No more excuses please

May 26, 2012 | Views: 2,420
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Dear friends,

I received yet another apology from a student. And it has been many times already over the last two years with this person. I care about this person very much, but the situation is nearly the same. So I wrote a reply. I thought I’d share the reply. It might help or be applicable to some of us. I do not profess to know everything or have all the answers, but I do know doing our work well is essential. I am certainly not above it, but I still have to plug on and get things done just like everyone else. This is a private email but I will have it here without the name in the spirit of hoping it will benefit others. Forgive me if it sounds offensive, I do not mean it to be.

 

Tsem Rinpoche

 


 

Dear XXXX,

It’s very simple, you want ‘in’ or ‘out’? If you want out, you know life and the meaningless drudgery of it you will be going back to. You know your end result like many towards the end of your life will be meaningless death. The very purpose you are in dharma now is you have seen through the fallacies of life’s empty samsaric promises. That is the real reason underlying all reasons.

If you are in, you join an accepting group of people who literally wants to make a difference in the world. It is not by nice words, drinking endless cups of coffee in cafes, bantering gossip about friends and life in restaurants or rubbing shoulders with this or that friends who are just as unhappy as you BUT without a clue to a solution. You are in an organization that I am the head of and will work very hard. We have a philosophy derived from sacred Gaden and we have an immaculate protector(s). We have direction, we have purpose, we have hope and we have AN INCREDIBLE GOAL. You cannot find this anywhere.

Whether you are in or out IS NOT PHYSICAL BUT MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL. You may be in, but if you are still attached to your old life of sleep, deceptive freedom, friends, conveniences, easy life, socializing et al, then you will not perform well here or anywhere. Whether you want to do work in secular or spiritual, it is the same qualities that will get you there. What did the life of secular ’freedom’ you had before Kechara bring you? Got you where? Resulted in what? What have you achieved? Whatever you are failing in Kechara is what you were failing in before you came to Kechara. What your parents didn’t teach you, is left to me to teach you. Whatever insecurities and failures you feel or self-hatred you feel before Kechara you brought into Kechara and into my world and you leave it to me to deal with.

If you are a bad communications person, then you make me and Kecharians suffer now for it. Lots of time spent to find out the real communications, repairs, extra energy and resources to do things over.

If you are not a hard worker, you burden Kecharians to cover for you. They have to do their share and cover what you didn’t do.

If you like to cover mistakes, then you make Kecharians spend more time to talk to you, find out what happened and that time could have been spent better.

If you like the night life, easy life, fun life and convenient life, then you make everyone else around you who want to work with you, work harder to cover for you. To accommodate you. Accommodating you is not the reason you came to dharma. It’s the opposite in fact.

If you are late, undisciplined, not on time, always give excuses and always do your work sloppily, you make Kecharians put up with this, tolerate this, be patient with this and also forgive you again and again and again with your myriad deliciously worded apologies.

If your mind goes up and down and up and down like a see-saw, it is not Kechara who made you this way. You came this way. Staying in Kechara you will see-saw and leaving Kechara you will see-saw in your new environment. In fact in your new environment you will see-saw worse having experienced the blessings of Kechara and our goals. Your see-sawing mind is because you are lazy, impatient and want the easy way out. When you don’t get that, you get sad, depressed, question why you are here. But that is what you have been doing your whole life.

When you make promises to your teacher or your fellow dharma staff and you don’t keep it, you set such a bad example. You reaffirm your failure of before entering Kechara. Whatever you did not achieve before you entered Kechara, you are leaving it to me and those around you to pick up your pieces daily and ‘retrain’ you to achieve… think….

You see, whatever mental or emotional problems you developed before Kechara, the people around you have it also. You, me and all of us suffer variations of the same problems and mental downs…When you show these traits again and again, you make them trigger in other people. Does that mean you can never be unhappy and pretend you’re enlightened? Of course not… but up or down, you still have TO DO YOUR WORK WELL, PERFECTLY AND TO COMPLETION. EVERYONE IN THE WORLD WHETHER THEY ARE UP OR DOWN MUST PRODUCE WORK RESULTS TO SURVIVE TO LIVE.

Whether you are in Kechara or not, you will be up and down and you still have to produce. But outside of Kechara, rarely do others want to or will cover you over and over again. You affect those around you severely… we all do. It becomes a chain reaction. You can cause those around you to have doubts, be depressed, be demotivated, not perform well and when you finally ‘bounce’ back from your current down episode, the people around you are down again… Then they drag others down. Then when they come up, you are in your endless cycle of down again. So it is a chain reaction… and how do you control it? Well there is no magic formula, you just focus on your goals and control it. How would you control it without Kechara? Same, you focus on your goals and control it in Kechara or in the secular.

If you have been a person without goals and now you are in a rush-rush hectic Kecharian environment of goal driven environment, count yourself lucky. Why? Because together with others you can achieve what you couldn’t achieve alone before you entered Kechara. Since you ‘don’t’ perform well, have so many ups and downs and you are not driven, then rather than paddle 1,000 miles on a static lake to get to the shore, you are on a river where you paddle and the river pushes you towards the other end also. The river is likened to many others around you that are into the same goal and work hard. Better to be on a river than paddling on your own. Think carefully of my example.

I receive hundreds of apologies over the years, very few move me or make me believe. I fight being cynical all the time. Why? Because so many disappoint me time and time again. If a few persons disappoint you and you feel down, then you are selfish. Because think of the hundreds over decades that disappoint me and I still have to keep going. Why? Because I am better than you, no not really…but because I focus on the goal and not my emotions as much. I focus on my goals and realize without dharma goals I HAVE NOTHING. My example is all the people around me. They have nothing of worth and value they can take at death yet they live as if there is no death. Silly self deception. Silly selfishness hidden behind depressions, down time and feeling like we can’t do it.

You are mature and older and you have to be double most of the people around you. Age is suppose to confer wisdom, maturity, stability and qualities others may look up to. If you are nearing forty, or forty or older, then you have a sacred responsibility to act forty. And combined with the secular wisdom of a mature person, top them off with dharma and voila you should be a shining light to all those around you.

You should be a person who is stable, does what you say, does not forget promises, tells the truth, works hard, nurtures others younger and older people (some come to dharma late or realize the truth late) and take your dharma work as your saviour which it is. Dharma work is your saviour. What does it save you from?? Dharma saves you from you!

Apologies are the first step but it does not purchase the respect you lost and the loss of confidence and deep pain, hurt and disappointments you have created. Apologies do not mend or make up for all the resources you have caused to be wasted. The single most important resource we have is the friendship/love and support we have in Kechara from those around us. This love and support will NEVER BE FOUND ANYWHERE ELSE.

