No more excuses please

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Dear friends,

I received yet another apology from a student. And it has been many times already over the last two years with this person. I care about this person very much, but the situation is nearly the same. So I wrote a reply. I thought I’d share the reply. It might help or be applicable to some of us. I do not profess to know everything or have all the answers, but I do know doing our work well is essential. I am certainly not above it, but I still have to plug on and get things done just like everyone else. This is a private email but I will have it here without the name in the spirit of hoping it will benefit others. Forgive me if it sounds offensive, I do not mean it to be.

 

Tsem Rinpoche

 


 

Dear XXXX,

It’s very simple, you want ‘in’ or ‘out’? If you want out, you know life and the meaningless drudgery of it you will be going back to. You know your end result like many towards the end of your life will be meaningless death. The very purpose you are in dharma now is you have seen through the fallacies of life’s empty samsaric promises. That is the real reason underlying all reasons.

If you are in, you join an accepting group of people who literally wants to make a difference in the world. It is not by nice words, drinking endless cups of coffee in cafes, bantering gossip about friends and life in restaurants or rubbing shoulders with this or that friends who are just as unhappy as you BUT without a clue to a solution. You are in an organization that I am the head of and will work very hard. We have a philosophy derived from sacred Gaden and we have an immaculate protector(s). We have direction, we have purpose, we have hope and we have AN INCREDIBLE GOAL. You cannot find this anywhere.

Whether you are in or out IS NOT PHYSICAL BUT MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL. You may be in, but if you are still attached to your old life of sleep, deceptive freedom, friends, conveniences, easy life, socializing et al, then you will not perform well here or anywhere. Whether you want to do work in secular or spiritual, it is the same qualities that will get you there. What did the life of secular ’freedom’ you had before Kechara bring you? Got you where? Resulted in what? What have you achieved? Whatever you are failing in Kechara is what you were failing in before you came to Kechara. What your parents didn’t teach you, is left to me to teach you. Whatever insecurities and failures you feel or self-hatred you feel before Kechara you brought into Kechara and into my world and you leave it to me to deal with.

If you are a bad communications person, then you make me and Kecharians suffer now for it. Lots of time spent to find out the real communications, repairs, extra energy and resources to do things over.

If you are not a hard worker, you burden Kecharians to cover for you. They have to do their share and cover what you didn’t do.

If you like to cover mistakes, then you make Kecharians spend more time to talk to you, find out what happened and that time could have been spent better.

If you like the night life, easy life, fun life and convenient life, then you make everyone else around you who want to work with you, work harder to cover for you. To accommodate you. Accommodating you is not the reason you came to dharma. It’s the opposite in fact.

If you are late, undisciplined, not on time, always give excuses and always do your work sloppily, you make Kecharians put up with this, tolerate this, be patient with this and also forgive you again and again and again with your myriad deliciously worded apologies.

If your mind goes up and down and up and down like a see-saw, it is not Kechara who made you this way. You came this way. Staying in Kechara you will see-saw and leaving Kechara you will see-saw in your new environment. In fact in your new environment you will see-saw worse having experienced the blessings of Kechara and our goals. Your see-sawing mind is because you are lazy, impatient and want the easy way out. When you don’t get that, you get sad, depressed, question why you are here. But that is what you have been doing your whole life.

When you make promises to your teacher or your fellow dharma staff and you don’t keep it, you set such a bad example. You reaffirm your failure of before entering Kechara. Whatever you did not achieve before you entered Kechara, you are leaving it to me and those around you to pick up your pieces daily and ‘retrain’ you to achieve… think….

You see, whatever mental or emotional problems you developed before Kechara, the people around you have it also. You, me and all of us suffer variations of the same problems and mental downs…When you show these traits again and again, you make them trigger in other people. Does that mean you can never be unhappy and pretend you’re enlightened? Of course not… but up or down, you still have TO DO YOUR WORK WELL, PERFECTLY AND TO COMPLETION. EVERYONE IN THE WORLD WHETHER THEY ARE UP OR DOWN MUST PRODUCE WORK RESULTS TO SURVIVE TO LIVE.

Whether you are in Kechara or not, you will be up and down and you still have to produce. But outside of Kechara, rarely do others want to or will cover you over and over again. You affect those around you severely… we all do. It becomes a chain reaction. You can cause those around you to have doubts, be depressed, be demotivated, not perform well and when you finally ‘bounce’ back from your current down episode, the people around you are down again… Then they drag others down. Then when they come up, you are in your endless cycle of down again. So it is a chain reaction… and how do you control it? Well there is no magic formula, you just focus on your goals and control it. How would you control it without Kechara? Same, you focus on your goals and control it in Kechara or in the secular.

If you have been a person without goals and now you are in a rush-rush hectic Kecharian environment of goal driven environment, count yourself lucky. Why? Because together with others you can achieve what you couldn’t achieve alone before you entered Kechara. Since you ‘don’t’ perform well, have so many ups and downs and you are not driven, then rather than paddle 1,000 miles on a static lake to get to the shore, you are on a river where you paddle and the river pushes you towards the other end also. The river is likened to many others around you that are into the same goal and work hard. Better to be on a river than paddling on your own. Think carefully of my example.

I receive hundreds of apologies over the years, very few move me or make me believe. I fight being cynical all the time. Why? Because so many disappoint me time and time again. If a few persons disappoint you and you feel down, then you are selfish. Because think of the hundreds over decades that disappoint me and I still have to keep going. Why? Because I am better than you, no not really…but because I focus on the goal and not my emotions as much. I focus on my goals and realize without dharma goals I HAVE NOTHING. My example is all the people around me. They have nothing of worth and value they can take at death yet they live as if there is no death. Silly self deception. Silly selfishness hidden behind depressions, down time and feeling like we can’t do it.

You are mature and older and you have to be double most of the people around you. Age is suppose to confer wisdom, maturity, stability and qualities others may look up to. If you are nearing forty, or forty or older, then you have a sacred responsibility to act forty. And combined with the secular wisdom of a mature person, top them off with dharma and voila you should be a shining light to all those around you.

You should be a person who is stable, does what you say, does not forget promises, tells the truth, works hard, nurtures others younger and older people (some come to dharma late or realize the truth late) and take your dharma work as your saviour which it is. Dharma work is your saviour. What does it save you from?? Dharma saves you from you!

Apologies are the first step but it does not purchase the respect you lost and the loss of confidence and deep pain, hurt and disappointments you have created. Apologies do not mend or make up for all the resources you have caused to be wasted. The single most important resource we have is the friendship/love and support we have in Kechara from those around us. This love and support will NEVER BE FOUND ANYWHERE ELSE.

Apology letters sometimes make me angry. Because you can’t rob someone and then it’s ok with just a letter. How can someone consistently do harm, not do their work well, not do their job well, burden others, make others disappointed, damage others and then it’s forgotten with a letter. People who do not do their work well do not deserve to be here by right. They are here because we have compassion and mercy. We love our people. Having said that, the Kecharians may be kind and forgiving, but your karma is ruthless. Karma is unbiased. What you have done, when it fruitions, will make you lose the most precious things you have. No words, apologies and delicious explanations will help you.

