No more excuses please

May 26, 2012 | Views: 2,460
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Dear friends,

I received yet another apology from a student. And it has been many times already over the last two years with this person. I care about this person very much, but the situation is nearly the same. So I wrote a reply. I thought I’d share the reply. It might help or be applicable to some of us. I do not profess to know everything or have all the answers, but I do know doing our work well is essential. I am certainly not above it, but I still have to plug on and get things done just like everyone else. This is a private email but I will have it here without the name in the spirit of hoping it will benefit others. Forgive me if it sounds offensive, I do not mean it to be.

 

Tsem Rinpoche

 


 

Dear XXXX,

It’s very simple, you want ‘in’ or ‘out’? If you want out, you know life and the meaningless drudgery of it you will be going back to. You know your end result like many towards the end of your life will be meaningless death. The very purpose you are in dharma now is you have seen through the fallacies of life’s empty samsaric promises. That is the real reason underlying all reasons.

If you are in, you join an accepting group of people who literally wants to make a difference in the world. It is not by nice words, drinking endless cups of coffee in cafes, bantering gossip about friends and life in restaurants or rubbing shoulders with this or that friends who are just as unhappy as you BUT without a clue to a solution. You are in an organization that I am the head of and will work very hard. We have a philosophy derived from sacred Gaden and we have an immaculate protector(s). We have direction, we have purpose, we have hope and we have AN INCREDIBLE GOAL. You cannot find this anywhere.

Whether you are in or out IS NOT PHYSICAL BUT MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL. You may be in, but if you are still attached to your old life of sleep, deceptive freedom, friends, conveniences, easy life, socializing et al, then you will not perform well here or anywhere. Whether you want to do work in secular or spiritual, it is the same qualities that will get you there. What did the life of secular ’freedom’ you had before Kechara bring you? Got you where? Resulted in what? What have you achieved? Whatever you are failing in Kechara is what you were failing in before you came to Kechara. What your parents didn’t teach you, is left to me to teach you. Whatever insecurities and failures you feel or self-hatred you feel before Kechara you brought into Kechara and into my world and you leave it to me to deal with.

If you are a bad communications person, then you make me and Kecharians suffer now for it. Lots of time spent to find out the real communications, repairs, extra energy and resources to do things over.

If you are not a hard worker, you burden Kecharians to cover for you. They have to do their share and cover what you didn’t do.

If you like to cover mistakes, then you make Kecharians spend more time to talk to you, find out what happened and that time could have been spent better.

If you like the night life, easy life, fun life and convenient life, then you make everyone else around you who want to work with you, work harder to cover for you. To accommodate you. Accommodating you is not the reason you came to dharma. It’s the opposite in fact.

If you are late, undisciplined, not on time, always give excuses and always do your work sloppily, you make Kecharians put up with this, tolerate this, be patient with this and also forgive you again and again and again with your myriad deliciously worded apologies.

If your mind goes up and down and up and down like a see-saw, it is not Kechara who made you this way. You came this way. Staying in Kechara you will see-saw and leaving Kechara you will see-saw in your new environment. In fact in your new environment you will see-saw worse having experienced the blessings of Kechara and our goals. Your see-sawing mind is because you are lazy, impatient and want the easy way out. When you don’t get that, you get sad, depressed, question why you are here. But that is what you have been doing your whole life.

When you make promises to your teacher or your fellow dharma staff and you don’t keep it, you set such a bad example. You reaffirm your failure of before entering Kechara. Whatever you did not achieve before you entered Kechara, you are leaving it to me and those around you to pick up your pieces daily and ‘retrain’ you to achieve… think….

You see, whatever mental or emotional problems you developed before Kechara, the people around you have it also. You, me and all of us suffer variations of the same problems and mental downs…When you show these traits again and again, you make them trigger in other people. Does that mean you can never be unhappy and pretend you’re enlightened? Of course not… but up or down, you still have TO DO YOUR WORK WELL, PERFECTLY AND TO COMPLETION. EVERYONE IN THE WORLD WHETHER THEY ARE UP OR DOWN MUST PRODUCE WORK RESULTS TO SURVIVE TO LIVE.

Whether you are in Kechara or not, you will be up and down and you still have to produce. But outside of Kechara, rarely do others want to or will cover you over and over again. You affect those around you severely… we all do. It becomes a chain reaction. You can cause those around you to have doubts, be depressed, be demotivated, not perform well and when you finally ‘bounce’ back from your current down episode, the people around you are down again… Then they drag others down. Then when they come up, you are in your endless cycle of down again. So it is a chain reaction… and how do you control it? Well there is no magic formula, you just focus on your goals and control it. How would you control it without Kechara? Same, you focus on your goals and control it in Kechara or in the secular.

If you have been a person without goals and now you are in a rush-rush hectic Kecharian environment of goal driven environment, count yourself lucky. Why? Because together with others you can achieve what you couldn’t achieve alone before you entered Kechara. Since you ‘don’t’ perform well, have so many ups and downs and you are not driven, then rather than paddle 1,000 miles on a static lake to get to the shore, you are on a river where you paddle and the river pushes you towards the other end also. The river is likened to many others around you that are into the same goal and work hard. Better to be on a river than paddling on your own. Think carefully of my example.

I receive hundreds of apologies over the years, very few move me or make me believe. I fight being cynical all the time. Why? Because so many disappoint me time and time again. If a few persons disappoint you and you feel down, then you are selfish. Because think of the hundreds over decades that disappoint me and I still have to keep going. Why? Because I am better than you, no not really…but because I focus on the goal and not my emotions as much. I focus on my goals and realize without dharma goals I HAVE NOTHING. My example is all the people around me. They have nothing of worth and value they can take at death yet they live as if there is no death. Silly self deception. Silly selfishness hidden behind depressions, down time and feeling like we can’t do it.

You are mature and older and you have to be double most of the people around you. Age is suppose to confer wisdom, maturity, stability and qualities others may look up to. If you are nearing forty, or forty or older, then you have a sacred responsibility to act forty. And combined with the secular wisdom of a mature person, top them off with dharma and voila you should be a shining light to all those around you.

You should be a person who is stable, does what you say, does not forget promises, tells the truth, works hard, nurtures others younger and older people (some come to dharma late or realize the truth late) and take your dharma work as your saviour which it is. Dharma work is your saviour. What does it save you from?? Dharma saves you from you!

Apologies are the first step but it does not purchase the respect you lost and the loss of confidence and deep pain, hurt and disappointments you have created. Apologies do not mend or make up for all the resources you have caused to be wasted. The single most important resource we have is the friendship/love and support we have in Kechara from those around us. This love and support will NEVER BE FOUND ANYWHERE ELSE.

