sirius asked:Dear pastors, Im currently trying to start my ngondro practice. I want to follow the instructions of Tsem Rinpoche. My question is what preliminary practice should we focus on first? If there was a proper order. The practice that I'm already doing everyday at night is Vajrasattva, but I'm missing the rest. Please give me advice. pastor answered:Dear Sirius,
Thanks for your question. We are really happy to read that you want to engage in ngondro practices. We do have an article about ngondro here: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/preliminary-practice.html The article includes sample prayer texts for the retreats, etc. However, the article does not include the full prayers text for each, visualisation guides, associated contemplations, etc.
The ngondro practices are extended retreats, so unless you have had practice doing shorter retreats, I suggest you start by doing shorter retreats. For ngondro practices to be complete, you need to do 100,000 repititions of a the particular practice. You must do at least 1 full retreat session a day, with the requisite altar setup, offerings, full prayer recitation, etc.
Traditionally, the first ngondro practice to be done is the refuge ngondro. In 2022, we ran an online programme for those wishing to complete their refuge preliminary at home. While the programme has finished, all the materials, prayers texts, visualisation guides, contemplation guides and references are still available for people who wish to complete their refuge ngondro. There is a small fee associated with access to this. You can find some information about the programme here: https://www.kecharaforestretreat.com/practice-weekend-refuge/. If you would like access to the materials, you can contact care@kechara.com with your request to join the Refuge Practice Group.
However, please note that there are prequisities for joining the group, such as having completed Level 1 of our Lamrim course. Ngondro practices in our tradition are not beginner level practices, hence require some knowledge of the teachings before hand. If you have attended Lamrim courses at other Dharma centres, please indicate so in the email.
Hope this helps. Please do contact us on the above email if you have any further questions regarding this. Thank you.
Jason asked:The basic description of a boddhisatva I’ve read is “a person who is able to reach nirvana but delays doing so out of compassion in order to save suffering beings”. This doesn’t quite make sense to me since if they reach nirvana, they should have even greater capacity to help others so it doesn’t make sense to delay their enlightenment. I was wondering if the pastors could clarify on this issue. pastor answered:Dear Jason,
Thank you for your question. The path of a Bodhisattva, is actually quite vast, and the description you've seen is a simplification. The path of the Bodhisattva is explained is many different texts, for example it is explained in the higher scope teachings of the Lamrim, the Sutra of the Ten Bhumis, the Bodhisattvabhumis, etc. I'll try to give a simple overview here.
The very basis of the Bodhisattva path is what is called 'bodhichitta.' This is the motivation or mindset of achieving enlightenment so that you can bring all other sentient beings to the state of enlightenment. In other traditions, the goal of attaining enlightenment is for oneself alone. In the Bodhisattva path, which belongs to the Mahayana vehicle, the goal to achieve enlightenment is not for ourselves but for the sake of others. Once, you have generated this mindset, you are a Bodhisattva.
But there are differing levels of Bodhisattvas. There are ten levels, known as the ten grounds, of a Bodhisattva. So you progress in your Dharma practice of benefiting others and improving yourself for the sake of others, along these ten levels. Once you reach the 10th level, you are essentially enlightened, but you remain in the form of a bodhisattva rather than leaving your body and entering full enlightenment. The reason for this, is your motivation is not just for yourself but all other sentient beings who are still suffering.
When you achieve nirvana, you are in a state of bliss. Since you are in that state, you can remain there for a very long time without helping sentient beings. Hence Bodhisattvas remain to help all sentient beings instead of staying in that blissful state, due to their motivation for all senient beings to achieve that state of bliss themselves. I hope that this helps to answer your question. If not, you can refer to the teachings I mentioned at the begining.
Though not directly related to your question, you might find this short video teaching by Tsem Rinpoche interesting:
Why Bodhisattvas Are Like Peacocks
https://youtu.be/OHXULhL-UHo?si=FG80TpQACuYhbsCm
April 14, 2024 13:11
Kams asked:If a part of Buddhism is accepting reality as it is, rather than how we want it to be, I find it contradictory because human nature is innately selfish and basically "survival of the fittest" and all that. Of course, Humans have evolved to be intelligent and aware. But doesn't that make living by a code of ethical conduct denying our animalistic nature? thus denying the reality of the selfish human nature? I am simply curious about this and would like an answer. Thanks!pastor answered:Dear Kams,
Nice to see you here, you've asked a very interesting question. In Buddhism, when we talk about accepting reality as it is, this is in a very specific way, and usually not the way we think of when we read or hear the phrase 'accepting reality.'
Accepting reality here means not thinking about things as inherently existing. When we think about existence in this manner, it is not correct, because nothing in existence is static, it is ever moving, ever changing. To use a very common Buddhist term, it is impermenant. From the Buddhist perspective the understanding and living by impermenance is very important. I'll give a an example of this. In life, we go through ups and downs, times we are happy and times we are sad. And sometimes, this can be an emotion upheveal. When we experience happy times, we want them to last, we want to always feel that way, so when things go wrong, or not how we want them to be, we get upset. But if we live by impermanence during those happy times, we cherish them more, we live in the moment of being happy rather than wanting it to last. Similarly, when things go wrong, we know that eventually things will get better, because even sadness and all the negative experiences we have in life are impermanent. So 'accepting reality' is a very broad definition, but in Buddhism, it's actually very specific to certain things.
But your question touches on a very important point, and that is what you call our 'selish nature.' In Buddhism, this selfishness comes from karma and delusions. It's the way we naturally operate as humans. But as humans, or any type of being bound by the law of karma within samsara (existence) we create more negative karma and delusions. This only leads us to have this type of nature in future lives as humans, or leads us to suffer in lower rebirths such as the animal or hell realms, or leads us to have pleasures in the god realm. However, no matter what happens, we are still stuck because samsara is a cycle fueled by karma and delusions.
The goal of Buddhists is to transcend/escape this system altogether. We won't be bound by such selfish natures any more and since we are not bound by that, we are free from all types of suffering that occur within existence. Suffering itself is a very big part of the Buddhist teachings. In fact it was the first thing that the Buddha ever taught. But this was not done to make us depressed. It was done to make wake up to our current state within existence and then do something about it.
Here are some video teachings by Tsem Rinpoche that may explain things better:
Karma's Job is to Make You Suffer
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ycNTf-W1mLA
How Wrong Projections Bring Us Suffering (with subtitles)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vICsghJhjqU
The Cycle of Wrong Perception & Wrong Experience
https://youtu.be/EXyhGaXBtK8?si=KktuiuZLd7y4SST4
Karma & Impermanence
https://youtu.be/sL5qn54rPlM?si=0-DwTs-QzKDxA_BX
Hope all this helps to answer your question.
April 13, 2024 03:23
Lee asked:Hello Pastors!
I have a questions about one situations:
I knew life is impermanent but I have saw some situations that please, help me to clear the doubts.
An younger girl has been long time prayers to lord Dorje Shugden but one days, she got an severe cancer but she still strongly devote to lord Shugden.
But in the end that she still die in young age.
How we should look at the situations like this dear Pastors?
Does lord Shugden not help us to find a way or atleast, good doctors or good medicine to help us?
Thanks.pastor answered:Dear Lee,
Thank you for your question. I'm very sorry to read about this situation. It truly is very saddening whenever someone so young passes away. When things like this happen, as Buddhists we need to remember the teachings of the Buddha, not just impermanence. The main one to remember here is karma and rebirth. We were attached to people who have passed away, because we knew them very well in this life. But this is not the only life that the person has had, nor the only life they will have.
When we are born, what experiences we go through in life, and ultimately when we pass on is all due to our karma and their consequences. Daily sadhana practice and devotion is good on a general level, but when the conditions for certain karma to arise occurs, we are faced with very difficult situations due to the arising of karma. If we have had the time and effort to practice deeply, such conditions will not arise but for most people, they will. This is part of samsara and the reason we need to get out of samsara by becoming enlightened.
