My Childhood in Taiwan…Revisiting…

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This was me in Taipei, Taiwan...

In December 2008 I went to Taiwan to do a ritual for a special family and visited the old street and apartment I lived in until 1972. I went with Irene, Seng Piow, Fat Monk and Paul to Taiwan. They came to assist me. There was a lady there by the name of Ms Kuan who was my mother’s schoolmate in Taiwan and her sister was going for a serious heart operation, so I needed to do some pujas. We did the pujas in the hotel room with the Kuan family and of course the ill sister. I did the puja today and she was checking into the hospital tomorrow. Divination said that her operation would be a success. I very much wanted to go to Taiwan to do this puja in person as I owe the Kuan family my sincere gratitude. Let me explain…

My mother is of Royal Mongolian lineage. When she and family immigrated to Taiwan from their homeland, she was a schoolgirl. She went to school in Taipei and had a good friend named Ms Kuan. My father left Tibet and had a wife/three kids already when he met my mom in Taiwan. He never told my mom and she became pregnant with me. He couldn’t marry her and confessed to having a family already in Tibet (they came to Taiwan later). My mom was beyond consoling. Her pain and hurt was tremendous. The shame and stigma that time with her parents, relatives and community was too much for her to bear. She secretly gave birth to me in Taiwan General Hospital and then gave me up. My mom immigrated to the US.

My mom’s mother (grandmother) found a Taiwanese family to take care of me for US$50 per month and would visit me from time to time. This lady caretaker was called Shi-mama. She had a husband and three sons living in a small second floor apartment across from a school. Well, I was taken there. Before my mom left she asked Ms Kuan to visit me from time to time but never openly admitting I was her son. My mom got married in the US and lived in Philadelphia with husband/two sons.

Shi-mama had her own huge problems and didn’t treat me very nicely. Her sons were very abusive towards me punishing me whenever they can for the smallest mistakes. I was a small kid. Ms Kuan and her brother Mr Kuan noticed. They would often come down to where I stayed and take me into their home in the Taiwan mountains to spend weekends. They would wash me, feed me real well, buy me toys and play a lot with me. They were VERY VERY VERY KIND to this illegitimate boy and I looked forward to visiting them. I didn’t know who they were at all, but I just remember a very nice lady with a kind brother who always was kind to me. It took thirty years for me to find them again and re-unite. It was a teary re-union. I realized now that Ms Kuan really cared about me and wanted to adopt me, but my grandmother would not let her. I don’t know why. I would have loved to stay with her and call her my mom. But that was not to be. I was taken to the United States against my wishes in 1971 and given to a Mongolian Family in Howell, New Jersey.

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This is the set up for the puja I did for Ms Kuan's sister going for heart surgery the very next day. I am so glad I was able to go.

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Doing some rituals for Ms Kuan's sister. Her surgery was successful and until today I am glad to update she is fine.

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This was myself as a baby in Taipei, Taiwan.

Again, where this was taken, I don't know...but somewhere in Taipei...

I don't know who was holding me, but I looked happy.

This horse was given to me by my grandmother Dechen Minh...I loved the horse. Shi-mama only let me play with it when grandma came to visit. Otherwise I never saw the horse. But I remember it very well.

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I don't know how old I was in this, but these pictures were kept and given to me by my adopted mother Dana Bugayeff in New Jersey. But these pictures were taken in Taipei for sure. Ms Kuan and her brother says I still look the same!!!!

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Ms Kuan told me I was very happy, friendly, intelligent, extremely playful and smiled a lot. I guess over the years, I had less and less reason to smile...because in my teenage years living on my own in Los Angeles, people commented I should smile more.

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Yes, this was me. In a twist, I met my natural birth mother (Dewa) in the US several times. She would visit me at my step parents house in New Jersey but never letting me know she was my mother. She told me that when I was seven months old, monks and senior lamas came to her in Taiwan and said I was a reincarnated lama and that they should take me to the Monastery to be enthroned when I was a little older. She told me, she wouldn’t allow them to take me. I asked her why. She said, if I was a real incarnation, when I grow up I would prove who I am by my actions. I told my mother that whoever was watching over me at that time should have let me go since no one else wanted me. I would have loved to have gone to the Monastery at a young age. Instead I was shipped to the United States. I was very unhappy there even at a young age. I knew when I was older I would travel and live in distant lands. Where I didn’t know, but somewhere in the East was what I always felt when I was very young.

 

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This is a picture of me with Ms Kuan who was very loving, kind and caring to me after my mother left me to Shi-mama’s care. Ms Kuan would come often to visit me at Shi-mama’s place…I looked forward to Ms Kuan’s visits so so so much…I remember clearly…She treated me just like her own child. She never married or had children of her own.

 

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This is me reuniting with Ms Kuan like 36 years later!!!! Can you imagine?? I didn't meet this lovely person for that long. I looked for her and found her. Irene did extensive research and found her for me. I was so glad to have found her. I thank Irene so much. I thank Ms Kuan so much for being kind to a child that experienced very little kindness living in Taiwan. I cannot express the amount of gratitude I feel toward Ms Kuan as it is beyond words.

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I offered Ms Kuan a watch and my heartfelt thanks. She is crying here. She is so soft. I have given her thangkas, statues and malas already. I want her to be safe. The gifts I have given her in no way match what she did for me...what she did for me lives in my heart forever. Kind people like her with no agenda are so rare.

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While in Taiwan, our little group went to see a Chinese opera. I like Chinese opera. It is such a rich form of cultural expression.

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This is me with Mr Kuan. The kind and very nice brother of Ms Kuan. He used to buy me toys, take me to men’s public baths and wash me thoroughly and carry me on his shoulders. I never forgot this kind gentle man. I just didn’t know who he was at the time. In Taiwan, they have public baths and Shi-mama didn’t wash me very well, but Mr Kuan with give me thorough scrubbings in these baths. I enjoyed them very much. I think he had a lot of pity for a kid like me. I thank you so much Mr Kuan for being such a kind man. I will never forget your kindness.

 

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This is me re-uniting with Mr Kuan 36 years later. It was very emotional. I was the kid he scrubbed and cleaned. I was the kid he use to have ride on his shoulders. I was that little neglected child that he showed love to…Thank you Mr Kuan for being so kind to a child that needed parents he didn’t have. This child now a grown up me, will NEVER FORGET you and Ms Kuan’s kindness. I will show kindness to others remembering you both always. Your kindnesses will not have been wasted on me…I promise.

 

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This is myself at the age of around six years old standing in front of the Chiang Kai Shek bust at my school in Taipei.

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Amazing, the bust was still there when I visited my school again in 2008.

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This is me on the playground of my school that remember clearly even now...

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At the entrance of my school in Taipei, Taiwan nearly four decades later...strange feeling...

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The road name of my school. Ms Kuan took us to the school.

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Wow...this is the school.

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Me in front of my old school. The courtyard changed though. This school is right across the street from where I stayed with Shi-mama.

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The white corner building on the 2nd floor is where I lived until I was seven years old before I was taken to the United States. My caretaker Ms Shi-mama, her husband, three sons and me all squeezed into the 2nd floor of this building. The ground floor had a small store (still there) by another tenant and the 1st floor was another tenant also. We didn’t have much space upstairs, but we squeezed in.

Nearly everyday after school I would sneak upstairs to the 2nd floor and leave my school bag and cap on the stairs to the apartment and go off. I would wander the streets until late at night daily until I was very tired and then sneak into the apt to sleep. Sometimes one or two of the three boys would wake up and make me kneel on rice on the floor to punish me. I didn’t go home much because there was not a lot of care, affection or food given to me. Most nights after school I would be given white rice with sugar mixed into it and that was about all. My teeth were nearly all rotten and had extensive dental work done when I arrived in the US. There would be much punishments from the three boys and sorry to say, my caretaker didn’t care much about me much…I was a job to her…and I lived with her for 24 hours a day for years… It was not a happy time for me at all.

I went with a small group of friends from Malaysia and the store owner on the ground floor still remembers me after 36 years when we inquired!!!!! Amazing. There are more buildings on the streets but I do recognize this building I lived in. The street seemed cleaner than I remembered also. Across the street from this building are two schools (still there). One is a elementary school that I attended and the other is a high school. It was strange walking down this street and seeing the school after 36 years. Ms Kuan remembered where I had stayed with Shi-mama.

 

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The second floor with a lot of stray plants growing is the apt I lived in until seven. Wow...36 years later I return for the first time and I do recognize it and it is still standing.

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This is the number plate of the house I lived in Taipei as a very young child...

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My biological mom's brother or rather my uncle. His name is David Minh. It was the first time I have ever met him. He has lived in Taiwan most of his life with wife and children. I've never met his wife/children. This is us meeting and conversing in the hotel (Taipei). He knows about me, but I never met him. He told me more of my background and how my mom's family left their homeland and ended up in Taiwan.

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My Royal Uncle and me (The black and white portrait above is my uncle during his younger days). He has been a minor celebrity in Taiwan for being Mongolian Royalty and has been interviewed/written about for decades in their media. He is coming out with his book. He speaks fluent Mongolian, Mandarin-Chinese and very good English. It was nice meeting him. He is my only uncle on my mother’s side. My mom has no other siblings. I have more relatives from their side of the family in Xinjiang that I have never met. I heard they would like to meet me. Irene and Seng Piow visited them and connected them to me. But I am yet to visit.

