Do I Irk You?

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All of us gets irked when someone says or does something that we do not like… but have we ever thought deeper as to why it irks us? Why do certain comments immediately bother us? Why do some people get irked so easily… and everything that you say, they immediately take offense and get defensive?

I gave a short teaching to a few of my students in Kechara Forest Retreat. I told 4 of my students who were at the teaching, to do a short write up on what they understood. Their sharing comes from different perspectives… and I hope that you will benefit from it.

Do read what my students have understood about the subject of ‘being irked’… and share in the comments section what you have learnt.

Tsem Rinpoche

 


 

When we irk someone, what are we “saying”?

by Andrew James Boon

Why is it that every time someone points out our faults, we automatically get all defensive? To me, being defensive is to consciously or subconsciously acknowledge that there is a fault and we want to hide or deflect it – basically, how much a person reacts or does not react depends on whether the person has an issue with what was said. This pointing out of our faults is irking. Hence this teaching is on what irks someone and when it is right to do so and when it is not.

Some variations in the reactions when one is irked can be summarized as follows:

  1. To be reflective and look into oneself, to see it as constructive criticism.
  2. To be indifferent or have no reaction.
  3. To be frustrated and walk away and to run from the situation.
  4. To be unbelieving to the point of being vindictive.

Very simply, to irk someone is to provoke a thought/reaction whether negative or positive to trigger what is actually bothering them, which inevitably “opens” up something for them to eventually heal. Of course the intentions of the giver are equally important to the reaction of the receiver.

How we recognize that we are trying to help the receiver and not just irk them for the sake of provocation depends on the motivation behind it. This we can easily check by seeing if we do it at the expense of our own personal expression and how the person would view us. For example, how we would point out another’s apparent fault knowing that we would not be viewed positively by that person after the fact, but we do it anyway because we sincerely want them to see the error in their ways or manner, and this is more important than how they view us.

Ultimately we all suffer and whether we want to irk or are constantly irked depends on the issues that are buried within us and why it hurts us.

If we are in a situation where we find ourselves irked constantly out of genuine care, look not at merely how it feels to be irked but the motivation behind it. Deal with the issues that have been kindly pointed out before you lose the people kind enough to bring it up to you at all, at the expense of them looking bad to you in your eyes.

At the end of the day, it has to be how consistent we are in our actions and that is a gauge to how consistent we are in whether or not people around us tend to have to remind us. And how we view that reminder is a clear indication of why we are inconsistent.

Hence always look within ourselves before we make any judgment or accusation and with that clarity then, only can we focus out.

 


 

DO I BOTHER YOU?

by Khong Jean Ai

From time to time, Rinpoche will join us in our writers’ meetings on Manjushri Hill at Kechara Forest Retreat. Like every time you see your lama, it is always a special event as wherever Rinpoche goes, Rinpoche always gives Dharma teachings. On this occasion, it was no exception and Rinpoche spoke about the benefits of being irked.

One of the verses in the Nine Attitudes of Guru Devotion reads: “That of a domestic dog. Like a loyal dog, even when the Guru ridicules, irritates or ignores you, one never responds with anger” and there is a very good reason why that verse was included.

Rinpoche spoke about irking from the point-of-view of the provoker and the receiver. On the part of the provoker, Rinpoche said that lamas care for their students so much, that they will do anything to train their students, even at the risk of their own reputations. After all, if we seek to protect our own reputation, then our Dharma work is no longer spiritual practice, but an action stained by the eight worldly concerns.

That lamas train their students arises from their Bodhisattva practice, whereby they vow to disregard how people view them or do to them. Our lamas take the risk that their actions may, in the short term, lead their students to dislike them but in the long term, have something fruition in their students’ minds which might not otherwise have.

Oftentimes this training is misunderstood by the laity as being overly wrathful, callous or even dangerous. From the side of the lama however, the action is always to help the student. This recalls teachings that Rinpoche has previously given about how we can identify a real, authentic lama. Rinpoche said that if a lama is out to benefit themselves, then they wouldn’t train their students and wouldn’t push their buttons at the risk of driving them away. In fact, fake lamas will be ‘yes’ men, always agreeing with their students and boosting their egos so that their students never leave and they (the lama) can continue to benefit from the student-teacher relationship.

Rinpoche also spoke about the topic of being irked from the perspective of the receiver. Rinpoche said that there are four types of reaction:–

  1. the person who openly and happily accepts the training,
  2. the person who has some doubts but ultimately accepts the training,
  3. the person who is overwhelmed with doubts and constantly entertains the thought of quitting, and
  4. the person who actually quits. This also includes people who are ambivalent and have no reaction at all.

Rinpoche said that ultimately, a person cannot be irked on anything if they do not already have the issue in them. To be irked is to have a reaction, and to have a reaction is to be emotionally engaged in the issue. Therefore, Rinpoche said, how much an issue bothers us is how much of a guilt trip we have about it. So perhaps our lama is always pointing out that we are too focused on relationships, and kindly advises us on equanimity and the benefits of not being attached. Different people will react to the same advice differently. Perhaps for some people, the teaching strikes a chord and leads them to develop some kind of realisation of emptiness (Person #1).

In others however, perhaps the teaching leads them to react negatively and assume that the lama is attacking them and what they want (Person #3 or #4). So then they hide what they are doing, because they know it is wrong but they still want it anyway. They label the lama as cruel, controlling or not understanding of how they feel.

Rinpoche said that such a reaction (to label the lama) is really the person’s attempts to make themselves feel better, so they do not have to deal with the issue at the moment. However, eventually they will have to deal with the issue and sometimes, when the “pressure” becomes too great because they cannot accept the reality of their situation, they quit to prove that the world is wrong, instead of proving that they are wrong.

This kind of avoidance, Rinpoche explained, can lead one to become bitter over the years. When we avoid good advice because we don’t want our buttons to be pushed, it is because we know what is wrong with ourselves but we don’t want people to talk about it or expose it. After many years of avoidance, naturally we will end up alone, bitter and angry at ourselves for not having done anything about our negative habits sooner.

Rinpoche said that we should deal with our issues before we run away or lose the people who are kind enough to uncover it inside of us, because they give up since their words fall on deaf ears. For now, we might avoid our issues by focusing on our wealth, beauty, power, etc. However, those qualities are impermanent and subject to our karma to acquire and maintain them. One day, when they leave us (beauty definitely will, with age!), we will be left with nothing but regrets for not having focused on the right things when we were younger. Rinpoche put this very succinctly in saying, “Don’t use the present comforts to shelter your environment and what you need to deal with inside of you.”

