No more excuses please

May 26, 2012 | Views: 2,482
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Dear friends,

I received yet another apology from a student. And it has been many times already over the last two years with this person. I care about this person very much, but the situation is nearly the same. So I wrote a reply. I thought I’d share the reply. It might help or be applicable to some of us. I do not profess to know everything or have all the answers, but I do know doing our work well is essential. I am certainly not above it, but I still have to plug on and get things done just like everyone else. This is a private email but I will have it here without the name in the spirit of hoping it will benefit others. Forgive me if it sounds offensive, I do not mean it to be.

 

Tsem Rinpoche

 


 

Dear XXXX,

It’s very simple, you want ‘in’ or ‘out’? If you want out, you know life and the meaningless drudgery of it you will be going back to. You know your end result like many towards the end of your life will be meaningless death. The very purpose you are in dharma now is you have seen through the fallacies of life’s empty samsaric promises. That is the real reason underlying all reasons.

If you are in, you join an accepting group of people who literally wants to make a difference in the world. It is not by nice words, drinking endless cups of coffee in cafes, bantering gossip about friends and life in restaurants or rubbing shoulders with this or that friends who are just as unhappy as you BUT without a clue to a solution. You are in an organization that I am the head of and will work very hard. We have a philosophy derived from sacred Gaden and we have an immaculate protector(s). We have direction, we have purpose, we have hope and we have AN INCREDIBLE GOAL. You cannot find this anywhere.

Whether you are in or out IS NOT PHYSICAL BUT MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL. You may be in, but if you are still attached to your old life of sleep, deceptive freedom, friends, conveniences, easy life, socializing et al, then you will not perform well here or anywhere. Whether you want to do work in secular or spiritual, it is the same qualities that will get you there. What did the life of secular ‘freedom’ you had before Kechara bring you? Got you where? Resulted in what? What have you achieved? Whatever you are failing in Kechara is what you were failing in before you came to Kechara. What your parents didn’t teach you, is left to me to teach you. Whatever insecurities and failures you feel or self-hatred you feel before Kechara you brought into Kechara and into my world and you leave it to me to deal with.

If you are a bad communications person, then you make me and Kecharians suffer now for it. Lots of time spent to find out the real communications, repairs, extra energy and resources to do things over.

If you are not a hard worker, you burden Kecharians to cover for you. They have to do their share and cover what you didn’t do.

If you like to cover mistakes, then you make Kecharians spend more time to talk to you, find out what happened and that time could have been spent better.

If you like the night life, easy life, fun life and convenient life, then you make everyone else around you who want to work with you, work harder to cover for you. To accommodate you. Accommodating you is not the reason you came to dharma. It’s the opposite in fact.

If you are late, undisciplined, not on time, always give excuses and always do your work sloppily, you make Kecharians put up with this, tolerate this, be patient with this and also forgive you again and again and again with your myriad deliciously worded apologies.

If your mind goes up and down and up and down like a see-saw, it is not Kechara who made you this way. You came this way. Staying in Kechara you will see-saw and leaving Kechara you will see-saw in your new environment. In fact in your new environment you will see-saw worse having experienced the blessings of Kechara and our goals. Your see-sawing mind is because you are lazy, impatient and want the easy way out. When you don’t get that, you get sad, depressed, question why you are here. But that is what you have been doing your whole life.

When you make promises to your teacher or your fellow dharma staff and you don’t keep it, you set such a bad example. You reaffirm your failure of before entering Kechara. Whatever you did not achieve before you entered Kechara, you are leaving it to me and those around you to pick up your pieces daily and ‘retrain’ you to achieve… think….

You see, whatever mental or emotional problems you developed before Kechara, the people around you have it also. You, me and all of us suffer variations of the same problems and mental downs…When you show these traits again and again, you make them trigger in other people. Does that mean you can never be unhappy and pretend you’re enlightened? Of course not… but up or down, you still have TO DO YOUR WORK WELL, PERFECTLY AND TO COMPLETION. EVERYONE IN THE WORLD WHETHER THEY ARE UP OR DOWN MUST PRODUCE WORK RESULTS TO SURVIVE TO LIVE.

Whether you are in Kechara or not, you will be up and down and you still have to produce. But outside of Kechara, rarely do others want to or will cover you over and over again. You affect those around you severely… we all do. It becomes a chain reaction. You can cause those around you to have doubts, be depressed, be demotivated, not perform well and when you finally ‘bounce’ back from your current down episode, the people around you are down again… Then they drag others down. Then when they come up, you are in your endless cycle of down again. So it is a chain reaction… and how do you control it? Well there is no magic formula, you just focus on your goals and control it. How would you control it without Kechara? Same, you focus on your goals and control it in Kechara or in the secular.

If you have been a person without goals and now you are in a rush-rush hectic Kecharian environment of goal driven environment, count yourself lucky. Why? Because together with others you can achieve what you couldn’t achieve alone before you entered Kechara. Since you ‘don’t’ perform well, have so many ups and downs and you are not driven, then rather than paddle 1,000 miles on a static lake to get to the shore, you are on a river where you paddle and the river pushes you towards the other end also. The river is likened to many others around you that are into the same goal and work hard. Better to be on a river than paddling on your own. Think carefully of my example.

I receive hundreds of apologies over the years, very few move me or make me believe. I fight being cynical all the time. Why? Because so many disappoint me time and time again. If a few persons disappoint you and you feel down, then you are selfish. Because think of the hundreds over decades that disappoint me and I still have to keep going. Why? Because I am better than you, no not really…but because I focus on the goal and not my emotions as much. I focus on my goals and realize without dharma goals I HAVE NOTHING. My example is all the people around me. They have nothing of worth and value they can take at death yet they live as if there is no death. Silly self deception. Silly selfishness hidden behind depressions, down time and feeling like we can’t do it.

You are mature and older and you have to be double most of the people around you. Age is suppose to confer wisdom, maturity, stability and qualities others may look up to. If you are nearing forty, or forty or older, then you have a sacred responsibility to act forty. And combined with the secular wisdom of a mature person, top them off with dharma and voila you should be a shining light to all those around you.

You should be a person who is stable, does what you say, does not forget promises, tells the truth, works hard, nurtures others younger and older people (some come to dharma late or realize the truth late) and take your dharma work as your saviour which it is. Dharma work is your saviour. What does it save you from?? Dharma saves you from you!

Apologies are the first step but it does not purchase the respect you lost and the loss of confidence and deep pain, hurt and disappointments you have created. Apologies do not mend or make up for all the resources you have caused to be wasted. The single most important resource we have is the friendship/love and support we have in Kechara from those around us. This love and support will NEVER BE FOUND ANYWHERE ELSE.

