The Unwanted Widows of India

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Dear friends around the world,

We are very honoured to have been given this opportunity to write on His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche’s blog. We wanted to get this information out to create more awareness on basic human rights that are denied to ‘minorities’ within society, such as widows. We wanted to educate others that minorities are humans too and just like us, they are worthy of respect and kindness. In particular, we wanted to highlight the works of Dr Pathak who is doing a great job in assisting people in need. We hope that more people will recognise his works and contribute in any way possible to help him accomplish such a great mission.

Thank you,
Vinnie and Beatrix

 


 

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According to some parts of the Hindu tradition, women are required to take part in the sati or suttee practice when their husband passes away. This tradition was commonly practised in ancient India and it was not until 1829 that British officials outlawed the practice within their territories. The following decades saw the introduction of similar laws by authorities in the princely states of India. In 1861, the general ban towards the sati practice for the whole of India was issued by Queen Victoria. The sati practice was banned in Nepal in the 1920s.

 

What is Sati?

Sati is the practice among some Hindu communities where recently widowed women – whether voluntarily, by use of force, or coercion – commit suicide after the death of their husbands. The most practised form of sati is when the woman burns herself to death on her husband’s funeral pyre. Other forms of sati include being buried alive with her husband’s corpse or drowning.

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The term sati is derived from the name of the goddess Sati, also known as Dakshayani, who self-immolated because she was not able to stomach her father Daksha’s humiliation towards her (living) husband Shiva.

The practice of sati was found among many castes and at every social level. This included both women who were uneducated, as well as the highest-ranking and highly educated women of the time. Sati was considered the highest expression of wifely devotion to their deceased husband. The act of sati was also viewed as a way for widows to purge their sins, releasing them from the karmic circle of birth and death. It was seen as a way to salvation for the dead husband and seven generations of their offspring.

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Another factor behind the sati practice was the ownership of wealth and property. Upon her husband’s death, all possessions of the widow would be transferred to his family, leaving the widow impoverished. In fact, the alternative way that widows were supposed to live after their husbands died was that of a chaste lady. This meant leading a life of asceticism, renouncing all social activities, shaving her head, eating only boiled rice and sleeping on coarse matting (recorded by Moore, 2004). It is because of this lifestyle that many widows chose death in the past.

In 1987, the Indian Government passed the Commission of Sati (Prevention) Act. As outlined in Part I, Section 2(c) sati is defined as,

The burning or burying alive of:

  • Any widow along with the body of her deceased husband or any other relative or with any article, object or thing associated with the husband or such relative; or
  • Any woman along with the body of any of her relatives, irrespective of whether such burning or burying is claimed to be voluntary on the part of the widow or the women or otherwise.

With the Prevention of Sati Act, any form of support, glorification or attempt to commit sati was made illegal. Supporting the practice of sati, which includes coercing or forcing someone to commit sati, can be punished by the death sentence or life imprisonment. For those who glorify sati, this is punishable with one to seven years in prison.

 

Why Do Widows Leave Their Families?

Shunned by society after their husbands die, widows are seen as a financial drain on their families. Hence many widows leave and end up living as the poorest of the poor not because of religious reasons, but because of tradition.

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After their husbands’ deaths, widows are not allowed to remarry no matter their age and they are not allowed to wear jewelry. They are forced to shave their heads and to wear white clothes until their death. In some areas of India, widows are allowed to keep their hair and dress in coloured saris but this is more an exception than the rule; in most communities in India, widows are not allowed to do this. Thus after the passing of their husbands, the widows no longer have the life they wished for.

Due to the constant struggle these women face, many run away to the holy city of Vrindavan, a popular Hindu pilgrimage place. Also known as the ‘City of Widows’, the widows go to Vrindavan in the hopes that death will free them from all the emotional and physical suffering they face.

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Without education or any skills that would make them employable, the widows beg for alms, or singing religious hymns and chants. Through this method, the widows can earn around USD0.15 (approx. INR10) and a hot meal. Some of the younger and more attractive women are sold into prostitution. In this City of Widows with more than 4,000 temples, no one goes hungry. Locals and pilgrims offer food and money to the widows to gain merits for their spiritual paths. They do however, have to ration the food they receive and though a lucky few have very rundown rented accommodation, most are forced to seek shelter wherever they can. Space in shelters and government-run care homes is limited, so most women are forced to sleep in the streets.

Due to the incorrect projections people have about widows, these women suffer neglect and are looked down upon for the rest of their lives. Moved by the plight of these widows, organisations have formed with the aim to uplift and improve the lives of these women. These human rights organisations play a very important role in changing the lives of widows by giving them hope to live on.

 

The Importance of Human Rights Organisations

Human rights organisations play an extremely important role in society, especially for the forgotten, abandoned and disenfranchised sectors and communities. Because of their inability to speak out about the ongoing denial of their basic human rights, it is easy for society to forget about them and to somehow assume that these ‘minorities’ are worthless. It is in these situations that human rights organisations are needed to protect and assist the powerless to get back on their own two feet. One such organisation working for the welfare of India’s widows is the Sulabh International Social Service Organisation.

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Sulabh International Social Service Organisation

This is a non-profit voluntary social organisation founded in 1970 by Dr Bindeshwar Pathak. It was founded on the Gandhian ideals of the emancipation of scavengers (a class of people traditionally considered in Indian society to be unclean and were used to carry human waste). This organisation has been working very hard to eliminate the social prejudice against human scavenger class.

 

Dr Bindeshwar Pathak

Name: Br. Bindeshwar Pathak

Date of Birth: April 2, 1943

Place of Birth: Rampur Baghel, District Vaishali, Bihar, India

Education:

  • M.A in Sociology
  • M.A in English
  • Ph.D. on “Liberation of Scavengers through Low Cost Sanitation”, from Patna University
  • Patna, Bihar. R.Litt on “Eradication of Scavenging and Environmental Sanitation in India- a Sociology Study”, from Patna University, Patna, Bihar.

Dr Pathak is an influential humanist and social reformer of contemporary India. His compassion has driven him to stand up for the neglected minority. A social reformer who has benefited millions of lives, Dr Pathak is an internationally-renowned expert on sanitation. He developed low-cost toilet technology, a two-pit pour flush toilet popularly known as the Sulabh Shauchalaya System. His contributions are widely known in the areas of poverty alleviation and integrated rehabilitation programme for the much needed people in India.

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Widows of Varanasi

Sulabh International has adopted hundreds of widows in Varanasi. In Varanasi, widows live scattered in private residences as well as in different Ashrams. In order to survive, many of them have to beg on the streets to support themselves. As such, Dr Pathak vowed to go out his way to help these neglected women.

Following the deaths of their husbands, widows face humiliation and degradation from their families and society which often treats widowhood as something inauspicious. Seeing the sufferings of these widows, DrPathak said that his primary concern is to change the mindset, attitude and behaviour of the people towards widows.

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“In our country, there are millions of such unfortunate women who lose their husbands untimely, and become widows. Most of them are old, infirm, disabled and have no source of livelihood. Their position becomes miserable if they have dependent children. When a widow does not have any permanent source of income or livelihood, she is driven out of her in-law’s home or even from her parental home. Many such widows can be seen begging in the streets and public places. They are termed as witches and tortured even by their own kith and kin and others. They are treated as bad and unholy women by the society”.

“Ours is a welfare State. It is the foremost duty of the State to initiate welfare measures, protect them and provide maintenance to them so that they can live with dignity and honour”.

Source: http://www.sulabhinternational.org/after-vrindavan-sulabh-adopts-widows-of-varanasi-april-28-2013/

 

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Contact Information

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Websites:

  • http://www.sulabhinternational.org
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Address in Delhi:

Founder, Sulabh Sanitation and Social Reform Movement Sulabh Bhawan, Mahavir Enclave Palam Dabri Road, New Delhi 110045.

Phone:

+91-11-25031518 & 25031519, 25057748

 

Sources of Information:

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  1. Anne Ong on Feb 26, 2017 at 9:30 pm

    Thank you Vinnie and Beatrice for the sharing on The Unwanted Widows of India.This is the first time ,a lot of us get to know the origin on the practice of Sati.We need to create more awareness on this discrimination so that widows in India do not have to suffer like this. Just because it is a tradition that was accepted in society, it doesn’t mean that it can’t be changed. Creating sufferings onto others is wrong on all levels and must be stopped. Life is precious and should not be wasted just like that just because their husbands died.

  2. Jacinta Goh on Dec 31, 2016 at 12:07 am

    A shocking news to me. How come they are being discriminated in such a way where death is probably the only solution for them? Uneducated and not being exposed to the outer world are partly responsible for this. Imagine the untimely death of their husband? We will not be able to understand their feelings well at that time. I believe they will be praying for their husband’s health most of the time. Furthermore, if they are poverty-stricken, abused, facing environmental issues and etc, it will definitely affect their minds greatly. The most we can do is to social media this, but we will not be able to totally rid off the worries and problems that they are having. *in deep thought.