Buck up now. Change now. Whatever you have been failing at, do not expect Kechara or Kecharians or others to cover for you or constantly forgive. If you don’t buck up and constantly burden others, it’s not a matter of forgiveness, it’s that the work still has to get on. It still has to complete.

 

BOTTOM LINE-

 

We all have:

anger

low self esteem

fear

perhaps bad upbringing

disappointments

hurt

pain

feeling sorry for ourselves

hiding

wanting ‘easy’ life whatever that really means

tragedies

failures

laziness

attachments, etc etc etc etc and endless variations of the above and more etc…

 

BUT THE KEY IS:

Since all of us have these, why do some people still do their work well with all their emotional baggage? And some people use the emotional baggage as an excuse for not doing their work well? Either way, we all have the same emotional/disciplinary problems. Why do some people still perform and do their work well even with the baggage still? Because some hold their responsibilities firm and some have had very little responsibilities,’training’ them to be flippant about it most of their lives. Someone has always covered for them. This is the key for some. We all have to produce. How much is if we have had anyone to lean on.  But if we have lived a life of not producing anything much or  someone covered for us always, then we continue our ways now burdening a new set of people we are involved with. Dumping our excuses on them or dumping our work on them using our emotional baggage for sympathy/excuse for not performing.  But you know what, deep down inside all of us, we do not want to burden or hurt others. And we know what to do. So do it. JUST DO IT. WHETHER YOU ARE NEW IN DHARMA OR OLD IN DHARMA, IS NOT THE POINT, RESPONSIBILITIES AND YOUR WORDS OF HONOUR (INTEGRITY) IS THE SAME.

So don’t wait for yourself to become a ‘better’ person. YOU ARE THE BETTER PERSON NOW IF YOU CHOOSE. NOW. Don’t wait for dharma to sink in and you change, that is wrong. We all have responsibilities, so just do it irregardless.

Do not take anything for granted. Do not assume. Do not take anything lightly. Do what you are supposed to do and do it now and well. Excuses had all been said and explained. If you keep failing, my love and care for you will never cease, but will you have the karma to keep the most precious thing in your life?

Tsem Rinpoche

 

This is in reply to XXXXX (below), but in hindsight, might benefit many. And also this is not to ‘get’ or embarrass XXXXX. It is for reflection please.

 


 

 Dearest Rinpoche,

I apologise for the disappointment I have caused. I do care about Rinpoche a lot and it breaks my heart to know i am causing more pain than relief for Rinpoche.


 
This is in no way a poor me reflection because i do really want to help Rinpoche in any way i can and i know i can do it.
 
My inconsistency i have come to realise, stems from me not caring enough and assuming things are done and not following through. And also largely due to me thinking i have everything sorted out in my head and in control but being big headed and stubborn, that if i do drop the ball or when someone points out my faults or mistakes, i get defensive and close up and at times even try to cover most unconvincingly (but my pride makes me think otherwise).


 
I also do realise i do fight/stop these negative thoughts/actions and catch them more these days. I know i am not perfect but i know i am improving as a person through the grace of Rinpoche. And i do realise fully that whatever actions Rinpoche takes in pushing my buttons is for my benefit and am very thankful and blessed to have the merits to receive such methods of teaching in this day and age!


 
I will not go into a whole song and dance of how i am going to improve but what i will do is just BE that person Rinpoche can trust and be proud of and cut the rest of the poor me crap out! 


 
Through my realisations of late, i have written the following to reflect on which i would like to humbly share with Rinpoche:

”A lifetime of bad habits can be changed with a mere switch in attitude. A lifetime of heavy baggage can be lightened by just LETTING GO!”


 
I hope Rinpoche rested well.
 
Much love… XXXXXX

( The person in the  photo above is myself.  Tsem Rinpoche)

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42 Responses to No more excuses please

  1. jht on Feb 2, 2012 at 1:47 am

    Dear Rimpoche,

    Thank you for your advice to all of us.
    My opinion only – to be able to prostrate at the feet of a guru and to have full devotion to the Guru is the basis of all blessings.
    To change – a person must practice the teachings given by the Guru. The change will come gradually as our defilements are deeply buried in us. Faith and devotion is the key to the ‘changing’. Only a small opinion.
    thank you rimpoche from a ‘student’

    • Lily on Feb 2, 2012 at 2:21 am

      Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this letter in the blog. There is no denying the truth in Rinpoche’s response to this apology. We get gung-ho when we first get involved in dharma but without commitments, over time this fell by the sidelines as we get caught up with our mundane activities again.It is much easier to be involved with samsaric activities as the main focus is ourselves. The only person we are disappointing is ‘ME’ as we cannot face the honest truth of what we are. I have come to the conclusion that I have not developed enough compassion to bring benefit to others for if I did, there would be no obstacles to doing dharma work.I have to let go of the concept of the ‘perfect’ condition for it will never arises and JUST DO.The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak…

  2. Liz Fields on Feb 2, 2012 at 3:21 am

    Dear Rinpoche,
    Thank you for sharing this! As you have said everyone has problems. Many people come to Dharma in the hope that it will be easier for them to “fix” their problems. At first they are all hyped up but then later they realize that it is not as easy as they thought it was (nothing is easy in life anyway.) People come to Dharma to better themselves (among other reasons) and this is a good thing. But if people are not going to do the work, then why are they here? If they are not going to do what their guru tells them, then why come to teachings practices, sit in front of the guru and get inspired. It is like the gurus words go in one ear and out the other. The people that do this don’t even study, contemplate and meditate. They just smile and nod and listen to the gurus teaching without studying, contemplating, meditating and implementing it in their daily life. If you are really serious please buck up, do the work and practices that have been given to you with a smile and happiness. No excuses or arguing! This is just my opinion and I do not mean any disrespect, ill will ect. I am just voicing my opinion. Again thank you for sharing this, and I am off to do the practice given to me by my teacher. Hope things are well! :)

    • Tsem Tulku Rinpoche on Feb 2, 2012 at 4:06 am

      Dear Liz, I like your straightforward, no-nonsense approach. Be real to yourself. Be real to your spiritual journey. Be real to your teacher. Be real to the people around you. Deception knowing and unknowing only invites more pain. So just be real. Face yourself and do the work well now. Not tomorrow or later…but now. Thanks Liz. TR

  3. Elsie Toy on Feb 2, 2012 at 7:56 am

    Dearest Rinppoche

    Thank you very much for sharing with us. I very much like the way you pen it straight forward and direct to our problems. Looking for easy way out and let others cover for us and creating the workload for our counterparts working with us. This happens everywhere in any general organizations and do create frustrations for others with them. We do have all our problems as long as we live we have problems may it be money, self esteem and up bringing. Yes, these are all excuses we use when we failed and think it is acceptable but some forget that the person one work with also has their own set of problems but just because the handle it better then other we assumed they do not have their problems.
    I really like this letter it makes me think harder and it give the impact on me to be more conscience of myself and the quality of work that I produce, and others.

    Thank you very much Rinpoche.

  4. Li Kheng on Feb 4, 2012 at 12:17 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing and for using every opportunity to teach us the Dharma.

    It is so sad that we tend to harm and take for granted those kindest to us. Perhaps we have the ignorance and arrogance to believe that these people will never abandon us. However, we forget the law of cause and effect (karma) that will eventually catch up with us and run its course.