Apology letters sometimes make me angry. Because you can’t rob someone and then it’s ok with just a letter. How can someone consistently do harm, not do their work well, not do their job well, burden others, make others disappointed, damage others and then it’s forgotten with a letter. People who do not do their work well do not deserve to be here by right. They are here because we have compassion and mercy. We love our people. Having said that, the Kecharians may be kind and forgiving, but your karma is ruthless. Karma is unbiased. What you have done, when it fruitions, will make you lose the most precious things you have. No words, apologies and delicious explanations will help you.

Buck up now. Change now. Whatever you have been failing at, do not expect Kechara or Kecharians or others to cover for you or constantly forgive. If you don’t buck up and constantly burden others, it’s not a matter of forgiveness, it’s that the work still has to get on. It still has to complete.

 

BOTTOM LINE-

 

We all have:

anger

low self esteem

fear

perhaps bad upbringing

disappointments

hurt

pain

feeling sorry for ourselves

hiding

wanting ‘easy’ life whatever that really means

tragedies

failures

laziness

attachments, etc etc etc etc and endless variations of the above and more etc…

 

BUT THE KEY IS:

Since all of us have these, why do some people still do their work well with all their emotional baggage? And some people use the emotional baggage as an excuse for not doing their work well? Either way, we all have the same emotional/disciplinary problems. Why do some people still perform and do their work well even with the baggage still? Because some hold their responsibilities firm and some have had very little responsibilities,’training’ them to be flippant about it most of their lives. Someone has always covered for them. This is the key for some. We all have to produce. How much is if we have had anyone to lean on.  But if we have lived a life of not producing anything much or  someone covered for us always, then we continue our ways now burdening a new set of people we are involved with. Dumping our excuses on them or dumping our work on them using our emotional baggage for sympathy/excuse for not performing.  But you know what, deep down inside all of us, we do not want to burden or hurt others. And we know what to do. So do it. JUST DO IT. WHETHER YOU ARE NEW IN DHARMA OR OLD IN DHARMA, IS NOT THE POINT, RESPONSIBILITIES AND YOUR WORDS OF HONOUR (INTEGRITY) IS THE SAME.

So don’t wait for yourself to become a ‘better’ person. YOU ARE THE BETTER PERSON NOW IF YOU CHOOSE. NOW. Don’t wait for dharma to sink in and you change, that is wrong. We all have responsibilities, so just do it irregardless.

Do not take anything for granted. Do not assume. Do not take anything lightly. Do what you are supposed to do and do it now and well. Excuses had all been said and explained. If you keep failing, my love and care for you will never cease, but will you have the karma to keep the most precious thing in your life?

Tsem Rinpoche

 

This is in reply to XXXXX (below), but in hindsight, might benefit many. And also this is not to ‘get’ or embarrass XXXXX. It is for reflection please.

 


 

 Dearest Rinpoche,

I apologise for the disappointment I have caused. I do care about Rinpoche a lot and it breaks my heart to know i am causing more pain than relief for Rinpoche.


 
This is in no way a poor me reflection because i do really want to help Rinpoche in any way i can and i know i can do it.
 
My inconsistency i have come to realise, stems from me not caring enough and assuming things are done and not following through. And also largely due to me thinking i have everything sorted out in my head and in control but being big headed and stubborn, that if i do drop the ball or when someone points out my faults or mistakes, i get defensive and close up and at times even try to cover most unconvincingly (but my pride makes me think otherwise).


 
I also do realise i do fight/stop these negative thoughts/actions and catch them more these days. I know i am not perfect but i know i am improving as a person through the grace of Rinpoche. And i do realise fully that whatever actions Rinpoche takes in pushing my buttons is for my benefit and am very thankful and blessed to have the merits to receive such methods of teaching in this day and age!


 
I will not go into a whole song and dance of how i am going to improve but what i will do is just BE that person Rinpoche can trust and be proud of and cut the rest of the poor me crap out! 


 
Through my realisations of late, i have written the following to reflect on which i would like to humbly share with Rinpoche:

”A lifetime of bad habits can be changed with a mere switch in attitude. A lifetime of heavy baggage can be lightened by just LETTING GO!”


 
I hope Rinpoche rested well.
 
Much love… XXXXXX

( The person in the  photo above is myself.  Tsem Rinpoche)

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  1. Phng Keng Hwa on Jul 16, 2015 at 1:19 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    I came across this post when going through my old mail, and now, I’m glad I did. This really is a profound teaching about self-improvement; something that I really want, especially now at this time and age when I’m going off to study and will be away from my family and friends.

    I know that I am sheltered by my family. Thus, I know that I hold a little naivety with me, and if don’t improve on myself, I know people will take advantage of me. I always want to help others, and that is not wrong, but sometimes being to eager to help may lead to undesired circumstances for myself or to people I care about.

    That is why I want to improve myself, to be able to be useful, make the right decisions, and not hold anyone back.

    Your humble student,
    Keng Hwa.

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  3. judy lam on Oct 20, 2012 at 2:55 pm

    We are always guilty of giving excuses or ‘reasons’ for not doing something. I guess this is not just habitual, but a state of our mind. All excuses given will have consequences. For not being able to deliver our work on time, it will have a chain effect on other people’s schedule. We must make a deliberate action to reduce number of our excuses.

  4. Julia Tan on Jul 15, 2012 at 12:30 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this letter with us. Every word in the letter hit me hardly. Regret that I forever made mistakes some more fail to confess. Instead of contributing to the dharma, I created more work for my dharma brothers and sisters. I am taking full responsibilities on whatever I have done.

    I may or may not live until tomorrow. I do not own anything from yesterday and I cannot take anything with me tomorrow. Why not just do it now. Do as much as I can now instead of regret when chances passed.

  5. Lim KH (JB) on Jun 27, 2012 at 4:15 am

    Everyone will do the wrong things but we should learn from the mistake then dun make the mistake again. Is seen to be easy to say out but uneasy to be done.

    Due to our selective style and always stay in comfort zone our mind will transform very very slow. But when we start our FIRST STEP to change sure we may STARTED to transform it maybe slow but at least started.

    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing the key to let us aware that we got no more excuses.

  6. mitra on Jun 25, 2012 at 10:48 am

    with out rinpoche and with out dharma we cant do anything.every people come kechara bucause they want good rejalt and we want better.we want in or out is verry clear for rinpoche teaching.

  7. nani ksa on Jun 19, 2012 at 8:33 pm

    no more i dont know i dont want to do i scared to do .must do it.no more excuses.thank you rinpoche for ihis blog.

  8. Paris on Jun 18, 2012 at 6:59 pm

    I’ve just been speaking with some people about something similar and some of them have been saying things like, “Oh but I’m not very capable,” “I’m useless”, “I’m stupid” – thing is, stupid people don’t know they’re stupid, useless people don’t know they’re useless. I think being capable or not, useless or useful, stupid or not is a choice, it’s not some kind of terrible prison sentence that someone else has imposed upon us and that we have to live with. I think nowadays, it’s quite easy for others to see through this kind of false humility and know straight away that it’s just yet another big cover up for not wanting to do more or not having achieved anything.