    Thank you Rinpoche, Vinnie and Beatrix.

  3. Wan Wai Meng on Dec 11, 2016 at 9:17 pm

    This is truly a revelation for me, reading this article. No one should be subject to such a thing, when they just lost their husbands.

    One of the reasons why I love the blog so much is that it is a blog that is trying to raise awareness of social inequality and even bring about social change. Social change for any benefit for the blog or the contributors, but for the betterment of society at large.

  4. Lowkhjb on Oct 28, 2016 at 10:49 pm

    Thank you Beatrice and Vinnie for the sharing on The Unwanted Widows of India.This is the first time ,a lot of us get to know the origin on the practice of Sati.

    Some deemed it as a spiritual practice for selfish reason.The main culprit ,which started all these was “GREED and IGNORANCE”.We are glad that these practice is outlawed .But we sympathize for those who are still caught up by the web of false tradition and ignorance as female gender in India are not well educated.

    We certainly hope the Government of India would focus on educating their population to bring them out of poverty.Both physically and spiritually.One without the other would only lead to ignorance .

  5. Justin Cheah on Oct 22, 2016 at 2:18 am

    Thank you Beatrice and Vinnie for the article. I am glad such “cultural practice” is no longer encouraged and there are laws protecting the vulnerable widows in modern times like this. Life is precious and should not be wasted just like that just because their husbands died. It makes me wonder if similar punishing ordeal will happen to the widowers. I assume it won’t happen to widowers because there is a discrimination for ladies and laws those days tend to favours men. Nevertheless this article is worth a read and learn from. Thank you

  6. Vivian Ong on Oct 22, 2016 at 1:37 am

    Thank you Vinnie and Beatrix for the informative article. I really didn’t know that there still got people who practice Sati. This is a very inhuman practice. Everyone deserved their rights to live. Those who force the widows to commit sati will have very bad karma. Even the widows who commit sati involuntary will also have bad ending as they will end up in the hungry ghost realm. Many thanks to Dr Pathak for saving the lives of the widows. May more be saved and may the widows will get back on their feet to become a better and positive person.

    With folded palms,
    Vivian

  7. shelly tai on Oct 21, 2016 at 9:27 pm

    Thank you Vinnie and Beatrix for this write up. Is frustrating how can such a discrimination can happen during the era now no doubt there is law that again this Sati tradition but the general society will not so easy change their mind set so the organisation like Sulabh International need to create more awareness among the India people because education is important to understand all these widows suffering and pain without education people will follow blindly what is normally practice by general public .

  8. Adeline Tan on Oct 12, 2016 at 6:42 pm

    The practice of ‘sati’ in India among the Hindu communities is very cruel and inhumane. The discrimination against the widows is so unfair they are not witches or inauspicious as the people claimed in their tradition. Hopefully with the help of Dr. Bindeshwar Pathak non-profit voluntary social organisation known as Sulabh International social service organisation can help eradicate the sufferings of the widows in India through education. Thank you Vinnie and Beatrix for highlighting the plight of these poor widows, may this horrible tradition soon be abolished completely.

  9. JP on Oct 11, 2016 at 10:48 pm

    It is very heartbreaking to learn of this tradition of discriminating widows. I’m so glad that there is an act abolishing this tradition. Access to food is a basic human right and regardless of gender, this should not be compromised.

    We need to create more awareness on this discrimination so that widows in India do not have to suffer like this. Just because it is a tradition that was accepted in society, it doesn’t mean that it can’t be changed. Creating sufferings onto others is wrong on all levels and must be stopped.

  10. Jutika Lam on Oct 10, 2016 at 9:59 pm

    There are many traditions around the world that are different, cruel and is sometimes like this one, aimed at putting a gender down.

    Though the intended purpose behind this tradition may have been a better one, the manulupation and lack of awarness and education towards this has lead people to get the wrong idea and shun widows instead. It has also lead people to take advantage of widows and their rightful wealth.

    Human rights organisations such as the Sulabh International Social Service Organisation are indeed very important to speak out as one voice for people who share the same problem. The Sulabh International Social Service Organisation is doing a great job at spreading awarness to change people’s prespictives on the poor.

    Thank you Beatrix and Vinnie for writing this article.

  11. Colin Tan on Oct 10, 2016 at 4:36 pm

    It’s so sad to know this discrimination against the widows in India in this era. It’s unbelievably ridiculous that they were treated unfairly not because of their deeds, but purely because of their husbands’ death, which is totally beyond their control. These widows have to face all kinds of humiliation from their family as well as from the society. The inhumane treatment like forcing them to shave their heads, not allow to remarry, kicked out from home, restrain them from living a normal lifestyle, is definitely a contempt to them & totally unacceptable.

    The untrue belief about them the inauspicious ladies is deeply ingrained in India culture and this probably needs ages to re-educate the society to uproot this belief. We are glad that the Sulabh International Social Service Organisation has started programs to support the widows, to create awareness in the society to change people’s mindset & beliefs. Hopefully there will be more donations & contribution from different parts of the world to help the organization to reach out to more widows & to create the right perception for this minority group. Widows deserve the right to live with dignity and honor like any other human beings on earth.

  12. Paul Yap on Oct 10, 2016 at 4:31 pm

    In the 21st Century where human have made exploration into Mars and Jupiter, its sad that some old uncivilised culture like Sati still existed in the old society of India. This part of society is still very closed minded, unexposed, not educated and sadly without any dharma knowledge. I just can’t imagine the mother is required to choose burning herself alive or to leave the family stay alone in the poverty. How could her children have the heart to see the suffering of their own mother? I’m so glad this practice is now ban by India law. Someone like Dr Bindeshwar Pathak is really a Hero to India and humanity. He is like a walking bodhisattva who works hard tirelessly in lifting the sufferings of all sentient being. I hope all the discrimination against female, widows, caste, ethnic, skin colours, religious etc will be ended soon, may all of us lives in peace and harmony and have all the right conditions for us to grow and practice the dharma.

  13. Wah Ying on Oct 10, 2016 at 12:03 am

    We have so many discrimination towards minority and the tradition of sati is another example. Even in 80s, there are still cases of widow tried to burn herself alive in India after the ban on Sati tradition took place. The status of women have to improve and welfare of widows after the death of their husbands have to have guaranteed, only inhuman tradition of such can be eradicated from the particular societies in India and Nepal.

    To leave to poverty, to live without dignity and to be viewed as bad luck and unholy beings until you die – with all these cruel, uncivilised and inhuman treatment, a widow would rather burn herself…therefore to say those widows burning themselves or committed suicide volunteerly is totally twisted the truth and fact of what happen. Who would willingly end their life in this tragic ways by burning themselves alive or being buried alive, just because they lost their partner? The stigma of Hindu society about widow especially and woman in general needs to change, only then the future of current living widows/woman can be changed.

    It’s glad there are people like Dr Bindeshwar Pathak and many others who put in their effort to help the widows and trying to educate the society, to create the awareness and change the situation. Hope many who see this article can spread the knowledge about the cruel and inhuman facts about the Sati tradition and create awareness to many more in order to eradicate it completely.

  14. Joy Kam on Oct 6, 2016 at 2:16 am

    Gender discrimination has been around for centuries and the worst is always seen in a the cultures of the old, where male superiority seems to dominate. The male chauvinistic attitude is more prevalent in these ancient Asian cultures and is practised and expected in their society more than the western ones. I never ever understood this and could never accept it coming from a very liberal upbringing. So when I first heard of such traditions, I thought how ridiculous and to be born in such cultures.

    I am so glad to see that there is someone who cares enough – Dr. Pathak and it is amazing what a hero he is to all these widowers. He truly is a kind selfless soul, maybe he is a Bodhisattva helping these women! It is really heart warming to know that these ladies are not left to die in such miseries, though I am sure there are some who did.

    This story also reminded me of how Lord Buddha got rid of the caste system in India as well. And in the beginning it was also furiously rejected, until I guess when Kind Ashoka became Buddhist and change the rulings. http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/emperor-ashoka-the-great.html

    Thank you Vinnie & Bea for highlighting these woman’s plight and condition of a society with still very narrow ways which I hope we can all help in spreading this injustice through education and more exposure of such horrible gender discrimination.

  15. Albert on Oct 5, 2016 at 9:01 am

    While reading this article, it reminded me that the olden days in China, when the king emperor died, all their wives are to be buried alive to accompany their husband, so that the king will not be lonely when they go to ‘another place’.

    It is very sad that woman are treated like that, since olden days, and now still happened in some conservative families, woman are not treated well, because they cannot carry on their family name, when their daughter get married, she became someone else’s wife and their kids will follow that someone’s name, so when they know their wife gave birth to a daughter, they will be extremely disappointed.