Rinpoche also used weight as an example of how we may react negatively to people’s good intentions. Perhaps we are always being told that we are fat and at risk of many medical problems. Instead of doing something about it (Person #1), we choose to ignore the giver’s good intentions and get annoyed with them instead (Person #3 or #4). We label the giver a “sizeist”, “misinformed” or perhaps even delude ourselves into thinking we are healthy. How much can we avoid though, by running away or labelling people? The problem of our weight does not go away simply because we ignore our loved ones’ advice and in the future, a doctor may tell us the same and we will have to deal with the issue then.

Acknowledging that not everyone has good intentions, Rinpoche said sometimes people do have a bad motivation, and will attempt to irk us just for the fun of it (or whatever their reasons are). However, as receivers, we should apply this teaching to ourselves so that we recognise when people are being kind to us and advising us. Instead of running or emotionally avoiding people who love us, we should take a step back and examine the content of their advice, rather than the tone.

Rinpoche also advised us not to focus on those people’s motivations, but instead focus on why their advice irks us. Why are we irked by their advice? Is there truth in what they say? Then regardless of how the advice was given to us, we still have a problem within us and since we are the one who suffers, why would we not want to do something about it and change ourselves?

When we accept advice from those with bad intentions, Rinpoche said that there’s every possibility we may get hurt. However, if we do not have any issues, then whatever people say will not irk us. Therefore Rinpoche advised us to objectively examine any advice we are given, regardless of its motivation, and then to work on ourselves. Doing so is only to our benefit – if the advice is valid (regardless of its motivation), then as we work on ourselves we become better people. In becoming better people, we will gradually have fewer issues with which people can irk us with.

To accept advice, Rinpoche said, would be to practise mind training and the Eight Verses of Thought Transformation, especially the verse which reads:-

Whenever I am with others,
I will practise seeing myself as the lowest of all,
And from the very depths of my heart
I will respectfully hold others as supreme

Rinpoche acknowledged that sometimes the giver can also be irked. Therefore, we should examine the reasons why we are giving the advice. Are we giving the advice for the benefit of the other person? Or to look kindly and good? If the receiver is being blasé about the advice and it bothers us, it means we have an issue – our issue is that people do not take our advice! Therefore Rinpoche advised we should work on that issue first, until it does not bother us anymore, before we try to help others.

Or perhaps sometimes we are the kind of people who irks others as soon as they see us. Perhaps we are busybodies, the do-gooders who stick our noses into every situation to see where we can lend our two cents’ worth…or so people claim we are! Or perhaps – more realistically! – we are the kind of people who have so many issues, that the mere sight of us compels other people to have to say something. If our presence irks people in this way, we must therefore contemplate why it does that and change those elements of our minds. As Rinpoche has previously taught, it cannot be that everybody is wrong about us, and only we are right about ourselves!

We should also recognise that not everyone may be intellectually, emotionally or karmically ready to receive our advice. Sometimes people will shut off and not have a reaction. On our part, we interpret their non-reaction as being blasé or ambivalent about our kindness towards them. Rinpoche explained that their non-reaction (i.e. not being irked) is actually still a reaction. It is a psychological reaction for them to ignore the advice because they are not ready for it.

Understanding that, instead of becoming irked because people are blasé about the help we give them, we should learn to practise yet another of the Eight Verses of Thought Transformation:-

When someone I have benefited and in whom
I have placed great trust hurts me very badly,
I will practise seeing that person
As my supreme teacher.

As the giver and receiver therefore, we can always learn from how we react and how others react to us. Rinpoche pointed out that as we grow up, the people who irk us the most are our parents, our teachers and our partners. However, although they irk us by pointing out what we should improve on, we know that if we do choose to improve ourselves, they will always be there to catch and support us if we fail. Using Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) as an example of a support group, Rinpoche asked us to consider whether alcoholism is easier to deal with as an individual, or with the support of the AA group? If we fail to remain teetotal whilst in the AA programme, we will more than likely find it impossible to abstain from alcohol when we are not in the programme.

In the same way, our Guru irks us to enlightenment, and pushes our buttons towards self-improvement. However, he also provides the support we need should we stumble. This part of the teaching led me to recall something else Rinpoche had talked about many years ago. Rinpoche at the time had said if what he taught was striking a nerve in us, and making us feel uncomfortable, then we had a problem with that particular issue. The discomfort was a manifestation of our guilt, and indicated that there was an issue that we needed to deal with. However, Rinpoche created a Dharma centre so that we had somewhere safe to go to, to deal with our problems.

Rinpoche said what he was talking about – opening up oneself to the training of the lama – is not unusual. Even with Western psychiatric and psychological treatments, a patient will trust in their doctor’s degree, let their guard down, take refuge in their doctor’s methods and open themselves up to the treatment. However, whilst Western treatments only deal with the symptom of the problem, Dharma has the advantage of allowing us to create merit so that we experience that causes in future lifetimes to continue treating our own minds. Dharma also attacks the root causes of why we have issues that irk others, thereby removing the symptoms of our behaviour which irks others.

How do we practise Dharma so that we are no longer irked by others, and others no longer irk us? With consistency and practice. Rinpoche said not being consistent will hold us back in our practice, because we can never develop and move on from the same point. To check how consistent we are, we look at how many times people remind us about things. If people are consistently reminding us that we are sloppy, lazy, angersome, envious, etc., then we must seriously consider that they are telling us the truth and that we have to do something about it. Furthermore, how we view our reminders is indicative of how big the issue continues to be for us. If we continue to react negatively, then we have not yet dealt with our issues effectively.

 


 

Irked Into Transformation

by Martin Chow

A while ago, Tsem Rinpoche gave us a very important teaching at Manjushri Hill. As usual Rinpoche’s Dharma talk is multi-dimensioned and covered quite a number of topics. But for me, I took the teaching to be quite relevant to an extremely important training for our spiritual path. It is one that many have struggled with because the training itself is counter-intuitive to our deeply samsarically self-centric mind and yet it is one that all practitioners need to master in order to progress. That puts us in a dilemma and this very dilemma is in fact (once we come to understand) necessary in order for us to grow.

Rinpoche’s talk, in essence, significantly touched on the 8 Verses Of Mind Transformation, and goes on to explain (i) why some people seem to go out of their way to irk us, (ii) why we can become irked by certain things and people, (iii) how we can deal with criticism and feedback, (iv) and why we are irked to begin with.

To elaborate:

(i) The people who irk us – The Giver (of the criticism or feedback)

The Giver’s role is important because the Giver brings to the surface some of our issues that have managed to stay hidden due to the highly specialised ability of the self-centric mind to avoid blame, shame and any sort of discomfort, and instead seek fame and praise and cozy situations that do not challenge our fragile egos.

