Do I Irk You?

Jul 1, 2016 | Views: 697

(By Tsem Rinpoche)

All of us gets irked when someone says or does something that we do not like… but have we ever thought deeper as to why it irks us? Why do certain comments immediately bother us? Why do some people get irked so easily… and everything that you say, they immediately take offense and get defensive?

I gave a short teaching to a few of my students in Kechara Forest Retreat. I told 4 of my students who were at the teaching, to do a short write up on what they understood. Their sharing comes from different perspectives… and I hope that you will benefit from it.

Do read what my students have understood about the subject of ‘being irked’… and share in the comments section what you have learnt.

Tsem Rinpoche

 


 

When we irk someone, what are we “saying”?

by Andrew James Boon

Why is it that every time someone points out our faults, we automatically get all defensive? To me, being defensive is to consciously or subconsciously acknowledge that there is a fault and we want to hide or deflect it – basically, how much a person reacts or does not react depends on whether the person has an issue with what was said. This pointing out of our faults is irking. Hence this teaching is on what irks someone and when it is right to do so and when it is not.

Some variations in the reactions when one is irked can be summarized as follows:

  1. To be reflective and look into oneself, to see it as constructive criticism.
  2. To be indifferent or have no reaction.
  3. To be frustrated and walk away and to run from the situation.
  4. To be unbelieving to the point of being vindictive.

Very simply, to irk someone is to provoke a thought/reaction whether negative or positive to trigger what is actually bothering them, which inevitably “opens” up something for them to eventually heal. Of course the intentions of the giver are equally important to the reaction of the receiver.

How we recognize that we are trying to help the receiver and not just irk them for the sake of provocation depends on the motivation behind it. This we can easily check by seeing if we do it at the expense of our own personal expression and how the person would view us. For example, how we would point out another’s apparent fault knowing that we would not be viewed positively by that person after the fact, but we do it anyway because we sincerely want them to see the error in their ways or manner, and this is more important than how they view us.

Ultimately we all suffer and whether we want to irk or are constantly irked depends on the issues that are buried within us and why it hurts us.

If we are in a situation where we find ourselves irked constantly out of genuine care, look not at merely how it feels to be irked but the motivation behind it. Deal with the issues that have been kindly pointed out before you lose the people kind enough to bring it up to you at all, at the expense of them looking bad to you in your eyes.

At the end of the day, it has to be how consistent we are in our actions and that is a gauge to how consistent we are in whether or not people around us tend to have to remind us. And how we view that reminder is a clear indication of why we are inconsistent.

Hence always look within ourselves before we make any judgment or accusation and with that clarity then, only can we focus out.

 


 

DO I BOTHER YOU?

by Khong Jean Ai

From time to time, Rinpoche will join us in our writers’ meetings on Manjushri Hill at Kechara Forest Retreat. Like every time you see your lama, it is always a special event as wherever Rinpoche goes, Rinpoche always gives Dharma teachings. On this occasion, it was no exception and Rinpoche spoke about the benefits of being irked.

One of the verses in the Nine Attitudes of Guru Devotion reads: “That of a domestic dog. Like a loyal dog, even when the Guru ridicules, irritates or ignores you, one never responds with anger” and there is a very good reason why that verse was included.

Rinpoche spoke about irking from the point-of-view of the provoker and the receiver. On the part of the provoker, Rinpoche said that lamas care for their students so much, that they will do anything to train their students, even at the risk of their own reputations. After all, if we seek to protect our own reputation, then our Dharma work is no longer spiritual practice, but an action stained by the eight worldly concerns.

That lamas train their students arises from their Bodhisattva practice, whereby they vow to disregard how people view them or do to them. Our lamas take the risk that their actions may, in the short term, lead their students to dislike them but in the long term, have something fruition in their students’ minds which might not otherwise have.

Oftentimes this training is misunderstood by the laity as being overly wrathful, callous or even dangerous. From the side of the lama however, the action is always to help the student. This recalls teachings that Rinpoche has previously given about how we can identify a real, authentic lama. Rinpoche said that if a lama is out to benefit themselves, then they wouldn’t train their students and wouldn’t push their buttons at the risk of driving them away. In fact, fake lamas will be ‘yes’ men, always agreeing with their students and boosting their egos so that their students never leave and they (the lama) can continue to benefit from the student-teacher relationship.

Rinpoche also spoke about the topic of being irked from the perspective of the receiver. Rinpoche said that there are four types of reaction:–

  1. the person who openly and happily accepts the training,
  2. the person who has some doubts but ultimately accepts the training,
  3. the person who is overwhelmed with doubts and constantly entertains the thought of quitting, and
  4. the person who actually quits. This also includes people who are ambivalent and have no reaction at all.

Rinpoche said that ultimately, a person cannot be irked on anything if they do not already have the issue in them. To be irked is to have a reaction, and to have a reaction is to be emotionally engaged in the issue. Therefore, Rinpoche said, how much an issue bothers us is how much of a guilt trip we have about it. So perhaps our lama is always pointing out that we are too focused on relationships, and kindly advises us on equanimity and the benefits of not being attached. Different people will react to the same advice differently. Perhaps for some people, the teaching strikes a chord and leads them to develop some kind of realisation of emptiness (Person #1).

In others however, perhaps the teaching leads them to react negatively and assume that the lama is attacking them and what they want (Person #3 or #4). So then they hide what they are doing, because they know it is wrong but they still want it anyway. They label the lama as cruel, controlling or not understanding of how they feel.

Rinpoche said that such a reaction (to label the lama) is really the person’s attempts to make themselves feel better, so they do not have to deal with the issue at the moment. However, eventually they will have to deal with the issue and sometimes, when the “pressure” becomes too great because they cannot accept the reality of their situation, they quit to prove that the world is wrong, instead of proving that they are wrong.

This kind of avoidance, Rinpoche explained, can lead one to become bitter over the years. When we avoid good advice because we don’t want our buttons to be pushed, it is because we know what is wrong with ourselves but we don’t want people to talk about it or expose it. After many years of avoidance, naturally we will end up alone, bitter and angry at ourselves for not having done anything about our negative habits sooner.

Rinpoche said that we should deal with our issues before we run away or lose the people who are kind enough to uncover it inside of us, because they give up since their words fall on deaf ears. For now, we might avoid our issues by focusing on our wealth, beauty, power, etc. However, those qualities are impermanent and subject to our karma to acquire and maintain them. One day, when they leave us (beauty definitely will, with age!), we will be left with nothing but regrets for not having focused on the right things when we were younger. Rinpoche put this very succinctly in saying, “Don’t use the present comforts to shelter your environment and what you need to deal with inside of you.”

Rinpoche also used weight as an example of how we may react negatively to people’s good intentions. Perhaps we are always being told that we are fat and at risk of many medical problems. Instead of doing something about it (Person #1), we choose to ignore the giver’s good intentions and get annoyed with them instead (Person #3 or #4). We label the giver a “sizeist”, “misinformed” or perhaps even delude ourselves into thinking we are healthy. How much can we avoid though, by running away or labelling people? The problem of our weight does not go away simply because we ignore our loved ones’ advice and in the future, a doctor may tell us the same and we will have to deal with the issue then.

Acknowledging that not everyone has good intentions, Rinpoche said sometimes people do have a bad motivation, and will attempt to irk us just for the fun of it (or whatever their reasons are). However, as receivers, we should apply this teaching to ourselves so that we recognise when people are being kind to us and advising us. Instead of running or emotionally avoiding people who love us, we should take a step back and examine the content of their advice, rather than the tone.

Rinpoche also advised us not to focus on those people’s motivations, but instead focus on why their advice irks us. Why are we irked by their advice? Is there truth in what they say? Then regardless of how the advice was given to us, we still have a problem within us and since we are the one who suffers, why would we not want to do something about it and change ourselves?

When we accept advice from those with bad intentions, Rinpoche said that there’s every possibility we may get hurt. However, if we do not have any issues, then whatever people say will not irk us. Therefore Rinpoche advised us to objectively examine any advice we are given, regardless of its motivation, and then to work on ourselves. Doing so is only to our benefit – if the advice is valid (regardless of its motivation), then as we work on ourselves we become better people. In becoming better people, we will gradually have fewer issues with which people can irk us with.