    In this case, thanks to the compassionate group of people who set up Sulabh International Social Service Organisation, with the existence of this group,at least the woman’s welfare are more secured. Man and woman should be treated the same, cause we are all the same, we are all human.

  16. Julia Tan on Oct 5, 2016 at 8:46 am

    I have heard about this practice long time ago. I am glad and relieved it was banned by law now. Very sad to see people acted out of ignorance by the name of God to harm and even to kill for logical reasons. Simply because women are weak and easier to be bullied and blamed. It was an easy way to cut off their responsibility to take care of the widows. Again, the root was the ignorance of human without Dharma.

    Those who were lucky, adopbted and being take care by Sulabh International Social Service Organisation found by Dr. Bindeshwar Pathak. I hope to see more activist for this course will arise to improve the lives of widows in India. I think to help not only the widows but women to gain a better lives by learning some living skills to survive is important.

  17. Jace Chong on Oct 5, 2016 at 2:51 am

    Thanks Rinpoche, Vinnie, Beatrix and the blog team for sharing this article. It’s the first time I heard about the practice of Sati, it’s inhumane and illogic. How come a living being lose her value to live when her husband pass away? The passing away of the husbands is not something in control by anyone, why do the widows need to suffer from the impermanent phenomena?

    Dr Pathak is like a Gandhi to the unwanted widows who speak up and educate people on the wrong view. May the gender discrimination in all over the world be reduced and people respect other person as a same human being.

    Thank you.

  18. Pastor Chia on Oct 5, 2016 at 1:21 am

    This widows article in India has alert many cases of women are still abuse as victim ,treated unfair manner causing many women suffering in this modern world. Different religion believe and tradition also causing many women get abuse .

    I am glad to know about Dr, Pathak has setup Sulabh International organisation at Vanarasi to protect millions of unfortunate women who lose their husbands untimely, and become widows. Most of them are old, infirm, disabled and have no source of livelihood. With the organisation help, those widows able to received support again , not treated badly neglected them from the society. I ready hope more organisation can setup at future to protect human right especially to protect women free from the abuse cases.

  19. June Kang on Oct 5, 2016 at 12:43 am

    Very sad that at that time the society just accepts the idea of sati . Sati is demeaning to a woman because it implies that the woman’s life has meaning only when associated with a man. And most properly the practice is to benefit the minority greedy and selfish peoples who wanted to hoard property that the property will back to the families and not the widows.

    That is why religious such like Buddhism play an important role to the society. For Buddhism, committed suicide is considered killing and very bad Karma. If peoples have been educated with Buddhism, “sati” will not happen.

  20. Eric kksiow on Oct 5, 2016 at 12:24 am

    First of all i would like to Thanks to the writers for this article, i was shock after reading this, these Hindu widows, the poorest of the poor, are shunned from society when their husbands die, not for religious reasons, but because of tradition.

    My point : In the year of 2016, why men and women can’t equal? Everyone should be treated fairly in the world. We are all human.

  21. Pastor Henry Ooi on Oct 5, 2016 at 12:19 am

    Suicide in the name of honour may be deemed a waste of a precious human life to most people. But to those widows in India, more in the past, it was seemed as the only way out of the misery of being abused, heckled, disowned, kicked out from their family home, treated as pariahs and as an extra mouth to be fed (worse if they have young children). Most women at that time were less educated and easily coerced to end their lives. It is sad to see human lives gone to waste. However, with education and modernisation, this traditional practice is dying off, paving the way for human rights for women in India.

  22. Li kheng on Oct 4, 2016 at 11:06 pm

    Suffering is endless for those living in samsara. It is very, very sad to hear about these widows – helpless and labelled outcasts solely on the untimely death of their husbands. It is most frightening to have our future carved in stone because of what happens to another person…what more a husband over whom these women have little control over (i.e. the masculine oriented culture of India).

    I rejoice that these outcasted women found refuge in spiritual communities that are conscious and “inconvenience” themselves to protect the helpless and uphold the values that make us innately humane.

    One thing I notice quite clearly is that the solace, haven, sanctuary and refuge for all people who suffer greatly is spirituality, be it Buddhism or other holy faiths. On this basis, I request all modern people of this day and age to reflect and observe before losing confidence in the purity of faith and spirit. As Buddha always said, compassion must be practiced with wisdom. I understand that to be “sustainable kindness”.

    Thank you Beatrix and Vinnie for this eye opening article.

  23. Mingwen on Oct 4, 2016 at 10:52 pm

    Purely selfishness and ego within human are the causes for every type sufferings we are experiencing.

    We should help each other out from our sufferings. For instance, those widows in India, little people care about what they are facing around them, hence, people outside their country should stand up for them and pull them up, or else their sufferings will go round and round and never end.

  24. Moh Mei on Oct 4, 2016 at 10:47 pm

    Historically many cultures are patriarchy based and unfortunately still very much so today perhaps just more subtle. Women were viewed as subjects of men and has no individual values. It is ironic that men would supposedly love their wives and daughters on one hand and on the other hand are the cause of the patriarchy system that devalued, discriminated, abused and humiliated the female gender.

    One could say it the karma of the female gender or it’s one’s karma to be born female. Then again karma doesn’t mean predestined fate.

    Time has changed many things in this world but unfortunately it doesn’t always include people. It is shocking to find that in some parts of the world, society are still struggling with these types of serious gender issues.

  25. Pastor Antoinette on Oct 4, 2016 at 10:44 pm

    It is very sad to see how families treat the wife of a husband who passed away. I cannot imagine the pain they have to go through, not only they lose their husband but on top their life or sold for prostritution… if they are “lucky”, they loose their home and all status. It is heartwrenching to see what happens to them after a life spend for the family and children.

    It is a relief to see that Dr Pathak is taking care of them but how many widows are there in a country like India. It is like a drop on a hot stone.

    Thank you Vinnie for creating awareness!

  26. pammie yap on Oct 4, 2016 at 10:19 pm

    I personally find it quite cruel that the widows have to endure the act after their husband’s passing. Although it is part of their culture but I believe that are other ways they can be treated. And the other part that I find cruel is that even if they choose to live, they still have to suffer other conditions. What I can’t tolerate is that some are even forced into prostitution.
    In modern times like this, nobody should endure such cruelty no matter what the culture is. We need to move forward with time and be equal to all human beings.
    I am happy that the government and human rights groups are helping these women. All government should look after the welfare of their people’s welfare and not let any of them be subject to human cruelty.

  27. nicholas on Oct 4, 2016 at 10:12 pm

    It’s really painful to see this type situation happened to the widows. They have lost their beloved husband and being treated in such a way. No one should discriminated and as a human being we should help each other especially those who needed help.

    At this modern world everyone have their right to live and do what they thing is right as long as they don’t hurt anyone. At this era we are responsible for our action and no one should control us for our life. These widows had done nothing wrong but just loosing their husband and they have their right to continue their life just like normal human beings.

    We are glad that to have Dr Bindeshwar to give a big hand helping them and we need to nurture more people to understand what is human rights especially the younger generation to understand the old tradition that discriminate human rights is wrong. Compassion should be the main teaching and practice for all human kind in the world to create a better place to live.

  28. Echeah on Oct 3, 2016 at 2:42 am

    It is sad that in some primitive societies, women’s sole reason for existence is a lifetime of servitude to their husbands. Their husbands define them. After the husband has died, these women are reduced to nothing, no social standing, redundant. It’s easy to understand why they feel they are better off dead without their husbands. It is no wonder that female infanticide is still rampant in some parts of India as girls are often seen as liabilities and not fit to live.

    With Dr. Pathak’s compassionate work, hopefully people can become free from the shackles of these old, so deeply ingrained traditions that discriminate, marginalize and victimise women. Then more lives can be saved and widows’ rights can be restored. Those very people who mistreat or abuse women seem to be blind to the fact that they would not even exist if it had not been for their mothers who gave birth to them.

  29. Julien Roth on Oct 2, 2016 at 5:45 pm

    Thank you Vinnie and Beatrix for sharing this information with us in such a well-written blog post. Its good that news such as this is spread around the internet for people to see as more money can be donated to help and people are aware that such actions are wrong.

    As I read the article, the thing that shocked me the most was the ritual of Sati. I never knew about this ritual until this post. It is terrifying how widows would take their own lives just because their husbands have passed away. That doesn’t make sense to me. I am sure that there must have been a spiritual or racial reason behind it, but from my modern day perspective I strongly believe this is wrong, and sexist.

  30. Pastor Han Nee on Oct 1, 2016 at 4:55 pm

    Dr Pathak is to be specially commended for his compassion, for only a person with great compassion can actually see the depths of misery of the disenfranchised widows, their humiliation and their degradation by society and their own people. To see and to be moved by them to do something to alleviate their suffering.

