When it’s gone, we still have the desire

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The other night I was with Paris, David and a few others and I gave them a talk on how when we have something now, we don’t have it later, but the imprints to desire for it are still there creating alot of trouble for us continuously. How does that work? What are the karmic mechanics behind it? Why is it like that?? Well I gave the explanation then asked Paris and David to write it out on their blog so I don’t have to write it..heheehe..

So Paris did. I read through it and she has captured the essence and meaning of my talk VERY WELL. Everyone has to please read it…it will help you.. Read what I explained for the few of them present with me..I get in moods to explain things and this was one of them..Paris captured it brilliantly with her delicious writing.

Please let me know what you understood from this. Name the main point I am making and give your own example of how you understood it please. You want to learn dharma and life, well here’s another opportunity!!

Tsem Rinpoche

 


 

From Paris’ blog:

As far as desire goes, I think most of us are quite full of it – we run on it, like gas. It’s what fuels us to do what we do, good, bad, ugly and all the in betweens. Buddhist scriptures describe us as existing in a desire realm – we are born as a result of desire and then we live our whole lives in desire, clamouring clamouring after things we think we love, we must have, we cannot exist without.

Now here’s the tricky thing. Desire isn’t just a pair of Calvin Klein jeans, or a new shiny bottle of perfume; it isn’t necessarily anything sexual or about wanting-needing-having relationships. It isn’t just about the desire for physical things, things you can touch or taste or see. Please continue here
 

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  1. Vinnie Tan on Aug 21, 2013 at 4:20 pm

    It is very true that desires would lead us no where in the future. We will just be driven by them, in the end, we would not experience any happiness or get anything from it at all. It is just sad to see things going on like this. It is a constant pointless chase of “happiness” that we will never be able to get no matter how many times our desires are met.

  2. Wah Ying on Aug 18, 2012 at 1:32 am

    What I understand from this article written by Jamie is we should shift from preserving something not permanent or belonged to us (body, look, money, children, house etc) to something will follow us from life to life.

    Main points from the post are:
    *We exist in a desire realm, we are the product of desire and live in desire.

    *Desire can be something physical or intangible. Whether you are materialistic or simple, quiet or loud, introvert or extrovert, you still have the desire. Desire can be in aggressive form (to have things done our way) or passive for (longing for comfort).

    *Reincarnation is not only about past and future lives, but also what we’re doing right here right now.

    *We all have our wanting, things we hang on or attached to. Things we have/get this life (beauty, money etc) are not inherited when we take birth next life. But our attitudes, tendencies and habits arise from our mind are still there. We suffer when gap appears between who you were vs how you lived then; who you are vs how you’re living now.

    *The only thing we take with us from life to life is our mind. So better spend time & effort to strengthen, improve & develop our mind; to get a more open and strong mind.

    This post makes me think of seeing my ageing face, body and comfort I have; I definitely want to maintain them, even now I am in Dharma, but lucky if I am not in Dharma sure I will stupidity pour in time and effort to maintain them but without seeing much result…I am happy I have save money, time and effort not chasing something that will disappear anytime.

    And, I understand also, wanting comfort, to have a simple life (vs to earning big money, driving big car and stay in big big house), is also a desire…haha. Knock me at my head and realize it’s so much true.

  3. Sheryl KH (JB) on Jun 27, 2012 at 10:33 pm

    This is a great teaching, for I learn that from one lifetime to another, what is contained in our minds – our attitudes, feelings, tendencies and habits stick with us.

    It takes time to develop good qualities, but it is rewarding to know that once these qualities are developed, they follow us from one life time to another and gradually we can become better person.

  4. Sam on May 22, 2012 at 12:10 am

    I must say thank you to Jamie for putting Rinpoche’s teaching into such comprehensive article. I enjoy the article a lot. I must say that everything changes and at the same time nothing changes. Nothing is permanent and everything is an illusion. What i own this moment, will eventually change in the very next moment.And sad to say that, everyone of us live with desires wanting this and that due to attachment. There is a phrase that i always remember, when you were born to this earth, you were crying and you bring nothing to the world. When you died, you also cant bring anything with you. No matter how wealthy you are, how pretty you are, how much fame you have…its a bye bye to all of this coz the coffin is just too small to fit all these…

    I like the phrase “Love the things you have and the person you are but forgoodnessakes don’t make it your entire mode of being. Having said that, live free this weekend. Loosen the strings you’ve tied on your attachments, just a little so you can breathe better.And then feel for a moment what it’s like to own nothing – but to live with the possibility of having doing living everything in the world”. Let go, forgive, transform and change because time is running out.

    Thank you Rinpoche for your teaching. Thank you Jamie for putting this up for all of us. Take good care 🙂

  5. James Long on May 21, 2012 at 4:50 pm

    我们还是可以拥有车、生意、孩子等等。可是不要执著在“这永远是我的”。

    我们现在所用的任何一物都是前人留下给我们的,我们的屋瓦砖块或许还包含我们祖先的遗体!毕竟尘归尘土归土。我们带不走什么,只有我们的善恶业。

  6. ECheah on May 21, 2012 at 12:14 am

    What keeps popping up is this message that everything we’re going about in this secular life is a whole waste of time. Nothing of it matters anymore at the point of death except if it was for the development of our mind. Whatever we usually cultivate, relationships, wealth, “talents”, degrees, careers, are a total waste of time. Whatever short lives we have left should be used to cultivate what matters most, our future lives. We came alone and will leave alone. So ideally, it might be better not to chase after any of these. The fact that we are doing so is because of our desire and attachment to them. It’s difficult when you want them and have to give them up. But it would be easy when we developed to a point when we don’t want any of them anymore. Then “renunciation” is a state of being and you didn’t have to give anything up. The focus is elsewhere.

  7. Diana Pereyda on May 18, 2012 at 6:54 am

    being female, my desire is basically to take of my family, close friend, and husband. However, i am learning not to kid myself. That my family is not there to take of me, entertain, or even be there in need. At this point, i want to take care of beings, be entertaining if possible!! and be there in need for them. Its sad that you learn all this at such a late stage.

  8. Terri on May 18, 2012 at 3:35 am

    i like the shirt!!!!

  9. Datuk May on May 17, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    As I grow older, I began to think that I have no more desires. What a delusion, although I have gotten what I want in life, it is all materialistic. With age my desires get to be less tangible and even I begin not to recognize them.

    With understanding of Dharma with Rinpoche’s teachings I begin to acknowledge what I want and desire now.

    For now I desire calmness of my mind, inner peace, acceptance of what I see as being not up to standard. Imagine, when such desires are unfulfilled what happens to my mind and on my death, I guarantee I will come back an angry ghost.

    So I question myself and reflect how to live for these desires and be ok with them. I am practising to experience my desires a 100%(pleasant or unpleasant) communicate my experiences and then let go.

    Will I be ready for a better rebirth and have less negative imprints in next life? I am working on this hard, hard work will have good results and may I succeed.

  10. Jeffrey Yee on May 17, 2012 at 2:58 am

    What a clear explanation about desires and attachment. I agree that many people do not believe in the existence of karma and reincarnation, thus they try so hard to satisfy their desires that does not matter one bit when their time is up.

    Your explanation on how beauty goes away in time gives me a very good picture about impermanence. I believe most people can relate and benefit from it after reading your post. Thanks for the great write up Jamie

  11. Koh Hee Peng on May 16, 2012 at 11:19 pm

    The best way to give up our attachments to physical things is to give them away, by offering them to our Guru, Buddha, or those people who need them more than us 😀

    The best way to give up the desire in a passive introvert – for comfort, for quietness, for preserving our precious reputations, is none other than challenging ourselves to becoming the opposite, with the motivation of benefiting others.

    By putting others before us, we are letting go of our desire, our attachments.

    Dear Rinpoche and Jamie, thank you for sharing the wonderful teachings with us. Thank you very much 😀

  12. Uncle Eddie on May 16, 2012 at 3:37 pm

    Yes, life is stressful and the cause of this stress is craving. The Buddha taught that this craving grows from ignorance of the self – because we go through life grabbing one thing after another to ease our stress. We are attached not only to physical things, but also to ideas and opinions about ourselves and the world around us. Physical things can be lost and we get frustrated, when life doesn’t conform to needs and opinions, we get disheartened. By our practice, we can realise the true nature of self and other, and put an end to craving. It is said that the truth of Buddha’s teachings must be intimately experienced and realised for oneself, as Buddhism is more a discipline than a belief system. People go through life running toward what they desire and away from what they dislike. As a matter of fact, we’re being jerked around by attraction and aversion. Our culture tells us that its good to acquire things like material possession and fame,so there’s nothing wrong with desiring and pursuing them. But the moment when we acquire them, we dont stay happy for long before we start chasing something else. Whatever we think will make us happy can also make us miserable. Realising non-attachment is not easy. Ironically, its a practice that requires giving up ideas about goals and rewards, or escaping to a better place, but the better idea is to stay put and practice deligently on how to rid ourselves of such negavities. Realising this is non-attachment!

  13. andrew hibberd on May 15, 2012 at 6:33 pm

    here is my lesson on desire nearly every night my sons five of them at least one come to me and say daddy can you come outside and help me let this lizard moth bug go so they can fly one day again

  14. lucy yap on May 15, 2012 at 3:03 pm

    An excellent Dharma writer you are,Jamie!To let go of attachments lifts a tremendous burden on oneself.Life is happier and more pleasant.I have many attachments too and am working on it.
    Rinpoche’s teachings have helped me to realised a different view on life,impermanence and death itself.
    Thank you my kind Rinpoche for reminding us not to be trapped in our deluded mind.

  15. MayOng on May 15, 2012 at 2:08 pm

    I desire for anything that brings forth positivity and spend more time and effort on the effects and results it can and will bring.

    Then the balance will be left to indulge in some “negative” samsaric normal pleasures of life.

  16. sweekeong on May 15, 2012 at 12:48 pm

    Whatever I desire I spend a lot of time, effort, and money to have it. But it never last long, the euphoria of owning something of having something will go away after I have acquired. Then I see someone has the latest cool stuff, I think I want it for myself as well. The cycle repeats. I desire it for myself.

    From the article another form of desire is inner at peace desire, I do not want to do anything, I do not want to be involved, so I become peaceful. A fake peace of existence, a passive desire, as Jamie put it. It is the fear of rejection of not being accepted.

    On another note to have a lot of friends because the desire to be validated by others, which cannot stand loneliness and desire to have companionship. Therefore most of thoughts of myself is mostly operated from desire for something or avoidance of something. Thank you Jamie sharing a deeply meaningful on desire to us all. 🙂

  17. Julia Tan on May 15, 2012 at 3:19 am

    My lovely Jamie, at this hour normally my brain already shut down, and my fingers are on my iPad but not typing anymore cause my eyes already closed. Hehehe.. But after reading your blog sharing about Rinpoche’s beautiful teaching I’m now all awake and I wanted to write something about it. 

    Since I was born.. I am getting what I want using what was born into. Alright alright .. I fail for my marriage but I’m glad I did if not I would not have the chance or the freedom i must say to do what I’m doing now.