To accept advice, Rinpoche said, would be to practise mind training and the Eight Verses of Thought Transformation, especially the verse which reads:-

Whenever I am with others,
I will practise seeing myself as the lowest of all,
And from the very depths of my heart
I will respectfully hold others as supreme

Rinpoche acknowledged that sometimes the giver can also be irked. Therefore, we should examine the reasons why we are giving the advice. Are we giving the advice for the benefit of the other person? Or to look kindly and good? If the receiver is being blasé about the advice and it bothers us, it means we have an issue – our issue is that people do not take our advice! Therefore Rinpoche advised we should work on that issue first, until it does not bother us anymore, before we try to help others.

Or perhaps sometimes we are the kind of people who irks others as soon as they see us. Perhaps we are busybodies, the do-gooders who stick our noses into every situation to see where we can lend our two cents’ worth…or so people claim we are! Or perhaps – more realistically! – we are the kind of people who have so many issues, that the mere sight of us compels other people to have to say something. If our presence irks people in this way, we must therefore contemplate why it does that and change those elements of our minds. As Rinpoche has previously taught, it cannot be that everybody is wrong about us, and only we are right about ourselves!

We should also recognise that not everyone may be intellectually, emotionally or karmically ready to receive our advice. Sometimes people will shut off and not have a reaction. On our part, we interpret their non-reaction as being blasé or ambivalent about our kindness towards them. Rinpoche explained that their non-reaction (i.e. not being irked) is actually still a reaction. It is a psychological reaction for them to ignore the advice because they are not ready for it.

Understanding that, instead of becoming irked because people are blasé about the help we give them, we should learn to practise yet another of the Eight Verses of Thought Transformation:-

When someone I have benefited and in whom
I have placed great trust hurts me very badly,
I will practise seeing that person
As my supreme teacher.

As the giver and receiver therefore, we can always learn from how we react and how others react to us. Rinpoche pointed out that as we grow up, the people who irk us the most are our parents, our teachers and our partners. However, although they irk us by pointing out what we should improve on, we know that if we do choose to improve ourselves, they will always be there to catch and support us if we fail. Using Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) as an example of a support group, Rinpoche asked us to consider whether alcoholism is easier to deal with as an individual, or with the support of the AA group? If we fail to remain teetotal whilst in the AA programme, we will more than likely find it impossible to abstain from alcohol when we are not in the programme.

In the same way, our Guru irks us to enlightenment, and pushes our buttons towards self-improvement. However, he also provides the support we need should we stumble. This part of the teaching led me to recall something else Rinpoche had talked about many years ago. Rinpoche at the time had said if what he taught was striking a nerve in us, and making us feel uncomfortable, then we had a problem with that particular issue. The discomfort was a manifestation of our guilt, and indicated that there was an issue that we needed to deal with. However, Rinpoche created a Dharma centre so that we had somewhere safe to go to, to deal with our problems.

Rinpoche said what he was talking about – opening up oneself to the training of the lama – is not unusual. Even with Western psychiatric and psychological treatments, a patient will trust in their doctor’s degree, let their guard down, take refuge in their doctor’s methods and open themselves up to the treatment. However, whilst Western treatments only deal with the symptom of the problem, Dharma has the advantage of allowing us to create merit so that we experience that causes in future lifetimes to continue treating our own minds. Dharma also attacks the root causes of why we have issues that irk others, thereby removing the symptoms of our behaviour which irks others.

How do we practise Dharma so that we are no longer irked by others, and others no longer irk us? With consistency and practice. Rinpoche said not being consistent will hold us back in our practice, because we can never develop and move on from the same point. To check how consistent we are, we look at how many times people remind us about things. If people are consistently reminding us that we are sloppy, lazy, angersome, envious, etc., then we must seriously consider that they are telling us the truth and that we have to do something about it. Furthermore, how we view our reminders is indicative of how big the issue continues to be for us. If we continue to react negatively, then we have not yet dealt with our issues effectively.

 


 

Irked Into Transformation

by Martin Chow

A while ago, Tsem Rinpoche gave us a very important teaching at Manjushri Hill. As usual Rinpoche’s Dharma talk is multi-dimensioned and covered quite a number of topics. But for me, I took the teaching to be quite relevant to an extremely important training for our spiritual path. It is one that many have struggled with because the training itself is counter-intuitive to our deeply samsarically self-centric mind and yet it is one that all practitioners need to master in order to progress. That puts us in a dilemma and this very dilemma is in fact (once we come to understand) necessary in order for us to grow.

Rinpoche’s talk, in essence, significantly touched on the 8 Verses Of Mind Transformation, and goes on to explain (i) why some people seem to go out of their way to irk us, (ii) why we can become irked by certain things and people, (iii) how we can deal with criticism and feedback, (iv) and why we are irked to begin with.

To elaborate:

(i) The people who irk us – The Giver (of the criticism or feedback)

The Giver’s role is important because the Giver brings to the surface some of our issues that have managed to stay hidden due to the highly specialised ability of the self-centric mind to avoid blame, shame and any sort of discomfort, and instead seek fame and praise and cozy situations that do not challenge our fragile egos.

The Giver may be someone who cares for us genuinely and would risk our negative reaction to the giver’s feedback/criticisms. Givers can be our parents, spouse or true friends who see the need to intervene in a personal issue that is not doing us any good.

In the case of Dharma students, our Guru may assume the role of an active Giver so that we can expose and confront the state of our mind that is full of attachments. This is an act of kindness because the Guru knows that our attachments which has the Self as the reference, is what takes us deeper into our deluded states. If our deluded minds have built walls behind which we hide, then the Guru’s job is to remove the walls and pull us out of our comfort zones.

For example, if I have an attachment to the way I look, to certain insecurities and I am particularly sensitive to statements about my height, the Guru may consciously keep referring to how sensitive I am about my height and even constantly point out how short I am. Under normal circumstances I will avoid anyone who does that but because I cannot avoid my Guru, I am forced to deal with the issue. And the issue is not my height in fact, but the hang-ups that I have with my height which might be rooted into something more such as deep insecurities and such like that reinforces the ego.

The Guru may raise issues that upset and irk us knowing that we are being forced to confront our issues within an environment where there is support around so that we are better able to deal with it. However, sometimes the student may not even be able to take criticisms from the Guru and may run away. Even with the risk, the Guru will still assume the role of the Giver because at least the issue will be brought out into the open and may be dealt with in time. As long as the issue stays hidden, it cannot be dealt with. What drives the Guru is Compassion and the motivation of the Guru is that of a Bodhisattva and so the Guru’s objective is to open up the issue so that it may heal eventually.

And from that perspective, apart from the Guru, even we ourselves can assume the role of a Giver with a Bodhicitta mind and compassionately irk someone in order to help the person. At times, we hold back from saying something or giving a negative feedback to friends and colleagues because we are more concerned about keeping our good relations with them, than we are for their improvement and eventual liberation from their attachments. On this point, it should be clear that we make much more effort to correct and improve people we treasure more than others. On this we should train ourselves to have a Bodhicitta’s equilibrium and wish upon everyone around us, the same liberation from their attachments.

 

(ii) We become irked – The Receiver

Rinpoche pointed out that there are a few ways the Receiver can respond to feedback or criticisms:

(a) if the Receiver has faith in the Giver, e.g. if we have faith in Rinpoche and we trust in Rinpoche’s intentions and methods, we may act on the feedback and start addressing the hang-ups;

(b) the Receiver is affected by what the Giver said/did, but then decides to think about the objective of the Giver. Eventually the Receiver sees the Giver’s kindness and then begins to deal with the issue;

(c) the third possible response is a variation of (b) but after getting upset the Receiver fails to see the kind intentions behind the Giver’s feedback or the Receiver’s ego takes over and gets the better of him, and he decides to cut off any dealings with the Giver.

(d) The Receiver rejects the feedback and becomes antagonistic and begins to create dissension and chaos within the ranks of the Giver. This may be to throw attention away from the Receiver’s own failings and instead turn it into someone else’s misgivings.

How the Receiver reacts is a very good indication of his state of mind and also how deep the issue is, and how much he suffers from his attachment to self/delusion. However the Receiver reacts, the fact that he reacts means that there is an issue to begin with. To use the earlier example about a person’s sensitivity about his height, that a person has reacted to statements of his height is a sure sign that there is an issue. Whereas someone who does not suffer the same or similar insecurity would not have any reaction to statements made of his height.

There are cases where a Receiver displays no reaction whatsoever and this can be due to a number of reasons: it could be that the issue is the result of a trauma and the Receiver has been shocked into paralysis and has become numb to feedback or it could be the Receiver showing stubborn bravado or defiance. Even in such cases, the Giver must still exercise compassionate feedback and criticism and in that way the issue is brought out in the open for the Receiver to deal with. It is always better to expose the issue than to keep it hidden.

