When it’s gone, we still have the desire

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The other night I was with Paris, David and a few others and I gave them a talk on how when we have something now, we don’t have it later, but the imprints to desire for it are still there creating alot of trouble for us continuously. How does that work? What are the karmic mechanics behind it? Why is it like that?? Well I gave the explanation then asked Paris and David to write it out on their blog so I don’t have to write it..heheehe..

So Paris did. I read through it and she has captured the essence and meaning of my talk VERY WELL. Everyone has to please read it…it will help you.. Read what I explained for the few of them present with me..I get in moods to explain things and this was one of them..Paris captured it brilliantly with her delicious writing.

Please let me know what you understood from this. Name the main point I am making and give your own example of how you understood it please. You want to learn dharma and life, well here’s another opportunity!!

Tsem Rinpoche

 


 

From Paris’ blog:

As far as desire goes, I think most of us are quite full of it – we run on it, like gas. It’s what fuels us to do what we do, good, bad, ugly and all the in betweens. Buddhist scriptures describe us as existing in a desire realm – we are born as a result of desire and then we live our whole lives in desire, clamouring clamouring after things we think we love, we must have, we cannot exist without.

Now here’s the tricky thing. Desire isn’t just a pair of Calvin Klein jeans, or a new shiny bottle of perfume; it isn’t necessarily anything sexual or about wanting-needing-having relationships. It isn’t just about the desire for physical things, things you can touch or taste or see. Please continue here
 

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  1. Vinnie Tan on Aug 21, 2013 at 4:20 pm

    It is very true that desires would lead us no where in the future. We will just be driven by them, in the end, we would not experience any happiness or get anything from it at all. It is just sad to see things going on like this. It is a constant pointless chase of “happiness” that we will never be able to get no matter how many times our desires are met.

  2. Wah Ying on Aug 18, 2012 at 1:32 am

    What I understand from this article written by Jamie is we should shift from preserving something not permanent or belonged to us (body, look, money, children, house etc) to something will follow us from life to life.

    Main points from the post are:
    *We exist in a desire realm, we are the product of desire and live in desire.

    *Desire can be something physical or intangible. Whether you are materialistic or simple, quiet or loud, introvert or extrovert, you still have the desire. Desire can be in aggressive form (to have things done our way) or passive for (longing for comfort).

    *Reincarnation is not only about past and future lives, but also what we’re doing right here right now.

    *We all have our wanting, things we hang on or attached to. Things we have/get this life (beauty, money etc) are not inherited when we take birth next life. But our attitudes, tendencies and habits arise from our mind are still there. We suffer when gap appears between who you were vs how you lived then; who you are vs how you’re living now.

    *The only thing we take with us from life to life is our mind. So better spend time & effort to strengthen, improve & develop our mind; to get a more open and strong mind.

    This post makes me think of seeing my ageing face, body and comfort I have; I definitely want to maintain them, even now I am in Dharma, but lucky if I am not in Dharma sure I will stupidity pour in time and effort to maintain them but without seeing much result…I am happy I have save money, time and effort not chasing something that will disappear anytime.

    And, I understand also, wanting comfort, to have a simple life (vs to earning big money, driving big car and stay in big big house), is also a desire…haha. Knock me at my head and realize it’s so much true.

  3. Sheryl KH (JB) on Jun 27, 2012 at 10:33 pm

    This is a great teaching, for I learn that from one lifetime to another, what is contained in our minds – our attitudes, feelings, tendencies and habits stick with us.

    It takes time to develop good qualities, but it is rewarding to know that once these qualities are developed, they follow us from one life time to another and gradually we can become better person.

  4. Sam on May 22, 2012 at 12:10 am

    I must say thank you to Jamie for putting Rinpoche’s teaching into such comprehensive article. I enjoy the article a lot. I must say that everything changes and at the same time nothing changes. Nothing is permanent and everything is an illusion. What i own this moment, will eventually change in the very next moment.And sad to say that, everyone of us live with desires wanting this and that due to attachment. There is a phrase that i always remember, when you were born to this earth, you were crying and you bring nothing to the world. When you died, you also cant bring anything with you. No matter how wealthy you are, how pretty you are, how much fame you have…its a bye bye to all of this coz the coffin is just too small to fit all these…

    I like the phrase “Love the things you have and the person you are but forgoodnessakes don’t make it your entire mode of being. Having said that, live free this weekend. Loosen the strings you’ve tied on your attachments, just a little so you can breathe better.And then feel for a moment what it’s like to own nothing – but to live with the possibility of having doing living everything in the world”. Let go, forgive, transform and change because time is running out.

    Thank you Rinpoche for your teaching. Thank you Jamie for putting this up for all of us. Take good care 🙂

  5. James Long on May 21, 2012 at 4:50 pm

    我们还是可以拥有车、生意、孩子等等。可是不要执著在“这永远是我的”。

    我们现在所用的任何一物都是前人留下给我们的,我们的屋瓦砖块或许还包含我们祖先的遗体!毕竟尘归尘土归土。我们带不走什么,只有我们的善恶业。

  6. ECheah on May 21, 2012 at 12:14 am

    What keeps popping up is this message that everything we’re going about in this secular life is a whole waste of time. Nothing of it matters anymore at the point of death except if it was for the development of our mind. Whatever we usually cultivate, relationships, wealth, “talents”, degrees, careers, are a total waste of time. Whatever short lives we have left should be used to cultivate what matters most, our future lives. We came alone and will leave alone. So ideally, it might be better not to chase after any of these. The fact that we are doing so is because of our desire and attachment to them. It’s difficult when you want them and have to give them up. But it would be easy when we developed to a point when we don’t want any of them anymore. Then “renunciation” is a state of being and you didn’t have to give anything up. The focus is elsewhere.

  7. Diana Pereyda on May 18, 2012 at 6:54 am

    being female, my desire is basically to take of my family, close friend, and husband. However, i am learning not to kid myself. That my family is not there to take of me, entertain, or even be there in need. At this point, i want to take care of beings, be entertaining if possible!! and be there in need for them. Its sad that you learn all this at such a late stage.

  8. Terri on May 18, 2012 at 3:35 am

    i like the shirt!!!!

  9. Datuk May on May 17, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    As I grow older, I began to think that I have no more desires. What a delusion, although I have gotten what I want in life, it is all materialistic. With age my desires get to be less tangible and even I begin not to recognize them.

    With understanding of Dharma with Rinpoche’s teachings I begin to acknowledge what I want and desire now.

    For now I desire calmness of my mind, inner peace, acceptance of what I see as being not up to standard. Imagine, when such desires are unfulfilled what happens to my mind and on my death, I guarantee I will come back an angry ghost.

    So I question myself and reflect how to live for these desires and be ok with them. I am practising to experience my desires a 100%(pleasant or unpleasant) communicate my experiences and then let go.

    Will I be ready for a better rebirth and have less negative imprints in next life? I am working on this hard, hard work will have good results and may I succeed.

  10. Jeffrey Yee on May 17, 2012 at 2:58 am

    What a clear explanation about desires and attachment. I agree that many people do not believe in the existence of karma and reincarnation, thus they try so hard to satisfy their desires that does not matter one bit when their time is up.

    Your explanation on how beauty goes away in time gives me a very good picture about impermanence. I believe most people can relate and benefit from it after reading your post. Thanks for the great write up Jamie

  11. Koh Hee Peng on May 16, 2012 at 11:19 pm

    The best way to give up our attachments to physical things is to give them away, by offering them to our Guru, Buddha, or those people who need them more than us 😀

    The best way to give up the desire in a passive introvert – for comfort, for quietness, for preserving our precious reputations, is none other than challenging ourselves to becoming the opposite, with the motivation of benefiting others.

    By putting others before us, we are letting go of our desire, our attachments.

    Dear Rinpoche and Jamie, thank you for sharing the wonderful teachings with us. Thank you very much 😀

  12. Uncle Eddie on May 16, 2012 at 3:37 pm

    Yes, life is stressful and the cause of this stress is craving. The Buddha taught that this craving grows from ignorance of the self – because we go through life grabbing one thing after another to ease our stress. We are attached not only to physical things, but also to ideas and opinions about ourselves and the world around us. Physical things can be lost and we get frustrated, when life doesn’t conform to needs and opinions, we get disheartened. By our practice, we can realise the true nature of self and other, and put an end to craving. It is said that the truth of Buddha’s teachings must be intimately experienced and realised for oneself, as Buddhism is more a discipline than a belief system. People go through life running toward what they desire and away from what they dislike. As a matter of fact, we’re being jerked around by attraction and aversion. Our culture tells us that its good to acquire things like material possession and fame,so there’s nothing wrong with desiring and pursuing them. But the moment when we acquire them, we dont stay happy for long before we start chasing something else. Whatever we think will make us happy can also make us miserable. Realising non-attachment is not easy. Ironically, its a practice that requires giving up ideas about goals and rewards, or escaping to a better place, but the better idea is to stay put and practice deligently on how to rid ourselves of such negavities. Realising this is non-attachment!

  13. andrew hibberd on May 15, 2012 at 6:33 pm

    here is my lesson on desire nearly every night my sons five of them at least one come to me and say daddy can you come outside and help me let this lizard moth bug go so they can fly one day again

  14. lucy yap on May 15, 2012 at 3:03 pm

    An excellent Dharma writer you are,Jamie!To let go of attachments lifts a tremendous burden on oneself.Life is happier and more pleasant.I have many attachments too and am working on it.
    Rinpoche’s teachings have helped me to realised a different view on life,impermanence and death itself.
    Thank you my kind Rinpoche for reminding us not to be trapped in our deluded mind.

  15. MayOng on May 15, 2012 at 2:08 pm

    I desire for anything that brings forth positivity and spend more time and effort on the effects and results it can and will bring.

    Then the balance will be left to indulge in some “negative” samsaric normal pleasures of life.

  16. sweekeong on May 15, 2012 at 12:48 pm

    Whatever I desire I spend a lot of time, effort, and money to have it. But it never last long, the euphoria of owning something of having something will go away after I have acquired. Then I see someone has the latest cool stuff, I think I want it for myself as well. The cycle repeats. I desire it for myself.