When such conditions arise, we need extra help to overcome these situations than just our faith and daily practice. That is where other practices come into play, such as pujas, offerings, life-extending practices such as animal liberation, etc. Because the ripening of that karma is strong, we need a stronger method to overcome it than just daily practice. When we are going through such situations, it is best to consult those who can advise on what to do. In our organisation here are the contact details: https://www.kechara.com/contact/
Dorje Shugden and other practices can definitely help with these sorts of things, but it depends on our effort. Since the karma is so strong, it takes effort to help overcome that karma. If we put in that effort by making more prayers, more offerings, doing pujas or other practices, then yes, Dorje Shugden is able to use the merit from those practices and to help us find good doctors, good treatments and make the treatments more effective than they would have been otherwise.
Unfortunately, sometimes that karma is too strong for a person to be ill or to pass away. In those cases, even though the person has passed, their faith, devotion and practice is still beneficial. Why? Because there are future lives. We only experience the loss of a person in this life, but we should think about their future lives also. That is a reason that prayers, pujas and other activities is so much stressed in Buddhism when a person passes on. They are to help that person in their next lives, as an extension of our love and care for them in this life.
In the case of the young girl who passed away, her prayers and faith will not go unanswered in the long term, for her next lives, but unfortunately the ripening of her negative karma was too strong in this life. Dorje Shugden and the Buddhas will definitely take care of her and benefit her in her future lives, all the way until she becomes enlightened.
Here is something that you can do to help the young girl for her future lives: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/something-simple-for-the-deceased.html
Impermanence, karma, rebirth, etc has all been explained by the Buddha and is in scripture, like the Lamrim. When we understand the Lamrim better, we are able to help our loved ones better not just in this life, but for their future lives too. I really hope this helps you. I will keep the young girl in my prayers as well.
April 12, 2024 19:13
Lo asked:Does chanting mantras affect our energy bodies? For example, Could chanting the Medicine Buddha mantra be sending a sort of healing/alleviating effect to our energy channels and in that way, replicating the healing in our physical bodies?pastor answered:Dear Lo,
Nice to see you back here. Yes, chanting mantra definitely effects our energy bodies. Mantras themselves are the form of the Buddhas in sound vibrations. Chanting mantras helps to affect energetical changes within our body for a particular purpose.
Each mantra of a deity has a particular benefit that we receive when chanting. For example, Medicine Buddha is healing & long life. Manjushri is wisdom and intelligence. However, these are just the immediate benefits from their practice. But each deity practice is capable of leading us all the way to enlightenment.
As we recite mantras, the vibrations or energy of that particular mantra pervades our energy body, effecting a change associated with that particular mantra.
Here are some tips on how to chant mantras correctly: https://www.kechara.com/chanting-mantras-correctly/
Here is a fantastic teachings on mantras by Tsem Rinpoche: https://www.kechara.com/chanting-mantras-correctly/
Of course, just simply reciting mantras has an effect, but if you engage in mantra recitation with focus and as part of the practice of that particular deity, the benefits are definitely much stronger. I hope this helps.
Thank you
April 11, 2024 20:37
Lo asked:if the earth were to not exist, would the "human realm" and "animal realm" be completely eliminated from the wheel of samsara?pastor answered:Dear Lo,
Thank you for your very interesting question. If the earth stopped existing, the human realm and animal realm would not be completed eliminated from samsara. This is because we are only talking about one planet called earth. According to Buddhism there are many, many more planets or what are called "World Systems" in the universe, not just our planet earth. Buddhist cosmology extends far beyond just our planet.
The six realms then, cover all sentient beings in existence, this include life on other planets, and therefore covers what we might call 'alien' life forms that are not of our planet. So on other planets, you have physical beings, just like us. They fall into either the human or animal realms as well. They may not physically look like us, but their experiences and the sufferings they have are the same as those of the human and animal realms. For example, we feel physical pain and pleasure, those on other planets who fall under the human realm category would feel physical pain and pleasure too. Same with emotions, levels of intellect between the human realm and animal realm, etc.
An example of different world systems is the story of the Buddha Tara. It is well known that she achieved enlightenment, not on our planet earth but on another world system. Another example, highlighting this is the Sutra Dispelling Darkness in the Ten Directions, which you can find here: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/prayers-and-sadhanas/sadhana-prayers.html#chokchu This sutra is commonly recited to dispell obstacles related to travelling and safety while travelling. It references quite a few world systems and the enlightened beings who have manifested there.
The only way that the human and animal realms would be eliminated from samsara, is not that a single planet would cease to exist, but that all sentient beings become enlightened. That is why the enlightenment of all sentient beings is the aim of the Mahayana tradition, to which Tibetan Buddhism belongs.
I hope all of this answers your question.
April 10, 2024 20:53
Lisa asked:Hello Pastors:
I will visit Thailand soon and I knew that Thai People that they are very devoted to Buddha but beside of this, they also worship many many gods.
I have one questions about one famous site in Thailand called Erawan Chapel:
They worship Four-faced Bhrama called Phra Phrom and how do you think about this God? Is he mundane or supramundane Dharmapala? Is it safe to make a prayer or a wish infront of Him?
I have been practice and prayer to Lord Dorje Shugden for long time and sure that, I don't know any prayer to Phra Phrom or any deities outside Gelug Traditions.
So, can I use a pray to lord Tsongkhapa and a pray to lord Shugden infront of Phra Phrom?
Thank you so much.pastor answered:Dear Lisa,
Thank you for your question. Within Buddhism, one of the tenets of the faith is to only take refuge in those beings who are enlightened. As I am sure you are already aware, the god realm is one of the six realms of samsara, and sentient beings are born within these realms endlessly until and unless they become enlightened.
As you mentioned Phra Phrom is Four-Faced Brahma, who is a god. He is neither a mundane or supremundane Dharmapala. There may be others gods with the same name as Brahma, but Four-Faced Brahma/Phra Phrom is a worldly god. However, he is a very high-level god who is very much respected, but not prayed to in the sense of going to him for Refuge.
While this particular shrine is very famous as it is said he grants wishes, petitioners who go to him must promise to fulfil certain offerings, etc., if their prayers are fulfilled. If their wishes are fulfilled and the promised offerings not made on time, it is also well-known that they will be struck with misforunte because he has become angry at them. This shows, he is a worldly god, still in samsara although very high-level and very powerful. The enlightened beings on the other hand, do not get any with practitioners, because they have no anger.
However, given this, of course you can still visit the shrine. You can even make the traditional offerings that are available there, such as flowers, fruits, etc. This is not the same as making offerings to the enlightened beings, nor does it generate merit. It is more like giving a gift to someone you respect. You are basically paying respect to him.
If you are strong in your Buddhist practice, when there you would not ask him for anything, make any wishes, etc. You are simply giving him offerings as a mark of respect. When there, you can pray to Lama Tsongkhapa, Dorje Shugden, whichever enlightened being you like, but you are not praying to Four-Faced Brahma, but reciting the prayers of the enlightened beings. This will help bless the shrine itself with the energies of the enlightened beings, as well as yourself, just like reciting prayers to the Buddhas would naturally bless you and environment when recited normally.
I hope this answer helps.
April 9, 2024 13:37
Lee asked:Hello Pastors!
I have questions about:
For some circumstance due to images of Lord Setrap too wrathful for few person and they not used to this images yet.
Could we share the images of lord Tshangpa Karpo for this kind of person to worship and practice with reciting lord Setrap's mantra daily? Is it ok? As i knew lord Tsangpa is peaceful form of lord Setrap.
Therefore, we could see lord Tshangpa same as lord Setrap, couldn't we?
Thank you so much.pastor answered:Dear Lee,
Thank you for your question. Yes, you are correct that Tsangpa Karpo is the peaceful form of Lord Setrap. However, the form, the nature of the practice, the mantra, etc is different. While it is not wrong for a person to have Tsangpa Karpo on their altar and recite Setrap's mantra and/or prayers. It wouldn't be as effective as having the actual image of Setrap on the altar and engaing in the practice.