    It’s also not a choice that someone’s putting a gun to our heads to make. If we don’t choose to do more and choose to make excuses for not being able to do it, that’s fine – that’s our prerogative to decide. Then we should also be happy with what we’ve “chosen” when the results of that come – which could be that we get nowhere, have no friends, don’t achieve the things we want to etc. To simply say that we’re lazy or useless, not good enough, not clever enough etc is denying that there’s ever such a thing as karma, and a kind of opposite surrendering to a dead-end fate, which is not logical.

    • DR on Jun 25, 2012 at 12:52 pm

      Well said Paris. To add to your list of why they cant do this and that is another phrase which I always get; “it is not my forte”! Oh My Buddha! Nothing is not one’s forte until one is willing to learn and go all the way with it. Is walking a baby’s forte? NO, not until the baby decides to get up to learn to walk, fall, get up again, and keeps trying till he can run.

  9. lucy yap on Jun 16, 2012 at 3:11 am

    I agree Rinpoche that we are full of excuses to cover our selectiveness and laziness.Only when we respond to opportunities with action, we do it not only as an aspect of our practice,but also for the growth of our individual character.We are responsible for the nourishment of our practice by engaging with others in our communities.With such principles recognized,but unapplied to daily opportunities,the hold upon the ideal of what the Buddha taught.We lose the chance for realizing the opportunities for finding the lessons that can be awakened in us,that only through our actions can be experienced.Thank you Rinpoche ,for this priceless teaching.

  10. Lili ng on Jun 12, 2012 at 6:25 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,everything that Rinpoche says is so right….have always been right….thats why deep down we either face it or be in denial pretend it’s not true or it doesn’t apply to me or simply turn a blind eye,a deaf ear all bcoz we don’t want to face the truth,hide..,it’s time for me to face it head on and never give up no matter what.I Thank you.

  11. Han on Jun 12, 2012 at 2:35 pm

    “Whether you are in Kechara or not, you will be up and down and you still have to produce.
    But outside of Kechara, rarely do others want to or will cover you over and over again. You affect those around you severely… we all do. It becomes a chain reaction. ”

    The above indeed very true, from my past experiences in the corporate sector, without dharma made me easily inpatient and feel pressured in works, the way we dealt with co workers also very selfish and narrow minded.

    I am glad I am in Kechara and there are UP & DOWN as always, but I am happy that i gradually doing things that i do not like and feel happy to do it, eventually become like to do the DONT LIKE jobs….
    Its tough initially, but this is the key of practicing dharma, Rinpoche always said, never forget DHARMA IS DOING THINGS THAT YOU DO NOT LIKE !

    Thank you Rinpoche !

  12. Eric Lee KSJC on Jun 2, 2012 at 11:24 pm

    有时候我自己也会为自己做不到的事情找借口,这是为了不让别人知道自己做不到。可是,最近我自己发觉有时候是因为自己在作出承诺以前,并没有想清楚自己是否又能力胜任,只是认为只要是佛法的事,就应该去做,所以做到最后,自己因为累了或是因为其他的理由就放弃了。所以,现在的我学会凡事三思而行,要认真的想清楚,因为自己的承诺是金,不要随便的答应而做不到,这不但害了自己,也害到别人。

  13. Uncle Eddie on May 31, 2012 at 12:25 pm

    Yes, you were right Rinpoche. We must be real to our spiritual journey, be real to our teacher, be real to the people around us. All in all, we must be real to our ownselves and do the work well! Everyone have weaknesses and bad habits which must be got rid off immediately. The friendship, love and support which we have cultivated in Kechara must be savaged and manintained. It is the most important source of our devoted unity, as this love and support will never be found anywhere, as mentioned. To borrow an old saying, “Ask not what Kechara can do for us, but what we can do for Kechara to benefit others!” Thank you once again Rinpoche, for re-awakening our sleeping and deluded minds.

  14. andrew hibberd on May 30, 2012 at 1:55 pm

    your advice agrees equally with my experience we are who we are in this time a bunch of bloated water and words and the only thing behind us is the result of the action we have taken and the only thing in front of us is oppprtunity , lets not waste this precious life lets stand up and take responsibiity for our home , mother earth and all of the children that live in it so they may see a future challenge that motivates them to be human

  15. Jace Chong on May 30, 2012 at 10:54 am

    Thanks Rinpoche for the posting to reflect what we can not do due to our self-resistant, and what we can really do.

    What Rinpoche says here is really true, we do have ups and downs and hang-ups, but the point is what we want and where are we going.

    We may not be perfect, we may not be a good person before, but it doesn’t mean that we can’t be. If we really treasure Rinpoche and Dharma, we need to play our part to fight our inner negative thoughts, because it’s something that hurts ourselves and others. And it’s something Buddha concerns because this is the cause of samsara.

    I remember Rinpoche said this in a teaching, “When you are in samsara, you are ready for Dharma works”. Dharma works buy us a ticket to leave samsara, but we need to work our way out to grab the ticket before we turn into another condition and lost the ticket. We must work hard, there’s no other way.

  16. Wong Yuen Foo on May 29, 2012 at 12:16 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for sharing this private mail with all of us. I truly understand your advice & concern.

    Yes, all of us have a certain degree of these bad traits / habits in us … the bottom line is how much do we willingly push ourself to achieve set goals / promises / responsibilities in our life sometimes & all the times. How many people wish / can carry out these commitments for others benefits without agenda at all ? This is even a much tougher question to answer & to do, at least it applies to me… I ask myself this questions too.

    I salute all those who work day & night without self-agendas but with the motive of benefiting others, some of these people whom they do not know/ met. I wish in the near future i too could do the same like these great individuals.

    Rinpoche, wish you good health, Always.

  17. Low ksjc on May 27, 2012 at 10:38 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for sharing this letter with us.What was mention does reflect on how most of us will feel when we are overwhelm with emotion, rather then seeking a solution to solve the issue to reach the goal, we rather choose to run away by passing the buck to others to settle it.We might have friends who are willing to take ownership of the issue to settle it for us,we might have felt relived that the issue is settled.. But in time to come ,if we do not wish to change this attitude or be lost in world of excuses then we are only left with a name without “Integrity”.
    I would choose to remember this letter well, to remind myself on the disappointment I would have cause others when I have failed to owe up to my own commitment as a “TEAM”.

  18. Thierry on May 27, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this correspondence with us.
    I take it that we are all addressees of Rinpoche’s reply, so I read it a second time with thought that the letter was addressed to me directly and it got me blushing…

  19. David Loh on May 27, 2012 at 11:38 am

    I was brought up where every unnessary explaination is considered an excuse. If you are right then you are right. If you are wrong then you are wrong. No debate here. We humans are so full of excuses and bull shit (me included).