Apology letters sometimes make me angry. Because you can’t rob someone and then it’s ok with just a letter. How can someone consistently do harm, not do their work well, not do their job well, burden others, make others disappointed, damage others and then it’s forgotten with a letter. People who do not do their work well do not deserve to be here by right. They are here because we have compassion and mercy. We love our people. Having said that, the Kecharians may be kind and forgiving, but your karma is ruthless. Karma is unbiased. What you have done, when it fruitions, will make you lose the most precious things you have. No words, apologies and delicious explanations will help you.

Buck up now. Change now. Whatever you have been failing at, do not expect Kechara or Kecharians or others to cover for you or constantly forgive. If you don’t buck up and constantly burden others, it’s not a matter of forgiveness, it’s that the work still has to get on. It still has to complete.

 

BOTTOM LINE-

 

We all have:

anger

low self esteem

fear

perhaps bad upbringing

disappointments

hurt

pain

feeling sorry for ourselves

hiding

wanting ‘easy’ life whatever that really means

tragedies

failures

laziness

attachments, etc etc etc etc and endless variations of the above and more etc…

 

BUT THE KEY IS:

Since all of us have these, why do some people still do their work well with all their emotional baggage? And some people use the emotional baggage as an excuse for not doing their work well? Either way, we all have the same emotional/disciplinary problems. Why do some people still perform and do their work well even with the baggage still? Because some hold their responsibilities firm and some have had very little responsibilities,’training’ them to be flippant about it most of their lives. Someone has always covered for them. This is the key for some. We all have to produce. How much is if we have had anyone to lean on.  But if we have lived a life of not producing anything much or  someone covered for us always, then we continue our ways now burdening a new set of people we are involved with. Dumping our excuses on them or dumping our work on them using our emotional baggage for sympathy/excuse for not performing.  But you know what, deep down inside all of us, we do not want to burden or hurt others. And we know what to do. So do it. JUST DO IT. WHETHER YOU ARE NEW IN DHARMA OR OLD IN DHARMA, IS NOT THE POINT, RESPONSIBILITIES AND YOUR WORDS OF HONOUR (INTEGRITY) IS THE SAME.

So don’t wait for yourself to become a ‘better’ person. YOU ARE THE BETTER PERSON NOW IF YOU CHOOSE. NOW. Don’t wait for dharma to sink in and you change, that is wrong. We all have responsibilities, so just do it irregardless.

Do not take anything for granted. Do not assume. Do not take anything lightly. Do what you are supposed to do and do it now and well. Excuses had all been said and explained. If you keep failing, my love and care for you will never cease, but will you have the karma to keep the most precious thing in your life?

Tsem Rinpoche

 

This is in reply to XXXXX (below), but in hindsight, might benefit many. And also this is not to ‘get’ or embarrass XXXXX. It is for reflection please.

 


 

 Dearest Rinpoche,

I apologise for the disappointment I have caused. I do care about Rinpoche a lot and it breaks my heart to know i am causing more pain than relief for Rinpoche.


 
This is in no way a poor me reflection because i do really want to help Rinpoche in any way i can and i know i can do it.
 
My inconsistency i have come to realise, stems from me not caring enough and assuming things are done and not following through. And also largely due to me thinking i have everything sorted out in my head and in control but being big headed and stubborn, that if i do drop the ball or when someone points out my faults or mistakes, i get defensive and close up and at times even try to cover most unconvincingly (but my pride makes me think otherwise).


 
I also do realise i do fight/stop these negative thoughts/actions and catch them more these days. I know i am not perfect but i know i am improving as a person through the grace of Rinpoche. And i do realise fully that whatever actions Rinpoche takes in pushing my buttons is for my benefit and am very thankful and blessed to have the merits to receive such methods of teaching in this day and age!


 
I will not go into a whole song and dance of how i am going to improve but what i will do is just BE that person Rinpoche can trust and be proud of and cut the rest of the poor me crap out! 


 
Through my realisations of late, i have written the following to reflect on which i would like to humbly share with Rinpoche:

”A lifetime of bad habits can be changed with a mere switch in attitude. A lifetime of heavy baggage can be lightened by just LETTING GO!”


 
I hope Rinpoche rested well.
 
Much love… XXXXXX

( The person in the  photo above is myself.  Tsem Rinpoche)

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  1. Phng Keng Hwa on Jul 16, 2015 at 1:19 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    I came across this post when going through my old mail, and now, I’m glad I did. This really is a profound teaching about self-improvement; something that I really want, especially now at this time and age when I’m going off to study and will be away from my family and friends.

    I know that I am sheltered by my family. Thus, I know that I hold a little naivety with me, and if don’t improve on myself, I know people will take advantage of me. I always want to help others, and that is not wrong, but sometimes being to eager to help may lead to undesired circumstances for myself or to people I care about.

    That is why I want to improve myself, to be able to be useful, make the right decisions, and not hold anyone back.

    Your humble student,
    Keng Hwa.

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  3. judy lam on Oct 20, 2012 at 2:55 pm

    We are always guilty of giving excuses or ‘reasons’ for not doing something. I guess this is not just habitual, but a state of our mind. All excuses given will have consequences. For not being able to deliver our work on time, it will have a chain effect on other people’s schedule. We must make a deliberate action to reduce number of our excuses.

  4. Julia Tan on Jul 15, 2012 at 12:30 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this letter with us. Every word in the letter hit me hardly. Regret that I forever made mistakes some more fail to confess. Instead of contributing to the dharma, I created more work for my dharma brothers and sisters. I am taking full responsibilities on whatever I have done.

    I may or may not live until tomorrow. I do not own anything from yesterday and I cannot take anything with me tomorrow. Why not just do it now. Do as much as I can now instead of regret when chances passed.

  5. Lim KH (JB) on Jun 27, 2012 at 4:15 am

    Everyone will do the wrong things but we should learn from the mistake then dun make the mistake again. Is seen to be easy to say out but uneasy to be done.

    Due to our selective style and always stay in comfort zone our mind will transform very very slow. But when we start our FIRST STEP to change sure we may STARTED to transform it maybe slow but at least started.

    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing the key to let us aware that we got no more excuses.

  6. mitra on Jun 25, 2012 at 10:48 am

    with out rinpoche and with out dharma we cant do anything.every people come kechara bucause they want good rejalt and we want better.we want in or out is verry clear for rinpoche teaching.

  7. nani ksa on Jun 19, 2012 at 8:33 pm

    no more i dont know i dont want to do i scared to do .must do it.no more excuses.thank you rinpoche for ihis blog.