Traditionally, if you are engaging in the practice, you would have an image of that deity on the altar. While all the enlightened beings, whether in their meditational deity form or protector forms are all one and the same, the practice and the nature of the practice differs. So it's better to have an image of the actually deity/protector that you are practising on your altar, to 1) create merit in relation to making offerings to that deity or protector and 2) to act as a focal point for your practice.
Traditionally, for Dharma protectors, the images were covered when placed on the altar, one reason being that they are wrathful and not everyone is used to that. So perhaps you can give them an image that is covered.
Alternatively, if Setrap's form or mantra is too wrathful for them, perhaps a more peace deity that has similar protective qualities would be better for them. Such deities include Lama Tsongkhapa or even Green Tara. These are meditational deities rather than Dharma protectors, but they can have the same protective qualities as a Dharma protector when practiced well. But obviously this would depend on why that person was practicing Setrap in the first place. I hope this helps.
If you would like more private advice regarding this, you can email us at care@kechara.com, referencing this question and our reply. Hope this helps. Thank you.
April 8, 2024 11:17
Jay asked:What are the requirements, prerequisites, commitments and vows for Hayagriva practice? I recieved Hayagriva Empowerment from my root guru but he’s been slow to tell me what all the vows, commitments, prerequisites and requirements for the practice?
You all have such detailed and specific answers for Dorje Shudgen, Yamantaka and Vajrayogini; I was wondering what if there was a unique or different answer for Hayagriva;
Thank youpastor answered:Dear Jay,
Thank you for your question. As you have received empowerment into this incredibly powerful practice and therefore have a guru-disciple connection with your root guru, you should make offerings and request him/her to explain more about the vows, commitments, etc. This would be best. Sometimes, gurus adapt the commitments to suit the students, give the empowerment as a blessing without commitments, etc. So, we cannot comment on the exact vows, commitments, prerequisites and requirements as this will depend on the guru who gave you the empowerment.
That being said, there are also many different practices of Hayagriva, according to various lineages and even with the lineages there are versions of the practice belonging to the lower tantra classification and the higher tantra classification, so the vows and commitments, etc., also differ according to type of tantra.
In general for the requirements and prerequisites you can follow the general information on the following articles, minus those that refer to Vajra Yogini's practice specifically:
https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/starting-on-vajra-yogini-now.htmlhttps://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/vajrayogini-the-powerful-divine-red-lady.html
These are generally having strong guru devotion, and (if you are from the Gelug tradition) study and practice of the Lamrim & other teachings. If you are from another lineage, the teachings may be different. You will also need to have completed some of the Ngondro practices or Preliminary Practices which are extended retreats. But again, all of this would depend on the guru who gave you the empowerment.
If the empowerment you received is a lower tantra type of Hayagriva empowerment, then you would need to keep your refuge and bodhisattva vows as they would have been given as part of the empowerment.
If the empowerment you received is a higher tantra type, then you would need to hold tantric vows in addition to the refuge and bodhisattva vows. You can read more about the vows here: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/students-friends/vows-the-roots-of-all-attainments.html
While we do have all of this information available on this website, it is better to request your guru to give you teachings on what the commitments are, if any, of the empowerment you received. You should take the information here as a basis to educate yourself on what they are, but in terms of practice, this is something that only your guru who gave you the empowerment can tell you.
I hope this helps you a little.
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Pastor Seng Piow guides us on the flow of Dorje Shugden puja, its benefits, significant of Chanting the names of Manjushri and also explaining the dedication for the sponsors and to those in need before we start the puja as we have 2 newcomers today.
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Two Pastors in da house! Double the merits, double the happiness. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta
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Mr. Cheah Fook Wan offered lights and incense to The Three Jewels prior to the puja in Ipoh. (KISG - Kin Hoe)
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Kechara Ipoh Study Group has carried out Mother Tara prayer recitations on Sunday afternoon in Ipoh. (KISG- Kin Hoe)
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Powerful Dorje Shugden puja @ Jalan Seang Tek, Penang. Every Saturday, 3 pm. Remove obstacles and grant blessings to fulfil wishes. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta. 6th April 2024
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Rejoice to the volunteers (also kind sponsors) who cleaned the Gyenze Chapel and made abundant offerings to Gyenze. ~ Alice
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Offered beautiful flowers abundantly to Gyenze. ~ Alice
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Offered beautiful flowers abundantly to Gyenze. ~ Alice
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Our weekly Dorje Shugden Puja @ 23/3/2024 . William, as the umze is seen here burning incense powder as we are about to recite the Sangsol Prayer to Dorje Shugden composed by Ganden Serkong. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
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And here's Mr Wong of KSK Ipoh who dropped by to pray and offered some donation to the Chapel. Kechara Penang Study Group. Pic by Siew Hong & uploaded by Jacinta.
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Today's puja (16/3/2024) ended around 420pm, Jacinta was the umze of the day. Pic by Siew Hong. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
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Group photo taken after the last session, sealed with King of Prayers. Come and join us next time! Sayonara - 9-10th March 2024 - Kechara Penang DS Retreat by Jacinta.
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Abundance altar! Fruits, flowers, Mee Koo (traditional Penang buns), Bee Hoon, sourdoughs and snacks are some of the offerings to Rinpoche, Buddhas & Bodhisattvas. Kechara Penang Dorje Shugden Retreat 9-10th March, 2024 by Jacinta.
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Siew Hong, one of retreatants and an active member of Kechara Penang group proudly presented her torma to be used during the Kalarupa puja. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta
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Torma making was taught by Pastor Seng Piow and held one day before the retreat. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta
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Penang Dorje Shugden Retreat cum Puja, 9-10th March 2024 led by Pastor Seng Piow with 12 retreatants. Uploaded by Jacinta
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The celebration ended with a Dorje Shugden puja, dedicated to all the sponsors, our loved ones and as well as for the happiness & good health for all sentient beings. May Rinpoche return swiftly too and taking this opportunity wishing all Happy Chinese New Year and Gong Xi Fa Cai from all of us, Kechara Penang Study Group. Uploaded by Jacinta.
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Seen here, Pastor Seng Piow set off firecrackers - welcoming of the upcoming year with enthusiasm and positive energy. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta
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In this pic, Pastor Seng Piow is sharing Dharma with newbies ~ Sharyn's friends. It's always good to make light offerings at the beginning of new year. By making light offerings, you are able to dispel the darkness of ignorance and achieve wisdom. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
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One the day of Losar (new lunar year), it is always beneficial for Buddhist practitioners to get together in making abundant offerings to Buddhas on the altar to usher in goodness, prosperity and well-being of our loved ones. It's more auspicious this year as Losar and the Chinese New Year begin on the same date, 10th Feb, 2024. Back in Penang, our Kechara members came together to decorate the altar with abundance offerings for Dorje Shugden puja @3pm. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
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Mr. Dared Lim was offering water bowls on behalf of Kechara Ipoh Study Group. (Kin Hoe)
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Jun from Ipoh was offering mandarin oranges to Mother Tara and The Three Jewels. (Kin Hoe)
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Prior to our puja in Ipoh, Mr. & Mrs. Cheah Fook Wan were preparing for the offerings to the Buddhas. (Kin Hoe)
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On Sunday afternoon, Kechara Ipoh Study Group has carried out Mother Tara prayer recitations in Ipoh. (Kin Hoe)
3 months ago
Some of the best shots taken during Thaipusam in Penang. Swee Bee, Huey, Tang KS, Nathan, Choong SH and Jacinta volunteered. Wai Meng came all the way from KL to help out. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta
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Simple yet powerful ally ~ Bhagawan Dorje Shuden. Kechara Penang Study Group consists of Chien Seong, Hue, Choong SH, Tang KS, Swee Bee and Jacinta. Wai Meng came all the way from KL to help out. Uploaded by Jacinta.