    One thing I really don’t understand is why people still don’t transform even a little bit when constantly exposed to Dharma. Here we go calling people of some ‘religion’ hypocrates. Are we any better if we don’t transform ourselves? I know our imprints limits us in this department, whether its the Lamrin, Bible or Quran, emphasis is for believers to change or transform into better people. Why do we still go to temple, churches etc etc if we are not willing to change? Am really perplexed…..Wait! could it be……? I know most places serves food and refreshments during all services.

    I hold on to my believes that if I’m not able to do anything right after many attempts, I would stop doing to avoid the whole world picking up the pieces after me. ONCE beatened TWICE shy.

    Every one of us is bound to have at least ONE talent. Find out and harness that for the good of Dharma. If the person has non (which is impossible when you have all your faculties intact and workable) then too bad.

  20. Wei Theng on May 27, 2012 at 11:37 am

    “the Kecharians may be kind and forgiving, but your karma is ruthless. Karma is unbiased. What you have done, when it fruitions, will make you lose the most precious things you have. No words, apologies and delicious explanations will help you.”
    With the karma effect in mind, it’s no other way but look at the goals and go all the way.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this precious & meaningful teaching.

  21. Valentina Suhendra on May 26, 2012 at 11:01 pm

    Dear Rinpoche

    I like this particular blogpost. Especially the part that say,” Because you can’t rob someone and then it’s ok with just a letter.”

    Valentina

  22. mayy on May 26, 2012 at 10:39 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche for sharing this. I would take it as a creed to read and reflect on all times on faults and failures we have brought with us till now and not having achieve anything in life. Kechara is the real place, family and friends to support and assist each other to become better person in our spiritual path.

    Whatever tasks entrusted to us we must strive to do it all the way and complete it by taking upon responsibilities of not burdening others. Everything we do are all interdependent for a common goal. Never can we be a lone ranger to champion a cause. We need each other to achieve it.

    Passion drives just like what Jane Goodall did whom has inspired many. She has exemplified..”We have the power to affect the world positively and we have the poser to affect the world negatively.” How we use this power is a matter of choice for we are in control irrespective of how adverse the situation is. (http://blog.tsemtulku.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/something-incredible-about-jane-goodall.html)

  23. Lim Han Nee on May 26, 2012 at 10:11 pm

    Yes, no one controls our body, speech and mind, but we ourselves. It’s our choice.We can make the choice, HERE AND NOW, of identifying with the incredibly wonderful Dharma goal of Kechara and Kecharians and do Dharma work and practice Dharma with integrity and a strong sense of commitment and responsibility. Or we can continue to wallow in our laziness and our wanting to take the easy way out and in letting others cover for us; and, in the process, drag others down with us into negativity, suffering and depression.

    Like many, I too have an emotional baggage, and a humongous one at that! I have also, in the past, let this baggage become my excuse for not being totally committed to Dharma work and practice.

    When I look back at all the time wasted, and I look ahead and see how time is running out on me, I feel I have no other option left.

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for your great love and compassion in reminding us that we are our own worst enemy.

  24. jennifer on May 26, 2012 at 9:35 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for the very wise and profound teaching.
    I realise that everything we do have a ripple effect , on every one around us and whether good or bad, that ‘ripple’ hits back to us eventually. We are truly blessed to have Rinpoche in our lives, who never gave up on us , understands our flaws and weaknesses , cares , loves and guides us with such compassion , and is there time and time again to back us up when that ‘ripple ‘ (which by now has turned into a tidal wave ) hits us flat on our stubborn arrogrant faces.
    Thank you Rinpoche for being in our lives .

  25. Joyce Yeow on May 26, 2012 at 6:15 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for such profound advice. I am afraid that I was one of the guilty ones. I used to have this attitude when i was working that I do not need to check my work as the next person who receives it will have to check anyway until my mentor who was my ex-boss and now a dear friend, so very patiently pointed out to me the selfishness of such attitude. I will further strive to correct all my other weaknesses as pointed by Rinpoche here.

    Thank you again Rinpoche.

  26. lewkwanleng on May 26, 2012 at 5:54 pm

    Every time I am lazy,
    Every time I let my emotion go up & up,
    Every time I created disharmony,
    Every time I promised something but don’t do it,

    I will burden others to benefit more people.

    This is what I need to remember from now onwards.

  27. Adrian Cho on May 26, 2012 at 4:50 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this post and teaching us.
    It is really meaningful to me and in this post have pointed my similar weakness..
    Nowadays I try to improve myself and won’t let other people down and disappoint on me, that always care me and guidance me.
    Really appreciate it much this teaching in this post from Rinpoche..

  28. patsy on May 26, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche for sharing this for us to reflect on. I admit that I too have these emotional baggage that Rinpoche pointed out that I have to improve on.

    We should take pride in the work that was entrusted to us instead of pushing /dumping our work to someone else. As a dharma practitioner, we should be of less burden to others. Real dharma practice is not to make others suffer or burden them.

  29. andrew chiam on May 26, 2012 at 3:39 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche.

    This is really a very good article to serves as individual wake up call. We can pretend and act ignorance, lazy and etc to escape from responsibilities. But as a sane person still intact with the last bits of consciousness, we should aware that we have a choice. And if we still want to be in Dharma line, its time to step up the game and make the correct choice. After all, what makes a happy person is the one that dare to commit sincerely to benefit others and keep up to the commitment, day after day, without degenerating the commitments.
    The road for beginners is definitely not easy, but what is easy in life?

    This article although condensed, I had learned, refreshed and realized many points on how to be a better and responsible person to ourselves and all the people around us.

    Rgds,

    Andrew chiam

  30. Girlie Ooi on May 26, 2012 at 1:58 pm

    I am guilty of what Rinpoche has listed here because I am not the perfect person but I strive to be better. I will trip and fall along the way but I will pick myself up and continue the journey.

  31. John Woo on May 26, 2012 at 12:23 pm

    No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path – The Buddha

    Thank you, Rinpoche for showing great compassion despite many failures of students during these current conditions. We must take into heart this advice and transform our mind.

  32. Han on May 26, 2012 at 11:36 am

    We have direction, we have purpose, we have hope and we have AN INCREDIBLE GOAL. You cannot find this anywhere. Whether you are In or out IS NOT PHYSICAL BUT MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL.
    ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    Thank you Rinpochefor sharing this article.
    To me, Focus on our DIRECTION & GOAL, once make the choice TO BE IT, hold this well and GO ALL THE WAY is the key!

  33. Wan Wai Meng on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:19 pm

    Samsara and the Buddha and our Guru are opposites. The Guru/Buddha actually cares and wants us to be alright, samsara does not care and just gets us to create more and more karma to create and endless cycle of rebirths. I feel Rinpoche always pushing us to learn things, absorb knowledge and etc etc is to make us better and better, as we should never be selective in a spiritual path and keep doing until we become enlightened, develop Bodhicitta or reach a stage that we have reached our potential in this life. Why because we have a precious human life that can bring us to more rounds in samsara or give us control of our existence so which one do we want?