    I walked into the kitchen when I turned 39! I am experiencing what you had just said in Rinpoche’s teaching,  It has helped me understand what I’m going through now. 

    The kitchen is hot and I’m sweating like a pig everyday. Cutting garlic and onion made my fingers smelly, washing and cleaning made my hands dry! My face and hair are oily and sticky all the time! 

    I am so sorry everyone.. I am truly not who you think I am. I am a totally kitchen idiot who is still struggling to remember all the vegetables’ names! And you know some food their names are soooo long.. 

    I am letting go the life style that I’ve been living into for ages into a new environment. What pushes me to go on is my wish of being able to serve my guru. Everyday I tell myself I can do better.

    Thank you Rinpoche for giving me the opportunity to put Rinpoche’s teaching into action! To learn how to let go of who I am! When I pass the test, I can be who I am whenever I want to. Yay!!

    I like what you said:

    It’s like being given a beautiful fur coat while you’re living in Alaska. You love it for its warmth, comfort and protection from the cold and do everything you can to preserve it. Then, you migrate to across the world to a place like damnbloodyhot Malaysia. That very same thing you Loved Cherished Preserved becomes something that creates discomfort, suffering, aversion.

    WISH ME LUCK! 

         

  18. Li Kim on May 15, 2012 at 2:17 am

    This is one topic which hits close to the heart for me… I AM the Poster Child for Desires. Jamie and I are true sisters from this realm of desires, if I may say so.

    I have always had everything I ever wanted – shoes, clothes, money, opportunities, friends and yes, men too… But I was never satisfied. The happiness I had was temporary, and I always ended up wondering. I always wanted more – more shoes, more friends, more this and more that… Before I got married, I even collected boyfriends like how someone would collect stamps. Unfortunately, boyfriends unlike stamps do not appreciate with time. Yes, I was no angel and I dare not say I am now.

    Meeting Rinpoche and learning the Dharma from him has made me see and realize what I am and how my desires dictated who I am. I was what I wore…very shallow indeed. One teaching Rinpoche gave me which stuck like glue was that today with dharma, I can be whoever I am but the icing on the cake of my personality is Dharma – wanting to serve others through sharing myself and my knowledge of the Dharma.

    I would like to say dramatically that Dharma and Rinpoche saved my life BUT in honesty, Rinpoche and Dharma saved WHO I am and can be, and it is this person who will save my life. This life and I hope many next lives.

    Do I still have desires? YES I DO but does it dictate who I am and what I can do… NO. I now realize that what I want is really not that important. And more importantly, if I do not get it, LIFE goes on. So, I better focus on making my life better and not indulge in the fancy desires I have.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this teaching and to Jamie for ever so beautifully writing it up. Thank you for saving ME.

  19. Christine Wang on May 15, 2012 at 1:23 am

    What I have learned is that the desire we have in this lifetime is the imprint of past lives. We always say people are born with different characters , you can even see a baby’s character. Who we are now and our desires are just an accumulation from many lifetimes. Can there be “good” desires? For example, the desire to help others. And then there are “bad” desires, like the desire for fame and beauty, which are not permanent. I should learn to keep the “good” desires and tame the “bad” ones in this lifetime. Just like some character traits that we grew up with, we only realise which ones we should keep when we grow older and wiser. But there are some traits that we wish we were not born with but can’t change because the imprint is so deep that bad habits keep repeating themselves even though we don’t like them. I ask myself why I was born with these bad character traits. I want to “wake up” in the next life without asking the same question again and again. But if I don’t work on the bad qualities NOW, I will “wake up” in the next life asking the same question again.

    I desire to be recognised as a smart person. I have the desire to be beautiful and have beautiful things around me. But with Dharma, I now realise that so many things that people keep saying you must have in life are not that important.

    I still have my desires but I’m aware that the “desires” I have are not that important but which I still can’t give up. I hope this awareness will keep me going in this life and be a better person than my last life. In doing so, I hope this will create the cause for me to become a better person in my next life and so this awareness will become stronger with every lifetime to come.

    Christine Wang in Shanghai

  20. su an on May 15, 2012 at 12:34 am

    Jamie Paris thank you so much for remembering and sharing Rinpoche’s precious teachings to us, written so humorously and understandable for us.

    Some of the points i learned from your post is that desire is so sneaky! And one of the key antidote to conquering desire is… to remember that death is just a breath away. And that whatever we have been trying to hoard to make us happy in this life, does not carry forward like an asset account balance. So what’s the point of letting desire control our lives and be miserable in this life to maintain our desirous lifestyle?

    And the great thing about this teaching is.. you don’t have to be a Buddhist for it to “work”! Really, it applies whether we believe in Buddha or not.

  21. KYC on May 15, 2012 at 12:32 am

    The main points of the teaching have been outlined by Tat Ming. I remember once Rinpoche said that ignorance is the cause of suffering but desire is the fuel. The teaching is about not being attached to things that are impermanent and to develop our mind to overcome the endless suffering of cyclic existence.

  22. Sean Pang on May 14, 2012 at 11:48 pm

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for this lesson, and thank you, Ms Paris, for an entertaining and very informative write-up. And to all the lucky ones who were there when Rinpoche was in the mood to explain things… you’re SO lucky…

    It’s true that desires come in all shapes and sizes and can take over a weak will silently, disguised in the most innocent form. Desire doesn’t only come in the form of an Aston Martin DB7 (I wonder who on earth would desire this subtly gorgeous “please bring me home” car…), it comes in a bowl of laksa, it comes as an appreciative glance from a stranger when you put on your best suit, it’s the ultimate ninja! But it’s much easier to remember the “big” desires, like beauty, a great paying job and that amazingly crafted Aston Martin, and consciously tell ourselves that it’s a bad, bad thing to NEED these things. It’s the “little” desires which are much harder to watch out for, because these are fleeting desires that come and go in a flash. You don’t even know when you’ve been sucker-punched. Then when their gone, they’re forgotten. But the fact remains that we have DESIRED something. When something like this happens so fast, how can we work on it? That’s the thing, we have to start somewhere else.

    There is a difference between WANT and NEED. Desires are based on needs but we don’t really need anything except for the most basic things to keep us alive. So is wanting something better? I suppose that depends on the motivation. If I WANT an Aston Martin (no, no, I don’t really WANT an Aston Martin… really…) because I WANT to look cool, then I NEED the attention and adoration from others, and if I lose the car, I lose face. Boing! Zero marks! But if I WANT an Aston Martin simply because I think it’s a good car and if I lose the car, I lose a car, then I would have had no attachment to the car and still have enjoyed having had the car! Isn’t it such a relief knowing that you can have something without fear? No fear of losing something also means no fear of not having it in the first place, so having something without desire or attachment is a bonus!

    Easier said than done though. Even with the most noble thoughts and motivations, we can easily slip and give in to a subconscious desire. I’m not rich but I’m committed to doing Dharma work. I want more because I want to do more good and I know I can do much more (Rinpoche said I’m greedy: yes, dear Rinpoche, you’re right, I AM greedy!) but I’m still susceptible to day-dreaming about that Aston Martin. Do I need an Aston Martin to do Dharma work? No. So what is it for? I have a million damn good reasons why an Aston Martin is good for Dharma work – and some of them may even be true! – but the simple truth is that I DESIRE that vroom vroom. By no means do I waste my time pining for it but every time I see one on a magazine or on the street, there’s that ever-so-slight skip of the heartbeat…

    We were born with nothing and when we die, we bring nothing with us. Whatever we may come to have, we should put it to good use and not let it serve as our prison. Whatever we see that we may not have, leave it where it is and not let it serve as our prison. Only then can we be free.

    Much to learn. Much more to work on. But I take PLEASURE in learning and working on my own development: with NO DESIRE!! 🙂

    Sean Pang in Shanghai

  23. Sock Wan on May 14, 2012 at 10:13 pm

    Thank you Jamie for blogging it and sharing the teaching with us. It is our desire that creates attachment. We thought our attachments are going to to bring us happiness when in reality attachments bring us sufferings.

    We work on the basis of ‘ME’, what ‘I WANT’ and what ‘I NEED’. We want money, we want career, we want a relationship, we want recognition, we think we will be happy getting what we want. Then we have stress, we are sick, we become depress, we have to watch our back, we have less time, we are unhappy, then we die. When we die, we lose everything we used to have, but our mind does not cease its existence, it takes rebirth. With an unhappy mind, we continue with another unhappy life.

    Now, what Jamie explains here completely makes sense to me. Lot’s of my attachments do not bring me to a happier life. By letting go of ‘Me’, ‘Myself’ and ‘I’, I am happier each day. Now, not having attachment does not mean we refuse to have or not to have something. It simply means if we have it, it’s ok. If we don’t have it, we will still be ok!

    • andrew hibberd on May 15, 2012 at 6:38 pm

      my conclusion is we are just as happy with little as a lot each one of us humans has to decide the complex difference in our own minds today there are 7.5 billion of us by my reckoning sensus will tell us 7.1 and within fifty years we will be 11 billion people and in or wake thousands of precious species will leave our present life stored only in genetical dna profile in a lab somehwere , love it like it is sure love it like it will become sure

  24. Louise Lee on May 14, 2012 at 9:27 pm

    拥有与占有,只是一线之差!欲望让我们争取 ! 但是过分, 就很强求,甚至会让人难堪!

    从小就习惯不可以有太强的欲望,因为爸爸又两个家!我们两家人都可以和睦相处 , 就是因为爸爸会做人!我们也很明白事理!

    拥有,不代表可以持续! 我们要学会珍惜当下!失去了, 也不是什么大不了!

    这是我过去的经验, 谢谢大家!!

  25. Su Ming on May 14, 2012 at 9:24 pm

    Ethan,

    It is so true, everyone whom i have come across always asked me about Dharma ie MUST YOU GIVE UP smoking, drinking, clubing, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, eating & etc. My typical answer is “HELLO, do you think I have given up on all those?” After a few moments of silence and staring at me, then they come to their own conclusion, NO CHUAH SU MING has not given up on any of those.

    I am very fortunate to have A LOT of moments Rinpoche has given me teachings/advices & etc directly. One of the pivotal teaching which made me contemplate really hard was on “losing one’s identity”. And the main purpose is for us to succeed in whatever we are doing. That teaching really blew my mind.

    We are so fixated with our own identity ie : Chuah Su Ming is fun, loving, soft, impulsive, slow & etc. Once we are fix on what we can do and cannot do, we set our own perimeters thus it affects the results we want to achieve. For whatever reason, we are failing is because we are attached to what we can do and cannot do. BUT once we have let go of that, we are able to fly and succeed in what we thought we cannot achieve. And that for me makes me want to do more.

    Yes, I have not given up on some of my attachments till today but I have started to let go of the expectation of what my attachment should give me. I am loving every moment of it cause you are in control.

  26. Lim Han Nee on May 14, 2012 at 5:30 pm

    Desire(what Kahlil Gibran describes as “life’s longing for itself”) is what causes us to be reborn again and again in this Desire Realm of existence.