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Thaipusam in Penang. Some of the best shots. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta
3 months ago
Nothing beats having a sacred audience with our lineage lamas. It's not selfie or wefie, but we have the best 'groufie'!!! 20th Jan 2024, Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
3 months ago
Welcoming our lineage Gurus to our Penang Chapel today! Pastor Seng Piow explained the significance of having Guru Tree and introduced to us our lineage lamas, Buddhas, deities, protectors and etc.
4 months ago
Umze for the day was Siew Hong. She's just been with us for slightly more than a year now but she's proven her capability in leading the puja. Our Penang group members are so proud of her and her commitment in attending the weekly puja. Despite being eloquence and smart, she has beautiful chant as well. When she leads, make sure you are there to hear her chant for yourself! Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
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Umze for the day was Siew Hong. She's just been with us for slightly more than a year now but she's proven her capability in leading the puja. Our Penang group members are so proud of her and her commitment in attending the weekly puja. Despite being eloquence and smart, she has beautiful chant as well. When she leads, make sure you are there to hear her chant for yourself! Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
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Tara Recitation is on now at KISG - Wai Meng
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Photo from Wan Wai Meng
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A sea of yellow ~usually in Tibetan Buddhism yellow represents growth. We prayed that our Penang group will grow in terms of people, wealth and attainments too. _/_ Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
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After Dorje Shugden puja @3pm, we had Rinpoche's Swift Return puja too. We laughed as Sis Swee Bee was commenting that Tang should smile ~ here's the reason why we laughed. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta Goh
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Today's (9/12/2023)Dorje Shugden puja led by Gordon. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
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Dharma sharing by Hue before we proceeded with DS puja & Rinpoche Swift Return puja. Hue is one of the long time Kechara Penang members and he comes to puja regularly. He shared that he truly believes that Dorje Shugden and Rinpoche always there guiding him. He shared how sometimes DS will give him hints to avert troubles ahead or to alert him when he 'misbehaved'. Hope many will come to know more about this powerful Dharma Protector, Dorje Shugden aka DS. Having Dorje Shugden is like having a powerful ally that will protect us day and night. Just trust Him and have faith. Kechara Penang Study Group, 25/11/2023 by Jacinta.
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Rinpoche had never forgotten His parents, eventhough they are against his wish to be a monk, Rinpoche compassion and love for them never change over the years. They were no longer there anymore but at the end they are proud of Rinpoche. That’s a great relieved for Rinpoche. Having mixed feelings of sad and rejoice Rinpoche went through the cemetery of the Russians and Kalmuks. Its there both Rinpoche’s parents buried together and friends who were buried there too. Rinpoche did prayers for his parents with some roses flowers which Rinpoche’s mother favourite and had spent some times there. Looking at those pictures tells us all.
Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts with us.
1984 Los Angeles-Left to right: Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen, His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche, monk assistant to Zong Rinpoche and the 18-year-old Tsem Rinpoche prior to ordination. Read more- https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/category/me
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A poem inspired by seeing a picture of my teacher, Kyabje Zong Rinpoche…
In the sport of correct views,
all that is correct is just a view,
without permanence or substance.
As long as we hold onto views,
our sufferings are gathered
to be experienced without end.
Without the strong methods of emptiness
and compassion, bereft of merit,
we sink deeper without respite.
To arise from this samsara is but
a dreamscape on the deluded mind.
Therefore seek the guru, who confers the yidam,
hold your vows and fixate on liberation
free of new creations. Free of new experiences as
there are none.
~ Tsem Rinpoche
Composed in Tsem Ladrang, Kuala Lumpur on July 7, 2014
Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts of visiting your parents ‘s graves and wonderful people whom Rinpoche knew and had passed away. Rinpoche had not seen them since he left for India to become a monk. Visiting someone at their grave whom we loved dearly is extremely hard but Rinpoche still maintained a strong posture.
Inspiring stories …. to remind us that we must not give up , to persevere and persist despite obstacles and challenges , not to loose sight of Dharma and those we loved dearly. Despite all these and disowned by his parents Rinpoche , Rinpoche revisited them at the gravesite and did prayers for them. Rinpoche will always care for them even they are not around anymore, what is past is past. Its an example for us to forgive the past and moved on.
I was walking past a second hand shop on Western Ave selling old things. They had a Japanese-style clay Buddha which was beige in colour on the floor, holding the door open. I thought the shopkeeper would collect a lot of negative karma without knowing if he kept such a holy item on the floor as a doorstop. So I went in to talk to him, but he didn’t look like he wanted to talk or that he even cared. So I asked him the price and he said US$5. I purchased it so he did not collect more negative karma. I was 17 years old and that was in 1982.
I escorted my new Buddha home and washed it lightly and wiped it. I placed it on my altar and was happy with the Buddha. I would do my meditations, prayers, sadhanas, mantras and prostrations in front of this shrine daily. When I left for India in 1987, I could not bring this Buddha along and gave it to a friend. It was a nice size and I made offerings to this Buddha for many years in Los Angeles. In front of the Buddha I placed His Holiness the Dalai Lama’s photo. I remember I was so relieved that the price was affordable. But US$5 that time was still expensive for me but worth it I thought. But I was happy to have brought the Buddha home. Tsem Rinpoche
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Tsem Rinpoche at Kechara Forest Retreat, Bentong, Malaysia
H.E. the 25th Tsem Rinpoche is very devoted to his root guru, H.H. Zong Rinpoche.
“Rinpoche’s Thoughts After Visiting His Parents’ Graves”.
Thank you Rinpoche for this very powerful teaching.
I wish to highlight two points in this powerful teaching by Rinpoche which has touched me deeply.
1.About Rinpoche and his Mother Dana
When Rinpoche refused to give up the idea of becoming a monk and showed a very strong inclination and fascination for the Dharma, Dana became more and more violent towards him thinking to bend him by force towards her will. She had been brought up to see that it was against Rinpoche’s interest to become a monk. SHE DID IT FOR RINPOCHE BECAUSE SHE THOUGHT IT WAS BEST FOR HIM.Putting aside her violence towards Rinpoche, which mostly stemmed from her mental ailment(she suffered from schizophrenia, but this was only discovered years later, after Rinpoche had left home), we see in her the powerful habituations of countless lifetimes of grasping at the “I am Right and others are Wrong” attitude , as well as the grasping at wrong fixed projections of how people and things should be . WE are all like Dana, with our grasping at the “I”and our fixed negative habituations of countless lifetimes and our fixation with cultural and conventional norms.
Rinpoche had said that both his parents were Buddhists only on a superficial level.They actually had the option to learn the Dharma and gain the knowledge to know how to transform a mind fixated with cultural norms and self-grasping and negative delusions habituated over many lifetimes. BUT they didn’t bother to study the Dharma and gain the knowledge to practice and transform. It is like many of us, who claim to be Buddhists but do not want to study the Dharma so as to transform ourselves: to remove all our negative habituations and habituated wrong projections and grasping at “I”,and rehabituate our minds with positive qualities of kindness, equanimity, generosity,compassion, tolerance, patience and the like. Only when we use the Dharma to transform ourselves in this way can we remove the root causes of our unhappiness. Only then can we attain total liberation from suffering or Enlightenment.
2. A Bodhisattva will go to all lengths, even make a ‘negative’ connection, with every being whom they encounter or who come within their sphere of experience.In this way, they hook these beings to them and plant seeds of Dharma in them so that they can continue their work of bringing them to enlightenment in future lives.
(In the Bodhisattva’s manifestation of such great compassion,I am reminded of Shantideva’s words: ” For as long as space remains and for as long as sentient beings remain, until then will I too remain to dispel the miseries of the world”).
Thus did Tsem Rinpoche hook Dana to him with his compassion. I am very happy that Dana had a change of heart before she died-she accepted Rinpoche being a monk and was proud of him. To my mind, I see (behind this)the work of a great Bodhisattva , who gave her a blessing to open up a powerful good imprint and caused her to manifest this positive change of heart. Dana had strong good imprints even in this life, from her kindness to Rinpoche(and the homeless), even though she manifested such great violence towards Rinpoche. Rinpoche recalls how Dana had nursed him when he was sick and we have seen pictures of Rinpoche with Dana in happier times.