    What I am saying is that for a student’s welfare Rinpoche has to fight against our delusions, our samsara and samsara in general, and what he has at his disposal is what we allow the lama, so at any time Rinpoche is trying to better you he is putting in tremendous efforts to figure out a way or method that can reach us, and most of the to time we don’t make it easy on Rinpoche. How much more we can receive help is how much good karma we have in the guru student relationship. Once exhausted due to it being used up and not replenished then even if the lama wants to help you there will be overwhelming obstacles.

  34. tsemtulku on Feb 14, 2012 at 5:16 pm

    Future tense is senseless. Wishes for the future is unsure. Be what you wish now. No one controls your body, speech and mind. So you don’t need to transform your body speech and mind in the future. Fortitude and tenacity is achievable now. if you don’t achieve it-then it is a choice. Pick the right choices. In real dharma with real dharma friends and real dharma work and real dharma environment, there is no future tense. We may not even be alive tomorrow. It is now. Your body, speech and mind is controlled by you..so don’t blame a third person that is fictitious. Don’t make your teacher a liar and Buddha not real..be here and now. Have the qualities now. You are in control of yourself. Your teacher is not a liar and there is a Buddha…Sarva Mangalam….Tsem Rinpoche

    • Yoke Fui on May 26, 2012 at 3:22 pm

      This I learned from Rinpoche – whether we can physically do the assignment now , tomorrow or half an hour later , we must be mentally committed to finish it the moment we said YES to our guru.

      If we have this mindset, like Muhammad Ali said : “Impossible is NOTHING “

  35. henry ooi on Feb 13, 2012 at 5:36 pm

    Just like the person who apologized, I too, have similar weaknesses pointed by Rinpoche in this post. My weaknesses may have varying degrees but they are still weaknesses that I have to improve on.

    That would be for me to improve on and not let others suffer if I really want to practice dharma.

    Thank you, Rinpoche.

  36. Li Kheng on Feb 4, 2012 at 12:17 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing and for using every opportunity to teach us the Dharma.

    It is so sad that we tend to harm and take for granted those kindest to us. Perhaps we have the ignorance and arrogance to believe that these people will never abandon us. However, we forget the law of cause and effect (karma) that will eventually catch up with us and run its course.

    Living in the midst of a “dog eat dog world”, I witness that repeated mistakes and non-compliance are not tolerated. Consequently, everyone behaves themselves and play by the rule to keep their roles. Just to clarify, this situation applies to personal relationships as well, e.g. if a guy does not maintain his girlfriend “properly”, he will soon be replaced by a better candidate.

    This is not the case in the world of pure Dharma where Rinpoche has 1) patiently accepted mistakes, 2) tried to help wrongdoers discover the root of their problem and overcome it as well as 3) shower His “employees” with Dharma gifts and teachings (as we can see in constant blog updates).

    As smart people, which world would you choose? I believe the answer is the Dharma world for many of us. So, if we are smart enough to choose the Dharma world, let’s further develop our intelligence (I dare not speak of wisdom from the level we are currently operating) to stay in this world by abiding the centuries-old law of karma.

    It could be hard to perfectly complete all the Dharma tasks assigned but it is no easier in the secular world. The difference is: in the Dharma world the challenges we are given are designed to strengthen our minds that will benefit us lifetime after lifetime while in the secular world the bulk of our so called achievements are allocated to pay for the lifestyle of the bosses.

    So let’s buck up and help each other as dharma students by watching out for each other, actively giving honest feedback (so that our Guru does not have to), and ensuring we all get the job done perfectly. Now, that is true team spirit, which I believe will contribute to the group’s positive collective karma.

  37. Elsie Toy on Feb 2, 2012 at 7:56 am

    Dearest Rinppoche

    Thank you very much for sharing with us. I very much like the way you pen it straight forward and direct to our problems. Looking for easy way out and let others cover for us and creating the workload for our counterparts working with us. This happens everywhere in any general organizations and do create frustrations for others with them. We do have all our problems as long as we live we have problems may it be money, self esteem and up bringing. Yes, these are all excuses we use when we failed and think it is acceptable but some forget that the person one work with also has their own set of problems but just because the handle it better then other we assumed they do not have their problems.
    I really like this letter it makes me think harder and it give the impact on me to be more conscience of myself and the quality of work that I produce, and others.

    Thank you very much Rinpoche.

  38. Liz Fields on Feb 2, 2012 at 3:21 am

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for sharing this! As you have said everyone has problems. Many people come to Dharma in the hope that it will be easier for them to “fix” their problems. At first they are all hyped up but then later they realize that it is not as easy as they thought it was (nothing is easy in life anyway.) People come to Dharma to better themselves (among other reasons) and this is a good thing. But if people are not going to do the work, then why are they here? If they are not going to do what their guru tells them, then why come to teachings practices, sit in front of the guru and get inspired. It is like the gurus words go in one ear and out the other. The people that do this don’t even study, contemplate and meditate. They just smile and nod and listen to the gurus teaching without studying, contemplating, meditating and implementing it in their daily life. If you are really serious please buck up, do the work and practices that have been given to you with a smile and happiness. No excuses or arguing! This is just my opinion and I do not mean any disrespect, ill will ect. I am just voicing my opinion. Again thank you for sharing this, and I am off to do the practice given to me by my teacher. Hope things are well! 🙂

    • Tsem Tulku Rinpoche on Feb 2, 2012 at 4:06 am

      Dear Liz, I like your straightforward, no-nonsense approach. Be real to yourself. Be real to your spiritual journey. Be real to your teacher. Be real to the people around you. Deception knowing and unknowing only invites more pain. So just be real. Face yourself and do the work well now. Not tomorrow or later…but now. Thanks Liz. TR

  39. jht on Feb 2, 2012 at 1:47 am

    Dear Rimpoche,

    Thank you for your advice to all of us.
    My opinion only – to be able to prostrate at the feet of a guru and to have full devotion to the Guru is the basis of all blessings.
    To change – a person must practice the teachings given by the Guru. The change will come gradually as our defilements are deeply buried in us. Faith and devotion is the key to the ‘changing’. Only a small opinion.
    thank you rimpoche from a ‘student’

    • Lily on Feb 2, 2012 at 2:21 am

      Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this letter in the blog. There is no denying the truth in Rinpoche’s response to this apology. We get gung-ho when we first get involved in dharma but without commitments, over time this fell by the sidelines as we get caught up with our mundane activities again.It is much easier to be involved with samsaric activities as the main focus is ourselves. The only person we are disappointing is ‘ME’ as we cannot face the honest truth of what we are. I have come to the conclusion that I have not developed enough compassion to bring benefit to others for if I did, there would be no obstacles to doing dharma work.I have to let go of the concept of the ‘perfect’ condition for it will never arises and JUST DO.The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak…

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  • samfoonheei
    Tuesday, May 24. 2016 05:33 PM
    Dear Rinpoche thanks for sharing these beautiful photos of Manjushri Statue. I havent got s chance to see it yet but from what i heard and read its such a beautiful Statue..I will visit it some day to see it myself.May all be blessed by this beautiful Manjushri Statue at KFR.
    Thanks again for sharing
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/kechara-13-depts/4-arm-manjushri-at-kfr.html
  • Lin Mun
    Tuesday, May 24. 2016 06:04 AM
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing thing article. I agree that a lot of people mixed up secular and spiritual for each convenience.