Apology letters sometimes make me angry. Because you can’t rob someone and then it’s ok with just a letter. How can someone consistently do harm, not do their work well, not do their job well, burden others, make others disappointed, damage others and then it’s forgotten with a letter. People who do not do their work well do not deserve to be here by right. They are here because we have compassion and mercy. We love our people. Having said that, the Kecharians may be kind and forgiving, but your karma is ruthless. Karma is unbiased. What you have done, when it fruitions, will make you lose the most precious things you have. No words, apologies and delicious explanations will help you.

Buck up now. Change now. Whatever you have been failing at, do not expect Kechara or Kecharians or others to cover for you or constantly forgive. If you don’t buck up and constantly burden others, it’s not a matter of forgiveness, it’s that the work still has to get on. It still has to complete.

 

BOTTOM LINE-

 

We all have:

anger

low self esteem

fear

perhaps bad upbringing

disappointments

hurt

pain

feeling sorry for ourselves

hiding

wanting ‘easy’ life whatever that really means

tragedies

failures

laziness

attachments, etc etc etc etc and endless variations of the above and more etc…

 

BUT THE KEY IS:

Since all of us have these, why do some people still do their work well with all their emotional baggage? And some people use the emotional baggage as an excuse for not doing their work well? Either way, we all have the same emotional/disciplinary problems. Why do some people still perform and do their work well even with the baggage still? Because some hold their responsibilities firm and some have had very little responsibilities,’training’ them to be flippant about it most of their lives. Someone has always covered for them. This is the key for some. We all have to produce. How much is if we have had anyone to lean on.  But if we have lived a life of not producing anything much or  someone covered for us always, then we continue our ways now burdening a new set of people we are involved with. Dumping our excuses on them or dumping our work on them using our emotional baggage for sympathy/excuse for not performing.  But you know what, deep down inside all of us, we do not want to burden or hurt others. And we know what to do. So do it. JUST DO IT. WHETHER YOU ARE NEW IN DHARMA OR OLD IN DHARMA, IS NOT THE POINT, RESPONSIBILITIES AND YOUR WORDS OF HONOUR (INTEGRITY) IS THE SAME.

So don’t wait for yourself to become a ‘better’ person. YOU ARE THE BETTER PERSON NOW IF YOU CHOOSE. NOW. Don’t wait for dharma to sink in and you change, that is wrong. We all have responsibilities, so just do it irregardless.

Do not take anything for granted. Do not assume. Do not take anything lightly. Do what you are supposed to do and do it now and well. Excuses had all been said and explained. If you keep failing, my love and care for you will never cease, but will you have the karma to keep the most precious thing in your life?

Tsem Rinpoche

 

This is in reply to XXXXX (below), but in hindsight, might benefit many. And also this is not to ‘get’ or embarrass XXXXX. It is for reflection please.

 


 

 Dearest Rinpoche,

I apologise for the disappointment I have caused. I do care about Rinpoche a lot and it breaks my heart to know i am causing more pain than relief for Rinpoche.


 
This is in no way a poor me reflection because i do really want to help Rinpoche in any way i can and i know i can do it.
 
My inconsistency i have come to realise, stems from me not caring enough and assuming things are done and not following through. And also largely due to me thinking i have everything sorted out in my head and in control but being big headed and stubborn, that if i do drop the ball or when someone points out my faults or mistakes, i get defensive and close up and at times even try to cover most unconvincingly (but my pride makes me think otherwise).


 
I also do realise i do fight/stop these negative thoughts/actions and catch them more these days. I know i am not perfect but i know i am improving as a person through the grace of Rinpoche. And i do realise fully that whatever actions Rinpoche takes in pushing my buttons is for my benefit and am very thankful and blessed to have the merits to receive such methods of teaching in this day and age!


 
I will not go into a whole song and dance of how i am going to improve but what i will do is just BE that person Rinpoche can trust and be proud of and cut the rest of the poor me crap out! 


 
Through my realisations of late, i have written the following to reflect on which i would like to humbly share with Rinpoche:

”A lifetime of bad habits can be changed with a mere switch in attitude. A lifetime of heavy baggage can be lightened by just LETTING GO!”


 
I hope Rinpoche rested well.
 
Much love… XXXXXX

( The person in the  photo above is myself.  Tsem Rinpoche)

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42 Responses to No more excuses please

  1. jht on Feb 2, 2012 at 1:47 am

    Dear Rimpoche,

    Thank you for your advice to all of us.
    My opinion only – to be able to prostrate at the feet of a guru and to have full devotion to the Guru is the basis of all blessings.
    To change – a person must practice the teachings given by the Guru. The change will come gradually as our defilements are deeply buried in us. Faith and devotion is the key to the ‘changing’. Only a small opinion.
    thank you rimpoche from a ‘student’

    • Lily on Feb 2, 2012 at 2:21 am

      Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this letter in the blog. There is no denying the truth in Rinpoche’s response to this apology. We get gung-ho when we first get involved in dharma but without commitments, over time this fell by the sidelines as we get caught up with our mundane activities again.It is much easier to be involved with samsaric activities as the main focus is ourselves. The only person we are disappointing is ‘ME’ as we cannot face the honest truth of what we are. I have come to the conclusion that I have not developed enough compassion to bring benefit to others for if I did, there would be no obstacles to doing dharma work.I have to let go of the concept of the ‘perfect’ condition for it will never arises and JUST DO.The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak…

  2. Liz Fields on Feb 2, 2012 at 3:21 am

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for sharing this! As you have said everyone has problems. Many people come to Dharma in the hope that it will be easier for them to “fix” their problems. At first they are all hyped up but then later they realize that it is not as easy as they thought it was (nothing is easy in life anyway.) People come to Dharma to better themselves (among other reasons) and this is a good thing. But if people are not going to do the work, then why are they here? If they are not going to do what their guru tells them, then why come to teachings practices, sit in front of the guru and get inspired. It is like the gurus words go in one ear and out the other. The people that do this don’t even study, contemplate and meditate. They just smile and nod and listen to the gurus teaching without studying, contemplating, meditating and implementing it in their daily life. If you are really serious please buck up, do the work and practices that have been given to you with a smile and happiness. No excuses or arguing! This is just my opinion and I do not mean any disrespect, ill will ect. I am just voicing my opinion. Again thank you for sharing this, and I am off to do the practice given to me by my teacher. Hope things are well! :)

    • Tsem Tulku Rinpoche on Feb 2, 2012 at 4:06 am

      Dear Liz, I like your straightforward, no-nonsense approach. Be real to yourself. Be real to your spiritual journey. Be real to your teacher. Be real to the people around you. Deception knowing and unknowing only invites more pain. So just be real. Face yourself and do the work well now. Not tomorrow or later…but now. Thanks Liz. TR

  3. Elsie Toy on Feb 2, 2012 at 7:56 am

    Dearest Rinppoche

    Thank you very much for sharing with us. I very much like the way you pen it straight forward and direct to our problems. Looking for easy way out and let others cover for us and creating the workload for our counterparts working with us. This happens everywhere in any general organizations and do create frustrations for others with them. We do have all our problems as long as we live we have problems may it be money, self esteem and up bringing. Yes, these are all excuses we use when we failed and think it is acceptable but some forget that the person one work with also has their own set of problems but just because the handle it better then other we assumed they do not have their problems.
    I really like this letter it makes me think harder and it give the impact on me to be more conscience of myself and the quality of work that I produce, and others.

