Women Rule on Prestige Magazine 2012

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Dear students and friends,

Guess who’s on the front cover of August 2012’s issue of Prestige Magazine??? Head Liaison and President of Kechara House Datuk May, Liaison Li Kim, and Li Kheng! The Phng ladies (mother and two daughters) were approached by the magazine to be interviewed, as they have inspired others through their secular and spiritual success. In Prestige’s August issue, there’s an 8-page feature article on their take on life. Wonderful pictures.

I have known Datuk May since 2007. When I first met her, she was direct, very vocal and had minimal Dharma knowledge… but through it all, I could see that she was a kind and intelligent lady who was very interested in spirituality. Datuk May is one of my students that has shown transformation within a few years in the Dharma… I’m very proud and happy for her… not for any other reason, but because she practices sincerely and has gained visible results from applying the Dharma into her life.

From her transformation, she has brought her two daughters into the Dharma. Now, Datuk May’s eldest daughter Li Kim is the CEO of the publication arm of Kechara, and her younger daughter Li Kheng is working in the Ladrang Dept of Kechara. How wonderful that their family motto is to benefit others. The two daughters work hard and sincerely for dharma and they dedicate their merits to their mom, dad and people they love. Selfless.

Do read the featured article of this wonderful trio and let me know what you think. Did their life story inspire you in anyway? Which picture did you enjoy the most?

Tsem Rinpoche 

 


  

Prestige – August 2012

 

 

Turning 65 years old come October; Datuk May Phng is one accomplished lady. Hers is a name highly regarded, not just within circles of the upper echelon but beyond. Renowned for her strong business acumen and firm hand in raising four children who are today strong, independent and successful adults in their own right, Datuk May has earned many monikers over the years, one of them being The Dragon Lady.

Datuk May is not just The Dragon Lady however: She is wife to Phng Hooi Siang whose family established the reputable Asia Motors, mother of four, grandmother of eight, director of a couple of business, member of the Board of Trustees of the Malaysian Rubber Export Promotion Council, president and head liaison of Buddhist organization Kechara, teacher, student and more. Though these titles may come across an ‘icing on the cake’ to many, hers is a life of challenges, sleepless nights, working round-the-clock, anxiety, stress and frustration, along with all that entails marrying into a wealthy yet traditionally conservative Chinese family.

Of her mother; Li Kim, the elder of two daughters and Datuk May’s second child, says, “My mother is pivotal in most of my key decisions in life. She is someone whom I respect very much and the epitome of what I believe to be an independent woman. She is brilliant and experienced, so I take her advice very seriously.”

Younger sister Li Kheng, says, “My mum and I share a relationship that’s trusting and inspiring. She has been my life coach, generously sharing her experiences and opinions that have contributed to my growth as a person. Since the age of 16, I have been chatting with mum about life philosophies deep into the night. Many of the principles I live by are based on the things I learned from those conversations.”

We go back to the early years to get a better picture of Datuk May who married into the Phng family at the age of 18.

“I met my husband when I was 17. I was then teaching primary school children at the Pudu English Girls’ School and taking shorthand and typing classes at night. I must’ve been quite a good teacher as the headmistress referred me to the famous teaching training facility at Kirkby in Liverpool, UK. I also received a scholarship to study in America but I thought, why waste time, better get married,” Datuk May remembers. It was back in the 60s then and the choice between a blossoming romance and studying abroad was clear. She chose the former, but it wasn’t all about eating, drinking, making merry and enjoying the perks of marrying into a wealthy family. Instead, she went to work for the late Tun Sir Henry HS Lee as his personal assistant, who was then in charge of the Development and Commercial Bank. Soon after, her father-in-law suggested that she work for the family at Asia Motors and that was where her training in business began. “The offer came just in time, thank goodness. I couldn’t see myself as a teacher forever. My mind was too wild,” claims Datuk May.

At the automobile industry’s peak, Datuk May managed four to five departments at Asia Motors. She even supervised the running of an oil palm estate and developed buildings under the family business’ property arm. How Datuk May managed to oversee all these enterprises without having gone through the whole nine yards of a formal education was simply because of her fearless nature and sheer determination.

“I remember the time my father-in-law told me to start developing buildings. I had to work with architects, engineers and contractors. I didn’t even know what piling was or even what columns or beams were, for that matter,” Datuk May reveals. She relates how she pushed herself to learn as much as she could, even if it meant working round-the-clock overseeing the development of buildings along the highway and building Malaysia’s first ice-skating rink at what was known at the time as Asia Jaya. “Back in those days when most married women were homemakers, I applaud my father-in-law who believed in the power and capability of women despite the fact that he was one of the most traditional men I’ve ever known! For him, when it comes to smarts, it didn’t matter whether you were male or female. Much of my business training come from him.”

Datuk May continued to work, building her family business empire even as she and her husband began to grow their family. She tells of the time her father-in-law was overjoyed when she bore the family their first grandchild, Phng Wee Kiat – the start of the third generation. “My father-in-law threw a huge ‘full moon’ party and because of the Phng family status, everybody congratulated my father-in-law instead of me,” says Datuk May who was barely 20 years old then. Second child Li Kim was born four years later.

