I Want My Pain to Last… Forever

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I am inspired by how much we are all very absorbed with our relationships and the emotions which follow that dictate what we think is the “absolute truth”. Many times we end up all twisted and stuck. Personally, there is no absolute solution for the absolute pain we hold on to but I can only share my journey in hopes that we will find a solution and enjoy the journey.

This is a hypothetical conversation between Mr. Ego and Ms. Wisdom, which may sound familiar to some of us…

Wisdom: “Please do not get all worked up. Look at the bigger scale of things. Would you prefer living a lie? From a bigger perspective, you should think how fortunate you are.”

Ego: “What? Are you kidding? My world has just fallen apart! My partner has just cheated on me with my best friend. I am in so much pain. How can you ask me to feel lucky when I have been betrayed and hurt? I have lost time, energy and effort on this relationship!”

Wisdom: “What happened is not fair of course, but it is really not the end of the world…I mean ‘your world’. If you keep thinking negatively, how will you heal? Pain and issues like this are great opportunities to learn and be stronger.”

Ego: “But… it means I have wasted the last 5 years of my life. It is not fair. I want to get even!”

Wisdom: “How will getting even make you heal? It will only create more pain and suffering for you and them. The situation will open up more wounds. Emotions will flare up, words will be spoken only to be regretted later. Because of the law of Cause and Effect, there will be repercussions if you act from anger that comes from the hurt. Isn’t it better to know the truth now rather than later?”

Ego: “I can’t think too much now about anything other than my pain.”

And we all know how these conversations go. It just keeps going round and round, like a dog chasing its own tail, with no end in sight. Situations involving highly charged emotions are never pleasant, and we have all had our share of these traumatic experiences. Haven’t we? I know I have.

Betrayal, love lost, hurt, pain, humiliation, anger, jealousy… you name it, we have at one time or another indulged obsessively in these negative emotions. But guess what, we didn’t die from it, at least physically. Emotionally, many of us may have reached a place where we can only be diagnosed as “numb”. Some of us might even still be there and have not moved on from whatever hurt us.

Regardless of whether you are wearing your pain on your face, or pretending you are not hurting, the big question to ask is, “Where do we go from here?” A relationship filled with love and romance is probably the one thing we all want so badly that it blinds us and renders us emotionally and mentally irrational or unstable. When the romance begins, we are on “Cloud Nine” as the saying goes, and everything is beautiful and faultless. We even regard the person’s flaws as charming until time wears down the bewitchment and the same thing that was once charming is now annoying.

I was once very much in love with a man whom I labeled my “soul mate”, and I strongly believed it was true then. As time passed, it did not work out. His intelligence that I once was attracted to, became a skill he used to push me out of his life. The charming intelligence became a cutting coldness. It hurt. I cried. I lost my self-respect. I felt like the dumbest woman on the planet. I was devastated. It felt like the “end of the world”. I wanted to run him over with a big car! It took me a couple of years to heal and accept that it was not meant to be, and to stop thinking that relationships suck.

Relationships do not suck; how I managed myself sucked. I willingly consented to be a victim and for my hurt and pain to blind me and tell me that my happiness depended on him and the relationship with him. In that thought that I abided in, I was at my most delusional state. The truth is, my happiness is within myself and when I am happy with myself, I can have meaningful relationships with anyone, and it was not about him.

What made me come to my senses (and this is without running him over with a big car) was this realization:

“In life we love and we hurt. And we think it’s all about us. Who we loved, loved us too. As we hurt, they hurt too. Life is fair, but maybe not at the time we want it to be.”

The above is only one example of a relationship and it does not have to be limited to lovers, boyfriends, girlfriends and couples. Relationships also include those we have with friends and family, which can turn sour as well. We have lost friends from misunderstandings that we were too proud to forgive and forget. We left it to brew and stew, and with time the situation was beyond repair.

For some of us, the list of failed relationships seem to keep building. We have to ask ourselves, when do we stop accumulating failed relationships and start piling up fantastic relationships? We need to stop carrying our negative experiences into the next relationship. Most of all, we must manage our expectations – have none of the other person. Note that taking our negative experiences like hurt and anger into the next relationship is basically expecting the worst, and it will end up just like that. And, be realistic. Much easier said than done, trust me I know. But if we do not make that conscious choice now, when will we begin to accumulate positive relationships? Life is too short to keep having failed relationships and friendships.

Choose to let go of the past and of our angst. Let’s give ourselves a chance to make a positive impact by changing our attitude. We want to be happy and we are not an island, therefore the relationships we have now, and will have in the future, are dependent on our conscious choices every moment we are involved.

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  1. Wan Wai Meng on Apr 26, 2016 at 1:31 am

    I have really enjoyed reading the insights presented here by Li Kim.

  2. Chris Chong on Jan 13, 2016 at 1:36 am

    Thank you Li Kim for sharing this post.

    Forgiving someone that hurt us is very difficult to do. However, we have to force ourselves to do it because as long as we hold on to the anger and grudge, it will hurt us again and again and again without an end. It is like holding a burning coal in our hands, it will continue to burn us unless we learn to let go. Why are we punishing ourselves with the mistake of others?

    On the karma point of view, they hurt us because we have the karma to be hurt. If we retaliate back or take revenge, we will create new bad karma. It is a never ending vicious cycle. If we are able to forgive and be compassionate about them, this bad karma will be exhausted. So, it is a wise move for us to start learning on how to forgive.

    Chris

  3. Pastor Moh Mei on Dec 31, 2015 at 6:12 pm

    “In life we love and we hurt. And we think it’s all about us….”

    The root of all our problems – we think it’s all about us. With the information technology age upon us, knowledge is at our fingertips. Social networking has allowed everyone to share their experiences, inspirations, sadness, happiness online with the rest of the world. Ms Wisdom can tell us a lot and give all angles of debate but Mr Ego will always find some lame excuses to counter all reasoning.

    We repeat our negatives experiences like a broken record. One would think we have learnt from our past not to start another war but no…countries continue to fight over territory and political views, tribes continue to fight over cultural and racial differences, even religions continue to fight over different beliefs. And we continue to fight every single day between each other over every little petty things under the sky. Some of us even fight with ourselves every single day between Ms Wisdom and Mr Ego.

    It’s time to let go. Don’t take everything personally. Relationships are inevitable – between family, friends, lovers, partners, colleagues, countryman, strangers, etc. Positive relationships among mankind is possible. Happiness is possible. It may take some conscious effort but to continue to suffer failed relationships takes even more effort.