  8. Paris on Jun 18, 2012 at 6:59 pm

    I’ve just been speaking with some people about something similar and some of them have been saying things like, “Oh but I’m not very capable,” “I’m useless”, “I’m stupid” – thing is, stupid people don’t know they’re stupid, useless people don’t know they’re useless. I think being capable or not, useless or useful, stupid or not is a choice, it’s not some kind of terrible prison sentence that someone else has imposed upon us and that we have to live with. I think nowadays, it’s quite easy for others to see through this kind of false humility and know straight away that it’s just yet another big cover up for not wanting to do more or not having achieved anything.

    It’s also not a choice that someone’s putting a gun to our heads to make. If we don’t choose to do more and choose to make excuses for not being able to do it, that’s fine – that’s our prerogative to decide. Then we should also be happy with what we’ve “chosen” when the results of that come – which could be that we get nowhere, have no friends, don’t achieve the things we want to etc. To simply say that we’re lazy or useless, not good enough, not clever enough etc is denying that there’s ever such a thing as karma, and a kind of opposite surrendering to a dead-end fate, which is not logical.

    • DR on Jun 25, 2012 at 12:52 pm

      Well said Paris. To add to your list of why they cant do this and that is another phrase which I always get; “it is not my forte”! Oh My Buddha! Nothing is not one’s forte until one is willing to learn and go all the way with it. Is walking a baby’s forte? NO, not until the baby decides to get up to learn to walk, fall, get up again, and keeps trying till he can run.

  9. lucy yap on Jun 16, 2012 at 3:11 am

    I agree Rinpoche that we are full of excuses to cover our selectiveness and laziness.Only when we respond to opportunities with action, we do it not only as an aspect of our practice,but also for the growth of our individual character.We are responsible for the nourishment of our practice by engaging with others in our communities.With such principles recognized,but unapplied to daily opportunities,the hold upon the ideal of what the Buddha taught.We lose the chance for realizing the opportunities for finding the lessons that can be awakened in us,that only through our actions can be experienced.Thank you Rinpoche ,for this priceless teaching.

  10. Lili ng on Jun 12, 2012 at 6:25 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,everything that Rinpoche says is so right….have always been right….thats why deep down we either face it or be in denial pretend it’s not true or it doesn’t apply to me or simply turn a blind eye,a deaf ear all bcoz we don’t want to face the truth,hide..,it’s time for me to face it head on and never give up no matter what.I Thank you.

  11. Han on Jun 12, 2012 at 2:35 pm

    “Whether you are in Kechara or not, you will be up and down and you still have to produce.
    But outside of Kechara, rarely do others want to or will cover you over and over again. You affect those around you severely… we all do. It becomes a chain reaction. ”

    The above indeed very true, from my past experiences in the corporate sector, without dharma made me easily inpatient and feel pressured in works, the way we dealt with co workers also very selfish and narrow minded.

    I am glad I am in Kechara and there are UP & DOWN as always, but I am happy that i gradually doing things that i do not like and feel happy to do it, eventually become like to do the DONT LIKE jobs….
    Its tough initially, but this is the key of practicing dharma, Rinpoche always said, never forget DHARMA IS DOING THINGS THAT YOU DO NOT LIKE !

    Thank you Rinpoche !

  12. Eric Lee KSJC on Jun 2, 2012 at 11:24 pm

    有时候我自己也会为自己做不到的事情找借口,这是为了不让别人知道自己做不到。可是,最近我自己发觉有时候是因为自己在作出承诺以前,并没有想清楚自己是否又能力胜任,只是认为只要是佛法的事,就应该去做,所以做到最后,自己因为累了或是因为其他的理由就放弃了。所以,现在的我学会凡事三思而行,要认真的想清楚,因为自己的承诺是金,不要随便的答应而做不到,这不但害了自己,也害到别人。

  13. Uncle Eddie on May 31, 2012 at 12:25 pm

    Yes, you were right Rinpoche. We must be real to our spiritual journey, be real to our teacher, be real to the people around us. All in all, we must be real to our ownselves and do the work well! Everyone have weaknesses and bad habits which must be got rid off immediately. The friendship, love and support which we have cultivated in Kechara must be savaged and manintained. It is the most important source of our devoted unity, as this love and support will never be found anywhere, as mentioned. To borrow an old saying, “Ask not what Kechara can do for us, but what we can do for Kechara to benefit others!” Thank you once again Rinpoche, for re-awakening our sleeping and deluded minds.

  14. andrew hibberd on May 30, 2012 at 1:55 pm

    your advice agrees equally with my experience we are who we are in this time a bunch of bloated water and words and the only thing behind us is the result of the action we have taken and the only thing in front of us is oppprtunity , lets not waste this precious life lets stand up and take responsibiity for our home , mother earth and all of the children that live in it so they may see a future challenge that motivates them to be human

  15. Jace Chong on May 30, 2012 at 10:54 am

    Thanks Rinpoche for the posting to reflect what we can not do due to our self-resistant, and what we can really do.

    What Rinpoche says here is really true, we do have ups and downs and hang-ups, but the point is what we want and where are we going.

    We may not be perfect, we may not be a good person before, but it doesn’t mean that we can’t be. If we really treasure Rinpoche and Dharma, we need to play our part to fight our inner negative thoughts, because it’s something that hurts ourselves and others. And it’s something Buddha concerns because this is the cause of samsara.

    I remember Rinpoche said this in a teaching, “When you are in samsara, you are ready for Dharma works”. Dharma works buy us a ticket to leave samsara, but we need to work our way out to grab the ticket before we turn into another condition and lost the ticket. We must work hard, there’s no other way.

  16. Wong Yuen Foo on May 29, 2012 at 12:16 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for sharing this private mail with all of us. I truly understand your advice & concern.

    Yes, all of us have a certain degree of these bad traits / habits in us … the bottom line is how much do we willingly push ourself to achieve set goals / promises / responsibilities in our life sometimes & all the times. How many people wish / can carry out these commitments for others benefits without agenda at all ? This is even a much tougher question to answer & to do, at least it applies to me… I ask myself this questions too.

    I salute all those who work day & night without self-agendas but with the motive of benefiting others, some of these people whom they do not know/ met. I wish in the near future i too could do the same like these great individuals.

    Rinpoche, wish you good health, Always.

  17. Low ksjc on May 27, 2012 at 10:38 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for sharing this letter with us.What was mention does reflect on how most of us will feel when we are overwhelm with emotion, rather then seeking a solution to solve the issue to reach the goal, we rather choose to run away by passing the buck to others to settle it.We might have friends who are willing to take ownership of the issue to settle it for us,we might have felt relived that the issue is settled.. But in time to come ,if we do not wish to change this attitude or be lost in world of excuses then we are only left with a name without “Integrity”.
    I would choose to remember this letter well, to remind myself on the disappointment I would have cause others when I have failed to owe up to my own commitment as a “TEAM”.