“After my two brothers-in-law got married and started their own families, my father-in-law came up to me and said I was hopeless, having given him only two children in a span of 10 years,” says Datuk May. “I knew I’d better quickly bear another child or my father-in-law would get a second wife for his son. The problem was, I wasn’t on any birth control and simply wasn’t getting pregnant. Moreover, both the other daughter-in-law were producing girls. On the birth of my third child Li Kheng eight years later, my father-in-law came into the delivery room and said, ‘Even you have given me a granddaughter.’ I assured him that around this time next year, I will give him a grandson. At that time, my gynecologist Dr McCoy asked me how I was going to do such a thing as I wasn’t very fertile. I told him, don’t worry, I’ll do it.” Determined, she surely was and that was exactly what she did 13 months later with her son, Wee Liang. “You’ll be amazed at what the mind can do,” says Datuk May. “At this time, there were nine Phng grandchildren. Two were boys and they were both my sons.”

Datuk May then shares about the passing of her father-in-law in 1984, followed by her mother-in-law six months later. Due to disputes within the family, the business was liquidated. By that time, Datuk May had already started her own medical glove manufacturing business, Ampri Rubberware Industries, which she ran together with Li Kim upon her daughter’s graduation.

Li Kim, a Bachelor of Science graduate armed with a degree in Business Administration from the Pepperdine University in California, shares that being the daughter of the founder made little difference as she had to start from scratch like any other employee. She refers to her childhood as one where she was treated like  a princess and enjoyed an extremely privileged lifestyle: “Once during an outing with our relatives, my brother and I spotted an organ and a piano which we both liked. Next thing we knew the piano and organ were delivered to the house,” says Li Kim. As the two eldest grandchildren and the first two of the third generation in the Phng family, Li Kim and her brother grew up with many golden opportunities. Armed with maids and body guards, they were sent to study at a boarding school in Singapore and lived with their grandparents over the weekends.

Upon the passing of their grandparents, Li Kim returned to complete her secondary education at an international school in KL and then, went off to study in the US for three-and-a-half years. “I contemplated taking up law like my father or perhaps becoming an actress,” says Li Kim who finally took up business with the expectation to work in her mother’s glove manufacturing company. Happy-go-lucky by nature and one who knew how to have a good time in any situation, Li Kim doesn’t deny that her parents never gave in to her whims and fancies. In fact, she says, “They were clear from the very beginning with their terms and conditions, rules and regulations.”

The eldest daughter relates how her father gave her an ultimatum to get her degree before she turned 22. “I did and graduated one month just before my 22nd birthday,” she says with a smile. Of Li Kim, Datuk May says, “Li Kim has a very quick mind and she operates with more freedom. She is not afraid of what people think of her and so, she’s not so pressured to produce results. Being the eldest granddaughter in the family, along with my elder son, they were raised more by my husband’s parents and totally spoilt by their aunties and uncles.” Like her enterprising mother however, Li Kim simultaneously took on a role with a German dental company, managing the company’s outsource manufacturing facility in Malaysia while working with her mother to run the glove manufacturing business. After eight years of managing both these manufacturing establishments, Li Kim ventured into other avenues dealing in marketing and digital media.

Datuk May sold off the glove manufacturing business after 10 successful years and helped her son to start a company setting up ‘clean rooms.’ “It’s a niche market and my son became quite a specialist at it,” says the proud mother, who later handed the company over to her son.

Datuk May then decided to take it easy, enjoying the things she never had much time for. “I began travelling, playing mahjong, reading all the books I’ve always wanted to read, going to the gym to exercise, buying jewellery and going shopping,” she says. As one who has always thrived on challenges however, that period didn’t last very long. Restless, the businesswoman soon felt the pace in Malaysia a tad too slow for her liking.

Datuk May recalls visiting The People’s Republic of China back in 1999 and 2000 when its economy was just booming. It was also at this time that a business opportunity arose in China and Datuk May saw her chance to put her foot in the door.

In the meantime, Li Kheng, a graduate from Ecole Hotelier de Lausanne in Switzerland, had just resigned from a position at The Parkroyal Hotel. The second daughter says, “As an academic who only went from school to home with a few tuition teacher visits in between, I was fearful that I would grow up clever but not smart. Despite signing the Book of Excellence and graduating as the top girl from one of the most prestigious hospitality schools in the world, I dreaded entering the ‘real world’ after graduation as I was fearful that I would fall flat on my face.”

Still, the young and determined Li Kheng had plans of her own. She aimed to become general manager of a five-star hotel by the age of 35 and swore never to be roped into the family business. Fate had other plans however. Today, Li Kheng is CEO of The Coffee Bean Shanghai and runs a chain of 30 (soon to be 36) Coffee Bean outlets throughout China – all under the family business.

“The Coffee Bean was on the brink of going bankrupt at the end of November 2004. As I had just left The Parkroyal, my family thought I could go over, monitor the liquidation and find a job in the world’s upcoming cosmopolitan city. So, I got on the plane with zero management experience and no idea of what was to come,” says Li Kheng. “I like to share with young people that life, to quote Forrest Gump, is like a box of chocolates. We should never become too fixated on what we should have, could have or would have done. Instead, we have to embrace the blessings we’ve been given and make the best of the situation we find ourselves in,” she says.

On gender issues and running a business in China, Li Kheng says, “I have a lot of fun doing business as a woman in China. Equality between genders is present in China especially in big cities. For those who have doubts, my advice is: do not focus on the obstacles of being a woman as you will only create a situation for those obstacles to grow. Harness the power of your feminine energy – we all have feminine and masculine energies, the yin and yang – to create the results you want. I believe we should enjoy being treated like ‘ladies’ so that the men get the opportunity to be gentlemen. This becomes the one experience in business that men cannot get from other men.”