    From the article another form of desire is inner at peace desire, I do not want to do anything, I do not want to be involved, so I become peaceful. A fake peace of existence, a passive desire, as Jamie put it. It is the fear of rejection of not being accepted.

    On another note to have a lot of friends because the desire to be validated by others, which cannot stand loneliness and desire to have companionship. Therefore most of thoughts of myself is mostly operated from desire for something or avoidance of something. Thank you Jamie sharing a deeply meaningful on desire to us all. 🙂

  17. Julia Tan on May 15, 2012 at 3:19 am

    My lovely Jamie, at this hour normally my brain already shut down, and my fingers are on my iPad but not typing anymore cause my eyes already closed. Hehehe.. But after reading your blog sharing about Rinpoche’s beautiful teaching I’m now all awake and I wanted to write something about it. 

    Since I was born.. I am getting what I want using what was born into. Alright alright .. I fail for my marriage but I’m glad I did if not I would not have the chance or the freedom i must say to do what I’m doing now.

    I walked into the kitchen when I turned 39! I am experiencing what you had just said in Rinpoche’s teaching,  It has helped me understand what I’m going through now. 

    The kitchen is hot and I’m sweating like a pig everyday. Cutting garlic and onion made my fingers smelly, washing and cleaning made my hands dry! My face and hair are oily and sticky all the time! 

    I am so sorry everyone.. I am truly not who you think I am. I am a totally kitchen idiot who is still struggling to remember all the vegetables’ names! And you know some food their names are soooo long.. 

    I am letting go the life style that I’ve been living into for ages into a new environment. What pushes me to go on is my wish of being able to serve my guru. Everyday I tell myself I can do better.

    Thank you Rinpoche for giving me the opportunity to put Rinpoche’s teaching into action! To learn how to let go of who I am! When I pass the test, I can be who I am whenever I want to. Yay!!

    I like what you said:

    It’s like being given a beautiful fur coat while you’re living in Alaska. You love it for its warmth, comfort and protection from the cold and do everything you can to preserve it. Then, you migrate to across the world to a place like damnbloodyhot Malaysia. That very same thing you Loved Cherished Preserved becomes something that creates discomfort, suffering, aversion.

    WISH ME LUCK! 

         

  18. Li Kim on May 15, 2012 at 2:17 am

    This is one topic which hits close to the heart for me… I AM the Poster Child for Desires. Jamie and I are true sisters from this realm of desires, if I may say so.

    I have always had everything I ever wanted – shoes, clothes, money, opportunities, friends and yes, men too… But I was never satisfied. The happiness I had was temporary, and I always ended up wondering. I always wanted more – more shoes, more friends, more this and more that… Before I got married, I even collected boyfriends like how someone would collect stamps. Unfortunately, boyfriends unlike stamps do not appreciate with time. Yes, I was no angel and I dare not say I am now.

    Meeting Rinpoche and learning the Dharma from him has made me see and realize what I am and how my desires dictated who I am. I was what I wore…very shallow indeed. One teaching Rinpoche gave me which stuck like glue was that today with dharma, I can be whoever I am but the icing on the cake of my personality is Dharma – wanting to serve others through sharing myself and my knowledge of the Dharma.

    I would like to say dramatically that Dharma and Rinpoche saved my life BUT in honesty, Rinpoche and Dharma saved WHO I am and can be, and it is this person who will save my life. This life and I hope many next lives.

    Do I still have desires? YES I DO but does it dictate who I am and what I can do… NO. I now realize that what I want is really not that important. And more importantly, if I do not get it, LIFE goes on. So, I better focus on making my life better and not indulge in the fancy desires I have.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this teaching and to Jamie for ever so beautifully writing it up. Thank you for saving ME.

  19. Christine Wang on May 15, 2012 at 1:23 am

    What I have learned is that the desire we have in this lifetime is the imprint of past lives. We always say people are born with different characters , you can even see a baby’s character. Who we are now and our desires are just an accumulation from many lifetimes. Can there be “good” desires? For example, the desire to help others. And then there are “bad” desires, like the desire for fame and beauty, which are not permanent. I should learn to keep the “good” desires and tame the “bad” ones in this lifetime. Just like some character traits that we grew up with, we only realise which ones we should keep when we grow older and wiser. But there are some traits that we wish we were not born with but can’t change because the imprint is so deep that bad habits keep repeating themselves even though we don’t like them. I ask myself why I was born with these bad character traits. I want to “wake up” in the next life without asking the same question again and again. But if I don’t work on the bad qualities NOW, I will “wake up” in the next life asking the same question again.

    I desire to be recognised as a smart person. I have the desire to be beautiful and have beautiful things around me. But with Dharma, I now realise that so many things that people keep saying you must have in life are not that important.

    I still have my desires but I’m aware that the “desires” I have are not that important but which I still can’t give up. I hope this awareness will keep me going in this life and be a better person than my last life. In doing so, I hope this will create the cause for me to become a better person in my next life and so this awareness will become stronger with every lifetime to come.

    Christine Wang in Shanghai

  20. su an on May 15, 2012 at 12:34 am

    Jamie Paris thank you so much for remembering and sharing Rinpoche’s precious teachings to us, written so humorously and understandable for us.

    Some of the points i learned from your post is that desire is so sneaky! And one of the key antidote to conquering desire is… to remember that death is just a breath away. And that whatever we have been trying to hoard to make us happy in this life, does not carry forward like an asset account balance. So what’s the point of letting desire control our lives and be miserable in this life to maintain our desirous lifestyle?

    And the great thing about this teaching is.. you don’t have to be a Buddhist for it to “work”! Really, it applies whether we believe in Buddha or not.

  21. KYC on May 15, 2012 at 12:32 am

    The main points of the teaching have been outlined by Tat Ming. I remember once Rinpoche said that ignorance is the cause of suffering but desire is the fuel. The teaching is about not being attached to things that are impermanent and to develop our mind to overcome the endless suffering of cyclic existence.

  22. Sean Pang on May 14, 2012 at 11:48 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for this lesson, and thank you, Ms Paris, for an entertaining and very informative write-up. And to all the lucky ones who were there when Rinpoche was in the mood to explain things… you’re SO lucky…

    It’s true that desires come in all shapes and sizes and can take over a weak will silently, disguised in the most innocent form. Desire doesn’t only come in the form of an Aston Martin DB7 (I wonder who on earth would desire this subtly gorgeous “please bring me home” car…), it comes in a bowl of laksa, it comes as an appreciative glance from a stranger when you put on your best suit, it’s the ultimate ninja! But it’s much easier to remember the “big” desires, like beauty, a great paying job and that amazingly crafted Aston Martin, and consciously tell ourselves that it’s a bad, bad thing to NEED these things. It’s the “little” desires which are much harder to watch out for, because these are fleeting desires that come and go in a flash. You don’t even know when you’ve been sucker-punched. Then when their gone, they’re forgotten. But the fact remains that we have DESIRED something. When something like this happens so fast, how can we work on it? That’s the thing, we have to start somewhere else.

    There is a difference between WANT and NEED. Desires are based on needs but we don’t really need anything except for the most basic things to keep us alive. So is wanting something better? I suppose that depends on the motivation. If I WANT an Aston Martin (no, no, I don’t really WANT an Aston Martin… really…) because I WANT to look cool, then I NEED the attention and adoration from others, and if I lose the car, I lose face. Boing! Zero marks! But if I WANT an Aston Martin simply because I think it’s a good car and if I lose the car, I lose a car, then I would have had no attachment to the car and still have enjoyed having had the car! Isn’t it such a relief knowing that you can have something without fear? No fear of losing something also means no fear of not having it in the first place, so having something without desire or attachment is a bonus!

    Easier said than done though. Even with the most noble thoughts and motivations, we can easily slip and give in to a subconscious desire. I’m not rich but I’m committed to doing Dharma work. I want more because I want to do more good and I know I can do much more (Rinpoche said I’m greedy: yes, dear Rinpoche, you’re right, I AM greedy!) but I’m still susceptible to day-dreaming about that Aston Martin. Do I need an Aston Martin to do Dharma work? No. So what is it for? I have a million damn good reasons why an Aston Martin is good for Dharma work – and some of them may even be true! – but the simple truth is that I DESIRE that vroom vroom. By no means do I waste my time pining for it but every time I see one on a magazine or on the street, there’s that ever-so-slight skip of the heartbeat…

    We were born with nothing and when we die, we bring nothing with us. Whatever we may come to have, we should put it to good use and not let it serve as our prison. Whatever we see that we may not have, leave it where it is and not let it serve as our prison. Only then can we be free.

    Much to learn. Much more to work on. But I take PLEASURE in learning and working on my own development: with NO DESIRE!! 🙂

    Sean Pang in Shanghai

  23. Sock Wan on May 14, 2012 at 10:13 pm

    Thank you Jamie for blogging it and sharing the teaching with us. It is our desire that creates attachment. We thought our attachments are going to to bring us happiness when in reality attachments bring us sufferings.

    We work on the basis of ‘ME’, what ‘I WANT’ and what ‘I NEED’. We want money, we want career, we want a relationship, we want recognition, we think we will be happy getting what we want. Then we have stress, we are sick, we become depress, we have to watch our back, we have less time, we are unhappy, then we die. When we die, we lose everything we used to have, but our mind does not cease its existence, it takes rebirth. With an unhappy mind, we continue with another unhappy life.

    Now, what Jamie explains here completely makes sense to me. Lot’s of my attachments do not bring me to a happier life. By letting go of ‘Me’, ‘Myself’ and ‘I’, I am happier each day. Now, not having attachment does not mean we refuse to have or not to have something. It simply means if we have it, it’s ok. If we don’t have it, we will still be ok!

    • andrew hibberd on May 15, 2012 at 6:38 pm

      my conclusion is we are just as happy with little as a lot each one of us humans has to decide the complex difference in our own minds today there are 7.5 billion of us by my reckoning sensus will tell us 7.1 and within fifty years we will be 11 billion people and in or wake thousands of precious species will leave our present life stored only in genetical dna profile in a lab somehwere , love it like it is sure love it like it will become sure

  24. Louise Lee on May 14, 2012 at 9:27 pm

    拥有与占有,只是一线之差!欲望让我们争取 ! 但是过分, 就很强求,甚至会让人难堪!