    Living in the midst of a “dog eat dog world”, I witness that repeated mistakes and non-compliance are not tolerated. Consequently, everyone behaves themselves and play by the rule to keep their roles. Just to clarify, this situation applies to personal relationships as well, e.g. if a guy does not maintain his girlfriend “properly”, he will soon be replaced by a better candidate.

    This is not the case in the world of pure Dharma where Rinpoche has 1) patiently accepted mistakes, 2) tried to help wrongdoers discover the root of their problem and overcome it as well as 3) shower His “employees” with Dharma gifts and teachings (as we can see in constant blog updates).

    As smart people, which world would you choose? I believe the answer is the Dharma world for many of us. So, if we are smart enough to choose the Dharma world, let’s further develop our intelligence (I dare not speak of wisdom from the level we are currently operating) to stay in this world by abiding the centuries-old law of karma.

    It could be hard to perfectly complete all the Dharma tasks assigned but it is no easier in the secular world. The difference is: in the Dharma world the challenges we are given are designed to strengthen our minds that will benefit us lifetime after lifetime while in the secular world the bulk of our so called achievements are allocated to pay for the lifestyle of the bosses.

    So let’s buck up and help each other as dharma students by watching out for each other, actively giving honest feedback (so that our Guru does not have to), and ensuring we all get the job done perfectly. Now, that is true team spirit, which I believe will contribute to the group’s positive collective karma.

  5. henry ooi on Feb 13, 2012 at 5:36 pm

    Just like the person who apologized, I too, have similar weaknesses pointed by Rinpoche in this post. My weaknesses may have varying degrees but they are still weaknesses that I have to improve on.

    That would be for me to improve on and not let others suffer if I really want to practice dharma.

    Thank you, Rinpoche.

  6. tsemtulku on Feb 14, 2012 at 5:16 pm

    Future tense is senseless. Wishes for the future is unsure. Be what you wish now. No one controls your body, speech and mind. So you don’t need to transform your body speech and mind in the future. Fortitude and tenacity is achievable now. if you don’t achieve it-then it is a choice. Pick the right choices. In real dharma with real dharma friends and real dharma work and real dharma environment, there is no future tense. We may not even be alive tomorrow. It is now. Your body, speech and mind is controlled by you..so don’t blame a third person that is fictitious. Don’t make your teacher a liar and Buddha not real..be here and now. Have the qualities now. You are in control of yourself. Your teacher is not a liar and there is a Buddha…Sarva Mangalam….Tsem Rinpoche

    • Yoke Fui on May 26, 2012 at 3:22 pm

      This I learned from Rinpoche – whether we can physically do the assignment now , tomorrow or half an hour later , we must be mentally committed to finish it the moment we said YES to our guru.

      If we have this mindset, like Muhammad Ali said : “Impossible is NOTHING “

  7. Wan Wai Meng on Feb 23, 2012 at 12:19 pm

    Samsara and the Buddha and our Guru are opposites. The Guru/Buddha actually cares and wants us to be alright, samsara does not care and just gets us to create more and more karma to create and endless cycle of rebirths. I feel Rinpoche always pushing us to learn things, absorb knowledge and etc etc is to make us better and better, as we should never be selective in a spiritual path and keep doing until we become enlightened, develop Bodhicitta or reach a stage that we have reached our potential in this life. Why because we have a precious human life that can bring us to more rounds in samsara or give us control of our existence so which one do we want?

    What I am saying is that for a student’s welfare Rinpoche has to fight against our delusions, our samsara and samsara in general, and what he has at his disposal is what we allow the lama, so at any time Rinpoche is trying to better you he is putting in tremendous efforts to figure out a way or method that can reach us, and most of the to time we don’t make it easy on Rinpoche. How much more we can receive help is how much good karma we have in the guru student relationship. Once exhausted due to it being used up and not replenished then even if the lama wants to help you there will be overwhelming obstacles.

  8. Han on May 26, 2012 at 11:36 am

    We have direction, we have purpose, we have hope and we have AN INCREDIBLE GOAL. You cannot find this anywhere. Whether you are In or out IS NOT PHYSICAL BUT MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL.
    ~ Tsem Rinpoche

    Thank you Rinpochefor sharing this article.
    To me, Focus on our DIRECTION & GOAL, once make the choice TO BE IT, hold this well and GO ALL THE WAY is the key!

  9. John Woo on May 26, 2012 at 12:23 pm

    No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path – The Buddha

    Thank you, Rinpoche for showing great compassion despite many failures of students during these current conditions. We must take into heart this advice and transform our mind.

  10. Girlie Ooi on May 26, 2012 at 1:58 pm

    I am guilty of what Rinpoche has listed here because I am not the perfect person but I strive to be better. I will trip and fall along the way but I will pick myself up and continue the journey.

  11. andrew chiam on May 26, 2012 at 3:39 pm

    Thanks Rinpoche.

    This is really a very good article to serves as individual wake up call. We can pretend and act ignorance, lazy and etc to escape from responsibilities. But as a sane person still intact with the last bits of consciousness, we should aware that we have a choice. And if we still want to be in Dharma line, its time to step up the game and make the correct choice. After all, what makes a happy person is the one that dare to commit sincerely to benefit others and keep up to the commitment, day after day, without degenerating the commitments.
    The road for beginners is definitely not easy, but what is easy in life?

    This article although condensed, I had learned, refreshed and realized many points on how to be a better and responsible person to ourselves and all the people around us.

    Rgds,

    Andrew chiam

  12. patsy on May 26, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche for sharing this for us to reflect on. I admit that I too have these emotional baggage that Rinpoche pointed out that I have to improve on.

    We should take pride in the work that was entrusted to us instead of pushing /dumping our work to someone else. As a dharma practitioner, we should be of less burden to others. Real dharma practice is not to make others suffer or burden them.

  13. Adrian Cho on May 26, 2012 at 4:50 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this post and teaching us.
    It is really meaningful to me and in this post have pointed my similar weakness..
    Nowadays I try to improve myself and won’t let other people down and disappoint on me, that always care me and guidance me.
    Really appreciate it much this teaching in this post from Rinpoche..

  14. lewkwanleng on May 26, 2012 at 5:54 pm

    Every time I am lazy,
    Every time I let my emotion go up & up,
    Every time I created disharmony,
    Every time I promised something but don’t do it,

    I will burden others to benefit more people.

    This is what I need to remember from now onwards.

  15. Joyce Yeow on May 26, 2012 at 6:15 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for such profound advice. I am afraid that I was one of the guilty ones. I used to have this attitude when i was working that I do not need to check my work as the next person who receives it will have to check anyway until my mentor who was my ex-boss and now a dear friend, so very patiently pointed out to me the selfishness of such attitude. I will further strive to correct all my other weaknesses as pointed by Rinpoche here.

    Thank you again Rinpoche.

  16. jennifer on May 26, 2012 at 9:35 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for the very wise and profound teaching.
    I realise that everything we do have a ripple effect , on every one around us and whether good or bad, that ‘ripple’ hits back to us eventually. We are truly blessed to have Rinpoche in our lives, who never gave up on us , understands our flaws and weaknesses , cares , loves and guides us with such compassion , and is there time and time again to back us up when that ‘ripple ‘ (which by now has turned into a tidal wave ) hits us flat on our stubborn arrogrant faces.
    Thank you Rinpoche for being in our lives .