All three women take pride in who they are and agree that women should take pride in their femininity. “Being feminine does not equate to being a damsel in distress,” says Datuk May. “Feminity is beautiful, strong, confident, vulnerable, honest and open. It’s the one thing we women can naturally do better than men simply by being who we are. Being a woman does not mean beating down on the men or being a feminist. A powerful synergy can be formed when men and women live in harmony.”

While their careers and businesses are extremely important to the three ladies, when asked about the real turning point in their lives, it was spirituality and awareness, and not the bottom line. “I came to a point when I realized I was known only within my inner circle. I was comfortable only with those at my level who accepted my rigidness and submitted to my wish to do things my way,” shares Datuk May. “I got rid of people who didn’t do things the way I wanted them done – a much easier choice for me although it was at times discomfiting. I would get into bouts of depression asking myself why I did this to others.”

At that time, Datuk May was a trainer at Asia Works and had facilitated about six leadership programmes when she received a vision. “That vision was for everyone to live in peace. In doing so, each person creates a better environment which enables everybody to live in inner peace, thus creating a better world.” Over time however, she found her efforts at Asia Works futile and started wondering if there was something else she could do. This led her to meeting her spiritual guide HE Tsem Rinpoche in July 2007.

“I was greatly moved after a conversation with Rinpoche, spiritual advisor of Kechara, about spirituality and bringing benefit to others. I thought to myself, this was a place where my vision could grow. I realized after our conversation that while HE’s vision was miles ahead and much bigger in scope than mine, our visions were along a similar path,” says Datuk May whose spiritual journey transformed as she began to practice Dharma.

Datuk May’s gradual transformation did not escape unnoticed by her children and today, every family member is an active member of the Kechara Buddhist organization. Li Kheng, together with a few friends, set up Kechara Tea House – Kind & Kinda Delicious and Kechara Soup Kitchen in Shanghai. “Kechara Tea House is an F&B concept developed based on the teachings of HE Tsem Rinpoche on kindness and respect to the environment,” she shares. “It is a vegetarian bistro that serves a variety of healthy dishes that use natural ingredients gifted to us by nature. Unlike most vegetarian concepts that create a mock-meat menu, here we reintroduce the deliciousness of vegetables. We accompany our wide array of dishes with innovative tea concoctions like Ruby Tara MarTEAni made with roselle, hawthorn and licorice, as well as Beauty Vitamin made with oolong tea and fresh snow pear juice.”

In KL, Li Kim has come to run one of 13 departments under the Kechara umbrella as CEO of Kechara Media & Publications. She says, “I may have been born a Buddhist or Taoist but spirituality to me was merely a concept. Praying on Wesak Day and on the eighth day of Chinese New Year was about as religious as I could be.” She had her first encounter with HE at a private function in 2009, which she says left her thinking, “Buddhism ain’t that boring after all.”

Li Kim says, “My aspiration has always been to be happy within and without. It hasn’t changed since coming to Kechara. In fact, it’s here that I find myself closer to achieving my aspiration. Kechara has helped me find true happiness that comes from a deep inner self. My aspiration now is to be happy with a purpose,” says the mother of three boys.

Under Li Kim’s leadership as CEO, Kechara Media & Publications (KMP) has published my inspirational books and a number of bestsellers such as the recently released The Promise and Tales My Lama Told Me, along with previous titles like If Not Now When, 108 Ways To Grab My Apples, PEACE, Gurus for Hire, Why I Make Myself Unhappy and Snakes, Roosters and Pigs. Together with her team, she has not only put KMP on the global map but through her books and the essence of her Dharma work, has shared her Spiritual Guide’s thoughts and teachings with the rest of the world.

In addition, Li Kim has also taken paper to television, with KMP’s first of 13 television series soon to be aired on NTV7 called Tsem’s Paranormal Zone. “The show is broken down into entertaining and informative 30-minute segments. It’s basically about spirits that are really all around us,” she says, not wanting to let the cat fully out of the bag. As the host of the programme, Li Kim is one step closer to her lifelong dream of becoming an actress.

The three ladies believe that Malaysian businesswomen should network more in support of one another. “We should stop giving into the rules and regulations of the world, stop falling prey to oppression, suppression and repression. We cannot relate to our power and empowerment in the same way a man does. We should look at the strengths and gifts we have as women and use them well,” says Datuk May passionately. “And I personally don’t think Asian women are any more restricted or restrained than women in other parts of the world. Just look at Indira Gandhi, the first female prime minister. We women are very strong in many ways.”

Datuk May encourages all women to stand up for themselves and be proud of who they are. In a lesson she’s always taught her children: “Our situation is always in our hands. An independent person is one who dares to do what he or she wants to do – mistakes and all. Don’t let society’s norms entrap you. When Malaysia received independence in 1957, did you think the leaders were going to regret it? They decided they had to do something for things to change. We will always make mistakes but don’t let mistakes pull you back. If you fall, just get up and go on – that’s independence. It has nothing to do with your social status, money or education. It’s all in the mindset. Independence is how well you take what you have in your life and what you do with it.”