The Giver may be someone who cares for us genuinely and would risk our negative reaction to the giver’s feedback/criticisms. Givers can be our parents, spouse or true friends who see the need to intervene in a personal issue that is not doing us any good.

In the case of Dharma students, our Guru may assume the role of an active Giver so that we can expose and confront the state of our mind that is full of attachments. This is an act of kindness because the Guru knows that our attachments which has the Self as the reference, is what takes us deeper into our deluded states. If our deluded minds have built walls behind which we hide, then the Guru’s job is to remove the walls and pull us out of our comfort zones.

For example, if I have an attachment to the way I look, to certain insecurities and I am particularly sensitive to statements about my height, the Guru may consciously keep referring to how sensitive I am about my height and even constantly point out how short I am. Under normal circumstances I will avoid anyone who does that but because I cannot avoid my Guru, I am forced to deal with the issue. And the issue is not my height in fact, but the hang-ups that I have with my height which might be rooted into something more such as deep insecurities and such like that reinforces the ego.

The Guru may raise issues that upset and irk us knowing that we are being forced to confront our issues within an environment where there is support around so that we are better able to deal with it. However, sometimes the student may not even be able to take criticisms from the Guru and may run away. Even with the risk, the Guru will still assume the role of the Giver because at least the issue will be brought out into the open and may be dealt with in time. As long as the issue stays hidden, it cannot be dealt with. What drives the Guru is Compassion and the motivation of the Guru is that of a Bodhisattva and so the Guru’s objective is to open up the issue so that it may heal eventually.

And from that perspective, apart from the Guru, even we ourselves can assume the role of a Giver with a Bodhicitta mind and compassionately irk someone in order to help the person. At times, we hold back from saying something or giving a negative feedback to friends and colleagues because we are more concerned about keeping our good relations with them, than we are for their improvement and eventual liberation from their attachments. On this point, it should be clear that we make much more effort to correct and improve people we treasure more than others. On this we should train ourselves to have a Bodhicitta’s equilibrium and wish upon everyone around us, the same liberation from their attachments.

 

(ii) We become irked – The Receiver

Rinpoche pointed out that there are a few ways the Receiver can respond to feedback or criticisms:

(a) if the Receiver has faith in the Giver, e.g. if we have faith in Rinpoche and we trust in Rinpoche’s intentions and methods, we may act on the feedback and start addressing the hang-ups;

(b) the Receiver is affected by what the Giver said/did, but then decides to think about the objective of the Giver. Eventually the Receiver sees the Giver’s kindness and then begins to deal with the issue;

(c) the third possible response is a variation of (b) but after getting upset the Receiver fails to see the kind intentions behind the Giver’s feedback or the Receiver’s ego takes over and gets the better of him, and he decides to cut off any dealings with the Giver.

(d) The Receiver rejects the feedback and becomes antagonistic and begins to create dissension and chaos within the ranks of the Giver. This may be to throw attention away from the Receiver’s own failings and instead turn it into someone else’s misgivings.

How the Receiver reacts is a very good indication of his state of mind and also how deep the issue is, and how much he suffers from his attachment to self/delusion. However the Receiver reacts, the fact that he reacts means that there is an issue to begin with. To use the earlier example about a person’s sensitivity about his height, that a person has reacted to statements of his height is a sure sign that there is an issue. Whereas someone who does not suffer the same or similar insecurity would not have any reaction to statements made of his height.

There are cases where a Receiver displays no reaction whatsoever and this can be due to a number of reasons: it could be that the issue is the result of a trauma and the Receiver has been shocked into paralysis and has become numb to feedback or it could be the Receiver showing stubborn bravado or defiance. Even in such cases, the Giver must still exercise compassionate feedback and criticism and in that way the issue is brought out in the open for the Receiver to deal with. It is always better to expose the issue than to keep it hidden.

Then Rinpoche spoke about why we become irked when criticized, teased or given a negative feedback:

 

(iii) The problems were there in the first place

The reason we are irked is the very reason we need to practice Mind Transformation. In samsara, our thoughts and actions are driven by the three poisons and our attachment. As such, the basis of all our thoughts and actions, our dreams and hopes is the Self, our Self. Whatever we do has to benefit ourselves directly, indirectly, subtly or overtly. Similarly, we avoid anything that is adverse to us, and this includes criticisms or anything at all that has the danger of undermining our state of perceived confidence and happiness. In that way, a lot of issues that stop us from progressing stay hidden.

We learn to look after ourselves and in fact we even glorify those who have managed to look after themselves well, be it financially, physically, aesthetically, in their jobs, and more. Samsara glorifies those who glorify themselves. And with the “good” of Self being the primary focus we naturally get drawn to people and things which we perceive will be “good” for the Self and we avoid people and situations that are “bad” for the Self or makes the Self feel uncomfortable and insecure and less than it perceives itself to be. Therefore we avoid people whom we think do not like us. Their dislike of us is not conducive to a self that has to be looked after and feel good.

But the focus on the Self is more harmful that we can ever imagine. The more the focus, the stronger our attachments become. Attachments cannot exist if there is an absence of a realization and deep appreciation of the Self. And it is the attachments that take us away from Bodhicitta. The focus on the Self is an anti-thesis of the development of Bodhicitta, one of the two pre-requisites without which enlightenment cannot occur.

The 8 Verses of Mind Training tells us to prioritize others, regard ourselves as the lowest of everyone around us, accept defeat even in situations where we normally do not have to, take upon ourselves the sufferings of others and more instructions that are self-neglecting in character. The question is whether the average practitioner will have the discipline and wisdom to do what is extremely counter-intuitive and the answer is probably ‘No’. And this is where the Guru enters, to seize on the right opportunities for us to practice mind transformation or the Guru may even create a situation where we can practice. In the absence of the Guru we would normally avoid situations where we will have the opportunity to practice.

However, with the Guru’s training, we begin to identify our reaction to negative feedback as something to do with our ego and our attachments, and not the Giver.

 

(iv) Dealing with the Problem: Gratitude and Diluting

Firstly, we have to acknowledge that the problem/issue is with us to begin with. It is not the Giver who gave us the problem or issue, rather the Giver exposed the problem.

Regardless of the objective of the Giver, whether it is out of kindness or nastiness (some Givers criticize with the objective to hurt) we need to come to a few important realizations, namely it exposes an issue that is personal to us and nothing to do with the Giver. And therefore it would be wise for us to focus on the issue/problem rather than the Giver and our reaction to the Giver.