Then Rinpoche spoke about why we become irked when criticized, teased or given a negative feedback:

 

(iii) The problems were there in the first place

The reason we are irked is the very reason we need to practice Mind Transformation. In samsara, our thoughts and actions are driven by the three poisons and our attachment. As such, the basis of all our thoughts and actions, our dreams and hopes is the Self, our Self. Whatever we do has to benefit ourselves directly, indirectly, subtly or overtly. Similarly, we avoid anything that is adverse to us, and this includes criticisms or anything at all that has the danger of undermining our state of perceived confidence and happiness. In that way, a lot of issues that stop us from progressing stay hidden.

We learn to look after ourselves and in fact we even glorify those who have managed to look after themselves well, be it financially, physically, aesthetically, in their jobs, and more. Samsara glorifies those who glorify themselves. And with the “good” of Self being the primary focus we naturally get drawn to people and things which we perceive will be “good” for the Self and we avoid people and situations that are “bad” for the Self or makes the Self feel uncomfortable and insecure and less than it perceives itself to be. Therefore we avoid people whom we think do not like us. Their dislike of us is not conducive to a self that has to be looked after and feel good.

But the focus on the Self is more harmful that we can ever imagine. The more the focus, the stronger our attachments become. Attachments cannot exist if there is an absence of a realization and deep appreciation of the Self. And it is the attachments that take us away from Bodhicitta. The focus on the Self is an anti-thesis of the development of Bodhicitta, one of the two pre-requisites without which enlightenment cannot occur.

The 8 Verses of Mind Training tells us to prioritize others, regard ourselves as the lowest of everyone around us, accept defeat even in situations where we normally do not have to, take upon ourselves the sufferings of others and more instructions that are self-neglecting in character. The question is whether the average practitioner will have the discipline and wisdom to do what is extremely counter-intuitive and the answer is probably ‘No’. And this is where the Guru enters, to seize on the right opportunities for us to practice mind transformation or the Guru may even create a situation where we can practice. In the absence of the Guru we would normally avoid situations where we will have the opportunity to practice.

However, with the Guru’s training, we begin to identify our reaction to negative feedback as something to do with our ego and our attachments, and not the Giver.

 

(iv) Dealing with the Problem: Gratitude and Diluting

Firstly, we have to acknowledge that the problem/issue is with us to begin with. It is not the Giver who gave us the problem or issue, rather the Giver exposed the problem.

Regardless of the objective of the Giver, whether it is out of kindness or nastiness (some Givers criticize with the objective to hurt) we need to come to a few important realizations, namely it exposes an issue that is personal to us and nothing to do with the Giver. And therefore it would be wise for us to focus on the issue/problem rather than the Giver and our reaction to the Giver.

If the Giver is our Guru our someone close to us, we must realize that the feedback is done out of compassion, love and without any ill will. The immediate reaction should be Gratitude. And especially if the feedback is from our Guru and within the sphere of support of the Dharma family, then it is an opportunity to deal with an issue while we still have the support. Such an opportunity does not come by readily because out there most people do not care enough to want to see us transform and improve.

Having Gratitude prepares us to deal with our issues, with our strength being bolstered by the compassion of the Giver and support group rather than how upset and hurt we are by the feedback. Rinpoche specifically mentioned that some of the issues may be too difficult to deal with easily and the solution is to dilute it continuously and progressively. Rinpoche used an example of a barrel that is thick with dirt at the bottom such that we cannot get rid of the filth easily. The way to deal with this filth is to keep pouring in clean water, to continuously flush and thin-out the dirt and see them dislodge slowly but surely. Similarly if some of the issues, hang-ups and attachments that we suffer from are too deep-seated, then we have to dilute the problem by doing more Dharma work. By keeping up with our sadhanas diligently and by doing more and more Dharma work as it is these virtuous deeds that create the merits for us to have clarity of wisdom, strength of will and the kind support of others to deal with the various issues and transform the mind.

 


 

Do I Irk You?

by Sarah Yap

In some point in life, we have all been irked before. It could be by our parents, our teachers and even our friends. Society has taught us to put ourselves on a golden pedestal, to be adored and loved despite our shortcomings, but we were never taught to reflect, and take a good look at ourselves. Perhaps when someone actually irks us, it is due to the destruction of our self-created image in our mind. The ‘person’ in us that we feel is perfect and untarnished, is now in grave danger of being deflated that we react in anger, rejecting the ‘danger’ in a variety of ways.

To understand the very reason the receiver can be irked, we must establish the fact that the only reason why a person can be angered is because the very question that is put forward to them, is in actuality true, and they are in denial. They refuse to face the truth and they refuse to change. If the problem was not in us, it cannot anger us but merely fly past us as an irrelevant statement. Take for example, if I weigh 45 kgs and someone calls me fat, I would merely laugh at that statement for it is untrue. On the other hand, if I weigh 80 kgs, and people call me a fat person, it will be an issue to me because I know that is the fact, and if I cannot accept my weight; then I would turn bitter and angry.

Supposing that the problem is within us, and when a person questions us, and it brings about in us a feeling of anger as the receiver, we should observe the reaction we display towards the giver. The larger, the more aggressive and the more damaging our reaction is towards ourselves, reflects on how large the issue is within us, and with that the duration of time which we may need to overcome this problem. If you only have a small patch of mud to clear off from the road, it would obviously be quicker compared to a mountain of mud, similarly, the larger the issue is in us, the longer it will take to overcome it.

People can be irked in many levels. Some people may not be comfortable with it, but take it as advice. Some people may give you a funny face, think about it, and then place the possibility of the issue is indeed true in them. Some people may get angry, and dislike you for that statement. Some people may get so irked that they refuse to be in contact with you, change their telephone numbers and address, and never want to see you again. Depending on the level of their anger, the issue may take just hours or years to resolve. However, if one is so lucky to be irked by a person with a Bodhisattva motivation, it will eventually open up their mind to be more receptive and accepting as the motivation behind the ‘hurtful’ comments was for the receiver’s benefit, and not the giver. How do we know if the giver comes with a Bodhisattva’s motivation? When regardless of our reaction, the giver never deters as their action was void of the 8 worldly concerns.

However, regardless of the giver’s motivation, be it from a Bodhisattva’s motivation or from a samsaric motivation, what is most important is ‘Why are you so repulsed by the words that came out of their mouth?’ Ultimately it is not difficult to see that the issue is within us, and never the giver. Once again, take the example of me being 80 kgs. If I am repulsed by being told about my weight, it doesn’t matter if a person is telling me for my good health or if the person is trying to make fun of me, I would be equally irked by both despite their motivation.

So, having understood the reason of why we are irked and that the issues we have presently in us is doing no good for us, how do we ride on the path of healing and happiness?

The fail proof way to overcome our issues is to have gratitude. It is not easy to tell off or say something bad about a person we love or care for; it truly is difficult. Think of the times when you have so hesitantly and with the deepest heartache, told off your family member on their poor conduct. Be grateful that you have someone who would point out the truth to you.

Why must we deal with our issues instead of staying in our comfort zone? Most importantly, we should express gratitude towards the person who has shown us the truth, and we appreciate them enough to deal with our issues so we do not lose them. Our comfort zone is not permanent, and it can be taken away from us unexpectedly at any time. At that time, we may have to face our issues under more difficult conditions, so it’s better if we deal with our issues while we can have so much more meaning to do it.

There some cases however, when dealing with the issue would be too complicated, or we lack the wisdom to move forward. In the event of such issues, we can dilute the problems by being extremely consistent with our sadhana, dharma work, and always stay silent. We should not talk about our issues and try to find the non-existing loophole to get out of it falsely as it would damage us further. After all, if talking can resolve all our problems, we would all talk ourselves to enlightenment!

As a last piece of advice, be fearless in making yourself a better person. Do not fear change. Change is inevitable and fear is an illusion, you can’t be afraid for something that may or may not come to pass. In short, if you’re unhappy about something, then change it. If you can’t change it, then change your attitude. Don’t complain.

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  1. Yee Yin on Nov 26, 2018 at 10:07 am

    Thank you for sharing this article on how compassionate our guru is that he will risk his reputation to save the student. Reputation, money, praise, etc., are not important to a guru. What is important to the guru is the spiritual progress of the student.