  18. Thierry on May 27, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this correspondence with us.
    I take it that we are all addressees of Rinpoche’s reply, so I read it a second time with thought that the letter was addressed to me directly and it got me blushing…

  19. David Loh on May 27, 2012 at 11:38 am

    I was brought up where every unnessary explaination is considered an excuse. If you are right then you are right. If you are wrong then you are wrong. No debate here. We humans are so full of excuses and bull shit (me included).

    One thing I really don’t understand is why people still don’t transform even a little bit when constantly exposed to Dharma. Here we go calling people of some ‘religion’ hypocrates. Are we any better if we don’t transform ourselves? I know our imprints limits us in this department, whether its the Lamrin, Bible or Quran, emphasis is for believers to change or transform into better people. Why do we still go to temple, churches etc etc if we are not willing to change? Am really perplexed…..Wait! could it be……? I know most places serves food and refreshments during all services.

    I hold on to my believes that if I’m not able to do anything right after many attempts, I would stop doing to avoid the whole world picking up the pieces after me. ONCE beatened TWICE shy.

    Every one of us is bound to have at least ONE talent. Find out and harness that for the good of Dharma. If the person has non (which is impossible when you have all your faculties intact and workable) then too bad.

  20. Wei Theng on May 27, 2012 at 11:37 am

    “the Kecharians may be kind and forgiving, but your karma is ruthless. Karma is unbiased. What you have done, when it fruitions, will make you lose the most precious things you have. No words, apologies and delicious explanations will help you.”
    With the karma effect in mind, it’s no other way but look at the goals and go all the way.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this precious & meaningful teaching.

  21. Valentina Suhendra on May 26, 2012 at 11:01 pm

    Dear Rinpoche

    I like this particular blogpost. Especially the part that say,” Because you can’t rob someone and then it’s ok with just a letter.”

    Valentina

  22. mayy on May 26, 2012 at 10:39 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche for sharing this. I would take it as a creed to read and reflect on all times on faults and failures we have brought with us till now and not having achieve anything in life. Kechara is the real place, family and friends to support and assist each other to become better person in our spiritual path.

    Whatever tasks entrusted to us we must strive to do it all the way and complete it by taking upon responsibilities of not burdening others. Everything we do are all interdependent for a common goal. Never can we be a lone ranger to champion a cause. We need each other to achieve it.

    Passion drives just like what Jane Goodall did whom has inspired many. She has exemplified..”We have the power to affect the world positively and we have the poser to affect the world negatively.” How we use this power is a matter of choice for we are in control irrespective of how adverse the situation is. (http://blog.tsemtulku.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/something-incredible-about-jane-goodall.html)

  23. Lim Han Nee on May 26, 2012 at 10:11 pm

    Yes, no one controls our body, speech and mind, but we ourselves. It’s our choice.We can make the choice, HERE AND NOW, of identifying with the incredibly wonderful Dharma goal of Kechara and Kecharians and do Dharma work and practice Dharma with integrity and a strong sense of commitment and responsibility. Or we can continue to wallow in our laziness and our wanting to take the easy way out and in letting others cover for us; and, in the process, drag others down with us into negativity, suffering and depression.

    Like many, I too have an emotional baggage, and a humongous one at that! I have also, in the past, let this baggage become my excuse for not being totally committed to Dharma work and practice.

    When I look back at all the time wasted, and I look ahead and see how time is running out on me, I feel I have no other option left.

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for your great love and compassion in reminding us that we are our own worst enemy.

  24. jennifer on May 26, 2012 at 9:35 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for the very wise and profound teaching.
    I realise that everything we do have a ripple effect , on every one around us and whether good or bad, that ‘ripple’ hits back to us eventually. We are truly blessed to have Rinpoche in our lives, who never gave up on us , understands our flaws and weaknesses , cares , loves and guides us with such compassion , and is there time and time again to back us up when that ‘ripple ‘ (which by now has turned into a tidal wave ) hits us flat on our stubborn arrogrant faces.
    Thank you Rinpoche for being in our lives .

  25. Joyce Yeow on May 26, 2012 at 6:15 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for such profound advice. I am afraid that I was one of the guilty ones. I used to have this attitude when i was working that I do not need to check my work as the next person who receives it will have to check anyway until my mentor who was my ex-boss and now a dear friend, so very patiently pointed out to me the selfishness of such attitude. I will further strive to correct all my other weaknesses as pointed by Rinpoche here.

    Thank you again Rinpoche.

  26. lewkwanleng on May 26, 2012 at 5:54 pm

    Every time I am lazy,
    Every time I let my emotion go up & up,
    Every time I created disharmony,
    Every time I promised something but don’t do it,

    I will burden others to benefit more people.

    This is what I need to remember from now onwards.

  27. Adrian Cho on May 26, 2012 at 4:50 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this post and teaching us.
    It is really meaningful to me and in this post have pointed my similar weakness..
    Nowadays I try to improve myself and won’t let other people down and disappoint on me, that always care me and guidance me.
    Really appreciate it much this teaching in this post from Rinpoche..

  28. patsy on May 26, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche for sharing this for us to reflect on. I admit that I too have these emotional baggage that Rinpoche pointed out that I have to improve on.

    We should take pride in the work that was entrusted to us instead of pushing /dumping our work to someone else. As a dharma practitioner, we should be of less burden to others. Real dharma practice is not to make others suffer or burden them.

  29. andrew chiam on May 26, 2012 at 3:39 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche.

    This is really a very good article to serves as individual wake up call. We can pretend and act ignorance, lazy and etc to escape from responsibilities. But as a sane person still intact with the last bits of consciousness, we should aware that we have a choice. And if we still want to be in Dharma line, its time to step up the game and make the correct choice. After all, what makes a happy person is the one that dare to commit sincerely to benefit others and keep up to the commitment, day after day, without degenerating the commitments.
    The road for beginners is definitely not easy, but what is easy in life?

    This article although condensed, I had learned, refreshed and realized many points on how to be a better and responsible person to ourselves and all the people around us.

    Rgds,

    Andrew chiam

  30. Girlie Ooi on May 26, 2012 at 1:58 pm

    I am guilty of what Rinpoche has listed here because I am not the perfect person but I strive to be better. I will trip and fall along the way but I will pick myself up and continue the journey.

  31. John Woo on May 26, 2012 at 12:23 pm

    No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path – The Buddha

    Thank you, Rinpoche for showing great compassion despite many failures of students during these current conditions. We must take into heart this advice and transform our mind.