In the Lamrim, we are told that in order to develop bodhicitta, the first steps are – recognize all beings as our mothers, remember their kindness to us and repay their kindness. Rinpoche has shown us ,by his own great example, how to carry out these three steps.
I am profoundly moved by Rinpoche’s deep love and care for all beings.He loves all with the same kind of love he has shown Dana. My precious human life has been made more precious because I met a Bodhisattva.
I PROSTRATE TO MY GURU WHO IS THE EMBODIMENT OF IMMEASURABLE INFINITE COMPASSION.
For the pursue of Dharma, Rinpoche decided to leave the family and away from USA for 26 years, it is certainly a very long journey when Rinpoche left USA and became ordain as a Sangha.
Rinpoche had never forgotten His parents, eventhough they are against His wish to be a monk, Rinpoche compassion and love for them never change over the years. It was Rinpoche persistency and love for Dharma, that now we have Kechara and so many online teaching from Rinpoche.
It has been 26 years that Tsem Rinpoche had not went back to USA or meet His step parents, Boris and Dana Bugayeff. Both parents had since passed away, and Rinpoche had never spoken or even repay their kindness no matter what Rinpoche faced during her younger age. Yet the long overdue meeting had Rinpoche visiting their grave and offer prayer for them.
Although Rinpoche faces abuse, trauma, yet Rinpoche still care for them.
I have a mixed feelings of sad and rejoice while Rinpoche went through his journey with us in the Kalmuks graveyard. I feel rejoice because Rinpoche’s mom Dana had finally accepted and proud of him in becoming a Buddhist monk. I believe that it was Rinpoche’s action in benefiting others that eventually changed her mind as action speaks louder than word. This post teaches me about impermanence and everyone closes to us would eventually pass away. It is important to reconnect with them before it’s too late and encourage them to practice Dhamma as this would be the best gift to them. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your personal story with us. I hope you have a chance to visit your childhood place and the Kalmuks community again soon. With folded palms.
Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thought after visiting your parents’ graves.
Re-visiting this post, 2 major thoughts came to mind. One was the happy thought that somehow or other, Dana (Rinpoche’s mother)was able to turn around and be happy and proud of Rinpoche becoming a monk and Spiritual Teacher. For this, Rinpoche was very happy for her and rejoiced for her. This remarkable change of attitude of Dana was most important for her.From the moment her mind accepted Rinpoche as a monk, she stopped collecting tremendous heavy negative karma and began to accumulate merits and positive karma and imprints. Whatever Rinpoche did in Dharma, a part of the merit started going to her. How wonderful for her that she was able to go to her death , having found peace with Rinpoche through her acceptance of him.
The second thought is that our minds have been so programmed and so habituated over lifetimes to see that only we are right and others wrong. Our minds are also deeply steeped in crippling cultural norms. Rinpoche was the Bugayeff’s only son. Only sons, culturally speaking, do not become monks. Furthermore, as their son, Boris and Dana had expected him to fulfil their American Dream for them. So Dana’s mind could not accept Rinpoche becoming a monk and she tried to bend him to her will, with the use of violence.This streak of violence was also reinforced by her mental ailment.
Rinpoche’s determination to do Dharma was stronger than any worldly boundaries and unlike any other child, this was yet another clear sign and indication of who Rinpoche was in Rinpoche’s previous lives… https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/autobiography/kentrul-thubten-lamsang.html (an account from a student of our Rinpoche’s immediate previous incarnation, Kentrul Rinpoche Thubten Lamsang). And you know what this means… how amazingly lucky we are to have cross path with a real Guru who is Boddhisattva. It is exactly as what Rinpoche’s mother said… “if the boy is truly the reincarnation of a High Lama, then he would eventually develop his spiritual path and find his way back to the monastery.” https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/h-e-the-25th-tsem-tulku-rinpoches-biography.html
And like what someone from blogchat recently mentioned; chris chong: “Rinpoche is high incarnation that can choose his next life and his parents. So, he must had chosen this life on his own will. I guess he wanted to show us that even with all the hardships and abuse he had went through, he still came out good and continue to persue dharma. His faith and will to learn dharma is so strong that nothing can shake it. His bad experiences also influenced some of the work that Rinpoche did today. An example will be soup kitchen because he understand what kind of harsh condition that a homeless have to go through on daily basis. Hence, he set up KSK hoping to help these homeless people as much as whe can.” in which I could not agree with it more and said it better.
It is never easy to look back and think about those you love who have passed, I can relate with Rinpoche to an extend but there is no graveyard to visit, just memories of the good and the bad. And it dawn on to me these are all just memories and we are still creating memories now as we speak. So I guess what truly matters is what we do today, right now to create that pass memory in the few seconds… and this thought I know would not have even manifest is because of the little bit of Dharma I have learnt from Rinpoche.
Thank you Rinpoche for your very personal sharing. What I learnt from this is that death happens to anyone and everyone and even those you love or hate. In the end nothing really matters and all that matters is how you were with them. The biggest lesson I learn from the death of those I hold dear and love “You don’t know what you got till it’s gone”
Rinpoche’s determination to do Dharma was stronger than any worldly boundaries and unlike any other child, this was yet another clear sign and indication of who Rinpoche was in Rinpoche’s previous lives… https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/autobiography/kentrul-thubten-lamsang.html (an account from a student of our Rinpoche’s immediate previous incarnation, Kentrul Rinpoche Thubten Lamsang). And you know what this means… how amazingly lucky we are to have cross path with a real Guru who is Boddhisattva. It is exactly as what Rinpoche’s mother said… “if the boy is truly the reincarnation of a High Lama, then he would eventually develop his spiritual path and find his way back to the monastery.” https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/h-e-the-25th-tsem-tulku-rinpoches-biography.html
And like what someone from blogchat recently mentioned “chris chong: @Martin, Rinpoche is high incarnation that can choose his next life and his parents. So, he must had chosen this life on his own will. I guess he wanted to show us that even with all the hardships and abuse he had went through, he still came out good and continue to persue dharma. His faith and will to learn dharma is so strong that nothing can shake it. His bad experiences also influenced some of the work that Rinpoche did today. An example will be soup kitchen because he understand what kind of harsh condition that a homeless have to go through on daily basis. Hence, he set up KSK hoping to help these homeless people as much as whe can.” in which I could not agree with it more and said it better.
It is never easy to look back and think about those you love who have passed, I can relate with Rinpoche to an extend but there is no graveyard to visit, just memories of the good and the bad. And it dawn on to me these are all just memories and we are still creating memories now as we speak. So I guess what truly matters is what we do today, right now to create that pass memory in the few seconds… and this thought I know would not have even manifest is because of the little bit of Dharma I have learnt from Rinpoche.
Thank you Rinpoche for your very personal sharing. What I learnt from this is that death happens to anyone and everyone and even those you love or hate. In the end nothing really matters and all that matters is how you were with them. The biggest lesson I learn from the death of those I hold dear and love “You don’t know what you got till it’s gone”
Dear Rinpoche
Thank you for the post. I am happy that Rinpoche’s step mother accepted Rinpoche’s Dharma aspiration and proud of Rinpoche. I rejoice for her because as Rinpoche explained, she collected the merit from the time she accepted/ approved of Rinpoche’s Dharma work.
Valentina
Dear kalyāṇa-mitra (spiritual friend), Your Eminence,
I invite you and everyone that has lost loved ones, to create an online memorial in their honor, to cherish their memories. Thank you for sharing your story, thank you for your compassion and wisdom.