    从小就习惯不可以有太强的欲望,因为爸爸又两个家!我们两家人都可以和睦相处 , 就是因为爸爸会做人!我们也很明白事理!

    拥有,不代表可以持续! 我们要学会珍惜当下!失去了, 也不是什么大不了!

    这是我过去的经验, 谢谢大家!!

  25. Su Ming on May 14, 2012 at 9:24 pm

    Ethan,

    It is so true, everyone whom i have come across always asked me about Dharma ie MUST YOU GIVE UP smoking, drinking, clubing, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, eating & etc. My typical answer is “HELLO, do you think I have given up on all those?” After a few moments of silence and staring at me, then they come to their own conclusion, NO CHUAH SU MING has not given up on any of those.

    I am very fortunate to have A LOT of moments Rinpoche has given me teachings/advices & etc directly. One of the pivotal teaching which made me contemplate really hard was on “losing one’s identity”. And the main purpose is for us to succeed in whatever we are doing. That teaching really blew my mind.

    We are so fixated with our own identity ie : Chuah Su Ming is fun, loving, soft, impulsive, slow & etc. Once we are fix on what we can do and cannot do, we set our own perimeters thus it affects the results we want to achieve. For whatever reason, we are failing is because we are attached to what we can do and cannot do. BUT once we have let go of that, we are able to fly and succeed in what we thought we cannot achieve. And that for me makes me want to do more.

    Yes, I have not given up on some of my attachments till today but I have started to let go of the expectation of what my attachment should give me. I am loving every moment of it cause you are in control.

  26. Lim Han Nee on May 14, 2012 at 5:30 pm

    Desire(what Kahlil Gibran describes as “life’s longing for itself”) is what causes us to be reborn again and again in this Desire Realm of existence.

    The scary part is that one makes the pursuit of the objects of one’s desire the central focus of this life -one’s life revolves around these objects of desire which are impermanent. Suffering comes when change sets in and that which makes us desire a particular object is no longer present.

    Worse suffering (suffering of the most unimaginable degree) sets in when we die with a mind that is still grasping at the objects of our desire. Then we are reborn in a place where the scenario drastically changes.”Everything that was important and central to (us) before is no longer there”. Unfortunately, we still bring the same grasping mind, same negative attitudes,same negative habits, same negative tendencies, to a new rebirth, where things are the entire opposite of what we had experienced in a previous life.This huge gap or difference is what will cause unimaginable suffering.

    The only thing that travels consistently across lifetimes is our mind. We can’t carry anything else we have in this life over to another one.This mind that travels across lifetimes carries imprints of all our negative actions and negative habituations , attitudes and tendencies.

    Hence, in order to avoid suffering, we need to work on our desirous attachments that give rise to all our negativities in our mindstream. Let go of them,loosen them starting from NOW, if we haven’t already done so.

    Desire for me is more of the subtle kind, desire to remain in my comfort zone and to have things done my way. So I must constantly whittle at these if I am to ultimately find peace and freedom from suffering.

  27. henry ooi on May 14, 2012 at 5:23 pm

    I have similar mind and physical attachments like the vast majority of people on this planet.

    The GRASPING of some ATTACHMENTS are so strong that I CLING on to them like dear life because I thought they make me feel good. Like a sense of achievement, gratification, etc. But these DO NOT LAST forever. When the so called euphoria is over, I search for the high AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN. These WANTONS and NEEDS HABITUATE my mind and body over the years and it is so hard to re habituate them into positive energies. But I STILL plod on…..

    I count myself, among others, very fortunate to have met Rinpoche, for whom without, I would not be in DHARMA.
    Rinpoche is continuously teaching us to contemplate on DEATH, playing the process of death over and over again in our mind. Like looking at my corpse, like some people described as out of body experience, laying in the coffin in those wakes that I have been to, going through the funeral rites, being pushed into the incinerator with my corpse inside the coffin and imagining the searing heat melting my rotting flesh (of course I would not feel it then but if I cannot withstand the pain of my finger being burned when I am alive then the heat intensity in the incinerator must be thousands of times more unbearable,. This, I imagine, to have a comparison), and then my loved ones collecting my bones and ashes to be strewn out in the sea/river.

    Yes, it sounds kinda morbid but the stark truth is that one day I WILL be really going through it.

    What I am saying here is dharma is so profoundly delivered by Rinpoche with examples so that I and others could comprehend. But understanding is one thing, PRACTICING is experiential. Rinpoche is continuously reminding us of letting go because at the time of death, we may not then.

  28. Mc on May 14, 2012 at 5:22 pm

    There is a very important and powerful lesson and Jamie’s write-up superbly captures the crux of the teaching and expresses it in simple terms.

    Human beings are so driven by desire but we hardly recognize it and it comes across so natural and instinctive. I find it helpful that Jamie pointed out that desire is not always expressed in raw and tangible displays of wanting, but can also be as subtle as a benign need to be accepted and loved.

    To be able to cast light onto those invisible things that drive our thoughts and decisions, to be presented with methods to check if these things are good or bad for us, and then to be taught ways to look at these desires differently, is very liberating. In the past, “happiness” was being able to fulfill a particular desire and it is the ability to fulfill things that are of no real importance that drives us deeper into our mistaken views.

    I like what Jamie said, “what i want ,I also get” and our entire live is trained on GETTING, instead of letting go.

    What is taught here is so logical but we would not have gotten it until it is spelled out for us. How remarkably ignorant we are.

    • Martin on Dec 27, 2012 at 5:13 am

      Come to think of it, getting everything or even most of what we want and desire in this life may not be such a good thing after all. Not only is all that wanting and having futile because eventually we have to let everything go when we die, but our minds carry forward that wanting AND expecting into our next life and the odds are, that is when we will suffer because the desire will still be there but the conditions of fulfillment probably won’t. And hence the unfulfilled expectations become a longing that expresses itself in many different ways. As I am writing this I am also checking all the things I long for and most are intangibles. Where do they come from? It is not as if one day in the past I came across a shop that sold “Acceptance” and I thought I wanted that and have longed for it ever since. It is the desires I developed from previous lives that came with tragic expectations of having all my desires fulfilled. This is what is causing the pain and discomfort…and I am doing it again in this life! The sense of longing can become acute over time as the sense of being unfulfilled builds up and we start to behave out of an unidentified and unending need.

      It is not like we should go through life without any desire. That would be boring but it certainly helps to give pause to urge that can be overwhelming until you shine light on it and recall what it actually is and where it comes from.

      Wouldn’t it be the greatest thing if we could channel all that desperate energy into a desire to do something good with our lives, something that could benefit others per the Dharma. That would be a great desire to carry forward to our future lives.

      I am glad I revisited this post and Jamie, after reading what you wrote 20 times, it is still good! I guess the truth is the only thing that doesn’t age or expire.

  29. Joe Ang on May 14, 2012 at 4:06 pm

    Dear Jamie,
    thank you for this wonderful article written about desire. The word desire, is far more profound than just wanting things… money, status, sex, sports car, a mansion and the list goes on and on. Some people might think, I’m ok, as I do not crave for all these (a few things listed above).

    But (taken from your article above), desire could manifest as a silent but overwhelming need for acceptance, or to be left alone, to do nothing, to have things done only the way *I* want things to be done. The desire in a passive introvert – for comfort, for quietness, for preserving our precious reputations – could well be as strong as it is in an extrovert.

    If only people realize, at the time of death, none of the material things we chased after and try so freakin hard to preserve really matters. Even our body which may be beautiful now, in 10, 20, 30 years will be crumpled and wrinkly…
    So, what matters and will be with us even after death, is our MIND. A tenant that lives temporarily in this body. A body that is deteriorating every second and eventually rot whether we like it or not.

  30. patsy on May 14, 2012 at 3:33 pm

    Thank you, Jamie, for this write up. This is a meaningful and profound teachings but you presented it in a fun, interesting way to read and digest.

    Desire and attachments are my worst enemies and for the past years I have tried to lessen them. It is not easy but knowing that the results will be beneficial in the long run, I will put my effort into letting go of my attachments.

    Contemplation on death and impermenance can wake us to realize that everything we chased, craved or desired for in this life will be taken away at the time of death. We take nothing except our imprints and our karma which will follow us wherever we go. If we do not transform and change our habituation of self grasping, we will suffer even more in our future rebirths as our self grasping will be ingrained much more deeper. I am so glad that we have met Rinpoche who has taught us so much dharma. Without his kindness, we will still be trapped in our self-cherishing mind.

    Well I still love all things nice but that doesn’t mean that I will chase after them. There’s more to life now than just self indulgence.

  31. KH Ng on May 14, 2012 at 12:24 pm

    Jamie captured the meaning of the teaching very well especially for the world at large. I like the takeaway summary;

    “Love the things you have and the person you are but forgoodnessakes don’t make it your entire mode of being.”

    Also, the desires that we have this life is mostly from the habits that we had in our past life. Jamie’s version is more romantic but the truth is that not many has such “privilege” past life. Most of our past life habituations are most ordinary yet as negative and as deluded as her examples. We may lived the same type of lives as this one in an unending cycle and if we do not take the opportunity to practice in this life, it will be worst.

    • pastor ngeow on Jun 24, 2012 at 9:47 pm

      yes KH, the essence of Buddha’s middle way wisdom is to avoid extremes. It is not about giving up the necessities of life , including sense pleasures otherwise we can’t function as an unimpaired human with full sense faculties.We should not be obsessed with worldly things and devote our whole life in pursuit of them , with no space for spiritual development.Rehabituation , change becomes impossible.

  32. Wendy Loh on May 14, 2012 at 12:07 pm

    Thank you, Jamie for a writing such a “fun and easy” article on Dharma. I am sure many people can relate to it. Ultimately, we are all programmed to function and play in a dualistic existence, meaning things are either right or wrong, beautiful and ugly, rich or poor and bright or dark. Our mind is wired to perceive the external environment this way since birth and perhaps since the beginning of time and civilization. Desires…oh… very yummy…will always pull us to either side of the yardstick. We either go to the left or right, go up or down etc. The thing is, like Lord Shakyamuni Buddha himself, we gotta release the yardstick of duality and transcend even the middle path because there is only a mid-point when there are two extreme ends, no? Just something to think about. 🙂 Cheers!