    Once we have established a teacher and student relationship with our guru, he takes up the responsibility to guide us until we achieve enlightenment. His promise to guide us is not limited to this life but in all our future lives. He is more important than our parents. Our relationship with our parents is only for this life and so is their responsibility for us. Our parents provide us our secular needs while our guru has a bigger responsibility of guiding us to enlightenment.

    It depends on the karma of the students, sometime the guru has to use a very wrathful method to wake the students up from their delusion. The guru might manifest anger and irritation, but this manifestation is out of compassion. The guru only has love for the students, never hatred. Once the students transform, the guru is always ready to give more love and care to the students. Mind transformation is the key to repair the samaya and to be closer to the guru.

    When we are in the situation where our guru manifests anger or unhappiness towards us, never ever doubt the good intention of our guru. It is our own delusion that creates the cause for our guru to show anger. We must transform and change for our own benefit. It might take times to change but in the process of changing, never have negative view on our guru. Always remember his kindness, this will help us through.

  2. so kin hoe (KISG) on Jul 21, 2018 at 11:48 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for teaching us the Dharma and thank you Andrew James Boon, Pastor Khong Jean Ai, Martin Chow and Sarah Yap for writing and compiling the article upon receiving the teaching from Rinpoche about the benefits of being irked and how should we accept the state of being irked constructively and beneficially. According to Cambridge Dictionary, the meaning of irk is causing one’s feelings of anger and displeasure. I believe every lay people has been irked before and it is very common for most people to react so called ‘fairly’ against any comment given to them with the reasons of they own their personalities, their status, their appearances, their way of thinking, their way of working things out and everything about themselves, and hence, no one can judge them differently before getting their consensus. In short, we should not protect our ego and our self-centered mind if we sincerely want to progress in Dharma by practicing The 8 Verses of Thought Transformation by Geshe Langri Tangpa.

    I personally had a very bad experience about myself when previously I was easily irked and provoked into anger whenever I heard any negative comments about me. After learning from one of my seniors in one of the Dharma sharing sessions, I have learned that by taking meat, one can easily get angry whenever one is being provoked or given any negative comment mainly because the meat contains the adrenaline, which is a chemical released by the animals in their bodies when they are being killed alive. Hence, I started to take less meat gradually at that time, until I have become a full time vegetarian few years ago. Currently, I can observe myself not to get irked or angry easily each time I receive any comments, which contradict to my own values of life. However, I am still learning and practicing to become mindful with my thoughts if my thoughts contradict to the Buddha’s teachings each time I receive any comments from the people around me including strangers.

    I am fortunate enough to have subordinates working together in my current work place and there was one time where I asked about my weaknesses from my subordinates during the year-end appraisal. Indeed I did receive negative comments about me from my subordinates and it really hurt me deep down into my heart. Nevertheless, after listening to them, I slowly learned from my past weaknesses and trying to close most of the gaps as much as I could with my current subordinates as well as other colleagues in my work place. It was never easy to admit our own mistakes and weaknesses in front of anyone but it really can help us to progress in any worldly or spiritual activities constructively and positively. As an analogy, we can apply a pinch of salt onto our wound and that will give us tremendous pain in the first place, but later on the wound will recover quicker than before. Similarly in Dharma practice, if there is someone to point out our mistake or weakness, we should apply patience and mindfulness to evaluate if that comment given to us is valid or otherwise, we must never give offence but to calm down our mind and realize that one day we will leave our physical human body and only our mind will travel to next rebirth. Hence, it is important to tame our mind and practise mind training to be kinder and more compassionate increasingly day by day before we are running out of time at the point of death.

    May all sentient beings never be parted from Dharma practice until samsara ends.

    Humbly with folded hands,
    kin hoe

  3. Pastor Adeline on Jan 20, 2018 at 11:03 am

    Religion is the results of our practise. We choose a religion due to the blessings that led us on to the right path. The path is filled with Dharma that we apply in order for a complete turnabout of our attitude and the way we see things to happen. This would mean whatever that irks us, will no longer have an effect on us. The beauty of applying the Dharma and treating the Dharma as personal advice for us, help us to clear the irk worms that have been bred out of control before we meet the Dharma. These worms are vicious, vindictive, harmful, envious, arrogant, greedy, furious, ignorant, doubtful, and etc. that are bred by the negative thoughts, experiences and perceptions we had for as long as we live. The mind is so used to them to the point to believe that the (our) reality is pure negative.

    When we come to the Dharma, having given the knowledge and guidance by our compassionate and kind Guru who finds ways to help us with our transformation, to constantly give love and care while exposing our irk worms skilfully and creatively, we should be grateful and appreciative the kindness by transforming our mind. We might not like the methods the Guru use, but we can be assured that the motivation behind is of the purest and highest for our ultimate enlightenment. The Guru’s ‘job’ is to help us to liberate us from ourselves – the self that never existed but overwhelmingly coated with irk worms.

    When we have the blessings to meet the Dharma that is skillfully presented to us by our Guru, the moment we step into the Guru’s mandala, he or she is already paving the path for irk worms’ exposition in order for us to heal from our delusional mind. It is, therefore, our matter to deal with when we are irked. Instead of spending all energies into defending and justifying, we internalized the Dharma and cooperate with our Guru to cleanse the irk worms from our mind permanently.

  4. Julia Tan on Jan 19, 2018 at 12:06 pm

    I was born in a condition where I am hardly irked by others. Until one day I met my Guru and that’s when my spiritual journey started.

    It was so hard to accept for being irked, need not talk about contemplate or reflecting myself. I was so defensive and rude with all types of funny reactions. U named it I have done it… 🤣 I have done damages to others and myself due to my frustration, anger and huge ego. Now when I think of it, I am grateful to my Guru and my dharma siblings who always by my side irking me without giving up on me.

    Pls continue to irk me… I thank you for irking me so that I can improve and be perfect one day. 🙏🏻

  5. Tek Lee on Jan 18, 2018 at 1:31 am

    This is a very powerful article and teaching that let us contemplate on ourselves. When we feel irked, the problem actually raised from ourselves. Why do we feel irked? Is it because what other people pointed out hit right on my mistake, I can’t accept it, is it because I have ego? Ignorance? Or attachment? Or, to many Chinese, “loose face”. It’s a good topic to contemplate on. In many cases, we might feel irked in the first place when others pointed out our mistake, or irritate us. But we need to sit down and contemplate in the end of the day, why are we irked in the first place? Ever since read the story about Atisha’s cook, I always remind myself whenever I feel that others irk me. Those who irk me, are my “Gurus” who help us to train our mind. 🙏

  6. Jacinta Goh on Jan 17, 2018 at 5:24 pm

    The receiver: I’ve learnt that the issue of being ïrk”by someone’s remark or advice do not depend solely on the giver side, but more from our side(receiver) and how do we deal with it. Even given the fact that the giver has the meanest motivation in giving the advice, we should examine on why we are being”hurt”by the advice? Hence, what we can do is to constantly examine ourselves why the advice irk us in the first place and then take action; whether to heed the advice given, gradually improving ourselves or to treat it as it is. I do think having the wisdom is important in this case. With the help from Dharma, hopefully we can deal with this issue better over time.

    As giver, I feel that as parents, we can give certain advises more openly to our children or the one who are close to us rather than being in the position as friends, relatives or etc. The thought of jeopardizing the relationship is usually the foremost important point to consider when giving advice. Besides Rinpoche or Guru, I don’t think someone can give the best advice as usually it will be stained with 8 worldly Dharma.

    Thank You Rinpoche

  7. Pastor Chia on Jan 17, 2018 at 8:45 am

    This is powerful teaching to test our dharma practice when someone irk your mind and how react and respond. Having say that is not easy for control your mind when your anger raise up, we only protect our own ego to defense.

    Our lama are very kind to point out our mistake and weak point. When his challenge our ego, if we fight back by justify it, we can notice clear how our mind operate with self central mind. We need trust and have faith to our lama you care for you so much for you to realise and transform. It take year of practice guru devotion to realise how compassinate our lama.

  8. Pastor Antoinette on Jan 17, 2018 at 8:36 am

    Being irked is something we don’t like to experience. Yet, in the case when people who know us very well point out something we don’t like we can have different reactions and don’t necessarily need to feel irked. In the end, our own reaction to what was said tells us a lot about ourselves.

    When our teacher exposes something about us, it may be that we don’t like it but our teacher has always the best intention and he points this out because it is a big obstacle on our way to betterment. When we remember that nobody else will fight in such a way against our negativities and therefore it is a very precious teaching and it is best for us to work on what was exposed to us.