    Should a person choose a spiritual path then he or she should act in accordance to it. The ban and segregation in Tibet to those people who practice Dorje Shugden is not right. Every human has religious freedom and choice of practice. Dorje Shugden practitioners will continue their practice because it is given by their Guru. In Tibetan Buddhism it is very important not to break the samaya with Guru. So for those who do not agree with it then it is fine but they cannot harm the Shugden practitioners and even critised or discriminate them. I hope the ban on Shugden will be lifted soon and stop the sufferings of the practitioners.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/are-you-secular-or-spiritual.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Monday, May 23. 2016 02:05 PM
    Every chapter of His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche’s life is an inspiration to mundane being like us. He grew up separated from biological parents, suffered in the hands of abusive parents, and faced endless obstacles for wanting to be learn and spread dharma; yet, His Eminence never sway from His purpose in life. He could have led a life of celebrity in Hollywood since His Eminence was tall, dark and handsome. He could have ran when the poor living condition in Zong Ladrang was unbearable; sleeping in the cow shred with leaky roof and full of mosquitoes. He could have left when there was no sponsors to send money and support His monthly sundry expenses, and He had to rely on only of Tsampa (barley flour) mixed with tea for all His meals. But He stayed, and taught Buddha Dharma without any resentment on the harshness life He encountered. He is always kind and loving, always find ways to benefit others, unconditionally. He is truly a living Buddha.

    Thank you Rinpoche and Valentina for this structured and neat compilation of the Biography of His Eminence. I hope many more people will now get to read about His Eminence.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/h-e-the-25th-tsem-tulku-rinpoches-biography.html

  • Stella Cheang
    Monday, May 23. 2016 01:44 PM
    Our mind is important. What the mind thinks it becomes. Mr Rodrigues is right in pointing out that our mind in the root of manifestation of certain circumstance or event that we may term as being negative or positive. We can label this method as the Law of Attraction, which advocates positive thoughts attract circumstances which are of a like nature. Law of Attraction does help with uplifting us from negative perpetuation in the mundane world. But it lacks the ascendancy over the profound understanding of life and the way things work. As such, I am incline to believe that people who practice Law of Attraction heavily tend to negate the fact of Karma, because they cannot grasp the gist of Karma – it operates not just in this lifetime but over many, many lifetimes, past and future. We must take the responsibility of our previous actions and make the changes to correct them. In my humble opinion, Law of Attraction (positive thinking) is just about one of the means to the end.

    Thank you Rinpoche and Herman Rodrigues for this interesting article that allow me to ponder deeper on Law of Attraction.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/karma-and-the-law-of-attraction.html
  • Yeo Kwai Gin
    Monday, May 23. 2016 01:48 AM
    Yeo Kwai Gin on May 23, 2016 at 1:46 am
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing how to make people like us immediately article.

    After finish reading this article,i found that a lot of people who more popular around me containing above of conditions . It was a lot have to learned from people get along.
    I am more introverted, so i am not much friends along, and Rinpoche emphasis and methods above, they are the good way for me to learned.
    Since i meet Rinpoche and especially watch Rinpoche dharma talk ” Nothing Changes,Everything Changes ” DVD, i start study and trying to improve from trouble and people get along what i am facing everyday instead of blaming always.
    Among learning, i realise that get along with others, if i always think on side of “me” to manage the conflict, i well get negative results finally. But , if i always thinking on the side of others, i will have a consensus and learned much from it. With heart of compassion, Diligently, honesty, care, help each others also are the keys to improve realtionship each others and can acheive win win results.

    Thank you Rinpoche.

    With Folded Hands
    Yeo Kwai Gin

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/psychological-tricks-how-to-make-people-like-you-immediately.html
  • Lin Mun
    Sunday, May 22. 2016 11:40 PM
    Thank you for sharing your experience in Tai Chi and how it relates to your spiritual practice. I go agree that it both gel as Tai Chi is also a practice of our mind.

    The movement seems easy but require lots of focus and concentration. Hence it is a practice of our mind towards our body movement and balances.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/art-architecture/tai-chi-and-spirituality.html
  • Lin Mun
    Sunday, May 22. 2016 10:39 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this article.

    There are some methods which I feel iare applicable and some are not. To me various people have different expectation of a relationship be it family , colleague, friends, clients, customers and etc. Each want have different expectation and needs when we talked to them. it is how we label them.

    I believe most importantly we should always have good motivation, honest and sincere when talking to anybody. Then in turns would build a good impression.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/psychological-tricks-how-to-make-people-like-you-immediately.html#comments
  • Pastor Adeline
    Friday, May 20. 2016 06:26 AM
    The courage Neerja shown is spontaneous without a sign of hesitation which obviously arise from compassion and selflessness. She is an inspiration, to say the least. Neerja showed us our life is worthless when we focus solely on ourselves.

    Our life is insignificant as compared to many others we have responsibilities to take care and guard. When we know more, we are in the position to help, guide and protect just like a senior to junior, a mother to her child. This kind of action reflects the level of our maturity and care.

    I wish many will be inspired by Neerja and allow our similar qualities to shine for the benefit of others.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/neerja-bhanot-a-selfless-heroine.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Thursday, May 19. 2016 01:31 PM
    For the Tibetan in exile society where serfdom was just a recent past and still going through fascism albeit under guised, it is no wonder that they bent easily in the face of threat and oppression. People would rather comply with an illogical ban and abandon their spiritual promise than risk being at the bottom of the society and being spit upon. Many view HHDL as their spiritual guide hence his decree to abandon Dorje Shugden did not come as an issue for them. But this is a misguided understanding.

    Pastor David put here very plainly the correct view: “If one has a simple Geshe as one’s teacher alongside HHDL, both should be considered equal in our practice. There is no higher-ranking Guru in our practice. According to the 50 Stanzas of Guru Devotion by Ashvagosha, if we cannot engage in Dorje Shugden’s practice because we choose to abide by the ban, we have to return to the teacher who had given us the practice to explain and seek permission to give up our practice. If the teacher is no longer alive, we are bound by the commitment for life and we cannot simply give up the practice if we want to truly advance in our spiritual practice.”