 

 

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18 Responses to Women Rule on Prestige Magazine 2012

  1. Carmen Lin on Dec 29, 2012 at 3:10 pm

    It’s an inspiring sharing by Datuk May, Li Kim and Li Kheng. I really like how Datuk May’s interprets independence which I quoted “Our situation is always in our hands. An independent person is one who dares to do what he or she wants to do – mistakes and all. Don’t let society’s norms entrap you. When Malaysia received independence in 1957, did you think the leaders were going to regret it? They decided they had to do something for things to change. We will always make mistakes but don’t let mistakes pull you back. If you fall, just get up and go on – that’s independence. It has nothing to do with your social status, money or education. It’s all in the mindset. Independence is how well you take what you have in your life and what you do with it.”

    We should never complain what we don’t have instead use all the tools and things that we have to work out the problem or situation we encountered. Always be humble to learn from others. Most importantly never be jealous of what others have that you don’t instead work hard to get what you want. From the quote above I learnt that we should never be afraid to make mistakes and learn from it. Never complain and whine, just work with it.

    All the pictures are wonderfully taken with the sense of elegance and some superior feeling which suited the title of this article “Women Rule”

  2. HelenaC on Dec 30, 2012 at 12:29 pm

    3 of them are a wonder woman! Gorgeous in Dharma!!

  3. Sheryl KH (JB) on Dec 30, 2012 at 2:28 pm

    When I see the first picture, it makes me feel that somehow this mother and daughter relationship is blessed prior to their current life. Li Kim through past life regression hypnosis in one of Tsem’s Paranormal show has also said that her then mother looked like Datuk May Phng. We have also learnt that there is no such thing as coincidence, so somehow, through some interesting twist and turn, three of them come together again and live as a family.

    I like very much to read that Datuk May Phng has always been an inpirational figure for both daughters. How nice is it that the children can seek advise from their parents when they need it. Very fortunate.

    I can read that Datuk May is a very stout woman and I admire this quality very much. I like especially the last paragraph in this article that teaches us on independence. We all have only one life and so we got to live it as much as possible without regrets.

  4. sarahyap on Dec 30, 2012 at 6:58 pm

    Very nice article on Datuk Phng, Li Kim and Li Kheng. I like how they were very honest with their life story and talked about the ups and downs in their lives… I feel Datuk May’s life really inspiring, a very powerful and strong lady.

  5. Sharon Saw on Dec 31, 2012 at 12:21 am

    These three ladies are truly inspirational. Although they are related, they are different in character but the same trait of strength, determination and independence is very evident. Datuk May has certainly set a good example to her daughters for them both to join Dharma full time after having successful careers.

    The three of them look great in the photoshoot, despite being taken after an all-night meeting, which just shows how steely these three ladies are. I find all three of them inspirational – for their openness to the Dharma and their genuine care for their Dharma family. Datuk May in particular, only met Dharma when she was 60 years old, which shows that you are never too old to learn and to constantly change for the better.

    My favourite shot is the cover shot, which shows three elegant, powerful ladies who now have devoted their lives to benefiting others – which is reflective of the teachings and compassion of their Guru, Tsem Rinpoche.

  6. Andrew Boon on Dec 31, 2012 at 12:39 am

    Datuk May has been an inspiring President of Kechara for two terms running and there is no sign of her slowing down. In fact, she has inspired both her daughter into Dharma! And both Li Kim and Li Kheng are now both in the Ladrang serving our beloved Rinpoche!

    Two generation of strong beautiful women… women who are to be reckoned with. Women who are Dharmically inclined. But most of all women that we love!

  7. Daisy on Dec 31, 2012 at 9:47 am

    To me, this is a very true and inspiring story! Datuk May is my icon. She is well educated and with her right asset/timing and super positive mind to bring out the best despite thinking she is just a female/mother of four. I like the photo that shows the strength of individual, where Datuk May was sitting at the back (firmed/stable/confident), Li Kim the most front (bold/freedom/cheerful) and Li Kheng (soft/feminine) posing next to her mom. It shows the women quality should compose of these 3 perfect combinations, Inner (heart/mind stable), speech (soft /persuasive), and appearance (smile/positive). 温婉内敛,外柔内刚. Rejoice Datuk May & Family.

  8. Judy on Dec 31, 2012 at 12:58 pm

    Here is a family who have whatever most of us could only dream of, and yet, Datuk May, Li Kim & Li Kheng have let go of a good life and luxuries to serve their Guru and be close to Dharma. I admire and respect these three power women.

  9. Shin on Jan 2, 2013 at 2:35 am

    I am very happy that a magazine like Prestige are inspired by these great women and decide to feature them.

    Datuk May, Li Kim and Li Kheng are not just successful businesswomen, they are also great motivators, and mentors/ guides who will bring out the best in you, leading by example. I am lucky to have met and work with these great women.

    Different from other businesswomen I know, they put spirituality and benefiting others their priority, instead of just totally focusing on profit and how to ‘utilise’ (exploit?!) human resources.

    It’s also good to read about how each of them as individual, rise to the challenge they face in different aspects of their lives, and like what Li Kheng said, embrace the blessings we’ve been given and make the best of the situation we find ourselves in.

    I am also glad that these women showed other women out there that despite being successful businesswomen, you can also embrace spirituality and volunteer your time for a higher cause – spiritual and personal development of others.

  10. Doreen Teoh on Jan 2, 2013 at 4:48 pm

    Datuk May has always been an inspiration to me. Her strong will, determination, hard working, and her work that she has dedicated to her family, career, and Dharma especially to Kechara and Rinpoche is such a great admiration.

    Datuk May is a representation of our Iron Lady in Malaysia. I love the pictures of Datuk May with her two beautiful, confidence daughters. It shows a very good bonding of mother and daughters.