Wishing you true happiness, good health and long life. With metta, Anca (www.spirare.name)
Dear Rinpoche
It’s indeed very touching and happy moment that Rinpoche’s mother finally accepted and proud of Rinpoche becoming a monk. Rinpoche’s parent was able to collect positive karma before their passing from the negative karma they have due to not letting Rinpoche to learn Dharma & become a monk during Rinpoche’s teenage years.
It was a peaceful sight at Rinpoche’s parents graveyard to see inter-racial & inter-religion being practice where 2 different culture (in this case Kalmuks & Russians) are buried in the same cemetery. This indicates peace, acceptance and harmony between 2 cultures.
Performing puja enables us to dedicate merits to our loved ones to have good human rebirth. That they are also able to meet, understand and learn the Dharma in this lifetime and future lives. This is one way for us to repay their kindness and dedicate merits to them when they are alive or passed on.
At death we can’t take anything with us and the only thing we can take is the Dharma. As mentioned in the 3rd verse Yonten Shigyurma [Foundation of All Good Qualities] Lamrim Prayer by Lama Tsongkhapa. It says :-
Mindful of death, this life disintegrates
As swiftly as a bubble in turbulent water
And after death my good and bad
Karma follows me like my shadow
Thank you Rinpoche for giving this teaching whilst on your home visitation trip. Rinpoche is always thinking of others and wanting to benefit all beings with Dharma wherever Rinpoche goes. Its another inspiring and teaching to remind us that we must not loose sight of Dharma.
I wish Rinpoche a safe pleasant trip and health always. We await Rinpcohe’s safe return to Kechara Forest Retreat.
With folded hands
Rena
With the past encounter and of course by the blessing of Rinpoche, I have been able to receive some Dharma knowledge,…. “a person’s lifespan is not fixed Death is certain but the time will be uncertain depending on the ripening”. I read a column in the newspaper this morning, the writer has asked, Are we here to live a legacy or to leave a legacy?? The same words like a bell in my mind, what Rinpoche had in vision for many of us that we too can leave a legacy behind by participating in Rinpoche’s works.
Thank you Rinpoche.
Dear Rinpoche, reading this article reminds me of my parents who are extremely against me & Alex and my kids in our Dharma practice. Rinpoche, you have guided us through Dharma teachings and have always taught us to seek for the 6 Perfections, to be selfless and kind to others and always respect our parents. Through the 10 years that we have taken refuge with Rinpoche, we have seen tremendous transformation in ourselves. Despite that, my parents are still very against our Dharma practice. I do not blame them as i realize that it is not them but their ignorance that blinds them. It is very difficult to talk to them as every chance they have they would try to talk down on our Dharma practice, us being vegetarian, and to the extent of asking my siblings to stay away from us. Every day, when i do my daily sadhana, i visualize our Dharma Protector sending red lights to subdue their wrong views and may they one day have the merits to learn the holy Dharma. Now i only visit them on special occasions such as my parents’ birthday and Chinese New Year because i do not wish that they collect the negative karma on their negative comments on my holy Guru and my Buddhist organization. I feel very sad for them as they do not believe in rebirths and hence they dont care about karma, cause & effect. It is very difficult for me to talk to them so i distant myself from them but i still respect them as my parents. May they be always be blessed by the 3 Jewels.
Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your personal feelings about your family in New Jersey. i am truly glad and more than happy to know that Rinpoche’s mother has finally accepted Rinpoche as who You are now. All the hard works and sacrifices experienced by Rinpoche are truly worth more than all the good fortune around the world, for Dharma to grow and save all sentient beings without exception. Being a young guy in teenage years to leave family without the blessings from parents was indeed a very hard decision and sad feelings for anyone to absorb for 26 years. Thank you Rinpoche and rejoice for You to re-connect back with your parents although they have gone. May Your both parents and all the relatives and friends who were passed away in New Jersey, gain good rebirths and meet with Dharma in their next lives. May all of them be able to receive Your blessings and prayers as much as possible. Thank you Rinpoche for all your hard work and teachings to spread the Dharma in our country. We will never forget all the hardship and experience You have endured for the past 26 years.
Dear Rinpoche..()..
your teachings and the very presence always move me to feel the nature os life and the ultimate nature of beings. i can’t imagine life you my only guru,i consider though i never met you…
may you live long to make every being to realise the true nature of life….
i take refuge in you….rinpoche
with sincere devotion,
pema thrinley
Rinpoche’s filial piety is truly marvellous beyond comparison, “as it concerns far from working solely for his own benefit, but for the salvation of all people, and aiding his family by so doing.” As it is believed, if one member of the family leaves the household to be a monk, then all other members of the family would benefit from the good fortune and lead superior lives. Yes, it was indeed “surreal” to see the gravestones of so many people whom Rinpoche knew were still alive before he left. Today on his visit,tomestones were the only ones left that Rinpoche saw! How terribly sad and frightening. But, the most consoling comfort at least is Rinpoche’s finding-out that his mother did feel proud of him becoming a monk, and that Rinpoche was successfully able to perform a Puja for his parents as planned during the visit. We greatly rejoice for you, Rinpoche for all compliance of your wishes!!! Om mani padme hung.
Looking at pictures of graves always evoke emotions that make me feel restless and conflicted. Maybe it’s the knowledge that some day I’ll also be dead and the fact that right now I living my life as if I’ll live forever.
“故地又重游,物是人已非;奈何故人去,往事伤心头”。仁波切这次的分享让我心里都很伤感和对故人的怀念和哀悼。所以对在身边的人我们要多珍惜, 对往生者我们祈愿他们有佛法的加持和有更好的转世。
有想过。。。。。。每一年清明节我们去拜祭祖先, 那时候的你吗? 有些人会特别的感触, 但是也有的是满脸的埋怨。
这每年一次, 对仁波切是那么遥远。
在这一天, Tsem Tulku Rinpoche 终于有机会去拜祭亲人了。
看着师父不停的述说他认识的叔叔,姨姨, 家人与朋友, 在这坟墓里。我的心很酸。 让我要珍惜。珍惜我现在可以做的!
离家30多年,如今旧地重游,我们常人一定无限感慨,百般滋味在心头。再加上亲人都天人永隔。上师有别于常人,以上的道理仁波切比我们任何人都清楚。希望仁波切这一趟旅程顺利,愉快和心想事成。
I glad Rinpoche had finally found “closure” with Rinpoche’s parents especially Dana, Rinpoche’s foster mother who Rinpoche knew somehow was a kind lady but not well. I am so happy to know that she finally accepted and was proud of Rinpoche being a monk! That would have given her much peace towards the end of her life.
It is amazing how people come and go in life. This is another great teaching of impermanence in samsara. All is so surreal and nothing is ever solid yet we always grasp for it to be permanent. I guess Rinpoche kind of new this cos Rinpoche’s yearning for Dharma was so strong that Rinpoche had to do what Rinpoche knew was right deep down inside. Not many would dare thread such a path.
Now when we look back at those who have passed, they had no or very little Dharma. But look at what Rinpoche gained! The ability to return and do pujas for them. If Rinpoche did not follow the Dharma path and became a ordinary layman, married and with kids, I doubt Rinpoche would be able to do much for Rinpoche’s parents/love ones. Although they are 6 feet underground, at least Rinpoche could still do dedications to them. A great teaching for us all that all things will come to an end except the Dharma! Thank you Rinpoche for sharing so much intimate feelings and stories as it gives each and everyone a different take and appreciation of what we have… Rinpoche and the Dharma!
I’m glad Rinpoche found out your mother had found peace before she passed away and collected merits from this positive action. Rinpoche’s explanation is a valuable teaching of how important it is to find peace before one dies and to realise the Four Noble Truths. In samsara, “all actions lead to suffering”.
Rinpoche has become a very beneficial being to everyone around him and Rinpoche’s prayers for his parents will certainly yield tremendous benefits and come true for his parents. The Kalmyks have so much respect for Buddhism that they engrave mantras and buddhist symbols on their graves.