  4. Choo Weng Loong on Dec 16, 2015 at 6:24 pm

    let go , move on , forgive & forget , learn from past mistakes , have no expectation of others but yourself to be a better person . Life is like a box of chocolates , you’ll never know what you’re gonna get

  5. Li kheng on Dec 16, 2015 at 2:49 am

    Thank you for a very honest and vulnerable blog post. It is true that we spend so much time and energy being victims of our choices and, eventually, become angry and bitter about how life had been unfair to us.

    Unlike most of us who run from pain and avoid pain. Rinpoche aspires for the pain of all being to come to him. Rinpoche choose to be in Malaysia where Tibetan Buddhism is hardly heard because he is continuing his legacy of bringing dharma to places where it does not exist.

    We should learn to revise our relationship with pain so that it becomes an experience that strengthens us and opens our hearts to being kind

  6. Lin Mun on Dec 5, 2015 at 6:51 pm

    Li Kim thanks for sharing this article. It is so true and it reflect ourselves so much in many situations be it relationships, friendship, work or family. Most of the time we would dwell into pain and keep getting deeper. It reminds us that we should stop and move on. Why suffer the pain when we have a choice to change?

    And all this is in our mind. If we can manage ourselves better and confront it, we can get out of it. We should forgive and let go.

    I hope I can keep reminding myself this message and be happy always. 🙂

  7. Pastor Shin on Dec 4, 2015 at 10:39 am

    Thank you Li Kim for this article. Very practical advice and I especially the contrast between wisdom and ego.

    Your article reminded me about one of the Eight Verses of Mind Transformation:

    In all actions I will examine my mind
    And the moment a disturbing attitude arises,
    Endangering myself or others,
    I will firmly confront and avert it.

    Our two main problems are wrong projections on impermanent phenomena and grasping at our wrong projections and acting on it. The suggestions you have, which is stop carrying our negative experiences into the next relationship, manage our expectations and be realistic, those are starting steps for us to stop our wrong projections.

    I also like you what said that (when we ) choose to let go of the past and of our angst, we give OURSELVES a chance, many people cannot let go of the fact that they have been hurt and the hurt is not justified or it is not fair. “Who we loved, loved us too. As we hurt, they hurt too. “It is a good teminder for us to focus out and not in.

    Rinpoche’s quote is a good conclusion, that if we give love, then the pain will go away. No point to keep suffering in the pain, or using the pain as an excuse to give other pain.

  8. JP on Dec 1, 2015 at 1:50 pm

    Thank you Likim for the article on pain and letting go. This is a big topic of discussion as most of us go through pains and subconsciously carry these pains throughout our life, letting the imprints influence our choices, thought processes and our “world”. Oprah had numerous shows exploring and interviewing people who have been through tremendous pain. Some heal from it and some do not.

    Most of us do not like pain and always think of ways to prevent pain. I write “most” and not “all” because I have met people who, based on their actions, choose the pain because they are more comfortable to be in their comfort zones. The uncertainty and fear of going out of their comfort zones or areas of familiarity is too overwhelming for them. So they choose to live with the pain.

    My personal experience of letting go is that it takes a tremendous amount of effort to conscientiously stop myself from acting out of anger and depression, calm myself and dive into the root cause that created these reactions. What works for me is to examine thoroughly the root cause and how hanging on to it doesn’t help me.

    I realised that imprints from experiences during my younger years have a huge impact on how I am now. Understanding the importance of letting them go on an intellectual level is easy, but really having the shift and letting go from the core, I realised, takes years. I attribute that to my huge ego. As long as the experience is similar, regardless of who creates the experience for me, my reaction kicks in. It is so automatic that I have to catch myself all the time. As Tsem Rinpoche tells me many times, I am a damaged good.

    Forgiving is easy for me because I don’t hold grudges and would rather spend my energy on something more positive and constructive. I am very lucky and fortunate to have a guru like Tsem Rinpoche who guides me patiently regardless of how damaged I am. Rinpoche has given me the tools and wisdom teachings to letting go and healing. The key is to focus out on others consistently and the rest will melt away with time.

  9. Pastor Elena Khong Jean Ai on Nov 29, 2015 at 10:55 pm

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic Li Kim 🙂

    One of the best quotes I have read about relationships is that no relationship should “complete” you. It shouldn’t be two halves coming together to make a whole, but two wholes coming together to make something even better. The relationship should *complement* your personality and goals, and not “complete” them.

    Why would people who feel they are not complete and that parts of them are missing, think it is healthy to join with another person who similarly has missing qualities about themselves?

    To say a relationship “completes” you is to me a Hollywood-fueled notion of romanticism that is cliched, unrealistic and full of expectation, and it is expectation and lack of communication that kills any relationship.

    You expect the other person to behave in a certain way, to react in a certain way, to say and do certain things according to your perception of the world. When these expectations are not met, or are not communicated clearly, we get upset and then trouble arises in the relationship. I mean, just think back to all of the fights you have had with your friends, partner and loved ones. This applies to any kind of relationship, whether romantic or platonic.

    When we come together to form any kind of relationship, the combination of two minds, two sets of effort, two sets of resources, etc. has the potential to propel people’s self-improvement. After all, with the amount of effort we will have to invest into the relationship, the least we can do is get something positive out of it!

    But if a relationship “completes” you, it means you had to change something about yourself to accommodate the relationship. It means your original pre-relationship state was flawed / damaged; how is it a good idea that two damaged people come together? Why not ‘fix’ yourself first before joining together with someone else or with other people?

    So on the topic of change, as Li Kim said, there is a danger when people get into relationships, that they change themselves to accommodate the other person and, in the process, forget themselves. But a person who truly cares for you will never allow you to do that, but instead encourage you to be the best version of who you are. So when people tell you you have changed, actually you haven’t…it just means you have stopped living life their way.

  10. Nicholas on Nov 25, 2015 at 9:52 pm

    What you shared here is really what most of the people experiencing. The key is how we move on because for those that unable to, they will always trap in their own deluded mind and causes much anger for themselves and worst case is the explosive action taken out of control which will hurt other people and unknowingly hurt the people they love.

    I like what you said here that we should stop carrying our negative experiences into the next relationship. Once we identify the problem we should let go, move on. To me be ‘realistic’ is that if you don’t want how people treat you, then you don’t treat people the same way. That’s to be ‘real’ for me. We all have a choice so is up to us to choose the positive way to move on or the negative way to stay back and stay behind while seeing others move on.

    Great post and thanks for sharing Li Kim.