  17. Lim Han Nee on May 26, 2012 at 10:11 pm

    Yes, no one controls our body, speech and mind, but we ourselves. It’s our choice.We can make the choice, HERE AND NOW, of identifying with the incredibly wonderful Dharma goal of Kechara and Kecharians and do Dharma work and practice Dharma with integrity and a strong sense of commitment and responsibility. Or we can continue to wallow in our laziness and our wanting to take the easy way out and in letting others cover for us; and, in the process, drag others down with us into negativity, suffering and depression.

    Like many, I too have an emotional baggage, and a humongous one at that! I have also, in the past, let this baggage become my excuse for not being totally committed to Dharma work and practice.

    When I look back at all the time wasted, and I look ahead and see how time is running out on me, I feel I have no other option left.

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for your great love and compassion in reminding us that we are our own worst enemy.

  18. mayy on May 26, 2012 at 10:39 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche for sharing this. I would take it as a creed to read and reflect on all times on faults and failures we have brought with us till now and not having achieve anything in life. Kechara is the real place, family and friends to support and assist each other to become better person in our spiritual path.

    Whatever tasks entrusted to us we must strive to do it all the way and complete it by taking upon responsibilities of not burdening others. Everything we do are all interdependent for a common goal. Never can we be a lone ranger to champion a cause. We need each other to achieve it.

    Passion drives just like what Jane Goodall did whom has inspired many. She has exemplified..”We have the power to affect the world positively and we have the poser to affect the world negatively.” How we use this power is a matter of choice for we are in control irrespective of how adverse the situation is. (http://blog.tsemtulku.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/something-incredible-about-jane-goodall.html)

  19. Valentina Suhendra on May 26, 2012 at 11:01 pm

    Dear Rinpoche

    I like this particular blogpost. Especially the part that say,” Because you can’t rob someone and then it’s ok with just a letter.”

    Valentina

  20. Wei Theng on May 27, 2012 at 11:37 am

    “the Kecharians may be kind and forgiving, but your karma is ruthless. Karma is unbiased. What you have done, when it fruitions, will make you lose the most precious things you have. No words, apologies and delicious explanations will help you.”
    With the karma effect in mind, it’s no other way but look at the goals and go all the way.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this precious & meaningful teaching.

  21. David Loh on May 27, 2012 at 11:38 am

    I was brought up where every unnessary explaination is considered an excuse. If you are right then you are right. If you are wrong then you are wrong. No debate here. We humans are so full of excuses and bull shit (me included).

    One thing I really don’t understand is why people still don’t transform even a little bit when constantly exposed to Dharma. Here we go calling people of some ‘religion’ hypocrates. Are we any better if we don’t transform ourselves? I know our imprints limits us in this department, whether its the Lamrin, Bible or Quran, emphasis is for believers to change or transform into better people. Why do we still go to temple, churches etc etc if we are not willing to change? Am really perplexed…..Wait! could it be……? I know most places serves food and refreshments during all services.

    I hold on to my believes that if I’m not able to do anything right after many attempts, I would stop doing to avoid the whole world picking up the pieces after me. ONCE beatened TWICE shy.

    Every one of us is bound to have at least ONE talent. Find out and harness that for the good of Dharma. If the person has non (which is impossible when you have all your faculties intact and workable) then too bad.

  22. Thierry on May 27, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this correspondence with us.
    I take it that we are all addressees of Rinpoche’s reply, so I read it a second time with thought that the letter was addressed to me directly and it got me blushing…

  23. Low ksjc on May 27, 2012 at 10:38 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for sharing this letter with us.What was mention does reflect on how most of us will feel when we are overwhelm with emotion, rather then seeking a solution to solve the issue to reach the goal, we rather choose to run away by passing the buck to others to settle it.We might have friends who are willing to take ownership of the issue to settle it for us,we might have felt relived that the issue is settled.. But in time to come ,if we do not wish to change this attitude or be lost in world of excuses then we are only left with a name without “Integrity”.
    I would choose to remember this letter well, to remind myself on the disappointment I would have cause others when I have failed to owe up to my own commitment as a “TEAM”.

  24. Wong Yuen Foo on May 29, 2012 at 12:16 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for sharing this private mail with all of us. I truly understand your advice & concern.

    Yes, all of us have a certain degree of these bad traits / habits in us … the bottom line is how much do we willingly push ourself to achieve set goals / promises / responsibilities in our life sometimes & all the times. How many people wish / can carry out these commitments for others benefits without agenda at all ? This is even a much tougher question to answer & to do, at least it applies to me… I ask myself this questions too.

    I salute all those who work day & night without self-agendas but with the motive of benefiting others, some of these people whom they do not know/ met. I wish in the near future i too could do the same like these great individuals.

    Rinpoche, wish you good health, Always.

  25. Jace Chong on May 30, 2012 at 10:54 am

    Thanks Rinpoche for the posting to reflect what we can not do due to our self-resistant, and what we can really do.

    What Rinpoche says here is really true, we do have ups and downs and hang-ups, but the point is what we want and where are we going.

    We may not be perfect, we may not be a good person before, but it doesn’t mean that we can’t be. If we really treasure Rinpoche and Dharma, we need to play our part to fight our inner negative thoughts, because it’s something that hurts ourselves and others. And it’s something Buddha concerns because this is the cause of samsara.

    I remember Rinpoche said this in a teaching, “When you are in samsara, you are ready for Dharma works”. Dharma works buy us a ticket to leave samsara, but we need to work our way out to grab the ticket before we turn into another condition and lost the ticket. We must work hard, there’s no other way.

  26. andrew hibberd on May 30, 2012 at 1:55 pm

    your advice agrees equally with my experience we are who we are in this time a bunch of bloated water and words and the only thing behind us is the result of the action we have taken and the only thing in front of us is oppprtunity , lets not waste this precious life lets stand up and take responsibiity for our home , mother earth and all of the children that live in it so they may see a future challenge that motivates them to be human

  27. Uncle Eddie on May 31, 2012 at 12:25 pm

    Yes, you were right Rinpoche. We must be real to our spiritual journey, be real to our teacher, be real to the people around us. All in all, we must be real to our ownselves and do the work well! Everyone have weaknesses and bad habits which must be got rid off immediately. The friendship, love and support which we have cultivated in Kechara must be savaged and manintained. It is the most important source of our devoted unity, as this love and support will never be found anywhere, as mentioned. To borrow an old saying, “Ask not what Kechara can do for us, but what we can do for Kechara to benefit others!” Thank you once again Rinpoche, for re-awakening our sleeping and deluded minds.

  28. Eric Lee KSJC on Jun 2, 2012 at 11:24 pm

    有时候我自己也会为自己做不到的事情找借口,这是为了不让别人知道自己做不到。可是,最近我自己发觉有时候是因为自己在作出承诺以前,并没有想清楚自己是否又能力胜任,只是认为只要是佛法的事,就应该去做,所以做到最后,自己因为累了或是因为其他的理由就放弃了。所以,现在的我学会凡事三思而行,要认真的想清楚,因为自己的承诺是金,不要随便的答应而做不到,这不但害了自己,也害到别人。

  29. Han on Jun 12, 2012 at 2:35 pm

    “Whether you are in Kechara or not, you will be up and down and you still have to produce.
    But outside of Kechara, rarely do others want to or will cover you over and over again. You affect those around you severely… we all do. It becomes a chain reaction. ”

    The above indeed very true, from my past experiences in the corporate sector, without dharma made me easily inpatient and feel pressured in works, the way we dealt with co workers also very selfish and narrow minded.