  9. June Kang on Jan 17, 2018 at 8:17 am

    When reading this article, it came to my mind is how much Dharma you practice. We all know that our main focus of our spiritual practice is to benefit others. if we can’t improve ourselves and become more better person, this would also limit us to benefit others. Therefore, i always has to remind myself check my motivation when you can’t accept others advise and feel irk, it is always true enough i have a wrong motivation at the very beginning stage . The process of going through all this is suffer when motivation is wrong. If we have the motivation to benefit others, we do not feel this is “irk” but instead feel happy to receiving it.

  10. Justin Cheah on Jan 17, 2018 at 1:42 am

    This teaching is powerful because it points all the problems arises from oneself. It does make me think deeper into the source of all problems are ignorance and ultimately only Dharma can cure our very own problems. We should not be pointing problems to others but reflect what we could have done wrong to be in one position and one problem. I always use this terminology; when your young child fell down out of carelessness, You hit the floor (blame it on the floor) in order to make it look like the floor was responsible for making your child fell just to make your child feel better. Very wrong way of teaching your child.

  11. Andrea Lai on Jan 17, 2018 at 1:23 am

    This article is a good teaching for us to always remember the kindness of our Guru. We should be very grateful to our Guru who endlessly finding ways, ideas, methods to teach us. Many of us will react negatively due to our wrong perception, our pride, ego, ignorance and it may become worst if our mind is not transformed. Regardless is our Guru or whoever that tirelessly or patiently advice or pushing our buttons, we ought to accept and follow. It is very good to practice the eight verses of thoughts transformation in our daily life. Consistency is the key.

  12. Pastor Henry Ooi on Jan 16, 2018 at 10:56 pm

    The summary by Pastor Jean Ai of Rinpoche’s teaching of this topic formed the framework for discussion among the Kechara Forest Retreat Team and guests. This teaching makes me reflect why and what irk me and the answers are found in this article. Ultimately it points back to myself, not at someone else or something else. Not the bad traffic, the bad weather, the bad food and bad service and all those things I perceive and project as bad.

  13. nichlolas on Jan 16, 2018 at 10:51 pm

    We are lucky in Kechara to have Rinpoche to guide us and help us to get rid of our attachement which is one of the fundamental core problem that causes our suffering. Rinpoche tirelessly finding effective ways to help us just for us to transform our mind for better. Rinpoche would even risk his reputation to make us realise our problem and at the same time provide guidance and support to help us change. It’s a great opportunity and one should have gratitude for this.

    Anyone can easily irk us in anyway but we should be the one reflect on the matter being said not the way how they said. We should check our mind and reflect and change.

    I know it’s easier said than done but we don’t continuously remind ourselves and be consistent in our work we will never move to another steps. This is really a great article for us to reflect and change with consistency.

  14. Vivian Ong on Jan 16, 2018 at 10:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for this teaching. It is always easier said than done. But if we want to progress in our spiritual practice we need to learn to accept that there is problem in us and we need to address it. Our Guru is the one most kind and compassionate enough to point out our problems so that we can tackle it before it gets too hard to handle. Getting angry or irritated with people who pointed out our problems will only create more negative karma for ourselves. The 8 verses of mind transformation is good practice to tackle our problems for eg. ego, desire, etc.

  15. pammie yap on Jan 16, 2018 at 9:12 pm

    A Guru is just like our parents. Whatever they do is for the best so that we will be a better person with no ulterior motives. I am thankful to have caring Guru and parents doing that for me. Being a parent myself, I totally understand the motivation for it. When I scold my kids, I do it because I want them to know their faults and although they don’t like it, they’d accept it because I take time to explain to them logically and thoughtfully just like what our Guru does.
    But being a Guru is much harder, having so many students with so many different characters. It is definitely not easy therefore we should cherish the Guru making time just to push our buttons. Why would a Guru do that and waste his time? Our habituations and ego are the problems. Understanding the motivation of our Guru will help us advance on our spiritual path and be a better person.

  16. Wan Wai Meng on Nov 11, 2016 at 12:13 am

    This is a very interesting topic, there is something in us that allows us to be irked. It is also due to us having very strong attachment to certain ideas or preconceptions.
    Naturally the less attachment we have to how things should be the easier to respond positively when presented with unfamiliar happenings and occurrences.

    And sometimes when necessary the teacher will do thing that will ‘irk’ the student, that the teacher see thats the student can potentially overcome a negative trait within them that hinders their spiritual progress. Naturally of the student is not practiced they will think the teacher is just being unfair, but this is not so. How kind is a spiritual teacher.

  17. Pastor KH Ng on Aug 1, 2016 at 5:40 pm

    Thank You Rinpoche for the for this very profound teaching on something that is very pervasive and happens to everyone everyday.

    Why are we irked? If we have no issues, why would we be irked? If we truly care about ourselves, wouldn’t it be better to acknowledge the issue(s) and face it, get over with it, so that it will not be an issue (s) anymore?

    Lastly, if the issue in not an issue and someone is trying to hurt us…then why are still irked? Perhaps, it is the giver whom we are irked with…….and why? Ego?

    Food for thought!!!

  18. Anne Ong on Jul 29, 2016 at 9:31 pm

    i think we are all very fortunate to be Rinpoche’s students and friends and should be very thankful that Rinpoche has the skills to point out our weak points and sensitive side to build up our characters.
    I myself is not a sensitive person and also towards others. I am a very direct and vocal type and I always try not to be, and try to remind myself to be more diplomatic.I am also not bothered with feedback on how I look…fat,short or a handicapped which i am. I feel very comfortable with the way i was born and that’s just me. It’s because i cant change the way i was born with and i can accept that happily 🙂

  19. Yoke Chim Yap on Jul 23, 2016 at 8:16 pm

    为什么很容易对他人的言词产生反感或不舒服?
    仁波切抛了一个很好的问题给我们去思考!
    我相信这是每个人都曾有过的感觉,只是是否嚴重或轻微而已,其實这足以影响个人的人際关係以及形象。一般人会有这种心態、我想应该离不开以下几种原因.主要是思想偏激,总觉得自己的見解是对的,瞧不起对方,觉的对方没知識。还有就是对方所言,正是自已最不想听的事實,因为不辛被言中了,或对方所討論和讲的话题不是自己感興趣的,討厌对方.不想听到他的声音,造成以上所有的原因主要还是「我执」很重。
    当然知道了,就要去改善,虽非一朝一夕就能馬上改.但要自已知道问题是出在那里,只要肯改变,就不会停留不变。学会聆听和接受批评是很重要的.

  20. Martin on Jul 8, 2016 at 5:59 am

    I recall this teaching but its a good refresher, and also a reminder of Rinpoche’s kindness.

    I wrote above that, “the Guru may raise issues that upset and irk us knowing that we are being forced to confront our issues within an environment where there is support around so that we are better able to deal with it. However, sometimes the student may not even be able to take criticisms from the Guru and may run away. Even with the risk, the Guru will still assume the role of the Giver because at least the issue will be brought out into the open and may be dealt with in time. As long as the issue stays hidden, it cannot be dealt with. What drives the Guru is Compassion and the motivation of the Guru is that of a Bodhisattva and so the Guru’s objective is to open up the issue so that it may heal eventually”.

    Today, I stand by that statement more than ever. I have seen time and time again, how Rinpoche breaks people free from the prison they have built for themselves and that which they reinforce daily.

    Those who cannot see better will say that the ‘Giver’ is cruel but in fact the opposite is true. It is easier to be nice and to leave people with their own afflictions in tact. We can say its not our duty to help them overcome what afflicts them. But they will forever be crippled by that which frightens them, embarrass them, and force them to be in denial. Unless these issues/neurosis are fixed, life becomes an exercise in which one utilises all one’s energies to navigate around an unnecessary infirmity.

  21. William Chua on Jul 6, 2016 at 10:36 pm

    Why do we get irked from comments or when people tells us something we do not want to hear? It is the person’s fault or is it ours? From the understanding of the article, it is our insecurities and issues we have inside us that makes us angry or irked by it. We have issues which we are not ready to face or ignore and we choose to pretend that it doesn’t exist. When someone gives us feedback on it, it flares up in us. So, it is actually us that is the problem.

    For me, it is actually an opportunity for me to face or look into myself on why I react to the feedback. It is time to examine myself on the reason behind my reaction and deal with it so that it will not bother me anymore in the future. It may take time because it is something deep rooted in me, but it is a start to make it better.

    Our Guru acts out of compassion, pushing our buttons so that we can improve ourselves. It cuts away our ego bit by bit and at the end of it, it no longer becomes a button where we react.