  11. Louise Lee on Nov 25, 2015 at 5:54 pm

    谢谢 Likim 的分享, 让我更加了解人生。

    我们常常都把自己放在大前提,忘了身边人的感受,当得到的不是自己想要的就会大发雷霆,把自己放得太大了。 每一样东西抓的太紧,让我们失去原本的意义。

    Likim 说的对, 如果我们不停的埋怨,被负面的情绪拖着走,脚步会很沉重。 不如重新出发正面面对,为快乐的每一天努力。

  12. peebeechong on Nov 23, 2015 at 11:03 pm

    Thank You Rinpoche and Li Kim for the sharing.

    We have a lot of expectation on relationships and if the expectation does not meet our expectation, we will be disappointed and anger, especially when it involved with the person we trust, respect and love. We must manage our expectations, however, it is much easier said than done. We need to let go as life is too short. “Give happiness, patience, kindness and care and the pain goes away, Then only LOVE remains”

    With folded hands
    Pee Bee Chong

  13. William Chua on Nov 21, 2015 at 2:56 pm

    We are all suckers for pain! Somehow we just dwell deeper and deeper in the pain thinking that it is normal and ok. Until we come to our senses that what we put ourselves through is pure stupidity. Letting go is the freedom to love again especially to love yourself. Many a times, it is the fear of the unknown that is pulling us back from making that leap into the unknown. And most of the time the unknown is a place where miracles can happen.

  14. Li Kim on Nov 18, 2015 at 3:52 am

    I read the comments and I’m truly happy that my article helps. Honestly, when I wrote the article I too laughed at myself. I laughed at how “silly” I had been. Of course I can laugh now but at that time when my deluded ignorant mind was in control, it wasn’t that funny

  15. Joy on Nov 17, 2015 at 12:31 am

    Omg I love this post! It is so down to earth, real and talks about stuff we can all relate to one way or another… but most of all it made me laugh! Half way through I knew this writer sounded familiar… scrolled down and saw Li Kim’s face! Lol I knew it, it is the ‘Li Kim humour’. I really liked the familiar scenarios of “running him over with a big car!’ yes many of us have had that fantasy… myself included hehe.

    Thank you for your wonderful post, it made me laugh and woke me up. Yes I can relate to many things mentioned and definitely this can be applied to any relationship/friendship we have with anyone. It is really our choice how we wish to handle the situation, listen to Ms.Wisdom or Mr. Ego… and how we should move on from any failed situation or event in our lives. Just because we got bad feedback(s), that doesn’t mean the end of the world.

    We have got to stop over reacting and turning red, fanning the fire of ‘anger’ inside. The truth is no one out there is hurting or cares, only you are hurting and you enhance that hurt by playing it over and over again in your head. So often we make ourselves ‘the victim’… yup we suck at managing us. Acknowledge you screw up and letting it go is the best, though this may sound easier than done, but in time, it does get easier. Also keeping ourselves occupied with positive work helps a lot. Being productive helps one to stop focusing in instead focus out… work on something to get results, and get back our self-esteem!
    Thanks again, love your realistic advices and looking forward to your next post!

  16. Pema Thinley on Nov 13, 2015 at 8:23 pm

    Thank you so much for such inspiring piece lah. It is so practical and logical. The turn of the perspective is what we all need to do while coming to dealing with the situations we come across. We have been always thinking just about ourselves. Being Little selfless and giving out love and kindness and being being honest to self and others may change our lives forever. Thank you for such beautiful sharing _()_

  17. Alice Tay on Nov 13, 2015 at 11:54 am

    I am started to believe the cause and effect since I was young. I believe that each of us may have done whether virtue or non virtue actions in our many previous lifetimes and of course there is no one but only ourselves to bear the karma that we have done.

    Thank you Li Kim for this sharing which remind me that the choice to be happy and freedom is depend on ourselves and not others.

  18. Stella on Nov 13, 2015 at 8:46 am

    Relationships do not suck. It is how I managed myself that sucked. I found out the hard way. Thank you very much, Li Kheng, it reminds me let go of the residual negative emotions.

    Humbly,
    Stella

  19. sonam yangchen on Nov 12, 2015 at 4:34 pm

    thank you …I feel so better now!!!

  20. Vinnie Tan on Nov 10, 2015 at 10:08 pm

    Li Kim, big thank you to you for sharing such a post. It is not only applicable to all of us here on the blog. But you also shared your own personal experience so that all of us here will understand what you mean better.

    Thank you for being so honest with us in order to benefit all of us. Many of us have experiences like you. We get so blinded that we push everyone aways from us and just like that so called “pain” take over of our lives and cover all the logic and wisdom that we have.

    Many times when things like that happen to us, we go into self destruction mode. When we do that, we do not only self destruct, but we totally forgot about the people around us that care for us and want us to be well. We are too blinded by that so called “pain” that maybe one party has infused in us that we forget that there are still many that love us. With them seeing our pain and self destructing, it will also hurt them and make them feel pain.

    A wise person once told me, it is only when we let go that we will be able to receive the true meaning of happiness. When we do not know how to yet, we can fake it. Fake it till we really learn how to do so. Only then we will be able to know how to improve ourselves so that we will be alright and improve ourselves as well. When we improve and move on, it will no longer make us so miserable and when we look back, we will know that we have improved in our lives. Maybe even have a day when we walk pass the same person again and they will then regret for having hurt us as we generated that hurt to motivation to make ourselves work harder so we are better. Not that small and weak person that we previously were.

  21. wansan on Nov 10, 2015 at 8:07 pm

    Thank you Li Kim for sharing her thoughts and experiences.

    Most of the times, our ego surpasses the knowledge we have and we choose to follow our ego, inside secretly knowing that somehow it’s not the “best” choice after all. However, ego has proven its power to us. How powerful it can be in destroying our lives, our beliefs, our relationships with people…

    When everything that we do or experience, is surrounded within the “I”, the “me”.. we are already expecting something in return that will bring benefit to ourselves and when it does not fulfill our satisfaction, our anger blows up like volcano and we start pointing fingers at everyone else except to, of course, “me”, our own self.

    Like Rinpoche says “Happiness is a choice”. Everyone at a point in life, experienced things that aren’t pleasant, aren’t to our satisfaction, but we have a choice. We can choose to indulge in our negative emotions for months, years, getting depressed… and yet nothing has improved in our lives, worst still, slowly deteriorating; or we can choose to move on and let go.

    “Let’s give ourselves a chance to make a positive impact by changing our attitude.”

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  • Alice Tay
    Sunday, Apr 30. 2017 12:16 AM
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this and I was touched by this story very much. I personally think that this faithful dog must has very close karmic connection with its owner and it know that the owner is died. Furthermore, animals are very sensitive to our energies and mind states. So, if we are loving kindness and compassion, they can feel our love and care.

