Is integration wrong?
A teaching on tolerance was sent to us yesterday, reminding me of this powerful infographic I had seen a while back capturing the difference between Inclusion, Exclusion, Segregation and Integration. So this post is a visual aid to help everyone understand the difference between the four, and to help people understand what Dorje Shugden practitioners are asking for.
The Tibetan leadership and their supporters talk about how Dorje Shugden practitioners have our OWN temples, our OWN monasteries, our OWN shops, our OWN guest houses, our OWN clinics…so what’s the problem, they ask us, in their attempt to paint us as unreasonable?
Well, do they hear themselves when they speak? They are speaking the language of Exclusion, Segregation and Integration. The language of “that’s yours and this is mine”. But before the ban in 1996, there was no such thing as an exclusively Shugden monastery or an exclusively Shugden guest house. Before the ban in 1996, there was Inclusion. Everyone shared the same temples, monasteries, shops, guest houses and clinics.
So while the rest of the world fights to speak the language of Inclusion – let’s make men and women more equal, let’s make people of all races more equal, let’s equalise the wage gap – the Tibetan leadership is the ONLY one that continues to REVEL in its language of Exclusion, Segregation and Integration. Just look at the video that the leadership, led by Sikyong Lobsang Sangay and Ms Dhardon Sharling, recently filmed. The Tibetan leadership are PROUD of this language, thinking that it reflects their sense of equality and fair-mindedness to give us equal rights. Sorry, but it is totally illogical because in revelling in this language of Exclusion, Segregation and Integration, they are only tolerating us and they are not INCLUDING us.
And as Rinpoche says below, tolerance denotes that there is something wrong with the object, in this case Dorje Shugden practitioners. It denotes that we still need to be kept away from the general population of Tibetan and Buddhist practitioners, sequestered to our own monasteries, our own temples, etc.
But if you also look at the image above, you will see it is all dots. Sure, differently-coloured dots and differently-shaped dots. Some are wonky, some are not perfect dots but they are all dots. When some dots are kept separate from other dots, it looks weird and wrong, like there is something wrong with the colourful dots. But when the dots mix and match as in the case of Inclusion, the picture becomes so much prettier and more interesting.
Suffice to say, the Tibetan and Buddhist community will be much better off if the Tibetan leadership starts speaking the language of Inclusion once again, and I cannot think of any story that demonstrates this better than a famous Chinese parable about chopsticks that my father passed on to me when I was a child.
A wealthy old man was on his deathbed when he called his 10 quarrelsome sons together. He knew fights over his wealth would break out after his passing and he did not want to see it happen. So he told his sons to pick up a chopstick each and asked them to bend it.
Predictably, every single son snapped their chopstick, even the weakest boy. Then he instructed each of them to bundle 10 chopsticks together and try to snap that.
This time, none of them, not even the strongest son, was able to break the bundle. So he asked his sons, “Which one broke easily?” and the boys said the one chopstick. Correct, he replied, and which one could not be split apart regardless of how much force was exerted? All of them said the chopstick bundle. He counselled them that the 10 sons were like the bundle of 10 chopsticks. On their own, they would one by one be broken and fall but if they stuck together, they would become a force invincible.
So it is up to the Tibetan leadership what kind of future they want for their people. A one-chopstick kind of scenario, fostered by Exclusion, Segregation and Integration, or a 10-chopstick kind of scenario forged by Inclusion. Inclusion is not always a bed of roses and it comes with its own set of problems but to me, Inclusion seems the preferable choice because without it, what do we have left but a bunch of broken chopsticks? The choice is up to them.
Tolerance is an interesting word. It denotes the object is at fault or difficult to deal with. Be it so in some cases as there is reality to contend with. If the subject changes the views, then the object although in certain circumstances are difficult, still the subject will not have to ‘tolerate’ so much. But this tolerance is transformed into acceptance, compassion and forgiveness for others and even it can motivate the subject to find a way to break through to the object of one’s once tolerance. To simply abandon an object of tolerance means we will spend the rest of our lives only tolerating which can lead to a build up of anger and unnecessary effects that harm.
Because where in the world do we find perfection to be only enjoyed and nothing to be tolerated?
Tolerance denotes subject has no fault and only object is to be blamed. This is wrong. In other words projections and expectations of everyone around us is the cause for suffering, anger and feeling we’ve been slighted. The more we work on changing our attitude from tolerance to acceptance and perhaps finding ways to inspire others to be better, we will never find a tolerance free zone. So more practical the subject works on itself and not keep blaming the objects.
~ H.E. the 25th Tsem Rinpoche
For more interesting information:
- The Dorje Shugden category on my blog
- How Tibetan leadership treats a sponsor (jindak)
- 52 Years of Generosity
- They said NO!
- Badge of Shame
- The Importance of Tibet Befriending China
- Reuters Investigation on Dorje Shugden Inaccurate?
- Reuters Anti-Dorje Shugden Report Backfires
- When Reuters becomes a tool of oppression
- China officially supports Dorje Shugden
- China’s official stance on Dorje Shugden
- Dalai Lama, China & Dorje Shugden
- Markham makes it illegal to ban Dorje Shugden
- Dalai Lama Says We Can Practise Dorje Shugden Finally!
- Dear Dalai Lama, With Folded Hands
- Dear Dalai Lama, please read this
- Can the Dalai Lama say this one day?
- Will the Dalai Lama agree with this?
- Appeal to H.H. the Dalai Lama
- What you must know about China
- Dorje Shugden: My side of the story
- My plea to His Holiness the Dalai Lama
- Shall We Hate The Jews and Those Different Than Us?
- My plea to His Holiness (Tibetan)
- Why aren’t the monasteries helping the drought?
- Stronger Bond Between Malaysia and China
- Why is she putting the Dalai Lama down?
- I’m Requesting Ordination in 1987
- They want to kill me
- What I Think of His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama?
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