  22. Stella Cheang on Jul 6, 2016 at 11:58 am

    To many of us, it is as if our birth right to react or be offended when someone confronts our comfort of understanding and ego. I relate this teaching to the teaching in preparing our mind to receive Dharma by not being one of the 3 pots.

    Using the body weight (illustrated in Pastor Jean Ai’s write up) as an example which I can resonate deeply with. The person who actually quits (category 4 in PJA’s write up) is equivalent to an upside-down pot. It is easy for me to rule someone as wicked when he commented on my bodyweight, therefore I will naturally dismiss his comment and continue my willful lifestyle of lavish eating. And I will never be able to benefit from his comment even if there is truth to it. This is because I focus only on the impact on my ego, how the person present his comment, and I conjecture his intention but little on the message itself.

    Next, the person who has some doubts or overwhelmed by doubts (category 2 and 3 in PJA’s write up) are akin to cracked pot and contaminated pot. There is always element of distrust or misalignment / misunderstanding between the commenter and receiver. This happens to me all the time. I will not hesitate to interpret a comment on my bodyweight as having worn the wrong outfit. Interpreting the bodyweight issue as an outfit problem is so convenience and easily free me from doing anything to correct myself. It is actually a self-deceiving mechanism. As time goes by, the wrong view (blaming the issue on the outfit) will stick with me, hence even harder or too late to eventually recognize and be corrected.

    Lastly, the person who openly and happily accepts the training (category 1 in PJA’s write up). To me, it takes a lot of mindfulness, practice and training to reach this stage, some more it is on a case by case basis. What I am trying to say is, I may be able to openly and happily accept comment on my bodyweight today, but the same openness may not apply to, for example, say my hair. When someone comment on my bodyweight I will happily accept it and do something about it, but the same person when comment on my hair (example), I will be irked.

    As my conclusion, we must have a clear understanding and awareness of the different categories of reaction. Be extremely mindful and watch our reaction. Contemplating on our reaction is important. And lastly, apply the transformation. Once we are comfortable to receiving comments with open heart, we will be able to shift our focus on reaping the benefits from the comment rather than rebelling it.

    Thank you Rinpoche, Andrew, Pastor Jean Ai, Martin and Sarah for this very profound mind transformation teaching made simple for us.

    Humbly, bowing down,
    Stella Cheang

  23. Pastor KH Ng on Jul 5, 2016 at 3:40 pm

    Unhappiness, whether it is from someone irking us or in other forms basically arise from our self-grasping and self cherishing, Self grasping is grasping to a concept of “I’ as truly and inherently exist. The result is this “I” is the most important entity in the universe. Since, this “I” consist of the aggregates that includes feelings and perceptions, outside source that challenges the importance and happiness of this “I” brings unhappiness.
    The practice of the Eight Verses of Mind transformation is a direct antidote to the self grasping and self cherishing mind. By putting others above us, we dilute the importance of our ego and make us realise the importance of others. On a simple level, by making others happy, through the universal law of cause and effect, others will; or circumstances will arise for conditions to; make us happier too. Ultimately, we will realise that there are not a single difference between us and others on every level.

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    Heartfelt watching the beginning of the video. Could imagine the fear the furry Edie encountered, so much so hiding at the corner. Edie was so scared and just needed is a hug and pad from some kind soul . Bronwyne Mirkovich is so compassionate , kind for saving Edie’s life. Thank you too Edie Gobbie from the American Maltese Association for helping with this wonderful project to rescue animals. Life is so precious nor matter what it is , it is still a life……human or doggie. Dogs are our best friends, never harm, abuse or hurt them.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this wonderful sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/all-she-needed-was-a-hug.html
  • Chris
    Saturday, Aug 17. 2019 07:47 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche and blog team for sharing this auspicious post with us. It is amazing that Kechara has the chance to make such offerings to the high lamas and monks in the monastery. This is a clear example of the generosity of Rinpoche that wishes each and every one of us to adopt.

    Making offerings to the sangha is very meritorious and we can collect a lot of merit with such actions because we are directly supporting the growth of Dharma and those high lamas are Buddhas. Seeing such pictures warms my heart and I rejoice to see those happy faces of those monks who received those very much needed offerings.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/students-friends/making-offerings-to-the-monastery.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Saturday, Aug 17. 2019 07:29 PM
    Wow ….. there have been so many UFO sightings in so many different countries. There are altogether eight UFO sightings within 10 days witnessed by people across the globe. They saw shiny unidentified flying objects flying past in the sky as reported. Very interesting….. strange object sparked theories of possible extra terrestrial sightings and they do definitely exist after all. Many UFO sightings have been reported in the last decades yet scientist or researchers yet to confirm the details or evidence to proof it. But the strange sightings in different countries at the same month could not be wrong as we know “they’ have been watching at the earth from some where up there.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing …..simple amazing caught on camera by those eye witness.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/ufo-ufo-everywhere.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Saturday, Aug 17. 2019 07:27 PM
    There may have been a chance for a civilization to start billions of years before life began on Earth as discovered by scientists. Several discoveries and theories from some of the greatest minds in science point to the likelihood that there is something beyond out there in the universe. I do believe that we are not alone in the universe. Well, there many on going research that has taken place to look for signs of extra terrestrial life such as aliens. Scientist have been using telescope and specimen data to radios to detect and send communication signals. Currently, scientist do not have any evidence to support that aliens exist but the research work still going on with the discovery of a varieties of beings in the universal . Stories of the sighting of aliens and other species by eye witnesses yet to proof their existence. Researcher and scientists have not given up hope to research for evidence. Interesting read .
    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/mysteries-surrounding-ancient-aliens.html
  • Yee Yin
    Saturday, Aug 17. 2019 04:32 PM
    Buddha Manjushri is very compassionate. He will manifest in the forms that can benefit us. In this case, he manifested as an enlightened Dharma protector to help us remove our obstacles so we can practise and have realiation on Buddha’s teachings.

    I have read many stories about how Dorje Shugden has helped people including Tsem Rinpoche. Kechara is growing and flourishing because of the assistance from Dorje Shugden. As long as our motivation is right, Dorje Shugden will provide a conducive environment to fulfil our wishes.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/dorje-shugden.html
  • Sofi
    Friday, Aug 16. 2019 10:47 PM
    A Personal Account of Events with My Teacher – Honouring the Potential in All Sentient Beings

    Rinpoche’s bond with animals is even more palpable. Abandoned dogs find not only shelter but a loving home wherever Rinpoche is. Injured and unwanted birds find healing and a safe haven created to resemble their natural habitat. Fish are given clean, pure water and plenty of food. Even insects are not forgotten. Most important of all, their surroundings are designed to leave positive Dharma imprints in their mind streams and help them gain good rebirths.

    Read more here: http://bit.ly/2y5PyP1
  • Sofi
    Friday, Aug 16. 2019 10:41 PM
    My mother’s White Tara

    The previous Telo Rinpoche had lived in Mongolia and during the Communist upheaval in his country, he was imprisoned along with many other monks and religious figures. Telo Rinpoche prayed to this image of White Tara, which he had with him and in the middle of the night, his cell doors miraculously swung open and he was able to just walk out. Later, with the help of some American scientists, he escaped and travelled to the United States where he connected with the Mongolian-Kalmyk community there, which included my parents.