    As such, we must treat the animals like humans too. Not to harm them because humans can be reborn as animals and animals can be reborn as humans. We have to accept that humans and animals are interconnected and just like a family.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/faithful-dog-chases-deceased-owner.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Saturday, Apr 29. 2017 11:49 PM
    Spiritual practice is definitely much more than doing good for others. When we practice “spirituality” without religion and from our own understanding, how sure are we that we are on the right track? When we practice spiritual with the guide of religion, we will certain progress and much easily to attain higher levels. Thank you, Rinpoche for this teaching.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/can-we-just-be-spiritual-but-not-religious.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Saturday, Apr 29. 2017 10:56 PM
    When we truly love and care for another being like a family, whether this other being is a dog or cat, a child or a stranger, it will break our heart when it is gone. Many people may not be capable of this emotion towards a pet but as we evolved, we will realize we are capable to develop such feelings for animals. It is common in the west to have pets cemetery because of this reason. Thank you for this article, Rinpoche.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/why-losing-a-dog-can-be-harder-than-losing-a-relative-or-friend.html
  • Lin Mun
    Saturday, Apr 29. 2017 03:09 PM
    Interesting info and article about werewolves. I never knew about its origins and the various wolves existence until I read this. I have thus far know about werewolves only from the movies and the famous twilight show. But one thing I noticed from the articles is the gruesome manner in killing the person (or suspected werewolves). Some were cursed to be a werewolves. There just so much anger, violence and killing in the whole process, which probably the reason why werewolves are known to kill and hurt human and other animals.

    Anyway, whether we believe the existence of werewolf is true or not, I believe that there are other forms of beings in world. And we should not handle or deal with other beings with violence and anger.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/paranormal/werewolves-the-shapeshifters.html#comment-744320
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    Friday, Apr 28. 2017 04:00 PM
    Everything we offer to Buddha is a form of mind transformation and practise our mind to be focus even when doing water offering. When pouring the water into the bowl we have to recite Om Ah Hum (3 times), think positively and pouring it slowly so it does not spill and leaving the space of a grain of rice before reaching the top. After offering we also have to clean the bowls properly without leaving stain. All this is to train our mind.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing the many benefits and water offering in a simple to understand article.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/making-water-offerings-to-the-buddhas.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Friday, Apr 28. 2017 03:38 PM
    Trolls are assiociates as beings of Scandinavian folklore.A large number of different mythological creatures continue to live on in Scandinavian folklore.They have different shapes,habitat and filthy features . There are also numerous tales of trolls told and retold.Trolls are also believed to have the magigal powers, which were folktales ,posses capabilities that are beyond human .What ever it was a remnant of a long-lost reality for sure. I do believe that there’s a very high chance trolls had existed in the past.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing ,i do enjoyed all the stories in these article even though it just folk tales.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/the-hidden-nature-of-trolls.html
  • Jason
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 11:54 PM
    People always expect return on some contribution being done especially in charity events. When the return was under their expectations then they will feel sad or unhappy.
    As Rinpoche said, Dharma is a teachings to transform our mind to become bodicitta or selfless to benefit others without condition. Once we practiced selfless mind, our mind will not be affected by others people reaction.
    What will be my legacy? I think this is not really important to me anymore once I know Dharma teachings from Rinpoche.
    Thanks Datuk May for sharing to benefit more people.

    Jason

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/guest-contributors/what-will-be-your-legacy.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 08:56 PM
    Amazing miracles true story …of how Rinpoche helped. With Rinpoche blessing during the children baptismal ceremony,this little boy who had not spoken since 9 years old was able to speake again.Incredible….
    Chef Au truly believes been a vegetarian has help him to collects merits for his son.Rinpoche’s care and compassion has benefited many more people.Through these stories hope more people will be inspired to achieve the state of compassion and attainments.
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Loh Seng Piow for this sharing.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-4.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 07:51 PM
    Having fully trust and faith in Rinpoche ,Fat monk’s mother was well again, after been diagnosed with cancerious tumour at the liver.
    Following instructions given by Rinpoche, his mother recited mantras and Fat monk did a series of pujas as told,his mother recovered then.
    Amazing……Miracles do happen.
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Loh Seng Piow for sharing.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-3.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 05:27 PM
    We are no strangers to the creatures called Werewolves. They are often depicted as the Jekyll-and-Hyde-like monsters in movies who are unable to control their animal instincts when they shift from human form to a wolf-like creature, usually during the full moon. Together with the Vampires who can transform into bats, are my childhood imagery villains, who triggered my curiosity on mythical creatures during younger days. They still do, lol.

    It is gruesome to learn that real life werewolves are actually brutal even when they are in human forms. It is a far depict from the movies and fictions, where they are civil and level headed when in human form. I hope one day science or technology can provide more proves the existence of werewolves, and debunk the reason of this mystical shapeshifter.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/paranormal/werewolves-the-shapeshifters.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 05:07 PM
    The miraculous power of Protectors’ practice can heal and shield us from negative karma from ripening. Through the blessings of our Guru, coupled with strong faith and trust, the practices will take effect swiftly and effectively. Rejoice to Steven Lee. May he be guided by the Three Jewels always. Thank you, Pastor Seng Piow for sharing the true story with us.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-10.html
  • Lin Mun
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 03:57 PM
    This is a very touching article. I totally agree that dog is a man’s best friend. They are always so loyal to the owner. However it is sad that not all pet owners are such. Some will only treat them literally as an animal and therefore do not take good care of them. Dogs or any other animals are beings that have feeling. There should not be neglected and be abused by us. This article reminds us to always care for all beings and respect them.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this heartwarming article.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/faithful-dog-chases-deceased-owner.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 02:21 PM
    Its a heartfelt touching article of this faithful dog.Cannot imagine this ,such a wonderful relationship between that dog and the deceased owner.The greatest fear dogs know is the fear that we will not come back for them That i noticed from observing from my pet poodle.In this case this faithful dog knew his owner won’t be back.
    Dogs are loyal, patient, fearless, forgiving, capable of pure love and have feelings too.He must have missed the owner badly that he wanted to accompany the owner all the way to the resting place.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing. May that faithful dog ,continue to serve and well taken, love by the other family members.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/faithful-dog-chases-deceased-owner.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 01:46 PM
    Werewolves are known to be mythical creatures found in fiction instead of lurking in the dark woods,In various parts of the world there were few cases who have gone down in history as real life werewolves Interesting to read it from these post..How far it was true or just legends.,no one really know . Many myths and legends surrounding werewolves .To become a werewolf, it is necessary to be bitten by a werewolf in their form at the time of the full moon. Thats what all of us knew from the movies and from fiction told. Reports of werewolf sightings continued even till this century but mostly in between 1428 and 1447 .The most recent sighting of werewolf sightings in 1972. was in Ohio .but eventually subsided .
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these interesting article which i do enjoyed reading it,
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/paranormal/werewolves-the-shapeshifters.html