    Thank you, Datuk May for what you have done for my family in Kechara.

  11. Paris on Jan 3, 2013 at 1:13 am

    Beautiful! And what an honour it has been to work with these powerful ladies. The world is a better place for having the three of them in it and I am proud to be able to call Li Kim and Li Kheng my friends and my sisters and Datuk May, a spiritual fairy godmother like no other. Just as the article highlights, it’s wonderful to see a mother working and practising alongside her two daughters, and to see how they each support and inspire each other in the Dharma. This is one of the best things we can do together with our families and the people we love. Dinner parties, holidays, going out and all that is fun and good, but ultimately, it doesn’t really help us in the long term or at the most crucial moment of death… I’ve come to really understand that the best thing we can do for the people we love so much, like our sisters / brothers and parents is to help them connect as much as possible to spirituality, positive karmic imprints and lots of merit.

    I have had the good fortune to work directly with Li Kim when we were both in KMP together, and later, with Li Kheng in the Ladrang. And what wonderful times we’ve had – my spiritual journey in Kechara and in Dharma would definitely not have been the same without these two dearest friends. It is such an honour to know two beuatiful, talented girls like these, who can have and do any and everything they want in the world, but who have chosen instead to devote a life to helping others through the Dharma – and really, it is when they’re right in the midst of doing a Dharma project, coordinating something in Kechara, working knee deep in soil at KFR that you see them at their most brilliant. Thank you both for being such wonderful friends, the true sisters that I have never had and an incredible inspiration for the millions of other girls out there in the world who will look to you and see just how amazing spiritual practice can be.

  12. Lucas Roth on Jan 3, 2013 at 5:27 pm

    nice job mom! nice job to all of them. i am happy that they are who they are now, if not they would be totally different. they are all very hardworking, inspiring and kind people. please let them live long so that they can benefit others. :D

  13. Milly on Jan 4, 2013 at 10:37 am

    Datuk May is such an inspiration to everyone. A hands-on President of Kechara who offers her time and financial assistance untirelessly. Datuk May is blessed with children who are very committed to the Dharma. I wish Datuk May,Li Khim and Li Kheng every success.

  14. Sharon on Jan 5, 2013 at 11:14 pm

    Amazing women indeed. I would love to know how Datuk May steered her daughters towards Dharma to become the gorgeous and accomplished women they are today.

  15. Wan Wai Meng on Jan 7, 2013 at 6:23 pm

    This is an amazing story about this three women and their lives. Mao has always said that women held half the world up and this is rightly so within Kechara as well. In Kechara many key positions are held by ladies and these women are absolutely spiritual to the max. It is a pleasure to be working side by side with these ladies.

  16. uncle eddie on Jan 12, 2013 at 1:09 pm

    What Dato May had said to all women, including her two daughters is, “To stand up for themselves”, is indeed very inspiring and true to the core. We must be brave enough to pursue a life of purpose and passion, have faith that dreams or visions can come through, believe in possibilities and be aware that self-imposed limits can prevent us from moving beyond situations that may be undesirable! Whether we believe it or not, some women do truly make better Leaders than men, if not for the long prejudiced fact many are overlooked based solely on gender. Over the last decades, we have seen a female Prime Minister in England, India, and Pakistan, just to mention a few. Many more will come forth on the scene in the near future. So dont lose hope ladies!

  17. Jean Ai on Jan 15, 2013 at 1:36 am

    You know what the best thing about this article is? I have had the privilege of working with all three women and NOTHING in this article is a lie or embellishment. They really are as strong, intelligent, tenacious and highly accomplished as the Prestige has painted them to be.

    Kechara really is built on female energy, and appropriately so since we’re named after the paradise of the female Buddha Vajrayogini. Datuk May and her daughters built up Kechara House, Dato Ruby built up Kechara Soup Kitchen, Irene built Kechara Oasis, Datin Ng was Rinpoche’s first major sponsor who cleared our debts accrued as a result of opening KH1 (our first Dharma centre!)…at every crucial stage and milestone in Kechara’s history, there’s always been a strong woman holdiing up the roof ;)

  18. philyong on Jan 30, 2013 at 10:40 pm

    I have personally worked with all 3 ladies and I gotta say they are really passionate about the Dharma.

    Datuk May had many successful ventures in her life and when she first met Kechara, she was at a stage where she could comfortably retire but yet she chose to walk the Dharma path. Not only that, she also got Li Kim and Li Kheng involved because she knows there is no other way better than Dharma.

    It is nice to see the mother and daughters team working together for a good cause, at the very least although in Kechara it is much more than just a good cause. I hope this family will inspire more people to come in to the Dharma. They truly are a good example of a Dharma family.

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Here is the latest news and pictorial updates, as it happens, of our upcoming forest retreat project.

The Kechara Forest Retreat is a unique holistic retreat centre focused on the total wellness of body, mind and spirit. This is a place where families and individuals will find peace, nourishment and inspiration in a natural forest environment. At Kechara Forest Retreat, we are committed to give back to society through instilling the next generation with universal positive values such as kindness and compassion.