    The scary part is that one makes the pursuit of the objects of one’s desire the central focus of this life -one’s life revolves around these objects of desire which are impermanent. Suffering comes when change sets in and that which makes us desire a particular object is no longer present.

    Worse suffering (suffering of the most unimaginable degree) sets in when we die with a mind that is still grasping at the objects of our desire. Then we are reborn in a place where the scenario drastically changes.”Everything that was important and central to (us) before is no longer there”. Unfortunately, we still bring the same grasping mind, same negative attitudes,same negative habits, same negative tendencies, to a new rebirth, where things are the entire opposite of what we had experienced in a previous life.This huge gap or difference is what will cause unimaginable suffering.

    The only thing that travels consistently across lifetimes is our mind. We can’t carry anything else we have in this life over to another one.This mind that travels across lifetimes carries imprints of all our negative actions and negative habituations , attitudes and tendencies.

    Hence, in order to avoid suffering, we need to work on our desirous attachments that give rise to all our negativities in our mindstream. Let go of them,loosen them starting from NOW, if we haven’t already done so.

    Desire for me is more of the subtle kind, desire to remain in my comfort zone and to have things done my way. So I must constantly whittle at these if I am to ultimately find peace and freedom from suffering.

  27. henry ooi on May 14, 2012 at 5:23 pm

    I have similar mind and physical attachments like the vast majority of people on this planet.

    The GRASPING of some ATTACHMENTS are so strong that I CLING on to them like dear life because I thought they make me feel good. Like a sense of achievement, gratification, etc. But these DO NOT LAST forever. When the so called euphoria is over, I search for the high AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN. These WANTONS and NEEDS HABITUATE my mind and body over the years and it is so hard to re habituate them into positive energies. But I STILL plod on…..

    I count myself, among others, very fortunate to have met Rinpoche, for whom without, I would not be in DHARMA.
    Rinpoche is continuously teaching us to contemplate on DEATH, playing the process of death over and over again in our mind. Like looking at my corpse, like some people described as out of body experience, laying in the coffin in those wakes that I have been to, going through the funeral rites, being pushed into the incinerator with my corpse inside the coffin and imagining the searing heat melting my rotting flesh (of course I would not feel it then but if I cannot withstand the pain of my finger being burned when I am alive then the heat intensity in the incinerator must be thousands of times more unbearable,. This, I imagine, to have a comparison), and then my loved ones collecting my bones and ashes to be strewn out in the sea/river.

    Yes, it sounds kinda morbid but the stark truth is that one day I WILL be really going through it.

    What I am saying here is dharma is so profoundly delivered by Rinpoche with examples so that I and others could comprehend. But understanding is one thing, PRACTICING is experiential. Rinpoche is continuously reminding us of letting go because at the time of death, we may not then.

  28. Mc on May 14, 2012 at 5:22 pm

    There is a very important and powerful lesson and Jamie’s write-up superbly captures the crux of the teaching and expresses it in simple terms.

    Human beings are so driven by desire but we hardly recognize it and it comes across so natural and instinctive. I find it helpful that Jamie pointed out that desire is not always expressed in raw and tangible displays of wanting, but can also be as subtle as a benign need to be accepted and loved.

    To be able to cast light onto those invisible things that drive our thoughts and decisions, to be presented with methods to check if these things are good or bad for us, and then to be taught ways to look at these desires differently, is very liberating. In the past, “happiness” was being able to fulfill a particular desire and it is the ability to fulfill things that are of no real importance that drives us deeper into our mistaken views.

    I like what Jamie said, “what i want ,I also get” and our entire live is trained on GETTING, instead of letting go.

    What is taught here is so logical but we would not have gotten it until it is spelled out for us. How remarkably ignorant we are.

    • Martin on Dec 27, 2012 at 5:13 am

      Come to think of it, getting everything or even most of what we want and desire in this life may not be such a good thing after all. Not only is all that wanting and having futile because eventually we have to let everything go when we die, but our minds carry forward that wanting AND expecting into our next life and the odds are, that is when we will suffer because the desire will still be there but the conditions of fulfillment probably won’t. And hence the unfulfilled expectations become a longing that expresses itself in many different ways. As I am writing this I am also checking all the things I long for and most are intangibles. Where do they come from? It is not as if one day in the past I came across a shop that sold “Acceptance” and I thought I wanted that and have longed for it ever since. It is the desires I developed from previous lives that came with tragic expectations of having all my desires fulfilled. This is what is causing the pain and discomfort…and I am doing it again in this life! The sense of longing can become acute over time as the sense of being unfulfilled builds up and we start to behave out of an unidentified and unending need.

      It is not like we should go through life without any desire. That would be boring but it certainly helps to give pause to urge that can be overwhelming until you shine light on it and recall what it actually is and where it comes from.

      Wouldn’t it be the greatest thing if we could channel all that desperate energy into a desire to do something good with our lives, something that could benefit others per the Dharma. That would be a great desire to carry forward to our future lives.

      I am glad I revisited this post and Jamie, after reading what you wrote 20 times, it is still good! I guess the truth is the only thing that doesn’t age or expire.

  29. Joe Ang on May 14, 2012 at 4:06 pm

    Dear Jamie,
    thank you for this wonderful article written about desire. The word desire, is far more profound than just wanting things… money, status, sex, sports car, a mansion and the list goes on and on. Some people might think, I’m ok, as I do not crave for all these (a few things listed above).

    But (taken from your article above), desire could manifest as a silent but overwhelming need for acceptance, or to be left alone, to do nothing, to have things done only the way *I* want things to be done. The desire in a passive introvert – for comfort, for quietness, for preserving our precious reputations – could well be as strong as it is in an extrovert.

    If only people realize, at the time of death, none of the material things we chased after and try so freakin hard to preserve really matters. Even our body which may be beautiful now, in 10, 20, 30 years will be crumpled and wrinkly…
    So, what matters and will be with us even after death, is our MIND. A tenant that lives temporarily in this body. A body that is deteriorating every second and eventually rot whether we like it or not.

  30. patsy on May 14, 2012 at 3:33 pm

    Thank you, Jamie, for this write up. This is a meaningful and profound teachings but you presented it in a fun, interesting way to read and digest.

    Desire and attachments are my worst enemies and for the past years I have tried to lessen them. It is not easy but knowing that the results will be beneficial in the long run, I will put my effort into letting go of my attachments.

    Contemplation on death and impermenance can wake us to realize that everything we chased, craved or desired for in this life will be taken away at the time of death. We take nothing except our imprints and our karma which will follow us wherever we go. If we do not transform and change our habituation of self grasping, we will suffer even more in our future rebirths as our self grasping will be ingrained much more deeper. I am so glad that we have met Rinpoche who has taught us so much dharma. Without his kindness, we will still be trapped in our self-cherishing mind.

    Well I still love all things nice but that doesn’t mean that I will chase after them. There’s more to life now than just self indulgence.

  31. KH Ng on May 14, 2012 at 12:24 pm

    Jamie captured the meaning of the teaching very well especially for the world at large. I like the takeaway summary;

    “Love the things you have and the person you are but forgoodnessakes don’t make it your entire mode of being.”

    Also, the desires that we have this life is mostly from the habits that we had in our past life. Jamie’s version is more romantic but the truth is that not many has such “privilege” past life. Most of our past life habituations are most ordinary yet as negative and as deluded as her examples. We may lived the same type of lives as this one in an unending cycle and if we do not take the opportunity to practice in this life, it will be worst.

    • pastor ngeow on Jun 24, 2012 at 9:47 pm

      yes KH, the essence of Buddha’s middle way wisdom is to avoid extremes. It is not about giving up the necessities of life , including sense pleasures otherwise we can’t function as an unimpaired human with full sense faculties.We should not be obsessed with worldly things and devote our whole life in pursuit of them , with no space for spiritual development.Rehabituation , change becomes impossible.

  32. Wendy Loh on May 14, 2012 at 12:07 pm

    Thank you, Jamie for a writing such a “fun and easy” article on Dharma. I am sure many people can relate to it. Ultimately, we are all programmed to function and play in a dualistic existence, meaning things are either right or wrong, beautiful and ugly, rich or poor and bright or dark. Our mind is wired to perceive the external environment this way since birth and perhaps since the beginning of time and civilization. Desires…oh… very yummy…will always pull us to either side of the yardstick. We either go to the left or right, go up or down etc. The thing is, like Lord Shakyamuni Buddha himself, we gotta release the yardstick of duality and transcend even the middle path because there is only a mid-point when there are two extreme ends, no? Just something to think about. 🙂 Cheers!

  33. Deborah on May 14, 2012 at 10:23 am

    i think the lesson is that what we crave will never satisfy us and that’s why no matter how much we have we’re never really happy inside. so life has to be more than Me, Myself & I. The change is not an easy road but we have to start somewhere.

  34. Jay Jae on May 14, 2012 at 9:27 am

    In the Buddhist scriptures we’re always told that the root cause for us to be involved in this cyclic existence is out attachment to things, people, feelings, situations, trauma etc. Buddha of course had it simple in a one-liner which I had a tough time understanding where it came from and what he really meant.

    We can’t get away with being without our favourite stuff, loved ones etc. The effort we’ve put into getting them is already a production by itself. If we have the karma to get it and our desires and attachment towards it doesn’t blow up any bigger, chances are, we can be well sedated with a dose of contentment. More often we’re propelled to want more, get more and the entire production of getting it will go on and on and on……

    I like adapting the new idea of keeping what we have and not to over react to it to achieve a healthy state of mind. We won’t wanna find ourselves in a mental hospital over a 24 karat diamond, would we? Likewise we won’t like to find ourselves being reborn in an animal realm from over repulsiveness of our attachment over a comfortable pair of pig-skin shoes!

  35. Irene Lim on May 14, 2012 at 9:00 am

    Jamie, you an excellent Dharma writer. You captured the essence of Rinpoche’s teachng and conveyed in your stylish manner to suit sophisticated people in this era. You are a shining gem in the making.

  36. Vincent Cheng on May 14, 2012 at 3:36 am

    Aim for #1 and get all the rest. I desire the highest. I desire Enlightenment.

  37. David Loh on May 14, 2012 at 2:42 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for opening our thick skulls and sturborn minds. As always it’s presented most excellently by Paris.

    I’m a ‘desire’ being of the highest degree. I have wants and needs if put into writing would probably contain more pages than our Lamrin book. Still learning to let go of feeble attachments that initially I thought would lead to my ultimate happiness in life. I have to constantly remind myself that life is uncertain but death is. As we can’t turn back time, the only thing we can do now is to let go, let loose and stress less because when the cravings stop the disappointments will too.

    We are all so attacheded to our youth, our good looks (applies to some), wealth, title, beautiful wife or handsome husband etc etc. Growing old, plastic surgery disasters, losing money, business fails, losing trust and title, wife running away or husband vise versa; happens to many. What happens next? Are we prepared for such change? We shouldn’t give a damn about all these when we are in Dharma but, we are still unknowingly so caught up with feeling good during whatever remaining time in this miserable existence of ours.