A mother’s love to their children is incomparable no matter what happened, even when there is huge conflict between the mother and the children, but at the end of the day, the mother will still love them unconditionally, with their own ways, sometimes they may love them with the wrong and selfish way, but it doesn’t mean they are bad, it’s because that’s the only way they know for loving their kids.
it’s been 30 over years that rinpoche didn’t see his mother, Rinpoche loved her and missed her throughout this 30 years++, today finally Rinpoche got to visit her, but it is her tombstone. It is definitely sad to see this. The impermanence of life is just showed here, so many people Rinpoche used to know when he was younger at USA and now some of them already laying down under the ground.
life is impermanent, everyone will be laying down there one day. never wait till too late before we know to regret.
The cemetery looks neat and peaceful and very well maintained. Glad to hear that Rinpoche’s beloved late mother had finally accepted Rinpoche as a monk and was proud of Him. So now Rinpoche can have peace when he knew that his beloved mom had passed away in peace. This meant a lot to Rinpoche.
I also pray and hope that Rinpoche’s another wish will come true soon i.e.may Rinpoche will be able to meet and reunite with His biological mother, the Mongolian princess during this trip to the US.
I m glad that Rinpoche parents has accepted him as a monk and do feel pround about his work. This is very important for both parents because they will able to collect tremendous amount of merits so that in the future they can continue to meet BuddhaDharma teaching. Thank you Rinpoche for all the beautiful photos I must said the cemetery look very neat and clean.
A little thought from me:
– I noted that many parents imposed their own ambitions and perceptions to their children. I witnessed children were being bombarded with various lessons to “help” them. Sometimes it is really suffocating. A simple solution is a strong mind (financial independence helps a lot as well).
– I witnessed firsthand within my family that once the son/ daughter do something “unxpected”, the parents are extremely unhappy. A lot of yelling and throwing things.
I wonder how much sufferings can be caused by someone’s perceptions and expectations
In our human life we have accumulated more and more baggage as day passed. we all know that we can’t take any of ours tangible possessions with us at the time of death. it is our non tangible possessions part that are worrisome. ie our views, grudges, discontentment… Thank you Rinpoche for having this blog post to teach us how take the necessary actions and remedy to let go for it before death come.
Dearest Rinpoche,
Thank you so much for sharing such a personal and poignant journey with us. It must have not been an easy visit to your parents’ grave. I am glad that your late mother finally found peace and acceptance. I also rejoice at the fact that she was indeed proud of you and you got to know that through the nice people who bought over your late parents’ house.
Your beautiful narration in the first video stirred many emotions and invoke many thoughts for contemplation. Given the childhood that you went through, I truly admire your sense of filial piety, selfless compassion and unconditional love.
With folded hands and much admiration
The cemetery really is a peaceful place. It’s so serene that all religion are in harmony with each other. The part that touched me the most is when Rinpoche’s mother finally accepted and is proud of what Rinpoche is doing. I think it is her way of showing kindness by letting Rinpoche pursue what Rinpoche really wanted even it means of temporary heartbreak. It’s really glad to know that she is in peace and happy with Rinpoche’s choice. What really touches me is the acceptance of Rinpoche’s mother, it means a lot for a child to have the acceptance and supports from the parents. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your thoughts as it made me stay firm with my choice in pursuing my Dharma work. Namtse!
Thank You Rinpoche for this very personal post and sharing with us what is very close to your life. There is no escaping the law of karma and everything is impermanent. This is a teaching by itself and Rinpoche kindly give this teaching via some so personal shows Your compassion and all encompassing mind.
I wish Rinpoche a good stay in the US and may Rinpoche return as soon as Rinpoche deem fit. Meanwhile, we continue to do the work to spread the Dharma from Malaysia.
With folded hands!
谢谢仁波切的分享。从本文中我可以深深体会仁波切思念家人的心情。尤其是再见已是天人两隔。仁波切为了对上师的承诺,放弃美国的一切,甚至养父母和他脱离关系, 可是仁波切义无反顾走向出家的路途,只为了将佛法宏扬四海,利益众生。我们何等的有幸能遇见仁波切,接受他的加持。仁波切的恩德无以为报,不要再搓托 宝贵的人生,致力推广仁波切的佛法吧!
Rinpoche has always wanted to return to US for a rather long time, and I am happy that Rinpoche made this trip this time round.
I am often amazed at the “sacrifice” Rinpoche made and I will always be grateful towards Rinpoche for this. In Malaysia, Rinpoche is often alone and this is due to the “sacrifice” he has made. That is the reason we have Rinpoche here today in Kechara and also a blog which has 3.5million viewership. The blog and its content has saved many from today’s common problem ie depression/sickness & etc. It has prevented mothers from leaving their kids, stop people from hurting or damaging themselves & etc.
Kechara has also provided real “homes” to many of us, we have fed the homeless & also urban poor in Malaysia/Indonesia/Shanghai (and I am talking about thousands packet of food going out on a weekly basis) and in some instances provide jobs to the homeless. And all this was possible because of Rinpoche’s sacrifice.
What I am doing is only a mere fraction of what Rinpoche had to leave behind and reading this article inspires me to do more.
Dear Rinpoche,
Thank you for this wonderful post, all the photos and the videos. I really get to know Rinpoche more from this post, thank you Rinpoche for patiently explaining every details for us.
It was a difficult decision for Rinpoche to say goodbye without the blessings/approval from Rinpoche’s parents to go to India to become a monk and Rinpoche was still so so young. What kept Rinpoche to make this hard decision is that Rinpoche wants to do something with Rinpoche’s life, to benefit others. It was so hard and impossible to explain to Rinpoche’s parents for them to understand the intention of Rinpoche becoming a monk. Rinpoche loves Dana so much yet Rinpoche has to leave. It was sad.
It really bring tears to me, tears of happiness that Rinpoche’s mother(Dana) finally understood and accepted Rinpoche becoming a monk and I can understand that, I do. The happiness is, Rinpoche’s mother finally understand the intention of Rinpoche and know Rinpoche is using the whole life to benefit others. She doesn’t lose her son and the same loving nature towards others that Rinpoche and Dana share, keep Rinpoche and Dana together even though they are not together physically. I am very very sure Rinpoche’s mother was happy and proud and was at peace when she accepted Rinpoche as a monk. The time that Rinpoche wasn’t being with her was not “wasted” as Rinpoche uses all the time to benefit others and help others. Dana knew that and that’s the reason why she was at peace I guess.
What inspired me too is that even though at first we don’t get support from the others for what we want to do, but if we achieve result, they will finally support us too! There are too many examples already. But in the end, whether getting support or approval or not, that’s not the point anymore. Before we pursue, we know what we want and what we can achieve, just work towards it. Sometimes, we just need to earn that approval/support.
And I love the inter-religious harmony in New Jersey, especially within the Russian and Kalmyk community. It is beautiful to see they share their different religion together. Another eye-opening scene to me.
Glad to see Rinpoche is fine there. This post also gives me teachings about death. Life is really empty when we don’t use it fully to do something good to others and the world. Life is empty if we just let it pass without doing anything. When we die, it is just gravestone and our name is carved on it. Nothing more. But if we practice Dharma before our death, Dharma will be kept in the mind and continue to “grow”.
This post reminded me a lot about how easy it is for someone to just pass away. We must love our family now and give them all our love. And when they pass, we must always show good respect for them. Rinpoche here is showing a lot of respect to his loved ones, i am also very sorry to hear about all of this Rinpoche. But i Rinpoche has thought me something here, and that is to always show our respects to our loved ones, no matter whether they are dead or alive.
This video may look like a “story-telling” but it is a teaching of impermanence, determination and karma to me.
When I first come to know Rinpoche, I always wonder why would a Rinpoche reincarnate in such a “difficult” environment to practice Dharma. Now I know: it is to show us that besides all the hardship, it is definitely possible to practice Dharma. Thank you so much for “suffering for us” and there is no excuse for me not to practice especially we are given such conducive environment
It must have been surreal to be in the cemetery with the tombstones carved in the names of Rinpoche’s parents, relatives and friends. The last time Rinpoche was in New Jersey, they were stillalive. 26 years later, they are just memories. The disagreements, the fears, anger, laughter, sadness are all now just memories. Just like in a movie….