  33. Deborah on May 14, 2012 at 10:23 am

    i think the lesson is that what we crave will never satisfy us and that’s why no matter how much we have we’re never really happy inside. so life has to be more than Me, Myself & I. The change is not an easy road but we have to start somewhere.

  34. Jay Jae on May 14, 2012 at 9:27 am

    In the Buddhist scriptures we’re always told that the root cause for us to be involved in this cyclic existence is out attachment to things, people, feelings, situations, trauma etc. Buddha of course had it simple in a one-liner which I had a tough time understanding where it came from and what he really meant.

    We can’t get away with being without our favourite stuff, loved ones etc. The effort we’ve put into getting them is already a production by itself. If we have the karma to get it and our desires and attachment towards it doesn’t blow up any bigger, chances are, we can be well sedated with a dose of contentment. More often we’re propelled to want more, get more and the entire production of getting it will go on and on and on……

    I like adapting the new idea of keeping what we have and not to over react to it to achieve a healthy state of mind. We won’t wanna find ourselves in a mental hospital over a 24 karat diamond, would we? Likewise we won’t like to find ourselves being reborn in an animal realm from over repulsiveness of our attachment over a comfortable pair of pig-skin shoes!

  35. Irene Lim on May 14, 2012 at 9:00 am

    Jamie, you an excellent Dharma writer. You captured the essence of Rinpoche’s teachng and conveyed in your stylish manner to suit sophisticated people in this era. You are a shining gem in the making.

  36. Vincent Cheng on May 14, 2012 at 3:36 am

    Aim for #1 and get all the rest. I desire the highest. I desire Enlightenment.

  37. David Loh on May 14, 2012 at 2:42 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for opening our thick skulls and sturborn minds. As always it’s presented most excellently by Paris.

    I’m a ‘desire’ being of the highest degree. I have wants and needs if put into writing would probably contain more pages than our Lamrin book. Still learning to let go of feeble attachments that initially I thought would lead to my ultimate happiness in life. I have to constantly remind myself that life is uncertain but death is. As we can’t turn back time, the only thing we can do now is to let go, let loose and stress less because when the cravings stop the disappointments will too.

    We are all so attacheded to our youth, our good looks (applies to some), wealth, title, beautiful wife or handsome husband etc etc. Growing old, plastic surgery disasters, losing money, business fails, losing trust and title, wife running away or husband vise versa; happens to many. What happens next? Are we prepared for such change? We shouldn’t give a damn about all these when we are in Dharma but, we are still unknowingly so caught up with feeling good during whatever remaining time in this miserable existence of ours.

    I just hope that when my time is up, I would have done ‘enough’ to at least secure a good rebirth. Achieving enlightenment would be a sure plus plus though! Or at least be good enough to sweep floors for Buddha in Tushita. Hahahha.

    Will start pondering on the eight worldy concerns, make notes and ‘strike’ out as I progress in life. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing and Jamie for putting this in writing.

  38. Sharon Saw on May 14, 2012 at 1:39 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for this teaching and to Jamie for her brilliant sharing in her inimitable style (yes you’re the best writer i know)… this teaching underlines what Rinpoche has always taught:

    1. Everything is impermanent.
    2. We cannot take anything with us to our next life except our state of mind. Thus whatever we are attached to in this life will mean nought in the next.
    3. Everyone operates from desire because this is the strongest affliction of this era.
    4. Desire and attachments bring suffering, not the objects in themselves, because we suffer when we do not have what we desire.

    The key of the teaching is that whatever we are attached to in this life will not serve us in the next life because in our next life, we may not have the karma to have whatever we have in this life.

    For those who do not believe in the next life, despite so many documentaries which have pretty much proven it such as in the video Rinpoche referred to, we can look at our attachments in this life and how they do not bring us long lasting happiness.

    Personally, I realised the futility of desire a few years ago, when i used to hanker after the Porsche 911 (the model of that time) then a few years later, when i looked at that same model, i realised that i did not like it anymore because it was an old model by then, and instead, i liked (and wanted to have) the new model. Then I realised that if i had this new model, in a few years i would not want it anymore because a newer model would be out and i would want that.. and so the cycle would continue with the a desire which would never be satisfied. Any satisfaction of that desire would be only temporary (very). From this very superficial ‘want’, i realised that all desire was impermanent. Whatever material item that we seek for “happiness” is illusory thus the happiness is fleeting.

    Attachments are not just to material things though – attachments to our opinions, our presumptions and assumptions, attachments to our attitudes, our self perceptions are equally illusory and equally damaging. Especially to ourselves. We often enshrine our own qualities as if they are the 6 perfections. I used to be very bad tempered… and i would tell proudly my partners, i am like this, take it or leave it. Then after learning dharma, i realised that why do i want to be like “this” if “this” is not a good quality. So i changed. Ok, so the temper still resurfaces now and then (but don’t tell anyone), but it’s a work in progress. And that is why i love Dharma. Dharma, as taught by Rinpoche, teaches us that we are in control of our lives… if we are sick of suffering, these are the roots of our suffering… and how to cut it. Desire is one of the 3 root delusions – the other two being ignorance and anger (read Rinpoche’s teaching on this in the brilliant book, “Snakes, Roosters, Pigs” http://vajrasecrets.com/books/english-books/snakes-roosters-and-pigs.html).

    Thank you Rinpoche for the valuable reminder of how deluded desires are our biggest obstacle to real, permanent and true happiness.

  39. lewkwanleng on May 14, 2012 at 12:59 am

    This topic is reincarnation and attachment are the basics of Buddhism, but the teachings are indeed profound. I hope I get it right. What stand out for me are:

    1. There is no point talking reincarnation if we only care whether we remember our past lives. Accepting reincarnation has the important impact of NOW and FUTURE.

    2. The only thing we bring with us into another life is our mind stream, behavior, attitudes, tendencies and habits. Not wealth, clothing, cars, houses, etc. Therefore, it only make sense to train and accumulate positive qualities for our mind; not our wealth, etc.

    3. I have always thought of attachments as something BIG and MATERIAL. What I realize now, is that those not-so-obvious such as attachment to comfort zone, laziness etc are indeed the killer. Being attached to comfort zone and laziness will get us to stay put and do not improve.

    4. Letting go of wealth, fame, etc does not mean we give up EVERYTHING and live on the street. It is a state of mind, and a context to operate from. Even though we have the wealth, we do not operate as if we spend our entire effort to protect it, and if we lose it, we will go crazy.

    Thank you for sharing such important teachings.

  40. June Kang on May 13, 2012 at 11:24 pm

    Dear Jamie

    Thank for the following saying:-

    “While reincarnation and karma forms the cornerstone of every Buddhist teaching, it’s not just some trip on what we were before or where we’re going to next. Actually, it’s about what we’re doing right here, right now” .

    The above is a very good checking tool to keep reminds me on whatever I am doing now.

    “Loosen the strings you’ve tied on your attachments, just a little so you can breathe better. Yes, would start to let go some of the attachments, otherwise suffering would follow me and end up I cannot breathe. Thanks again for all the “reminders” to wake me up.

  41. pastor ngeow on May 13, 2012 at 11:16 pm

    This is a deeply meaningful teaching and very well explained by Jamie. It holds the key to freedom from continuous suffering.When basic desire develops into craving and intensifying into grasping , attachment sets in and we are super glued to the object of desire.
    The deception is that we think getting what we want brings pleasure and leads to instant sense gratification. This is very addictive and a main reason we keep repeating this formula to the extent that we will reject or even harm anything or anyone that stands between us and the object of our desire. If we stop to examine this we will find that it is very costly and foolish for us to continue with this pleasure formula as the short term benefit we receive will result in endless suffering. Even this short term pleasure is a falsehood as we all know experientially, that once we have obtained that object, we are never satiated and we want more of it as in money or we turn to other objects when the object which appeared so attractive before quickly lose its appeal once we have got it.
    At the time of death , we can take nothing with us , things that we have spent so much effort and caused so much harm to ourselves and others to get it. This attachment to or grasping at worldly concerns of fame, wealth, possessions etc and our own body , at time of death, will dominate our last thoughts which trigger the karma to keep going through the suffering cycle of samsaric existence. The imprints from such delusions unfortunately will continue into our next rebirth. These imprints which are the substantial cause for us to repeat the same tendencies to chase after things will not even provide temporary benefits as our next rebirth may not have the same environmental conditions for them to operate like in our previous existence.
    It make sense to let go of or at least loosen our attachments which only lead to negative karma now and in future.We must not waste time to train our mind , purify the negativities and accumulate vast merits which is what matters at time of death and which will ensure good rebirths.

  42. Yoke Fui on May 13, 2012 at 11:07 pm

    Attachments come in various forms- things we think are the source of our happiness, security,fame , comfort zone or power.

    When we take our last breath, we will have no clue as to where we shall be when we open our eyes again and look around us. Being attached or having the imprint of things we are attached to will be the direct cause of our next uncontrolled rebirth of suffering. Attachments to all our worldly happiness will never give the ultimate contentment because they will only bound us to another round of birth-aging -death.

    Yet, we are so fixated with our many life times of habits that attachments / desires are like our inborn nature. The sutra says humans of the desirous realms are like moths flying into the fire . Rinpoche uses various methods to wake us up, to shift us from the comfortable habits of always doing things our ways. These methods may be painful at imes, in long term spiritual goal they are necessary.

    On the path of Guru Devotion, out of his great compassion the Guru will continuously work on the students till all traces of negative imprints are completely purified and at the same time the Guru will create virtuous projects for students to accumulate the necessary merits to support the training.

    Thank you, Rinpoche.

  43. Lim Tat Ming on May 13, 2012 at 11:00 pm

    Dear Rinpoche

    Below are my understanding of the main points from the teachings on desire and attachment based on Jamie’s excellent write-up.

    1. We are desire realm beings.

    2. Our desire for things are unlimited, it includes everything that is perceivable by our 6 sense doors.

    3. We become attached to these sensory objects when we come into contact with them.

    4. Objects do not remain the same, objects change when the causes and conditions change.

    5. We cannot bring with us whatever we desire or attached to when we die.

    6. Our past attitudes, feelings, tendencies and habits travel with us from life to life.

    7. There is a big gap between what we were, what we are and what we will be. The conditions of the three times are different. Due to our past habituations, our experiences of them will be different from the past, at the present moment and in the future. And that creates suffering for us.