    Thank you very much Rinpoche.

  4. Li Kheng on Feb 4, 2012 at 12:17 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing and for using every opportunity to teach us the Dharma.

    It is so sad that we tend to harm and take for granted those kindest to us. Perhaps we have the ignorance and arrogance to believe that these people will never abandon us. However, we forget the law of cause and effect (karma) that will eventually catch up with us and run its course.

    Living in the midst of a “dog eat dog world”, I witness that repeated mistakes and non-compliance are not tolerated. Consequently, everyone behaves themselves and play by the rule to keep their roles. Just to clarify, this situation applies to personal relationships as well, e.g. if a guy does not maintain his girlfriend “properly”, he will soon be replaced by a better candidate.

    This is not the case in the world of pure Dharma where Rinpoche has 1) patiently accepted mistakes, 2) tried to help wrongdoers discover the root of their problem and overcome it as well as 3) shower His “employees” with Dharma gifts and teachings (as we can see in constant blog updates).

    As smart people, which world would you choose? I believe the answer is the Dharma world for many of us. So, if we are smart enough to choose the Dharma world, let’s further develop our intelligence (I dare not speak of wisdom from the level we are currently operating) to stay in this world by abiding the centuries-old law of karma.

    It could be hard to perfectly complete all the Dharma tasks assigned but it is no easier in the secular world. The difference is: in the Dharma world the challenges we are given are designed to strengthen our minds that will benefit us lifetime after lifetime while in the secular world the bulk of our so called achievements are allocated to pay for the lifestyle of the bosses.

    So let’s buck up and help each other as dharma students by watching out for each other, actively giving honest feedback (so that our Guru does not have to), and ensuring we all get the job done perfectly. Now, that is true team spirit, which I believe will contribute to the group’s positive collective karma.

  5. henry ooi on Feb 13, 2012 at 5:36 pm

    Just like the person who apologized, I too, have similar weaknesses pointed by Rinpoche in this post. My weaknesses may have varying degrees but they are still weaknesses that I have to improve on.

    That would be for me to improve on and not let others suffer if I really want to practice dharma.

    Thank you, Rinpoche.

  6. tsemtulku on Feb 14, 2012 at 5:16 pm

    Future tense is senseless. Wishes for the future is unsure. Be what you wish now. No one controls your body, speech and mind. So you don’t need to transform your body speech and mind in the future. Fortitude and tenacity is achievable now. if you don’t achieve it-then it is a choice. Pick the right choices. In real dharma with real dharma friends and real dharma work and real dharma environment, there is no future tense. We may not even be alive tomorrow. It is now. Your body, speech and mind is controlled by you..so don’t blame a third person that is fictitious. Don’t make your teacher a liar and Buddha not real..be here and now. Have the qualities now. You are in control of yourself. Your teacher is not a liar and there is a Buddha…Sarva Mangalam….Tsem Rinpoche

    • Yoke Fui on May 26, 2012 at 3:22 pm

      This I learned from Rinpoche – whether we can physically do the assignment now , tomorrow or half an hour later , we must be mentally committed to finish it the moment we said YES to our guru.

      If we have this mindset, like Muhammad Ali said : “Impossible is NOTHING “

  7. Wan Wai Meng on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:19 pm

    Samsara and the Buddha and our Guru are opposites. The Guru/Buddha actually cares and wants us to be alright, samsara does not care and just gets us to create more and more karma to create and endless cycle of rebirths. I feel Rinpoche always pushing us to learn things, absorb knowledge and etc etc is to make us better and better, as we should never be selective in a spiritual path and keep doing until we become enlightened, develop Bodhicitta or reach a stage that we have reached our potential in this life. Why because we have a precious human life that can bring us to more rounds in samsara or give us control of our existence so which one do we want?

    What I am saying is that for a student’s welfare Rinpoche has to fight against our delusions, our samsara and samsara in general, and what he has at his disposal is what we allow the lama, so at any time Rinpoche is trying to better you he is putting in tremendous efforts to figure out a way or method that can reach us, and most of the to time we don’t make it easy on Rinpoche. How much more we can receive help is how much good karma we have in the guru student relationship. Once exhausted due to it being used up and not replenished then even if the lama wants to help you there will be overwhelming obstacles.

  8. Han on May 26, 2012 at 11:36 am

    We have direction, we have purpose, we have hope and we have AN INCREDIBLE GOAL. You cannot find this anywhere. Whether you are In or out IS NOT PHYSICAL BUT MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL.
    ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    Thank you Rinpochefor sharing this article.
    To me, Focus on our DIRECTION & GOAL, once make the choice TO BE IT, hold this well and GO ALL THE WAY is the key!

  9. John Woo on May 26, 2012 at 12:23 pm

    No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path – The Buddha

    Thank you, Rinpoche for showing great compassion despite many failures of students during these current conditions. We must take into heart this advice and transform our mind.

  10. Girlie Ooi on May 26, 2012 at 1:58 pm

    I am guilty of what Rinpoche has listed here because I am not the perfect person but I strive to be better. I will trip and fall along the way but I will pick myself up and continue the journey.

  11. andrew chiam on May 26, 2012 at 3:39 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche.

    This is really a very good article to serves as individual wake up call. We can pretend and act ignorance, lazy and etc to escape from responsibilities. But as a sane person still intact with the last bits of consciousness, we should aware that we have a choice. And if we still want to be in Dharma line, its time to step up the game and make the correct choice. After all, what makes a happy person is the one that dare to commit sincerely to benefit others and keep up to the commitment, day after day, without degenerating the commitments.
    The road for beginners is definitely not easy, but what is easy in life?

    This article although condensed, I had learned, refreshed and realized many points on how to be a better and responsible person to ourselves and all the people around us.

    Rgds,

    Andrew chiam

  12. patsy on May 26, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche for sharing this for us to reflect on. I admit that I too have these emotional baggage that Rinpoche pointed out that I have to improve on.

