Why so rude?
When and if we visit other people’s social media pages and sometimes don’t agree with their views, that is okay but we absolutely should NOT comment anything derogatory or negative as we should be respecting their freedom of speech. Freedom of speech does not need to be vulgar, rude or demeaning ever. We can have a polite debate if we wish not in order to win but to understand. But when detractors constantly and specifically come to our page and tell us what we can and cannot do and even become vulgar when we don’t accept, that is not freedom of speech on their part but infringement of my rights. I do not go on their pages and post anything. Why should they come to my page and post negative derogatory comments? It’s not necessary. I didn’t force my opinions on them because it is on my page. It is on my page and not their page. I didn’t post on their page but my own page.
If my posts appear on your ‘feed’ and you don’t like it, you can ignore it or just unfriend me then it will never appear again. Some obviously do not understand the basic workings of Facebook or twitter and they should learn up how to stop things they don’t want to see. 🙂 You do not need to be rude, infringe on my freedom of speech/worship or get vulgar when you don’t agree with my views or spiritual path. After all there are many out there who would like information I am sharing even if you don’t like it. Yes, many have written in and thanked me for the practice and information on Dorje Shugden. For example in the case of our Dorje Shugden social media posts, I have every right to share any aspect of the practice as I like. I have been requested many times to share more on every aspect of Dorje Shugden’s practice in fact and I cannot keep up with all the requests. I have every right to share any aspect of Dorje Shugden’s practice, information, lamas, history and pictures on my social media pages as and when I want. I do not and will never advocate violence, breaking vows, harming, sectarianism or any harm to anyone ever so why should Dorje Shugden practice bother you. This is my right to practice. You can counter by saying some Dorje Shugden practitioners has used this practice to harm others, or create division or sectarianism and that might be true in some rare cases. But that is definitely not all or the majority of Dorje Shugden practitioners. If you find one bad Christian, do you ban Christianity? If you find one bad Hindu, do you segregate against all Hindus? Of course not. People will use religion to fulfill their selfish aims, but that does not mean the religion itself is bad or everyone in that religion is bad or it should be banned. We should never generalize and make sweeping statements that create more disharmony than peace.
Why should people come to my FB pages, twitter, blog (tsemrinpoche.com) and instagram and tell me I can’t speak about Dorje Shugden or this or that? Or if I post on Dorje Shugden they spit on me, curse me, leave very rude messages, send vulgar messages and threaten my life? We cannot worship this or follow what we like?? That is ridiculous and also sometimes they are very rude and very vulgar about this. Their vulgarity shows the world that their invasion of our cyber and personal space is not with good intent. It is a total infringement of my rights to speech, worship and way of life. Are they doing this from their own volition or being paid to do it or what? In fact who are telling these people who comment on my Dorje Shugden posts to write such unpleasant things? Who taught these people that Dorje Shugden is bad or they should insult Dorje Shugden practice and practitioners. Who gave them this information? Who keeps publicizing this information and inciting the crowd to attack Dorje Shugden practitioners? Who are telling them that Dorje Shugden is evil and we should segregate away from his practitioners? Whoever are spreading these vicious untruths are the actual ones responsible for all the disharmony, hatred and hatred against Dorje Shugden and his practitioners. The same people spreading bad and wrong information against Dorje Shugden people are the same people who can correct this situation if they really wished to do so. Dorje Shugden practice will not go away and will continue to grow. So either everyone who practice Dorje Shugden and don’t practice get along, respect each other and live in peace or have the opposite. This is up to the people who have spread the wrong information against Dorje Shugden. If you think you have the right to say Dorje Shugden is bad, then I have the right to say Dorje Shugden is good. If you keep repeating Dorje Shugden is bad then I have the right to repeat Dorje Shugden is good. Dorje Shugden is part of my way of life and you are going to speak against it, then be ready for me to gently and respectfully protest you are wrong. Why should I stay quiet, be afraid or give up my beliefs just because you, or some lama famous or not says so. I follow my personal guru’s instructions and that’s it! But you do not need to be rude to me nor I to you. We do not need to argue and create ‘wars’ with this and have mudslinging at all.