    8. Everything is impermanent. We will die eventually.

    9. We have a choice now: (a) To be attached to our desired objects and not letting them go even when we die (b) To let go of our desired objects now

    10. We should develop the good qualities for our mind now because these good qualities can travel with us into the future lives.

    11. Why spend our limited time and so much effort on things that we can’t take with us when we die?

    12. It doesn’t mean we cannot experience all these sensory objects. We can but we should not be attached to them and be controlled by our desires. When the time comes for us to die, we leave freely without attachment.

    13. It is the state of our mind – desirous attachment – and not all the objects that we desired that we need to be mindful of all the time. We must develop and realize the quality of non-attachment.

    Thank You.

  44. Lim KSJC on May 13, 2012 at 10:40 pm

    Whats a beautiful quote in Jamie blog,

    “There’s a choice we can make now, a little gamble, like the biggest game show of our lives:

    – Keep everything exactly the way it is – be obsessed with your beauty, relationships, wealth, everything everything – and risk losing it all completely, nada, back to zero in that bank account of Life (with a capital L)

    OR

    – Let go of your obsession with it now, live peacefully and die freely with no encumbrances. (Letting go doesn’t mean you have to give it up – it doesn’t mean you go live on the streets and scratch up your face with a blade – it just means you start not operating solely out of that and being so attached to having it / needing it).”

    Although this quote is simple to read and understand but the most challenge is HOW to back to Zero in that bank of Life??? I think this is very hard due to our ignorance but IF we Try to Step Out first move to transform sure we will make it one day…

    Thanks Rinpoche and Jamie for sharing…

  45. Han on May 13, 2012 at 10:30 pm

    Joey, I agreed with what you wrote :

    “The post has gave me an additional checking tool on how i can use to undo my desires or keep it under control: by realizing that I have something better to do rather than indulge in it. ”

    This life time, we should not just indulge in ME ME ME, or just to satisfy own desire.
    Its a hard journey to abandon attachments that we been very good at since young,
    I am letting go of my attachments and when come to crucial time, I still feel that the level of letting go is not 100%, because anger, jealousy etc still arise. Checking my mind if I am still attach or non attach is a key when dealing with daily life.

    This wonderful teaching by Rinpoche and written by Jamie remind me always check my mind not to attach, not to indulge in personal desires, but indulge more in helping others.
    There are more important things in life than self indulgence.

  46. william on May 13, 2012 at 8:39 pm

    Desires and attachments- I have lots of them and still hang on to them. Travelling, sleep and hanging out with friends are what I like. To let go of them will take a very long time. I always tell myself that I am ok if I do not go somewhere and I feel alright. But the devil in me will always turn things the other way around and make me think otherwise. It is always a war inside my head.

    Anyways, I believe that all these desires can be lessened and then eventually becomes non-attachment anymore. And that is we give them up for something greater. After all, we can’t take them to our graves or next lifetime.

    What I understand is that we will have desires, whether we already have it, no longer have it or want to have it. This is because we have had the experience (good ones, that’s why we want it) and want it to continue. However, when circumstances change and we are attached to the desire, then we will crave and seek for it.

    The main thing is not to be attached to the desire. Great to have it but ok if we do not have it.

  47. Valentina Suhendra on May 13, 2012 at 8:18 pm

    Dear Jamie
    Your blog post, as always, has been very entertaining. Thank you for writing about desire. I guess many of us have been the victims of desire. Not looking outside for examples but looking inward, from the day I was born until now, I have always been enveloped by desire. The more I get what I want, the greedier I become. The mind has always played tricks, “if you have this, you will be happy. If you have that, you will no longer be left wanting.” But the minute I got what I want, I keep wanting for more and sadly fear developed because I am afraid of losing the things that I have just obtained that my monkey mind said will bring tremendous happiness. So, what supposed to be happiness, became fear and I have to spend more time maintaining what the thing that I have just obtained that suppose to bring me happiness. It is pure suffering of the worst kind – at least for me.
    In one of my contemplations in the past, I have been thinking whether it would be easier for me if I just get rid of some little privileges that I have and born with. Perhaps, I would be calmer and happier. But as years goes by, I noted that not using my privilleges impeded some of the work that I wish to do such as giving and helping others in my charity works. Perhaps, some of the privileges can be leveraged to help others instead of for my own benefit.
    So as you said in you blog, getting rid of desire and attachments is not about throwing what you have and live in the street. But it’s about how you view and use what you have and not get attached with them.

  48. joey wong on May 13, 2012 at 7:17 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    I find the talk and Jamie’s summary very powerful as I do have issues with my attachments. I tend to allow them to override my life and motivations for the day. I have only been suppressing and distracting the urges to get something for example, but very rarely i get to the bottom of it and cut it from there.

    The post has gave me an additional checking tool on how i can use to undo my desires or keep it under control: by realizing that I have something better to do rather than indulge in it. It also reinforced what I have already realized: taking things on the surface and being attached to that brings nothing but suffering in the long run. I have stopped doing that for sometime.

    It also helped drilled down deeper that there is nothing permanent in samsara and there is no use hanging on to anything here. I understand that point intellectually but i find that i have not been able to operate from that way and this post gave me another angle to it.

    Thank you Jamie for writing this down as it does help me a lot.

  49. DR on May 13, 2012 at 6:07 pm

    Jamie, your comprehension of dharma and then elucidating it in a style that makes the reader want to carry on reading is amazing.

    Just want to add on to it as i have been asked this many times. Having finer things in life is itself not attachment. Attachment is when you have it and your fear of losing it. It is when you dont have it anymore, and you suffer from it. Desire is when you wish for something so badly that you suffer along the way to get it or worse still, suffer because you never get it.

    When I first met Rinpoche, 17 years ago, one of the thought provoking questions he asked me then was ” have you ever seen any baby born with all the material items he accumulated from his previous life? If the answer is no, then the focus on this life should not be on desiring and working towards it but developing qualities that you can bring along to your next life.”

    In summary, yes sure i love nice things but they don’t define me and there are certainly more important things in life than a preoccupation with Birkins!

  50. Jace Chong on May 13, 2012 at 5:10 pm

    Thanks Jamie for your write up, you are very talented and I enjoy reading your blogs.

    What you said (Rinpoche said) is very true. Beside knowing that, what we have in this life we can not bring forward once we are death; the more important thing is that the desire that we posses bring us no where but let us become worst in each rebirth.

    I do have an experience to share (not sure is it a suitable one), which I was really shame to talk about all these years, but it’s something bring me to Kechara, it’s my craving for relationship. I have ended a 6-years relationship many years ago. Then I found that I was too used to have somebody with me when I need, I started to look for a new relationship, just didn’t want to be lonely.

    I went out with friends, for drinks, clubbing, like everybody else, looking for somebody as I didn’t want to be alone. Even having meal alone made me sad, I thought I deserved to be with somebody. I hook up with a guy and I thought, yea…no more loneliness.

    But the feeling of loneliness become worst whenever any little things happen to the “relatioship” (it was not really a relationship, it’s my dependency on him to find hope). I never imagine I could be so angry and feeling so bad when he refuse to answer calls and sms.

    After a few months, the guy felt bored and hook up with some other people, surprisingly at that time although it hurts, I could accept that and still hoping him to be with me as I really has no one else with me. My tears started to flow when he left my house every time, yet feeling angry about myself to be so “fragile”. Then he did something really bad to me and left me. The hurt was so so bad, worst than the broke up with my previous boyfriend.

    How much I want a relationship became how much it hurts me when it didn’t turn to something I wanted. It’s not his fault and anybody’s fault, it’s my desire set me in the jail of loneliness.

    I realized this in some Rinpoche’s teachings when I first in touch with Kechara. I decided to let go, to accept the truth that I am alone, and feel ok about being alone, and do something else for others instead of keep thinking about me me me…

    Then I found, I am not lonely anymore, I am not the pathetic woman looking for partner around anymore. I feel there’s something more meaningful in life which will not back to zero even when I die. Like Jamie mentioned, why not spend time to develop more good qualities in the mind so it could bring to next life? I totally agree and thanks for speaking the truth that everybody should realize. We have to use desire in good way.

    And thanks to Rinpoche to give me the courage to love again after some years. I am not scared to be hurt anymore as I understand we do what we can do when we can, and we let go what we can not control and accept it. It’s actually been a wonderful journey for to undergo all ups and downs in relationship. They teach me great lessons to become a better person too.

    • Kwan on May 13, 2012 at 6:13 pm

      Hi Jace, your phrase “we do what we can do when we can, and we let go what we can not control and accept it” is a simple & practical method to let go of attachments.

      I remember one of Rinpoche’s teachings where Rinpoche explained the method to deal with attachments. He said that attachment is like a man putting his hand into the fire. And the suffering occurs when the man does not realise that he is hurting himself and continues to let his hand burn, thinking that the attachment (in this case, putting his hand into the fire) is good for himself.

      Being deluded by the nature of attachment, I often wondered how is it exactly to let go of attachments. Rinpoche’s solution was straight forward and simple – just remove your hand from the fire! In other words, just let go of the attachment! Simple easy, yet difficult to put into practice when one is very dependent and too attached to desires.

      It would be silly and hilarious, when the man, aware that he has to pull his arm out of the burning, still kept his hand stuck in the fire pit just because he is deluded.

      Good teaching from Rinpoche and thank you Jace for putting it nicely, “we do what we can do when we can, and we let go what we can not control and accept it”

      • Lawrence Wong on May 16, 2012 at 1:24 am

        Hi Kwan, I don’t agree that the way to let go of attachments is to let go of attachments. This hasn’t given any solution to those who theoretically want to let go but psychologically (then manifest into their speech and action) fail to do so, because this is simply repeating what we want to achieve again. That’s why we would not teach by saying that to attain buddhahood is to attain buddhahood.