    We should take pride in the work that was entrusted to us instead of pushing /dumping our work to someone else. As a dharma practitioner, we should be of less burden to others. Real dharma practice is not to make others suffer or burden them.

  13. Adrian Cho on May 26, 2012 at 4:50 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this post and teaching us.
    It is really meaningful to me and in this post have pointed my similar weakness..
    Nowadays I try to improve myself and won’t let other people down and disappoint on me, that always care me and guidance me.
    Really appreciate it much this teaching in this post from Rinpoche..

  14. lewkwanleng on May 26, 2012 at 5:54 pm

    Every time I am lazy,
    Every time I let my emotion go up & up,
    Every time I created disharmony,
    Every time I promised something but don’t do it,

    I will burden others to benefit more people.

    This is what I need to remember from now onwards.

  15. Joyce Yeow on May 26, 2012 at 6:15 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for such profound advice. I am afraid that I was one of the guilty ones. I used to have this attitude when i was working that I do not need to check my work as the next person who receives it will have to check anyway until my mentor who was my ex-boss and now a dear friend, so very patiently pointed out to me the selfishness of such attitude. I will further strive to correct all my other weaknesses as pointed by Rinpoche here.

    Thank you again Rinpoche.

  16. jennifer on May 26, 2012 at 9:35 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for the very wise and profound teaching.
    I realise that everything we do have a ripple effect , on every one around us and whether good or bad, that ‘ripple’ hits back to us eventually. We are truly blessed to have Rinpoche in our lives, who never gave up on us , understands our flaws and weaknesses , cares , loves and guides us with such compassion , and is there time and time again to back us up when that ‘ripple ‘ (which by now has turned into a tidal wave ) hits us flat on our stubborn arrogrant faces.
    Thank you Rinpoche for being in our lives .

  17. Lim Han Nee on May 26, 2012 at 10:11 pm

    Yes, no one controls our body, speech and mind, but we ourselves. It’s our choice.We can make the choice, HERE AND NOW, of identifying with the incredibly wonderful Dharma goal of Kechara and Kecharians and do Dharma work and practice Dharma with integrity and a strong sense of commitment and responsibility. Or we can continue to wallow in our laziness and our wanting to take the easy way out and in letting others cover for us; and, in the process, drag others down with us into negativity, suffering and depression.

    Like many, I too have an emotional baggage, and a humongous one at that! I have also, in the past, let this baggage become my excuse for not being totally committed to Dharma work and practice.

    When I look back at all the time wasted, and I look ahead and see how time is running out on me, I feel I have no other option left.

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for your great love and compassion in reminding us that we are our own worst enemy.

  18. mayy on May 26, 2012 at 10:39 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche for sharing this. I would take it as a creed to read and reflect on all times on faults and failures we have brought with us till now and not having achieve anything in life. Kechara is the real place, family and friends to support and assist each other to become better person in our spiritual path.

    Whatever tasks entrusted to us we must strive to do it all the way and complete it by taking upon responsibilities of not burdening others. Everything we do are all interdependent for a common goal. Never can we be a lone ranger to champion a cause. We need each other to achieve it.

    Passion drives just like what Jane Goodall did whom has inspired many. She has exemplified..”We have the power to affect the world positively and we have the poser to affect the world negatively.” How we use this power is a matter of choice for we are in control irrespective of how adverse the situation is. (http://blog.tsemtulku.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/something-incredible-about-jane-goodall.html)

  19. Valentina Suhendra on May 26, 2012 at 11:01 pm

    Dear Rinpoche

    I like this particular blogpost. Especially the part that say,” Because you can’t rob someone and then it’s ok with just a letter.”

    Valentina

  20. Wei Theng on May 27, 2012 at 11:37 am

    “the Kecharians may be kind and forgiving, but your karma is ruthless. Karma is unbiased. What you have done, when it fruitions, will make you lose the most precious things you have. No words, apologies and delicious explanations will help you.”
    With the karma effect in mind, it’s no other way but look at the goals and go all the way.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this precious & meaningful teaching.

  21. David Loh on May 27, 2012 at 11:38 am

    I was brought up where every unnessary explaination is considered an excuse. If you are right then you are right. If you are wrong then you are wrong. No debate here. We humans are so full of excuses and bull shit (me included).

    One thing I really don’t understand is why people still don’t transform even a little bit when constantly exposed to Dharma. Here we go calling people of some ‘religion’ hypocrates. Are we any better if we don’t transform ourselves? I know our imprints limits us in this department, whether its the Lamrin, Bible or Quran, emphasis is for believers to change or transform into better people. Why do we still go to temple, churches etc etc if we are not willing to change? Am really perplexed…..Wait! could it be……? I know most places serves food and refreshments during all services.

    I hold on to my believes that if I’m not able to do anything right after many attempts, I would stop doing to avoid the whole world picking up the pieces after me. ONCE beatened TWICE shy.

    Every one of us is bound to have at least ONE talent. Find out and harness that for the good of Dharma. If the person has non (which is impossible when you have all your faculties intact and workable) then too bad.

  22. Thierry on May 27, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this correspondence with us.
    I take it that we are all addressees of Rinpoche’s reply, so I read it a second time with thought that the letter was addressed to me directly and it got me blushing…

  23. Low ksjc on May 27, 2012 at 10:38 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for sharing this letter with us.What was mention does reflect on how most of us will feel when we are overwhelm with emotion, rather then seeking a solution to solve the issue to reach the goal, we rather choose to run away by passing the buck to others to settle it.We might have friends who are willing to take ownership of the issue to settle it for us,we might have felt relived that the issue is settled.. But in time to come ,if we do not wish to change this attitude or be lost in world of excuses then we are only left with a name without “Integrity”.
    I would choose to remember this letter well, to remind myself on the disappointment I would have cause others when I have failed to owe up to my own commitment as a “TEAM”.

  24. Wong Yuen Foo on May 29, 2012 at 12:16 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for sharing this private mail with all of us. I truly understand your advice & concern.

    Yes, all of us have a certain degree of these bad traits / habits in us … the bottom line is how much do we willingly push ourself to achieve set goals / promises / responsibilities in our life sometimes & all the times. How many people wish / can carry out these commitments for others benefits without agenda at all ? This is even a much tougher question to answer & to do, at least it applies to me… I ask myself this questions too.

    I salute all those who work day & night without self-agendas but with the motive of benefiting others, some of these people whom they do not know/ met. I wish in the near future i too could do the same like these great individuals.

    Rinpoche, wish you good health, Always.

  25. Jace Chong on May 30, 2012 at 10:54 am

    Thanks Rinpoche for the posting to reflect what we can not do due to our self-resistant, and what we can really do.

