What Will Be Your Legacy?
It was nice that my sister, her husband and daughter came to Kuala Lumpur from Perth, Australia to usher in 2017 with my family and I.
As we lost our Mother in September 2016, we spoke a lot about Mother as we travelled through memory lane. As we were remembering Mother, her virtues and her non-virtues, my niece who was very close to Mother burst into tears.
Such are her memories of her grandmother, a beautiful lady who cared and loved her under any circumstances. And she missed her so.
My sister and I, being the daughters, had lovely memories of Mother who would sacrifice “things” so that we could go to school with new uniforms every year, and somehow it was also very important to her that we got a new dress and a pair of new shoes for Chinese New Year and on our birthdays. I suppose she would have loved to have given more new clothes and shoes, but since she could not afford to do so, she would give them to us on special occasions like these.
On our birthdays, she would prepare the birthday girl a chicken drumstick to be eaten without having to share with any of the other six siblings. There are seven siblings in the family and having to share was routine. At times, the shared portions were quite small.
When Mother migrated to Perth, Australia, her generosity followed her and she made many friends and would loyally support them if they ran any businesses especially if it was a restaurant.
Remembering Mother, what stood out for us was her generosity in helping and in giving. She loved to give gifts and in the later part of her life when she could afford to do so, she would buy loads of them to give away.
Then my sister and I asked each other what our legacy would be; how would we be remembered?
Generally, this is a question each and every one of us should be asking. HOW WILL I BE REMEMBERED?
Will you be remembered for having a building or place or space named after you? Will we be remembered for our virtues or our flaws as all of us have both these personality trends.
It is my humble opinion and wish that I be remembered in the heart of people whom I have touched and been with; to leave any space that I have been in better off; to always have conducted myself with respect for others and hold others with care and kindness; to share of my material belongings with others.
As a Buddhist, I would also like to be remembered to have assisted in creating an institution that will preserve the Dharma. If I can achieve this goal, it will be just fine that nobody even remembers me by name, but that there is a space for the Dharma to grow continuously.
Dear friends who are reading this, what will be your legacy? Having identified your wish for a legacy, will be the catalyst to live your life differently, not better or worse but probably differently.
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