  31. Pastor Han Nee on Sep 30, 2016 at 9:53 pm

    Prejudice against the female gender is bad enough in many parts of the world. But nowhere is it as bad as in India where the most hapless victims of social and cultural prejudice are widows. Tradition and culture have placed a very strong stigma on Indian widows. Although Sati has been outlawed/banned , yet widows are still ostracised by their families and the community. They are left impoverished and almost all end up begging for food. Being helpless, as most are unskilled and uneducated and have not found the voice to speak up, they are among the most neglected minority groups.

    Fortunately for this most abused minority group, human rights organisations like the Sulabh International Social Service Organization founded by a highly influential humanist and social reformer Dr Pathak, are now working very hard for these poor unwanted widows. They have adopted hundreds of these widows in Varanasi, for instance.

    Seeing that these widows are the victims of gross social prejudice(society views them as unclean and they are shunned and treated like social lepers), Dr Pathak’s primary concern is to change the mindset, attitude and behaviour of the people towards widows.

    It is hoped that Dr Pathak will make a significant headway in this direction.

  32. sonny tan on Sep 30, 2016 at 5:04 pm

    Thank you Vinnie and Beatrix for this revealing article, it is pretty sad to know that inequality still exists in India. I know that caste system is a well-accepted phenomenon but to cast aside women and put them away when they are no more of use is pretty hard for anyone to accept.
    Women, men, animals are all God’s creation but why segregate and dehumanize women and categorize them as ‘has been’ deprived them of basic human rights is something the Indian government has to urgently addressed soon. Perhaps it requires intervention by more developed nation through education and dialogue on such degrading acts of human.
    It would be a very long haul before we can see some little changes for it is not easy at all to change a system that has been happening for so long, perhaps by educating their young ones now and hopefully it can snowballed into a reality in the not too distant future. I hope that if substantial efforts are being enforced and regulations are introduced to make the Indians see that we are all equal in the eyes of God perhaps one day it can turn into an accepted reality.

  33. Samfoonheei on Sep 30, 2016 at 4:23 pm

    Sad…very sad..feel sorry for those widows in India.How can they did these to those widow who are not at fort loosing their husband.Even though it was a tradition practice which they called it Sati or sattee in ancient India.However it was ban during the British rule yet they did continue practicing it.Those unfortunate widows are treated as bad and unholy women by the society. And there’s one kind, caring man Dr Pathak and other human organization are trying to change the mindset ,attitude and behavior of the people towards widow Seeing the sufferings of these widows, Dr Pathak try to create and to bring the awareness on basic human rights and .improve the lives of these women.
    Thank you Vinnie and Beatrix for this article.

  34. Stella Cheang on Sep 30, 2016 at 11:47 am

    In the mind of many people, India, among a few other counties, is notorious for gender bias discrimination. In fact, from the many reports in recent years of gang rape cases and child marriages, I personally believe that India, and a few other countries, enshrine sexism on top of genderism. Therefore, the tradition of sati nuanced as disturbing but not surprising. Even though Queen Victoria had declared illegal to practice sati, it had not stopped for the last 2 centuries. It is hard to stomach that before 1987 (most of us were already born then) that many widows had to burn themselves alive to accompany the death of their maybe not so beloved husband. And should they chose not to die, they were given a life of harsh asceticism, which is actually stripping them off their identity and degrade them as public property. It should be the shame of mankind to have such practice. Thank you Vinnie and Beatrix for this article.

  35. Uncle Eddie on Sep 29, 2016 at 6:55 pm

    These are truly horrible and terrible things that happened in the World, in the name of human tradition and cultural belief, both to humans as well as animals. The happening of the practice of “sati or suttee” in many parts of ancient India, many in the outside World today may not have any knowledge or have even heard of such happening! “Sati or suttee” is described as a practice commonly happened amongst Hindu community, where recent widowed women, by forced or coercion commit sucide after death of husband by burning oneself at the husband’s funeral pyre, or buried alive or by drowning! Such was needed to be practised as a wifely-devotion act, seen as a way to savage the dead husband, and seven generations of their off-spring. It was said that the practice of “sati” was found amongst many castes and every social levels, including the highly educated and uneducated women of modern times. A great many heartfelt thanks to the various organisations and individuals, especially to Dr. Bindeshwar Pathak, for their great efforts to help out! Dr. Pathak’s primary concern is to change the mindset, attitude and behaviour of the people towards the widows. Dr. Pathak is a highly influential humanist and social reformer of contemporary India.
    Ultimately, humanity is one and this small planet is our only home. It is believed that at every level of society – familial, tribal, national and international – the key to a happier and more successful World is the growth of Compassion. We don’t need to be an ideologist, all that is necessary is for us to develop our Good Human Qualities to maintain it! Om Mani Padme Hung.

  36. Pastor David Lai on Sep 28, 2016 at 10:08 pm

    I find this article heart wrenching and sad to see that these women live the life of a pariah just because their husbands had passed on. It’s horrible but not unusual that a human being would be treated in this manner. We have come such a long way in our attitude towards women in many countries but there are many more countries that continue to uphold such conveniently prejudiced and archaic views against women.

    It’s not surprising that these women are largely from rural areas where traditional values are still retained. I think poverty has a hand to play in the attitude towards women as for many other social issues. The women is usually the easiest scapegoat and victim. In many cases, education is the way out of poverty and the education of women could do a lot to uplift these women towards sustaining their livelihood.

    I think these women would struck a chord in you especially if you are a woman. Even when I am not a woman but I can feel for these poor women and luckily there are these organizations that help these women self-sustain and get back on their feet. It’s good that more people know about them and what they go through. I think t’s through exposure and education that will bring down such harmful social practices and prejudice.

  37. Fong on Sep 28, 2016 at 4:41 pm

    Thank you, Vinnie for another informative article. The practice of sati has not been heard for a long time but nonetheless still haunting. It is sad that India, a land of the greatest religions and spirituality still has some very archaic attitudes towards women.

    Thanks to the various organizations and individuals who make the effort to try and educate the general public about human rights, though it is so very new a concept to them.

    It is sad to read of the widows of Varanasi but at the same time heart-warming to read also of the Sulabh International Social Service Organisation and Dr Bindeshwar Pathak advocating human rights.

    We do have to think of the love and care these women have given their families. It is only right that they be taken care of by their children in gratitude for the sacrifices of their mother though the father is no longer, especially when the father is gone.

    The families should learn to practice generosity to their very own kin, these widows who have lost thir husbands and not see them as a drain on their resources. These widows in their time had done so much for their families and can still contribute to the families in many ways even when their husbands are no longer around. A woman should not be defined by her husband. It’s so great that the Sulabh International Social Service Organisation and Dr Bindeshwar pathak are doing something to educate about human rights.

    • Valentina Suhendra on Sep 29, 2016 at 4:05 am

      Dear Fong

      Thank you for your comment on this article. This is an interesting article indeed. I was shock myself at how women’s life and value is defined by the fragile existence of her husband and that is the reason when their husband passed away, they are being asked to die with their husband or became an outcast. This is the violation of the most basic human rights.

      Fortunately, we have people like Dr. Bideshwar Patak who is passionate about helping these widows. But I think we should not only praising and admiring Dr. Patak, we should help him in bringing awareness about this dire issue.

      I sincerely hope that this custom will be changed very soon.

      Valentina

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  • Lin Mun
    Saturday, Apr 29. 2017 03:09 PM
    Interesting info and article about werewolves. I never knew about its origins and the various wolves existence until I read this. I have thus far know about werewolves only from the movies and the famous twilight show. But one thing I noticed from the articles is the gruesome manner in killing the person (or suspected werewolves). Some were cursed to be a werewolves. There just so much anger, violence and killing in the whole process, which probably the reason why werewolves are known to kill and hurt human and other animals.

    Anyway, whether we believe the existence of werewolf is true or not, I believe that there are other forms of beings in world. And we should not handle or deal with other beings with violence and anger.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/paranormal/werewolves-the-shapeshifters.html#comment-744320
  • Lin Mun
    Friday, Apr 28. 2017 04:00 PM
    Everything we offer to Buddha is a form of mind transformation and practise our mind to be focus even when doing water offering. When pouring the water into the bowl we have to recite Om Ah Hum (3 times), think positively and pouring it slowly so it does not spill and leaving the space of a grain of rice before reaching the top. After offering we also have to clean the bowls properly without leaving stain. All this is to train our mind.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing the many benefits and water offering in a simple to understand article.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/making-water-offerings-to-the-buddhas.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Friday, Apr 28. 2017 03:38 PM
    Trolls are assiociates as beings of Scandinavian folklore.A large number of different mythological creatures continue to live on in Scandinavian folklore.They have different shapes,habitat and filthy features . There are also numerous tales of trolls told and retold.Trolls are also believed to have the magigal powers, which were folktales ,posses capabilities that are beyond human .What ever it was a remnant of a long-lost reality for sure. I do believe that there’s a very high chance trolls had existed in the past.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing ,i do enjoyed all the stories in these article even though it just folk tales.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/the-hidden-nature-of-trolls.html
  • Jason
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 11:54 PM
    People always expect return on some contribution being done especially in charity events. When the return was under their expectations then they will feel sad or unhappy.
    As Rinpoche said, Dharma is a teachings to transform our mind to become bodicitta or selfless to benefit others without condition. Once we practiced selfless mind, our mind will not be affected by others people reaction.
    What will be my legacy? I think this is not really important to me anymore once I know Dharma teachings from Rinpoche.
    Thanks Datuk May for sharing to benefit more people.