    What Rinpoche says here is really true, we do have ups and downs and hang-ups, but the point is what we want and where are we going.

    We may not be perfect, we may not be a good person before, but it doesn’t mean that we can’t be. If we really treasure Rinpoche and Dharma, we need to play our part to fight our inner negative thoughts, because it’s something that hurts ourselves and others. And it’s something Buddha concerns because this is the cause of samsara.

    I remember Rinpoche said this in a teaching, “When you are in samsara, you are ready for Dharma works”. Dharma works buy us a ticket to leave samsara, but we need to work our way out to grab the ticket before we turn into another condition and lost the ticket. We must work hard, there’s no other way.

  26. andrew hibberd on May 30, 2012 at 1:55 pm

    your advice agrees equally with my experience we are who we are in this time a bunch of bloated water and words and the only thing behind us is the result of the action we have taken and the only thing in front of us is oppprtunity , lets not waste this precious life lets stand up and take responsibiity for our home , mother earth and all of the children that live in it so they may see a future challenge that motivates them to be human

  27. Uncle Eddie on May 31, 2012 at 12:25 pm

    Yes, you were right Rinpoche. We must be real to our spiritual journey, be real to our teacher, be real to the people around us. All in all, we must be real to our ownselves and do the work well! Everyone have weaknesses and bad habits which must be got rid off immediately. The friendship, love and support which we have cultivated in Kechara must be savaged and manintained. It is the most important source of our devoted unity, as this love and support will never be found anywhere, as mentioned. To borrow an old saying, “Ask not what Kechara can do for us, but what we can do for Kechara to benefit others!” Thank you once again Rinpoche, for re-awakening our sleeping and deluded minds.

  28. Eric Lee KSJC on Jun 2, 2012 at 11:24 pm

    有时候我自己也会为自己做不到的事情找借口,这是为了不让别人知道自己做不到。可是,最近我自己发觉有时候是因为自己在作出承诺以前,并没有想清楚自己是否又能力胜任,只是认为只要是佛法的事,就应该去做,所以做到最后,自己因为累了或是因为其他的理由就放弃了。所以,现在的我学会凡事三思而行,要认真的想清楚,因为自己的承诺是金,不要随便的答应而做不到,这不但害了自己,也害到别人。

  29. Han on Jun 12, 2012 at 2:35 pm

    “Whether you are in Kechara or not, you will be up and down and you still have to produce.
    But outside of Kechara, rarely do others want to or will cover you over and over again. You affect those around you severely… we all do. It becomes a chain reaction. ”

    The above indeed very true, from my past experiences in the corporate sector, without dharma made me easily inpatient and feel pressured in works, the way we dealt with co workers also very selfish and narrow minded.

    I am glad I am in Kechara and there are UP & DOWN as always, but I am happy that i gradually doing things that i do not like and feel happy to do it, eventually become like to do the DONT LIKE jobs….
    Its tough initially, but this is the key of practicing dharma, Rinpoche always said, never forget DHARMA IS DOING THINGS THAT YOU DO NOT LIKE !

    Thank you Rinpoche !

  30. Lili ng on Jun 12, 2012 at 6:25 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,everything that Rinpoche says is so right….have always been right….thats why deep down we either face it or be in denial pretend it’s not true or it doesn’t apply to me or simply turn a blind eye,a deaf ear all bcoz we don’t want to face the truth,hide..,it’s time for me to face it head on and never give up no matter what.I Thank you.

  31. lucy yap on Jun 16, 2012 at 3:11 am

    I agree Rinpoche that we are full of excuses to cover our selectiveness and laziness.Only when we respond to opportunities with action, we do it not only as an aspect of our practice,but also for the growth of our individual character.We are responsible for the nourishment of our practice by engaging with others in our communities.With such principles recognized,but unapplied to daily opportunities,the hold upon the ideal of what the Buddha taught.We lose the chance for realizing the opportunities for finding the lessons that can be awakened in us,that only through our actions can be experienced.Thank you Rinpoche ,for this priceless teaching.

  32. Paris on Jun 18, 2012 at 6:59 pm

    I’ve just been speaking with some people about something similar and some of them have been saying things like, “Oh but I’m not very capable,” “I’m useless”, “I’m stupid” – thing is, stupid people don’t know they’re stupid, useless people don’t know they’re useless. I think being capable or not, useless or useful, stupid or not is a choice, it’s not some kind of terrible prison sentence that someone else has imposed upon us and that we have to live with. I think nowadays, it’s quite easy for others to see through this kind of false humility and know straight away that it’s just yet another big cover up for not wanting to do more or not having achieved anything.

    It’s also not a choice that someone’s putting a gun to our heads to make. If we don’t choose to do more and choose to make excuses for not being able to do it, that’s fine – that’s our prerogative to decide. Then we should also be happy with what we’ve “chosen” when the results of that come – which could be that we get nowhere, have no friends, don’t achieve the things we want to etc. To simply say that we’re lazy or useless, not good enough, not clever enough etc is denying that there’s ever such a thing as karma, and a kind of opposite surrendering to a dead-end fate, which is not logical.

    • DR on Jun 25, 2012 at 12:52 pm

      Well said Paris. To add to your list of why they cant do this and that is another phrase which I always get; “it is not my forte”! Oh My Buddha! Nothing is not one’s forte until one is willing to learn and go all the way with it. Is walking a baby’s forte? NO, not until the baby decides to get up to learn to walk, fall, get up again, and keeps trying till he can run.

  33. nani ksa on Jun 19, 2012 at 8:33 pm

    no more i dont know i dont want to do i scared to do .must do it.no more excuses.thank you rinpoche for ihis blog.

  34. mitra on Jun 25, 2012 at 10:48 am

    with out rinpoche and with out dharma we cant do anything.every people come kechara bucause they want good rejalt and we want better.we want in or out is verry clear for rinpoche teaching.

  35. Lim KH (JB) on Jun 27, 2012 at 4:15 am

    Everyone will do the wrong things but we should learn from the mistake then dun make the mistake again. Is seen to be easy to say out but uneasy to be done.

    Due to our selective style and always stay in comfort zone our mind will transform very very slow. But when we start our FIRST STEP to change sure we may STARTED to transform it maybe slow but at least started.

    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing the key to let us aware that we got no more excuses.

  36. Julia Tan on Jul 15, 2012 at 12:30 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this letter with us. Every word in the letter hit me hardly. Regret that I forever made mistakes some more fail to confess. Instead of contributing to the dharma, I created more work for my dharma brothers and sisters. I am taking full responsibilities on whatever I have done.