    I just hope that when my time is up, I would have done ‘enough’ to at least secure a good rebirth. Achieving enlightenment would be a sure plus plus though! Or at least be good enough to sweep floors for Buddha in Tushita. Hahahha.

    Will start pondering on the eight worldy concerns, make notes and ‘strike’ out as I progress in life. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing and Jamie for putting this in writing.

  38. Sharon Saw on May 14, 2012 at 1:39 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for this teaching and to Jamie for her brilliant sharing in her inimitable style (yes you’re the best writer i know)… this teaching underlines what Rinpoche has always taught:

    1. Everything is impermanent.
    2. We cannot take anything with us to our next life except our state of mind. Thus whatever we are attached to in this life will mean nought in the next.
    3. Everyone operates from desire because this is the strongest affliction of this era.
    4. Desire and attachments bring suffering, not the objects in themselves, because we suffer when we do not have what we desire.

    The key of the teaching is that whatever we are attached to in this life will not serve us in the next life because in our next life, we may not have the karma to have whatever we have in this life.

    For those who do not believe in the next life, despite so many documentaries which have pretty much proven it such as in the video Rinpoche referred to, we can look at our attachments in this life and how they do not bring us long lasting happiness.

    Personally, I realised the futility of desire a few years ago, when i used to hanker after the Porsche 911 (the model of that time) then a few years later, when i looked at that same model, i realised that i did not like it anymore because it was an old model by then, and instead, i liked (and wanted to have) the new model. Then I realised that if i had this new model, in a few years i would not want it anymore because a newer model would be out and i would want that.. and so the cycle would continue with the a desire which would never be satisfied. Any satisfaction of that desire would be only temporary (very). From this very superficial ‘want’, i realised that all desire was impermanent. Whatever material item that we seek for “happiness” is illusory thus the happiness is fleeting.

    Attachments are not just to material things though – attachments to our opinions, our presumptions and assumptions, attachments to our attitudes, our self perceptions are equally illusory and equally damaging. Especially to ourselves. We often enshrine our own qualities as if they are the 6 perfections. I used to be very bad tempered… and i would tell proudly my partners, i am like this, take it or leave it. Then after learning dharma, i realised that why do i want to be like “this” if “this” is not a good quality. So i changed. Ok, so the temper still resurfaces now and then (but don’t tell anyone), but it’s a work in progress. And that is why i love Dharma. Dharma, as taught by Rinpoche, teaches us that we are in control of our lives… if we are sick of suffering, these are the roots of our suffering… and how to cut it. Desire is one of the 3 root delusions – the other two being ignorance and anger (read Rinpoche’s teaching on this in the brilliant book, “Snakes, Roosters, Pigs” http://vajrasecrets.com/books/english-books/snakes-roosters-and-pigs.html).

    Thank you Rinpoche for the valuable reminder of how deluded desires are our biggest obstacle to real, permanent and true happiness.

  39. lewkwanleng on May 14, 2012 at 12:59 am

    This topic is reincarnation and attachment are the basics of Buddhism, but the teachings are indeed profound. I hope I get it right. What stand out for me are:

    1. There is no point talking reincarnation if we only care whether we remember our past lives. Accepting reincarnation has the important impact of NOW and FUTURE.

    2. The only thing we bring with us into another life is our mind stream, behavior, attitudes, tendencies and habits. Not wealth, clothing, cars, houses, etc. Therefore, it only make sense to train and accumulate positive qualities for our mind; not our wealth, etc.

    3. I have always thought of attachments as something BIG and MATERIAL. What I realize now, is that those not-so-obvious such as attachment to comfort zone, laziness etc are indeed the killer. Being attached to comfort zone and laziness will get us to stay put and do not improve.

    4. Letting go of wealth, fame, etc does not mean we give up EVERYTHING and live on the street. It is a state of mind, and a context to operate from. Even though we have the wealth, we do not operate as if we spend our entire effort to protect it, and if we lose it, we will go crazy.

    Thank you for sharing such important teachings.

  40. June Kang on May 13, 2012 at 11:24 pm

    Dear Jamie

    Thank for the following saying:-

    “While reincarnation and karma forms the cornerstone of every Buddhist teaching, it’s not just some trip on what we were before or where we’re going to next. Actually, it’s about what we’re doing right here, right now” .

    The above is a very good checking tool to keep reminds me on whatever I am doing now.

    “Loosen the strings you’ve tied on your attachments, just a little so you can breathe better. Yes, would start to let go some of the attachments, otherwise suffering would follow me and end up I cannot breathe. Thanks again for all the “reminders” to wake me up.

  41. pastor ngeow on May 13, 2012 at 11:16 pm

    This is a deeply meaningful teaching and very well explained by Jamie. It holds the key to freedom from continuous suffering.When basic desire develops into craving and intensifying into grasping , attachment sets in and we are super glued to the object of desire.
    The deception is that we think getting what we want brings pleasure and leads to instant sense gratification. This is very addictive and a main reason we keep repeating this formula to the extent that we will reject or even harm anything or anyone that stands between us and the object of our desire. If we stop to examine this we will find that it is very costly and foolish for us to continue with this pleasure formula as the short term benefit we receive will result in endless suffering. Even this short term pleasure is a falsehood as we all know experientially, that once we have obtained that object, we are never satiated and we want more of it as in money or we turn to other objects when the object which appeared so attractive before quickly lose its appeal once we have got it.
    At the time of death , we can take nothing with us , things that we have spent so much effort and caused so much harm to ourselves and others to get it. This attachment to or grasping at worldly concerns of fame, wealth, possessions etc and our own body , at time of death, will dominate our last thoughts which trigger the karma to keep going through the suffering cycle of samsaric existence. The imprints from such delusions unfortunately will continue into our next rebirth. These imprints which are the substantial cause for us to repeat the same tendencies to chase after things will not even provide temporary benefits as our next rebirth may not have the same environmental conditions for them to operate like in our previous existence.
    It make sense to let go of or at least loosen our attachments which only lead to negative karma now and in future.We must not waste time to train our mind , purify the negativities and accumulate vast merits which is what matters at time of death and which will ensure good rebirths.

  42. Yoke Fui on May 13, 2012 at 11:07 pm

    Attachments come in various forms- things we think are the source of our happiness, security,fame , comfort zone or power.

    When we take our last breath, we will have no clue as to where we shall be when we open our eyes again and look around us. Being attached or having the imprint of things we are attached to will be the direct cause of our next uncontrolled rebirth of suffering. Attachments to all our worldly happiness will never give the ultimate contentment because they will only bound us to another round of birth-aging -death.

    Yet, we are so fixated with our many life times of habits that attachments / desires are like our inborn nature. The sutra says humans of the desirous realms are like moths flying into the fire . Rinpoche uses various methods to wake us up, to shift us from the comfortable habits of always doing things our ways. These methods may be painful at imes, in long term spiritual goal they are necessary.

    On the path of Guru Devotion, out of his great compassion the Guru will continuously work on the students till all traces of negative imprints are completely purified and at the same time the Guru will create virtuous projects for students to accumulate the necessary merits to support the training.

    Thank you, Rinpoche.

  43. Lim Tat Ming on May 13, 2012 at 11:00 pm

    Dear Rinpoche

    Below are my understanding of the main points from the teachings on desire and attachment based on Jamie’s excellent write-up.

    1. We are desire realm beings.

    2. Our desire for things are unlimited, it includes everything that is perceivable by our 6 sense doors.

    3. We become attached to these sensory objects when we come into contact with them.

    4. Objects do not remain the same, objects change when the causes and conditions change.

    5. We cannot bring with us whatever we desire or attached to when we die.

    6. Our past attitudes, feelings, tendencies and habits travel with us from life to life.

    7. There is a big gap between what we were, what we are and what we will be. The conditions of the three times are different. Due to our past habituations, our experiences of them will be different from the past, at the present moment and in the future. And that creates suffering for us.

    8. Everything is impermanent. We will die eventually.

    9. We have a choice now: (a) To be attached to our desired objects and not letting them go even when we die (b) To let go of our desired objects now

    10. We should develop the good qualities for our mind now because these good qualities can travel with us into the future lives.

    11. Why spend our limited time and so much effort on things that we can’t take with us when we die?

    12. It doesn’t mean we cannot experience all these sensory objects. We can but we should not be attached to them and be controlled by our desires. When the time comes for us to die, we leave freely without attachment.

    13. It is the state of our mind – desirous attachment – and not all the objects that we desired that we need to be mindful of all the time. We must develop and realize the quality of non-attachment.

    Thank You.

  44. Lim KSJC on May 13, 2012 at 10:40 pm

    Whats a beautiful quote in Jamie blog,

    “There’s a choice we can make now, a little gamble, like the biggest game show of our lives:

    – Keep everything exactly the way it is – be obsessed with your beauty, relationships, wealth, everything everything – and risk losing it all completely, nada, back to zero in that bank account of Life (with a capital L)

    OR

    – Let go of your obsession with it now, live peacefully and die freely with no encumbrances. (Letting go doesn’t mean you have to give it up – it doesn’t mean you go live on the streets and scratch up your face with a blade – it just means you start not operating solely out of that and being so attached to having it / needing it).”

    Although this quote is simple to read and understand but the most challenge is HOW to back to Zero in that bank of Life??? I think this is very hard due to our ignorance but IF we Try to Step Out first move to transform sure we will make it one day…

    Thanks Rinpoche and Jamie for sharing…

  45. Han on May 13, 2012 at 10:30 pm

    Joey, I agreed with what you wrote :

    “The post has gave me an additional checking tool on how i can use to undo my desires or keep it under control: by realizing that I have something better to do rather than indulge in it. ”

    This life time, we should not just indulge in ME ME ME, or just to satisfy own desire.
    Its a hard journey to abandon attachments that we been very good at since young,
    I am letting go of my attachments and when come to crucial time, I still feel that the level of letting go is not 100%, because anger, jealousy etc still arise. Checking my mind if I am still attach or non attach is a key when dealing with daily life.

    This wonderful teaching by Rinpoche and written by Jamie remind me always check my mind not to attach, not to indulge in personal desires, but indulge more in helping others.
    There are more important things in life than self indulgence.

  46. william on May 13, 2012 at 8:39 pm

    Desires and attachments- I have lots of them and still hang on to them. Travelling, sleep and hanging out with friends are what I like. To let go of them will take a very long time. I always tell myself that I am ok if I do not go somewhere and I feel alright. But the devil in me will always turn things the other way around and make me think otherwise. It is always a war inside my head.

    Anyways, I believe that all these desires can be lessened and then eventually becomes non-attachment anymore. And that is we give them up for something greater. After all, we can’t take them to our graves or next lifetime.

    What I understand is that we will have desires, whether we already have it, no longer have it or want to have it. This is because we have had the experience (good ones, that’s why we want it) and want it to continue. However, when circumstances change and we are attached to the desire, then we will crave and seek for it.

    The main thing is not to be attached to the desire. Great to have it but ok if we do not have it.