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Holy Lady Buddha Vajra Yogini\'s blessing can be found when we decide to focus out to others instead of in to only ourselves.
~ Tsem Tulku Rinpoche
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Holy Lady Buddha Vajra Yogini's blessing can be found when we decide to focus out to others instead of in to only ourselves. ~ Tsem Tulku Rinpoche
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His Holiness Vajradhara Kyabje Zong Rinpoche of Gaden Monastery who is the refuge of countless, gives a clear explanation of Dorje Shugden. One is able to hear his holy voice and translation by Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen! Please see here and share: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=122352
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This is a simple chart showing the three main psychic channels used in tantric meditations to control the winds, raise tummo (fire energy), gain higher consciousness and insight and also for gaining siddhis. These channels are used in meditations for controlling the mind, when the mind ejects from the body (phowa) and one\'s death. These three channels are very important. Tsem Rinpoche
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This is a simple chart showing the three main psychic channels used in tantric meditations to control the winds, raise tummo (fire energy), gain higher consciousness and insight and also for gaining siddhis. These channels are used in meditations for controlling the mind, when the mind ejects from the body (phowa) and one's death. These three channels are very important. Tsem Rinpoche
I think my cute doggie Oser is actually Tintin\'s dog Snowy!
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I think my cute doggie Oser is actually Tintin's dog Snowy!
Great Masters of Gaden Shartse Monastery. From left to right: His Eminence Kensur Jampa Yeshe Rinpoche, His Holiness Sharpa Choeje Jetsun Lobsang Nyima, H.E. Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche, H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, His Holiness 101st Gaden Tripa throne holder Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal.
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Great Masters of Gaden Shartse Monastery. From left to right: His Eminence Kensur Jampa Yeshe Rinpoche, His Holiness Sharpa Choeje Jetsun Lobsang Nyima, H.E. Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche, H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, His Holiness 101st Gaden Tripa throne holder Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal.
 Left to right: Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl. The three of them are my beautiful and loved Schnauzer dogs. They loved looking through the window to see traffic, people and movement. They loved the smells that drifted through their little noses. I love seeing the three of them together like this. I love them. Tsem Rinpoche
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Left to right: Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl. The three of them are my beautiful and loved Schnauzer dogs. They loved looking through the window to see traffic, people and movement. They loved the smells that drifted through their little noses. I love seeing the three of them together like this. I love them. Tsem Rinpoche
Little Mumu boy...he loved balloons. When he saw them, he wanted to get close and perhaps bite them. Cute. I love this picture of Mumu reaching for the balloons. He was young and healthy! This picture captures his energy, enthusiasm, curiosity and high energy. I love this picture of him chasing the balloons. His pictures are always so nice....He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
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Little Mumu boy...he loved balloons. When he saw them, he wanted to get close and perhaps bite them. Cute. I love this picture of Mumu reaching for the balloons. He was young and healthy! This picture captures his energy, enthusiasm, curiosity and high energy. I love this picture of him chasing the balloons. His pictures are always so nice....He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
Little Mumu boy and myself.. He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
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Little Mumu boy and myself.. He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
2017-His Holiness the 101st Gaden Tripa, Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal is doing well and 90 years old. His Holiness Lungrik Namgyal is a powerful master of sutra and tantra and practitioner of Dorje Shugden. Currently residing in France.
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2017-His Holiness the 101st Gaden Tripa, Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal is doing well and 90 years old. His Holiness Lungrik Namgyal is a powerful master of sutra and tantra and practitioner of Dorje Shugden. Currently residing in France.
One of the most sacred statues of Avalokitesvara made of sandalwood housed in Lhasa, Tibet. He has shown miracles also. Every pilgrim wishes to make offerings to this Lord of Compassion.
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One of the most sacred statues of Avalokitesvara made of sandalwood housed in Lhasa, Tibet. He has shown miracles also. Every pilgrim wishes to make offerings to this Lord of Compassion.
 Sacred Avalokitesvara statue in Nepal. Thousands come to worship this special Buddha as it has conferred wishes in the past.
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Sacred Avalokitesvara statue in Nepal. Thousands come to worship this special Buddha as it has conferred wishes in the past.
Tsem Rinpoche\'s Vajra Yogini statue and offerings
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Tsem Rinpoche's Vajra Yogini statue and offerings
Two of my teachers from Gaden Shartse Monastery in South India. Left side is Most Venerable Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen whom I lived with for 8 years in Los Angeles where his centre Thubten Dhargye Ling is located. On the right is the abbot emeritus H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche the scholar and yogi. I was very fortunate to have them in my life and learn so much dharma from them. Tsem Rinpoche
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Two of my teachers from Gaden Shartse Monastery in South India. Left side is Most Venerable Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen whom I lived with for 8 years in Los Angeles where his centre Thubten Dhargye Ling is located. On the right is the abbot emeritus H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche the scholar and yogi. I was very fortunate to have them in my life and learn so much dharma from them. Tsem Rinpoche
 It is so wonderful to be kind to people, be caring, feed them, make sure they are healthy and share dharma if they are interested with them for their future. But simply to be nice to others is worth getting up and being alive...otherwise why be alive to hurt/use/distrust and hate others? No point living that way..must change that..... It is nice to live our lives to benefit others and be patient even if we have been hurt before because by caring we can heal the hurt and \'defeat\' the ones that hurt us because we don\'t become bitter..... Tsem Rinpoche
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It is so wonderful to be kind to people, be caring, feed them, make sure they are healthy and share dharma if they are interested with them for their future. But simply to be nice to others is worth getting up and being alive...otherwise why be alive to hurt/use/distrust and hate others? No point living that way..must change that..... It is nice to live our lives to benefit others and be patient even if we have been hurt before because by caring we can heal the hurt and 'defeat' the ones that hurt us because we don't become bitter..... Tsem Rinpoche
Tsem Rinpoche\'s heritage in China. Must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=120499
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Tsem Rinpoche's heritage in China. Must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=120499
Thank you Buddhist Pastor Chia for sharing your story on how you met His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche over 20 years ago. We can learn much from your story.~Admin  Please read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=116928
