Question asked by Beatrice
Dear pastors. Perhaps I can find some sort of solution here. Coming from a large family of nine bros and sis, well now there are eight of us. My father who is 82 yrs of age, ever since the youngest of his son passed away at the age of 39, due to his horrific illness of LUPUs.. My father is still grieving,which the rest of us understand, we also felt the pain that we had lost our youngest brother. It is so hard to comfort our father,as he is very thick head."sorry dad to say". All he talked about was if my one sister did not sponsor him to resided in CANADA. He wouldn't have passed. Our Mom is 74 yrs old is miserable. Bcos my Dad is blaming the few of us in the family for my bro passed. I don't know what to do…. I hope to find some peace and happiness for our father and especially our Mom.. Thank you so much pastors….
It is extremely painful to lose a child. Some parents are so attached to their child/children that they can’t stop grieving. This is because they cannot let go. Your parents are old and should have a calm and peaceful mind, free of anger and sadness. To help them, you yourself must have a positive, peaceful mind that is free of disturbing emotions. When your father complains, remain calm and peaceful. Tell him you understand how he feels. It will make him calm down. Be kind, sensitive and supportive, especially to your mother. If they like to read, buy them some dharma books, DVDs or CDs that will help them overcome their afflictive emotions. Talk to them more about the other children and grandchildren so they don’t think so much of your departed brother. If you can, do some meritorious deeds on behalf of your brother. It will make them feel better. Time will heal.