    Jason

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/guest-contributors/what-will-be-your-legacy.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 08:56 PM
    Amazing miracles true story …of how Rinpoche helped. With Rinpoche blessing during the children baptismal ceremony,this little boy who had not spoken since 9 years old was able to speake again.Incredible….
    Chef Au truly believes been a vegetarian has help him to collects merits for his son.Rinpoche’s care and compassion has benefited many more people.Through these stories hope more people will be inspired to achieve the state of compassion and attainments.
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Loh Seng Piow for this sharing.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-4.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 07:51 PM
    Having fully trust and faith in Rinpoche ,Fat monk’s mother was well again, after been diagnosed with cancerious tumour at the liver.
    Following instructions given by Rinpoche, his mother recited mantras and Fat monk did a series of pujas as told,his mother recovered then.
    Amazing……Miracles do happen.
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Loh Seng Piow for sharing.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-3.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 05:27 PM
    We are no strangers to the creatures called Werewolves. They are often depicted as the Jekyll-and-Hyde-like monsters in movies who are unable to control their animal instincts when they shift from human form to a wolf-like creature, usually during the full moon. Together with the Vampires who can transform into bats, are my childhood imagery villains, who triggered my curiosity on mythical creatures during younger days. They still do, lol.

    It is gruesome to learn that real life werewolves are actually brutal even when they are in human forms. It is a far depict from the movies and fictions, where they are civil and level headed when in human form. I hope one day science or technology can provide more proves the existence of werewolves, and debunk the reason of this mystical shapeshifter.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/paranormal/werewolves-the-shapeshifters.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 05:07 PM
    The miraculous power of Protectors’ practice can heal and shield us from negative karma from ripening. Through the blessings of our Guru, coupled with strong faith and trust, the practices will take effect swiftly and effectively. Rejoice to Steven Lee. May he be guided by the Three Jewels always. Thank you, Pastor Seng Piow for sharing the true story with us.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-10.html
  • Lin Mun
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 03:57 PM
    This is a very touching article. I totally agree that dog is a man’s best friend. They are always so loyal to the owner. However it is sad that not all pet owners are such. Some will only treat them literally as an animal and therefore do not take good care of them. Dogs or any other animals are beings that have feeling. There should not be neglected and be abused by us. This article reminds us to always care for all beings and respect them.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this heartwarming article.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/faithful-dog-chases-deceased-owner.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 02:21 PM
    Its a heartfelt touching article of this faithful dog.Cannot imagine this ,such a wonderful relationship between that dog and the deceased owner.The greatest fear dogs know is the fear that we will not come back for them That i noticed from observing from my pet poodle.In this case this faithful dog knew his owner won’t be back.
    Dogs are loyal, patient, fearless, forgiving, capable of pure love and have feelings too.He must have missed the owner badly that he wanted to accompany the owner all the way to the resting place.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing. May that faithful dog ,continue to serve and well taken, love by the other family members.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/faithful-dog-chases-deceased-owner.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 01:46 PM
    Werewolves are known to be mythical creatures found in fiction instead of lurking in the dark woods,In various parts of the world there were few cases who have gone down in history as real life werewolves Interesting to read it from these post..How far it was true or just legends.,no one really know . Many myths and legends surrounding werewolves .To become a werewolf, it is necessary to be bitten by a werewolf in their form at the time of the full moon. Thats what all of us knew from the movies and from fiction told. Reports of werewolf sightings continued even till this century but mostly in between 1428 and 1447 .The most recent sighting of werewolf sightings in 1972. was in Ohio .but eventually subsided .
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these interesting article which i do enjoyed reading it,
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/paranormal/werewolves-the-shapeshifters.html
  • Valentina
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 01:11 PM
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    Twenty-Four Holy Places & Eight Great Charnel Grounds part 2 – (focus topic: Eight Great Charnel Grounds)

    At one time there was a god by the name of Rudra who was originally part of Mahadeva’s retinue. He was a very fierce being who also had many of his own consorts. Together with his consorts he began to oppress sentient beings, and promoted violence and unethical behaviour. At that time, Heruka once again arose, and in a dance of great compassionate wrath, liberated Rudra and his consorts from their physical bodies, sending their minds to pure lands. The places where Rudra’s body parts fell became charnel grounds. …read more by clicking the following link:

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/twenty-four-holy-places-eight-great-charnel-grounds.html
  • Jason
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 03:07 AM
    This year Wesak Day fall on 10 of May. This day is very special and meaningful to me because I will visit Kechara Forest Retreat(KFR) to join some meritorious event there.
    For me, Wesak is a day to commemorate Buddha Sakyamuni in three aspect( Birth , Enlightened, Nirwana).
    While we celebrate Wesak, we must remind ourselves to learn from Buddha teachings and practice it in order to gain attainment.
    Thanks Rinpoche and Pastor Seng Piow for sharing in order to create more understanding on Wesak Day.

    Jason

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/wesak-day-special-on-rtm-2.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 06:10 PM
    OMG! This is very touching. To see a doggie who never left go of his owner in spite of death. Way more powerful than many who proclaimed “till death do us part.” Just like the human, not all doggies are as loyal as this tear-jerking pet, but I truly believe almost all doggies offer unconditional love to the person who feeds and cares for them. Even when they are stray animals. There was a stray dog who will run two streets from the entrance of the “Taman” until the car stops in front of the house, just to greet me. You can imagine the warm and conviction in my heart that these beings are more than capable of loving than many of us, human! Thank you for this lovely sharing. I miss my doggie, Sherab.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/faithful-dog-chases-deceased-owner.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 06:00 PM
    Thank you, Pastor Seng Piow, for this amazing sharing. There is no doubt about the ability of our Guru, His Eminence the 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche. His incarnations have been compassionate and taken rebirth to return and spread the dharma so that sentient beings can benefit and learn some dharma in our short life.

    We shall never doubt our Guru; but must see that He is one with our Yidam and Protector, an attained being. Even if our Guru does not demonstrate clairvoyance abilities, we must never contest our Guru, for he holds the key (dharma) that can liberate us from eternal suffering in samsara.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-1-2.html