 

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This is the family I was adopted into in the United States. They are of Kalmyk (Mongolian) heritage. They emigrated to the US during War World Two. They settled in New Jersey and made a life for themselves there. This is a photo of my step mom Dana Bugayeff, her daughter Lidshma and my step dad Boris Bugayeff. Of course that’s me in the front.

I thought I’d share a little of myself more on this post. I will share more in the future. I have tons of pictures of me growing up in Howell, New Jersey and many stories to share along with the photos…

 

Tsem Rinpoche

 


 

This is a short video of myself giving dharma to Ms Kuan’s family and oral transmission to the long life mantra of Je Tsongkapa. It will benefit them very much.

 


 

A video of part of my meeting with my Uncle for the first time. Remember I knew of him, but never met him. He is the only sibling of my birth mother Dewa. It was nice to meet him and get more background on my family which many things I did not know for the past fourty years. Thank you Uncle David Minh for your time. I hope your book comes out soon. I am interested to read it.

 

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  1. Sharon Ong on Oct 17, 2016 at 5:02 pm

    This one bit really moved me – I was the kid he scrubbed and cleaned. I was the kid he use to have ride on his shoulders. I was that little neglected child that he showed love to…Thank you Mr Kuan for being so kind to a child that needed parents he didn’t have. This child now a grown up me, will NEVER FORGET you and Ms Kuan’s kindness. I will show kindness to others remembering you both always. Your kindnesses will not have been wasted on me…I promise.

    It is amazing how much impact kindness can have on people, especially for someone like Rinpoche. Lesson learnt: Pay it forward. When you have experienced kindness, extend the same to others.

  2. Valentina Suhendra on May 12, 2016 at 6:21 am

    I always find it fascinating to read about Rinpoche’s life stories. Even as a child he experienced abuse, not being fed or cared for very well.

    What I found amazing is even when he was experiencing numerous challenges, he still found the courage to smile and look happy. Little that people know then that the boy would grow up to benefit many people.

  3. Tshering on Apr 12, 2016 at 5:42 pm

    i am very touched and moved after going through Rinpoche’s growing stages in life. i nearly cried twice when you met with Kuan siblings after 36 years.

    Bless me with you blessing throughout my life.

    From Bhutan

    • Joy on Apr 12, 2016 at 6:12 pm

      Thank you Tshering for your sincere comment. I still remember when I first met Rinpoche, Rinpoche told me a gist of his childhood… I was in shock and I too almost cried. I could not believe someone like Rinpoche had to go through such hardships. It made me realise Rinpoche’s great kindness and ability to forgive others who have mistreated him and his perseverance to do the Dharma come what may. This gave me a little courage and faith to do Dharma as I was very new to Dharma at that time.

      It is inspiring to know/read such real life stories (almost like a Hollywood movie) come to life before our very eyes when we discover more about Rinpoche past and how Rinpoche arose from all the negative experiences into a light for so many beings; like a lotus arising from the mud, that is the nature of a Bodhisattva. I do think someone like Rinpoche purposely incarnate into such situations to teach us, so that it would be easier for us lay people to relate with. If Rinpoche did not “give up” then we should not either in pursue of spiritual liberation.

  4. Pastor Elena Khong Jean Ai on Nov 25, 2015 at 10:28 am

    You wonder, how unhappy must someone be with their own lives that they could mistreat a child in the way Shi Mama did with Rinpoche? That is not the behaviour of a happy person; happy people don’t abuse, tortue and mistreat an innocent, hapless, defenceless child.

    People talk about leading difficult lives but Rinpoche is someone who experienced obstacles even before he was born. How many of us would be able to tolerate such difficulties and overcome them, AND not carry the burden of anger or hatred for those who have wronged him?

    This post has always inspired me because it reflects for me all the aspects of Rinpoche’s character – perseverance, determination, a love for the Dharma, a prevailing ability to forgive and the power of prayer and Rinpoche’s compassion to be reborn in a place and time that benefits the most people.

    It also reflects for me a deep gratitude in Rinpoche to all who have shown him kindness, even if people may mistakenly consider him “too young” to remember or to know what’s going on. As someone who has had the privilege of spending quite a lot of time with Rinpoche, I can definitely say that no act of kindness goes unnoticed by Rinpoche. Even if the kindness isn’t directed at Rinpoche personally, Rinpoche always finds a way to repay people’s good motivation to encourage their positive behaviour in that manner.

    For me, when reading this post, it is quite clear – the key to leading a happy life of peace and light is by focusing out. By focusing on the pains of others, we stop focusing on the pains we experience and they therefore lose their power to scar our minds.

  5. Thering Dong on Nov 7, 2015 at 10:13 pm

    Rinpoche la.I m very happy an exited to read your story during childhood struggle.and I m also crying during read your story becoz I know struggle in life during childhood life when there is one one in our life to help an support us.during that period someone help u an hold u without any reason that person is very very thankfully an give thanks to that person it return. Thanks .an happy to read or story.

  6. Jean-Paul on Mar 11, 2015 at 8:13 pm

    Hye Rimpoché!

    My deep love

    JP

  7. pema thrinley on Nov 21, 2013 at 8:52 pm

    moving and inspiring life story …rinpoche

  8. wangchuk Hexzo on Jul 1, 2013 at 6:24 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your life and opening your heart to all of us..We are so blessed to have you in our lives. How you have endure during early childhood. It is heartening to know the truth and i look forward to go through your work towards all sentient beings.

  9. Mendrel Zangmo on Jan 24, 2013 at 8:10 am

    Greetings from Bhutan Rinpoche, i liked your post in facebook, i just hit the like button,but very like button came only today, unless i read your biography with your beautiful pictures, when you were kid. It’s pleasure to meet you here, i was in tears along with Ms Kaun, i did not even notice until my tears rolling down, so emotional, it was like a fairy tale i read in books, anyway glad to be a member here in your website, wish a very very long life and good wishes. Tashi Delek! Dharma sister

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  11. abby f on Jan 8, 2013 at 5:53 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for all the photos and stories, I enjoyed reading it. To know what Rinpoche experienced in the past is very important, as we have to understand, the kindness, love and care and Rinpoche gives to all of us today is not something we can take for granted.

    From what Rinpoche experienced in Taiwan, that Rinpoche wandered on the street until He felt tired and went home to sleep, I could feel how lonely Rinpoche was at that time, and as a small kid, Rinpoche doesn’t deserve that. And Rinpoche was being bullied in the house, and no one ever helped him.

    But we all know how much compassion and care Rinpoche has for EVERYONE… Rinpoche takes care of us and everytime we go for His resident to hear teachings, Rinpoche will make us feel like we are home! The lonely kid in the past turned into someone who has great care and love for everyone. Some people would just blame others, blame the whole world for his/her sad experience in the past. He/she would use the bad/pain experience as excuses for them to hurt others, to lie, or simply to get attention with a wrong way.

    Rinpoche shows us a good example that we can heal our mind by relief others pain. 🙂

  12. Venix on Dec 13, 2012 at 10:08 am

    Dear Tshem Rinpoche,
    Thank you for your sharing. It reminds me how important for a tight relationship in our life.
    I wish your guidance can spread to more people in the world and continue receive blessing from Tsem Rinpoche.
    Thanks.

    Regqrds,
    Venix

  13. Chris on Oct 21, 2012 at 11:18 am

    Dear Rinpoche

    Today I had the time to read through your childhood story, from the out side you had transformed yourself totally, had overcomes, all those circumstance. How amazing your cultivation spirit was able to bring true salvation to yourself in time of great loneliness and set back.

    I had grown up in a similar circumstance while I was young, my mother was married to my father in an unhappy relationship. He became abusive after a few of marriage. I had an older sister and a younger sister. My mother left my father when I was 3 y/o as she was not able to cope with the daily abuse from my father and had to move back to live with my grand parents. Shortly after that my mother also left us all 3, I was 6 at the time. First we were left with my older aunt, who also had 4 daughters herself. She was a single mother as well, during that time we were regularly abused and had to work hard daily for their local business, until late at night before we were allowed to go to sleep. We were treated no different from an animal, you have to obey their command, if they said “you stand” you have to stand, “you eat” you have to eat, and you not allow to go to bed early, I was deeply feeling sorry for my little sister, she got knock on the head almost every day by those older than her. I was powerless to defend her, as i had been abused myself. My biggest regret was, I was not able to stand up for her during those time to defend her. A few year later we were all got splits up and had to live with different relatives. But I never forgotten those time how we were treated, I didn’t care much about how I got abused and abandoned by my parents, but felt sorry for my little sister the most. I was lucky to have live with my grand mother for a few years, she regularly went to the temple to listen to Buddhas teaching, and I accompanied her there almost every weekend.

    At one point my father came to my grand mother’s place and told me not to attend his wedding when he got remarried a year later. That, it was not so hard to take because I never felt the love and care from him in the first place. I lost contact with him ever since.

    Later we received a letter from my mother, she arrived in Australia, and got remarried with 2 kids. We had to cross border by foots, hidden with land mines, to be as a refugee to be reunited with her again in Australia, I was at the age of 11. My greatest disappointment was, when we got reunited my mother she never made up for what had happen, not long after my little sister often got punished by mother regularly whenever my step father complained, because of little mistakes she made. I was heart broken for her, her life was full of hardship, but she was very good and intelligence girl. Later in her late 20 she committed and devoted her life to study Buddhism until now. I’m really happy for her now.