Dear Rinpoche,
Thank you for sharing with us some of Rinpoche’s personal moments together at Rinpoche’s parents’ grave. I know it has been a very emotional packed journey for Rinpoche especially having known that Rinpoche’s mom, Dana had come to terms with Rinpoche’s ordination and is actually proud of Rinpoche. I am pretty sure Rinpoche’s unshakable motivation in renunciation has change the due course of her karma and led her to this realization. Coupled with the years of serving Rinpoche’s gurus, I am sure somehow over the years news had spread back home to Howell how well Rinpoche has been doing in the monasteries and Malaysia.
With no doubt committing our lives to the Dharma is the best thing we can do with our lives. Rinpoche comes from an Asian background and leaving home and the family is a big deal/obstacle but Rinpoche overcame that obstacle not because He’s Rinpoche but Rinpoche understood the importance of the Dharma and the advise of His noble Gurus. Without these instructions, we would not have been able to receive such tremendous benefit of the Dharma today.
For many facing objection from their families in practicing the Dharma, be brave and look at the benefit of serving the Dharma for we are serving our parents’ well being now and in the future.
Much care,
Pastor Jay Jae
It is so touching of a happy ending story of Rinpoche’s parent. Doing Dharma collects tremendous merits to dedicate to our parents whether alive or deceased. If you have not started any dharma dedication to your parents you can start right now. Do not procrastinate. Time and Tide waits for no man.
It brought tears to my eyes while I was reading through the whole post, it was very touching. People come and people die, but most importantly, they pass on with no regrets.I’m very glad to know that Rinpoche’s mother accepted and was proud of the decision Rinpoche made decades ago, I think this is very important not only because Rinpoche has her blessings but also she has let go of it before she passes on, she must has been a very proud mother 🙂 Please take care Rinpoche.
Thanks Rinpoche for sharing this post for us to create a strong Awareness to us. We should do as much for ourself, our love one, parents, family members and our Guru within our this precious human lifetime.
Life is Impermanence, most of us know about this but the key is how it become a Alert to us to move on. As we get know more Dharma from Rinpoche, we really really really do our practice consistently hence generate more Merits to purify our negative Karma and on the same time create the Merits for a better future for not only ourself but to our love on, parents, family members and also our Guru.
We hope we able to do as much we can in this lifetime to help more to Rinpoche projects hence to generate more Merits to support our better future…
The cemetery is a great place to practice impermanence and to meditate on death. How people come and go, how one day our life will end in the same way. All these thoughts go through our minds when we are near graveyards. There is so much to be learned.
Thank you Rinpoche for sharing such intimate feelings about Rinpoche’s family. It is really touching.
The gravestones are very beautiful because the names that’s carved on it are relatives and incredible moving stories from Rinpoche, they become much more than gravestones. I think it is unusual that Rinpoche is telling these amazing stories of Rinpoche’s life from tombstones. And like many of the stories, Rinpoche tells it with a lot of colour with added dimension of wisdom and incredible insight and realization. It makes me feel warm and come to know Rinpoche a little more and come to a deeper closer understanding of the Dharma one way or another. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing.
Dear Rinpoche,
Reading the post brought tears to my eyes as they clearly show that as mortals we will leave this planet. And what is left behind are memories and stories that those who are alive remember and they tell others about them. Thank you for sharing the loving warm moments of these wonderful folks. I am happy that Rinpoche was able to perform prayers for Rinpoche’s parents.
With folded hands,
Wendy
Thank you so much for sharing on this. I hope they all have a swift and a good rebirth and able to get connected with Dharma. Am also glad to know that Rinpoche’s mother is proud and accept on Rinpoche being a monk. Thank you and once again Rinpoche shows everyone on being grateful and appreciate people who are still with us now.
Dear Rinpoche,
As I read the articles You’ve written, listen to the videos You recorded and the pictures, images You’ve taken, I suddenly realized You’d really missed Your family, friends and relatives back home in united states. It wasn’t an easy journey for You since from a very young age. My guess not many would endure such hardship. Leaving home for India to become an ordained monk for the sake of others was indeed greater than any personal love You had for Your own family. I felt the hard-to-part feeling of Yours especially when You mentioned about Your parents. It must have been a difficult time for You, my dear guruji. Am elated to hear the acceptance of Your parents regards to Your renunication and Your pursue as a dharma teacher eventually, something which is very precious and beautiful and recognising their son whom has done remarkable great things in life. I do feel they were feeling very proud of You, guruji though it wasn’t spoken directly to You.
My dear teacher, I feel Your lose and pain You experienced when You visit the grave of Your parents……
I am very grateful to You, my dear guruji, whom You have saved my mother’s life so much so that she can still continue her spiritual journey in this life and that I could continue my filal piety. Though You might have few left in states looking forward to, You gained many devoted students and loyal friends with some as close as family members already in Malaysia.
Your story and spiritual journey have been miraculously inspiring and motivating with many, astonishingly willing to follow……
Keeping You in my prayers always,
Tenzin Thokpa
After watching the 2 videos here, it pains me to think that Rinpoche had not been home ie. New Jersey since the day you decided to be a monk. Now that Rinpoche had visited your old home, did you discover the fact that your mum had actually approved you being a monk and was totally happy with that before her passing.
I think this meant a whole lot to Rinpoche deep down and discovered the fact after so many years of wondering. If you had not gone back to your old home and knocked on the door, you wouldn’t have known that. I rejoice for you for you deserve peace and happiness, just like everyone else.
It must be both surreal and moving for Rinpoche to be walking among the tombstones, with his parents and relations (who were once alive and with whom he was very close) now lying beneath the ground he was walking on.Everything spelt and ‘screamed’ IMPERMANENCE.
The most beautiful thing that happened was that Rinpoche’s mum, in the end, accepted that he had become a monk and she WAS PROUD OF HIM BECOMING A MONK!
I felt so much more from this post from Rinpoche than many other posts. Thank you for sharing Rinpoche. I’m so glad you got to be in America again and reconnecting with your self.
The cemetery was indeed a most serene setting… calm and peaceful. It was very poignant for Rinpoche I am sure as the last time Rinpoche saw his parents they were still very much alive. And even through it all, Rinpoche returns as a devoted son and does a puja just for them! I am very touched and speechless!
One correction. It is not Uncle Bomba – it should be spelled Badma which should mean Padma. I can spell russian 😉 The name of his wife is Stefanya.
Dear Martin,
Thank you. But I will stick to Bomba because his proper name could have been Badma, but we were always told to call him Uncle Bomba. We use to spell it to each other that way also.
For example, my father’s proper name was Buertsche but everyone called him Boris and all the kids called him Uncle Boris. And it is the first time I’ve seen his name spelled this way as a matter of fact. 🙂 As to Uncle Bomba’s wife, we use to call her Chocha. I am glad to know her proper name is Stafanya. Everyone called her Chocha.
I wish I can read Russian. Many Kalmuks are fluent in reading, speaking and writing Russian and many also in Yugoslavian. Thanks for your care and translation of Russian. Very kind of you.
Tsem Rinpoche
Thank you, dear Rinpoche. Another way of spelling her name and may be more proper is “Stefania”. I checked it in Google translate. Please excuse me if I misled you.
Dear Rinpoche,
Will you be giving any teachings while you are in America? I have been reading and following your teachings online for many years now and have always hoped to travel to Kechara to meet you one day. May your travels be safe and filled with joy.
Many Many Thanks!
-Jessie French
Dear Jessie, I appreciate your learning of Dharma. I really appreciate your exploration of the meaning of your precious life in regards to Dharma. Please keep up your practice. Keep your your studies and please apply it. I sincerely encourage you.
I haven’t any plans for teachings in America so far.
Thank you. Tsem Rinpoche