    I am glad I am in Kechara and there are UP & DOWN as always, but I am happy that i gradually doing things that i do not like and feel happy to do it, eventually become like to do the DONT LIKE jobs….
    Its tough initially, but this is the key of practicing dharma, Rinpoche always said, never forget DHARMA IS DOING THINGS THAT YOU DO NOT LIKE !

    Thank you Rinpoche !

  30. Lili ng on Jun 12, 2012 at 6:25 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,everything that Rinpoche says is so right….have always been right….thats why deep down we either face it or be in denial pretend it’s not true or it doesn’t apply to me or simply turn a blind eye,a deaf ear all bcoz we don’t want to face the truth,hide..,it’s time for me to face it head on and never give up no matter what.I Thank you.

  31. lucy yap on Jun 16, 2012 at 3:11 am

    I agree Rinpoche that we are full of excuses to cover our selectiveness and laziness.Only when we respond to opportunities with action, we do it not only as an aspect of our practice,but also for the growth of our individual character.We are responsible for the nourishment of our practice by engaging with others in our communities.With such principles recognized,but unapplied to daily opportunities,the hold upon the ideal of what the Buddha taught.We lose the chance for realizing the opportunities for finding the lessons that can be awakened in us,that only through our actions can be experienced.Thank you Rinpoche ,for this priceless teaching.

  32. Paris on Jun 18, 2012 at 6:59 pm

    I’ve just been speaking with some people about something similar and some of them have been saying things like, “Oh but I’m not very capable,” “I’m useless”, “I’m stupid” – thing is, stupid people don’t know they’re stupid, useless people don’t know they’re useless. I think being capable or not, useless or useful, stupid or not is a choice, it’s not some kind of terrible prison sentence that someone else has imposed upon us and that we have to live with. I think nowadays, it’s quite easy for others to see through this kind of false humility and know straight away that it’s just yet another big cover up for not wanting to do more or not having achieved anything.

    It’s also not a choice that someone’s putting a gun to our heads to make. If we don’t choose to do more and choose to make excuses for not being able to do it, that’s fine – that’s our prerogative to decide. Then we should also be happy with what we’ve “chosen” when the results of that come – which could be that we get nowhere, have no friends, don’t achieve the things we want to etc. To simply say that we’re lazy or useless, not good enough, not clever enough etc is denying that there’s ever such a thing as karma, and a kind of opposite surrendering to a dead-end fate, which is not logical.

    • DR on Jun 25, 2012 at 12:52 pm

      Well said Paris. To add to your list of why they cant do this and that is another phrase which I always get; “it is not my forte”! Oh My Buddha! Nothing is not one’s forte until one is willing to learn and go all the way with it. Is walking a baby’s forte? NO, not until the baby decides to get up to learn to walk, fall, get up again, and keeps trying till he can run.

  33. nani ksa on Jun 19, 2012 at 8:33 pm

    no more i dont know i dont want to do i scared to do .must do it.no more excuses.thank you rinpoche for ihis blog.

  34. mitra on Jun 25, 2012 at 10:48 am

    with out rinpoche and with out dharma we cant do anything.every people come kechara bucause they want good rejalt and we want better.we want in or out is verry clear for rinpoche teaching.

  35. Lim KH (JB) on Jun 27, 2012 at 4:15 am

    Everyone will do the wrong things but we should learn from the mistake then dun make the mistake again. Is seen to be easy to say out but uneasy to be done.

    Due to our selective style and always stay in comfort zone our mind will transform very very slow. But when we start our FIRST STEP to change sure we may STARTED to transform it maybe slow but at least started.

    Thanks Rinpoche for sharing the key to let us aware that we got no more excuses.

  36. Julia Tan on Jul 15, 2012 at 12:30 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this letter with us. Every word in the letter hit me hardly. Regret that I forever made mistakes some more fail to confess. Instead of contributing to the dharma, I created more work for my dharma brothers and sisters. I am taking full responsibilities on whatever I have done.

    I may or may not live until tomorrow. I do not own anything from yesterday and I cannot take anything with me tomorrow. Why not just do it now. Do as much as I can now instead of regret when chances passed.

  37. judy lam on Oct 20, 2012 at 2:55 pm

    We are always guilty of giving excuses or ‘reasons’ for not doing something. I guess this is not just habitual, but a state of our mind. All excuses given will have consequences. For not being able to deliver our work on time, it will have a chain effect on other people’s schedule. We must make a deliberate action to reduce number of our excuses.

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  • Pastor Adeline
    (Tuesday, Jul 29. 2014 10:29 AM)
    If you love someone, tell them & don’t hold back. Tsem Rinpoche @tsemtulku on Twitter
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Tuesday, Jul 29. 2014 10:29 AM)
    Love is not something easy to get, so treasure it if you have it. Tsem Rinpoche @tsemtulku on Twitter
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Tuesday, Jul 29. 2014 10:28 AM)
    H.H. 10th Panchen Rinpoche was a great teacher & inspiration. Tsem Rinpoche @tsemtulku on Twitter
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Tuesday, Jul 29. 2014 10:28 AM)
    Clearing our impules may not be easy, but easier then cleaning up their results. Tsem Rinpoche @tsemtulku on Twitter
  • Josselynn
    (Tuesday, Jul 29. 2014 09:35 AM)
    Dear Tsem Tulku Rinpoche

    I am new but 3 days ago I attended my father in law’s (FIL) Christian funeral which he converted 4 years ago. We got to know only now during my sister in law speech who was a Christian pastor. although he was baptised to Christian but he has never mentioned to us at all. I remembered my FIL told me but not the son that; one day when I die he wish to be cremated with his ashes to be thrown to the sea only. Yes he was cremated yesterday. On the first day of the wake service I couldn’t feel any peace, on the 2nd day I brought 7 lotus candles offered to Buddha and lit up with my children and told them chant OM MANI PADME HUNG and a bouquet of flowers too. I must share with you the candles light from what I learned from Rinpoche is the light of WISDOM yes I can find peace then. I chanted 20 malas on the 3rd day and my feeling of sadness was calmer yes, I understand Buddhism more about death & reincarnation again from your blog & transcript so the feeling of sadness was more calm then before. I am more accepting about Rebirth, Old aged, sickness & death. I understand about human suffering. My deepest appreciation from your Buddhadharma talk it really changed my life. It’s a miracle and magic I guess, one fine day I just needed to go Kechara Paradise to invite Je Tsongkapa home early this year without realising it was actually Tsongkapa day. In no time I think 10 days I can memorised Migstema so well. I do my chanting when my mind disturb and I am still on medication for my depression. Migtsema indeed calm my mind…. Every night if I am disturb again I will plug on my earphone and listen to your voices of Buddhdharma talk on YouTube to find peace and I can sleep rather I rely on the one medicine that put me to sleep.
    That’s wonderful for me too.
    We were grateful to have attended the children baptism on Wesak day and the children were officially baptised by Rinpoche’s blessing. I was afraid someone will convert my children if I don’t do something. They chant OM Ah RA Pa SA NA DHIH and wearing the Manjushri chakra too. I got them Tsongkapa box set each for (body speech & mind) and a stupa too.