  47. Valentina Suhendra on May 13, 2012 at 8:18 pm

    Dear Jamie
    Your blog post, as always, has been very entertaining. Thank you for writing about desire. I guess many of us have been the victims of desire. Not looking outside for examples but looking inward, from the day I was born until now, I have always been enveloped by desire. The more I get what I want, the greedier I become. The mind has always played tricks, “if you have this, you will be happy. If you have that, you will no longer be left wanting.” But the minute I got what I want, I keep wanting for more and sadly fear developed because I am afraid of losing the things that I have just obtained that my monkey mind said will bring tremendous happiness. So, what supposed to be happiness, became fear and I have to spend more time maintaining what the thing that I have just obtained that suppose to bring me happiness. It is pure suffering of the worst kind – at least for me.
    In one of my contemplations in the past, I have been thinking whether it would be easier for me if I just get rid of some little privileges that I have and born with. Perhaps, I would be calmer and happier. But as years goes by, I noted that not using my privilleges impeded some of the work that I wish to do such as giving and helping others in my charity works. Perhaps, some of the privileges can be leveraged to help others instead of for my own benefit.
    So as you said in you blog, getting rid of desire and attachments is not about throwing what you have and live in the street. But it’s about how you view and use what you have and not get attached with them.

  48. joey wong on May 13, 2012 at 7:17 pm

    Dear Rinpoche,

    I find the talk and Jamie’s summary very powerful as I do have issues with my attachments. I tend to allow them to override my life and motivations for the day. I have only been suppressing and distracting the urges to get something for example, but very rarely i get to the bottom of it and cut it from there.

    The post has gave me an additional checking tool on how i can use to undo my desires or keep it under control: by realizing that I have something better to do rather than indulge in it. It also reinforced what I have already realized: taking things on the surface and being attached to that brings nothing but suffering in the long run. I have stopped doing that for sometime.

    It also helped drilled down deeper that there is nothing permanent in samsara and there is no use hanging on to anything here. I understand that point intellectually but i find that i have not been able to operate from that way and this post gave me another angle to it.

    Thank you Jamie for writing this down as it does help me a lot.

  49. DR on May 13, 2012 at 6:07 pm

    Jamie, your comprehension of dharma and then elucidating it in a style that makes the reader want to carry on reading is amazing.

    Just want to add on to it as i have been asked this many times. Having finer things in life is itself not attachment. Attachment is when you have it and your fear of losing it. It is when you dont have it anymore, and you suffer from it. Desire is when you wish for something so badly that you suffer along the way to get it or worse still, suffer because you never get it.

    When I first met Rinpoche, 17 years ago, one of the thought provoking questions he asked me then was ” have you ever seen any baby born with all the material items he accumulated from his previous life? If the answer is no, then the focus on this life should not be on desiring and working towards it but developing qualities that you can bring along to your next life.”

    In summary, yes sure i love nice things but they don’t define me and there are certainly more important things in life than a preoccupation with Birkins!

  50. Jace Chong on May 13, 2012 at 5:10 pm

    Thanks Jamie for your write up, you are very talented and I enjoy reading your blogs.

    What you said (Rinpoche said) is very true. Beside knowing that, what we have in this life we can not bring forward once we are death; the more important thing is that the desire that we posses bring us no where but let us become worst in each rebirth.

    I do have an experience to share (not sure is it a suitable one), which I was really shame to talk about all these years, but it’s something bring me to Kechara, it’s my craving for relationship. I have ended a 6-years relationship many years ago. Then I found that I was too used to have somebody with me when I need, I started to look for a new relationship, just didn’t want to be lonely.

    I went out with friends, for drinks, clubbing, like everybody else, looking for somebody as I didn’t want to be alone. Even having meal alone made me sad, I thought I deserved to be with somebody. I hook up with a guy and I thought, yea…no more loneliness.

    But the feeling of loneliness become worst whenever any little things happen to the “relatioship” (it was not really a relationship, it’s my dependency on him to find hope). I never imagine I could be so angry and feeling so bad when he refuse to answer calls and sms.

    After a few months, the guy felt bored and hook up with some other people, surprisingly at that time although it hurts, I could accept that and still hoping him to be with me as I really has no one else with me. My tears started to flow when he left my house every time, yet feeling angry about myself to be so “fragile”. Then he did something really bad to me and left me. The hurt was so so bad, worst than the broke up with my previous boyfriend.

    How much I want a relationship became how much it hurts me when it didn’t turn to something I wanted. It’s not his fault and anybody’s fault, it’s my desire set me in the jail of loneliness.

    I realized this in some Rinpoche’s teachings when I first in touch with Kechara. I decided to let go, to accept the truth that I am alone, and feel ok about being alone, and do something else for others instead of keep thinking about me me me…

    Then I found, I am not lonely anymore, I am not the pathetic woman looking for partner around anymore. I feel there’s something more meaningful in life which will not back to zero even when I die. Like Jamie mentioned, why not spend time to develop more good qualities in the mind so it could bring to next life? I totally agree and thanks for speaking the truth that everybody should realize. We have to use desire in good way.

    And thanks to Rinpoche to give me the courage to love again after some years. I am not scared to be hurt anymore as I understand we do what we can do when we can, and we let go what we can not control and accept it. It’s actually been a wonderful journey for to undergo all ups and downs in relationship. They teach me great lessons to become a better person too.

    • Kwan on May 13, 2012 at 6:13 pm

      Hi Jace, your phrase “we do what we can do when we can, and we let go what we can not control and accept it” is a simple & practical method to let go of attachments.

      I remember one of Rinpoche’s teachings where Rinpoche explained the method to deal with attachments. He said that attachment is like a man putting his hand into the fire. And the suffering occurs when the man does not realise that he is hurting himself and continues to let his hand burn, thinking that the attachment (in this case, putting his hand into the fire) is good for himself.

      Being deluded by the nature of attachment, I often wondered how is it exactly to let go of attachments. Rinpoche’s solution was straight forward and simple – just remove your hand from the fire! In other words, just let go of the attachment! Simple easy, yet difficult to put into practice when one is very dependent and too attached to desires.

      It would be silly and hilarious, when the man, aware that he has to pull his arm out of the burning, still kept his hand stuck in the fire pit just because he is deluded.

      Good teaching from Rinpoche and thank you Jace for putting it nicely, “we do what we can do when we can, and we let go what we can not control and accept it”

      • Lawrence Wong on May 16, 2012 at 1:24 am

        Hi Kwan, I don’t agree that the way to let go of attachments is to let go of attachments. This hasn’t given any solution to those who theoretically want to let go but psychologically (then manifest into their speech and action) fail to do so, because this is simply repeating what we want to achieve again. That’s why we would not teach by saying that to attain buddhahood is to attain buddhahood.

        To me in order to let go of attachments, first I choose not to think so much about “I must succeed in letting go an attachment!” and not to think so much and deeply that being able to let go them means I succeed otherwise a failure. I would give myself a chance, some period of time during which to experience how it feels like when I’m not having any contact with the stuff that I love to attach to. Continue to regularly give myself chances not to deal with the things I attached to. Gradually I’ll begin to feel that attaching to those things doesn’t imply I’m happier than not attaching to those things. Realizing that attachment to X does not necessarily bring us more happiness, we can more easily let go and be more willing to let go of X. For attachment consumes us more energy and resources than non-attachment and we tend to choose a more comfortable and easier way to achieve happiness.

        Thank you and good night!

  51. wei theng on May 13, 2012 at 4:21 pm

    Very meaningful and profound… at our last moment, it is our attachment will bring us to where we will be in our next life. pastor Ngeow always emphasis to us, the only way we can do is to change the habits NOW. plant good seeds for good things to grow. Less attached now and we will gain more.

  52. Elena on May 13, 2012 at 4:06 pm

    When Rinpoche gave that talk, he told us to meditate on it everyday because it will really help us to lessen our attachment to things.

    I’ve been thinking about it since, and how it connects to the other teachings Rinpoche has given on desire and attachment. That’s what I like about Rinpoche’s teachings, that they are like building blocks. Rinpoche gives us a part of a teaching when we’re ready for it, then gives us another part that complements the original so all of the pieces fit and make sense.

    Over the last couple of days I’ve been thinking about something Rinpoche said in a liaisons council meeting a few months ago. Rinpoche said that at the time of death, what we desire the most will hamper our rebirths. Rinpoche said it’s like our consciousness is trying to leave, but can’t do so freely because we’re chained to our attachments of this life.

    The attachments can be something as great as our wealth, our children, our families or something as small as the way our hair looks, our weight, music, shopping, singing, the way food tastes.

    It made me think about the value of those attachments. Actually they only serve us in this life, but at the time of death our attachments can cause so many problems for us by making it difficult for us to take a rebirth.

    Then, combined with the teaching Paris has just blogged about, in our next life, these desires won’t even serve us. Maybe I’ll be reborn in a formless realm where looks, weight, hair, etc do not matter because I don’t have a form…but I will still have that desire from my previous life. Or maybe I’ll be reborn as a human who is deaf and mute, but the desire from my previous life to sing or play music is still there.

    So temporarily, we might find pleasures in our attachments in this life, but at death and in our next life, we gain no benefit whatsoever. The only thing that is constant, that we can take with us is the attainments of our mind…which then links back to what Rinpoche said about how this meditation will lead us to lessen our attachments. If I realise that my attachments in this life do not benefit me at the time of death, or in my next life, then I will let go because they serve no useful purpose to me.

    I’ve been thinking about this teaching, and chewing over it from every angle in my mind ever since Rinpoche spoke that night. Thank you Rinpoche for the awesome teaching!

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  • Jason
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 03:07 AM
    This year Wesak Day fall on 10 of May. This day is very special and meaningful to me because I will visit Kechara Forest Retreat(KFR) to join some meritorious event there.
    For me, Wesak is a day to commemorate Buddha Sakyamuni in three aspect( Birth , Enlightened, Nirwana).
    While we celebrate Wesak, we must remind ourselves to learn from Buddha teachings and practice it in order to gain attainment.
    Thanks Rinpoche and Pastor Seng Piow for sharing in order to create more understanding on Wesak Day.

    Jason

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/wesak-day-special-on-rtm-2.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 06:10 PM
    OMG! This is very touching. To see a doggie who never left go of his owner in spite of death. Way more powerful than many who proclaimed “till death do us part.” Just like the human, not all doggies are as loyal as this tear-jerking pet, but I truly believe almost all doggies offer unconditional love to the person who feeds and cares for them. Even when they are stray animals. There was a stray dog who will run two streets from the entrance of the “Taman” until the car stops in front of the house, just to greet me. You can imagine the warm and conviction in my heart that these beings are more than capable of loving than many of us, human! Thank you for this lovely sharing. I miss my doggie, Sherab.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/faithful-dog-chases-deceased-owner.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 06:00 PM
    Thank you, Pastor Seng Piow, for this amazing sharing. There is no doubt about the ability of our Guru, His Eminence the 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche. His incarnations have been compassionate and taken rebirth to return and spread the dharma so that sentient beings can benefit and learn some dharma in our short life.