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The Unknown

The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
So go pursue all the way with the unknown,
because all unknown with familiarity becomes the known.
~Tsem Rinpoche

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We have to be ready to change when we seek a teacher otherwise stay hidden.~Tsem Rinpoche
5 days ago
15 minutes to watch this will blow your mind: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=55883
6 days ago
H.H. the current Kyabje Pabongka Rinpoche -December 2014
6 days ago
December 2014-His Holiness Kyabje Pabongka Rinpoche in front of the largest Tsongkapa statue in the world. This Tsongkapa is in Champa Ling Monastery, Chamdo, Tibet. 
6 days ago
This is the perfect setting of the environment of where I like to live. With trees, blue waters, mountains, green, speckled with flowers. TR
7 days ago
Nothing can be found without searching for it. Just because others say you can't do it or don't believe in you or you can't see it, doesn't mean it cannot exist. Never give up!~Tsem Rinpoche 
1 week ago
This Manjushri is in Kechara's publishing wing. Stunning. TR
1 week ago
This Tara is beautiful. Save the pictures. TR
1 week ago
Having dinner with special friends from around the world. We are honored to be with Geshe Konchok Gyeltsen lak. 
1 week ago
This is very powerful. Share it. TR
1 week ago
Decemeber 2014-They just finished their Tsongkapa retreat and I am so glad for them. TR
2 weeks ago
We have so many mysteries and some can be proven while others not. TR
2 weeks ago
Amazing and so appropriate for some. 
2 weeks ago
This is so true and we have to think about it carefully. 
2 weeks ago
This is so true. It makes sense. 
2 weeks ago
Good dharma friends explore interesting places together.
2 weeks ago
These powerful quotes are timeless and I must read from time to time. It brings sanity, peace and focus. Tsem Rinpoche 
3 weeks ago
This is very interesting news. News I thought was not possible. 
3 weeks ago
This is good advice. I will do more and more of this as it's time. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
Good dharma friends go a long way together as they can work together to benefit many beings. Kudos to friends in the Dharma. TR
1 month ago
Besides Willow Creek, California, this spot in Washington state is another area where many Bigfoot sightings occur frequently. TR
1 month ago
BREAKING NEWS: India has banned the import of animal tested cosmetics. Coming just few months after they banned cosmetics testing in Indian labs, the import ban now makes India the first cruelty-free cosmetics zone in South Asia. Now it's time for Australia to end cruel cosmetics. My bill has been on the books for months, and the Labor and Liberal parties still haven't come to the table. It's time for action. Join our call to end cruel cosmetics. Visit http://grns.mp/end-cruel-cosmetics
1 month ago
Celebrity host Li Kim interviews Dato' Wira Eric for Kechara Magazine. Tsem Rinpoche 
1 month ago
Must go see the movie, very inspiring. Does anyone know where I can find this on DVD? Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Buddhas for gifts to people who wished to be blessed daily. It is always beneficial to wear a Buddha pendant. Tsem Rinpoche 
1 month ago
Pastor Seng Piow surprised me with this Vajrapani today. Very beautiful. TR
1 month ago
A Tara presented to me by caring Beng Kooi. This statue is very special to me because Beng Kooi's motivation is pure and samaya clean. I appreciate this very much. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
My Uncle Mr. Min Hong Gui in Taiwan. I met him once when we visited Taiwan and he shared much of our family history with me. I was grateful. He is the only sibling of my mother. Tsem Rinpoche 
1 month ago
Kechara Pastor Dr. Lanse doing last rites and prayers in the hospital for someone who just passed. Om Mani Peme Hung. 
1 month ago
This is wonderful!
2 months ago
Beautiful. Please share with other spiritual friends. 
2 months ago
This is one of the funniest things I've seen in a long time! I laughed till I teared..please watch: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=53930
2 months ago
Wait till you see the pictures this photographer caught in portraits in order to evoke some feelings in us: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=53879
2 months ago
Guess what we did on Mt Rinjani? See: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=53342
2 months ago
Modern Buddhist Fellowship members joining in celebrations in Kechara.  October 24, 2014
2 months ago
This is a Cockatoo named Boy. He was in a small cage alone most of the time for 22 years. The owner finally relented and let us rescue Boy and be put in a large huge outdoor aviary with friends and fresh air. He came to us on October 24, 2014. 
2 months ago
October 24, 2014-Pastor Shin giving a talk in Kechara House. 
2 months ago
October 24, 2014-Was presented with lots of flowers today. How kind. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 months ago
Mark Twain once said, “Of all the creatures ever made Man is the most detestable. He’s the only creature that inflicts pain for sport, knowing it to be pain.” ~ From Earthlings, http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/earthlings.html
2 months ago
The highest achievements are usually done alone.~Tsem Rinpoche (Sometimes the further you move up and achieve, the less people will be around or unable to keep up. Some cannot understand, accept or wish to do more and they can drop off. Some may wish you well but cannot keep up anyways. The higher your goals, the less most are able to understand or envision. Some may be even against you. But what is important is you stay focused and consistent. After all big achievements are done by only a few and not the majority. Highest achievements are usually done alone or with a very few. Stamina, vision, consistency, focus, care, responsibility and sometimes even a sense of compassion is necessary to achieve anything big. Giving up gets us nowhere, so continuing is a good option. When you make it, some will come back, many will join and the naysayers regret and wished they had stayed. Tsem Rinpoche)
2 months ago
Since I was a young boy I wished to live in this type of environment. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 months ago
Halloween is my favorite holiday. Everything about it brings good memories. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 months ago
This is my dream home, dream location and a place where I would spiritually grow. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 months ago
"I like doing things that are going to last longer than a minute in the world."~ Christy Turlington
2 months ago
Click on this picture to enlarge and tell me what they are doing? Tsem Rinpoche 
2 months ago
"One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous or honest." ~ Maya Angelou
3 months ago
Mother gorilla's heart- A child fell into the gorilla cage. She broke her arms and legs and she was unconcious. A male gorilla came and tried to hurt her. Luckily, a female gorilla rescued her by chasing other gorillas away not to hurt her. This is an instinct of mother animals that take care of their babies. The mother gorilla climbed the 57 ft wall and took the girl to the zoo officer. The girl was sent to hospital and the doctor cured her. Thanks to mother gorilla's kind heart. -From FB (Please always be kind to animal. Never hurt them, kill them or eat them. Tsem Rinpoche)
