Question asked by Dorjee
Dear Pastors.
I usually give the benefit of doubts to others..in addition I m receptive,gentle,peaceful,easy going person..but in a materialistic dog eat dog world..people miscalculate,misjudge thinking they got a easy prey or victim..and try to play games..to make the things happen in their favour through cajouling,mind game etc..and I feel bad and angry also to see such act and demeanor from other..should I remain at loss and victim..thinking that karma will punish them..Thank you.!
Dear Dorjee,
How we look at things is important for our inner peace and happiness. To have a calm and stable mind, we must change the way we look at things. Basically, it is about changing our attitude, perspective and approach to people and the world around us. Everyday, we meet people with different states of mind, some positive, and some negative. Due to their delusions, some may have bad intentions towards you. We have no control over their minds but we can have control over ours. As H.E. Tsem Rinpoche said, “if you’re a Dharma practitioner, you must have proper motivation from Day One.” Are you practising solely for yourself or for the sake of others? If it is for the sake of others, then you will be able to bear the difficulties and not give up on them, whatever they do to you. Think about your family and loved ones. Would you give up on them if they have done something wrong and have hurt you? Getting angry and having ill-will towards others will not solve anything. There is a Dharma teaching by H.E. Tsem Rinpoche in this blog which will help you to understand the importance of changing one’s perspective. Here is the link: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/nothing-changes-everything-changes.html. It will also help to recite the “Eight Verses of Training the Mind” as part of your daily prayers: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/prayers-and-sadhanas/sadhana-prayers.html#eight.