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Little Mumu boy and myself.. He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
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2017-His Holiness the 101st Gaden Tripa, Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal is doing well and 90 years old. His Holiness Lungrik Namgyal is a powerful master of sutra and tantra and practitioner of Dorje Shugden. Currently residing in France.
One of the most sacred statues of Avalokitesvara made of sandalwood housed in Lhasa, Tibet. He has shown miracles also. Every pilgrim wishes to make offerings to this Lord of Compassion.
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One of the most sacred statues of Avalokitesvara made of sandalwood housed in Lhasa, Tibet. He has shown miracles also. Every pilgrim wishes to make offerings to this Lord of Compassion.
 Sacred Avalokitesvara statue in Nepal. Thousands come to worship this special Buddha as it has conferred wishes in the past.
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Sacred Avalokitesvara statue in Nepal. Thousands come to worship this special Buddha as it has conferred wishes in the past.
Tsem Rinpoche\'s Vajra Yogini statue and offerings
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Tsem Rinpoche's Vajra Yogini statue and offerings
Two of my teachers from Gaden Shartse Monastery in South India. Left side is Most Venerable Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen whom I lived with for 8 years in Los Angeles where his centre Thubten Dhargye Ling is located. On the right is the abbot emeritus H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche the scholar and yogi. I was very fortunate to have them in my life and learn so much dharma from them. Tsem Rinpoche
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Two of my teachers from Gaden Shartse Monastery in South India. Left side is Most Venerable Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen whom I lived with for 8 years in Los Angeles where his centre Thubten Dhargye Ling is located. On the right is the abbot emeritus H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche the scholar and yogi. I was very fortunate to have them in my life and learn so much dharma from them. Tsem Rinpoche
 It is so wonderful to be kind to people, be caring, feed them, make sure they are healthy and share dharma if they are interested with them for their future. But simply to be nice to others is worth getting up and being alive...otherwise why be alive to hurt/use/distrust and hate others? No point living that way..must change that..... It is nice to live our lives to benefit others and be patient even if we have been hurt before because by caring we can heal the hurt and \'defeat\' the ones that hurt us because we don\'t become bitter..... Tsem Rinpoche
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It is so wonderful to be kind to people, be caring, feed them, make sure they are healthy and share dharma if they are interested with them for their future. But simply to be nice to others is worth getting up and being alive...otherwise why be alive to hurt/use/distrust and hate others? No point living that way..must change that..... It is nice to live our lives to benefit others and be patient even if we have been hurt before because by caring we can heal the hurt and 'defeat' the ones that hurt us because we don't become bitter..... Tsem Rinpoche
Tsem Rinpoche\'s heritage in China. Must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=120499
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Tsem Rinpoche's heritage in China. Must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=120499
Thank you Buddhist Pastor Chia for sharing your story on how you met His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche over 20 years ago. We can learn much from your story.~Admin  Please read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=116928
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Thank you Buddhist Pastor Chia for sharing your story on how you met His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche over 20 years ago. We can learn much from your story.~Admin Please read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=116928
Mumu boy is incredibly photogenic. He is beyond cute. Tsem Rinpoche
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Mumu boy is incredibly photogenic. He is beyond cute. Tsem Rinpoche
 (left to right) Rabten Tulku, Gonsar Rinpoche, Gyume Kensur Rinpoche, Trijang Rinpoche, H.H. Gaden Trisur Rinpoche (France)
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(left to right) Rabten Tulku, Gonsar Rinpoche, Gyume Kensur Rinpoche, Trijang Rinpoche, H.H. Gaden Trisur Rinpoche (France)
Beautiful 200 roses arrived today for me as a gift from Su Ming. Very kind and thoughtful of her as usual. Tsem Rinpoche
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Beautiful 200 roses arrived today for me as a gift from Su Ming. Very kind and thoughtful of her as usual. Tsem Rinpoche
It\'s good to be with kind and sincere people.
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It's good to be with kind and sincere people.
If we are kind, we lose less of ourselves-Tsem Rinpoche
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If we are kind, we lose less of ourselves-Tsem Rinpoche
My Mumu boy didn\'t want to eat. Eating is not one of his favorite activities throughout his life. So I talked to him to let him know why he needs to eat and keep his strength up when this photo was taken. He was listening intently and after my talk with him, he ate. Tsem Rinpoche
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My Mumu boy didn't want to eat. Eating is not one of his favorite activities throughout his life. So I talked to him to let him know why he needs to eat and keep his strength up when this photo was taken. He was listening intently and after my talk with him, he ate. Tsem Rinpoche
This is so true. Click to enlarge and understand more about unpleasant people.
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This is so true. Click to enlarge and understand more about unpleasant people.
This mahasiddha Kukkuripa is easy to identify as he is accompanied by a small dog whom he loved very much.
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This mahasiddha Kukkuripa is easy to identify as he is accompanied by a small dog whom he loved very much.
Mumu taking a rest in the turquoise room. Over the years, I always feel very satisfied when I see him covered with a blanket, safe and sleeping. I always wanted to make sure he was safe from harm, illness and distress. I wanted him to have a happy and loved life. Tsem Rinpoche
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Mumu taking a rest in the turquoise room. Over the years, I always feel very satisfied when I see him covered with a blanket, safe and sleeping. I always wanted to make sure he was safe from harm, illness and distress. I wanted him to have a happy and loved life. Tsem Rinpoche
I wrapped my little Mumu boy up in my blanket and propped him up on my bed. He didn\'t move or wiggle and just looked at me. He is one funny entertaining little guy. Tsem Rinpoche
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I wrapped my little Mumu boy up in my blanket and propped him up on my bed. He didn't move or wiggle and just looked at me. He is one funny entertaining little guy. Tsem Rinpoche
March 2017-Coaxing my little Mumu boy to eat his meal. He was not well and therefore not hungry. Tsem Rinpoche
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March 2017-Coaxing my little Mumu boy to eat his meal. He was not well and therefore not hungry. Tsem Rinpoche
Click on picture to enlarge and see what Milarepa says. Profound.
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Click on picture to enlarge and see what Milarepa says. Profound.
We are always trying to get somewhere, try something new, find some friends, get some entertainment and in the end we end up in the same place. Time to really practice Dharma seriously and stop wasting time we don\'t have. ~Tsem Rinpoche
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We are always trying to get somewhere, try something new, find some friends, get some entertainment and in the end we end up in the same place. Time to really practice Dharma seriously and stop wasting time we don't have. ~Tsem Rinpoche
March 20, 2017-Mumu is just so adorable with his bright eyes.
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March 20, 2017-Mumu is just so adorable with his bright eyes.
More and more people inviting Lord Dorje Shugden home to connect with on their shrines. I am so happy to see this as it will benefit them and their families so much. That is the purpose to be alive which is to benefit others as much as possible. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
More and more people inviting Lord Dorje Shugden home to connect with on their shrines. I am so happy to see this as it will benefit them and their families so much. That is the purpose to be alive which is to benefit others as much as possible. Tsem Rinpoche
His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
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His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
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His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
The Japanese are very innovative. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
The Japanese are very innovative. Tsem Rinpoche
Read this as it will be interesting
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Read this as it will be interesting
Recite this before any meal or drinks for blessings of abundance. Tsem Rinpoche
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Recite this before any meal or drinks for blessings of abundance. Tsem Rinpoche
This sacred statue of Buddha is in Nepal brought originally from Tibet and has spoken on many occasions. Very blessed to see this holy image and keep a picture...bless you always. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
This sacred statue of Buddha is in Nepal brought originally from Tibet and has spoken on many occasions. Very blessed to see this holy image and keep a picture...bless you always. Tsem Rinpoche
I love Mumu boy tremendously. We went through so much together for so many years. You are a great being to be with. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
I love Mumu boy tremendously. We went through so much together for so many years. You are a great being to be with. Tsem Rinpoche
Dear everyone, I am sharing this beautiful and modern altar to Dorje Shugden in Malaysia. I am glad to see more and more people creating sacred spaces. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Dear everyone, I am sharing this beautiful and modern altar to Dorje Shugden in Malaysia. I am glad to see more and more people creating sacred spaces. Tsem Rinpoche
Lhamo Karmo, a female buddha form visualized above the crown of one\'s head at the time of death, to encourage consciousness to leave the body via the crown aperture. From my book \"The Female Buddhas.\"- Glenn Mullin
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Lhamo Karmo, a female buddha form visualized above the crown of one's head at the time of death, to encourage consciousness to leave the body via the crown aperture. From my book "The Female Buddhas."- Glenn Mullin
The Tibetan female tulku Dorje Pakmo, from a fresco on the wall of the Dorje Pakmo monastery (Samding) in Tibet, near the Turquoise Lake. In Tibet the Dorje Pakmo was ranked with the Dalai Lama, Panchen Lama and Sakya Trizin as the four highest lamas in the country.-from Glenn Mullin
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The Tibetan female tulku Dorje Pakmo, from a fresco on the wall of the Dorje Pakmo monastery (Samding) in Tibet, near the Turquoise Lake. In Tibet the Dorje Pakmo was ranked with the Dalai Lama, Panchen Lama and Sakya Trizin as the four highest lamas in the country.-from Glenn Mullin
Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl checking out the scene..cute
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Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl checking out the scene..cute
My Dharma boy has such a cute expression here. He is a good boy!
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My Dharma boy has such a cute expression here. He is a good boy!
February 9,2017-My Mumu boy and Oser girl are just relaxing together..super cute
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February 9,2017-My Mumu boy and Oser girl are just relaxing together..super cute
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Click on the picture to enlarge and see what Suzy from Hawaii commented on the Dorje Shugden issue after much research. She is very candid and honest. Refreshing. Original is posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vl-4lIwxph4
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  • April 20, 2017 10:45
    Ronnie asked: Dear Rinpoche and Pastors, I'm studying abroad and very far away from home, seeking guidance and advice as I have no one else I can talk to about this. Please read with an open mind, I don't know where else to go for help. I'm pregnant and it's an unplanned pregnancy. I'm stuck between keeping it or letting it go. I'm young and having a child at my age in the society we live in now would be considered taboo. The father of the child thinks I should let it go because it may cause a setback to both our careers and cause major family issues. He thinks we aren't ready to raise a child especially since we're both still in university and his parents think badly of me even though they've never met me or tried to get to know me. I'm sure no one would ever have the heart to take away a heartbeat but it seems like it isn't the right time to have a child now and if we did go through with it, the child probably won't be able to have the best things life can offer looking at where we are now in terms of finance and maturity. I'm lost, confused and unsure what the right thing to do is now. Any advice at all would be helpful right now. Thank you so very much for taking time to read my story.
    pastor answered: Dear Ronnie, I’m sorry to read that you are going through this situation. I can understand that this situation is tough to go through. You are always more than welcome to come here to ask questions. May I suggest that you talk to either someone in your family or your friends to help you come to an appropriate solution? This is because, what you feel, what you are going through, will change from time to time and you would need someone to talk to, someone that you can lean on through this situation you are facing. Depending on where you are in the world, professional help can also be sought to help you make a decision, which will be the best option for you seeking help. From a Buddhist perspective, the taking of a life is not considered a positive act, therefore those on the Buddhist path, would normally abstain taking a life if possible. However, that being said, one must always weigh the decision oneself. Everything we do in life, necessarily involves karma both positive and negative. That is why Buddhists try to overcome samsara in general. Your situation is complicated because you are abroad, but if possible you should really open up to someone you are close to in order to help you through making this decision on a personal basis. When you talk to someone, whom you are able to express yourself more, you may able to come to better decision that is right for you. There may be other options open to you if you seek help. I personally know women who have been in similar situations. One of these women, let the child go and the other went through the pregnancy and then gave the child up for adoption. You may or may not have thought of this option, but it is one that could be open to you, depending on where in the world you are. Any decision we make in life, however big or small it may seem, has far reaching consequences whether in this life, or in future lives. This is just a part and parcel of life within samsara. However, we should weigh the decisions we make clearly given the situation we are in. We cannot always do this weighing ourselves, but need to talk about our options with others we can rely on such a friends, family or professionals. You should consider doing this, which will help you greatly emotionally, and may give you the grounding you need to make the correct decision for you. I hope this helps.
  • April 19, 2017 04:57
    Dongho asked: What is a nyung ne practice? According to Lama Zopa Rinpoche, it's a purification sadhana. However, what are the instructions for this? I'm guessing it's to Chenrezig, but how does it work? Also, from what I have read, Vajrasattva practice is only for broken vows while Akshobhya is for regular misdeeds. Does that mean one has to take the Akshobhya practice to purify bad karma from this life and previous instead of Vajrasattva? As for the purification practices, are some like Vajrasattva and Chenrezig only to purify the bad karma and let it come quickly or is it to prevent it from coming? I am confused in it. As for signs, I recited a mantra of White Yangchenma that a Sakya lama, Lama Kunga Thartse Rinpoche, gave me with the Sakya visualizations I read on, and after one mala, I heard some lady call my Korean name even though no one in my neighborhood knows of my name and my family members weren't in the area. What does this mean?
    pastor answered: Dear Dongho, Thank you for your questions, it’s nice to see you back here again. Nyung Ne practice is a purification practice that centres around Chenrezig. It is a very beneficial practice that stems from a holy nun named Gelong-ma Palmo. It is a two and a half day practice that can be repeated many times over and over again to intensify the purification and build a closer relationship with Chenrezig. As well as its purification aspect, the practice is known to generate vast amount of merit, and also compassion, as the practice centres around Chenrezig, the Buddha of compassion. The practice involves taking the eight Mahayana precepts for the duration, fasting, meditating, prostrating and praying. The practice usually entails empowerment into the practice of Chenrezig, therefore the exact meditations, prayers can only be explained to those who have the empowerment. Vajrasattva practice is not necessarily only for repairing broken vows, etc. That’s why it is advised that you engage in the practice at the end of the day, to repair any vows that you may have broken during that day, as well as stopping any negative karma you created that day from multiplying. This would entail reciting the mantra 21 times, together with the four opponent powers. However, if you engage in this practice more intensely, it definitely has the capability to purify all sorts of karma. That is the reason why in Ngondro, or preliminary practices one engages in before tantra, the practice of 100,000 Vajrasattva mantra recitation is an integral part. You can read more about Vajrasattva and his practice here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/prayers-and-sadhanas/an-important-purification-practice.html. Within purification practices, some of the karma will be purified completely, so you do not feel its effects at all, but when purifying other karma you will need to feel its effects somehow. For example if you have the karma to be in a car accident and get seriously injured, and you are engaging in any practice, but especially the purification practice, since you have purified most of the karma, you will only experience being in a very minor car accident, with only very superficial injuries. Therefore, in this case, the karma has been purified to the extent that it does not affect you as much, but you still need to feel part of its effect. In regards to any signs that you receive which engaging in the practices given to you by one of your specific gurus, you should report the happenings to that particular guru. He will be able to give you more of an accurate answer, as it may be related to the particular practice that he gave to you. I hope this helps. Thank you.
  • April 17, 2017 07:06
    Thomas asked: Dear Pastors, When a serkyem set has been used so much and one is ready to get rid of it and replace it with a new one. What is a respecful mode of disposal?
    pastor answered: Dear Thomas, Thank you for your question. Your question shows that you have a lot of respect for offering items, which is very good. If possible, you should try to repair the item if within your means, and doing so make embellishments to make it a better offering item, which can still be used. If this is not possible, then you should dispose of the item with a good motivation. You should think that this item has been used to make offerings to the enlightened beings, but now that it is broken or unusable, you are going to dispose of it, and replace it with a new one. Since it itself is not a receptacle of energies of the enlightened beings, such as a statue, tsa tsa or thangka, it does not require a special dissolution before being disposed of. However since it was used to make offerings, it still requires some form of respect when disposing, and this comes from one’s motivation and the way in which you dispose of it. Usually, when disposing of items in this way, make the motivation that you have used it and that it is now time to dispose of it, and replace it with a new one. When you do this you can dispose of it in a respectful manner. For example, if you are going to throw it away, you do not simply open the trash can and throw it in. You wrap it up in something, like a bag or newspaper and dispose of it respectfully. Another method you can dispose of it is to recycle the object, if the material it is made from can be recycled. That way you are more conscious of the environment as well. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
  • April 16, 2017 22:38
    Curious asked: Dear pastors In a recent youtube video something like paying respect to deceased ones, pastor Nirel Patel explained that merits are like the interest and good karma is like the principal sum. So merits always regenerate themselves and hence do not get used up but good karma is like the principal sum so it gets used up. So my question is what are practices that generate merit? And can we turn a mundane daily activity into a meritorious one? Maybe can you provide an example?