    We shall never doubt our Guru; but must see that He is one with our Yidam and Protector, an attained being. Even if our Guru does not demonstrate clairvoyance abilities, we must never contest our Guru, for he holds the key (dharma) that can liberate us from eternal suffering in samsara.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-1-2.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 05:50 PM
    Thank you, Pastor Seng Piow, for the illustrated miracle story on how Rinpoche guided Cynthia and Marici away from danger through protector’s practice. The unseen exist, whether we like it or not. Some of them are malicious and have the affinity or karma with some of us. Hence they can cause harm and disturbance. By engaging in Protectors’ practice like Dorje Shugden and Setrap that have been practiced by the high lamas of the Gelug school of Tibetan Buddhism, we are protected and guarded against harm.

    Rinpoche is compassionate and only want the best for us. His teachings are not meant to show off the power of the divines but offer us a way out from our desperate samsara conundrum that binds us from engaging in deeper spiritual practice. Rinpoche always teaches us to focus on mind transformation and Tsongkhapa practice. How fortunate we are to have met Rinpoche in this lifetime. We must not let this rare and precious opportunity go to waste.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-12.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 04:30 PM
    Miracles do happen,when we have faith and trust in our Guru.What is important is to follow Rinpoche’s advice and do as instructed by our Guru to clear the osbtacles all the way.Angie and Herry were so fortunate to have meet Rinpoche.Its because of Rinpoche ‘s compassion and caring for his student Angie’s life was saved.Infact Rinpoche has helped many people through his intervention, advice and instructions.
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Loh Seng Piow for sharing miracles stories which i enjoyed reading.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-2.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 02:45 PM
    WOW….interesting a miracles true story. Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Loh Seng Piow for sharing.Reciting mantras by family members and doing 20 pujas done at the monastery to help the baby. These proved that pujas, which have been done for hundreds of years in the monasteries are very powerful methods for us to overcome difficulties, create huge amounts of merit and for protection, good health and long life.This show us how powerful pujas can help us when we have trust and faith in our Guru.And with Rinpoche divination,the baby was born and now a healthy boy.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-1-2.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 12:47 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these powerful teachings.Its a privilege
    to do Dharma work to benefits other,do it with motivation and a good attitude when engaging ourselves It will be guide line for me.When we serve others to do Dharma work together at Kechara Forest Retreat ,we will improve ourself , purify our negative karma and to benefit others too.I will be sponsoring to the healings bricks soon and i will cherish every moment in supporting KFR.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/me/dharma-work-attitude-tdl.html
  • Lin Mun
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 11:06 AM
    Bigfoot is just another beings living in this world although not commonly seen and live in the deep jungle in high mountains. There were many evidences that people from many parts of the world sighted this beings. Whatever shape they are I think importantly we are all sharing this world and therefore need to have mutual respect and not intervene each others.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/its-in-the-scriptures-they-exist.html
  • Alice Tay
    Tuesday, Apr 25. 2017 04:26 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Adeline sharing this interesting post about Bodhidharma, a great master favoured meditation and introduced the Lankavatara Sutra to Chinese Buddhism.

    Here are a few points I have learned from this post:
    1. Bodhidharma had strong imprints of Dharma from the past and therefore he is interested in Buddha’s teachings and show his great wisdom. at a very young age.
    2. His strong guru devotion and determination in learning and spreading the dharma based on meditation though he confronted with difficulties such as Emperor Wu Di was not impressed by his teachings, being ostracized and rejected and lived as a beggar for many months. Notwithstanding, he continued and never give up to practice meditation in complete silence for nine years in cave wall when he was not accepted by Shaolin Monastery at the beginning .
    3. When Bodhidharma was allowed enter to the monastery, he had put a lot of efforts to help the monks in improving their physical body as well as their mind through the meditation. Then, Bodhidharma continued to develop a system of 18 dynamic tension exercises which were printed as Yi Gin Ching (Changing Muscle/Tendon Classic) in 550 CE. It is known as the Luohan (arhat) 18 Hand Movements today which serves as the basis of both Chinese Temple Boxing and the Shaolin Martial Arts.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/bodhidharma-the-founder-of-gongfu.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Tuesday, Apr 25. 2017 04:10 PM
    Thank you, Grace, for sharing with us the many tips on how to care for and maintain our hair. Personal grooming is important because when we care for our appearance, we are respecting the people who have to deal with us. Caring for our hair, making sure that it is neat and clean should be something we need to take care of since young as it is part of personal grooming. The key is not to be attached to our body and outer-images, that results in spending much time and resources just to make ourselves look good.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/guest-contributors/how-much-do-you-know-about-hair.html
  • Alice Tay
    Tuesday, Apr 25. 2017 03:00 PM
    Thank you for sharing these wonderful and significant photos showed that Kechara Pastors’ tireless efforts to bring dharma to many others and do the blessings whenever is necessary.

    Basically, the pastorship role was conceptualized by our precious guru, H.E. Tsem Tulku Rinpoche, to preserve the Dharma and to give laypeople an opportunity to commit to benefiting others. Kechara Pastors are fully dedicated and selflessly serving others especially in spiritual growth and therefore this is good for us to support the Pastors so that they can focus and spend more of their time and effort to serve others and most importantly Buddhist teachings can be spread and shared to many others. The supports to Pastors including food, lodging, transportation, items necessary for their work, such as ritual items or spiritual gifts for those in need and many others. (If you are interested to know more about Kechara Pastors, please have a good read at http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/kechara-13-depts/support-the-kechara-pastors.html)

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/10-amazing-house-blessings-by-kechara-pastors.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Tuesday, Apr 25. 2017 02:13 PM
    Its such a great blessing for all of us to hear the holy voice recordings of H.H Kyabje Zong Rinpoche a great master..His profound teachings ,got to take seroiusly,more as an important advice on Dorje Shugden’s practice.H.H Kyabje Zong Rinpoche’s explaination was very clear before any of the practitioner’s commitment and receive sogtae.They must keep the lineage practice and teachings no matter what ever happen.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing with us on the important advice by a great master.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/kyabje-zong-rinpoches-advice-on-dorje-shugdens-practice.html
  • Lin Mun
    Tuesday, Apr 25. 2017 11:50 AM
    Thank you Pastor Han Nee for your sharing your thoughts and review about the book “Be Happy” written by Rinpoche. It is indeed not easy to be happy as we all have various expectation in every situation and people.

    We may think having a big house, lots of cash and good career is happiness but this is the wrong perception. Being happy is not about material and everything about ourselves. It is only when we can do more for others and focus out that we gain happiness. I never realised this until I joined Kechara. I think we have such a fixed mindset of what happiness is and when our expectation is not met, we are unhappy.

    Rinpoche has pointed out many ways for us to rectify our thoughts and methods to be happy. Now it is for us to take initiative to change and transform our mind if we want to be happy.

    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Han Nee for this article.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/be-happy.html
  • Lin Mun
    Monday, Apr 24. 2017 12:30 PM
    Many people do not believe in reincarnation and only relates it to certain religion such as Hinduism and Buddhism. However, there were many instances and signs that proven reincarnation exist. As Buddhist we will believe in reincarnation and karma. It is by understanding that everything has its cause and effect that we should learn to live life in the correct attitude and mindset. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this interesting articles to remind us of karma and the importance of doing dharma practise.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/interesting-signs-of-reincarnation.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Sunday, Apr 23. 2017 08:29 PM
    Thank you Rinpoche for your teachings.
    Always be generous and kind in what ever we could do even its little help.It’s the little things in life that bring the greatest happiness. Its between us and our Buddha ,so we would not bother what the receipient thinks and say of us. What ever was said ,should not deter our motivation to do Dharma work.
    (It will change people’s lives in one way or another. It will change your life for the better.)….well said by Rinpoche.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/its-not-between-you-and-the-recipient.html