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Thank you Buddhist Pastor Chia for sharing your story on how you met His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche over 20 years ago. We can learn much from your story.~Admin Please read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=116928
Mumu boy is incredibly photogenic. He is beyond cute. Tsem Rinpoche
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Mumu boy is incredibly photogenic. He is beyond cute. Tsem Rinpoche
 (left to right) Rabten Tulku, Gonsar Rinpoche, Gyume Kensur Rinpoche, Trijang Rinpoche, H.H. Gaden Trisur Rinpoche (France)
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(left to right) Rabten Tulku, Gonsar Rinpoche, Gyume Kensur Rinpoche, Trijang Rinpoche, H.H. Gaden Trisur Rinpoche (France)
Beautiful 200 roses arrived today for me as a gift from Su Ming. Very kind and thoughtful of her as usual. Tsem Rinpoche
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Beautiful 200 roses arrived today for me as a gift from Su Ming. Very kind and thoughtful of her as usual. Tsem Rinpoche
It\'s good to be with kind and sincere people.
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It's good to be with kind and sincere people.
If we are kind, we lose less of ourselves-Tsem Rinpoche
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If we are kind, we lose less of ourselves-Tsem Rinpoche
My Mumu boy didn\'t want to eat. Eating is not one of his favorite activities throughout his life. So I talked to him to let him know why he needs to eat and keep his strength up when this photo was taken. He was listening intently and after my talk with him, he ate. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
My Mumu boy didn't want to eat. Eating is not one of his favorite activities throughout his life. So I talked to him to let him know why he needs to eat and keep his strength up when this photo was taken. He was listening intently and after my talk with him, he ate. Tsem Rinpoche
This is so true. Click to enlarge and understand more about unpleasant people.
1 month ago
This is so true. Click to enlarge and understand more about unpleasant people.
This mahasiddha Kukkuripa is easy to identify as he is accompanied by a small dog whom he loved very much.
1 month ago
This mahasiddha Kukkuripa is easy to identify as he is accompanied by a small dog whom he loved very much.
Mumu taking a rest in the turquoise room. Over the years, I always feel very satisfied when I see him covered with a blanket, safe and sleeping. I always wanted to make sure he was safe from harm, illness and distress. I wanted him to have a happy and loved life. Tsem Rinpoche
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Mumu taking a rest in the turquoise room. Over the years, I always feel very satisfied when I see him covered with a blanket, safe and sleeping. I always wanted to make sure he was safe from harm, illness and distress. I wanted him to have a happy and loved life. Tsem Rinpoche
I wrapped my little Mumu boy up in my blanket and propped him up on my bed. He didn\'t move or wiggle and just looked at me. He is one funny entertaining little guy. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
I wrapped my little Mumu boy up in my blanket and propped him up on my bed. He didn't move or wiggle and just looked at me. He is one funny entertaining little guy. Tsem Rinpoche
March 2017-Coaxing my little Mumu boy to eat his meal. He was not well and therefore not hungry. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
March 2017-Coaxing my little Mumu boy to eat his meal. He was not well and therefore not hungry. Tsem Rinpoche
Click on picture to enlarge and see what Milarepa says. Profound.
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Click on picture to enlarge and see what Milarepa says. Profound.
We are always trying to get somewhere, try something new, find some friends, get some entertainment and in the end we end up in the same place. Time to really practice Dharma seriously and stop wasting time we don\'t have. ~Tsem Rinpoche
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We are always trying to get somewhere, try something new, find some friends, get some entertainment and in the end we end up in the same place. Time to really practice Dharma seriously and stop wasting time we don't have. ~Tsem Rinpoche
March 20, 2017-Mumu is just so adorable with his bright eyes.
1 month ago
March 20, 2017-Mumu is just so adorable with his bright eyes.
More and more people inviting Lord Dorje Shugden home to connect with on their shrines. I am so happy to see this as it will benefit them and their families so much. That is the purpose to be alive which is to benefit others as much as possible. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
More and more people inviting Lord Dorje Shugden home to connect with on their shrines. I am so happy to see this as it will benefit them and their families so much. That is the purpose to be alive which is to benefit others as much as possible. Tsem Rinpoche
His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
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His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
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His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
The Japanese are very innovative. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
The Japanese are very innovative. Tsem Rinpoche
Read this as it will be interesting
1 month ago
Read this as it will be interesting
Recite this before any meal or drinks for blessings of abundance. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Recite this before any meal or drinks for blessings of abundance. Tsem Rinpoche
This sacred statue of Buddha is in Nepal brought originally from Tibet and has spoken on many occasions. Very blessed to see this holy image and keep a picture...bless you always. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
This sacred statue of Buddha is in Nepal brought originally from Tibet and has spoken on many occasions. Very blessed to see this holy image and keep a picture...bless you always. Tsem Rinpoche
I love Mumu boy tremendously. We went through so much together for so many years. You are a great being to be with. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
I love Mumu boy tremendously. We went through so much together for so many years. You are a great being to be with. Tsem Rinpoche
Dear everyone, I am sharing this beautiful and modern altar to Dorje Shugden in Malaysia. I am glad to see more and more people creating sacred spaces. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Dear everyone, I am sharing this beautiful and modern altar to Dorje Shugden in Malaysia. I am glad to see more and more people creating sacred spaces. Tsem Rinpoche
Lhamo Karmo, a female buddha form visualized above the crown of one\'s head at the time of death, to encourage consciousness to leave the body via the crown aperture. From my book \"The Female Buddhas.\"- Glenn Mullin
2 months ago
Lhamo Karmo, a female buddha form visualized above the crown of one's head at the time of death, to encourage consciousness to leave the body via the crown aperture. From my book "The Female Buddhas."- Glenn Mullin
The Tibetan female tulku Dorje Pakmo, from a fresco on the wall of the Dorje Pakmo monastery (Samding) in Tibet, near the Turquoise Lake. In Tibet the Dorje Pakmo was ranked with the Dalai Lama, Panchen Lama and Sakya Trizin as the four highest lamas in the country.-from Glenn Mullin
2 months ago
The Tibetan female tulku Dorje Pakmo, from a fresco on the wall of the Dorje Pakmo monastery (Samding) in Tibet, near the Turquoise Lake. In Tibet the Dorje Pakmo was ranked with the Dalai Lama, Panchen Lama and Sakya Trizin as the four highest lamas in the country.-from Glenn Mullin
Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl checking out the scene..cute
2 months ago
Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl checking out the scene..cute
My Dharma boy has such a cute expression here. He is a good boy!
2 months ago
My Dharma boy has such a cute expression here. He is a good boy!
February 9,2017-My Mumu boy and Oser girl are just relaxing together..super cute
3 months ago
February 9,2017-My Mumu boy and Oser girl are just relaxing together..super cute
Click on the picture to enlarge and see what Suzy from Hawaii commented on the Dorje Shugden issue after much research. She is very candid and honest. Refreshing. Original is posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vl-4lIwxph4
3 months ago
Click on the picture to enlarge and see what Suzy from Hawaii commented on the Dorje Shugden issue after much research. She is very candid and honest. Refreshing. Original is posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vl-4lIwxph4