3 months ago
October 3, 2014-Karen said there were even people in the Gifts Department of Kechara participating in Blog Chat today. Wonderful to learn. Tsem Rinpoche
3 months ago
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  • Socialite becomes a volunteer in Malaysian soup kitchen
    Socialite becomes a volunteer in Malaysian soup kitchen
    In the Malaysian capital, Ruby Khong devotes her lunch hours delivering food to the needy, even when the tropical heat and humidity make it hard to breathe. "It was always about myself, what I wanted and that continued on for a while until 1994," she says. That year, she was on a quest for spiritual guidance in India and met a Buddhist monk named Tsem Rinpoche. Read more here: http://www.bbc.com/news/business-29986205
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    Mumu always prepares his bed this way before sleeping. Cute.
    2 months ago
  • Watch what Jason Clare said in parliament
    Watch what Jason Clare said in parliament
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    2 months ago
  • Super cute attack. Have to watch!!
    Super cute attack. Have to watch!!
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    They pump 'things' into poultry to make it look plump and bigger to attract you to buy. Then you eat whatever they've pumped and think how it builds up in your body? Is your taste buds worth it to risk your health? Tsem Rinpoche
    3 months ago
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    Look at this 2 minute video, while Hong Kong is having massive protests,right over the skyline of a city a UFO is spotted observing.. Incredible footage. UFO's are historically said to always gather where there is massive conflicts or congregations of people for hundreds of years.
    3 months ago
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    See this video and do share with friends. See what happens at 1:10........Om Mani Peme Hung Watch it for the sake of the beings within in enduring what they have to endure. Don't think about how you feel because you are not there, but how they feel. Tsem Rinpoche
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    I just purchased an empty locket from an art store for around $10 and had a nice picture of His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche inserted in the front and His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche inserted on the others side at home. Attached a str...ing and it's good to wear for blessings. Look how beautiful. I am the type, I devote myself to my practice but I remember it is the sole kindness of the guru's teachings. Without the guru there is no dharma at all as I cannot speak to Buddha directly. Tsem Rinpoche
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    I was gifted this wonderful blingy shiny new pen by a spiritual friend. I didn't know Swarovski pens write so smoothly. I am going to enjoy writing with this. Thank you Jessica Pimentel. Tsem Rinpoche
    3 months ago
  • Is this the Loch Ness monster?
    Is this the Loch Ness monster?
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    In Kechara Forest Retreat we have a large aviary with many rescued birds and tortoises. We just built a nice pool for them to cool down in. Tsem Rinpoche
    4 months ago
  • Rescuing dog in LA river
    Rescuing dog in LA river
    4 months ago
  • This is a very inspiring video by Jim Carrey you must see
    This is a very inspiring video by Jim Carrey you must see
    4 months ago
  • Dalai Lama watching TV
    Dalai Lama watching TV
    4 months ago
  • Dog with a heart of Gold
    Dog with a heart of Gold
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    4 months ago
  • 14th Dalai Lama with Mrs.Indira Gandhi , Delhi INDIA 1966
    14th Dalai Lama with Mrs.Indira Gandhi , Delhi INDIA 1966
    6 months ago
  • The Girl Who Couldn't Cry - Water is Life
    The Girl Who Couldn't Cry - Water is Life
    It's really hard to educate a generation of people born in conditions where they take things for granted. A simple slogan campaign that says, "Save water, It's precious" isn't sticky enough to make inroads. That's exactly where this video steps in: to make people realize how precious water actually is. A brilliant video that follows the heartbreaking story of a young girl that cannot cry. Sounds like fiction? Sadly, it is not.
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    Dear everyone, All sentient beings deserve to live, be happy and not hurt, including animals. We should never hurt them or eat them. Look how much this chicken welcomes a hug and love. Observe carefully. Don't eat beings who can feel pain because the karma comes back. Tsem Rinpoche
    8 months ago
  • The appreciation shown here is so deep and touching.
    The appreciation shown here is so deep and touching.
    Dear friends, See this incredible video. This chimp was found in captivity for many years. Dr Jane Goodall released him into the wild. Look how he comes back to thank her with deep apprecition. It's amazing. Animals have such strong feelings of pain and happiness just like us. We should never hurt them and share with others to not hurt them. Tsem Rinpoche http://www.tsemrinpoche.com
    8 months ago
  • Aki drinking some water in the aviary
    Aki drinking some water in the aviary
    Aki is a rescued bird, he now lives in Kechara Forest Retreat Aviary
    9 months ago
  • Jamyang enjoying some fresh corn
    Jamyang enjoying some fresh corn
    Jamyang is one of our rescue birds that live in Kechara Forest Retreat Aviary
    9 months ago
  • The Cute Mumus Practising Dog Orchestra at Kechara Forest Retreat
    The Cute Mumus Practising Dog Orchestra at Kechara Forest Retreat
    Today the Mumus (dogs) decided to do a dog orchestra rehearsal together with the Kechara Forest Retreat (KFR) dogs.
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    Gongkar is our new bird for Kechara Forest Retreat's aviary. Gongkar never had friends and the original owner could not bring him to his destination. Now he is with us and assimilating in his cage within the aviary for a few weeks then released into aviary. Look at how much he wants attention from the other birds. Cute. Tsem Rinpoche
    1 years ago
  • Mumu, Oser and Dharma running and having a good time. I love seeing them playing. Tsem Rinpoche
    Mumu, Oser and Dharma running and having a good time. I love seeing them playing. Tsem Rinpoche
    1 years ago
  • Mumus running at Kechara Forest Retreat
    Mumus running at Kechara Forest Retreat
    1 years ago
  • Kechara Forest Retreat panorama, September 2013
    Kechara Forest Retreat panorama, September 2013
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    Dechog our cockatoo at Kechara Forest Retreat grabbing long beans which he loves. Nice bird. We love him. Tsem Rinpoche
    2 yearss ago
  • The mumus having outdoor evening stroll!!!
    The mumus having outdoor evening stroll!!!
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    17 May 2013, heavy rain at Kechara Forest Retreat from 7am-8am (1 hour). Water overflowed the existing drain and also opened up a much wider new "route" for itself.
    2 yearss ago
  • Must see video from Rajendra on our disciplined dogs
    Must see video from Rajendra on our disciplined dogs
    2 yearss ago

