Question asked by Easley
i am a gay, but, i am a Buddhsit and i live accordingly starting from the 5 precept and etc since young…
i want to know, is being a gay a sin?
its not my choice to be gay, i dont want to, but i was born this way. who wants to be a gay if given chance?! where one has to face all kinds of hardship, resentment, cursing, rejection and lots more heart aching incidents. Being a gay, our future is definitely uncertain and certainly twisted.
i could just force myself to be with another girl, but i know in the end il just hurt her.
to not hurt anyone.. my friends, my family, my teachers, myself and the people around me, i chose to stay single.
i dont know whether im stil consider young at the age of 20 . nobody knows bout my sexual orientation YET, and ive face many hardship already trying to conceal "it". i dont know what is going to happen if i were 'expose'. Living as a "someone different" is torturing and constantly i tried to end my life and hope to be reborn again as a someone normal. but being a Buddhist, i realise the consequences to commit suicide is just too grave.
i was very into exploring all kinds of faith and religion, i know in some religions, being gay is a crime, is a sin, and deserve to be banish or killed, but i dont know about Buddhsim. Sincerely, im not trying to find a religion that can accept gays. but i want to know myself what does the religion, that i have have always grasp in close to my heart to my soul, thinks about us, gays.
and what does the Enlightened One, Buddha thinks about us. if being gay is a sin, then with no doubt i will restrain myself at all cost. please tell me what should i do. am scared and confused.
i have been running away for a long time, i would regret if the answers were not a pleasant one, but still, i tell myself it time to learn the truth. and its time for this truth, to be known to all.
question from -a tainted soul-
OM AH RA PA TSA NA DHI.
Dear Easley
What buddhism teaches is that we have had many lifetimes. We had been reborn as beings of different realms countless times including being reborn as humans. In the human realm, we must have been reborn countless times as male and females. With every being in samsara, we are not free from the three poisons (hatred, desire, ignorance) and our imprints and attachments remains in our midstream.
Who is to say that the attachments arising from the desires from gay people is sinful while the attachments arising from the desires of straight people are not sinful? Attachment is attachment. Doesn’t matter it’s straight or gay.
What is important is to be responsible towards our partners, do not hurt them, whoever we chooses to be in a relationship with.
We all have a lot to work on in this journey towards enlightenment. To focus entirely on or be affected deeply by society’s view of your sexual orientation will not serve you.
Love yourself the right way, and work towards gaining a virtuous mind, be kind and be of benefit to others…this applies to everyone, straight or gay.