Question asked by eric w.
dear pastors
how does one respect other s wishes for temporary happiness when it comes to thinking about their ulitimate happiness . I try to talk about my family about spritiality but their not really interested.
this kinda leaves me isolated. I feel like I have insight but not yet a buddha or Rinpoche but feel like I have an understanding of reality but I haven't left the world. I don't know how to really relate to people that don't understand my point of view. I want to help my family by trying to discuss sprititual ideas to them. I am kinda in the middle of between enlightment and the world I as an achetype I am like tara with one foot in the world and the other in the absolute or at least that's how I feel. idont know what to do to help my fellow humans. I am learning about the pit falls of cyclic existance.
so how do I balance that they don't know about the bliss of enlighntment.
I pray for them but I a m stuck in my own search for temporary happiness
I guess I shouldn't critize them but I do have bodhichitta and want to free myself and others.
p.s. ask Rinpoche when will I become a buddha lol
Dear Eric w,
I read your comment on your effort in helping your family. You sound concern, but slightly frustrated. I think it’s because you care about them, therefore, you are expecting some outcome from your effort.
Please always remember spirituality is not something we can force onto others. The realization doesn’t come from books or theory. We must learn, contemplate and practice again and again to achieve some realization. And how much result gain during the process itself is also dependent on our own merit and karma. Therefore, if you really want to help your family, perhaps you can help them by showing them different ways to collect merit. But first of all, you must show them love and care by being present and listening to their needs.
Do it skilfully and do one thing at a time. If you can do it consistently, patiently and with a lot of care, I believe you will see the result soon.
Recommended reading: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/cutting-through-delusions.html