If the Giver is our Guru our someone close to us, we must realize that the feedback is done out of compassion, love and without any ill will. The immediate reaction should be Gratitude. And especially if the feedback is from our Guru and within the sphere of support of the Dharma family, then it is an opportunity to deal with an issue while we still have the support. Such an opportunity does not come by readily because out there most people do not care enough to want to see us transform and improve.

Having Gratitude prepares us to deal with our issues, with our strength being bolstered by the compassion of the Giver and support group rather than how upset and hurt we are by the feedback. Rinpoche specifically mentioned that some of the issues may be too difficult to deal with easily and the solution is to dilute it continuously and progressively. Rinpoche used an example of a barrel that is thick with dirt at the bottom such that we cannot get rid of the filth easily. The way to deal with this filth is to keep pouring in clean water, to continuously flush and thin-out the dirt and see them dislodge slowly but surely. Similarly if some of the issues, hang-ups and attachments that we suffer from are too deep-seated, then we have to dilute the problem by doing more Dharma work. By keeping up with our sadhanas diligently and by doing more and more Dharma work as it is these virtuous deeds that create the merits for us to have clarity of wisdom, strength of will and the kind support of others to deal with the various issues and transform the mind.

 


 

Do I Irk You?

by Sarah Yap

In some point in life, we have all been irked before. It could be by our parents, our teachers and even our friends. Society has taught us to put ourselves on a golden pedestal, to be adored and loved despite our shortcomings, but we were never taught to reflect, and take a good look at ourselves. Perhaps when someone actually irks us, it is due to the destruction of our self-created image in our mind. The ‘person’ in us that we feel is perfect and untarnished, is now in grave danger of being deflated that we react in anger, rejecting the ‘danger’ in a variety of ways.

To understand the very reason the receiver can be irked, we must establish the fact that the only reason why a person can be angered is because the very question that is put forward to them, is in actuality true, and they are in denial. They refuse to face the truth and they refuse to change. If the problem was not in us, it cannot anger us but merely fly past us as an irrelevant statement. Take for example, if I weigh 45 kgs and someone calls me fat, I would merely laugh at that statement for it is untrue. On the other hand, if I weigh 80 kgs, and people call me a fat person, it will be an issue to me because I know that is the fact, and if I cannot accept my weight; then I would turn bitter and angry.

Supposing that the problem is within us, and when a person questions us, and it brings about in us a feeling of anger as the receiver, we should observe the reaction we display towards the giver. The larger, the more aggressive and the more damaging our reaction is towards ourselves, reflects on how large the issue is within us, and with that the duration of time which we may need to overcome this problem. If you only have a small patch of mud to clear off from the road, it would obviously be quicker compared to a mountain of mud, similarly, the larger the issue is in us, the longer it will take to overcome it.

People can be irked in many levels. Some people may not be comfortable with it, but take it as advice. Some people may give you a funny face, think about it, and then place the possibility of the issue is indeed true in them. Some people may get angry, and dislike you for that statement. Some people may get so irked that they refuse to be in contact with you, change their telephone numbers and address, and never want to see you again. Depending on the level of their anger, the issue may take just hours or years to resolve. However, if one is so lucky to be irked by a person with a Bodhisattva motivation, it will eventually open up their mind to be more receptive and accepting as the motivation behind the ‘hurtful’ comments was for the receiver’s benefit, and not the giver. How do we know if the giver comes with a Bodhisattva’s motivation? When regardless of our reaction, the giver never deters as their action was void of the 8 worldly concerns.

However, regardless of the giver’s motivation, be it from a Bodhisattva’s motivation or from a samsaric motivation, what is most important is ‘Why are you so repulsed by the words that came out of their mouth?’ Ultimately it is not difficult to see that the issue is within us, and never the giver. Once again, take the example of me being 80 kgs. If I am repulsed by being told about my weight, it doesn’t matter if a person is telling me for my good health or if the person is trying to make fun of me, I would be equally irked by both despite their motivation.

So, having understood the reason of why we are irked and that the issues we have presently in us is doing no good for us, how do we ride on the path of healing and happiness?

The fail proof way to overcome our issues is to have gratitude. It is not easy to tell off or say something bad about a person we love or care for; it truly is difficult. Think of the times when you have so hesitantly and with the deepest heartache, told off your family member on their poor conduct. Be grateful that you have someone who would point out the truth to you.

Why must we deal with our issues instead of staying in our comfort zone? Most importantly, we should express gratitude towards the person who has shown us the truth, and we appreciate them enough to deal with our issues so we do not lose them. Our comfort zone is not permanent, and it can be taken away from us unexpectedly at any time. At that time, we may have to face our issues under more difficult conditions, so it’s better if we deal with our issues while we can have so much more meaning to do it.

There some cases however, when dealing with the issue would be too complicated, or we lack the wisdom to move forward. In the event of such issues, we can dilute the problems by being extremely consistent with our sadhana, dharma work, and always stay silent. We should not talk about our issues and try to find the non-existing loophole to get out of it falsely as it would damage us further. After all, if talking can resolve all our problems, we would all talk ourselves to enlightenment!

As a last piece of advice, be fearless in making yourself a better person. Do not fear change. Change is inevitable and fear is an illusion, you can’t be afraid for something that may or may not come to pass. In short, if you’re unhappy about something, then change it. If you can’t change it, then change your attitude. Don’t complain.

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  1. Wan Wai Meng on Nov 11, 2016 at 12:13 am

    This is a very interesting topic, there is something in us that allows us to be irked. It is also due to us having very strong attachment to certain ideas or preconceptions.
    Naturally the less attachment we have to how things should be the easier to respond positively when presented with unfamiliar happenings and occurrences.

    And sometimes when necessary the teacher will do thing that will ‘irk’ the student, that the teacher see thats the student can potentially overcome a negative trait within them that hinders their spiritual progress. Naturally of the student is not practiced they will think the teacher is just being unfair, but this is not so. How kind is a spiritual teacher.

  2. Pastor KH Ng on Aug 1, 2016 at 5:40 pm

    Thank You Rinpoche for the for this very profound teaching on something that is very pervasive and happens to everyone everyday.

    Why are we irked? If we have no issues, why would we be irked? If we truly care about ourselves, wouldn’t it be better to acknowledge the issue(s) and face it, get over with it, so that it will not be an issue (s) anymore?

    Lastly, if the issue in not an issue and someone is trying to hurt us…then why are still irked? Perhaps, it is the giver whom we are irked with…….and why? Ego?

    Food for thought!!!