    Read here: http://bit.ly/2Me6Sd3
  • Sofi
    Friday, Aug 16. 2019 10:35 PM
    Stories from a Chela – Real Transformation

    “Rinpoche’s drive to create a lasting mental change in a person’s life is nothing but pure compassion. Rinpoche certainly doesn’t get anything out of the person changing to become a better person, in fact, it often takes an emotional and physical toll on Rinpoche himself. Yet, Rinpoche goes out of his way to help his students and others to the best of his ability. Rinpoche does this in a number of ways, I’ll only touch on a few” ~ Pastor Niral Patel

    Learn more from Pastor Niral why he said that: http://bit.ly/2K3DmUj

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The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
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Third picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal.
Height: 33ft (10m)
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Third picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal. Height: 33ft (10m)
Second picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal.
Height: 33ft (10m)
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Second picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal. Height: 33ft (10m)
First picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal.
Height: 33ft (10m)
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First picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal. Height: 33ft (10m)
The first title published by Kechara Comics is Karuna Finds A Way. It tells the tale of high-school sweethearts Karuna and Adam who had what some would call the dream life. Everything was going great for them until one day when reality came knocking on their door. Caught in a surprise swindle, this loving family who never harmed anyone found themselves out of luck and down on their fortune. Determined to save her family, Karuna goes all out to find a solution. See what she does- https://bit.ly/2LSKuWo
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The first title published by Kechara Comics is Karuna Finds A Way. It tells the tale of high-school sweethearts Karuna and Adam who had what some would call the dream life. Everything was going great for them until one day when reality came knocking on their door. Caught in a surprise swindle, this loving family who never harmed anyone found themselves out of luck and down on their fortune. Determined to save her family, Karuna goes all out to find a solution. See what she does- https://bit.ly/2LSKuWo
Very powerful story! Tibetan Resistance group Chushi Gangdruk reveals how Dalai Lama escaped in 1959- https://bit.ly/2S9VMGX
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Very powerful story! Tibetan Resistance group Chushi Gangdruk reveals how Dalai Lama escaped in 1959- https://bit.ly/2S9VMGX
At Kechara Forest Retreat land we have nice fresh spinach growing free of chemicals and pesticides. Yes!
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At Kechara Forest Retreat land we have nice fresh spinach growing free of chemicals and pesticides. Yes!
See beautiful pictures of Manjushri Guest House here- https://bit.ly/2WGo0ti
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See beautiful pictures of Manjushri Guest House here- https://bit.ly/2WGo0ti
Beginner’s Introduction to Dorje Shugden~Very good overview https://bit.ly/2QQNfYv
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Beginner’s Introduction to Dorje Shugden~Very good overview https://bit.ly/2QQNfYv
Fresh eggplants grown on Kechara Forest Retreat\'s land here in Malaysia
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Fresh eggplants grown on Kechara Forest Retreat's land here in Malaysia
Most Venerable Uppalavanna – The Chief Female Disciple of Buddha Shakyamuni - She exhibited many supernatural abilities gained from meditation and proved to the world females and males are equal in spirituality- https://bit.ly/31d9Rat
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Most Venerable Uppalavanna – The Chief Female Disciple of Buddha Shakyamuni - She exhibited many supernatural abilities gained from meditation and proved to the world females and males are equal in spirituality- https://bit.ly/31d9Rat
Thailand’s ‘Renegade’ Yet Powerful Buddhist Nuns~ https://bit.ly/2Z1C02m
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Thailand’s ‘Renegade’ Yet Powerful Buddhist Nuns~ https://bit.ly/2Z1C02m
Mahapajapati Gotami – the first Buddhist nun ordained by Lord Buddha- https://bit.ly/2IjD8ru
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Mahapajapati Gotami – the first Buddhist nun ordained by Lord Buddha- https://bit.ly/2IjD8ru
The Largest Buddha Shakyamuni in Russia | 俄罗斯最大的释迦牟尼佛画像- https://bit.ly/2Wpclni
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The Largest Buddha Shakyamuni in Russia | 俄罗斯最大的释迦牟尼佛画像- https://bit.ly/2Wpclni
Sacred Vajra Yogini
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Sacred Vajra Yogini
Dorje Shugden works & archives - a labour of commitment - https://bit.ly/30Tp2p8
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Dorje Shugden works & archives - a labour of commitment - https://bit.ly/30Tp2p8
Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha.
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Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha.
Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha. She was his step-mother and aunt. Buddha\'s mother had passed away at his birth so he was raised by Gotami.
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Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha. She was his step-mother and aunt. Buddha's mother had passed away at his birth so he was raised by Gotami.
Another nun disciple of Lord Buddha\'s. She had achieved great spiritual abilities and high attainments. She would be a proper object of refuge. This image of the eminent bhikkhuni (nun) disciple of the Buddha, Uppalavanna Theri.
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Another nun disciple of Lord Buddha's. She had achieved great spiritual abilities and high attainments. She would be a proper object of refuge. This image of the eminent bhikkhuni (nun) disciple of the Buddha, Uppalavanna Theri.
Wandering Ascetic Painting by Nirdesha Munasinghe
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Wandering Ascetic Painting by Nirdesha Munasinghe
High Sri Lankan monks visit Kechara to bless our land, temple, Buddha and Dorje Shugden images. They were very kind-see pictures- https://bit.ly/2HQie2M
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High Sri Lankan monks visit Kechara to bless our land, temple, Buddha and Dorje Shugden images. They were very kind-see pictures- https://bit.ly/2HQie2M
This is pretty amazing!

First Sri Lankan Buddhist temple opened in Dubai!!!
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This is pretty amazing! First Sri Lankan Buddhist temple opened in Dubai!!!
My Dharma boy (left) and Oser girl loves to laze around on the veranda in the mornings. They enjoy all the trees, grass and relaxing under the hot sun. Sunbathing is a favorite daily activity. I care about these two doggies of mine very much and I enjoy seeing them happy. They are with me always. Tsem Rinpoche

Always be kind to animals and eat vegetarian- https://bit.ly/2Psp8h2
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My Dharma boy (left) and Oser girl loves to laze around on the veranda in the mornings. They enjoy all the trees, grass and relaxing under the hot sun. Sunbathing is a favorite daily activity. I care about these two doggies of mine very much and I enjoy seeing them happy. They are with me always. Tsem Rinpoche Always be kind to animals and eat vegetarian- https://bit.ly/2Psp8h2
After you left me Mumu, I was alone. I have no family or kin. You were my family. I can\'t stop thinking of you and I can\'t forget you. My bond and connection with you is so strong. I wish you were by my side. Tsem Rinpoche
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After you left me Mumu, I was alone. I have no family or kin. You were my family. I can't stop thinking of you and I can't forget you. My bond and connection with you is so strong. I wish you were by my side. Tsem Rinpoche
This story is a life-changer. Learn about the incredible Forest Man of India | 印度“森林之子”- https://bit.ly/2Eh4vRS
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This story is a life-changer. Learn about the incredible Forest Man of India | 印度“森林之子”- https://bit.ly/2Eh4vRS
Part 2-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
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Part 2-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
Part 1-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
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Part 1-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
The great Protector Manjushri Dorje Shugden depicted in the beautiful Mongolian style. To download a high resolution file: https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
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The great Protector Manjushri Dorje Shugden depicted in the beautiful Mongolian style. To download a high resolution file: https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
The Mystical land of Shambhala is finally ready for everyone to feast their eyes and be blessed. A beautiful post with information, art work, history, spirituality and a beautiful book composed by His Holiness the 6th Panchen Rinpoche. ~ https://bit.ly/309MHBi
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The Mystical land of Shambhala is finally ready for everyone to feast their eyes and be blessed. A beautiful post with information, art work, history, spirituality and a beautiful book composed by His Holiness the 6th Panchen Rinpoche. ~ https://bit.ly/309MHBi
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Beautiful pictures of the huge Buddha in Longkou Nanshan- https://bit.ly/2LsBxVb
The reason-Very interesting thought- https://bit.ly/2V7VT5r
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The reason-Very interesting thought- https://bit.ly/2V7VT5r
NEW Bigfoot cafe in Malaysia! Food is delicious!- https://bit.ly/2VxdGau
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NEW Bigfoot cafe in Malaysia! Food is delicious!- https://bit.ly/2VxdGau
DON\'T MISS THIS!~How brave Bonnie survived by living with a herd of deer~ https://bit.ly/2Lre2eY
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DON'T MISS THIS!~How brave Bonnie survived by living with a herd of deer~ https://bit.ly/2Lre2eY
Global Superpower China Will Cut Meat Consumption by 50%! Very interesting, find out more- https://bit.ly/2V1sJFh
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Global Superpower China Will Cut Meat Consumption by 50%! Very interesting, find out more- https://bit.ly/2V1sJFh
You can download this beautiful Egyptian style Dorje Shugden Free- https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
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You can download this beautiful Egyptian style Dorje Shugden Free- https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
Beautiful high file for print of Lord Manjushri. May you be blessed- https://bit.ly/2V8mwZe
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Beautiful high file for print of Lord Manjushri. May you be blessed- https://bit.ly/2V8mwZe
Mongolian (Oymiakon) Shaman in Siberia, Russia. That is his real outfit he wears. Very unique. TR
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Mongolian (Oymiakon) Shaman in Siberia, Russia. That is his real outfit he wears. Very unique. TR
Find one of the most beautiful temples in the world in Nara, Japan. It is the 1,267 year old Todai-ji temple that houses a 15 meter Buddha Vairocana statue who is a cosmic and timeless Buddha. Emperor Shomu who sponsored this beautiful temple eventually abdicated and ordained as a Buddhist monk. Very interesting history and story. One of the places everyone should visit- https://bit.ly/2VgsHhK
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Find one of the most beautiful temples in the world in Nara, Japan. It is the 1,267 year old Todai-ji temple that houses a 15 meter Buddha Vairocana statue who is a cosmic and timeless Buddha. Emperor Shomu who sponsored this beautiful temple eventually abdicated and ordained as a Buddhist monk. Very interesting history and story. One of the places everyone should visit- https://bit.ly/2VgsHhK
Manjusri Kumara (bodhisattva of wisdom), India, Pala dynesty, 9th century, stone, Honolulu Academy of Arts
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Manjusri Kumara (bodhisattva of wisdom), India, Pala dynesty, 9th century, stone, Honolulu Academy of Arts
Silver Manjusri figure from Ngemplak Semongan (Indonesia). Apparently during the Shailendra Dynasty, Mahayana Buddhism was very strong in Indonesia. This Dynasty promoted Mahayana Buddhism and Manjushri was a principal Buddha of worship.
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Silver Manjusri figure from Ngemplak Semongan (Indonesia). Apparently during the Shailendra Dynasty, Mahayana Buddhism was very strong in Indonesia. This Dynasty promoted Mahayana Buddhism and Manjushri was a principal Buddha of worship.
In Buddhism: The Importance of Having a Clean Room- https://bit.ly/2ZgrbKS
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In Buddhism: The Importance of Having a Clean Room- https://bit.ly/2ZgrbKS
There is an area near Lumbini, Nepal, they have sightings of Yeti for hundreds of years. So they have signages in the area with Yeti artwork to highlight this. Interesting. TR
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There is an area near Lumbini, Nepal, they have sightings of Yeti for hundreds of years. So they have signages in the area with Yeti artwork to highlight this. Interesting. TR
Photos of footprints (Yeti) are from a high altitude pass (Darwa Pass) connecting Gangotri valley to Yamunotri valley through old pilgrim route.
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Photos of footprints (Yeti) are from a high altitude pass (Darwa Pass) connecting Gangotri valley to Yamunotri valley through old pilgrim route.
Beautiful picture. Rare. Three holy beings.
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Beautiful picture. Rare. Three holy beings.
May 1, 2019-I really enjoy this picture of these visitors visiting Dorje Shugden\'s grotto in Kechara Forest Retreat today. They look happy, light and blessed after doing their prayers to Dorje Shugden. I wanted to share this picture.- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
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May 1, 2019-I really enjoy this picture of these visitors visiting Dorje Shugden's grotto in Kechara Forest Retreat today. They look happy, light and blessed after doing their prayers to Dorje Shugden. I wanted to share this picture.- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
A postcard of my great grand aunt Princess Nirgidma of Torghut-Tsem Rinpoche
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A postcard of my great grand aunt Princess Nirgidma of Torghut-Tsem Rinpoche
Rei Kawakubo – Grand Dame of ‘Hiroshima Chic’- https://bit.ly/2Vz4N06
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Rei Kawakubo – Grand Dame of ‘Hiroshima Chic’- https://bit.ly/2Vz4N06
Just now, this beautiful grape and orange infused water drink with a blue glass was brought in for me. I was amazed at the colors. Tsem Rinpoche
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Just now, this beautiful grape and orange infused water drink with a blue glass was brought in for me. I was amazed at the colors. Tsem Rinpoche
We have to look in and change from within to find the way out of all that makes us unhappy.~Tsem Rinpoche 