    pastor answered: Dear Curious, Thank you for your question. First, to clarify a point, in regards to good karma, you are right, it is like a principal sum in a bank account, but you take away from it when you experience something good in your life, and you add to it when you do good deeds. Merit on the other hand, once accrued never diminishes, therefore when something is based on merit, it is based on the energies of this never diminishing sum, which you could say is like interest. In short, the principal sum when talking about karma is always added to and subtracted from. However, when talking about merit, once you have it, there is no way to destroy it, you will always benefit from it. There are various ways to explain how to generate merit. I will explain a way that I find easiest to understand. In normal life, when we go about performing any sort of activity, be it ‘good’ or ‘bad’ we do so out of ignorance of the true nature of existence, and it is usually self-motivated. For example, we work our entire lives to generate monetary income, so that we have enough money, resources, and materials goods to be comfortable. This is self-motivated, but it is the accepted way the world works these days, and is part and parcel of being bound to samsaric life. On the other hand, the act of merit making can be categorised into three parts: i) motivation, ii) the act itself, and iii) dedication. Let’s start with motivation, when engaging in various virtuous acts, we should have the motivation that by engaging in the act, we have the motivation to alleviate the suffering of someone else, and that may we gain enlightenment so that we can benefit them in the future. The second is the act itself. The third is to dedicate the energy of the virtuous act to gaining enlightenment. These three are what make merit. This may be a little confusing, so let me give an example: giving help to a homeless person. Whereas in ordinary life, this is something praised as a very good deed, it does not create merit without motivation and dedication. In order for this to become merit, one must set the motivation that one is giving help to the homeless free of the eight worldly concerns, to alleviate their suffering and also making the motivation that you will achieve enlightenment for the sake of the person or people you are helping. Then after you have helped them, you dedicate the energy created to the spiritual journey towards full enlightenment to help all sentient beings, while at the same time benefiting as many sentient beings as possible on the way there. This transforms the act into not only a virtuous action but also one that generates merit. On the other hand, if you were to help the homeless without these, you are creating good karma, which although beneficial, keeps you bound to existence within samsara. As it is the goal of Buddhist practice to overcome the cycle of samsara, a Buddhist would want to generate merit instead of good karma. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
  • April 13, 2017 11:38
    D.A. asked: If Begtse Chan is not from Mongolia, what are his real origins or story exactly? And which lamas offer his empowerment? As for Manjushri Nagarakshasa, which lamas specifically offer his empowerment and practice?
    pastor answered: Dear D.A. Thank you for your question. Begtse, is also known as Chamsing, or Jamsaran in Mongolian. As mentioned in an earlier sharing with someone who also asked a question about Begtse, the practiced was introduced to Tibet from India by the translator Nyen Lotsawa, and is considered one of the main protectors of the Hayagriva cycle of tantras. According to the scriptures that derive from the Sakya tradition, who incorporated the practice from the translators, and in which tradition Begtse became a very important protector, Begtse in a previous life was born many eons ago. In that particular life, he was born as the younger prince in a royal family. His name was Drag Gye, and his older brother’s name was Drag Den. Over time both princes developed differing religious beliefs, to the point where they could not get along with each as they both held their own religious views strongly. As was the custom during that time, they decided to settle their differences through logical debate, with the loser having to convert to the winner’s religion. This custom was also prevalent in ancient India, and there are many stories of such debates occurring between the great masters of the past and those of other faiths. Drag Gye lost the various debates, but ran away instead of converting to his older brother’s religion. Drag Den caught him, and tried to punish him for breaking the rules of debate and going back on his promise. Drag Gye told his brother that even if he was killed he would not give up his religion, however if Drag Den let him go, that in the future when Drag Den became enlightened, he would protect his teachings. With that Drag Den let him go, and gave him a set of copper armour, a stick, and a bow and arrow. Drag Den also gave Drag Gye a new name: Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po. After this incident the two brothers never saw each other again in that lifetime. Many lives after that Drag Den was reborn as Prince Siddharta, who eventually became enlightened and is now known as Buddha Shakyamuni. Drag Gye, or Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po, was reborn in a cemetery in the North West direction. His parents gave birth to two eggs, one was a coral-like colour and the other was an agate-like colour. These two eggs flew high into the sky and reached the heavenly realms, there they subdued the gods. Then flying back down to earth, they subdued many nagas. Eventually they even came to threaten their own parents. The parents petitioned the Dharma protector Ekajati for her help, who threw her own staff (khatvanga) at the eggs, and broke them apart. From the coral-like coloured egg came a ferocious man with yellow hair, he proclaimed that his name was ‘Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po’. When he emerged he was wearing a set of copper armour, wielding a stick, copper sword, and a bow and arrow. From the agate-like coloured egg came a female who was blue in colour, her teeth were like shells, she had turquoise eyebrows, and her hair was made of fire. She emerged wielding a copper knife, ritual dagger (phurba), rode a terrifying bear and wore an intricate necklace made of agate and lapis lazuli. It was then that Ekajati once again took action, and subdued them, after which they became Dharma protectors. The male figure became known as Begtse, and the female as his sister. When you propitiate Begtse, his sister is automatically included and aids practitioners as well. As for which lama offer his practice and empowerment, most lamas do not advertise which teachings or practice they hold. Therefore you should respectfully approach lamas and ask them if they have the practice and can bestow it, or if they know of any lamas that have the practice, depending on how much you want to practice Begtse. Similarly, this applies to those lamas who have the practice of Manjushri Nagarakshasa. However, this practice is included in the Rinjung Gyatsa series of empowerments. This unique cycle of teachings, includes all 4 classes of tantric practices, and includes the practice of Manjushri Nagarakshasa. Therefore those lamas who have received the complete transmission, and have kept their commitments for this practice, are qualified to pass this on to others. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
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Teacher Mien always encourage students to participate in class. Lin Mun KSDS
Appreciate all the great photographers who spend their time on Sunday dharma class to help us capture the nice moment. Lin Mun KSDS
13 hours ago
Appreciate all the great photographers who spend their time on Sunday dharma class to help us capture the nice moment. Lin Mun KSDS
Group activities during dharma class. The older students lead the younger ones. Good exercise to train their public speaking skills . Lin Mun KSDS
13 hours ago
Group activities during dharma class. The older students lead the younger ones. Good exercise to train their public speaking skills . Lin Mun KSDS
Looking Vegetarian Food?? Visit us at Kechara Oasis #travel #holiday #marriage #family ~ Guat Hee
20 hours ago
Looking Vegetarian Food?? Visit us at Kechara Oasis #travel #holiday #marriage #family ~ Guat Hee
We are at the 15th KL-PJ WEDDING FAIR from 28-30 April 2017, Mid Valley Exhibition Center. Come visit our booth for exciting promotions on vegetarian wedding banquets and registration of marriage services! ~ kecharaoasis.com ~ Guat Hee
20 hours ago
We are at the 15th KL-PJ WEDDING FAIR from 28-30 April 2017, Mid Valley Exhibition Center. Come visit our booth for exciting promotions on vegetarian wedding banquets and registration of marriage services! ~ kecharaoasis.com ~ Guat Hee
Pastor Gim Lee assisted by Kechara Puja Team, conducted a Dorje Shugden puja and blessings at a premise. Lucy Yap
2 days ago
Pastor Gim Lee assisted by Kechara Puja Team, conducted a Dorje Shugden puja and blessings at a premise. Lucy Yap
Art expression using chalks and papers is an avenue for young children to cultivate positive perspective of life and connect with their artistic or creative side. Stella, KSDS
4 days ago
Art expression using chalks and papers is an avenue for young children to cultivate positive perspective of life and connect with their artistic or creative side. Stella, KSDS
Children as long as 2 years old are ready to learn up skills and attitude that will help them shape their life. When else will be best to instil them with good Dharma values if not since young? Stella, KSDS
4 days ago
Children as long as 2 years old are ready to learn up skills and attitude that will help them shape their life. When else will be best to instil them with good Dharma values if not since young? Stella, KSDS
Senior students of the children class of Kechara Sunday Dharma School had their class in the ghompa every Sunday. Stella, KSDS
4 days ago
Senior students of the children class of Kechara Sunday Dharma School had their class in the ghompa every Sunday. Stella, KSDS
Besides young Karlson and Ern Ern, there are new faces in Kechara Sunday Dharma School 2-4 years old. Stella, KSDS
4 days ago
Besides young Karlson and Ern Ern, there are new faces in Kechara Sunday Dharma School 2-4 years old. Stella, KSDS
Kechara Sunday Dharma School students 5-6 years old making prostration to Lama Tsongkhapa at the beginning of the class every Sunday. Stella,KSDS
4 days ago
Kechara Sunday Dharma School students 5-6 years old making prostration to Lama Tsongkhapa at the beginning of the class every Sunday. Stella,KSDS
@KecharaHouse tonite, 48 puja attendees filled the air with a loud chorus of prayer n mantra 2 Dorje Shugden n Setrap!  PHNee
5 days ago
@KecharaHouse tonite, 48 puja attendees filled the air with a loud chorus of prayer n mantra 2 Dorje Shugden n Setrap! PHNee
A big Thank You to the kind volunteers and to Jace Chong!
5 days ago
A big Thank You to the kind volunteers and to Jace Chong!
Make your weekend meaningful! Contact Jace Chong to volunteer in Kechara Forest Retreat for the aviaries.
5 days ago
Make your weekend meaningful! Contact Jace Chong to volunteer in Kechara Forest Retreat for the aviaries.
Thank you to our young volunteer to improve the life of the birds in our aviary!
5 days ago
Thank you to our young volunteer to improve the life of the birds in our aviary!
English Level 2 Dharma Class, Pastor Han Nee started the Day 5 Lamrim, which is the Seven-Limbed Prayer with Homage and Prostration( 35 Confessional Buddha )  was extensively covered. -  Yew Seng
5 days ago
English Level 2 Dharma Class, Pastor Han Nee started the Day 5 Lamrim, which is the Seven-Limbed Prayer with Homage and Prostration( 35 Confessional Buddha ) was extensively covered. - Yew Seng
Sunday Dharma class kids learning to take refuge with teacher Alice. Lucy Yap
5 days ago
Sunday Dharma class kids learning to take refuge with teacher Alice. Lucy Yap
One of the outdoor activities for KSDS students is to exercise the drawing that near to the nature. Alice Tay, KSDS
7 days ago
One of the outdoor activities for KSDS students is to exercise the drawing that near to the nature. Alice Tay, KSDS
Teacher Jesvin explained the camp rules and regulations to the camper. Alice Tay, KSDS
7 days ago
Teacher Jesvin explained the camp rules and regulations to the camper. Alice Tay, KSDS
KSDS teachers and the young participants of WOAH  Camp played & have fun together for this game, Self defense and attack. Alice Tay, KSDS
7 days ago
KSDS teachers and the young participants of WOAH Camp played & have fun together for this game, Self defense and attack. Alice Tay, KSDS
The younger group of KSDS were happy because they're given chance to feel,touch and play the slime. Alice Tay, KSDS
7 days ago
The younger group of KSDS were happy because they're given chance to feel,touch and play the slime. Alice Tay, KSDS
Teacher Laura guided the students do meditation. Alice Tay, KSDS
7 days ago
Teacher Laura guided the students do meditation. Alice Tay, KSDS
Day break at Kechara Forest Retreat! Sunrise meditation during Inner Reflection Retreat, April 2017
1 week ago
Day break at Kechara Forest Retreat! Sunrise meditation during Inner Reflection Retreat, April 2017
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