    Personally, I didn’t hate my mother for what she did, I was only disappointed with her for those year of neglects and abandonment, because I know she went through a lot of hardship herself. I continued to stand by her. I never said anything to her whenever i got abused by my step father, most of the time it was mental abused. Because I didn’t want her to be worried, a few years after I finished high school, I founded out he cheated on my mother. If not for the regular argument ans abuse on my mother, I would not have interfered and kick him out, there was no happiness, the argument was almost daily. I believe I done the right thing, a year or two later he got married again. That was the last time I heard about him.

    Since that time I worked hard to support her financially. Now, my mother is also practicing Buddhism, but she never acknowledge her past mistakes, I felt it was important in order to have closure.

    Today, I read your story, you went through many difficulty and overcomes many set back, you receive many praises and admiration from me. Your are my source of inspiration by giving the care and love, and not expecting anything back. You are a true Bodhisattva Rinpoche. Thanks you for sharing.

  14. Tshering Yangzom on Oct 18, 2012 at 4:57 pm

    Dear Ven Rimpoche, I’m touched by your sentiment. I just feel weepy to go through your life story. Please keep up your spirits. Your sentiments and love has got strong effect on my mentality. I hope and wish your mom will realise her mistake in abandoning you. My prayer, hugs and kisses to your Eminence.
    I’m close to you every time, because I always go through your blog, though comments were not given.
    thank you.

    Tshering

  15. karma lhaden on Sep 7, 2012 at 8:16 pm

    Rinpoche,I always read ur page,today reading about ur childhood made me cry so much.It is so heartaching…I m ur great fan plz bless me!!

  16. tshewang zangmo on Jul 21, 2012 at 2:49 pm

    I am so sad and were tearful tear from my eye..wen i reads your childhood story…its really touch my heart..and glad to meet you Rinpoche once but wat to do ..i know it is not possible la….so any way wat ever its happen its happen for good ..that much i know la….so i will be connected to u through mail la…beacause i have to learn so many things fron you la..and more over i love to learn religious la…till than have a good days n take care la…..

  17. julia Tan on Jul 19, 2012 at 7:45 pm

    It is very warm hearted read this post. Rinpoche finally meet up and manage to reunion with Rinpoche’s uncle after 36 years. To meet Kwan Mama and her brother, who used to take care of Rinpoche when there was not one else did. They are the only people who gave Rinpoche love and kindness. Now they are old especially Rinpoche’s uncle. Rinpoche came back to Taiwan to meet all of them and wanted to repay their kindness by giving them powerful blessings and teachings. To make sure all of them are fine and healthy. Rinpoche’s blessings and teachings are priceless. I hope in future I will be able to meet Kwan Mama and the brother also Rinpoche’s uncle. May be Ms Han and I can go together!

  18. Han on Jun 10, 2012 at 4:37 pm

    I had the fortune to visit Ms Kuan and Mr Kuan in Taiwan. They are very humble and their care and love towards Rinpoche is unconditional.
    I told myself, whenever I visit Taiwan again, I will visit them and bring gifts to repay their kindness for taking good care of Rinpoche.

  19. Deki Yangzom on Feb 4, 2012 at 7:14 am

    I just couldn’t hold myself from tears reading Rinpoche’s story and most of all the kindness of Mr.Kuan and Ms.Kuan touched my heart. I’m deeply inspired to practice compassion diligently! Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this. With Great Reverence, Deki.

  20. phoebe on Jul 30, 2011 at 10:27 pm

    Dearest Rinpoche:

    Nice to have a chance to meet you at the Maha Vihara temple.Appreciate to have fate to meeting you,sad to know that your child hood story.Past is past,the important things is you to convert your love to us ,might be this is an universal power to arrange you with us,to share the love and kindless amount us.Guide more people and help them to glow with kindless,love and peace.

    Regards,

    Phoebe

  21. Elsie Toy on Jul 22, 2011 at 3:12 pm

    Dearest Rinpoche,

    Thank you for very much for the video and I get to listen to the mantra in the video. It is emotional for me to watch the video and having to meet someone who care for you during your childhood days and they are now old. As I mentioned earlier that my previous job in a marketing company takes most of my for practice. I am glad that I am able to listen to the mantra once again. Yes, I will re-start my practice again and not be lazy.

  22. Patricia mcshay on May 23, 2011 at 11:09 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your life and opening your heart.. we are all so Blessed to have You in our lives .

  23. Irene Lim on May 9, 2011 at 5:18 pm

    A little Buddha living amongst the Taiwanese in Taipei…. a non-fiction. They must have some good karmic link ….

  24. Wan Wai Meng on Nov 2, 2010 at 6:03 pm

    I’ve always tried to put myself in Rinpoche’s shoes and when i do it successfully I can’t help but feel somewhat emo reading this.
    I’ve read sort of the same content many times, still gets me sometimes.
    Growing up with so much attention and care I can still have complaints growing up. I can’t imagine what it must have been like for Rinpoche when he was that young.

  25. Wan Wai Meng on Nov 2, 2010 at 6:00 pm

    Thank you for the teaching of gratitude to all the people who have stopped by our lives. Some seen, some unseen, some known , some unknown, some for a briefest of moments and some for a lifetime.
    May I be able to repay all their kindnesses….

  26. benji on Oct 16, 2010 at 10:03 pm

    When i looked at the pictures and excerpts in this posting and the other (more extensive) one, on Rinpochela’s life story, i was very overwhelmed. It practically had all the episodes of a tear-jerker movie! It could really tug off your heartstrings! If i had to go through all those hardships, i would have shattered to pieces! HOWEVER, Rinpochela TRANSCENDED them – and in following his life story, we must LEARN to be strong too. i think if we just regard it as another ordinary life story, it would be in vain for Rinpochela to tell his life story; and do no justice to those wonderful people in the U.S. getting the details of the story. Most of all, THANK YOU RINPOCHELA, for sharing your life story!

  27. koh hee peng on Oct 13, 2010 at 10:46 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    I’m happy for you that you are able to re-unite with Ms. Kuan and Mr. Kuan who took care of you when you were little after 36 years apart. Your perseverence in repaying back the kindness of those who took great care of you when you were a kid set a great example for us to be grateful and always remember the kindness of others at all times and to repay back the kindness of others in anyway possible.

    Thank you for sharing the oral transmission for long life mantra of Je Tsongkhapa. Thank you.

  28. KT on Oct 9, 2010 at 3:20 pm

    Dearest Rinpoche,
    Thank you so much for sharing your life with us. I cried a lot, reading about your sufferings growing up.
    I am female, in my late 30’s and endured beatings and racism from 2 step fathers and then bashings from my real father growing up, I also had suicide attempts, sleeping in the street, cold, hungry the times I ran away, until I could bear no more and I left home when I was 15yo. I am not complaining, I feel great compassion for my step fathers and father.
    And on a lighter note, I also get asked if I’m italian, thai, african, spanish, indian, phillipino, french haha
    I somehow picked up my first dharma book when I was 12yo, and have since travelled to Tibet, with regular crips to India and Nepal.
    I now own half a diamond company, but from deep in my heart, I have always wanted to be a nun, I am yet to ask one of my Precious Guru’s if this is what I am to do…
    Rinpoche, I am so happy I found you.

  29. David Lai on Oct 2, 2010 at 12:17 am

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for this wonderful account of your journey to Taiwan and back into time. It is really moving and I often come to this page to relive Rinpoche’s poignant childhood. Kuan Mama is quite right, you do look similar to your childhood pictures. You were exceptionally adorable and very photogenic which makes it heart-wrenching to know what you went through. The photos are very beautiful and nostalgic. Perhaps, one day they will be the locations for a wonderful movie of Rinpoche’s life that will inspire many to the Dharma. I found the part that moved me the most was when Rinpoche said that you will show kindness to others in remembrance of the kindness Kuan Mama and her brother.

  30. Mimi Chua on Sep 23, 2010 at 3:29 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for posting the video on 21 Sep 2010. I listen to the 5-line Migtsema to learn the correct pronounciation. Re: Tsem Rinpoche meeting How Mama. I am trying to understand why the 3 verse Du Pung Ma Lu Jom Dzey Sang Wey Dag (as we learnt from the prayer book) is different from the video above.

    • tsemtulku on Sep 23, 2010 at 7:21 pm

      As I already mentioned, this form of migtzeyma is the LONG LIFE VERSION so the third line has a variation different than the one we are use to. This form I am giving oral transmission to is to help increase a person’s life. Both forms are ok. Tsem Tulku

      • Mimi Chua on Sep 23, 2010 at 9:19 pm

        Rinpoche. Thank you for the explanation & clarification.

  31. Anila on Sep 23, 2010 at 3:11 pm

    Every naration of Rinpoche’s childhood would always bring tears to my eyes. Imagine at such a young age he was being abused by his caretaker Shi Mama who does not care about him but only for the money that was paid for the babysitting I guess. But lucky for Rinpoche Ms Kuan Rinpoche’s mom school mate and Mr Kuan her brother would often visit Rinpoche at Shi Mama to give some happiness and love to Rinpoche until the age of 7 years when Rinpoche was sent to US to be adopted by Mongolian parents. Here again Rinpoche suffered at the hands of his stepmother who happen to be sufferring from an illness and he would be abused again. Even when Rinpoche became a monk he was suffering in the Monastery due to malnutrition. Rinpoche must be a Bodhisattva to endure these sufferings to show us an example of what sufferings are and to appreciate those who have been kind to us.