  3. Anne Ong on Jul 29, 2016 at 9:31 pm

    i think we are all very fortunate to be Rinpoche’s students and friends and should be very thankful that Rinpoche has the skills to point out our weak points and sensitive side to build up our characters.
    I myself is not a sensitive person and also towards others. I am a very direct and vocal type and I always try not to be, and try to remind myself to be more diplomatic.I am also not bothered with feedback on how I look…fat,short or a handicapped which i am. I feel very comfortable with the way i was born and that’s just me. It’s because i cant change the way i was born with and i can accept that happily 🙂

  4. Yoke Chim Yap on Jul 23, 2016 at 8:16 pm

    为什么很容易对他人的言词产生反感或不舒服?
    仁波切抛了一个很好的问题给我们去思考!
    我相信这是每个人都曾有过的感觉,只是是否嚴重或轻微而已,其實这足以影响个人的人際关係以及形象。一般人会有这种心態、我想应该离不开以下几种原因.主要是思想偏激,总觉得自己的見解是对的,瞧不起对方,觉的对方没知識。还有就是对方所言,正是自已最不想听的事實,因为不辛被言中了,或对方所討論和讲的话题不是自己感興趣的,討厌对方.不想听到他的声音,造成以上所有的原因主要还是「我执」很重。
    当然知道了,就要去改善,虽非一朝一夕就能馬上改.但要自已知道问题是出在那里,只要肯改变,就不会停留不变。学会聆听和接受批评是很重要的.

  5. Martin on Jul 8, 2016 at 5:59 am

    I recall this teaching but its a good refresher, and also a reminder of Rinpoche’s kindness.

    I wrote above that, “the Guru may raise issues that upset and irk us knowing that we are being forced to confront our issues within an environment where there is support around so that we are better able to deal with it. However, sometimes the student may not even be able to take criticisms from the Guru and may run away. Even with the risk, the Guru will still assume the role of the Giver because at least the issue will be brought out into the open and may be dealt with in time. As long as the issue stays hidden, it cannot be dealt with. What drives the Guru is Compassion and the motivation of the Guru is that of a Bodhisattva and so the Guru’s objective is to open up the issue so that it may heal eventually”.

    Today, I stand by that statement more than ever. I have seen time and time again, how Rinpoche breaks people free from the prison they have built for themselves and that which they reinforce daily.

    Those who cannot see better will say that the ‘Giver’ is cruel but in fact the opposite is true. It is easier to be nice and to leave people with their own afflictions in tact. We can say its not our duty to help them overcome what afflicts them. But they will forever be crippled by that which frightens them, embarrass them, and force them to be in denial. Unless these issues/neurosis are fixed, life becomes an exercise in which one utilises all one’s energies to navigate around an unnecessary infirmity.

  6. William Chua on Jul 6, 2016 at 10:36 pm

    Why do we get irked from comments or when people tells us something we do not want to hear? It is the person’s fault or is it ours? From the understanding of the article, it is our insecurities and issues we have inside us that makes us angry or irked by it. We have issues which we are not ready to face or ignore and we choose to pretend that it doesn’t exist. When someone gives us feedback on it, it flares up in us. So, it is actually us that is the problem.

    For me, it is actually an opportunity for me to face or look into myself on why I react to the feedback. It is time to examine myself on the reason behind my reaction and deal with it so that it will not bother me anymore in the future. It may take time because it is something deep rooted in me, but it is a start to make it better.

    Our Guru acts out of compassion, pushing our buttons so that we can improve ourselves. It cuts away our ego bit by bit and at the end of it, it no longer becomes a button where we react.

  7. Stella Cheang on Jul 6, 2016 at 11:58 am

    To many of us, it is as if our birth right to react or be offended when someone confronts our comfort of understanding and ego. I relate this teaching to the teaching in preparing our mind to receive Dharma by not being one of the 3 pots.

    Using the body weight (illustrated in Pastor Jean Ai’s write up) as an example which I can resonate deeply with. The person who actually quits (category 4 in PJA’s write up) is equivalent to an upside-down pot. It is easy for me to rule someone as wicked when he commented on my bodyweight, therefore I will naturally dismiss his comment and continue my willful lifestyle of lavish eating. And I will never be able to benefit from his comment even if there is truth to it. This is because I focus only on the impact on my ego, how the person present his comment, and I conjecture his intention but little on the message itself.

    Next, the person who has some doubts or overwhelmed by doubts (category 2 and 3 in PJA’s write up) are akin to cracked pot and contaminated pot. There is always element of distrust or misalignment / misunderstanding between the commenter and receiver. This happens to me all the time. I will not hesitate to interpret a comment on my bodyweight as having worn the wrong outfit. Interpreting the bodyweight issue as an outfit problem is so convenience and easily free me from doing anything to correct myself. It is actually a self-deceiving mechanism. As time goes by, the wrong view (blaming the issue on the outfit) will stick with me, hence even harder or too late to eventually recognize and be corrected.

    Lastly, the person who openly and happily accepts the training (category 1 in PJA’s write up). To me, it takes a lot of mindfulness, practice and training to reach this stage, some more it is on a case by case basis. What I am trying to say is, I may be able to openly and happily accept comment on my bodyweight today, but the same openness may not apply to, for example, say my hair. When someone comment on my bodyweight I will happily accept it and do something about it, but the same person when comment on my hair (example), I will be irked.

    As my conclusion, we must have a clear understanding and awareness of the different categories of reaction. Be extremely mindful and watch our reaction. Contemplating on our reaction is important. And lastly, apply the transformation. Once we are comfortable to receiving comments with open heart, we will be able to shift our focus on reaping the benefits from the comment rather than rebelling it.

    Thank you Rinpoche, Andrew, Pastor Jean Ai, Martin and Sarah for this very profound mind transformation teaching made simple for us.

    Humbly, bowing down,
    Stella Cheang

  8. Pastor KH Ng on Jul 5, 2016 at 3:40 pm

    Unhappiness, whether it is from someone irking us or in other forms basically arise from our self-grasping and self cherishing, Self grasping is grasping to a concept of “I’ as truly and inherently exist. The result is this “I” is the most important entity in the universe. Since, this “I” consist of the aggregates that includes feelings and perceptions, outside source that challenges the importance and happiness of this “I” brings unhappiness.
    The practice of the Eight Verses of Mind transformation is a direct antidote to the self grasping and self cherishing mind. By putting others above us, we dilute the importance of our ego and make us realise the importance of others. On a simple level, by making others happy, through the universal law of cause and effect, others will; or circumstances will arise for conditions to; make us happier too. Ultimately, we will realise that there are not a single difference between us and others on every level.