    Hence, for those who abandon Dorje Shugden practice for whatever reasons they choose to believe in, please know that you have forsaken your precious samaya with the lama who had given the practice to you and hence, any spiritual dimension to this direction is GONE.

    I choose to believe and trust my lama because He places His spiritual practice and samaya with His guru at the utmost priority of His life. Even at the face of being ostracised within the Tibetan community and being physically threaten. His action is out of pure devotion to His Guru and possesses no vested interest in pursuing a popularity contest. When we find a Guru who possesses these qualities, we must never forsake our Guru, as stated in the 50 Stanza of Guru Devotion by Ashvagosha.

    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor David for this clear and concise write up. I hope those for had deserted their Dorje Shugden lama and practice get to read and understand it, and seize any opportunity to mend their samaya with their lama.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/our-lama-vs-the-dalai-lama-the-underlying-reasons-for-the-ban.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    Thursday, May 19. 2016 04:58 AM
    The thing that Tibetans or Tibetan Buddhists tend to mix up is their devotion to their root guru and His Holiness the Dalai Lama. In the history and culture of Tibet, it seems that His Holiness has been held in high regard where his words override one’s root guru, who in comparison, actually guides, leads, teaches, cares and make an impact on one’s life.

    His Holiness is a spiritual leader of Tibet who oversees the religious matters of Tibet, more specifically, only that of the Gelug tradition. This role is more like an administrative role that makes sure harmony or rime is being practiced within all traditions to bring peace to Tibetan Buddhists. He does not provide personal guidance, nor does he has time to guide individuals on a personal level and overseeing their spiritual growth.

    This nature is what we have to see clearly and understand, so we are not confused between his role and that of our root guru. It is obvious that we hold the samaya with our root guru who confers teachings to us and guides us gradually on our path to enlightenment. If he gives us Dorje Shugden practice, we go all the way with it. By doing so, we create the cause to lift the Dorje Shugden ban!

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/our-lama-vs-the-dalai-lama-the-underlying-reasons-for-the-ban.html
  • Lin Mun
    Wednesday, May 18. 2016 11:36 PM
    Thank you Herman for this interesting article. Coincidentally I was thinking about the law of attraction today.

    I agree that we should learn law of attraction through karma. For example there is no point just thinking that we will get healthy but we did not do anything about it or eating excessively on unhealthy food.

    We experience what we have as a result of our own creation. Hence our mind is very important as it determine our action. We should always have a positive mind set and set positive motivation as it will then produce good positive result.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/karma-and-the-law-of-attraction.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, May 18. 2016 09:41 PM
    It is very exciting to see such a grandeurs temple like Zu Lai Temple being set up in Brazil. It is the largest temple in Latin America. Zu Lai Temple is a branch of Fo Guang Shan, hence it follows the four Main Objectives established by Master Hsing Yun:

    • To propagate Buddhist teachings through cultural activities
    • To foster talent through education
    • To benefit society through charitable programs
    • To purify human hearts and minds through Buddhist practice

    We rejoice in seeing this beautiful temple benefitting people in the Latin America. Thank You Rinpoche for the sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/zu-lai-temple-the-largest-buddhist-temple-in-south-america.html
  • Pastor Adeline
    Wednesday, May 18. 2016 12:22 PM
    The research confirms our mind decide who we want to be, how we want to be perceived, understood and accepted. Whatever we wish for ourselves, we wish for others to do the same, whether it is positive or negative.

    For a spiritual practitioner, these threads are important for us to recognise and realise so it makes it easier for us to move forward and improve. A success on the spiritual path is measured by the our level of empathy, care and understanding, which in return helps us strike for a win-win situation more effectively.

    Generally, we are selfish, we want things our ways and basically wants the world to listen to us. The fact is that since everyone is selifh, everyone would want the same as us. This direction will not bring us any success and definitely not to become a likable person.

    Success in life is easily achievable when we understand ourselves and others’ needs.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/psychological-tricks-how-to-make-people-like-you-immediately.html
  • Jason
    Wednesday, May 18. 2016 02:39 AM
    I just bought this book few weeks ago at Kechara House.It is really a very interesting and informative book about Guru Devotion. I am very respect on Tsem Rinpoche on how he devoted to his Root Guru Zong Rinpoche. Most important is practice 50 verses of Guru Devotion with 9 attitudes.By practice it, we can destroy our ego,arrogant and create a clean samaya with our Guru. This will enhance our spiritual practice and transformation of our mind to be selflessness.
    Although my English is not good but I found that this book is really easy to understand.
    Thanks Rinpoche , You are my spiritual teacher.
    With folded hands,
    Jason

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/students-friends/gurus-for-hire-enlightenment-for-sale%e2%80%93-a-review.html
  • Jason
    Wednesday, May 18. 2016 01:06 AM
    Thanks Lodreu Rabsel Rinpoche’s dare to voice out the real situation happen in Kagyu Buddhism. If this letter not disclose, I am sure many outsider still not clear about the controversy within Dalai Lama,Kagyu ,Gelug and the religious freedom issue in Tibet.
    In my point of view, the situation in Kagyu is about same as DS practising in Gelug Buddhism which DS practitioner had been discriminated. Politic shouldn’t involve in Buddhism. H.H Dalai Lama get involved in Kaygu lineage will caused division in their lineage.Karmapa incarnation should be follow the tradition of Kagyu lineage and not follow the leader of Tibetan.
    In Tibetan Buddhism, guru devotion is crucial element for a practitioner to have high attainment .Practitioner must devoted to their Guru’s lineage .I hope Tibetan Buddhism will not divided by political issue.Religious freedom must be practiced to let more people get benefits on dharma.
    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing this article. It is very informative and interesting to read on this article.
    With folded hands,
    Jason

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/dorje-shugden/karma-kagyus-lodreu-rabsel-rinpoche-asks-the-dalai-lama-for-religious-freedom.html#comments