    Warmest regards
    Josselynn
  • Josselynn
    (Tuesday, Jul 29. 2014 05:15 AM)
    Dear Rinpoche

    I want you to know from the bottom of my heart that your teachings have changed my life a lot. First of all, is your inspiration book “Why You Make Yourself Unhappy” how this book can changed my life. It’s amazing! I sincerely want to find out more about you and in depth towards Buddhism. Along the journey finding about Rinpoche I went into YouTube learning what I want to know about Buddhism. It’s so awesome as if I am there listening to you. I decided to find out about Kechara. My first visit I bought Tara pendant, immediately the 2 box sets of Tsongkapa & Setrap prayers but never approach anyone yet for a year. Until last September, I decided to write a mail to you personally and here I am since January 2014 I became member. Of course, when I first came to Kechara I request to meet you unfortunenately you have gone to US.

    Kind regards
    Josselynn
  • Pastor Adeline
    (Monday, Jul 28. 2014 10:51 PM)
    Offering lights to the Buddha creates causes for wisdom. Tsem Rinpoche @tsemtulku on Twitter
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  • Pastor Adeline
    (Monday, Jul 28. 2014 10:49 PM)
    We are only free when we expel the samsara within us. Tsem Rinpoche @tsemtulku on Twitter
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    Give me enlightenment on a silver platter please? Tsem Rinpoche @tsemtulku on Twitter
  • tsemtulku
    (Monday, Jul 28. 2014 05:47 PM)
    Dear Chuah Su Ming,
    You are naturally a kind person. You can think deeply and give yourself to those around you. You are super intelligent with high IQ and EQ..rare combination. I didn’t teach you anything about kindness. It was in you already. You are naturally caring, naturally responsible and naturally a loyal person. Anyone who has the good fortune to be your friend will find a true friend in you. Even when people play mind games with you, you are forgiving and let it be. You have a huge capacity to forgive beyond ordinary mortals. You always give people a chance and focus on their strong points.

    You never ask anything from people for yourself. You have contributed to the growth of dharma, the benefits of those around you very much. You always take care of those around you without ever showing anything but true love. I’ve witnessed this again and again. You are a very good representative of kindness, strong woman, good human being, good Buddhist and excellent example of a Kechara member.

    You have benefitted me and my life very much beyond a doubt. I often reflect on so much you have done and I am indebted to you. I mean every word.

    You are one of the best persons I have met in my whole life. I am very honored to have you as a friend, family and student. I wish to have a pure and good relationship with you for the rest of my life. Gold like you must be kept. Not easy to find solid gold among the rocks. In you I can trust and believe in you, because we are living in a world that trusting others is a difficult thing to do. Whenever I think of you, only warm and grateful thoughts arise in my mind.

    Thank you for really absorbing the dharma within your being because dharma just made you even more beautiful than you already naturally are. You are a stunning person because you choose to care about others. You have genuine compassion with action coupled with results. You are always results orientated and very good example to those around you.

    You have my good wishes, loyalty, care and genuine love. Much respects and fondly, Tsem Rinpoche
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  • Pastor Adeline
    (Monday, Jul 28. 2014 01:17 AM)
    Ullambana is also a very time to repay the kindness of the Three Jewels, one of which is robes offering to the sangha.

    The sangha’s robes represent the vows & commitment held by an ordained person. It is also one of the 4 main necessities of the sangha. By making this offering, you create the causes to continue the growth of the sangha who in turn remain to spread the dharma – the highest form of giving to all.

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  • Pastor Adeline
    (Saturday, Jul 26. 2014 07:10 PM)
    All stimuli that serves to excite or disgust are based on lack of true permanence therefore only exist in a projected manner. ~ Tsem Rinpoche
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    (Saturday, Jul 26. 2014 02:37 AM)
    The Mind and Lama Tsongkhapa – Tsem Rinpoche