    I may or may not live until tomorrow. I do not own anything from yesterday and I cannot take anything with me tomorrow. Why not just do it now. Do as much as I can now instead of regret when chances passed.

  37. judy lam on Oct 20, 2012 at 2:55 pm

    We are always guilty of giving excuses or ‘reasons’ for not doing something. I guess this is not just habitual, but a state of our mind. All excuses given will have consequences. For not being able to deliver our work on time, it will have a chain effect on other people’s schedule. We must make a deliberate action to reduce number of our excuses.

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  • tsemtulku
    (Saturday, Oct 18. 2014 12:15 PM)
    I really enjoyed watching the blog chat and seeing all of you learn and share. It was music for my eyes!! :) And just now, Jean Mei follow the recipe here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/aunt-matza-teaches-bortsik-perisiki.html made traditional bortiks and peroshkis for us today as per my request. It came out delicious. She is really helpful and good at doing so many things. Thank you Jean Mei and she made enough for the US Ladrang team here! It’s one of my favorites from childhood.
  • Pastor David Lai
    (Saturday, Oct 18. 2014 12:09 PM)
    When your Guru Calls you… I thought I share these devotional pictures of Tsem Rinpoche standing up, bowing and folding his hands while listening to a voice message and receiving a phone call from his Guru recently. Even before receiving the phone call, Rinpoche would offer incense before hand… Read why does Rinpoche do this – http://www.davidlai.me/2014/10/17/when-your-guru-calls-you/
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Saturday, Oct 18. 2014 12:01 PM)
    18 October 2014 – There are 176 users now which means many are also joining in by reading the posts. I really like the learning happening here. Wonderful. ~ His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche
  • tsemtulku
    (Saturday, Oct 18. 2014 11:00 AM)
    Dear friends around the world,

    This is so wonderful that all of you are discussing dharma here on my blog chat (www.tsemrinpoche.com). I am so glad to see this every Friday on US Pacific Coast time 8PM (Malaysian timing every Saturday 11AM). For next Friday (October 24, 2014) we have something very interesting for sharing on blog chat, please learn up on “Earthlings” post and video: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=17514. How much we can learn is a plus. We can never overlearn the dharma.

    We will discuss about this beneficial read. You will learn more as you read the post and discuss here with friends. I rejoice when you learn more. It stabilizes the mind to understand our spiritual practice and the benefits. :) Tsem Rinpoche
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Friday, Oct 17. 2014 04:19 PM)
    Complete Commentary on 50 Verses of Guru Devotion http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/complete-commentary-on-50-verses-of-guru-devotion.html

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    The Kechara Forest Retreat is a unique holistic retreat centre focused on the total wellness of body, mind and spirit. This is a place where families and individuals will find peace, nourishment and inspiration in a natural forest environment. At Kechara Forest Retreat, we are committed to give back to society through instilling the next generation with universal positive values such as kindness and compassion.

    For more information, please read got to the Kechara Forest Retreat official site: retreat.kechara.com.
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Friday, Oct 17. 2014 03:31 PM)
    15 Oct 14, 09:54 PM
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  • Pastor Adeline
    (Friday, Oct 17. 2014 03:02 PM)
    I like when people listen to the dharma, apply and transform their minds. My methods are for you to transform your mind. If you have a better method, then by all means apply it. The issue is whether your mind is transforming or not. Don’t abandon the teachings on mind transformation blaming methods. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Friday, Oct 17. 2014 02:55 PM)
    I have a few Mother’s Tongue plants as well as Monkey Palm plants in my room to absorb the radiation that emits from prolonged computer use. My Chinese doctor is into plants, herbs and natural healing highly recommended this and I do appreciate it. I did a blog post on it for those interested… So I did some research and sure enough he is right. These days, I always have these plants in my room and they are very easy to maintain and hassle free. They do very well in the house and without direct sunlight under all temperature situations. They do not need much water either…Very easy plants to keep indoors.~ H.E. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Friday, Oct 17. 2014 02:55 PM)
    You know the Xmas lights we hang on trees years ago. They were hot and can be dangerous and burned out easily. If one bulb burned out or faulty, the whole string doesn’t work. Sigh. These days the same lights come in so many varieties, colors, shapes and sizes and available all year round for outdoor and indoor. They are cheap, last a long time, not hot as they are LED and very convenient. They are not just used for Xmas anymore. So we purchased quite a few colored ones and hung them all over the ladrang here in the USA as an offering. Will be getting more tomorrow. They are beautiful.~ H.E. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Friday, Oct 17. 2014 02:53 PM)
    Am watching a program on people who see mystical faery people and nature beings. They are suppose to be great musicians and the music heard is very ethereal. Some of these music is brought to the human realm. My mom use to see supernatural beings as she was very psychic. She would have very strong premonitions and dreams. She would tell me her dreams and immediately within a short time, just as she had dreamed, things come true. For example she told me one morning while cleaning her room she had a dream of blue baby shoes and that a friend who just got pregnant will have a boy. And sure enough months later it was a boy. I remember she was say things like that very often. She is highly attuned to her surroundings. When I use to sleep walk nightly, she placed a Avalokitesvara Tsatsa on my head and recited the mantra and I stopped immediately. I use to walk up and down the stairs. Dangerous.~ H.E. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Friday, Oct 17. 2014 02:52 PM)
    Our team now steaming corn to offer the Buddhas. Also offering flowers. Fruits and drinks to the Buddhas. I enjoy buying nice offerings from supermarkets to offer food to Buddhas. We are also offering Macaroni dish to the Buddhas too and nice fresh soft bread too…. Once the offerings are done, then we will do puja. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Friday, Oct 17. 2014 02:51 PM)
    I usually take notes and write them down in a notebook so I don’t forget any promises or works I need to do. I don’t like forgetting things because it might disappoint someone. So I usually take special care to write everything down and mark them off when it’s complete. I have been doing this for over 30 years. I use to do this as a kid for all my homework so nothing is missed. I guess being responsible is just respectful of others. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Friday, Oct 17. 2014 02:50 PM)
    There are many ethereal beings around us that have no form. Formless beings. They abide in trees, rocks, water, hills, crossroads, old structures, buildings and forests. They can be benevolent, peaceful, playful, harmful, angersome, vengeful, or simply just like to avoid contact. They have different moods and temperaments. Some have been around for hundreds of years and some are recent. It is important not to contact these beings unnecessarily as most people will not understand what they are dealing with. Once attached to you, they are pesky to get rid of. Some might eventually give wrong information also although accurate at first.~ H.E. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Friday, Oct 17. 2014 02:50 PM)
    There are quite a few consistent people who always gives me good updates and I do appreciate it very much. I appreciate consistency. This shows a sincere and stabilized mind. ~ H.E. Tsem Rinpoche