  32. Winnie Wang on Sep 23, 2010 at 9:49 am

    Rinpoche, what was your Chinese name back then?

    (I live near your old school!)

    • tsemtulku on Sep 23, 2010 at 7:24 pm

      My Chinese name at that time was 葛宜山

  33. sim k.y on Sep 23, 2010 at 1:31 am

    Dear Rinpoche,after resd through rinpoche’s childhood life for couple of times,what inspired me most is the great loving kindness/compassion that rinpoche heritaged even though rinpoche had struck by tough conditions which it is unbearable to most of us, i guess.
    A picture explain all the good quality of rinpoche being a sincere and diligent great guru to set people free from suffering and we are so lucky enough to link with rinpoche due to good karma seed planted for many eons.
    We can see rinpoche strong determination on doing dharma works to benefit more peoples of the ten direction after divination was made by H.E Zong rinpoche.When we are down and upset by obstacles,this great quality will come automatically in my mind and all the unhappiness gone,because it is just like a small peas compared to the hardness that rinpoche went through.
    Thank for rinpoche again and may the buddha bless rinpoche to have good health and continuously loose a rain of realisation to the heart of his student.

    • patsy on Sep 23, 2010 at 7:26 pm

      It is so amazing that even though Rinpoche has a very tough and difficult childhood, yet Rinpoche did not let those negative imprints pulled him down but Rinpoche did the opposite by transforming those imprints to become such a great Guru with a big heart filled with unconditional love and compassion.

  34. Ling on Sep 22, 2010 at 6:34 pm

    Dearest Rinpoche,
    Reading this in the privacy of my office den, I am very filled with emotions. I am very much in a reflective mode…having read your touching blog and the many heartfelt sharing from our Dharma brothers and sisters.

    Thank you very much for sharing your life stories – such personal snippets which are episodes filled with so much love, understanding, kindness. The way they are dealt and turned around with positive strides and not let one ounce of bitterness creep into the heart… but instead be filled with loving kindness… something that is so very difficult to do in our daily context.

    My heart is filled with warmth, inspiration and aspiration to be a truly better person.
    With Folded Hands +
    Love
    Ling

  35. martin on Sep 21, 2010 at 8:33 pm

    I would also like to add that i appreciate very much the photos of Rinpoche with the Mr Kuan, both the b&w ones showing Rinpoche as a child leaning against Mr. Kuan, and the next photo of Mr Kuan bowing to Rinpoche. The tenderness in the second photo especially is cutting. The contrast of the two photos. And the reminder that kindness breeds even greater kindness and kindness finds its way back…in an even bigger form.

    Thank you once again Rinpoche and thank you so much Mr. Kuan.

  36. martin on Sep 21, 2010 at 8:22 pm

    When i read Rinpoche’s post and Andrew’s comments, I felt ashamed of myself. So often i have used bitter and painful memories of the past as alibis and reasons to why i am not as good a human being as i know i can be and should be.

    Because we have been hurt does not qualify us to respond in kind, nor does it mean we must live our life in denial and “hidden”. It doesn’t mean we need to harden our hearts to the point we become de-sensitized.

    With Rinpoche’s harnessing of a painful childhood and turning it into compassion and love…perhaps its easier to say “yes,…but he is a Rinpoche…” With Andrew being so kind, gentle and so true despite having gone through pain…well, there can be no excuse.

    Thank you Rinpoche. And thank you Andrew. I shall try and do better.

    Much love.

  37. Andrew James Boon on Sep 21, 2010 at 3:35 pm

    Dearest Rinpoche,

    Reading through what Rinpoche has written brought tears to my eyes. I could not stop the tears flowing as I could to a certain extent understand what Rinpoche must have gone through. I may not have endured such hardship but with an almost non existant father and a very hardworking but very independant mother, I know what it is like to not fully understand or know the people who are suppose to be ones we are meant to be close with.

    I too yearned for love from a very tender age and I learnt in growing up that if I could not get the love I wanted, the very least I could do was give it! This gave me some happiness I found as I would sometimes see the glimmer of a smile or appreciation from the person. By giving I mean simple things I could do as a child, for example, with my mother I would make her tea or bring her something to eat or drink, cleaning and decorating the home (even though we had housekeepers) in the hopes my mother would see the change or difference and she would be happy about it, combing her hair, picking outfits for her to wear when she goes out for functions and complimenting on the way she looks, etc.

    If and when my father was around, I would get him his drinks, his ashtray when he needed it and clean it after, try to talk to him (as he was a man of few words) and often I would try to come between my parents when an argument persist in the hopes they would stop when I was around (not often the case as I would on many occasions be sent to my room and I would have my ears glued to the door and crying as I heard them scream and shout at each other). I swore to myself from as young as I could remember I would never hurt another person that way… and sometimes I even thought it was all my fault that they were fighting (I would come up with very creative ways of convincing myself why I am the reason for their unhappiness: e.g. being a 2nd child perhaps they wanted a daughter and not another son?). I do love them and respect them because they are my parents and they gave me life so to speak and that will not change.

    I dont know why I am saying all this to Rinpoche but I felt most melancholy having read your post and I wanted to share a little of my life which I know Rinpoche probably knows already.

    Thank you Rinpoche for accepting me as I am and for making me feel so welcome from the moment we met. I have never said this to Rinpoche in so many words but I am truly happy to be here serving Rinpoche and I hope I have the merits to continue doing so for the rest of my life and beyond. I now have truly another person in my life where I trust and love implicitly that gives me a reason to carry on whenever my past memories haunt me.

    I shall endure to keep in mind that without the experiences I have gone through perhaps I would not be where I am now, so therefore I shall rejoice in my understanding that by having had the opportunity to go through what I have gone through, has hopefully made me a better person and not whollow in self pity and bitterness.

    With much love… Andrew

  38. Mei Leen on Sep 21, 2010 at 2:31 pm

    Dearest Rinpoche,
    Thank you so much for sharing your childhood stories. This makes me and I’m sure many, many more out there,feel so lucky to have a normal childhood. I was most overwhelmed with emotions when I read of your rotten teeth when you were a kid and when I saw the pics of your reunion with the Kuans. So, so touching and heart wrenching.
    Nevertheless, I am very happy and proud that you managed to overcome all adversities to be who you are today – an extremely caring and devoted Guru/Lama and an inspiration to one and all. I have not met you or heard you live in person but just by following your teachings online, I have gained so much knowledge and wisdom on spirituality. I wish from the very bottom of my heart that you will be around for as long as possible and always in the best of health to be the pillar of strength to the Sangha.
    Love you in Dharma <3

  39. Knut Eggers on Sep 21, 2010 at 8:41 am

    Dearest and beloved Tsem Tulku Rimpoche, thank you for posting these videos, especially the upper one with the Lama Tsongkapa empowerment.
    LOVE from Knut

  40. Li Kim on Sep 21, 2010 at 2:28 am

    Dear Rinpoche,
    The photos Rinpoche has posted on this article are meaningful as they allow us to share Rinpoche’s history, like they say, “a picture paints a thousand words”. Whenever I read about Rinpoche’s past and how much unhappiness Rinpoche endured, my heart aches to merely just read about it, I can’t even begin to phantom the pain Rinpoche went through. Yet, Rinpoche is here with us with all the compassion for each of us. Rinpoche shows us all so much love and care. I think that if any of us clowns ever even went through 10% of what Rinpoche went through we would be vengeful monsters making the whole world suffer for our sadness and suffering.
    It is admirable how Rinpoche is truly Compassion in Motion. It is from Rinpoche I learn the meaning of compassion, love and true kindness.
    I could not agree more with my sister’s comment here. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your life with us through this blog.
    With folded hands, li Kim

  41. Li Kheng on Sep 21, 2010 at 12:44 am

    Rinpoche is like a peacock likened to the Bodhisattvas, who “strives on the essence of poisonous plants” that is likened to suffering and pain of samsara.

    Despite all the unhappiness experienced, Rinpoche is still most loving, kind, giving and forgiving.

    The part that made the most impact was when Rinpoche said: “I guess over the years, I had less and less reason to smile…..because in my teenage years living on my own in Los Angeles, people commented I should smile more” because:

    1) This is an illustration of what happens to people as we grow up. As many of us do not have the good fortune to meet a kind Guru and the Dharma, we may not manage to rise from such negative experiences. This shows us how urgently important it is to share the Dharma so that more people will get a chance to be happy.

    2) It is shameful that great beings like Rinpoche will sacrifice their bliss and return to samsara so that they will benefit us. Therefore, like Liew said, we must at the very least practice Guru devotion in appreciation for all the hardship Rinpoche has taken to bring us the greatest gift of all – Dharma.

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for coming down to our level and relating to us whereby we are able to “get it”. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this story and using Rinpoche’s every resource, including Rinpoche’s tough past, as an opportunity for us to learn and grow better from.

  42. KEN on Sep 20, 2010 at 11:17 pm

    Dear Rinpoche thanks for sharing your childhood story.I felt very lucky that my parent never give up on me when I was small and granted me a happy childhood memories.Although I cannot repay all their kindness in this life but I would dedicate my puja to them everyday till my last breath.Here I would like to thanks our Rinpoche again for teaching us Dharma and your heartfelt compassion and gratitutes really touches my family and I.