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  • Joy Kam
    Saturday, Feb 25. 2017 02:12 AM
    **The Three Bodies of a Buddha**

    The primary manifestation of a fully enlightened being is called the Dharmakaya. “Dharma” means phenomenon, while “kaya” means body. Therefore, Dharmakaya refers to the primordial or true nature of phenomena which is beyond conceptual and dualistic thought. This manifestation is essentially the mind of a fully enlightened being, beyond appearance and sensory perception. This mind knows no limits or boundaries… more: http://www.dorjeshugden.org/blog/the-three-bodies-of-a-buddha
  • Joy Kam
    Saturday, Feb 25. 2017 02:10 AM
    ***Yangdup Wealth Puja 2017*** blog post is out.

    Find out why is the Yangdup Puja performed? How does wealth play a role in Buddhism? Isn’t Buddhism about letting go of one’s worldly attachments? Check out the fabulous pictures and videos here >>> http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/kechara-13-depts/yangdup-wealth-puja-2017.html
  • Ben
    Saturday, Feb 25. 2017 01:56 AM
    For Pastor Shin – Are pujas more effective than prayers?
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  • Pastor Shin
    Saturday, Feb 25. 2017 01:29 AM
    By understanding Dorje Shugden’s enlightened nature, we realise that relying on him cannot lead us anywhere except for Enlightenment. Reciting any praise of Dorje Shugden on a daily basis reminds us of his attainments, and the type of being we are propitiating. It also serves as a reminder of the qualities we can attain as a result of relying on him, that his practice will help us to attain common and uncommon siddhis.

    http://www.dorjeshugden.org/practice/praise-of-dorje-shugdens-origins
  • Pastor Shin
    Saturday, Feb 25. 2017 01:28 AM
    Incense has been used as a traditional substance for offering since the birth of Buddhism. The first recorded instance of incense being used occurs in the story of Magadha Sangmo, whose impact can be seen across the ancient Buddhist world. The daughter of Suddatta, a layman and the Buddha’s primary patron, she herself was an ardent student of Buddha Shakyamuni. After marrying, she longed to see her Guru, the Buddha and offer dana. Climbing to the roof of her in-law’s house, she offered incense and a verse of invocation. The omniscient Buddha heard her prayers and arrived with his entire entourage, descending from the sky on a lion to fulfil her request.

    http://www.dorjeshugden.org/practice/incense-offering-prayers-to-dorje-shugden
  • Lin Mun
    Friday, Feb 24. 2017 09:37 PM
    John is so brave and compassionate. He risk his life to save the rabbit and that shows he appreciate live very much despite it is an animal. Eventhough he lives in the street to beg for food but he never forgets his 2 pets a dog and a rabbit. He takes care of his pets with whatever he begs. Inspiring to all of us to never take things for granted and not abuse animals.

    I am also proud with the Ireland government in taking action to punish the 18 year old man who abuse and tried to kill the rabbit. This will create the awareness to all that this is a cruel action and that laws will be imposed against these people.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/the-rabbit-in-the-river.html
  • Pastor Shin
    Thursday, Feb 23. 2017 11:29 PM
    What did they do to Geshe Thupten Lama?

    Geshe Thupten Lama was one of the pioneers who founded Tibetan schools in exile and served as a school teacher from 1963 to 1994 for which he received high commendations from the Tibetan exile government. Shocking what they did to this old erudite master Geshe Thupten Lama after serving them for years.

    Read more: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=119404
  • Joy Kam
    Thursday, Feb 23. 2017 10:41 PM
    >>>Who is Tulku Drakpa Gyeltsen?<<<
    Dear sincere dharma students around the world and friends, After the great master, meditator, teacher, logician, yogi, siddha and erudite scholar Tulku Drakpa Gyeltsen was ‘eliminated’ by the government of the 5th Dalai Lama over three hundred years ago in Tibet, his reincarnation line was banned. That does not mean he stopped reincarnating as he continued in a string of high and beneficial lamas until present day, although he was not allowed to use his title and name. He has his main mind incarnation and many of his body, speech and activity incarnations also. His reincarnations certainly continued as confirmed by great beings such as Kyabje Pabongka Rinpoche, Trijang Rinpoche, Panchen Rinpoche, Scholar Lobsang Tamdin, etc. Read more… http://www.dorjeshugden.org/blog/who-is-tulku-drakpa-gyeltsen
  • Alice Tay
    Thursday, Feb 23. 2017 09:38 PM
    After been rejected for so many years, many scientists like Seoul National University finally confirmed the existence of meridians. It’s a piece of glad news which may help the people especially the treatments like acupuncture is based on meridians and energy channels.

    Life is full of challenges and commitments. This is not easy for everyone has immediate lifestyle changes to maintain a healthy balance for eating and living. Therefore, this wonderful news is really bring benefits to others especially those are really need for acupuncture or similar treatments which are caused by nadis blockages and etc.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this nice sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/science-finally-proves-meridians-exist.html
  • Lin Mun
    Thursday, Feb 23. 2017 09:21 PM
    Thank you Pastor Seng Piow for sharing another miracle story of Rinpoche and Dorje Shugden. As long as we have full trust in Dorje Shugden, he will assist us to clear our obstacles and challenges.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/mother-and-son-saved-by-tsem-rinpoche-and-dorje-shugden.html
  • Yeo Kwai Gin
    Thursday, Feb 23. 2017 09:02 PM
    感恩仁波切的分享这殊胜的一天的文章 !

    我是多么的幸运, 拥有此机缘和福份, 参与这殊胜的一天。很感恩郭月谊讲法师和一班佛友, 日夜的筹备,让当晚的活动顺利和圆满的完成 !

    在这殊胜的法会,大家有幸的得到各种加持, 如触摸加持的金泽八吉祥,迎请加持的正能量,增长好的因素如内在和外在的财富,寿命等等。大家还有幸的可以品尝已加持特制的坚果饭, 乳酪和奶茶。那是多么的有福气啊!希望将来的每一年,大家可以再次的参与,还有携带家人和亲戚朋友到来, 也让他们得到金泽的加持 !

    愿上师詹仁波切健康,长寿,吉祥如意, 克切拉禅修林的工程尽快完成, 佛法传播到世界每一个角落 !

    感恩合十
    YEO KWAI GIN

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/kechara-13-depts/yangdup-wealth-puja-2017.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Feb 23. 2017 07:14 PM
    Beautiful image of Vajrayogini indeed with shimmering jewels offered to her. Its so nice of this lady Ms Wahyu of her painting of Vajrayogini to our previous Rinpoche whom she have not met before.Vajrayogini’s practice is very powerful to start now making offerings and to be connected .we will then gain a great amount of merits.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this beautiful painting of Vajrayogini.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/students-friends/shimmering-vajrayogini-from-ms-wahyu.html#comment-736083
  • Lin Mun
    Wednesday, Feb 22. 2017 10:18 PM
    Mwalua is truly a very compassionate person. Not many would want to trouble themselves or even risk their live to bring water to these animals. He has such a big heart towards living beings and the importance of life.