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The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
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"One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous or honest." ~ Maya Angelou
2 weeks ago
Mother gorilla's heart- A child fell into the gorilla cage. She broke her arms and legs and she was unconcious. A male gorilla came and tried to hurt her. Luckily, a female gorilla rescued her by chasing other gorillas away not to hurt her. This is an instinct of mother animals that take care of their babies. The mother gorilla climbed the 57 ft wall and took the girl to the zoo officer. The girl was sent to hospital and the doctor cured her. Thanks to mother gorilla's kind heart. -From FB (Please always be kind to animal. Never hurt them, kill them or eat them. Tsem Rinpoche)
2 weeks ago
October 3, 2014-Karen said there were even people in the Gifts Department of Kechara participating in Blog Chat today. Wonderful to learn. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
October 3, 2014-William, Pastor David, Pastor Jean Ai and Jean Mei preparing for blog chat. Nice people here!
2 weeks ago
October 3, 2014-In Kechara Forest Retreat, the room is filled with Kecharians on the blog chat right now. According to Pastor Adeline who sent the photo, the whole room is buzzing with blurping sounds from blog chat!! LOL. I like this when people learn the dharma. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
I've been friends with Dato' Ruby for nearly 20 years. When I asked her to head the Kechara Soup Kitchen she immediately agreed and put all her energy into making it successful. Many are benefitted by this. Kechara is committed to continuing to benefit others. Thank you. Tsem Rinpoche
2 weeks ago
Our likes and dislikes are impermanent, so don't be stuck.~Tsem Rinpoche 
2 weeks ago
LOL. This guy is cute!
2 weeks ago
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2 weeks ago
When this female named Dorothy died of heart failure, all the chimpanzee family came out of the forest to say good bye..... the most stunning reaction was a recurring, almost tangible silence, reported staff at Cameroon’s Sanaga-Yong Chimpanzee Rescue Centre. If you know chimpanzees, then you know that they are not usually silent beings. I think it’s beautiful how many of the chimps are touching each others’ shoulders.~from Butterbin
3 weeks ago
Praise to the Lady Buddha who eliminates all source of suffering. Tsem Rinpoche 
3 weeks ago
This is a cool snapshot! I love the paranormal mysteries. Tsem Rinpoche 
3 weeks ago
Our Kechara's Dato' Ruby is on this month's cover of prestige magazine for her work in our Soup Kitchen. Congratulations to a kind lady and my good friend. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
Is it time to worry? You tell me. See what I'm talking about please: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=53452
3 weeks ago
How nice that Caryl Dumaine Lamont Munson reminds us that although the contest is over, the goal of the contest is still to be achieved. See what he is talking about: Win A Manjushri: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=52496 Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
Once in a while we step through something magical that gives us hope and we continue on. ~Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
New species of herbivores discovered in USA...LOL...Tsem R
3 weeks ago
Must read this chart and share. TR
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3 weeks ago
These two bright young people arrived in Los Angeles today to visit and help. They are very sincere and caring people. Glad to see them. Tsem Rinpoche 
3 weeks ago
If you want to read about compassion, strength, wisdom and fortitude, get this special edition of Essence. I did. Wonderful and a lot to learn from this lady of wisdom Ms. Maya Angelou. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
The holy Tsongkapa image when He first arrived to Kechara.  Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
The other day I mentioned to my US team that it would be nice to have a oversized Monoply set to play with everyone for good clean relaxation sometimes. Guess what? Pastor Moh Mei secretly got us a set!! How thoughtful and sweet. Thank you very much. I appreciate it very much. Especially the thought. Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
His Holiness Kyabje Zong Dorje Chang
4 weeks ago
His Holiness the current Kyabje Pabongka Rinpoche. Who is very learned and spends much time in deep meditational retreats. Kyabje Zong Rinpoche said that Pabongka Rinpoche has merged and became one with Heruka-Chakrasamvara already and those who see fault in Pabongka Rinpoche do not have merits. Tsem Rinpoche 
4 weeks ago
I gave a special talk on equanimity, I am sure it will help you to understand this subject better: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=42419
4 weeks ago
Every week we have blog chat, this is Kecharians in E-division preparing for the blog chats. Nice to see this. Tsem Rinpoche 
4 weeks ago
When I see this, I primarily think of my guru and dharma friends immediately. Tsem Rinpoche 
4 weeks ago
Beautiful people bring happiness to others. Tsem Rinpoche 
4 weeks ago
Don't break another person's heart, it's hard to mend. ~Tsem Rinpoche 
4 weeks ago
I have just finished doing 50+ tweets on mind, Buddhism, spirituality, acceptance, love, entanglements, thoughts and inner battles. Do enjoy reading them and sharing them. It might help someone I humbly hope. I do so every few days to share about wisdom, kechara and our spiritual journey. If it can reach people and benefit them, why not. Our lives and being alive is totally about benefitting others. That is the purpose of breathing and being human... Tsem Rinpoche Do follow me on tweets: http://www.twitter.com/tsemtulku
4 weeks ago
I would love to live in the Mt. Shasta area of Northern California. It has been recognized by the Native American Indian people to be a spiritually charged area. It has a power vortex under the ground in that area that energizes the place to be very blessed for spiritual practice, meditation and contemplations. Tsem Rinpoche 
4 weeks ago
Dear Andree Duckworth, Thank you very much for your feedback on our Kechara Pastors. They work very hard, they have great knowledge and very patient. I started the program so people who wish to bring dharma to others can have a lay life as well as a spiritual life recognized by others. Halfway to monk/nun-hood without being ordained. So naming them Pastors and having basic lay vows is good and it helps the public in Malaysia to identify with them easily. It worked out very much. I hope you will let them know you are benefitted by their hardwork. They will appreciate it very much as I do. Tsem R
4 weeks ago
When all will end and karma catches up, why live as it will be forever? ~Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
VERY INTERESTING: Does anyone know what this is? Please investigate here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=16347
4 weeks ago
What a nice message. All my work/posts on tweet does make a difference in people's lives. Nice to know that. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
When we work with integrity and harmoniously with eachother, we can accomplish much. Harmony and integrity are the keys. Tsem Rinpoche 
1 month ago
I've asked the same question too. Tsem Rinpoche 
1 month ago
To take Manjushri as one's special practice has innumerable benefits. Tsem Rinpoche 
1 month ago
This is a special statue of Je Tsongkapa. It was made during Tsongkapa's time by a student and offered to Him. It is said to resemble Tsongkapa very much. And this holy statue is now housed in Tashi Lunpo Monastery, Shigatse Tibet. To see, hear and contemplate Je Tsongkapa is so meaningful and collect one aeons of merits.
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His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche with his two disciples Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen and Geshe Lhundrup Sopa.