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We have to look in and change from within to find the way out of all that makes us unhappy.~Tsem Rinpoche http://www.tsemrinpoche.com
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Children recite Migtsema and Manjushri mantra before the start of dharma class. Lin Mun KSDS
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Children recite Migtsema and Manjushri mantra before the start of dharma class. Lin Mun KSDS
Student do full prostration before the start of dharma class. Lin Mun KSDS
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Student do full prostration before the start of dharma class. Lin Mun KSDS
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Wen Yue led students to do key chain as part of art and craft activity. Lin Mun KSDS
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Teacher Kien shared some photos of sangha members. Lin Mun KSDS
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Throwback- close bonding during WOAH camp. Lin Mun KSDS
Teenage dharma class in Kechara House . Lin Mun KSDS
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Teenage dharma class in Kechara House . Lin Mun KSDS
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Throwback- Chinese New Year activity, calligraphy with best wishes words. Lin Mun KSDS
KISG has been performing White Tara and Dorje Shugden puja for 4 consecutive nights. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
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KISG has been performing White Tara and Dorje Shugden puja for 4 consecutive nights. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
KISG members travelled to KFR for Ullambana today. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
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KISG members travelled to KFR for Ullambana today. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
After the Bird Liberation, we proceeded with Dorje Shugden puja. Just before we started our puja, Pastor Patsy gave us a short Dharma Sharing. Pastor spoke about Dharma practice in these days and reminded us to always keep our samaya with Guru intact. To honour our promises, reduce our worldly activities and practice Dharma strongly. Thank you Pastor for the valuable advice~Jacinta, KPSG
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After the Bird Liberation, we proceeded with Dorje Shugden puja. Just before we started our puja, Pastor Patsy gave us a short Dharma Sharing. Pastor spoke about Dharma practice in these days and reminded us to always keep our samaya with Guru intact. To honour our promises, reduce our worldly activities and practice Dharma strongly. Thank you Pastor for the valuable advice~Jacinta, KPSG
We chanted Medicine Buddha's mantra before we blessed them. May they be connected with Buddha always. ~Jacinta , monthly Bird Liberation Kechara Penang Study Group
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We chanted Medicine Buddha's mantra before we blessed them. May they be connected with Buddha always. ~Jacinta , monthly Bird Liberation Kechara Penang Study Group
Special thanks to Linny Neoh and her friend for joining our Kechara Penang Study Group Bird Liberation. ~Jacinta, KPSG
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Special thanks to Linny Neoh and her friend for joining our Kechara Penang Study Group Bird Liberation. ~Jacinta, KPSG
Birds were blessed before their departure to freedom. They deserved love & freedom too ~Jacinta,KPSG
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Birds were blessed before their departure to freedom. They deserved love & freedom too ~Jacinta,KPSG
Pastor Patsy giving explanation during Bird Liberation event. Kechara Penang Study Group's monthly bird liberation - Jacinta
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Pastor Patsy giving explanation during Bird Liberation event. Kechara Penang Study Group's monthly bird liberation - Jacinta
Re: Kechara Sunday Dharma Class every Sunday morning, Teachers and students start dharma learning at this blissful morning ~By KSDS Jayce Goh
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Re: Kechara Sunday Dharma Class every Sunday morning, Teachers and students start dharma learning at this blissful morning ~By KSDS Jayce Goh
Kechara Sunday Dharma Class every Sunday morning, Teacher Lin Mun start class with Manjusri prayers after prostration ~By KSDS Jayce Goh
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Kechara Sunday Dharma Class every Sunday morning, Teacher Lin Mun start class with Manjusri prayers after prostration ~By KSDS Jayce Goh
Mdm Glian Sim offered Serkym on behalf of KISG today. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
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Mdm Glian Sim offered Serkym on behalf of KISG today. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
Janice So offered water to Lama Tsongkhapa, Mother Tara, Dorje Shugden and all Buddhas. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
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Janice So offered water to Lama Tsongkhapa, Mother Tara, Dorje Shugden and all Buddhas. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
Ms. Leow offered lights and incense prior to the prayer session in Ipoh today. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
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Ms. Leow offered lights and incense prior to the prayer session in Ipoh today. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
KISG has carried out a session of 21 Praises to Taras prayer recitations today in Ipoh. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
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KISG has carried out a session of 21 Praises to Taras prayer recitations today in Ipoh. So Kin Hoe (KISG)
Children were very excited to participate in the quiz. Lin Mun KSDS
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Children were very excited to participate in the quiz. Lin Mun KSDS
We will do dedication before we end the dharma class. Lin Mun KSDS
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We will do dedication before we end the dharma class. Lin Mun KSDS
It’s wonderful for parents and children to attend animal liberation together and recite mantra before releasing the birds. Lin Mun KSDS
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It’s wonderful for parents and children to attend animal liberation together and recite mantra before releasing the birds. Lin Mun KSDS
Bigfoot cafe in Bentong. Lin Mun KSDS
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Bigfoot cafe in Bentong. Lin Mun KSDS
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Rejoice ! Children getting blessing from pastor on Wesak Day. Lin Mun KSDS
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