        To me in order to let go of attachments, first I choose not to think so much about “I must succeed in letting go an attachment!” and not to think so much and deeply that being able to let go them means I succeed otherwise a failure. I would give myself a chance, some period of time during which to experience how it feels like when I’m not having any contact with the stuff that I love to attach to. Continue to regularly give myself chances not to deal with the things I attached to. Gradually I’ll begin to feel that attaching to those things doesn’t imply I’m happier than not attaching to those things. Realizing that attachment to X does not necessarily bring us more happiness, we can more easily let go and be more willing to let go of X. For attachment consumes us more energy and resources than non-attachment and we tend to choose a more comfortable and easier way to achieve happiness.

        Thank you and good night!

  51. wei theng on May 13, 2012 at 4:21 pm

    Very meaningful and profound… at our last moment, it is our attachment will bring us to where we will be in our next life. pastor Ngeow always emphasis to us, the only way we can do is to change the habits NOW. plant good seeds for good things to grow. Less attached now and we will gain more.

  52. Elena on May 13, 2012 at 4:06 pm

    When Rinpoche gave that talk, he told us to meditate on it everyday because it will really help us to lessen our attachment to things.

    I’ve been thinking about it since, and how it connects to the other teachings Rinpoche has given on desire and attachment. That’s what I like about Rinpoche’s teachings, that they are like building blocks. Rinpoche gives us a part of a teaching when we’re ready for it, then gives us another part that complements the original so all of the pieces fit and make sense.

    Over the last couple of days I’ve been thinking about something Rinpoche said in a liaisons council meeting a few months ago. Rinpoche said that at the time of death, what we desire the most will hamper our rebirths. Rinpoche said it’s like our consciousness is trying to leave, but can’t do so freely because we’re chained to our attachments of this life.

    The attachments can be something as great as our wealth, our children, our families or something as small as the way our hair looks, our weight, music, shopping, singing, the way food tastes.

    It made me think about the value of those attachments. Actually they only serve us in this life, but at the time of death our attachments can cause so many problems for us by making it difficult for us to take a rebirth.

    Then, combined with the teaching Paris has just blogged about, in our next life, these desires won’t even serve us. Maybe I’ll be reborn in a formless realm where looks, weight, hair, etc do not matter because I don’t have a form…but I will still have that desire from my previous life. Or maybe I’ll be reborn as a human who is deaf and mute, but the desire from my previous life to sing or play music is still there.

    So temporarily, we might find pleasures in our attachments in this life, but at death and in our next life, we gain no benefit whatsoever. The only thing that is constant, that we can take with us is the attainments of our mind…which then links back to what Rinpoche said about how this meditation will lead us to lessen our attachments. If I realise that my attachments in this life do not benefit me at the time of death, or in my next life, then I will let go because they serve no useful purpose to me.

    I’ve been thinking about this teaching, and chewing over it from every angle in my mind ever since Rinpoche spoke that night. Thank you Rinpoche for the awesome teaching!

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  • Lin Mun
    Monday, Feb 27. 2017 09:29 PM
    Rejoice for the Kechara team members for being able to receive the gift from Rinpoche. It is also how much Guru love and care for his students well being. We can repay Guru’s kindness by doing more dharma work and transform ourselves to be better so we can benefit others.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/students-friends/chinese-new-year-shopping.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Monday, Feb 27. 2017 06:05 PM
    So much pain and torturing inflicted on the poor animals to satisfy our demand for eggs. I hope this article creates the awareness for all of us to rethink our diet and find alternatives to replace eggs. Getting free range eggs or “kampung” eggs is a slightly better idea as long as we are assured that the farm that produces these eggs provide the free range / “kampung” condition for the chicken. The best idea is to omit egg from our diet completely. Thank you, Rinpoche for this sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/a-chicken-and-egg-situation.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Monday, Feb 27. 2017 05:06 PM
    The importance of Fasting Buddha is to remind us that there will be much difficulties in the process to enlightenment and we must overcome them before we can finally achieve success. Fortitude and diligence are the accessories to overcoming the difficulties. It took Buddha six years of hardship and extreme fasting to gain realization on the “Middle Way”, what more for clowns like us? Thank you, Rinpoche for this teaching.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/art-architecture/fasting-buddha.html
  • Joy
    Monday, Feb 27. 2017 07:15 AM
    ***The Blessings of the Guru***

    Guru devotion and clean samaya with one’s Guru are commonly recognised and emphasised as the foundation of Dharma study and practice in all schools of Tibetan Buddhism. From the legendary Padmasambhava of the Nyingma lineage to the revered mahasiddhas Milarepa and Naropa of the Kagyu tradition, to the great Pabongka Rinpoche of the Gelugpa lineage of practitioners; Guru devotion is undisputedly the common and fundamental element for any Dharma realisation, attainment and ultimately Enlightenment… more>> http://www.dorjeshugden.org/blog/the-blessings-of-the-guru
  • Joy
    Monday, Feb 27. 2017 07:14 AM
    For all who wants some sacred images in their environment, you can download & print these high-res images of enlightened beings ABSOLUTELY FREE here
    >>Buddha Images (Free Download)<< http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/downloads/buddha-images.html
    H.E. Tsem Rinpoche has selected & kindly made these beautiful high quality sacred images available for all to have. Enjoy, be blessed & share this with others.

    Do let Rinpoche know at the comments section which images you downloaded as Rinpoche would feel very happy knowing it has benefited you 😀
  • Joy
    Monday, Feb 27. 2017 07:13 AM
    Hi folks did you know that you can submit a story/blog post here on this blog >>SUBMIT A STORY<< http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/submit-a-story
    Guest writers and contributors are welcomed. The articles can be about Dharma, animals, supernatural, or inspirational stories. Any positive writings that will leave our readers with more knowledge after reading.

    This blog is a platform for writers, ideas, subjects and opinions to be shared and discussed.
    Do take a read on the Guidelines and Terms & Conditions before submitting your story.
  • Pastor Shin
    Monday, Feb 27. 2017 05:48 AM
    Do you believe in the paranormal? Watch this as a family is terrorized by a malicious presence that wreaks havoc on the well-being of their animals. An unidentified creature is frightening them in their barn.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/film-tv-music/the-haunted-terror-at-maple-dale-farm.html
  • Pastor Shin
    Monday, Feb 27. 2017 05:46 AM
    Do you know about the one-god theory ? This theory was not the domain of established modern religions but were already existent in pre-modern or pagan religions. This video shows how the one god theory is not the exclusive rights of anyone but in fact was a gradual process taken from Pagan religions.

    Learn more here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/film-tv-music/the-one-god-theory-comes-from-greek-mythology.html
  • Tsem Rinpoche
    Monday, Feb 27. 2017 03:58 AM
    Extremely well written, excellently performed and superb plot of a film. I came across the film by accident and decided to watch because it’s Bette Davis and the end really touched me so deeply. So very deeply. So very meaningful. In the end, you have to be truthful to those who love you and you really can love them back. You must watch the whole thing to understand the touching and powerful ending: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xr5I6NlueVw&feature=youtu.be
  • Pastor Shin
    Monday, Feb 27. 2017 03:13 AM
    Sharing with you a wonderful story about a Yogi Rinpoche.

    After he became a Geshe, Trehor Kyorpen Rinpoche went into retreat in a cave on Lhumbo Tse, a high mountain near Lhasa. Throughout the duration of his retreat, he carried only one text – the Lamrim Chenmo, his robes and was accompanied by only a monk-attendant.

    While Trehor Kyorpen Rinpoche was looking for a cave on this high mountain, rocks kept on coming down near him as if thrown from above. He followed the stones and after some time, came upon a cave. The stones were dropping on that cave.

    When he entered the cave, he found a skeleton sitting in the meditation posture. Trehor Kyorpen Rinpoche then sat down and offered a mandala. Upon completion of the mandala offering, the skeleton collapsed. Trehor Kyorpen Rinpoche took it as an auspicious sign and decided to practise in that cave.

    Read more about His Eminence Trehor Kyorpen Rinpoche here: http://www.dorjeshugden.org/lamas/his-eminence-trehor-kyorpen-rinpoche
  • Pastor Shin
    Monday, Feb 27. 2017 03:12 AM
    Vegetarianism in Buddhism

    The Lankavatara Sutra, written in the fourth or fifth Century CE strongly advocates abstinence in relation to the consumption of meat. Scriptures such as the Mahayana Jataka tales indicate that meat-consumption is undesirable and karmically unwholesome. So, Mahayana practitioners are strictly forbidden from consuming meat. They are also forbidden from consuming aromatic plants that stimulate the senses such as onions and garlic.

    Read more here: http://www.dorjeshugden.org/blog/vegetarianism-in-buddhism
  • pastor
    Sunday, Feb 26. 2017 11:37 PM
    Dear Elizabeth,

    Rinpoche was very happy to receive your kind offer and hanged it immediately in His resting/work area. Rinpoche also had us placed an incense burner underneath to make incense offering to Lord Vajrayogini daily, and said the iconography is correct and it is a stunning piece.

    Rinpoche was told that you were gifted a Vajrayogini pendant 4 years ago, October 2013, during your visit to Kechara Forest Retreat. I remember Rick and you were captivated by Rinpoche’s Vajrayogini replica http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/travel/my-bodhgaya-vajrayogini.html that was displayed in Wisdom Hall during the tour so you must have very strong affinity with Her.

    Rinpoche always tell us that very few people can actually make or draw Lord Vajrayogini image and He was very glad that you are one of them. Thank you again for your wonderful offering and setting an example of patience, good efforts and consistency.

