How shall I hate you today?
Dear friends around the world,
In life nothing is for sure. Nothing is dependable. Nothing is solid or permanent. Even knowing that, still when you have childhood friends, some relatives, dharma friends, monk friends, nun friends, spiritual friends, online friends ‘unfriend’ you JUST because you practice Dorje Shugden, you know something is wrong. That has happened to me. It’s happened to thousands of other people. Why should this happen? Because the Tibetan leadership has vehemently and unnecessarily spoken out against my spiritual belief in Dorje Shugden saying practicing him brings negative results. How dare they speak against my choice of religion and ‘advise’ others against it and those who practice it? It is none of their business what I practice. Are my religious beliefs the only thing that is to define me as your friend? When the Tibetan leadership say this is wrong, do you just believe them over your own friend? You just abandon your friend because of that? Are you such a flimsy person who switches loyalties so fast? Why would anyone let a government separate friends? Would you abandon your friend because they were Jewish, Zoroastrian, Hindu, Christian, atheist, practicing voodoo, witchcraft or had divergent views on spirituality from you? If you would, it says volumes about you and not them. We have to look past the person’s religion and look at THEM and stay there. Can’t you focus on other things with another human being instead of religion? Why does religion become the one defining statement about the person? Why is the person summed up because of it? It’s wrong. Governments, leaders, religious heads should NEVER CRITICIZE another person’s spiritual path or lack of it. This make them look bad because it creates segregation, bias and prejudice.
Many time in the past, I’ve even found sponsorship, funding and assistance for people to help them out, but just because I practice Dorje Shugden, they keep what you gave them, but give up their friendship with you. Is it so important to be politically correct? Why would you trade your friend in order to be politically correct? Prior to the ban against Dorje Shugden which started in 1996 I was alright to them and I was practicing Dorje Shugden. But after the official announcement of the ban in 1996, I am not alright to them anymore? I am still the same person now and before, just to be clear.
How can you define me just by my religion or spiritual path? How can we not be friends just because I practice Dorje Shugden? Are you better now because you avoided me or Dorje Shugden people? Are you holier? Have you gained high attainments? Did your guru commend you? If your guru did, why would he? Did you gain merits? Are you kinder, more compassionate, more generous and less attached because you gave up on your friend who does Dorje Shugden? Are you a better student, friend, lover, follower of a teacher, husband, wife and individual just because you mock, degrade and belittle people who practice Dorje Shugden? Because you avoided Dorje Shugden, are you the saint of all saints now? Are you more advanced in your spiritual progress because you wrote vulgar, rude and unpleasant comments on a Dorje Shugden practitioner’s Facebook page? Do you feel you are a good person and really kind when you tweet nasty things to people you have never met just because they practice Dorje Shugden? Are you a better person when you write nasty messages to people because you don’t approve of their religion? What do you get from isolating, segregating and hating people who are different than you? What do you get from speaking against people whose religious views and practice is different than yours? How do you benefit when you hate and despise? If a Dorje Shugden practitioner fainted outside a Tibetan government hospital, should he be allowed in for equal treatment or left to die outside? Why do I ask that? Because the Tibetan government has said that there needs to be a separation of Dorje Shugden practitioners from non-practitioners and they should not mix. That is right, they should not mix. The ex-Prime Minister of the Tibetan government-in-exile Samdhong Rinpoche famously said ‘the mouth and mustache must be separated’ which to Tibetans means that those who practice Shugden should remain isolated from those who don’t practice, even if they are family members. Google and check it out. So basically if you are Tibetan and if you practice Dorje Shugden, you should not mix, do business, marry, or be connected to or be friends with non-Dorje Shugden practitioners. Amazing. That is not simply advice to not practice Dorje Shugden, but institutionalized segregation within one people. There is never harmony and unity in Tibet, and that is why the country was lost and that is why the country remains lost. Those who dare speak out are trampled down and have their reputations shredded.
I have created these memes for strictly educational purposes. There are millions of Dorje Shugden practitioners without a voice and suffer in silence so much prejudice, degradation, separation and hatred due to the ban. They are treated badly just because of their religious choice in Dorje Shugden. I have received messages from many people thanking me for speaking up. Since speaking up, it has not been a picnic for me, but it’s the right thing to do. I have much harm done to me and even a ‘student’ try to give me food to hurt me twice. But I will not be deterred. I will keep speaking peacefully, respectfully and continuously till the unjust ban against Dorje Shugden is lifted. It has done so much harm, created so much hatred and segregation. It must stop. Dialogue must start and a peaceful solution must be enacted. This is the job of the leaders otherwise why lead if you don’t grab an opportunity to better the lives of your people. Do share these memes and bring the message to many more people because I will not remain silent even with the death threats I’ve received. I don’t intend to defy but if speaking up for all the pain experienced due to this unjust ban against Dorje Shugden is defiance, then I am sorry. If keeping my faith in Dorje Shugden will bring me hatred, then something is wrong and things need to change. Why not give up Dorje Shugden? Because it’s not right to be bullied into giving up your religious faith by unjust tactics, intimidation, threats, hatred and just because it makes you unpopular. If I am unpopular because I choose to stick to my religious choice, then so be it. But I will stick to it.