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This is a good one to read
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  • April 20, 2017 10:45
    Ronnie asked: Dear Rinpoche and Pastors, I'm studying abroad and very far away from home, seeking guidance and advice as I have no one else I can talk to about this. Please read with an open mind, I don't know where else to go for help. I'm pregnant and it's an unplanned pregnancy. I'm stuck between keeping it or letting it go. I'm young and having a child at my age in the society we live in now would be considered taboo. The father of the child thinks I should let it go because it may cause a setback to both our careers and cause major family issues. He thinks we aren't ready to raise a child especially since we're both still in university and his parents think badly of me even though they've never met me or tried to get to know me. I'm sure no one would ever have the heart to take away a heartbeat but it seems like it isn't the right time to have a child now and if we did go through with it, the child probably won't be able to have the best things life can offer looking at where we are now in terms of finance and maturity. I'm lost, confused and unsure what the right thing to do is now. Any advice at all would be helpful right now. Thank you so very much for taking time to read my story.
    pastor answered: Dear Ronnie, I’m sorry to read that you are going through this situation. I can understand that this situation is tough to go through. You are always more than welcome to come here to ask questions. May I suggest that you talk to either someone in your family or your friends to help you come to an appropriate solution? This is because, what you feel, what you are going through, will change from time to time and you would need someone to talk to, someone that you can lean on through this situation you are facing. Depending on where you are in the world, professional help can also be sought to help you make a decision, which will be the best option for you seeking help. From a Buddhist perspective, the taking of a life is not considered a positive act, therefore those on the Buddhist path, would normally abstain taking a life if possible. However, that being said, one must always weigh the decision oneself. Everything we do in life, necessarily involves karma both positive and negative. That is why Buddhists try to overcome samsara in general. Your situation is complicated because you are abroad, but if possible you should really open up to someone you are close to in order to help you through making this decision on a personal basis. When you talk to someone, whom you are able to express yourself more, you may able to come to better decision that is right for you. There may be other options open to you if you seek help. I personally know women who have been in similar situations. One of these women, let the child go and the other went through the pregnancy and then gave the child up for adoption. You may or may not have thought of this option, but it is one that could be open to you, depending on where in the world you are. Any decision we make in life, however big or small it may seem, has far reaching consequences whether in this life, or in future lives. This is just a part and parcel of life within samsara. However, we should weigh the decisions we make clearly given the situation we are in. We cannot always do this weighing ourselves, but need to talk about our options with others we can rely on such a friends, family or professionals. You should consider doing this, which will help you greatly emotionally, and may give you the grounding you need to make the correct decision for you. I hope this helps.
  • April 19, 2017 04:57
    Dongho asked: What is a nyung ne practice? According to Lama Zopa Rinpoche, it's a purification sadhana. However, what are the instructions for this? I'm guessing it's to Chenrezig, but how does it work? Also, from what I have read, Vajrasattva practice is only for broken vows while Akshobhya is for regular misdeeds. Does that mean one has to take the Akshobhya practice to purify bad karma from this life and previous instead of Vajrasattva? As for the purification practices, are some like Vajrasattva and Chenrezig only to purify the bad karma and let it come quickly or is it to prevent it from coming? I am confused in it. As for signs, I recited a mantra of White Yangchenma that a Sakya lama, Lama Kunga Thartse Rinpoche, gave me with the Sakya visualizations I read on, and after one mala, I heard some lady call my Korean name even though no one in my neighborhood knows of my name and my family members weren't in the area. What does this mean?
    pastor answered: Dear Dongho, Thank you for your questions, it’s nice to see you back here again. Nyung Ne practice is a purification practice that centres around Chenrezig. It is a very beneficial practice that stems from a holy nun named Gelong-ma Palmo. It is a two and a half day practice that can be repeated many times over and over again to intensify the purification and build a closer relationship with Chenrezig. As well as its purification aspect, the practice is known to generate vast amount of merit, and also compassion, as the practice centres around Chenrezig, the Buddha of compassion. The practice involves taking the eight Mahayana precepts for the duration, fasting, meditating, prostrating and praying. The practice usually entails empowerment into the practice of Chenrezig, therefore the exact meditations, prayers can only be explained to those who have the empowerment. Vajrasattva practice is not necessarily only for repairing broken vows, etc. That’s why it is advised that you engage in the practice at the end of the day, to repair any vows that you may have broken during that day, as well as stopping any negative karma you created that day from multiplying. This would entail reciting the mantra 21 times, together with the four opponent powers. However, if you engage in this practice more intensely, it definitely has the capability to purify all sorts of karma. That is the reason why in Ngondro, or preliminary practices one engages in before tantra, the practice of 100,000 Vajrasattva mantra recitation is an integral part. You can read more about Vajrasattva and his practice here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/prayers-and-sadhanas/an-important-purification-practice.html. Within purification practices, some of the karma will be purified completely, so you do not feel its effects at all, but when purifying other karma you will need to feel its effects somehow. For example if you have the karma to be in a car accident and get seriously injured, and you are engaging in any practice, but especially the purification practice, since you have purified most of the karma, you will only experience being in a very minor car accident, with only very superficial injuries. Therefore, in this case, the karma has been purified to the extent that it does not affect you as much, but you still need to feel part of its effect. In regards to any signs that you receive which engaging in the practices given to you by one of your specific gurus, you should report the happenings to that particular guru. He will be able to give you more of an accurate answer, as it may be related to the particular practice that he gave to you. I hope this helps. Thank you.
  • April 17, 2017 07:06
    Thomas asked: Dear Pastors, When a serkyem set has been used so much and one is ready to get rid of it and replace it with a new one. What is a respecful mode of disposal?
    pastor answered: Dear Thomas, Thank you for your question. Your question shows that you have a lot of respect for offering items, which is very good. If possible, you should try to repair the item if within your means, and doing so make embellishments to make it a better offering item, which can still be used. If this is not possible, then you should dispose of the item with a good motivation. You should think that this item has been used to make offerings to the enlightened beings, but now that it is broken or unusable, you are going to dispose of it, and replace it with a new one. Since it itself is not a receptacle of energies of the enlightened beings, such as a statue, tsa tsa or thangka, it does not require a special dissolution before being disposed of. However since it was used to make offerings, it still requires some form of respect when disposing, and this comes from one’s motivation and the way in which you dispose of it. Usually, when disposing of items in this way, make the motivation that you have used it and that it is now time to dispose of it, and replace it with a new one. When you do this you can dispose of it in a respectful manner. For example, if you are going to throw it away, you do not simply open the trash can and throw it in. You wrap it up in something, like a bag or newspaper and dispose of it respectfully. Another method you can dispose of it is to recycle the object, if the material it is made from can be recycled. That way you are more conscious of the environment as well. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