    With best wishes,
    Pastor Adeline

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/students-friends/shimmering-vajrayogini-from-ms-wahyu.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Sunday, Feb 26. 2017 09:41 PM
    Thank you for sharing and explanations on wealth vase.. They are powerful in attracting energies of wealth.and effective because of the way they are made by monks from the monasteries.
    Recently i have invited home a small wealth vase, my very first on Yangdup Wealth Puja Day 2017. Its very beautiful and auspicious wealth vase i just love and treasure it. Hoping that it will help me to increase my inner and outer wealth spiritually and materially.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/transcript-wealth-vases.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Sunday, Feb 26. 2017 09:39 PM
    Thank%20you%20Rinpoche%20for%20sharing%20and%20explanations%20on%20wealth%20vase..%20They%20are%20powerful%20in%20attracting%20energies%20of%20wealth.and%20effective%20because%20of%20the%20way%20they%20are%20made%20by%20monks%20from%20the%20monasteries.%0ARecently%20i%20have%20invited%20home%20a%20small%20wealth%20vase%2C%20my%20very%20first%20on%20Yangdup%20Wealth%20Puja%20Day%202017.%20Its%20very%20beautiful%20and%20auspicious%20wealth%20vase%20i%20just%20love%20and%20treasure%20it.%20Hoping%20that%20it%20will%20help%20me%20to%20increase%20my%20inner%20and%20outer%20wealth%20spiritually%20and%20materially.http%3A%2F%2Fwww.tsemrinpoche.com%2Ftsem-tulku-rinpoche%2Fbuddhas-dharma%2Ftranscript-wealth-vases.html
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  • Lin Mun
    Sunday, Feb 26. 2017 07:35 PM
    Rejoice for Chen for being able to serve Rinpoche and the ladrang’s team. It is great effort from Chen to make sure that Rinpoche is well taken care of. His act also inspire us to practise Guru Devotion and do all the work given without complain and doing it well.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/students-friends/chens-care-and-help.html

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The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
But then again, the unknown is sometimes worse than the known. In the end nothing is known unless we endeavour,
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Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl checking out the scene..cute
yesterday
Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl checking out the scene..cute
My Dharma boy has such a cute expression here. He is a good boy!
yesterday
My Dharma boy has such a cute expression here. He is a good boy!
February 9,2017-My Mumu boy and Oser girl are just relaxing together..super cute
3 weeks ago
February 9,2017-My Mumu boy and Oser girl are just relaxing together..super cute
Click on the picture to enlarge and see what Suzy from Hawaii commented on the Dorje Shugden issue after much research. She is very candid and honest. Refreshing. Original is posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vl-4lIwxph4
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Click on the picture to enlarge and see what Suzy from Hawaii commented on the Dorje Shugden issue after much research. She is very candid and honest. Refreshing. Original is posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vl-4lIwxph4
This is a good one to read
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This is a good one to read
Mumu is silly and cute and funny
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Mumu is silly and cute and funny
Mumu\'s hair is messy and he looks funny
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Mumu's hair is messy and he looks funny
I am in the process of creating beautiful Dorje Shugden and Kechara Forest Retreat watches at this time. So we can take precious protector and Kechara Forest Retreat wherever we go and be blessed everytime we see what time it is. 
I am perfecting the designs with a great team and will update when done but these are just some samples that arrived. 
Feast your eyes! 

Tsem Rinpoche
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I am in the process of creating beautiful Dorje Shugden and Kechara Forest Retreat watches at this time. So we can take precious protector and Kechara Forest Retreat wherever we go and be blessed everytime we see what time it is. I am perfecting the designs with a great team and will update when done but these are just some samples that arrived. Feast your eyes! Tsem Rinpoche
                        Pick the practice, devotion and precepts of Vajra Yogini\'s path over everything and anything in samsara. Samsara has nothing of value and nothing lasting to offer. You are born in suffering, live in suffering, die in suffering and enter bardo and future lives expecting more sufferings. This is not a negative way of looking at things but the truth. If the truth is negative, so it is the truth. Devote oneself to the guru, dharma work, dharma practice and bringing dharma to others compassionately. Choose to practice Vajra Yogini now with the preliminaries. You can start right now: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/starting-on-vajra-yogini-now.html  Much care, Tsem Rinpoche
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Pick the practice, devotion and precepts of Vajra Yogini's path over everything and anything in samsara. Samsara has nothing of value and nothing lasting to offer. You are born in suffering, live in suffering, die in suffering and enter bardo and future lives expecting more sufferings. This is not a negative way of looking at things but the truth. If the truth is negative, so it is the truth. Devote oneself to the guru, dharma work, dharma practice and bringing dharma to others compassionately. Choose to practice Vajra Yogini now with the preliminaries. You can start right now: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/starting-on-vajra-yogini-now.html Much care, Tsem Rinpoche
Message to Tibetans in English
2 months ago
Message to Tibetans in English
Message to the Tibetans
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Message to the Tibetans
Left to right: Kensur Jampa Yeshe Rinpoche, Sharpa Choeje Jetsun Lobsang Nyima, Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche, Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, 101st Gaden Tripa Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal. Great lamas of Gaden Shartse Monastery
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Left to right: Kensur Jampa Yeshe Rinpoche, Sharpa Choeje Jetsun Lobsang Nyima, Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche, Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, 101st Gaden Tripa Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal. Great lamas of Gaden Shartse Monastery
A beautiful Indian rendition of Gyenze Dorje Shugden manifesting in wealth form
2 months ago
A beautiful Indian rendition of Gyenze Dorje Shugden manifesting in wealth form
This is my thoughts and determination to share with you. Please open and read. Thank you for your time. Tsem Rinpoche
2 months ago
This is my thoughts and determination to share with you. Please open and read. Thank you for your time. Tsem Rinpoche
Nepalese King Birendra receives His Holiness Panchen Rinpoche in Nepal
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Nepalese King Birendra receives His Holiness Panchen Rinpoche in Nepal
Guess what Zava Damdin Rinpoche did in Mongolia recently with 7,800 people??? Very interesting and it is a must read:  http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=116206
3 months ago
Guess what Zava Damdin Rinpoche did in Mongolia recently with 7,800 people??? Very interesting and it is a must read:  http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=116206
This huge Buddha in Korea is magnificent
3 months ago
This huge Buddha in Korea is magnificent
The very first oracle of Dorje Shugden in trance statue. I have commissioned this.
3 months ago
The very first oracle of Dorje Shugden in trance statue. I have commissioned this.
Such a old and ancient thangka painting of Dorje Shugden. He has been around in Tibet practiced for hundreds of years.
3 months ago
Such a old and ancient thangka painting of Dorje Shugden. He has been around in Tibet practiced for hundreds of years.
One of the "Four Exalted Brothers" Avalokiteshvara statues, Phagpa Wati of Kyirong, which is now with H.H. the Dalai Lama in Dharamsala.
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One of the "Four Exalted Brothers" Avalokiteshvara statues, Phagpa Wati of Kyirong, which is now with H.H. the Dalai Lama in Dharamsala.
Kyabje Zemey, Kyabje Zong Rinpoche and Kyabje Pabongka Choktrul Rinpoche
3 months ago
Kyabje Zemey, Kyabje Zong Rinpoche and Kyabje Pabongka Choktrul Rinpoche
My Oser girl and Mumu boy are so adorable
3 months ago
My Oser girl and Mumu boy are so adorable
Wow this meditator in his cave in front of a painting of Yamantaka draped with a white khata of respect. He sits among bones to remind him of impermanence and our future. The bones inspire him strongly to let go of all attachments in this life and focus on dharma, meditation and liberation and he is doing so. Very beautiful and inspirational. Tsem Rinpoche
3 months ago
Wow this meditator in his cave in front of a painting of Yamantaka draped with a white khata of respect. He sits among bones to remind him of impermanence and our future. The bones inspire him strongly to let go of all attachments in this life and focus on dharma, meditation and liberation and he is doing so. Very beautiful and inspirational. Tsem Rinpoche
Tenzing Norgay found this in Nepal. Guess what it is?
4 months ago
Tenzing Norgay found this in Nepal. Guess what it is?
Sir Edmund Hillary
4 months ago
Sir Edmund Hillary
Halloween is my favorite holiday. Wild natural plants and flowers are my favorite offering. Buddha\'s teachings on meditation and Yidam practice bring the ultimate results and happiness. ~Tsem Rinpoche
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Halloween is my favorite holiday. Wild natural plants and flowers are my favorite offering. Buddha's teachings on meditation and Yidam practice bring the ultimate results and happiness. ~Tsem Rinpoche
Previous lives do resemble current lives especially if they are a recognized incarnation. If notice how similar the previous and current Trijang Rinpoche looks. The eyes, bone structure, expression, long neck, thin and overall look. Beautiful. I\'ve seen this phenomena over and over in many Rinpoche incarnations. Especially when you compare them with pictures of previous and current lives at around the same ages. Something powerfully karmic about this. Tsem Rinpoche
5 months ago
Previous lives do resemble current lives especially if they are a recognized incarnation. If notice how similar the previous and current Trijang Rinpoche looks. The eyes, bone structure, expression, long neck, thin and overall look. Beautiful. I've seen this phenomena over and over in many Rinpoche incarnations. Especially when you compare them with pictures of previous and current lives at around the same ages. Something powerfully karmic about this. Tsem Rinpoche
It\'s nice to have monks visitors and resident monks in Kechara
5 months ago
It's nice to have monks visitors and resident monks in Kechara
                         Taken in Lake Champlain in Canada. A huge water monster...neat...
5 months ago
Taken in Lake Champlain in Canada. A huge water monster...neat...
Beautiful! His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Dorje Chang has always been good friends with His Holiness Karmapa. No wonder H.H. Karmapa never spoke against Dorje Shugden. Two reasons perhaps: One is he knows the qualities of Trijang Rinpoche who is a attained being. And Karmapa himself has clairvoyance to perceive the true nature of Dorje Shugden directly. I love to see great beings like this manifesting closeness. When I see, I just want to prostrate to them and thank them for sharing such good examples to someone like me. Praise to the ego-less mind! Tsem Rinpoche
5 months ago
Beautiful! His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Dorje Chang has always been good friends with His Holiness Karmapa. No wonder H.H. Karmapa never spoke against Dorje Shugden. Two reasons perhaps: One is he knows the qualities of Trijang Rinpoche who is a attained being. And Karmapa himself has clairvoyance to perceive the true nature of Dorje Shugden directly. I love to see great beings like this manifesting closeness. When I see, I just want to prostrate to them and thank them for sharing such good examples to someone like me. Praise to the ego-less mind! Tsem Rinpoche
Serkong Dorje Chang on the left and his son Serkong Tsenshab Rinpoche on the right.
5 months ago
Serkong Dorje Chang on the left and his son Serkong Tsenshab Rinpoche on the right.
High lamas in France September 2016
5 months ago
High lamas in France September 2016
༧གོང་ས་ཆེན་པོ་སྐུ་འཕྲེང་བཅུ་བཞི་པ་མཆོག་དང་རྡོ་རྗེ་ཤུགས་ལྡན། - Interesting relationship between 14th Dalai Lama and Dorje Shugden:   http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=109757
5 months ago
༧གོང་ས་ཆེན་པོ་སྐུ་འཕྲེང་བཅུ་བཞི་པ་མཆོག་དང་རྡོ་རྗེ་ཤུགས་ལྡན། - Interesting relationship between 14th Dalai Lama and Dorje Shugden: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=109757
Dalai Lama Says We Can Practise Dorje Shugden Finally! Read more on this development--- http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=109777
5 months ago
Dalai Lama Says We Can Practise Dorje Shugden Finally! Read more on this development--- http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=109777
More time spent in dharma work is more karma collected to be happy and more time spent in non-dharma works is more karma collected to be unhappy.~Tsem Rinpoche
5 months ago
More time spent in dharma work is more karma collected to be happy and more time spent in non-dharma works is more karma collected to be unhappy.~Tsem Rinpoche
All Dorje Shugden prophesizes will come to pass,
 Those who generate refuge and merits will trust, 
 By trusting one will see the good results of his pronouncements,
 By seeing the good results, one\'s path becomes more clear, 
 The path of practice, purification and siddhic results, 
 This would eliminate the samsara within our minds.
 ~Tsem Rinpoche
5 months ago
All Dorje Shugden prophesizes will come to pass, Those who generate refuge and merits will trust, By trusting one will see the good results of his pronouncements, By seeing the good results, one's path becomes more clear, The path of practice, purification and siddhic results, This would eliminate the samsara within our minds. ~Tsem Rinpoche
Large Dorje Shugden statue built by the 5th Dalai Lama and housed in Trode Khangsar. Sock Wand and Mdm Chuah took this picture in Lhasa, Tibet 2016
5 months ago
Large Dorje Shugden statue built by the 5th Dalai Lama and housed in Trode Khangsar. Sock Wand and Mdm Chuah took this picture in Lhasa, Tibet 2016
Our own Kecharian Mdm. Chua with the oracle of Dorje Shugden Gen Tenzin Tsultrim in Lhasa, Tibet 2016
5 months ago
Our own Kecharian Mdm. Chua with the oracle of Dorje Shugden Gen Tenzin Tsultrim in Lhasa, Tibet 2016
Our very own Kecharian Mdm Chua standing in front of holy Trode Khangsar-the Chapel to Dorje Shugden built 400 years ago by the Great 5th Dalai Lama-Tibet 2016
5 months ago
Our very own Kecharian Mdm Chua standing in front of holy Trode Khangsar-the Chapel to Dorje Shugden built 400 years ago by the Great 5th Dalai Lama-Tibet 2016
Our very own Kecharian Mdm Chua standing in front of holy Gaden Monastery, Tibet 2016
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Our very own Kecharian Mdm Chua standing in front of holy Gaden Monastery, Tibet 2016
                         This is the oracle of Dorje Shugden in Lhasa, Tibet. His name is Gen Tenzin Tsultrim of Sera Monastery in Tibet.
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This is the oracle of Dorje Shugden in Lhasa, Tibet. His name is Gen Tenzin Tsultrim of Sera Monastery in Tibet.
Ms. Sock Wan, Oracle of Dorje Shugden in Tibet Gen Tenzin Tsultrim, Mdm Chuah and Mr. Tashi in Tibet 2016
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Ms. Sock Wan, Oracle of Dorje Shugden in Tibet Gen Tenzin Tsultrim, Mdm Chuah and Mr. Tashi in Tibet 2016
Mahasiddha Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche, H.H. Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and Ven. Rabten Choktrul Rinpoche 2016
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Mahasiddha Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche, H.H. Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and Ven. Rabten Choktrul Rinpoche 2016
His Eminence Mahasiddha Gangchen Rinpoche and the official oracle of Dorje Shugden Panglung Kuten Choji lah in Italy together September 2016
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His Eminence Mahasiddha Gangchen Rinpoche and the official oracle of Dorje Shugden Panglung Kuten Choji lah in Italy together September 2016
My thoughts on Malaysia. Thank you. Tsem Rinpoche
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My thoughts on Malaysia. Thank you. Tsem Rinpoche
Beautiful thangka of Vajra Yogini. Look at the details where she appears in visions and also takes people to Kechara.
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Beautiful thangka of Vajra Yogini. Look at the details where she appears in visions and also takes people to Kechara.
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His Holiness the Gaden Throne holder Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal, His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche (very young) and His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche in Gaden Shartse Prayer Hall during prayers.
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Left to right: His Holiness the Gaden Throne holder Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal, His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche (very young) and His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche in Gaden Shartse Prayer Hall during prayers.
 It\'s nice when families support the spiritual journeys of their children. This is one beautiful family of Pastor Niral of Kechara
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It's nice when families support the spiritual journeys of their children. This is one beautiful family of Pastor Niral of Kechara
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    [11/02/2017] Mumu darling is a very good boy.
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    [11/02/2017] Mumu wants to go bye bye!
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    [11/02/2017] I love you mumu boy
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    [11/02/2017] Mumu and Oser eating together.
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    You will Never be Ready
    Dear friends, watch this video and ready, if we keep waiting till we are ready, that day will never come. Tsem Rinpoche
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    Stop asking for Easy
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    Must Watch this Video!
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    Kyabje Denma Gonsa Rinpoche on Samaya
    ཁྱེད་ཀྱི་བཀའ་སློབ་དོན་སྙིང་དེ།།གང་གི་རྣ་བར་བདུད་རྩི་མོད།།འོན་ཀྱང་འགའ་ཡི་རྣ་ལམ་དུ།། བྲག་ཆ་བཞིན་དུ་འགྱུར་སྲིད་མོད།། ཚང་མས་ཚར་རེ་གཟིགས་རོགས།། Kyabje Denma Gonsa Rinpoche telling people that it is important to have guru samaya. It use to be that way in the great monasteries. We should not create problems and schisms. If we want to practice a protector, then do so, if not it's okay, but don't make trouble. One should just practice the Buddha Dharma well. To do good practice. If you have faith in Dorje Shugden and trust all the way, he will definitely help you. But most important is to practice the dharma. This is his advice in short here. It's good to let more Tibetans hear this holy speech and appeal by this very senior Rinpoche. TR
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    His Holiness the Dalai Lama on Propitiating Protectors & Oracles
    This was on FB and I came across it. His Holiness said in Tibetan institutions there is a lot of propitiating protector/oracles and this is not what Buddhism is about. So they are putting Nechung/Tema oracles within the video to say what is he talking about when he does it himself. This is confusing is the message to his people. TR
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    This is Sarah. Do you have 30 seconds for her? Her life in just 30 seconds!
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    See what is your fortune today!
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    Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche recites offering stanza to Dorje Shugden Septemeber 2016