  32. Han on May 26, 2012 at 11:36 am

    We have direction, we have purpose, we have hope and we have AN INCREDIBLE GOAL. You cannot find this anywhere. Whether you are In or out IS NOT PHYSICAL BUT MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL.
    ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    Thank you Rinpochefor sharing this article.
    To me, Focus on our DIRECTION & GOAL, once make the choice TO BE IT, hold this well and GO ALL THE WAY is the key!

  33. Wan Wai Meng on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:19 pm

    Samsara and the Buddha and our Guru are opposites. The Guru/Buddha actually cares and wants us to be alright, samsara does not care and just gets us to create more and more karma to create and endless cycle of rebirths. I feel Rinpoche always pushing us to learn things, absorb knowledge and etc etc is to make us better and better, as we should never be selective in a spiritual path and keep doing until we become enlightened, develop Bodhicitta or reach a stage that we have reached our potential in this life. Why because we have a precious human life that can bring us to more rounds in samsara or give us control of our existence so which one do we want?

    What I am saying is that for a student’s welfare Rinpoche has to fight against our delusions, our samsara and samsara in general, and what he has at his disposal is what we allow the lama, so at any time Rinpoche is trying to better you he is putting in tremendous efforts to figure out a way or method that can reach us, and most of the to time we don’t make it easy on Rinpoche. How much more we can receive help is how much good karma we have in the guru student relationship. Once exhausted due to it being used up and not replenished then even if the lama wants to help you there will be overwhelming obstacles.

  34. tsemtulku on Feb 14, 2012 at 5:16 pm

    Future tense is senseless. Wishes for the future is unsure. Be what you wish now. No one controls your body, speech and mind. So you don’t need to transform your body speech and mind in the future. Fortitude and tenacity is achievable now. if you don’t achieve it-then it is a choice. Pick the right choices. In real dharma with real dharma friends and real dharma work and real dharma environment, there is no future tense. We may not even be alive tomorrow. It is now. Your body, speech and mind is controlled by you..so don’t blame a third person that is fictitious. Don’t make your teacher a liar and Buddha not real..be here and now. Have the qualities now. You are in control of yourself. Your teacher is not a liar and there is a Buddha…Sarva Mangalam….Tsem Rinpoche

    • Yoke Fui on May 26, 2012 at 3:22 pm

      This I learned from Rinpoche – whether we can physically do the assignment now , tomorrow or half an hour later , we must be mentally committed to finish it the moment we said YES to our guru.

      If we have this mindset, like Muhammad Ali said : “Impossible is NOTHING “

  35. henry ooi on Feb 13, 2012 at 5:36 pm

    Just like the person who apologized, I too, have similar weaknesses pointed by Rinpoche in this post. My weaknesses may have varying degrees but they are still weaknesses that I have to improve on.

    That would be for me to improve on and not let others suffer if I really want to practice dharma.

    Thank you, Rinpoche.

  36. Li Kheng on Feb 4, 2012 at 12:17 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing and for using every opportunity to teach us the Dharma.

    It is so sad that we tend to harm and take for granted those kindest to us. Perhaps we have the ignorance and arrogance to believe that these people will never abandon us. However, we forget the law of cause and effect (karma) that will eventually catch up with us and run its course.

    Living in the midst of a “dog eat dog world”, I witness that repeated mistakes and non-compliance are not tolerated. Consequently, everyone behaves themselves and play by the rule to keep their roles. Just to clarify, this situation applies to personal relationships as well, e.g. if a guy does not maintain his girlfriend “properly”, he will soon be replaced by a better candidate.

    This is not the case in the world of pure Dharma where Rinpoche has 1) patiently accepted mistakes, 2) tried to help wrongdoers discover the root of their problem and overcome it as well as 3) shower His “employees” with Dharma gifts and teachings (as we can see in constant blog updates).

    As smart people, which world would you choose? I believe the answer is the Dharma world for many of us. So, if we are smart enough to choose the Dharma world, let’s further develop our intelligence (I dare not speak of wisdom from the level we are currently operating) to stay in this world by abiding the centuries-old law of karma.

    It could be hard to perfectly complete all the Dharma tasks assigned but it is no easier in the secular world. The difference is: in the Dharma world the challenges we are given are designed to strengthen our minds that will benefit us lifetime after lifetime while in the secular world the bulk of our so called achievements are allocated to pay for the lifestyle of the bosses.

    So let’s buck up and help each other as dharma students by watching out for each other, actively giving honest feedback (so that our Guru does not have to), and ensuring we all get the job done perfectly. Now, that is true team spirit, which I believe will contribute to the group’s positive collective karma.

  37. Elsie Toy on Feb 2, 2012 at 7:56 am

    Dearest Rinppoche

    Thank you very much for sharing with us. I very much like the way you pen it straight forward and direct to our problems. Looking for easy way out and let others cover for us and creating the workload for our counterparts working with us. This happens everywhere in any general organizations and do create frustrations for others with them. We do have all our problems as long as we live we have problems may it be money, self esteem and up bringing. Yes, these are all excuses we use when we failed and think it is acceptable but some forget that the person one work with also has their own set of problems but just because the handle it better then other we assumed they do not have their problems.
    I really like this letter it makes me think harder and it give the impact on me to be more conscience of myself and the quality of work that I produce, and others.

    Thank you very much Rinpoche.

  38. Liz Fields on Feb 2, 2012 at 3:21 am

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for sharing this! As you have said everyone has problems. Many people come to Dharma in the hope that it will be easier for them to “fix” their problems. At first they are all hyped up but then later they realize that it is not as easy as they thought it was (nothing is easy in life anyway.) People come to Dharma to better themselves (among other reasons) and this is a good thing. But if people are not going to do the work, then why are they here? If they are not going to do what their guru tells them, then why come to teachings practices, sit in front of the guru and get inspired. It is like the gurus words go in one ear and out the other. The people that do this don’t even study, contemplate and meditate. They just smile and nod and listen to the gurus teaching without studying, contemplating, meditating and implementing it in their daily life. If you are really serious please buck up, do the work and practices that have been given to you with a smile and happiness. No excuses or arguing! This is just my opinion and I do not mean any disrespect, ill will ect. I am just voicing my opinion. Again thank you for sharing this, and I am off to do the practice given to me by my teacher. Hope things are well! :)

    • Tsem Tulku Rinpoche on Feb 2, 2012 at 4:06 am

      Dear Liz, I like your straightforward, no-nonsense approach. Be real to yourself. Be real to your spiritual journey. Be real to your teacher. Be real to the people around you. Deception knowing and unknowing only invites more pain. So just be real. Face yourself and do the work well now. Not tomorrow or later…but now. Thanks Liz. TR