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The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
The unknown may be growth and opportunities,
One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
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Holy Lady Buddha Vajra Yogini\'s blessing can be found when we decide to focus out to others instead of in to only ourselves.
~ Tsem Tulku Rinpoche
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Holy Lady Buddha Vajra Yogini's blessing can be found when we decide to focus out to others instead of in to only ourselves. ~ Tsem Tulku Rinpoche
His Holiness Vajradhara Kyabje Zong Rinpoche of Gaden Monastery who is the refuge of countless, gives a clear explanation of Dorje Shugden. One is able to hear his holy voice and translation by Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen! Please see here and share: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=122352
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His Holiness Vajradhara Kyabje Zong Rinpoche of Gaden Monastery who is the refuge of countless, gives a clear explanation of Dorje Shugden. One is able to hear his holy voice and translation by Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen! Please see here and share: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=122352
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: This picture says it all. Click on it to enlarge and read and please share.
This is a simple chart showing the three main psychic channels used in tantric meditations to control the winds, raise tummo (fire energy), gain higher consciousness and insight and also for gaining siddhis. These channels are used in meditations for controlling the mind, when the mind ejects from the body (phowa) and one\'s death. These three channels are very important. Tsem Rinpoche
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This is a simple chart showing the three main psychic channels used in tantric meditations to control the winds, raise tummo (fire energy), gain higher consciousness and insight and also for gaining siddhis. These channels are used in meditations for controlling the mind, when the mind ejects from the body (phowa) and one's death. These three channels are very important. Tsem Rinpoche
I think my cute doggie Oser is actually Tintin\'s dog Snowy!
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I think my cute doggie Oser is actually Tintin's dog Snowy!
Great Masters of Gaden Shartse Monastery. From left to right: His Eminence Kensur Jampa Yeshe Rinpoche, His Holiness Sharpa Choeje Jetsun Lobsang Nyima, H.E. Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche, H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, His Holiness 101st Gaden Tripa throne holder Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal.
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Great Masters of Gaden Shartse Monastery. From left to right: His Eminence Kensur Jampa Yeshe Rinpoche, His Holiness Sharpa Choeje Jetsun Lobsang Nyima, H.E. Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche, H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, His Holiness 101st Gaden Tripa throne holder Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal.
 Left to right: Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl. The three of them are my beautiful and loved Schnauzer dogs. They loved looking through the window to see traffic, people and movement. They loved the smells that drifted through their little noses. I love seeing the three of them together like this. I love them. Tsem Rinpoche
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Left to right: Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl. The three of them are my beautiful and loved Schnauzer dogs. They loved looking through the window to see traffic, people and movement. They loved the smells that drifted through their little noses. I love seeing the three of them together like this. I love them. Tsem Rinpoche
Little Mumu boy...he loved balloons. When he saw them, he wanted to get close and perhaps bite them. Cute. I love this picture of Mumu reaching for the balloons. He was young and healthy! This picture captures his energy, enthusiasm, curiosity and high energy. I love this picture of him chasing the balloons. His pictures are always so nice....He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
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Little Mumu boy...he loved balloons. When he saw them, he wanted to get close and perhaps bite them. Cute. I love this picture of Mumu reaching for the balloons. He was young and healthy! This picture captures his energy, enthusiasm, curiosity and high energy. I love this picture of him chasing the balloons. His pictures are always so nice....He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
Little Mumu boy and myself.. He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
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Little Mumu boy and myself.. He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
2017-His Holiness the 101st Gaden Tripa, Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal is doing well and 90 years old. His Holiness Lungrik Namgyal is a powerful master of sutra and tantra and practitioner of Dorje Shugden. Currently residing in France.
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2017-His Holiness the 101st Gaden Tripa, Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal is doing well and 90 years old. His Holiness Lungrik Namgyal is a powerful master of sutra and tantra and practitioner of Dorje Shugden. Currently residing in France.
One of the most sacred statues of Avalokitesvara made of sandalwood housed in Lhasa, Tibet. He has shown miracles also. Every pilgrim wishes to make offerings to this Lord of Compassion.
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One of the most sacred statues of Avalokitesvara made of sandalwood housed in Lhasa, Tibet. He has shown miracles also. Every pilgrim wishes to make offerings to this Lord of Compassion.
 Sacred Avalokitesvara statue in Nepal. Thousands come to worship this special Buddha as it has conferred wishes in the past.
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Sacred Avalokitesvara statue in Nepal. Thousands come to worship this special Buddha as it has conferred wishes in the past.
Tsem Rinpoche\'s Vajra Yogini statue and offerings
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Tsem Rinpoche's Vajra Yogini statue and offerings
Two of my teachers from Gaden Shartse Monastery in South India. Left side is Most Venerable Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen whom I lived with for 8 years in Los Angeles where his centre Thubten Dhargye Ling is located. On the right is the abbot emeritus H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche the scholar and yogi. I was very fortunate to have them in my life and learn so much dharma from them. Tsem Rinpoche
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Two of my teachers from Gaden Shartse Monastery in South India. Left side is Most Venerable Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen whom I lived with for 8 years in Los Angeles where his centre Thubten Dhargye Ling is located. On the right is the abbot emeritus H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche the scholar and yogi. I was very fortunate to have them in my life and learn so much dharma from them. Tsem Rinpoche
 It is so wonderful to be kind to people, be caring, feed them, make sure they are healthy and share dharma if they are interested with them for their future. But simply to be nice to others is worth getting up and being alive...otherwise why be alive to hurt/use/distrust and hate others? No point living that way..must change that..... It is nice to live our lives to benefit others and be patient even if we have been hurt before because by caring we can heal the hurt and \'defeat\' the ones that hurt us because we don\'t become bitter..... Tsem Rinpoche
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It is so wonderful to be kind to people, be caring, feed them, make sure they are healthy and share dharma if they are interested with them for their future. But simply to be nice to others is worth getting up and being alive...otherwise why be alive to hurt/use/distrust and hate others? No point living that way..must change that..... It is nice to live our lives to benefit others and be patient even if we have been hurt before because by caring we can heal the hurt and 'defeat' the ones that hurt us because we don't become bitter..... Tsem Rinpoche
Tsem Rinpoche\'s heritage in China. Must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=120499
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Tsem Rinpoche's heritage in China. Must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=120499
Thank you Buddhist Pastor Chia for sharing your story on how you met His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche over 20 years ago. We can learn much from your story.~Admin  Please read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=116928
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Thank you Buddhist Pastor Chia for sharing your story on how you met His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche over 20 years ago. We can learn much from your story.~Admin Please read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=116928
Mumu boy is incredibly photogenic. He is beyond cute. Tsem Rinpoche
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Mumu boy is incredibly photogenic. He is beyond cute. Tsem Rinpoche
 (left to right) Rabten Tulku, Gonsar Rinpoche, Gyume Kensur Rinpoche, Trijang Rinpoche, H.H. Gaden Trisur Rinpoche (France)
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(left to right) Rabten Tulku, Gonsar Rinpoche, Gyume Kensur Rinpoche, Trijang Rinpoche, H.H. Gaden Trisur Rinpoche (France)
Beautiful 200 roses arrived today for me as a gift from Su Ming. Very kind and thoughtful of her as usual. Tsem Rinpoche
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Beautiful 200 roses arrived today for me as a gift from Su Ming. Very kind and thoughtful of her as usual. Tsem Rinpoche
It\'s good to be with kind and sincere people.
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It's good to be with kind and sincere people.
If we are kind, we lose less of ourselves-Tsem Rinpoche
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If we are kind, we lose less of ourselves-Tsem Rinpoche
My Mumu boy didn\'t want to eat. Eating is not one of his favorite activities throughout his life. So I talked to him to let him know why he needs to eat and keep his strength up when this photo was taken. He was listening intently and after my talk with him, he ate. Tsem Rinpoche
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My Mumu boy didn't want to eat. Eating is not one of his favorite activities throughout his life. So I talked to him to let him know why he needs to eat and keep his strength up when this photo was taken. He was listening intently and after my talk with him, he ate. Tsem Rinpoche
This is so true. Click to enlarge and understand more about unpleasant people.
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This is so true. Click to enlarge and understand more about unpleasant people.
This mahasiddha Kukkuripa is easy to identify as he is accompanied by a small dog whom he loved very much.
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This mahasiddha Kukkuripa is easy to identify as he is accompanied by a small dog whom he loved very much.
Mumu taking a rest in the turquoise room. Over the years, I always feel very satisfied when I see him covered with a blanket, safe and sleeping. I always wanted to make sure he was safe from harm, illness and distress. I wanted him to have a happy and loved life. Tsem Rinpoche
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Mumu taking a rest in the turquoise room. Over the years, I always feel very satisfied when I see him covered with a blanket, safe and sleeping. I always wanted to make sure he was safe from harm, illness and distress. I wanted him to have a happy and loved life. Tsem Rinpoche
I wrapped my little Mumu boy up in my blanket and propped him up on my bed. He didn\'t move or wiggle and just looked at me. He is one funny entertaining little guy. Tsem Rinpoche
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I wrapped my little Mumu boy up in my blanket and propped him up on my bed. He didn't move or wiggle and just looked at me. He is one funny entertaining little guy. Tsem Rinpoche
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March 2017-Coaxing my little Mumu boy to eat his meal. He was not well and therefore not hungry. Tsem Rinpoche
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Click on picture to enlarge and see what Milarepa says. Profound.
We are always trying to get somewhere, try something new, find some friends, get some entertainment and in the end we end up in the same place. Time to really practice Dharma seriously and stop wasting time we don\'t have. ~Tsem Rinpoche
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We are always trying to get somewhere, try something new, find some friends, get some entertainment and in the end we end up in the same place. Time to really practice Dharma seriously and stop wasting time we don't have. ~Tsem Rinpoche
March 20, 2017-Mumu is just so adorable with his bright eyes.
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March 20, 2017-Mumu is just so adorable with his bright eyes.
More and more people inviting Lord Dorje Shugden home to connect with on their shrines. I am so happy to see this as it will benefit them and their families so much. That is the purpose to be alive which is to benefit others as much as possible. Tsem Rinpoche
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More and more people inviting Lord Dorje Shugden home to connect with on their shrines. I am so happy to see this as it will benefit them and their families so much. That is the purpose to be alive which is to benefit others as much as possible. Tsem Rinpoche
His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
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His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
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His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
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The Japanese are very innovative. Tsem Rinpoche
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Read this as it will be interesting
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Recite this before any meal or drinks for blessings of abundance. Tsem Rinpoche
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This sacred statue of Buddha is in Nepal brought originally from Tibet and has spoken on many occasions. Very blessed to see this holy image and keep a picture...bless you always. Tsem Rinpoche
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I love Mumu boy tremendously. We went through so much together for so many years. You are a great being to be with. Tsem Rinpoche
Dear everyone, I am sharing this beautiful and modern altar to Dorje Shugden in Malaysia. I am glad to see more and more people creating sacred spaces. Tsem Rinpoche
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Dear everyone, I am sharing this beautiful and modern altar to Dorje Shugden in Malaysia. I am glad to see more and more people creating sacred spaces. Tsem Rinpoche
Lhamo Karmo, a female buddha form visualized above the crown of one\'s head at the time of death, to encourage consciousness to leave the body via the crown aperture. From my book \"The Female Buddhas.\"- Glenn Mullin
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Lhamo Karmo, a female buddha form visualized above the crown of one's head at the time of death, to encourage consciousness to leave the body via the crown aperture. From my book "The Female Buddhas."- Glenn Mullin
The Tibetan female tulku Dorje Pakmo, from a fresco on the wall of the Dorje Pakmo monastery (Samding) in Tibet, near the Turquoise Lake. In Tibet the Dorje Pakmo was ranked with the Dalai Lama, Panchen Lama and Sakya Trizin as the four highest lamas in the country.-from Glenn Mullin
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The Tibetan female tulku Dorje Pakmo, from a fresco on the wall of the Dorje Pakmo monastery (Samding) in Tibet, near the Turquoise Lake. In Tibet the Dorje Pakmo was ranked with the Dalai Lama, Panchen Lama and Sakya Trizin as the four highest lamas in the country.-from Glenn Mullin
Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl checking out the scene..cute
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Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl checking out the scene..cute
My Dharma boy has such a cute expression here. He is a good boy!
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February 9,2017-My Mumu boy and Oser girl are just relaxing together..super cute
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  • April 20, 2017 10:45