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CHAT PICTURES

Hardworking Kecharians doing stock take. Lucy Yap
6 hours ago
Wai Meng was introducing Tibetan Buddhism to some of orang asli during our visit in Kampong Jantung Baru today. Kin Hoe
yesterday
The children at Kampong Jantung Baru were eagerly lining up and waiting for their turns to receive the stationaries from our Ipoh volunteers during the orang asli settlement visit today. Kin Hoe
yesterday
Mr. Patrick has been helping the orang asli in most of the villages area in Perak state for 20 years since his retirement. Rejoice for his selflessness and compassion towards the orang asli. Kin Hoe
yesterday
Our new volunteer Ms. Wai Ching has participated in our orang asli settlement visit today organized by Kechara Ipoh Study Group. She has distributed the stationaries to the children at Kampong Jantung Baru. Kin Hoe
yesterday
Through the kindness and blessings from Rinpoche, Kechara Ipoh Study Group has arrived at Kampong Jantung Baru, Kampong Pawong and Kampong Chiduk today. Our volunteers and members have distributed the groceries to the orang asli families. The other team has distributed the stationaries to the children as well. It was a rainy day and all of us were happy to participate in this virtuous activity. Kin Hoe
yesterday
Whatever activities we put so much import into actually is subjective when faced with death.~ H. E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche_PB
yesterday
Fear the lies and don't fear the truth.~ H.E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche_PB
yesterday
When we pursue spiritual practice, we must have the results of being tolerant & kind~ H.E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche_PB
yesterday
Be appreciative of what you have before even that is taken away by death.~H.E.Tsem Tulku Rinpoche_Hee TS
yesterday
Death can be our enemy or friend depending what we do when we realize our mortality.‪~H.E.Tsem Tulku Rinpoche_Hee TS
yesterday
Baffling is samsara when we have not heard the dharma.~‪H.E.Tsem Tulku Rinpoche_Hee TS
yesterday
Kechara Penang Study Group members happily helping up in Flea Market to raise fund for Medicine Buddha Hill. Thank you for all the volunteers for the sincere help. -Soon Huat
yesterday
Our volunteers have started to segregate and pack for our orang asli settlement visit today at Kechara Ipoh chapel. They look energetic with kind hearts. Rejoice! Kin Hoe
yesterday
Wai Meng has started the briefing for our orang asli visit today in Kechara Ipoh chapel. We will head to Kampong Jantong Baru, Kampong Pawong and Kampong Chiduk. Kin Hoe
yesterday
More pictures of volunteers in Kechara Ipoh chapel for our orang asli settlement visit today organized by Kechara Ipoh Study Group. They are packing the stationaries for the children in the village where we will visit today. Kin Hoe
yesterday
Kechara Ipoh Study Group has started our orang asli settlement visit today. Our kind volunteers have helped us to carry the rice packets for segregation in our Kechara Ipoh chapel. Many thanks for their generosity and kindness. Kin Hoe
yesterday
We can go up or down, depending on our training.~ H. E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche_PB
2 days ago
Activities that fill our days daily reflect where our mind's focus is.~ H. E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche_PB
2 days ago
We can go our own way but what we do reflects our mind.~H. E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche_PB
2 days ago
Love can be interesting as it's never what you expect.~ H. E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche_PB
2 days ago
Sometimes you need to speak up & sometimes you don't. ~ H. E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche_PB
2 days ago
Happy Faces of Penang Study Group attending Setrap Puja for dedication of long life of our Guru, H.E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche. There is a new member joining us today, her name is Neswari. She is wife of one of our members. It is great to see a couple joining puja and learn Dharma together. - Soon Huat
2 days ago
We should value our enemies because they provide us with unique opportunities to practice patience, tolerance and forbearance.~H.H.Dalai Lama_Hee TS
2 days ago
All roads in samsara lead to a dead end, seek the dharma path. ~‪H.E.Tsem Tulku Rinpoche_Hee TS
2 days ago

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