  39. jht on Feb 2, 2012 at 1:47 am

    Dear Rimpoche,

    Thank you for your advice to all of us.
    My opinion only – to be able to prostrate at the feet of a guru and to have full devotion to the Guru is the basis of all blessings.
    To change – a person must practice the teachings given by the Guru. The change will come gradually as our defilements are deeply buried in us. Faith and devotion is the key to the ‘changing’. Only a small opinion.
    thank you rimpoche from a ‘student’

    • Lily on Feb 2, 2012 at 2:21 am

      Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this letter in the blog. There is no denying the truth in Rinpoche’s response to this apology. We get gung-ho when we first get involved in dharma but without commitments, over time this fell by the sidelines as we get caught up with our mundane activities again.It is much easier to be involved with samsaric activities as the main focus is ourselves. The only person we are disappointing is ‘ME’ as we cannot face the honest truth of what we are. I have come to the conclusion that I have not developed enough compassion to bring benefit to others for if I did, there would be no obstacles to doing dharma work.I have to let go of the concept of the ‘perfect’ condition for it will never arises and JUST DO.The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak…

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  • jason
    Sunday, Feb 14. 2016 11:06 PM
    Thx Rinpoche for sharing. At first I know Buddhism, I’m in Dhama Lite category because what we want is the real and instant result from what we had scarify or contribute.People are more concern this life rather than future lives.Dharma lite is steppingstone for us to become a real dharma practitioner.
    Belief in karma is a must in either Dhama lite or Real Thing Dharma to make us create more positive actions.Once the more good cause we created we are in the path to be good rebirth or liberation of rebirth and towards enlightenment path.
    Rinpoche blog is the source for me to become a good person(good action), especially in spiritual awaken.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/the-importance-of-rebirth.html
  • Alice Tay
    Sunday, Feb 14. 2016 08:18 PM
    因为上师的关系,本人才有机会深入了解多杰雄登的背景和他的一切。根据上师所言,多杰雄登是如此的慈悲,而且是文殊菩萨的化身,如果虔诚的持修他的法门,多杰雄登是可以迅速和有力的帮助我们消除障碍和解决问题,好让我们可以达成修行的愿望。

    还记得仁波切曾经说过,佛像越大越好,因为佛像的每一个肖像或象征都有特别的意义。当所有众生看到此佛像时,他们都会因此而得到加持。因此,越大的佛像,可以利益更多众生。

    感谢仁波切在此分享几个不同的地方所建设如此庄严的多杰雄登佛像。不过在这之前,曾经阅读过的课题有关多杰雄登到底是魔还是佛?而本人的想法是比较简单与直接,那就是如果多杰雄登是魔,那么为什么那么多寺院都会建设多杰雄登的佛像?不但如此,为什么诸多高僧大德都拥有个人的多杰雄登佛像?而我的答案是,我选择相信影响本人最深和可以让我看清与了解生命奥妙的上师尊贵的詹杜固波切。

    在此祈愿一切有情众生得到文殊菩萨和多杰雄登护法的加持,去除无明,看清真理。

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/10-holy-dorje-shugden-statues-in-the-world.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Sunday, Feb 14. 2016 07:50 PM
    A disgusting history of Reign of Terror where the supremacy inference led to the killing of millions of Congolese in the 2nd part of the 19th century was unheard of in the 20th century. The lack of economy values of the Congo as a nation (thanks to the exploitation of Leopold II) basically render obliteration this unjust episode of her history.

    It is also appalling to note that most of world history are written devoid of the causes or the conditions that created it. History, is written in the interest of maybe a minority free to propagate their agenda. Hence, we must develop the intellectual to read with a pinch of salt, analyse 2 sides of a coin and make reference to the not-so-mainstream records. Just like the Dorje Shugden conflict that is causing pain and suffering to almost the entire populace of the exiled Tibetan community. You will never find the truth if you read on the so-called official report.

    Something to ponder on.

    Thank You very much, Rinpoche, for sharing this interesting article with us.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/when-you-kill-ten-million-africans-you-arent-called-hitler.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Sunday, Feb 14. 2016 07:19 PM
    This is an eye-opening blog post. I never thought that a normal being like us could see the Nirmanakaya form or Dharmakaya form of a Buddha. I rejoice for Mr Keith Milton’s friend, Elizabeth, who had the great fortune to witness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche in the form of Lord Heruka, which certainly had left an imprint in her mind for a very long time.

    Heruka and Vajra Yogini with the 62 deities of their entourage was the manifestation of Buddha Shakyamuni, when He was on Mount Kailash. Through the complex practice of Heruka, Buddha uses desire along with attachments and ignorance and transform those into the enlightened state of a buddha to serve us and not harm us. This practice is widely practiced in all four schools of Tibetan Buddhism and recommended by Lama Tsongkapa himself.

    Heruka’s practice and the condensed form of heruka’s practice, which is Vajra Yogini will be extremely effective in Kaliyuga time where the 5 degenerations are prevalent. The Five degenerations (nyig ma nga) during kaliyuga time are:
    1. Degeneration of time – time of wars, time of sicknesses with new diseases coming, the decline of quality of things and people are overwhelmed by spirit harms.
    2. Degeneration of sentient beings– refers to the decline in physical form / intellect / health, beings are stubborn, majority hold morally wrong ideas and many are intolerant to the point of hatred.
    3. Degeneration of lifespan – refers to the fact that the lifespan of beings declines from one hundred years all the way down to ten years.
    4. Degeneration of actions/views – means that all sentient beings engage in the ten non-virtuous actions, people very easily believe in wrong philosophies and find it difficult to believe the right view.
    5. Degeneration of afflictions – indicates that the afflictions of ignorance, desire, anger, jealousy, pride and other delusions are becoming so strong that it is very difficult to abandon them.

    Since Heruka’s practice is so powerful and when practiced according to pure lingeage teaching, one can achieve full enlightenment in one lifetime; hence, the say “one becomes merged with Heruka”, it literally means one has gained attainments or full enlightenment using Heruka’s path. One example of someone being one with Keruka is none other than the Great Kyabje Zong Rinpoche.