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The Unknown

The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
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because all unknown with familiarity becomes the known.
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This is one of the best Avalokitesvara thangkas I have ever seen. I rarely see an Avalokitesvara that draws me or I really like. I am very particular about thangka paintings. But this one is really done by a super skilled artist. The eyes are perfect and the gaze is the correct angle of calm/contemplativeness. The lips, nose and proportions are stunning. The coloring and feel is regality and serenity with great compassion. He feels alive. I would love to get a copy of this very much. Tsem Rinpoche
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Look at this massive thangka of the Lord of Wisdom Manjushri in Tibet. The bigger the thangka it is believed, the more blessed the area will be. See all the people congregated around it to pay homage and make offerings. Amazing. May you all be blessed by this too and be connected to Manjushri. Tsem Rinpoche
18 hours ago
There is a devil there is no doubt, but is he trying to get into us or trying to get out? ~Tsem Rinpoche
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These fresh tomatoes just plucked from our garden here in our USA Ladrang. Tomatoes are some of my favorite foods. Tsem Rinpoche
1 week ago
We had some very special guests come to volunteer at Kechara? Guess who they were? And they turned out to be very humble in their works that night. Please see the love and care: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=51852
2 weeks ago
This is so true. When teach dharma to some and ask them to change or explain why, they reject and become unhappy and speak ill. 
2 weeks ago
If my endurance of so much suffering these past years have benefitted you and took some away from you, then it was not in vain and I am content and I would take more.~Tsem Rinpoche
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Existing is not true existence but mere labelling because the causes removed, we are empty.~Tsem Rinpoche
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People from different parts of the world who have no prior obvious connections can connect to do dharma together. This is wonderful because what we did in the past together can manifest in the present again to continue where we left off. Tsem Rinpoche 
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3 weeks ago
This is profound and the secrets to our success or failure. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
Are you the sign of the pig? Do you want to know more about yourself? It would be interesting: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=23608
3 weeks ago
Vegetables harvested from our garden in our USA residence today...nice. TR
3 weeks ago
See who are in these nice pictures and how they are connected to me please....I just posted the Gratitude series #2...do take a look: See: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=51490
4 weeks ago
Powerful!!
4 weeks ago
Having a healthy strong body is important so we can take care of the people and animals around us, to do our dharma practice and to be able to contribute to society. Practices like Je Tsongkapa and Amitayus are very helpful for extending our life energies and healing from within. I spoke about it: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=29398
4 weeks ago
There are over 75,182 views of this post already! It's on horoscopes and how compatible you are with someone or not compatible and why. Perhaps it would be good to understand why someone so close could have or not have conflicts with you. Find out about yourself and understand your character: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=24905
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Dear friends, This is a very good documentary on bigfoot. It is very scientific and examines a new footage of a bigfoot running very fast. Examines and gives you reasons why this cannot be a man or a person in a suit..very nice. I've not seen this one before. - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4zUhKhv3Z-I
4 weeks ago
Please click and enlarge the picture. This is something I strongly feel. Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
This will be my gratitude series where I share all that I am grateful for. This is my first post: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=51490
4 weeks ago
Mr. Lai, the proud dad of Pastor David Lai. Mr. Lai has expressed how proud he is of his son and what he is doing for others. Mr. Lai is very happy his son David is a Pastor of Kechara and rejoices in the Dharma shared with others. Mr. Lai himself is a very kind and steady person and an important member of Kechara also who always keeps his promises. Many in Kechara respect and love Mr. Lai. Like father like son. Kind people. Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
I agree with what Martin T. Bosnev says about Pastor David. Martin is a very intelligent person, so when he compliments, he has thought it through. I appreciate Martin's input. Pastor David always teaches Dharma from his heart and with enthusiasm. He truly believes in what he shares. He has been blessed by Tsongkapa to speak because he is sincere. Many enjoy listening to the Dharma from him very much. Please see what Martin is talking about: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=4197
4 weeks ago
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Our group who went on a spiritual pilgrimage in the holy places of Kathmandu, Nepal.-June 2014. I rejoice for them. These trips have infinitely so much more meaning than the usual vacations.  Tsem Rinpoche 
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Dear friends, Did you know there are three holy mountains of Avalokitesvara, Manjushri and Vajrapani in Yating, Kham -Tibet??!! It's not that difficult to get to either. I have just finished blogging about this. I watched a travelogue earlier and was AMAZED at the footage they showed of certain holy places in Tibet that I have heard of from senior monks but never seen. You MUST watch this excellent travelogue and enjoy. Tsem Rinpoche See here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=50824
1 month ago
Zamkar, Dharma, Mumu and Oser are always smiling and super cute. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 months ago
New book from Kechara just launched! http://Www.vajrasecrets.com
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I've always tried my best to escape secular dreams because it's all a big wheel of disappointment. Get me out of samsara! Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Look at my Mumu boy. You can never take a bad picture with him. He is super cute from any angle. I love you Mumu. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 months ago
Please remember this. A dog is not a pet but a part of your family. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 months ago
Lineage lamas and root lama in Vajra Yogini's tantra. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
This is excellent! Must read and share. Tsem Rinpoche 
2 months ago
When on the hospital bed nearing our last breath, nothing matters except for the practice and transformation we have done in dharma in our lifetime. Our money, wishes, houses, clothes, jewelry, reputation, spouses, desires, dreams, greed, anger, possessions, explanations will be of no use at all. It will in fact even be a hindrance scratching at our mind's energy to let go and we cannot. Since they are no use at that momentous event, we should continue that thought now and understand what we should truly cultivate now. This thought must translate into action not just scholastic thoughts and meanderings of the mind for self deception or imitation spiritual satisfaction. This is what I think daily and everyday as part of my meditations on death and impermanence according to first chapter of Lam Rim. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
I totally agree with this. Some vent out their anger, get attention or want to send messages to people and justify by saying it's their space their posting on and they can post what they want. Be it so, your space is seen my hundreds and it's public domain and you know that. So if others post otherwise to your views, why get upset? You invited it. Maybe that is what you wanted? Attention? LOL.Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Wow. How perfect is this. This is exactly how I feel when I shared dharma with some people. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
I like this one. I just found it. Wonderful and simple for those who have to seek either one. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
H.H. The 14th Dalai Lama in Yong He Gong temple in front of the beautiful Tsongakpa main altar in Beijing, China.
2 months ago
Another must read and must have book. I ordered it last week and it arrived today. So very much looking forward to reading/studying it. Dharma knowledge is something that should not remain stagnant. We must improve and apply upon it always. Applying it is the secret. I have so much more to learn. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
When I despair, I remember that all through history the ways of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants, and murderers, and for a time they can seem invincible, but in the end they always fall. Think of it--always. Mahatma Gandhi
2 months ago
Look at my cheeky and cute Mumu boy!! The camera loves him! I love him. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
It would be wonderful if everyone can obtain a beautiful Vajra Yogini statue like this and it's available at http://www.vajrasecrets.com. Would you have Her body red painted or just copper color or brass colored? Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Lifelike Supreme Tara painted in Indian style. Stunning. Wish I can get artist to reproduce this exactly. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
Holy and lifelike Lord Manjushri painted in Indian style in which it should be. Wish I can have this reproduced exactly with every holy detail. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
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  • 14th Dalai Lama with Mrs.Indira Gandhi , Delhi INDIA 1966
    14th Dalai Lama with Mrs.Indira Gandhi , Delhi INDIA 1966
    2 months ago
  • The Girl Who Couldn't Cry - Water is Life
    The Girl Who Couldn't Cry - Water is Life
    It's really hard to educate a generation of people born in conditions where they take things for granted. A simple slogan campaign that says, "Save water, It's precious" isn't sticky enough to make inroads. That's exactly where this video steps in: to make people realize how precious water actually is. A brilliant video that follows the heartbreaking story of a young girl that cannot cry. Sounds like fiction? Sadly, it is not.
    2 months ago
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    Dear everyone, All sentient beings deserve to live, be happy and not hurt, including animals. We should never hurt them or eat them. Look how much this chicken welcomes a hug and love. Observe carefully. Don't eat beings who can feel pain because the karma comes back. Tsem Rinpoche
    3 months ago
  • The appreciation shown here is so deep and touching.
    The appreciation shown here is so deep and touching.
    Dear friends, See this incredible video. This chimp was found in captivity for many years. Dr Jane Goodall released him into the wild. Look how he comes back to thank her with deep apprecition. It's amazing. Animals have such strong feelings of pain and happiness just like us. We should never hurt them and share with others to not hurt them. Tsem Rinpoche http://www.tsemrinpoche.com
    3 months ago
  • Aki drinking some water in the aviary
    Aki drinking some water in the aviary
    Aki is a rescued bird, he now lives in Kechara Forest Retreat Aviary
    5 months ago
  • Jamyang enjoying some fresh corn
    Jamyang enjoying some fresh corn
    Jamyang is one of our rescue birds that live in Kechara Forest Retreat Aviary
    5 months ago
  • The Cute Mumus Practising Dog Orchestra at Kechara Forest Retreat
    The Cute Mumus Practising Dog Orchestra at Kechara Forest Retreat
    Today the Mumus (dogs) decided to do a dog orchestra rehearsal together with the Kechara Forest Retreat (KFR) dogs.
    5 months ago
  • Incredible footage you must see!
    Incredible footage you must see!
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    5 months ago
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    Gongkar is our new bird for Kechara Forest Retreat's aviary. Gongkar never had friends and the original owner could not bring him to his destination. Now he is with us and assimilating in his cage within the aviary for a few weeks then released into aviary. Look at how much he wants attention from the other birds. Cute. Tsem Rinpoche
    9 months ago
  • Mumu, Oser and Dharma running and having a good time. I love seeing them playing. Tsem Rinpoche
    Mumu, Oser and Dharma running and having a good time. I love seeing them playing. Tsem Rinpoche
    9 months ago
  • Mumus running at Kechara Forest Retreat
    Mumus running at Kechara Forest Retreat
    10 months ago
  • Kechara Forest Retreat panorama, September 2013
    Kechara Forest Retreat panorama, September 2013
    10 months ago
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    Dechog our cockatoo at Kechara Forest Retreat grabbing long beans which he loves. Nice bird. We love him. Tsem Rinpoche
    1 years ago
  • The mumus having outdoor evening stroll!!!
    The mumus having outdoor evening stroll!!!
    1 years ago
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    17 May 2013, heavy rain at Kechara Forest Retreat from 7am-8am (1 hour). Water overflowed the existing drain and also opened up a much wider new "route" for itself.
    1 years ago
  • Must see video from Rajendra on our disciplined dogs
    Must see video from Rajendra on our disciplined dogs
    1 years ago
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    Dato' Ruby won the Bella Awards!
    1 years ago
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    This is a wonderful video for Moh Mei because she is sleeping in the KECHARA FOREST RETREAT CONTAINERS all alone...ehehehhehe...this is a new friend to keep her company....tsem rinpoche
    1 years ago
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    Answer to Jo
    1 years ago
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    The 2 tortoises in Tsem Ladrang, Kadro and Menlha are enjoying their fresh veggie meal.
    2 yearss ago
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    Organic vegetables at Kechara Forest Retreat
    2 yearss ago
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    This is Dorje our friendly fish that lives with us. He captured my attention the first time because he was exceptionally friendly. TR
    2 yearss ago
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    Mumus go bye bye!!!
    2 yearss ago
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    SP's mom said that she is from Penang. This is her first trip to bodhgaya, and she truly finds bodhgaya is very holy and spiritual.
    2 yearss ago
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    Very touching video...Buddha said it was very important to visit the four holy places associated with Him before our deaths. Remembering this, I had instructed Paul to take this senior group to Bodhgaya and make sure they are able to plant imprints. When this life of 'fun', money, parties and socials are over, we cannot leave empty handed. Tsem Rinpoche
    2 yearss ago
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    Our two rescued tortoises who live at Tsem Ladrang happily and will be transferred to Kechara Forest Retreat where they will have much more space to roam and run. Tsem Rinpoche
    2 yearss ago
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    Aki is the old African Grey that was abandoned by his owner. Because he is old, no one wanted him. Well we wanted him and we took him and in and love him. He is in a big aviary and he likes his cage. We leave his cage open at all times so he can go in and out as he likes. His cage is his security blanket. Cute. He gets nice food and sunshine daily and also we play monks chanting for him to be blessed. We love you Aki. Tsem Rinpoche
    2 yearss ago
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    Meal time for all the cute mumus!
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    Dear james, very nice video of Kechara outlet and the activity led by Kien. You must always make more videos. Thank you. Tsem Rinpoche
    2 yearss ago
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    This little birdie was at a pet shop. He has maimed leg, permanent damage to his wing and cannot fly and also one eye blind. I don't think anyone would want the poor thing, so I adopted him and keep him safe, fed and with lots of fresh air. He's also in a large aviary so he can be with other birds and not be alone. He is alert, active, and has a good appetite. I like him very much and will make sure he is safe, happy and has a good life. I name him Lucky. Lucky will always be safe now. Tsem Rinpoche
    2 yearss ago