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Compassion and kindness are topics that is important for the modern children. Stella, KSDS
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It is important to cultivate compassion and kindness in the youth, hence KSDS students were watching a video on Tsem Rinpoche's act of compassion and see for themselves what is real compassion. Stella, KSDS
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KSDS teachers and students paid attention in class, the class was conducted in the Ghompa. Stella, KSDS
Homework by KSDS students submitted to teachers... nice work! Stella, KSDS
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Homework by KSDS students submitted to teachers... nice work! Stella, KSDS
Lovely art work done by KSDS young student today. Stella, KSDS
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Lovely art work done by KSDS young student today. Stella, KSDS
Today in Kechara Forest Retreat! Thank you Wah Ying!
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Today in Kechara Forest Retreat! Thank you Wah Ying!
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Teacher Yeo guided the KSDS youngest kid to blow mantra on the birds. Alice Tay, KSDS
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KFR Team and guests completed a Lama Tsongkhapa Retreat (picture by Pamela Yap)
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Pastor Han Nee led the prayers so that KSDS students can follow the prayers slowly. Alice Tay, KSDS
KSDS young kids joined to animal liberation in Kechara House. Alice Tay, KSDS
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KSDS young kids joined to animal liberation in Kechara House. Alice Tay, KSDS
Nice dharma sharing by Teacher Lin Mun & Teacher Jayce for KSDS age group from 9-17. Alice Tay, KSDS
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Nice dharma sharing by Teacher Lin Mun & Teacher Jayce for KSDS age group from 9-17. Alice Tay, KSDS
Nice dharma sharing by Teacher Lin Mun and Jayce for KSDS age group from 9-17. Alice Tay, KSDS
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Nice dharma sharing by Teacher Lin Mun and Jayce for KSDS age group from 9-17. Alice Tay, KSDS
Teacher Jayce led the students do 3 prostrations in front of Rinpoche's throne. Alice Tay, KSDS
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Teacher Jayce led the students do 3 prostrations in front of Rinpoche's throne. Alice Tay, KSDS
Teacher Jayce led the students do 3 prostrations in front of Rinpoche's throne. Alice Tay, KSDS
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Teacher Jayce led the students do 3 prostrations in front of Rinpoche's throne. Alice Tay, KSDS
Children helping in the technical room during the 2016 Graduation Day. Lin Mun KSDS.
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Children helping in the technical room during the 2016 Graduation Day. Lin Mun KSDS.
Volunteers & teachers doing make up for children in preparation for the Graduation Day performance. Lin Mun KSDS
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Volunteers & teachers doing make up for children in preparation for the Graduation Day performance. Lin Mun KSDS
Team decorating the stage in conjunction with the 2016 Lantern Festival. Lin Mun KSDS
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Team decorating the stage in conjunction with the 2016 Lantern Festival. Lin Mun KSDS
Great performance by the Peekaboo Creative academy during 2016 Lantern festival. Lin Mun KSDS
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Great performance by the Peekaboo Creative academy during 2016 Lantern festival. Lin Mun KSDS
KSK and KSDS work together to send food from donation during Halloween  to various homes. Lin Mun KSDS
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Gotong royong on Malaysia Day in Jalan Chamang. It's our responsibility to care for the cleanliness & environment. Lin Mun KSDS
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Gotong royong on Malaysia Day in Jalan Chamang. It's our responsibility to care for the cleanliness & environment. Lin Mun KSDS
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