There are interesting people that I have met very briefly and some I have never met (mostly I have never met) and they know nothing about me. They contribute nothing to my life, works and organization, yet they can judge and say such vulgar things criticizing everything from A-Z about me? Where do they get off doing that? Who or what are they trying to portray themselves to be? Do they look good, spiritual or good little disciples of their lamas when they criticize, berate, degrade and make fun of everything about a person JUST BECAUSE THEY PRACTICE DORJE SHUGDEN? Please find a purpose in your life so you don’t have to be so unhappy and therefore criticize another person’s lives because it’s none of your business.
When you are working hard, doing the best you can, paying your bills, have heavy burdens, doing works that benefit the public and generally just using your life for others, and some fringe people want to put you down, you just move on. You just let them say as they like, let them taunt and degrade you and all that but in the end, whatever they wrote is left on social media for the world to see. They themselves will be judged for what they wrote. You just work hard and achieve your goal, no matter what they say. The bottom line is even if you don’t like what the person is doing, you don’t have to be rude, vulgar, mean and berating. You can be civil and polite. You can still be human. When you are inhuman towards another human, whatever you say or write will be there for all to witness and understand who you are. In the end what you say about the person in a rude and vulgar manner will be turned back to reflect you and not who you are victimizing. In fact you start to involuntarily get more sympathy for the people you are attacking and victimizing, even if they practice Dorje Shugden, because your nasty words don’t make you look better. If I practice Dorje Shugden who is ‘negative’ then why are you the mean, vulgar, angry and hateful one on social media? LOL. Sure you will get some likes and supporters even if you are nasty in commenting but let’s see how long they last and how much they are really there for you. Remember, what you write and say makes an impression that builds up in others over time.
Be kind, tolerant and accept others diversity, because this is how we make our inner and outer world better.
p.s. I will speak out even if alone to bring the unethical Dorje Shugden ban down. I need help, but with or without help, I will continue. My motivation is clear and I have no doubts of what I am doing. I will not be silenced even though I am threatened, hated, intimidated, and lost many friends and family. With all the hate messages I get on Facebook and Twitter for my religious beliefs, I understand their stance and forgive them and wish them peace. I am more or less alone from all people and friends I grew up with or met in the monasteries on this Dorje Shugden issue. I have lost so much almost all because of me speaking up and not giving up Dorje Shugden. My guru gave Him to me, I cannot give up. I cannot let another guru override my guru. But I will not give up because if someone does not stand up and speak respectfully to something that is harmful, many will lose this precious treasure. I cannot allow many to lose this precious treasure which is Dorje Shugden’s practice. I and many have benefited and so many more will benefit. So many degrade high lamas who practice Dorje Shugden when they are teaching the pure dharma, for their sake’s, speak up and we must support each other…the bigger goal is more important. When we don’t ‘clear’ Dorje Shugden’s name, we allow these lamas’ names to be dragged down along with their teachings and their students suffer. Because when we clear their names by clearing Dorje Shugden’s name, they have so much incredible dharma to share with so many. I do not want to disrespect anyone or any leader or any lama, but please do not disrespect my lineage, lamas and practice. Thank you.
So many can be benefited by these lamas and dharma and Dorje Shugden and for them I must speak up and sacrifice. I am not special, just determined and focused. We have to live beyond ourselves to be fulfilled. So please save the picture messages and share the picture messages and give support. I thank you. Awareness is the key to bringing the ban down and always be respectful when we speak up about something that is wrong because we don’t want to lose ourselves in the process.
For more interesting information:
- The Dorje Shugden category on my blog
- Dorje Shugden: My side of the story (多杰雄登：我这方面的说法)
- Will the Dalai Lama agree with this?
- They want to kill me
- Dear Dalai Lama, please read this
- Dear Dalai Lama, With Folded Hands
- My plea to His Holiness the Dalai Lama
- Appeal to H.H. the Dalai Lama
- Very special thoughts to share
- Can the Dalai Lama say this one day?
- The Dalai Lama Speaks Clearly About the Dorje Shugden Ban
- Badge of Shame
- I pray to what I want to
- This happened in the USA
- To Sum It Up
- Dorje Shugden people
- Why so rude?
- Why can’t we be friends?
- Thank You For the Positivity
- Go On, Break Your Samaya
- My Childhood in Taiwan…Revisiting…
- What He Can Do For Us
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