  • April 16, 2017 22:38
    Curious asked: Dear pastors In a recent youtube video something like paying respect to deceased ones, pastor Nirel Patel explained that merits are like the interest and good karma is like the principal sum. So merits always regenerate themselves and hence do not get used up but good karma is like the principal sum so it gets used up. So my question is what are practices that generate merit? And can we turn a mundane daily activity into a meritorious one? Maybe can you provide an example?
    pastor answered: Dear Curious, Thank you for your question. First, to clarify a point, in regards to good karma, you are right, it is like a principal sum in a bank account, but you take away from it when you experience something good in your life, and you add to it when you do good deeds. Merit on the other hand, once accrued never diminishes, therefore when something is based on merit, it is based on the energies of this never diminishing sum, which you could say is like interest. In short, the principal sum when talking about karma is always added to and subtracted from. However, when talking about merit, once you have it, there is no way to destroy it, you will always benefit from it. There are various ways to explain how to generate merit. I will explain a way that I find easiest to understand. In normal life, when we go about performing any sort of activity, be it ‘good’ or ‘bad’ we do so out of ignorance of the true nature of existence, and it is usually self-motivated. For example, we work our entire lives to generate monetary income, so that we have enough money, resources, and materials goods to be comfortable. This is self-motivated, but it is the accepted way the world works these days, and is part and parcel of being bound to samsaric life. On the other hand, the act of merit making can be categorised into three parts: i) motivation, ii) the act itself, and iii) dedication. Let’s start with motivation, when engaging in various virtuous acts, we should have the motivation that by engaging in the act, we have the motivation to alleviate the suffering of someone else, and that may we gain enlightenment so that we can benefit them in the future. The second is the act itself. The third is to dedicate the energy of the virtuous act to gaining enlightenment. These three are what make merit. This may be a little confusing, so let me give an example: giving help to a homeless person. Whereas in ordinary life, this is something praised as a very good deed, it does not create merit without motivation and dedication. In order for this to become merit, one must set the motivation that one is giving help to the homeless free of the eight worldly concerns, to alleviate their suffering and also making the motivation that you will achieve enlightenment for the sake of the person or people you are helping. Then after you have helped them, you dedicate the energy created to the spiritual journey towards full enlightenment to help all sentient beings, while at the same time benefiting as many sentient beings as possible on the way there. This transforms the act into not only a virtuous action but also one that generates merit. On the other hand, if you were to help the homeless without these, you are creating good karma, which although beneficial, keeps you bound to existence within samsara. As it is the goal of Buddhist practice to overcome the cycle of samsara, a Buddhist would want to generate merit instead of good karma. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
  • April 13, 2017 11:38
    D.A. asked: If Begtse Chan is not from Mongolia, what are his real origins or story exactly? And which lamas offer his empowerment? As for Manjushri Nagarakshasa, which lamas specifically offer his empowerment and practice?
    pastor answered: Dear D.A. Thank you for your question. Begtse, is also known as Chamsing, or Jamsaran in Mongolian. As mentioned in an earlier sharing with someone who also asked a question about Begtse, the practiced was introduced to Tibet from India by the translator Nyen Lotsawa, and is considered one of the main protectors of the Hayagriva cycle of tantras. According to the scriptures that derive from the Sakya tradition, who incorporated the practice from the translators, and in which tradition Begtse became a very important protector, Begtse in a previous life was born many eons ago. In that particular life, he was born as the younger prince in a royal family. His name was Drag Gye, and his older brother’s name was Drag Den. Over time both princes developed differing religious beliefs, to the point where they could not get along with each as they both held their own religious views strongly. As was the custom during that time, they decided to settle their differences through logical debate, with the loser having to convert to the winner’s religion. This custom was also prevalent in ancient India, and there are many stories of such debates occurring between the great masters of the past and those of other faiths. Drag Gye lost the various debates, but ran away instead of converting to his older brother’s religion. Drag Den caught him, and tried to punish him for breaking the rules of debate and going back on his promise. Drag Gye told his brother that even if he was killed he would not give up his religion, however if Drag Den let him go, that in the future when Drag Den became enlightened, he would protect his teachings. With that Drag Den let him go, and gave him a set of copper armour, a stick, and a bow and arrow. Drag Den also gave Drag Gye a new name: Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po. After this incident the two brothers never saw each other again in that lifetime. Many lives after that Drag Den was reborn as Prince Siddharta, who eventually became enlightened and is now known as Buddha Shakyamuni. Drag Gye, or Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po, was reborn in a cemetery in the North West direction. His parents gave birth to two eggs, one was a coral-like colour and the other was an agate-like colour. These two eggs flew high into the sky and reached the heavenly realms, there they subdued the gods. Then flying back down to earth, they subdued many nagas. Eventually they even came to threaten their own parents. The parents petitioned the Dharma protector Ekajati for her help, who threw her own staff (khatvanga) at the eggs, and broke them apart. From the coral-like coloured egg came a ferocious man with yellow hair, he proclaimed that his name was ‘Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po’. When he emerged he was wearing a set of copper armour, wielding a stick, copper sword, and a bow and arrow. From the agate-like coloured egg came a female who was blue in colour, her teeth were like shells, she had turquoise eyebrows, and her hair was made of fire. She emerged wielding a copper knife, ritual dagger (phurba), rode a terrifying bear and wore an intricate necklace made of agate and lapis lazuli. It was then that Ekajati once again took action, and subdued them, after which they became Dharma protectors. The male figure became known as Begtse, and the female as his sister. When you propitiate Begtse, his sister is automatically included and aids practitioners as well. As for which lama offer his practice and empowerment, most lamas do not advertise which teachings or practice they hold. Therefore you should respectfully approach lamas and ask them if they have the practice and can bestow it, or if they know of any lamas that have the practice, depending on how much you want to practice Begtse. Similarly, this applies to those lamas who have the practice of Manjushri Nagarakshasa. However, this practice is included in the Rinjung Gyatsa series of empowerments. This unique cycle of teachings, includes all 4 classes of tantric practices, and includes the practice of Manjushri Nagarakshasa. Therefore those lamas who have received the complete transmission, and have kept their commitments for this practice, are qualified to pass this on to others. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
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