  43. Sean Wang on Sep 20, 2010 at 6:49 pm

    I sincerely thank Rinpoche for such a nice story on his childhood. I think it is very good that we can know our Lama very well. Many people in our lives inspire us even if we do not know it. I hope that all Rinpoche’s relatives will have very good, very happy lives. I think that Rinpoche looks very cute in his old pictures.

  44. ck liew on Sep 20, 2010 at 4:42 pm

    Dear Rinpoche ,

    Its so so so sad to read about your childhood , i am sure most of us in Malaysia dont go through such hardships and still after all that you become who you are today.

    In comparisons whatever hardships we go through everyday its simply incomparable to what you gone through. I am humilify by your experience. I hope every Kecharians will stay loyal to you and do whatever they are told to do , to do so without question , without any doubt , with full sincerity just to repay your kindness and to show full gratitude to ALL of your work here in this country that only benefits ourself and people around us.

    Kechara has grown by leaps and bounds due to the dedication of its people and their understanding and commitments due to your teachings. Without you many many of Kecharians might be still a lost soul.

    We are nothing yet we can be something.

    With Much Much Love ,

    ck liew.

  45. Mimi Chua on Sep 20, 2010 at 11:03 am

    It is really great to be able to recall your childhood and proudly put in writing. I believe there are great learnings and merit we can pick up. It is wonderful sharing to be reconnected again after 36 years and also be able to perform special puja. Hopefully more ppl can continue receive blessing from H.E.Tsem Tulku Rinpoche.

    • Patricia mcshay on May 23, 2011 at 11:04 pm

      Thank you Rinpoche for sharing your life and opening your heart to all of us..We are so blessed to have you in our lives.

  46. Terri on Sep 20, 2010 at 10:19 am

    ur such a beautiful baby. the one photo with mr kuan u can see the dimples u still have <3

  47. Lew, Kwan Leng on Sep 20, 2010 at 8:54 am

    There are many people in our lives who did a lot of kindness to us, at the same time, there are also some people who did the not-so-good things to us. Most of us will remember the not-so-good experience and dwell into that, and forgot most of the kindness given to us.

    I sincerely thank Rinpoche for sharing this inspiring story. It reminds me to focus on the kindness of human kind, and if we don’t spread the love now, then when?

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  • Jason
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 03:07 AM
    This year Wesak Day fall on 10 of May. This day is very special and meaningful to me because I will visit Kechara Forest Retreat(KFR) to join some meritorious event there.
    For me, Wesak is a day to commemorate Buddha Sakyamuni in three aspect( Birth , Enlightened, Nirwana).
    While we celebrate Wesak, we must remind ourselves to learn from Buddha teachings and practice it in order to gain attainment.
    Thanks Rinpoche and Pastor Seng Piow for sharing in order to create more understanding on Wesak Day.

    Jason

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/wesak-day-special-on-rtm-2.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 06:10 PM
    OMG! This is very touching. To see a doggie who never left go of his owner in spite of death. Way more powerful than many who proclaimed “till death do us part.” Just like the human, not all doggies are as loyal as this tear-jerking pet, but I truly believe almost all doggies offer unconditional love to the person who feeds and cares for them. Even when they are stray animals. There was a stray dog who will run two streets from the entrance of the “Taman” until the car stops in front of the house, just to greet me. You can imagine the warm and conviction in my heart that these beings are more than capable of loving than many of us, human! Thank you for this lovely sharing. I miss my doggie, Sherab.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/faithful-dog-chases-deceased-owner.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 06:00 PM
    Thank you, Pastor Seng Piow, for this amazing sharing. There is no doubt about the ability of our Guru, His Eminence the 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche. His incarnations have been compassionate and taken rebirth to return and spread the dharma so that sentient beings can benefit and learn some dharma in our short life.

    We shall never doubt our Guru; but must see that He is one with our Yidam and Protector, an attained being. Even if our Guru does not demonstrate clairvoyance abilities, we must never contest our Guru, for he holds the key (dharma) that can liberate us from eternal suffering in samsara.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-1-2.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 05:50 PM
    Thank you, Pastor Seng Piow, for the illustrated miracle story on how Rinpoche guided Cynthia and Marici away from danger through protector’s practice. The unseen exist, whether we like it or not. Some of them are malicious and have the affinity or karma with some of us. Hence they can cause harm and disturbance. By engaging in Protectors’ practice like Dorje Shugden and Setrap that have been practiced by the high lamas of the Gelug school of Tibetan Buddhism, we are protected and guarded against harm.

    Rinpoche is compassionate and only want the best for us. His teachings are not meant to show off the power of the divines but offer us a way out from our desperate samsara conundrum that binds us from engaging in deeper spiritual practice. Rinpoche always teaches us to focus on mind transformation and Tsongkhapa practice. How fortunate we are to have met Rinpoche in this lifetime. We must not let this rare and precious opportunity go to waste.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-12.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 04:30 PM
    Miracles do happen,when we have faith and trust in our Guru.What is important is to follow Rinpoche’s advice and do as instructed by our Guru to clear the osbtacles all the way.Angie and Herry were so fortunate to have meet Rinpoche.Its because of Rinpoche ‘s compassion and caring for his student Angie’s life was saved.Infact Rinpoche has helped many people through his intervention, advice and instructions.
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Loh Seng Piow for sharing miracles stories which i enjoyed reading.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-2.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 02:45 PM
    WOW….interesting a miracles true story. Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Loh Seng Piow for sharing.Reciting mantras by family members and doing 20 pujas done at the monastery to help the baby. These proved that pujas, which have been done for hundreds of years in the monasteries are very powerful methods for us to overcome difficulties, create huge amounts of merit and for protection, good health and long life.This show us how powerful pujas can help us when we have trust and faith in our Guru.And with Rinpoche divination,the baby was born and now a healthy boy.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-1-2.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 12:47 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these powerful teachings.Its a privilege
    to do Dharma work to benefits other,do it with motivation and a good attitude when engaging ourselves It will be guide line for me.When we serve others to do Dharma work together at Kechara Forest Retreat ,we will improve ourself , purify our negative karma and to benefit others too.I will be sponsoring to the healings bricks soon and i will cherish every moment in supporting KFR.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/me/dharma-work-attitude-tdl.html
  • Lin Mun
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 11:06 AM
    Bigfoot is just another beings living in this world although not commonly seen and live in the deep jungle in high mountains. There were many evidences that people from many parts of the world sighted this beings. Whatever shape they are I think importantly we are all sharing this world and therefore need to have mutual respect and not intervene each others.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/its-in-the-scriptures-they-exist.html
  • Alice Tay
    Tuesday, Apr 25. 2017 04:26 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Adeline sharing this interesting post about Bodhidharma, a great master favoured meditation and introduced the Lankavatara Sutra to Chinese Buddhism.

    Here are a few points I have learned from this post:
    1. Bodhidharma had strong imprints of Dharma from the past and therefore he is interested in Buddha’s teachings and show his great wisdom. at a very young age.
    2. His strong guru devotion and determination in learning and spreading the dharma based on meditation though he confronted with difficulties such as Emperor Wu Di was not impressed by his teachings, being ostracized and rejected and lived as a beggar for many months. Notwithstanding, he continued and never give up to practice meditation in complete silence for nine years in cave wall when he was not accepted by Shaolin Monastery at the beginning .
    3. When Bodhidharma was allowed enter to the monastery, he had put a lot of efforts to help the monks in improving their physical body as well as their mind through the meditation. Then, Bodhidharma continued to develop a system of 18 dynamic tension exercises which were printed as Yi Gin Ching (Changing Muscle/Tendon Classic) in 550 CE. It is known as the Luohan (arhat) 18 Hand Movements today which serves as the basis of both Chinese Temple Boxing and the Shaolin Martial Arts.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/bodhidharma-the-founder-of-gongfu.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Tuesday, Apr 25. 2017 04:10 PM
    Thank you, Grace, for sharing with us the many tips on how to care for and maintain our hair. Personal grooming is important because when we care for our appearance, we are respecting the people who have to deal with us. Caring for our hair, making sure that it is neat and clean should be something we need to take care of since young as it is part of personal grooming. The key is not to be attached to our body and outer-images, that results in spending much time and resources just to make ourselves look good.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/guest-contributors/how-much-do-you-know-about-hair.html
  • Alice Tay
    Tuesday, Apr 25. 2017 03:00 PM
    Thank you for sharing these wonderful and significant photos showed that Kechara Pastors’ tireless efforts to bring dharma to many others and do the blessings whenever is necessary.

    Basically, the pastorship role was conceptualized by our precious guru, H.E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche, to preserve the Dharma and to give laypeople an opportunity to commit to benefiting others. Kechara Pastors are fully dedicated and selflessly serving others especially in spiritual growth and therefore this is good for us to support the Pastors so that they can focus and spend more of their time and effort to serve others and most importantly Buddhist teachings can be spread and shared to many others. The supports to Pastors including food, lodging, transportation, items necessary for their work, such as ritual items or spiritual gifts for those in need and many others. (If you are interested to know more about Kechara Pastors, please have a good read at http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/kechara-13-depts/support-the-kechara-pastors.html)

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/10-amazing-house-blessings-by-kechara-pastors.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Tuesday, Apr 25. 2017 02:13 PM
    Its such a great blessing for all of us to hear the holy voice recordings of H.H Kyabje Zong Rinpoche a great master..His profound teachings ,got to take seroiusly,more as an important advice on Dorje Shugden’s practice.H.H Kyabje Zong Rinpoche’s explaination was very clear before any of the practitioner’s commitment and receive sogtae.They must keep the lineage practice and teachings no matter what ever happen.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing with us on the important advice by a great master.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/kyabje-zong-rinpoches-advice-on-dorje-shugdens-practice.html
  • Lin Mun
    Tuesday, Apr 25. 2017 11:50 AM
    Thank you Pastor Han Nee for your sharing your thoughts and review about the book “Be Happy” written by Rinpoche. It is indeed not easy to be happy as we all have various expectation in every situation and people.