    Ronnie asked: Dear Rinpoche and Pastors, I'm studying abroad and very far away from home, seeking guidance and advice as I have no one else I can talk to about this. Please read with an open mind, I don't know where else to go for help. I'm pregnant and it's an unplanned pregnancy. I'm stuck between keeping it or letting it go. I'm young and having a child at my age in the society we live in now would be considered taboo. The father of the child thinks I should let it go because it may cause a setback to both our careers and cause major family issues. He thinks we aren't ready to raise a child especially since we're both still in university and his parents think badly of me even though they've never met me or tried to get to know me. I'm sure no one would ever have the heart to take away a heartbeat but it seems like it isn't the right time to have a child now and if we did go through with it, the child probably won't be able to have the best things life can offer looking at where we are now in terms of finance and maturity. I'm lost, confused and unsure what the right thing to do is now. Any advice at all would be helpful right now. Thank you so very much for taking time to read my story.
    pastor answered: Dear Ronnie, I’m sorry to read that you are going through this situation. I can understand that this situation is tough to go through. You are always more than welcome to come here to ask questions. May I suggest that you talk to either someone in your family or your friends to help you come to an appropriate solution? This is because, what you feel, what you are going through, will change from time to time and you would need someone to talk to, someone that you can lean on through this situation you are facing. Depending on where you are in the world, professional help can also be sought to help you make a decision, which will be the best option for you seeking help. From a Buddhist perspective, the taking of a life is not considered a positive act, therefore those on the Buddhist path, would normally abstain taking a life if possible. However, that being said, one must always weigh the decision oneself. Everything we do in life, necessarily involves karma both positive and negative. That is why Buddhists try to overcome samsara in general. Your situation is complicated because you are abroad, but if possible you should really open up to someone you are close to in order to help you through making this decision on a personal basis. When you talk to someone, whom you are able to express yourself more, you may able to come to better decision that is right for you. There may be other options open to you if you seek help. I personally know women who have been in similar situations. One of these women, let the child go and the other went through the pregnancy and then gave the child up for adoption. You may or may not have thought of this option, but it is one that could be open to you, depending on where in the world you are. Any decision we make in life, however big or small it may seem, has far reaching consequences whether in this life, or in future lives. This is just a part and parcel of life within samsara. However, we should weigh the decisions we make clearly given the situation we are in. We cannot always do this weighing ourselves, but need to talk about our options with others we can rely on such a friends, family or professionals. You should consider doing this, which will help you greatly emotionally, and may give you the grounding you need to make the correct decision for you. I hope this helps.
  • April 19, 2017 04:57
    Dongho asked: What is a nyung ne practice? According to Lama Zopa Rinpoche, it's a purification sadhana. However, what are the instructions for this? I'm guessing it's to Chenrezig, but how does it work? Also, from what I have read, Vajrasattva practice is only for broken vows while Akshobhya is for regular misdeeds. Does that mean one has to take the Akshobhya practice to purify bad karma from this life and previous instead of Vajrasattva? As for the purification practices, are some like Vajrasattva and Chenrezig only to purify the bad karma and let it come quickly or is it to prevent it from coming? I am confused in it. As for signs, I recited a mantra of White Yangchenma that a Sakya lama, Lama Kunga Thartse Rinpoche, gave me with the Sakya visualizations I read on, and after one mala, I heard some lady call my Korean name even though no one in my neighborhood knows of my name and my family members weren't in the area. What does this mean?
    pastor answered: Dear Dongho, Thank you for your questions, it’s nice to see you back here again. Nyung Ne practice is a purification practice that centres around Chenrezig. It is a very beneficial practice that stems from a holy nun named Gelong-ma Palmo. It is a two and a half day practice that can be repeated many times over and over again to intensify the purification and build a closer relationship with Chenrezig. As well as its purification aspect, the practice is known to generate vast amount of merit, and also compassion, as the practice centres around Chenrezig, the Buddha of compassion. The practice involves taking the eight Mahayana precepts for the duration, fasting, meditating, prostrating and praying. The practice usually entails empowerment into the practice of Chenrezig, therefore the exact meditations, prayers can only be explained to those who have the empowerment. Vajrasattva practice is not necessarily only for repairing broken vows, etc. That’s why it is advised that you engage in the practice at the end of the day, to repair any vows that you may have broken during that day, as well as stopping any negative karma you created that day from multiplying. This would entail reciting the mantra 21 times, together with the four opponent powers. However, if you engage in this practice more intensely, it definitely has the capability to purify all sorts of karma. That is the reason why in Ngondro, or preliminary practices one engages in before tantra, the practice of 100,000 Vajrasattva mantra recitation is an integral part. You can read more about Vajrasattva and his practice here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/prayers-and-sadhanas/an-important-purification-practice.html. Within purification practices, some of the karma will be purified completely, so you do not feel its effects at all, but when purifying other karma you will need to feel its effects somehow. For example if you have the karma to be in a car accident and get seriously injured, and you are engaging in any practice, but especially the purification practice, since you have purified most of the karma, you will only experience being in a very minor car accident, with only very superficial injuries. Therefore, in this case, the karma has been purified to the extent that it does not affect you as much, but you still need to feel part of its effect. In regards to any signs that you receive which engaging in the practices given to you by one of your specific gurus, you should report the happenings to that particular guru. He will be able to give you more of an accurate answer, as it may be related to the particular practice that he gave to you. I hope this helps. Thank you.
  • April 17, 2017 07:06
    Thomas asked: Dear Pastors, When a serkyem set has been used so much and one is ready to get rid of it and replace it with a new one. What is a respecful mode of disposal?
    pastor answered: Dear Thomas, Thank you for your question. Your question shows that you have a lot of respect for offering items, which is very good. If possible, you should try to repair the item if within your means, and doing so make embellishments to make it a better offering item, which can still be used. If this is not possible, then you should dispose of the item with a good motivation. You should think that this item has been used to make offerings to the enlightened beings, but now that it is broken or unusable, you are going to dispose of it, and replace it with a new one. Since it itself is not a receptacle of energies of the enlightened beings, such as a statue, tsa tsa or thangka, it does not require a special dissolution before being disposed of. However since it was used to make offerings, it still requires some form of respect when disposing, and this comes from one’s motivation and the way in which you dispose of it. Usually, when disposing of items in this way, make the motivation that you have used it and that it is now time to dispose of it, and replace it with a new one. When you do this you can dispose of it in a respectful manner. For example, if you are going to throw it away, you do not simply open the trash can and throw it in. You wrap it up in something, like a bag or newspaper and dispose of it respectfully. Another method you can dispose of it is to recycle the object, if the material it is made from can be recycled. That way you are more conscious of the environment as well. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
  • April 16, 2017 22:38
    Curious asked: Dear pastors In a recent youtube video something like paying respect to deceased ones, pastor Nirel Patel explained that merits are like the interest and good karma is like the principal sum. So merits always regenerate themselves and hence do not get used up but good karma is like the principal sum so it gets used up. So my question is what are practices that generate merit? And can we turn a mundane daily activity into a meritorious one? Maybe can you provide an example?
    pastor answered: Dear Curious, Thank you for your question. First, to clarify a point, in regards to good karma, you are right, it is like a principal sum in a bank account, but you take away from it when you experience something good in your life, and you add to it when you do good deeds. Merit on the other hand, once accrued never diminishes, therefore when something is based on merit, it is based on the energies of this never diminishing sum, which you could say is like interest. In short, the principal sum when talking about karma is always added to and subtracted from. However, when talking about merit, once you have it, there is no way to destroy it, you will always benefit from it. There are various ways to explain how to generate merit. I will explain a way that I find easiest to understand. In normal life, when we go about performing any sort of activity, be it ‘good’ or ‘bad’ we do so out of ignorance of the true nature of existence, and it is usually self-motivated. For example, we work our entire lives to generate monetary income, so that we have enough money, resources, and materials goods to be comfortable. This is self-motivated, but it is the accepted way the world works these days, and is part and parcel of being bound to samsaric life. On the other hand, the act of merit making can be categorised into three parts: i) motivation, ii) the act itself, and iii) dedication. Let’s start with motivation, when engaging in various virtuous acts, we should have the motivation that by engaging in the act, we have the motivation to alleviate the suffering of someone else, and that may we gain enlightenment so that we can benefit them in the future. The second is the act itself. The third is to dedicate the energy of the virtuous act to gaining enlightenment. These three are what make merit. This may be a little confusing, so let me give an example: giving help to a homeless person. Whereas in ordinary life, this is something praised as a very good deed, it does not create merit without motivation and dedication. In order for this to become merit, one must set the motivation that one is giving help to the homeless free of the eight worldly concerns, to alleviate their suffering and also making the motivation that you will achieve enlightenment for the sake of the person or people you are helping. Then after you have helped them, you dedicate the energy created to the spiritual journey towards full enlightenment to help all sentient beings, while at the same time benefiting as many sentient beings as possible on the way there. This transforms the act into not only a virtuous action but also one that generates merit. On the other hand, if you were to help the homeless without these, you are creating good karma, which although beneficial, keeps you bound to existence within samsara. As it is the goal of Buddhist practice to overcome the cycle of samsara, a Buddhist would want to generate merit instead of good karma. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
  • April 13, 2017 11:38
    D.A. asked: If Begtse Chan is not from Mongolia, what are his real origins or story exactly? And which lamas offer his empowerment? As for Manjushri Nagarakshasa, which lamas specifically offer his empowerment and practice?
    pastor answered: Dear D.A. Thank you for your question. Begtse, is also known as Chamsing, or Jamsaran in Mongolian. As mentioned in an earlier sharing with someone who also asked a question about Begtse, the practiced was introduced to Tibet from India by the translator Nyen Lotsawa, and is considered one of the main protectors of the Hayagriva cycle of tantras. According to the scriptures that derive from the Sakya tradition, who incorporated the practice from the translators, and in which tradition Begtse became a very important protector, Begtse in a previous life was born many eons ago. In that particular life, he was born as the younger prince in a royal family. His name was Drag Gye, and his older brother’s name was Drag Den. Over time both princes developed differing religious beliefs, to the point where they could not get along with each as they both held their own religious views strongly. As was the custom during that time, they decided to settle their differences through logical debate, with the loser having to convert to the winner’s religion. This custom was also prevalent in ancient India, and there are many stories of such debates occurring between the great masters of the past and those of other faiths. Drag Gye lost the various debates, but ran away instead of converting to his older brother’s religion. Drag Den caught him, and tried to punish him for breaking the rules of debate and going back on his promise. Drag Gye told his brother that even if he was killed he would not give up his religion, however if Drag Den let him go, that in the future when Drag Den became enlightened, he would protect his teachings. With that Drag Den let him go, and gave him a set of copper armour, a stick, and a bow and arrow. Drag Den also gave Drag Gye a new name: Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po. After this incident the two brothers never saw each other again in that lifetime. Many lives after that Drag Den was reborn as Prince Siddharta, who eventually became enlightened and is now known as Buddha Shakyamuni. Drag Gye, or Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po, was reborn in a cemetery in the North West direction. His parents gave birth to two eggs, one was a coral-like colour and the other was an agate-like colour. These two eggs flew high into the sky and reached the heavenly realms, there they subdued the gods. Then flying back down to earth, they subdued many nagas. Eventually they even came to threaten their own parents. The parents petitioned the Dharma protector Ekajati for her help, who threw her own staff (khatvanga) at the eggs, and broke them apart. From the coral-like coloured egg came a ferocious man with yellow hair, he proclaimed that his name was ‘Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po’. When he emerged he was wearing a set of copper armour, wielding a stick, copper sword, and a bow and arrow. From the agate-like coloured egg came a female who was blue in colour, her teeth were like shells, she had turquoise eyebrows, and her hair was made of fire. She emerged wielding a copper knife, ritual dagger (phurba), rode a terrifying bear and wore an intricate necklace made of agate and lapis lazuli. It was then that Ekajati once again took action, and subdued them, after which they became Dharma protectors. The male figure became known as Begtse, and the female as his sister. When you propitiate Begtse, his sister is automatically included and aids practitioners as well. As for which lama offer his practice and empowerment, most lamas do not advertise which teachings or practice they hold. Therefore you should respectfully approach lamas and ask them if they have the practice and can bestow it, or if they know of any lamas that have the practice, depending on how much you want to practice Begtse. Similarly, this applies to those lamas who have the practice of Manjushri Nagarakshasa. However, this practice is included in the Rinjung Gyatsa series of empowerments. This unique cycle of teachings, includes all 4 classes of tantric practices, and includes the practice of Manjushri Nagarakshasa. Therefore those lamas who have received the complete transmission, and have kept their commitments for this practice, are qualified to pass this on to others. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
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New Zealand 52,730
Hong Kong 52,596
Taiwan 49,436
Mexico 37,800
Romania 43,251
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Switzerland 46,151
Ireland 32,107
Japan 31,920
Vietnam 29,063
Russia 34,246
Sweden 31,248
Saudi Arabia 20,982
Sri Lanka 21,473
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