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When you accuse others of this and that, time will tell who is successful in the end. Because accomplishments speak the loudest. ~Tsem Rinpoche 
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Don't lounge around and do nothing, accomplish nothing and be nothing. Benefit others and make your life the cause for many lives to find relief, comfort and hope. ~Tsem Rinpoche 
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Friends and people will come and go, but your determination and goal must be firm. Let nothing deter you to succeed in your goal and later in life, look back and rejoice in all you've done. ~Tsem Rinpoche 
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When you feel hurt, realize and understand the pain, get up and keep trying until you succeed.~Tsem Rinpoche 
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Many will accuse us, threaten us and even make up tales about us, but we must be truthful in all our actions always and forgive them. ~Tsem Rinpoche
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  • Super cute attack. Have to watch!!
    Super cute attack. Have to watch!!
    2 weeks ago
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    They pump 'things' into poultry to make it look plump and bigger to attract you to buy. Then you eat whatever they've pumped and think how it builds up in your body? Is your taste buds worth it to risk your health? Tsem Rinpoche
    2 weeks ago
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    Look at this 2 minute video, while Hong Kong is having massive protests,right over the skyline of a city a UFO is spotted observing.. Incredible footage. UFO's are historically said to always gather where there is massive conflicts or congregations of people for hundreds of years.
    2 weeks ago
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    See this video and do share with friends. See what happens at 1:10........Om Mani Peme Hung Watch it for the sake of the beings within in enduring what they have to endure. Don't think about how you feel because you are not there, but how they feel. Tsem Rinpoche
    3 weeks ago
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    I just purchased an empty locket from an art store for around $10 and had a nice picture of His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche inserted in the front and His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche inserted on the others side at home. Attached a str...ing and it's good to wear for blessings. Look how beautiful. I am the type, I devote myself to my practice but I remember it is the sole kindness of the guru's teachings. Without the guru there is no dharma at all as I cannot speak to Buddha directly. Tsem Rinpoche
    3 weeks ago
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    I was gifted this wonderful blingy shiny new pen by a spiritual friend. I didn't know Swarovski pens write so smoothly. I am going to enjoy writing with this. Thank you Jessica Pimentel. Tsem Rinpoche
    3 weeks ago
  • Is this the Loch Ness monster?
    Is this the Loch Ness monster?
    Description
    1 month ago
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    In Kechara Forest Retreat we have a large aviary with many rescued birds and tortoises. We just built a nice pool for them to cool down in. Tsem Rinpoche
    2 months ago
  • Rescuing dog in LA river
    Rescuing dog in LA river
    2 months ago
  • This is a very inspiring video by Jim Carrey you must see
    This is a very inspiring video by Jim Carrey you must see
    2 months ago
  • Dalai Lama watching TV
    Dalai Lama watching TV
    2 months ago
  • Dog with a heart of Gold
    Dog with a heart of Gold
    Description
    2 months ago
  • 14th Dalai Lama with Mrs.Indira Gandhi , Delhi INDIA 1966
    14th Dalai Lama with Mrs.Indira Gandhi , Delhi INDIA 1966
    4 months ago
  • The Girl Who Couldn't Cry - Water is Life
    The Girl Who Couldn't Cry - Water is Life
    It's really hard to educate a generation of people born in conditions where they take things for granted. A simple slogan campaign that says, "Save water, It's precious" isn't sticky enough to make inroads. That's exactly where this video steps in: to make people realize how precious water actually is. A brilliant video that follows the heartbreaking story of a young girl that cannot cry. Sounds like fiction? Sadly, it is not.
    5 months ago
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    Dear everyone, All sentient beings deserve to live, be happy and not hurt, including animals. We should never hurt them or eat them. Look how much this chicken welcomes a hug and love. Observe carefully. Don't eat beings who can feel pain because the karma comes back. Tsem Rinpoche
    6 months ago
  • The appreciation shown here is so deep and touching.
    The appreciation shown here is so deep and touching.
    Dear friends, See this incredible video. This chimp was found in captivity for many years. Dr Jane Goodall released him into the wild. Look how he comes back to thank her with deep apprecition. It's amazing. Animals have such strong feelings of pain and happiness just like us. We should never hurt them and share with others to not hurt them. Tsem Rinpoche http://www.tsemrinpoche.com
    6 months ago
  • Aki drinking some water in the aviary
    Aki drinking some water in the aviary
    Aki is a rescued bird, he now lives in Kechara Forest Retreat Aviary
    7 months ago
  • Jamyang enjoying some fresh corn
    Jamyang enjoying some fresh corn
    Jamyang is one of our rescue birds that live in Kechara Forest Retreat Aviary
    7 months ago
  • The Cute Mumus Practising Dog Orchestra at Kechara Forest Retreat
    The Cute Mumus Practising Dog Orchestra at Kechara Forest Retreat
    Today the Mumus (dogs) decided to do a dog orchestra rehearsal together with the Kechara Forest Retreat (KFR) dogs.
    8 months ago
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    Gongkar is our new bird for Kechara Forest Retreat's aviary. Gongkar never had friends and the original owner could not bring him to his destination. Now he is with us and assimilating in his cage within the aviary for a few weeks then released into aviary. Look at how much he wants attention from the other birds. Cute. Tsem Rinpoche
    12 months ago
  • Mumu, Oser and Dharma running and having a good time. I love seeing them playing. Tsem Rinpoche
    Mumu, Oser and Dharma running and having a good time. I love seeing them playing. Tsem Rinpoche
    12 months ago
  • Mumus running at Kechara Forest Retreat
    Mumus running at Kechara Forest Retreat
    1 years ago
  • Kechara Forest Retreat panorama, September 2013
    Kechara Forest Retreat panorama, September 2013
    1 years ago
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    Dechog our cockatoo at Kechara Forest Retreat grabbing long beans which he loves. Nice bird. We love him. Tsem Rinpoche
    1 years ago
  • The mumus having outdoor evening stroll!!!
    The mumus having outdoor evening stroll!!!
    1 years ago
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    17 May 2013, heavy rain at Kechara Forest Retreat from 7am-8am (1 hour). Water overflowed the existing drain and also opened up a much wider new "route" for itself.
    1 years ago
  • Must see video from Rajendra on our disciplined dogs
    Must see video from Rajendra on our disciplined dogs
    2 yearss ago
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    Dato' Ruby won the Bella Awards!
    2 yearss ago
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    This is a wonderful video for Moh Mei because she is sleeping in the KECHARA FOREST RETREAT CONTAINERS all alone...ehehehhehe...this is a new friend to keep her company....tsem rinpoche
    2 yearss ago
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