    We may think having a big house, lots of cash and good career is happiness but this is the wrong perception. Being happy is not about material and everything about ourselves. It is only when we can do more for others and focus out that we gain happiness. I never realised this until I joined Kechara. I think we have such a fixed mindset of what happiness is and when our expectation is not met, we are unhappy.

    Rinpoche has pointed out many ways for us to rectify our thoughts and methods to be happy. Now it is for us to take initiative to change and transform our mind if we want to be happy.

    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Han Nee for this article.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/be-happy.html
  • Lin Mun
    Monday, Apr 24. 2017 12:30 PM
    Many people do not believe in reincarnation and only relates it to certain religion such as Hinduism and Buddhism. However, there were many instances and signs that proven reincarnation exist. As Buddhist we will believe in reincarnation and karma. It is by understanding that everything has its cause and effect that we should learn to live life in the correct attitude and mindset. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this interesting articles to remind us of karma and the importance of doing dharma practise.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/interesting-signs-of-reincarnation.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Sunday, Apr 23. 2017 08:29 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for your teachings.
    Always be generous and kind in what ever we could do even its little help.It’s the little things in life that bring the greatest happiness. Its between us and our Buddha ,so we would not bother what the receipient thinks and say of us. What ever was said ,should not deter our motivation to do Dharma work.
    (It will change people’s lives in one way or another. It will change your life for the better.)….well said by Rinpoche.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/its-not-between-you-and-the-recipient.html