    Thank You very much, Rinpoche, for sharing with us the very scarce teaching on Heruka and Vajrayogini.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/deep-blue-figure-within-fiery-mass-of-light.html
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    Sunday, Feb 14. 2016 07:02 PM
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  • Stella Cheang
    Sunday, Feb 14. 2016 03:04 PM
    It is truly a blessing for us to read this blog post that show us the location of 10 magnificent Dorje Shugden statues in the world. We also have the opportunity, through the write up, to learn about the various monasteries in the Tibet, Kham, Sichuan, Mongolia, India and Nepal regions. It is evidential that Dorje Shugden is a renowned Dharma Protector propitiated by people of these vast regions. Many of these monasteries have history dating back to hundreds of years ago and having Dorje Shugden as their Dharmapala for centuries. It is most heart wrenching to know that a culturally and historically rich Enlightened Protector practice is subjected to defilement all because of political agenda by the Tibetan exile leadership. It is time for the atrocious political techniques to stop.

    Thank You very much, Rinpoche, for sharing with us the holy images and write up.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/10-holy-dorje-shugden-statues-in-the-world.html
  • YEO KWAI GIN
    Sunday, Feb 14. 2016 02:27 PM
    感恩仁波切的分享 !

    发酵的食物在营养上已经是证实对我们的身体有益 !

    在市场上已经含有各式各样的酵素,针对不同的体质来发酵出不同的酵素如药材酵素针对保健,调理和益补,lemon和山楂酵素针对消脂和抗氧化,蔬菜酵素针对排毒和清肠,水果酵素针对抗氧化和抗老等等。。。非常高的营养价值。

    现在的人们生活方式不像以前一天三餐烹饪,大多以快食解决三餐,营养摄取不平衡,大家都可以很方便的从有机店,超市,药材店购买所需要的酵素。

    自制的酵素还可以达到环保的作用,省钱又环保,还可以确保身体健康,非常有价值 !

    感恩 合十
    YEO KWAI GIN

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/food-recipes/fermented-food.html
  • YEO KWAI GIN
    Sunday, Feb 14. 2016 01:51 PM
    YEO KWAI GIN on Feb 14, 2016 at 1:50 pm
    感谢仁波切的分享 !
    佛法~~是非常奇妙的,它可以融入和用在任何事情状况,人际关系,教学,任何人无论在于他或她信不信佛教等等。。。

    仁波切以上谈到Dharma-lite一群,虽然他们有些不相信因果或相信因果但不相信轮回,或相信因果轮回但不想提及地狱,但佛法依然可以在心灵上的心识转化,为他们解决事物上·人际上和感情上帮得上忙!还有,很多人还大多数以“无事不登三宝殿”的心态才接触佛法,遇到困难,才寻找佛法为他们解决问题。虽然这样的事情时常发生,但这是一个好的“开始”,第一次的接触,就有机会让他们继续了解佛法,直到证得更高的成就!

    我是非常的幸运,可以遇见上师您,还有这含有丰富佛法教育和知识的部落格,让我从中学习佛法 !

    感恩 合十
    YEO KWAI GIN

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/the-importance-of-rebirth.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Sunday, Feb 14. 2016 10:10 AM
    Our delusion of this world and what this world has to offer keep us grounded and fuel our perpetuity dwelling in it. We are programmed in many ways to believe that a relationship and family is good, status, wealth and material are good. And we spend our whole life making sure that we have someone to form a family with, and going after social status by accumulating wealth and material assets, unceasingly.

    When we are in this rat race within samsara, it is very difficult to imagine the beautiful illusion that everyone else seemed to be living in, is in fact, a delusion. Everything and everyone around us is reinforcing the beautiful illusion, enlarging it to a central piece in our functional mindstream, blinding our ability to reason; as a result we develop an insatiable craving to live the beautiful illusionary life.

    There is an antidote to cut our delusion. It is by doing Dharma work, because Dharma work
    • Brings our focus and enegry on working for the benefit of others.
    • Takes our mind away from going deep into the chase of our delusion that mainly satisfy the me, me, and me.
    • Collects merit to support and drive us to the higher spiritual goal (which is enlightenment, ultimately).

    In order for out Dharma work to generate merit, we must always check our motivation when carrying out the work. We should not have the intention or motivation of obtaining benefits (through dharma work) for ourselves. When we do Dharma work fervently, some might say that we are indulging in the same rat race but different maze, but at least we embark on the journey towards cutting delusion and out of the maze, rather than stuck in the rat race without any exit.

    Only with knowledge, we will be able to determine if our motivation and intention is pure when doing Dharma work. And the knowledge comes from a Guru; our Guru, the only person who had cut his chase of delusion, took vows and practice the Dharma for many many lifetimes, for the benefit of others. It is through our Guru that we now know our wayward lifestyle is a trap to keep us in samsara. And it is through the same Guru whom we were taught that there is a way out.

    Realizing the importance of a Guru, we must hold Him as the most precious and protect our samaya with our Guru as the utmost important thing in our life. No one else but our Guru can liberate us from perpetuating samsara endlessly.

    Thank You Rinpoche for the teaching on recognizing our delusion and the method to cut our delusion. I will be more mindful of my motivation when doing Dharma work so that the work generate merit and not karma.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/cutting-through-delusions.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Saturday, Feb 13. 2016 11:51 PM
    This is my preliminary attempt to understand the profound process of concentration. I have recapped here a few points that I felt is important for me to take note off:

    1. Our mind is fickle and cannot stay focus. Any attempt to keep it focus is daunting. “When we are on the top of a tall city building we can look down and see how busy the city is, but when we are walking on the streets we are aware of only a fraction of the busyness.”
    2. Our primary consciousness is surrounded by 52 secondary mental elements; some negative, some positive, and some neutral. For us normal beings, the negative ones are the strongest.
    3. Zhi Nay or concentration can only be achieved when one subdue the negative mental elements.
    4. While the negative mental elements is a mental issue, a proper Vajra position can help practice concentration.The proper Vajra position comprises of 7 points which symbolizes the various stages of the path.
    5. There are 2 enemies to concentration, they are (a) mental agitation, and (b) torpor. Agitation arises from desire. Torpor arises from subtle apathy developing within the mind. Mental agitation is overcome principally by the force of mindfulness and torpor by attentive application.

    The blog post had so kindly provided a diagram to denote the stages of developing / cultivating concentration (Zhi Nay). I will certainly bookmark this and read it again.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this teaching from Geshe Rabten. I have learnt something new today.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/the-perfection-of-concentration-by-geshe-rabten-rinpoche.html
  • YEO KWAI GIN
    Saturday, Feb 13. 2016 11:41 PM
    Yeo Kwai Gin on Feb 13, 2016 at 11:39 pm
    在Tenzin Peljor与Tenzin Gyeche的交谈,让我对达赖尊者的疑惑,就是

    ~如果雄登是魔,为何那么多不同门派的高僧大德难道收复不了一个魔吗?我完全没有怀疑高僧大德的高尚的修行,那么在这疑点可证明了雄登不是魔!