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Distribution of Hari Raya goodies to the less fortunate. Patsy
9 hours ago
Volunteers packing Hari Raya goodies for distribution in KSK Penang. Patsy
9 hours ago
~Question asked by Doreen Teoh~ Dear Rinpoche, Before i begin to ask for your help, my family and I would like to wish to you on best of health and hope you are feeling better each day. My youngest son who is 11 years old, is a special needs child, he has a mild austism, and diffulty in learning, how am i as a mother helps him to gain merits and purify his karma? May i know is because of my karma, my son is born this way, or because of his own? ~Response by tsemtulku~ I do not know the karma that caused your son to be like this precisely, but I know how you can avoid it for future lives by studying the appropriate texts… It will all be in the Lam Rim. Please study this. Also another text that will help you so much is the Wheel of Sharp Weapons..it talks about karma. Very helpful. Manjushri practice for you and your son will help very much. I wish you luck so much. http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/questions/page/23 From: June Tang (Khjb)
10 hours ago
~Question asked by ken~ Teacher, I hear your explaination about praying and that we should not ask for things from the Buddhas. I understand. But is it ok to pray to Buddhas and ask for blessings of good health to my parents? I been doing it for years. Is it right or does my prayers work? Thank you! ~Response by tsemtulku~ Yes, it’s ok to do that. In fact it would be excellent if you entered a short retreat on White Tara dedicated to your parents. White Tara has special practices we can do to dedicate to ppl for their long lives and merit. Good luck and thanks. http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/questions/page/23 From: June Tang (Khjb)
10 hours ago
~Response by tsemtulku~ 2. Look at why you hate yourself leading to depression. If you know the cause of your self hatred, look for a solution and go after the solution without giving up. 3. Achieve what you wish to achieve. Do not be bound by culture, restrictions, face and guilt..just go and do something you are passionate about and go all the way. Make sure it doesn’t harm any being and go all the way..money isn’t everything anymore. Migtseyma and the study of dharma will bring you a long, long, long way…depression arises from the mind, so ultimately you need a remedy directed for the mind to help you. It would be good to study dharma now. You will find lots of answers ….that will be a start. After all, no one wishes to suffer and you don’t deserve it.I wish you well and true happiness… http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/questions/page/23 From: June Tang (Khjb)
10 hours ago
~Question asked by John~ Dear Rinpoche, I'm suffering from self hate and depression, mood swings from time to time..I've been diagnosed at having bipolar disorder….I think about death at times.and the reason for this to avoid life.. I find I also have difficulty putting effort things I do..I'm seem to get overwhelmed by challenges easuly. Recently I have started reciting Migsetma. I want to heal relationships with my parents and with people in general,Just need some word of advice. Thanks.. ~Response by tsemtulku~ Since you know what is wrong the key ingredients are: 1. Consistent effort without giving up no matter how hard it gets. If you give up, it will lead to depression as you know you didn’t give it your all. Depressin usually comes form something we are re-living and hanging onto. Wishing things to be the way we want it when in reality it is not….wishing for the way we want it and not accepting it as it is will lead to depression. Let it go. From: June Tang (Khjb)
10 hours ago
~Response by tsemtulku~ Dear Raluca, Very very good question. I am glad you asked. Tibetan Buddhist words have very little English equivalent. It is a very deep language and many words are not even available in English. Nirvana is not referring here to THE PERFECT ENLIGHTENMENT OF A FULLY AWAKENED BUDDHA. Nirvana here refers to the peace and tranquility we achieve in lower meditational attainments. Some ppl achieve this peace, and get stuck on it. In the past ppl can be in this peaceful state for days but it seems like minutes only when they ‘wake’. They are absorbed in this peace and get somewhat attached to it when it is a by product of the actual goal we are trying to attain…so protecting from Nirvana’s peace is referring to the minor attainments we gain from meditation and not to be stuck on it and go further. I hope this helps you. Much good luck with your holy and sacred Vajra Yogini beginner’s practice. http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/questions/page/23 From: June Tang (Khjb)
10 hours ago
~Question asked by Raluca~ Dear Rinpoche, in your posting Tea offering to Vajrayogini.We can read "Please protect me from the fearful enemies of samsara and nirvana’s peace". Why would one need to be protected from nirvana's peace?Thank you very much. From: June Tang (Khjb)
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Some make effort to find wisdom ,some wait for it to be handed to them.The former will succeed .~H.E.Tsem Rinpoche _Hee TS
22 hours ago
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22 hours ago
Sowing seeds of window is a long term solution to projections~H.E.Tsem Rinpoche_Hee TS
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