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The Known and unknown are both feared,
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Holy Lady Buddha Vajra Yogini\'s blessing can be found when we decide to focus out to others instead of in to only ourselves.
~ Tsem Tulku Rinpoche
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Holy Lady Buddha Vajra Yogini's blessing can be found when we decide to focus out to others instead of in to only ourselves. ~ Tsem Tulku Rinpoche
His Holiness Vajradhara Kyabje Zong Rinpoche of Gaden Monastery who is the refuge of countless, gives a clear explanation of Dorje Shugden. One is able to hear his holy voice and translation by Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen! Please see here and share: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=122352
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His Holiness Vajradhara Kyabje Zong Rinpoche of Gaden Monastery who is the refuge of countless, gives a clear explanation of Dorje Shugden. One is able to hear his holy voice and translation by Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen! Please see here and share: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=122352
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This is a simple chart showing the three main psychic channels used in tantric meditations to control the winds, raise tummo (fire energy), gain higher consciousness and insight and also for gaining siddhis. These channels are used in meditations for controlling the mind, when the mind ejects from the body (phowa) and one\'s death. These three channels are very important. Tsem Rinpoche
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This is a simple chart showing the three main psychic channels used in tantric meditations to control the winds, raise tummo (fire energy), gain higher consciousness and insight and also for gaining siddhis. These channels are used in meditations for controlling the mind, when the mind ejects from the body (phowa) and one's death. These three channels are very important. Tsem Rinpoche
I think my cute doggie Oser is actually Tintin\'s dog Snowy!
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I think my cute doggie Oser is actually Tintin's dog Snowy!
Great Masters of Gaden Shartse Monastery. From left to right: His Eminence Kensur Jampa Yeshe Rinpoche, His Holiness Sharpa Choeje Jetsun Lobsang Nyima, H.E. Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche, H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, His Holiness 101st Gaden Tripa throne holder Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal.
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Great Masters of Gaden Shartse Monastery. From left to right: His Eminence Kensur Jampa Yeshe Rinpoche, His Holiness Sharpa Choeje Jetsun Lobsang Nyima, H.E. Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche, H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, His Holiness 101st Gaden Tripa throne holder Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal.
 Left to right: Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl. The three of them are my beautiful and loved Schnauzer dogs. They loved looking through the window to see traffic, people and movement. They loved the smells that drifted through their little noses. I love seeing the three of them together like this. I love them. Tsem Rinpoche
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Left to right: Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl. The three of them are my beautiful and loved Schnauzer dogs. They loved looking through the window to see traffic, people and movement. They loved the smells that drifted through their little noses. I love seeing the three of them together like this. I love them. Tsem Rinpoche
Little Mumu boy...he loved balloons. When he saw them, he wanted to get close and perhaps bite them. Cute. I love this picture of Mumu reaching for the balloons. He was young and healthy! This picture captures his energy, enthusiasm, curiosity and high energy. I love this picture of him chasing the balloons. His pictures are always so nice....He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
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Little Mumu boy...he loved balloons. When he saw them, he wanted to get close and perhaps bite them. Cute. I love this picture of Mumu reaching for the balloons. He was young and healthy! This picture captures his energy, enthusiasm, curiosity and high energy. I love this picture of him chasing the balloons. His pictures are always so nice....He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
Little Mumu boy and myself.. He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
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Little Mumu boy and myself.. He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
2017-His Holiness the 101st Gaden Tripa, Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal is doing well and 90 years old. His Holiness Lungrik Namgyal is a powerful master of sutra and tantra and practitioner of Dorje Shugden. Currently residing in France.
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2017-His Holiness the 101st Gaden Tripa, Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal is doing well and 90 years old. His Holiness Lungrik Namgyal is a powerful master of sutra and tantra and practitioner of Dorje Shugden. Currently residing in France.
One of the most sacred statues of Avalokitesvara made of sandalwood housed in Lhasa, Tibet. He has shown miracles also. Every pilgrim wishes to make offerings to this Lord of Compassion.
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One of the most sacred statues of Avalokitesvara made of sandalwood housed in Lhasa, Tibet. He has shown miracles also. Every pilgrim wishes to make offerings to this Lord of Compassion.
 Sacred Avalokitesvara statue in Nepal. Thousands come to worship this special Buddha as it has conferred wishes in the past.
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Sacred Avalokitesvara statue in Nepal. Thousands come to worship this special Buddha as it has conferred wishes in the past.
Tsem Rinpoche\'s Vajra Yogini statue and offerings
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Tsem Rinpoche's Vajra Yogini statue and offerings
Two of my teachers from Gaden Shartse Monastery in South India. Left side is Most Venerable Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen whom I lived with for 8 years in Los Angeles where his centre Thubten Dhargye Ling is located. On the right is the abbot emeritus H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche the scholar and yogi. I was very fortunate to have them in my life and learn so much dharma from them. Tsem Rinpoche
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Two of my teachers from Gaden Shartse Monastery in South India. Left side is Most Venerable Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen whom I lived with for 8 years in Los Angeles where his centre Thubten Dhargye Ling is located. On the right is the abbot emeritus H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche the scholar and yogi. I was very fortunate to have them in my life and learn so much dharma from them. Tsem Rinpoche
 It is so wonderful to be kind to people, be caring, feed them, make sure they are healthy and share dharma if they are interested with them for their future. But simply to be nice to others is worth getting up and being alive...otherwise why be alive to hurt/use/distrust and hate others? No point living that way..must change that..... It is nice to live our lives to benefit others and be patient even if we have been hurt before because by caring we can heal the hurt and \'defeat\' the ones that hurt us because we don\'t become bitter..... Tsem Rinpoche
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It is so wonderful to be kind to people, be caring, feed them, make sure they are healthy and share dharma if they are interested with them for their future. But simply to be nice to others is worth getting up and being alive...otherwise why be alive to hurt/use/distrust and hate others? No point living that way..must change that..... It is nice to live our lives to benefit others and be patient even if we have been hurt before because by caring we can heal the hurt and 'defeat' the ones that hurt us because we don't become bitter..... Tsem Rinpoche
Tsem Rinpoche\'s heritage in China. Must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=120499
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Tsem Rinpoche's heritage in China. Must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=120499
Thank you Buddhist Pastor Chia for sharing your story on how you met His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche over 20 years ago. We can learn much from your story.~Admin  Please read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=116928
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Thank you Buddhist Pastor Chia for sharing your story on how you met His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche over 20 years ago. We can learn much from your story.~Admin Please read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=116928
Mumu boy is incredibly photogenic. He is beyond cute. Tsem Rinpoche
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Mumu boy is incredibly photogenic. He is beyond cute. Tsem Rinpoche
 (left to right) Rabten Tulku, Gonsar Rinpoche, Gyume Kensur Rinpoche, Trijang Rinpoche, H.H. Gaden Trisur Rinpoche (France)
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(left to right) Rabten Tulku, Gonsar Rinpoche, Gyume Kensur Rinpoche, Trijang Rinpoche, H.H. Gaden Trisur Rinpoche (France)
Beautiful 200 roses arrived today for me as a gift from Su Ming. Very kind and thoughtful of her as usual. Tsem Rinpoche
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Beautiful 200 roses arrived today for me as a gift from Su Ming. Very kind and thoughtful of her as usual. Tsem Rinpoche
It\'s good to be with kind and sincere people.
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It's good to be with kind and sincere people.
If we are kind, we lose less of ourselves-Tsem Rinpoche
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If we are kind, we lose less of ourselves-Tsem Rinpoche
My Mumu boy didn\'t want to eat. Eating is not one of his favorite activities throughout his life. So I talked to him to let him know why he needs to eat and keep his strength up when this photo was taken. He was listening intently and after my talk with him, he ate. Tsem Rinpoche
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My Mumu boy didn't want to eat. Eating is not one of his favorite activities throughout his life. So I talked to him to let him know why he needs to eat and keep his strength up when this photo was taken. He was listening intently and after my talk with him, he ate. Tsem Rinpoche
This is so true. Click to enlarge and understand more about unpleasant people.
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This is so true. Click to enlarge and understand more about unpleasant people.
This mahasiddha Kukkuripa is easy to identify as he is accompanied by a small dog whom he loved very much.
1 month ago
This mahasiddha Kukkuripa is easy to identify as he is accompanied by a small dog whom he loved very much.
Mumu taking a rest in the turquoise room. Over the years, I always feel very satisfied when I see him covered with a blanket, safe and sleeping. I always wanted to make sure he was safe from harm, illness and distress. I wanted him to have a happy and loved life. Tsem Rinpoche
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Mumu taking a rest in the turquoise room. Over the years, I always feel very satisfied when I see him covered with a blanket, safe and sleeping. I always wanted to make sure he was safe from harm, illness and distress. I wanted him to have a happy and loved life. Tsem Rinpoche
I wrapped my little Mumu boy up in my blanket and propped him up on my bed. He didn\'t move or wiggle and just looked at me. He is one funny entertaining little guy. Tsem Rinpoche
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I wrapped my little Mumu boy up in my blanket and propped him up on my bed. He didn't move or wiggle and just looked at me. He is one funny entertaining little guy. Tsem Rinpoche
March 2017-Coaxing my little Mumu boy to eat his meal. He was not well and therefore not hungry. Tsem Rinpoche
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March 2017-Coaxing my little Mumu boy to eat his meal. He was not well and therefore not hungry. Tsem Rinpoche
Click on picture to enlarge and see what Milarepa says. Profound.
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Click on picture to enlarge and see what Milarepa says. Profound.
We are always trying to get somewhere, try something new, find some friends, get some entertainment and in the end we end up in the same place. Time to really practice Dharma seriously and stop wasting time we don\'t have. ~Tsem Rinpoche
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We are always trying to get somewhere, try something new, find some friends, get some entertainment and in the end we end up in the same place. Time to really practice Dharma seriously and stop wasting time we don't have. ~Tsem Rinpoche
March 20, 2017-Mumu is just so adorable with his bright eyes.
1 month ago
March 20, 2017-Mumu is just so adorable with his bright eyes.
More and more people inviting Lord Dorje Shugden home to connect with on their shrines. I am so happy to see this as it will benefit them and their families so much. That is the purpose to be alive which is to benefit others as much as possible. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
More and more people inviting Lord Dorje Shugden home to connect with on their shrines. I am so happy to see this as it will benefit them and their families so much. That is the purpose to be alive which is to benefit others as much as possible. Tsem Rinpoche
His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
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His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
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His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
The Japanese are very innovative. Tsem Rinpoche
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The Japanese are very innovative. Tsem Rinpoche
Read this as it will be interesting
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Read this as it will be interesting
Recite this before any meal or drinks for blessings of abundance. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Recite this before any meal or drinks for blessings of abundance. Tsem Rinpoche
This sacred statue of Buddha is in Nepal brought originally from Tibet and has spoken on many occasions. Very blessed to see this holy image and keep a picture...bless you always. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
This sacred statue of Buddha is in Nepal brought originally from Tibet and has spoken on many occasions. Very blessed to see this holy image and keep a picture...bless you always. Tsem Rinpoche
I love Mumu boy tremendously. We went through so much together for so many years. You are a great being to be with. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
I love Mumu boy tremendously. We went through so much together for so many years. You are a great being to be with. Tsem Rinpoche
Dear everyone, I am sharing this beautiful and modern altar to Dorje Shugden in Malaysia. I am glad to see more and more people creating sacred spaces. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Dear everyone, I am sharing this beautiful and modern altar to Dorje Shugden in Malaysia. I am glad to see more and more people creating sacred spaces. Tsem Rinpoche
Lhamo Karmo, a female buddha form visualized above the crown of one\'s head at the time of death, to encourage consciousness to leave the body via the crown aperture. From my book \"The Female Buddhas.\"- Glenn Mullin
2 months ago
Lhamo Karmo, a female buddha form visualized above the crown of one's head at the time of death, to encourage consciousness to leave the body via the crown aperture. From my book "The Female Buddhas."- Glenn Mullin
The Tibetan female tulku Dorje Pakmo, from a fresco on the wall of the Dorje Pakmo monastery (Samding) in Tibet, near the Turquoise Lake. In Tibet the Dorje Pakmo was ranked with the Dalai Lama, Panchen Lama and Sakya Trizin as the four highest lamas in the country.-from Glenn Mullin
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The Tibetan female tulku Dorje Pakmo, from a fresco on the wall of the Dorje Pakmo monastery (Samding) in Tibet, near the Turquoise Lake. In Tibet the Dorje Pakmo was ranked with the Dalai Lama, Panchen Lama and Sakya Trizin as the four highest lamas in the country.-from Glenn Mullin
Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl checking out the scene..cute
2 months ago
Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl checking out the scene..cute
My Dharma boy has such a cute expression here. He is a good boy!
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My Dharma boy has such a cute expression here. He is a good boy!
February 9,2017-My Mumu boy and Oser girl are just relaxing together..super cute
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February 9,2017-My Mumu boy and Oser girl are just relaxing together..super cute