    ~在达赖尊者的公开平台,修行雄登法门的讯息与请愿是关闭和不透明,不让没修行雄登法门的人接触,那证明有意图不让其他没修行雄登法门的人知道其他真相。

    ~未成为护法时的”涅宗“在几百年前都被降伏为护法,如果雄登是魔,为何第五世达赖喇嘛尊者和其他高僧不把雄登降伏,还要等到现在一直宣扬雄登是魔,不把他降伏呢?

    ~在频视里,达赖尊者说到,赤江仁波切是可以修持雄登法门,其他人是不允许的 !这为何道理呢?

    ~Tenzin Gyeche还说到,在第五世达赖尊者允许修持其法门,还亲手制造了雄登法相供大家供养,直到现在还不断地让大众供养,为何又会在19年前才出此禁令呢?那是证明了在这几百年以来,达赖尊者会那么疏忽吗?达赖尊者乃是观世音菩萨的化身,几百年后才发觉问题,那是不可能的事 !

    还有,从第五世达赖尊者期间直到现在,从来没听过修持雄登法本和祈愿文里,有一句要伤害或让达赖尊者短命等等的文句!而且,从来没有一个修持雄登法门的高僧大德,祈求雄登诅咒他人或尊者,让他人遇害!

    在此,希望雄登禁令可以和平,和谐,尽早解除,让更多的修行者和人们不再受禁令带来的痛苦。

    OM BENZA WIKI BITTANA SOHA

    感恩 合十
    YEO KWAI GIN


    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/the-14th-dalai-lamas-prayer-to-dorje-shugden.html
  • Lin Mun
    Saturday, Feb 13. 2016 10:48 PM
    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for sharing Dr Berzin’s article.

    As a Buddhist it is very important to believe the existance of rebirth. Without rebirth then there will be no beginingless, endingless and karma which is being stressed in Buddhism. It is by believing rebirth that we will improve our self, practise dharma and follow the path that leads to enlightenment.

    The existance of Dharma-Lite and The Real Thing attitude is due to different level of understanding in Buddhism. Since Dharma-Lite group may not have full understanding of Buddhism hence they practise Dharma with a limit for their ‘convenience’. Their motivation is driven for the benefit of themselves rather that focusing outside to all sentient beings.

    While The Real Thing attitude will practise dharma for the benefit of others as this is the way that lead to liberation. We here are very fortunate to be given this opportunity to practice the Real Thing with proper guidance in Kechara.

    Again thank you Rinpoche for creating this opportunity for us.

    With folded hands,
    Lin Mun

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/the-importance-of-rebirth.html
  • Lin Mun
    Saturday, Feb 13. 2016 10:13 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this article.

    It serves as a very good reminder to parents and adults on how we want to perceive the importance and usage of money. I would think that money is not evil but the motivation of how we wanting the money and using it that determine the effect.

    Most of the time we will chase for more and more money as it is our perception that it will bring happiness to our life. Not realising that it will only bring temporary happiness and more harm if we use it on wrong intention.

    I hope this article will bring awareness not only to parents but everyone so we can change our preception and most importantly the motivation in using/sharing money and wealth.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/is-wealth-evil.html
  • NgJesvin
    Saturday, Feb 13. 2016 10:07 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing HRH Tengku Ismail’s advice to all Malaysian recently.

    I totally agree with the Crown Prince’s advice. All religion is about peace and love. We have our right to choose whatever religion which suites us.

    “The quality of your life depends on the quality of your thought” from the Crown Prince had widen my thought because the quality of our thought always determine our action. If our thought is bad, no matter how well we cover it, one-day it will explode and the sufferings begin. Therefore set up a good motivation is a good start to transform our mind to be a better person and stop create more bad karma.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/the-crown-prince-of-johor-urges-muslims-to-respect-other-beliefs.html

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The Unknown

The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
So go pursue all the way with the unknown,
because all unknown with familiarity becomes the known.
~Tsem Rinpoche

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Such a beautiful Dorje Shugden turquoise pendant created by Kechara Julia. So stunning.
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Very beautiful vintage picture of the sacred Kamakura Buddha in Japan. Wish to have something like this in Kechara Forest Retreat one day soon. Tsem Rinpoche 
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If we stop eating them, this will not happen anymore. Go vegetarian!
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Action Vajra Yogini hence not much ornaments
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Holy mountain of Avalokitesvara, Manjushri and Vajrapani in Tibet.
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How long will they keep this up? Where do we all go? Do we just stay away? Shall we make parameters of where we can go and not go?
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Our wonderful Kechara people under the direction of Karen Chong is in the process of beautifying our town where Kechara Forest Retreat is. We want to make our Bentong Pahang beautiful with art that is unique, bright, colorful and also meaningful. This Dorje Shugden mural represents wealth, protection, health and prosperity for everyone in the coming Lunar New Year's! We love Bentong and it may be small but we can make it more beautiful. It's a gift to the people here. Tsem Rinpoche.
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I was glad to have visited Mt Shasta town in Northern California at the base of Mt Shasta. This mountain is a spiritually charged holy place according to the Native American Indians. Many powerful spiritual beings abide and reside within the mountain. When one does spiritual practices, meditations and so on on this mountain or near it, one is blessed for success much faster than in other places. Mt Shasta is powerfully charged with spiritual energy and one of the power places of our planet. Tsem Rinpoche
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Our beautiful Dorje Shugden chapel in Kechara Forest Retreat.
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His Eminence Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, Trijang Choktrul Rinpoche and His Eminence Kensur Jampa Yeshe. What a beautiful picture.
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Chenresig bone relic of Panchen Sonam Dragpa ( one of the previous incarnations of Tulku Trakpa Gyaltsen) at Drepung Gompa in Tibet. -From Francesco This is a image of Ary Avalokitesvara (Chenresig) spontaneously arising from the bone of Panchen Sonam Dragpa. It is highly blessed. It shows the special connection of Avalokitesvara with this master and he is highly attained.
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I was around 25 years old here. Tsem Rinpoche
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His Eminence Kyabje Dagom Rinpoche before his passing. He was my teacher too and a great master.
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To be the bearer of light, one needs to see the darkness within and overcome. Face the darkness without more delays. ~Tsem Rinpoche 
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    All beings have feelings and do not want pain, to be hurt or harmed. Therefore we must respect this and not harm animals. See this video how this man has made good friends with a special fish who comes when he rings for the fish. Touching. Tsem Rinpoche
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    His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
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    A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
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Participants having tea while doing Recycling and Barter activities. By Kechara Earth Project 14 February '16
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Our first visit to the Dorje Shugden mural art in Bentong town; very nicely done. Stella Cheang, KSDS
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