    Angie Brown, Cher Callaway and Tami Calliope are also very generous and kind person. They help him to raise fund so he can continue with his action to save the animals.

    I hope Mwalua will receive continuous help from all kind donors so animals don’t have to suffer.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/he-is-super-compassionate.html
  • Alice Tay
    Wednesday, Feb 22. 2017 10:05 PM
    Heartwarming message from Mwalua, who is so compassionate and empathetic:
    “There is completely no water, so the animals are depending on humans,” Mwalua tells The Dodo. “If we don’t help them, they will die.”

    Mwalua fully aware that the wildlife will definitely die without the water. Furthermore, only humans can help the animals. He is able to let go of his stress and laziness just to deliver the water patiently and passionately. Many wildlife have been saved due to his kind actions. Furthermore, he visited local schools and hope to bring awareness to the children so that when they grow up they can protect the wildlife as one of their legacies.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing. This is a good example of loving kindness and compassion to inspire us to greater loving kindness and compassion.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/he-is-super-compassionate.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, Feb 22. 2017 05:02 PM
    By being a good example ourselves, we can be a more effective campaigner for the helpless animals. I believe that when we want to stand for something, the most powerful words that speak for us is our action. It is inconsistent when one campaigns for the rescued or stray dogs and ask for donations to feed them but consume chicken and seafood and pork and beef. There is no difference between these animals, they all have feelings and fear for pain. So, here’s a picture of the dogs all trapped in a cramped cage where chicken, sea animals, pigs, and cows are in same or worse conditions waiting to be slaughtered. If you feel for these poor dogs, please spare a thought for the other meat on your plate too. Thank you, Rinpoche for this sharing.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/blog-it-tweet-it-facebook-it-again-and-again-pleeeeeeease.html