Click on the picture to enlarge and see what Suzy from Hawaii commented on the Dorje Shugden issue after much research. She is very candid and honest. Refreshing. Original is posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vl-4lIwxph4
3 months ago
Click on the picture to enlarge and see what Suzy from Hawaii commented on the Dorje Shugden issue after much research. She is very candid and honest. Refreshing. Original is posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vl-4lIwxph4
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  • April 20, 2017 10:45
    Ronnie asked: Dear Rinpoche and Pastors, I'm studying abroad and very far away from home, seeking guidance and advice as I have no one else I can talk to about this. Please read with an open mind, I don't know where else to go for help. I'm pregnant and it's an unplanned pregnancy. I'm stuck between keeping it or letting it go. I'm young and having a child at my age in the society we live in now would be considered taboo. The father of the child thinks I should let it go because it may cause a setback to both our careers and cause major family issues. He thinks we aren't ready to raise a child especially since we're both still in university and his parents think badly of me even though they've never met me or tried to get to know me. I'm sure no one would ever have the heart to take away a heartbeat but it seems like it isn't the right time to have a child now and if we did go through with it, the child probably won't be able to have the best things life can offer looking at where we are now in terms of finance and maturity. I'm lost, confused and unsure what the right thing to do is now. Any advice at all would be helpful right now. Thank you so very much for taking time to read my story.
    pastor answered: Dear Ronnie, I’m sorry to read that you are going through this situation. I can understand that this situation is tough to go through. You are always more than welcome to come here to ask questions. May I suggest that you talk to either someone in your family or your friends to help you come to an appropriate solution? This is because, what you feel, what you are going through, will change from time to time and you would need someone to talk to, someone that you can lean on through this situation you are facing. Depending on where you are in the world, professional help can also be sought to help you make a decision, which will be the best option for you seeking help. From a Buddhist perspective, the taking of a life is not considered a positive act, therefore those on the Buddhist path, would normally abstain taking a life if possible. However, that being said, one must always weigh the decision oneself. Everything we do in life, necessarily involves karma both positive and negative. That is why Buddhists try to overcome samsara in general. Your situation is complicated because you are abroad, but if possible you should really open up to someone you are close to in order to help you through making this decision on a personal basis. When you talk to someone, whom you are able to express yourself more, you may able to come to better decision that is right for you. There may be other options open to you if you seek help. I personally know women who have been in similar situations. One of these women, let the child go and the other went through the pregnancy and then gave the child up for adoption. You may or may not have thought of this option, but it is one that could be open to you, depending on where in the world you are. Any decision we make in life, however big or small it may seem, has far reaching consequences whether in this life, or in future lives. This is just a part and parcel of life within samsara. However, we should weigh the decisions we make clearly given the situation we are in. We cannot always do this weighing ourselves, but need to talk about our options with others we can rely on such a friends, family or professionals. You should consider doing this, which will help you greatly emotionally, and may give you the grounding you need to make the correct decision for you. I hope this helps.
  • April 19, 2017 04:57
    Dongho asked: What is a nyung ne practice? According to Lama Zopa Rinpoche, it's a purification sadhana. However, what are the instructions for this? I'm guessing it's to Chenrezig, but how does it work? Also, from what I have read, Vajrasattva practice is only for broken vows while Akshobhya is for regular misdeeds. Does that mean one has to take the Akshobhya practice to purify bad karma from this life and previous instead of Vajrasattva? As for the purification practices, are some like Vajrasattva and Chenrezig only to purify the bad karma and let it come quickly or is it to prevent it from coming? I am confused in it. As for signs, I recited a mantra of White Yangchenma that a Sakya lama, Lama Kunga Thartse Rinpoche, gave me with the Sakya visualizations I read on, and after one mala, I heard some lady call my Korean name even though no one in my neighborhood knows of my name and my family members weren't in the area. What does this mean?
    pastor answered: Dear Dongho, Thank you for your questions, it’s nice to see you back here again. Nyung Ne practice is a purification practice that centres around Chenrezig. It is a very beneficial practice that stems from a holy nun named Gelong-ma Palmo. It is a two and a half day practice that can be repeated many times over and over again to intensify the purification and build a closer relationship with Chenrezig. As well as its purification aspect, the practice is known to generate vast amount of merit, and also compassion, as the practice centres around Chenrezig, the Buddha of compassion. The practice involves taking the eight Mahayana precepts for the duration, fasting, meditating, prostrating and praying. The practice usually entails empowerment into the practice of Chenrezig, therefore the exact meditations, prayers can only be explained to those who have the empowerment. Vajrasattva practice is not necessarily only for repairing broken vows, etc. That’s why it is advised that you engage in the practice at the end of the day, to repair any vows that you may have broken during that day, as well as stopping any negative karma you created that day from multiplying. This would entail reciting the mantra 21 times, together with the four opponent powers. However, if you engage in this practice more intensely, it definitely has the capability to purify all sorts of karma. That is the reason why in Ngondro, or preliminary practices one engages in before tantra, the practice of 100,000 Vajrasattva mantra recitation is an integral part. You can read more about Vajrasattva and his practice here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/prayers-and-sadhanas/an-important-purification-practice.html. Within purification practices, some of the karma will be purified completely, so you do not feel its effects at all, but when purifying other karma you will need to feel its effects somehow. For example if you have the karma to be in a car accident and get seriously injured, and you are engaging in any practice, but especially the purification practice, since you have purified most of the karma, you will only experience being in a very minor car accident, with only very superficial injuries. Therefore, in this case, the karma has been purified to the extent that it does not affect you as much, but you still need to feel part of its effect. In regards to any signs that you receive which engaging in the practices given to you by one of your specific gurus, you should report the happenings to that particular guru. He will be able to give you more of an accurate answer, as it may be related to the particular practice that he gave to you. I hope this helps. Thank you.
  • April 17, 2017 07:06
    Thomas asked: Dear Pastors, When a serkyem set has been used so much and one is ready to get rid of it and replace it with a new one. What is a respecful mode of disposal?
    pastor answered: Dear Thomas, Thank you for your question. Your question shows that you have a lot of respect for offering items, which is very good. If possible, you should try to repair the item if within your means, and doing so make embellishments to make it a better offering item, which can still be used. If this is not possible, then you should dispose of the item with a good motivation. You should think that this item has been used to make offerings to the enlightened beings, but now that it is broken or unusable, you are going to dispose of it, and replace it with a new one. Since it itself is not a receptacle of energies of the enlightened beings, such as a statue, tsa tsa or thangka, it does not require a special dissolution before being disposed of. However since it was used to make offerings, it still requires some form of respect when disposing, and this comes from one’s motivation and the way in which you dispose of it. Usually, when disposing of items in this way, make the motivation that you have used it and that it is now time to dispose of it, and replace it with a new one. When you do this you can dispose of it in a respectful manner. For example, if you are going to throw it away, you do not simply open the trash can and throw it in. You wrap it up in something, like a bag or newspaper and dispose of it respectfully. Another method you can dispose of it is to recycle the object, if the material it is made from can be recycled. That way you are more conscious of the environment as well. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
  • April 16, 2017 22:38
    Curious asked: Dear pastors In a recent youtube video something like paying respect to deceased ones, pastor Nirel Patel explained that merits are like the interest and good karma is like the principal sum. So merits always regenerate themselves and hence do not get used up but good karma is like the principal sum so it gets used up. So my question is what are practices that generate merit? And can we turn a mundane daily activity into a meritorious one? Maybe can you provide an example?
    pastor answered: Dear Curious, Thank you for your question. First, to clarify a point, in regards to good karma, you are right, it is like a principal sum in a bank account, but you take away from it when you experience something good in your life, and you add to it when you do good deeds. Merit on the other hand, once accrued never diminishes, therefore when something is based on merit, it is based on the energies of this never diminishing sum, which you could say is like interest. In short, the principal sum when talking about karma is always added to and subtracted from. However, when talking about merit, once you have it, there is no way to destroy it, you will always benefit from it. There are various ways to explain how to generate merit. I will explain a way that I find easiest to understand. In normal life, when we go about performing any sort of activity, be it ‘good’ or ‘bad’ we do so out of ignorance of the true nature of existence, and it is usually self-motivated. For example, we work our entire lives to generate monetary income, so that we have enough money, resources, and materials goods to be comfortable. This is self-motivated, but it is the accepted way the world works these days, and is part and parcel of being bound to samsaric life. On the other hand, the act of merit making can be categorised into three parts: i) motivation, ii) the act itself, and iii) dedication. Let’s start with motivation, when engaging in various virtuous acts, we should have the motivation that by engaging in the act, we have the motivation to alleviate the suffering of someone else, and that may we gain enlightenment so that we can benefit them in the future. The second is the act itself. The third is to dedicate the energy of the virtuous act to gaining enlightenment. These three are what make merit. This may be a little confusing, so let me give an example: giving help to a homeless person. Whereas in ordinary life, this is something praised as a very good deed, it does not create merit without motivation and dedication. In order for this to become merit, one must set the motivation that one is giving help to the homeless free of the eight worldly concerns, to alleviate their suffering and also making the motivation that you will achieve enlightenment for the sake of the person or people you are helping. Then after you have helped them, you dedicate the energy created to the spiritual journey towards full enlightenment to help all sentient beings, while at the same time benefiting as many sentient beings as possible on the way there. This transforms the act into not only a virtuous action but also one that generates merit. On the other hand, if you were to help the homeless without these, you are creating good karma, which although beneficial, keeps you bound to existence within samsara. As it is the goal of Buddhist practice to overcome the cycle of samsara, a Buddhist would want to generate merit instead of good karma. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
  • April 13, 2017 11:38
    D.A. asked: If Begtse Chan is not from Mongolia, what are his real origins or story exactly? And which lamas offer his empowerment? As for Manjushri Nagarakshasa, which lamas specifically offer his empowerment and practice?
    pastor answered: Dear D.A. Thank you for your question. Begtse, is also known as Chamsing, or Jamsaran in Mongolian. As mentioned in an earlier sharing with someone who also asked a question about Begtse, the practiced was introduced to Tibet from India by the translator Nyen Lotsawa, and is considered one of the main protectors of the Hayagriva cycle of tantras. According to the scriptures that derive from the Sakya tradition, who incorporated the practice from the translators, and in which tradition Begtse became a very important protector, Begtse in a previous life was born many eons ago. In that particular life, he was born as the younger prince in a royal family. His name was Drag Gye, and his older brother’s name was Drag Den. Over time both princes developed differing religious beliefs, to the point where they could not get along with each as they both held their own religious views strongly. As was the custom during that time, they decided to settle their differences through logical debate, with the loser having to convert to the winner’s religion. This custom was also prevalent in ancient India, and there are many stories of such debates occurring between the great masters of the past and those of other faiths. Drag Gye lost the various debates, but ran away instead of converting to his older brother’s religion. Drag Den caught him, and tried to punish him for breaking the rules of debate and going back on his promise. Drag Gye told his brother that even if he was killed he would not give up his religion, however if Drag Den let him go, that in the future when Drag Den became enlightened, he would protect his teachings. With that Drag Den let him go, and gave him a set of copper armour, a stick, and a bow and arrow. Drag Den also gave Drag Gye a new name: Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po. After this incident the two brothers never saw each other again in that lifetime. Many lives after that Drag Den was reborn as Prince Siddharta, who eventually became enlightened and is now known as Buddha Shakyamuni. Drag Gye, or Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po, was reborn in a cemetery in the North West direction. His parents gave birth to two eggs, one was a coral-like colour and the other was an agate-like colour. These two eggs flew high into the sky and reached the heavenly realms, there they subdued the gods. Then flying back down to earth, they subdued many nagas. Eventually they even came to threaten their own parents. The parents petitioned the Dharma protector Ekajati for her help, who threw her own staff (khatvanga) at the eggs, and broke them apart. From the coral-like coloured egg came a ferocious man with yellow hair, he proclaimed that his name was ‘Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po’. When he emerged he was wearing a set of copper armour, wielding a stick, copper sword, and a bow and arrow. From the agate-like coloured egg came a female who was blue in colour, her teeth were like shells, she had turquoise eyebrows, and her hair was made of fire. She emerged wielding a copper knife, ritual dagger (phurba), rode a terrifying bear and wore an intricate necklace made of agate and lapis lazuli. It was then that Ekajati once again took action, and subdued them, after which they became Dharma protectors. The male figure became known as Begtse, and the female as his sister. When you propitiate Begtse, his sister is automatically included and aids practitioners as well. As for which lama offer his practice and empowerment, most lamas do not advertise which teachings or practice they hold. Therefore you should respectfully approach lamas and ask them if they have the practice and can bestow it, or if they know of any lamas that have the practice, depending on how much you want to practice Begtse. Similarly, this applies to those lamas who have the practice of Manjushri Nagarakshasa. However, this practice is included in the Rinjung Gyatsa series of empowerments. This unique cycle of teachings, includes all 4 classes of tantric practices, and includes the practice of Manjushri Nagarakshasa. Therefore those lamas who have received the complete transmission, and have kept their commitments for this practice, are qualified to pass this on to others. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
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