Why should anyone be vulgar with someone just because they don’t agree with them about their religion? (See what I mean: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=58841 ) When we tell them nicely to not visit our page nor spam and they continue to, then we have to block them. Some after spamming, when we block them, they complain they are blocked! Amazing. If they don’t have common sense to not go to a page they don’t like and leave nasties always, then we have compassionately block them from disturbing the peace. Sorry. That is unfortunate, but necessary. This is a clean and clear and honest method to say RESPECT MY FREEDOM OF SPEECH AND WORSHIP. I do respect your freedoms and rights and do not post vulgarities and disrespectful comments on your social media pages but I am sorry to block you if you cross the line. I do not post nasty, negative or rude comments about your choices on your page especially about your religion! But if you cannot control yourself nor respect others with your disrespectful comments which I don’t accept, then don’t visit my pages. I don’t mean to sound arrogant or rude, but it would be a nice alternative instead of ugly comments for you if you don’t like my religion because I am not trying to convert you. My religious beliefs do not need your approval. I don’t care what lama or how famous they are, but if they criticize my faith or spiritual choice, that is their freedom, but they will create disharmony, anger and retaliation. It is my religious freedom to not follow what some of these lamas say but that does not give their followers the right to always speak against my faith and discourage others from it. Or even put negatives on their cyber space to discourage. If you discourage, be ready for ‘retaliation’ of some sort. This is the 21st century and not feudal Tibet. There are more good things to encourage than bad things to discourage. If these lamas who speak against other’s religions, deities and paths have retaliation and such, do not complain as you started it. You can end it. Simple logic. So we can respect another’s religious choice by not saying a single negative word about it and respect it or we can speak up against it and then there will be disharmony. Especially if it is one sided and the lama is not willing to discuss, be open and find solutions. Do not put other people’s religion in a negative light on social media or blog sites. As this is not a sign of openness, kindness or spirituality.
When you are told you have religious freedom and then you choose your religion and others are disrespectful to your choice and even threaten you because of it, this is not religious freedom. This is hiding behind a veneer of false freedom while you denigrate another’s religion. No religious leader or common citizen should criticize another’s religion, race, personal orientation or social background ever. It is bad form and policy to do so. Many of you who do criticize never met me or know me. So don’t presume. Don’t judge me on just my religion.
In conclusion, do not visit social media pages/sites that you do not like. But do not stop others in anyway of posting or sharing their religious faith. If you do visit, no one forced you there so you are not compelled to leave very inhumane and rude comments. This reflects you and your own teacher. Either your teacher did not teach you well or you didn’t follow the teachings well. Either way it makes you look bad and makes your teacher look bad. Think of people who know nothing of the Dorje Shugden issue created by the Tibetan leadership when there was no issue and how it looks to all these new people to see the one sided mudslinging. I have my path and I don’t need yours or your teachers’ approval. 🙂 But regardless of my religious path I have many other facets of who I am and we can still be friends. Do not let religion ever be a stumbling block to genuine friendship, concern and harmony for each other. We need a peaceful planet and criticizing against another’s religion will never help. We are all humans and we need the basic same things in life. We can be kind, respectful, polite and caring to each other no matter what religion we are or not. That is so much better. Let’s be friends and not look at what religion we practice. Thank you. Look at each other as people and not what religions they practice.
P.S. I like to thank Robert Anderson for his logical comment which I share here.
This is posted on the Exiled Tibetan Govt’s (Central Tibetan Administration) website. They list all the Tibetan people who go for protests against the illegal Dorje Shugden ban. They never list the non-Tibetans because citizens of sovereign countries would never stand for it. They post the Tibetans who democratically and peacefully protest against this ban in order to incite hatred and anger creating angry mobs against Dorje Shugden practitioners. I have never gone for one single protest, but supposedly protests are a democratic method to change something that is damaging one sector of society. If peaceful protests are democratic and freedom of speech is encouraged, then why have a hit list on your website against people who protest? See many more: http://tibet.net/2014/05/list-of-dolgyal-followers-who-protested-against-his-holiness-the-dalai-lama-in-us-and-europe/
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Dorje Shugden: My side of the story (多杰雄登：我这方面的说法)
My plea to His Holiness the Dalai Lama
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