Question asked by Helpme
My elder sister hates me . She is jealous of me and gives me wrong advice and suggestions . Don't know if she does that knowingly or unknowingly. I never felt sisterly bond with her I tried so many times to be close to her share have conversation etc but she doesn't . So I thought I need to give her space because she gives me vibes like she is a busy person and has no time for her little sister that . I haven't talked to her for many months and she doesn't text me too . It was always me trying to start a conversation now I am tired what should I do
Dear Helpme,
I’m sorry to read of your relationship with your sister. It sounds like this has gone on for a very long time, but we should always try and be harmonious, which it sounds like you have been. When we have such problems, we should try to understand the other person’s thinking and then try to figure out how we can help that person. One of the major ways we can create harmony with others is actually changing ourselves for the better, improving ourselves to be a better person, acting out of kindness and compassion. This is done to help yourself. When you transform yourself, those near you will seek that transformation and be drawn to you because of it. Then you will able to improve your relationships with others for the better. You should learn more about Buddhism and how to implement this in your daily life.
If I may, I suggest you engage in the practices of Lama Tsongkhapa and Dorje Shugden on a daily basis. Lama Tsongkhapa’s practice is especially beneficial in helping to ease one’s mind, which will ease the pain caused by your sister. The practice of Dorje Shugden will remove obstacles from your life, and if you make a conscious effort to have a good and beneficial relationship with your sister, Dorje Shugden’s practice may also clear the obstacles so that you can achieve this. This should be coupled with studying and implementing the Buddhist teachings into your life. This will bear very good results.
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