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Click on the picture to enlarge and see what Suzy from Hawaii commented on the Dorje Shugden issue after much research. She is very candid and honest. Refreshing. Original is posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vl-4lIwxph4
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I am in the process of creating beautiful Dorje Shugden and Kechara Forest Retreat watches at this time. So we can take precious protector and Kechara Forest Retreat wherever we go and be blessed everytime we see what time it is. I am perfecting the designs with a great team and will update when done but these are just some samples that arrived. Feast your eyes! Tsem Rinpoche
                        Pick the practice, devotion and precepts of Vajra Yogini\'s path over everything and anything in samsara. Samsara has nothing of value and nothing lasting to offer. You are born in suffering, live in suffering, die in suffering and enter bardo and future lives expecting more sufferings. This is not a negative way of looking at things but the truth. If the truth is negative, so it is the truth. Devote oneself to the guru, dharma work, dharma practice and bringing dharma to others compassionately. Choose to practice Vajra Yogini now with the preliminaries. You can start right now: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/starting-on-vajra-yogini-now.html  Much care, Tsem Rinpoche
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Pick the practice, devotion and precepts of Vajra Yogini's path over everything and anything in samsara. Samsara has nothing of value and nothing lasting to offer. You are born in suffering, live in suffering, die in suffering and enter bardo and future lives expecting more sufferings. This is not a negative way of looking at things but the truth. If the truth is negative, so it is the truth. Devote oneself to the guru, dharma work, dharma practice and bringing dharma to others compassionately. Choose to practice Vajra Yogini now with the preliminaries. You can start right now: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/starting-on-vajra-yogini-now.html Much care, Tsem Rinpoche
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Message to Tibetans in English
Message to the Tibetans
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Left to right: Kensur Jampa Yeshe Rinpoche, Sharpa Choeje Jetsun Lobsang Nyima, Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche, Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, 101st Gaden Tripa Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal. Great lamas of Gaden Shartse Monastery
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A beautiful Indian rendition of Gyenze Dorje Shugden manifesting in wealth form
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This huge Buddha in Korea is magnificent
The very first oracle of Dorje Shugden in trance statue. I have commissioned this.
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The very first oracle of Dorje Shugden in trance statue. I have commissioned this.
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Such a old and ancient thangka painting of Dorje Shugden. He has been around in Tibet practiced for hundreds of years.
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One of the "Four Exalted Brothers" Avalokiteshvara statues, Phagpa Wati of Kyirong, which is now with H.H. the Dalai Lama in Dharamsala.
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My Oser girl and Mumu boy are so adorable
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Wow this meditator in his cave in front of a painting of Yamantaka draped with a white khata of respect. He sits among bones to remind him of impermanence and our future. The bones inspire him strongly to let go of all attachments in this life and focus on dharma, meditation and liberation and he is doing so. Very beautiful and inspirational. Tsem Rinpoche
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Tenzing Norgay found this in Nepal. Guess what it is?
Sir Edmund Hillary
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Sir Edmund Hillary
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Halloween is my favorite holiday. Wild natural plants and flowers are my favorite offering. Buddha's teachings on meditation and Yidam practice bring the ultimate results and happiness. ~Tsem Rinpoche
Previous lives do resemble current lives especially if they are a recognized incarnation. If notice how similar the previous and current Trijang Rinpoche looks. The eyes, bone structure, expression, long neck, thin and overall look. Beautiful. I\'ve seen this phenomena over and over in many Rinpoche incarnations. Especially when you compare them with pictures of previous and current lives at around the same ages. Something powerfully karmic about this. Tsem Rinpoche
5 months ago
Previous lives do resemble current lives especially if they are a recognized incarnation. If notice how similar the previous and current Trijang Rinpoche looks. The eyes, bone structure, expression, long neck, thin and overall look. Beautiful. I've seen this phenomena over and over in many Rinpoche incarnations. Especially when you compare them with pictures of previous and current lives at around the same ages. Something powerfully karmic about this. Tsem Rinpoche
It\'s nice to have monks visitors and resident monks in Kechara
5 months ago
It's nice to have monks visitors and resident monks in Kechara
                         Taken in Lake Champlain in Canada. A huge water monster...neat...
5 months ago
Taken in Lake Champlain in Canada. A huge water monster...neat...
Beautiful! His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Dorje Chang has always been good friends with His Holiness Karmapa. No wonder H.H. Karmapa never spoke against Dorje Shugden. Two reasons perhaps: One is he knows the qualities of Trijang Rinpoche who is a attained being. And Karmapa himself has clairvoyance to perceive the true nature of Dorje Shugden directly. I love to see great beings like this manifesting closeness. When I see, I just want to prostrate to them and thank them for sharing such good examples to someone like me. Praise to the ego-less mind! Tsem Rinpoche
5 months ago
Beautiful! His Holiness Kyabje Trijang Dorje Chang has always been good friends with His Holiness Karmapa. No wonder H.H. Karmapa never spoke against Dorje Shugden. Two reasons perhaps: One is he knows the qualities of Trijang Rinpoche who is a attained being. And Karmapa himself has clairvoyance to perceive the true nature of Dorje Shugden directly. I love to see great beings like this manifesting closeness. When I see, I just want to prostrate to them and thank them for sharing such good examples to someone like me. Praise to the ego-less mind! Tsem Rinpoche
Serkong Dorje Chang on the left and his son Serkong Tsenshab Rinpoche on the right.
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Serkong Dorje Chang on the left and his son Serkong Tsenshab Rinpoche on the right.
High lamas in France September 2016
5 months ago
High lamas in France September 2016
༧གོང་ས་ཆེན་པོ་སྐུ་འཕྲེང་བཅུ་བཞི་པ་མཆོག་དང་རྡོ་རྗེ་ཤུགས་ལྡན། - Interesting relationship between 14th Dalai Lama and Dorje Shugden:   http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=109757
5 months ago
༧གོང་ས་ཆེན་པོ་སྐུ་འཕྲེང་བཅུ་བཞི་པ་མཆོག་དང་རྡོ་རྗེ་ཤུགས་ལྡན། - Interesting relationship between 14th Dalai Lama and Dorje Shugden: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=109757
Dalai Lama Says We Can Practise Dorje Shugden Finally! Read more on this development--- http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=109777
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Dalai Lama Says We Can Practise Dorje Shugden Finally! Read more on this development--- http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=109777
More time spent in dharma work is more karma collected to be happy and more time spent in non-dharma works is more karma collected to be unhappy.~Tsem Rinpoche
5 months ago
More time spent in dharma work is more karma collected to be happy and more time spent in non-dharma works is more karma collected to be unhappy.~Tsem Rinpoche
All Dorje Shugden prophesizes will come to pass,
 Those who generate refuge and merits will trust, 
 By trusting one will see the good results of his pronouncements,
 By seeing the good results, one\'s path becomes more clear, 
 The path of practice, purification and siddhic results, 
 This would eliminate the samsara within our minds.
 ~Tsem Rinpoche
5 months ago
All Dorje Shugden prophesizes will come to pass, Those who generate refuge and merits will trust, By trusting one will see the good results of his pronouncements, By seeing the good results, one's path becomes more clear, The path of practice, purification and siddhic results, This would eliminate the samsara within our minds. ~Tsem Rinpoche
Large Dorje Shugden statue built by the 5th Dalai Lama and housed in Trode Khangsar. Sock Wand and Mdm Chuah took this picture in Lhasa, Tibet 2016
5 months ago
Large Dorje Shugden statue built by the 5th Dalai Lama and housed in Trode Khangsar. Sock Wand and Mdm Chuah took this picture in Lhasa, Tibet 2016
Our own Kecharian Mdm. Chua with the oracle of Dorje Shugden Gen Tenzin Tsultrim in Lhasa, Tibet 2016
5 months ago
Our own Kecharian Mdm. Chua with the oracle of Dorje Shugden Gen Tenzin Tsultrim in Lhasa, Tibet 2016
Our very own Kecharian Mdm Chua standing in front of holy Trode Khangsar-the Chapel to Dorje Shugden built 400 years ago by the Great 5th Dalai Lama-Tibet 2016
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Our very own Kecharian Mdm Chua standing in front of holy Trode Khangsar-the Chapel to Dorje Shugden built 400 years ago by the Great 5th Dalai Lama-Tibet 2016
Our very own Kecharian Mdm Chua standing in front of holy Gaden Monastery, Tibet 2016
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Our very own Kecharian Mdm Chua standing in front of holy Gaden Monastery, Tibet 2016
                         This is the oracle of Dorje Shugden in Lhasa, Tibet. His name is Gen Tenzin Tsultrim of Sera Monastery in Tibet.
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This is the oracle of Dorje Shugden in Lhasa, Tibet. His name is Gen Tenzin Tsultrim of Sera Monastery in Tibet.
Ms. Sock Wan, Oracle of Dorje Shugden in Tibet Gen Tenzin Tsultrim, Mdm Chuah and Mr. Tashi in Tibet 2016
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Ms. Sock Wan, Oracle of Dorje Shugden in Tibet Gen Tenzin Tsultrim, Mdm Chuah and Mr. Tashi in Tibet 2016
Mahasiddha Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche, H.H. Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and Ven. Rabten Choktrul Rinpoche 2016
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Mahasiddha Kyabje Gangchen Rinpoche, H.H. Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and Ven. Rabten Choktrul Rinpoche 2016
His Eminence Mahasiddha Gangchen Rinpoche and the official oracle of Dorje Shugden Panglung Kuten Choji lah in Italy together September 2016
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His Eminence Mahasiddha Gangchen Rinpoche and the official oracle of Dorje Shugden Panglung Kuten Choji lah in Italy together September 2016
My thoughts on Malaysia. Thank you. Tsem Rinpoche
5 months ago
My thoughts on Malaysia. Thank you. Tsem Rinpoche
Beautiful thangka of Vajra Yogini. Look at the details where she appears in visions and also takes people to Kechara.
5 months ago
Beautiful thangka of Vajra Yogini. Look at the details where she appears in visions and also takes people to Kechara.
Left to right:

His Holiness the Gaden Throne holder Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal, His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche (very young) and His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche in Gaden Shartse Prayer Hall during prayers.
5 months ago
Left to right: His Holiness the Gaden Throne holder Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal, His Holiness Kyabje Zong Rinpoche (very young) and His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche in Gaden Shartse Prayer Hall during prayers.
 It\'s nice when families support the spiritual journeys of their children. This is one beautiful family of Pastor Niral of Kechara
5 months ago
It's nice when families support the spiritual journeys of their children. This is one beautiful family of Pastor Niral of Kechara
Jog Falls a power place of Vajra Yogini and Heruka: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=108652
6 months ago
Jog Falls a power place of Vajra Yogini and Heruka: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=108652
Don\'t wait for the perfect group. Don\'t wait for the perfect person. Don\'t wait for the perfect situation. Don\'t expect yourself to be perfect. Don\'t even look for perfection at least in our realm as it does not exist or time will run out. Just get going and keep doing good. It\'s between you and yourself. Tsem Rinpoche
6 months ago
Don't wait for the perfect group. Don't wait for the perfect person. Don't wait for the perfect situation. Don't expect yourself to be perfect. Don't even look for perfection at least in our realm as it does not exist or time will run out. Just get going and keep doing good. It's between you and yourself. Tsem Rinpoche
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