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The Unknown

The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
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Gaden Jangtse Kensur Rinpoche Lobsang Chojor together with Tsem Rinpoche in Gaden Monastery
2 weeks ago
May 31, 1990, the day Tsem Rinpoche was enthroned formally in Gaden Shartse Monastery
2 weeks ago
Panglung Oracle in trance back in 1925
2 weeks ago
More lamas/Tibetans are speaking up. This has nothing to do with Dorje Shugden ban although it helps the Dorje Shugden cause because there is more unrest and disharmony from many sectors within Tibetans showing the world so many are unhappy with the leadership.-Lodreu Rabsel Rinpoche's strong letter to the Dalai Lama regarding giving religious freedom within the Karma Kagyu sect of Buddhism is a MUST READ- and he is applauded as courageous for writing this: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=99364
3 weeks ago
The beautiful truth
3 weeks ago
Manjushri notes
3 weeks ago
Karma Kagyu’s Lodreu Rabsel Rinpoche asks the Dalai Lama for Religious Freedom-This is explosive-Must read! http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=99364
3 weeks ago
The place where Lord Tsongkapa's holy remains are housed for pilgrims to visit in Gaden Monastery Tibet.
3 weeks ago
How death is so near, yet I cherish my ego more than my guru, more than his instructions and my protector. They are the only ones significant at death for me and yet I still think I have time. Tsem Rinpoche 
4 weeks ago
Would be so nice to live in an area where Bigfoot is prevalent and sighted. That would include mountains and lakes too.
4 weeks ago
Because of the ban against Dorje Shugden followers started in 1996, 700 monks had to cut from Sera Mey Monastery and start this new monastery. This new Serpom Monastery located in South India still suffers tremendous hatred and prejudice, but the brave monks continue their practice and lineage.
4 weeks ago
Vietnamese monk who self immolated hoping to bring change in his country. He sacrificed his life and sat still during the immense pain of his body burning.
4 weeks ago
Protector of the Sakya School of Buddhism, Gonpo Gur or Mahakala Panjarnata
4 weeks ago
Such a wondrous place to be with such a view that heals the soul. Why live in a city where it is unnatural and polluted. Everyday in the city is a day away from where we belong. We belong among the greens, forest, mountains and clean air. We belong in such a place and doing our retreats, sadhanas and mantras to find the ultimate place of belonging and peace....the ultimate place is within us with a developed spiritual mind. Hard to achieve among distractions in the city. 
4 weeks ago
This is the five foot Arya Avalokitesvara statue I have offered Gaden Shartse Monastery many years ago. It still graces the main prayer hall of Gaden Shartse Monastery.
4 weeks ago
Painting of 31st Sakya Trizin Kunga Lodro- Did you know that 7 of the great throneholders of the Sakya lineage of Tibetan Buddhism practiced Dorje Shugden and even composed extensive prayers to him? Take a look here and see what you can learn: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=98227
1 month ago
This is a good motto to work by within a team.
1 month ago
Beautiful painting of Pandit Naropa
1 month ago
Beautiful painting of Lord Buddha's miraculous birth.
1 month ago
Beautiful image of Tara.
1 month ago
This is a good read. Evocative and memory filled: http://www.davidlai.me/2015/04/20/memory-of-the-vw-van/
1 month ago
Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche and Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
It was nice to meet them.
1 month ago
Good friends came to visit me. I was happy to see them as they have brave hearts and pure samaya. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Lef to right: Cousin Tsagan, dad, Aunt Meda, mom, sister Lidshma, cousin Liz, Aunt Elena, friend from France and Susie in Green dress. People whom I am fond of from the distant past..
2 months ago
Some friends went on a spiritual pilgrimage to Nepal recently and when they returned they gifted me with these wonderful books on Yeti/Bigfoot which I don't have. Wow! I like to thank Ms. Yee Lee, Mr. Swee Keong, Ms. Phoebe Yong, Mr. CK Siah & Ms. Wei Theng for their generosity and indulging me in my bigfoot hobby. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
The famous 5th Panglung Oracle
2 months ago
Mysterious print of Pelden Hlamo the Goddess protector
2 months ago
This is a thangka of Cittamani Tara where her body mandala appears clearly. This image was circulated back in Thubten Dhargye Ling when HH Zong Rinpoche taught her sacred practice which was a pure vision of Thapu Dorje Chang. Thapu Dorje Chang received this practice in a pure vision. He was the guru of Pabongka Rinpoche.
2 months ago
Beautiful article on the Drigung Kagyu Achi Chokyi Drolma: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=94766
2 months ago
Tsem Rinpoche making offerings of robes to Lord Buddha in Bodhgaya
2 months ago
What was once very beautiful destroyed by hatred, anger and prejudice.
2 months ago
What His Holiness Panchen Rinpoche composed about Dorje Shugden: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=87240
2 months ago
Comprehensive proof of Dorje Shugden in the Sakya school of Buddhism even before Gelugpa. Interesting: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=92860
2 months ago
When we see others who behave not according to our expectations and just to ‘get them back’ we throw all caution to the wind and we get angry, retaliate, fight back, scream, yell and then quit, it shows our mind. Everything is about our own mind. That is not to say they are not at fault. But if we want the world to act perfectly in our presence and then we don’t get angry, that is SO INCREDIBLE IDEALISTIC AND WE ARE DOOMED FROM THE START in anything we do. We have to keep our equilibrium always. Remember our vows, promises and our own state of mind. Be kind to ourselves and not let the other person throw us off because we have to be in control of our own minds. Remember, our mind and how it reacts is the key.--- H.E Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Ekai Kawaguchi -Three Years in Tibet-Read more: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=92725
2 months ago
Read about the Hawaiian Pele Goddess: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=92534
2 months ago
Good friends. March 2016
2 months ago
Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche meeting with Kyabje Pabongka Rinpoche March-2016.
2 months ago
My dog Mumu is so cute always
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  • Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
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    Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
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    Dorje Shugden oracle taking trance in China
  • Taking Trance
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    Taking Trance
  • See what humans can do
    3 months ago
    See what humans can do
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    Shocking undercover video shows animal abuse at 'humane cert
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    Video reveals what goes on inside 'humane slaughterhouse' in
  • People can really live their lives to save others. This is a good way to live. Beautiful video.
    3 months ago
    People can really live their lives to save others. This is a good way to live. Beautiful video.
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    5 months ago
    All beings have feelings and do not want pain, to be hurt or harmed. Therefore we must respect this and not harm animals. See this video how this man has made good friends with a special fish who comes when he rings for the fish. Touching. Tsem Rinpoche
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    8 months ago
    HH the Dalai Lama prays with HH Trijang Rinpoche and HH Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche. Such a beautiful video of His Holiness Dalai Lama, His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and His Holiness Dilgo Kyentse Rinpoche (Very exalted high Nyingma lama) are all praying together. In the background you see a young Kyabje Lati Rinpoche too. So beautiful. This is how it was before the ban. All the sects and high lamas were superbly harmonious. After the Dorje Shugden ban things changed for the worse. May the ban be released soon. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Nice Dorje Shugden rock painting
    8 months ago
    Nice Dorje Shugden rock painting
  • His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
    9 months ago
    His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche teaches the truth of life and our impeding death.
  • A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
    9 months ago
    A kind message from Mr. Tsering Wangchuk to me. Thank you so much. Tsem Rinpoche
  • Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 1)
    9 months ago
    Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 1)
  • Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 2)
    9 months ago
    Mr Chatreng Yeshe's message to me (Part 2)
  • His Holiness Trijang Rinpoche accepts Long Life puja
    10 months ago
    His Holiness Trijang Rinpoche accepts Long Life puja

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