Be Happy

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Each time I sit down to write and assemble my thoughts together, I will await the important moment when my precious Guru opens up my mind with a ray of blessings. Then my scattered thoughts and ideas which are all over the place will, like pieces of jigsaw puzzle, come together and fall into place. Then will come the exciting part, when I feverishly ‘pen’ my thoughts as they chase one another.

I thank my most compassionate Guru for your infinite kindness in giving me this very rare and treasured opportunity to write reviews on the Gems of Dharma, which are mainly the mind-shaping teachings of Tsem Rinpoche, transcribed into books. I thank kind Dharma friends, like Beatrix Ooi, for your invaluable help in getting my article uploaded as a blogpost, with pictures and all.

 

A Review of “Be Happy” by H.E. the 25th Tsem Rinpoche

Being Happy is a win-win situation. We must strive to be happy.

In “Be Happy”, Tsem Rinpoche shows us that happiness is a state of mind and we can achieve it, but only after we have determined the causes of why we are unhappy in the first place. He takes us on a journey where he shows us where our mind is coming from when we encounter unhappiness , how we react negatively from our negatively habituated mind , and then he shows how we can retrain our mind to get out of this negative state into a state of peace and quiet, into a state of happiness. Throughout this book, we feel that he is at the heart of each situation and experience and not outside looking in. “Be Happy” carries a strong message from Tsem Rinpoche which will appeal to people everywhere who feel trapped by everyday problems, difficult situations and relationships. The message is “I have been down this road before; I know what it is like to suffer and to feel trapped in the suffering. But look at me: I was able to free my mind by understanding where my suffering really came from and by taking positive uplifting steps to remove it by eradicating its causes. In the end, by applying the Dharma, I won over suffering and not let it win over me and control me”.

 

The Part of “Be Happy” That Touched Me Deeply.

“I must have made prayers in my previous lives to be in that situation”

The part of “Be Happy” that touched me deeply is the part where Tsem Rinpoche says that he was born into such a difficult situation(to experience incredibly great suffering, particularly from his mother, Dana) because “I must have made prayers in my previous lives to be in that situation . I am not the best person but I did grow up wanting to benefit others”.

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“I believe I did prayers to be born into that situation. My whole life, people asked me, “You’re a Rinpoche, why did you have to suffer like that?” I was thinking, “Yeah, why?” I was thinking to myself. “Why?” I kept thinking for years, why? I realised why. I must have prayed to be in that situation”.

“I did grow up knowing about mental pain. I did grow up knowing the scars of war. I did grow up knowing about people who are hurt. I did grow up knowing that we should forgive people like that. I did grow up knowing they suffer more than I do, and that they deserve our compassion and love, not pity. That we should not add on to their pain anymore and by saying sorry, they have one less enemy from our side. By saying sorry to my mother, I was accepting my situation and when you accept a situation, and a very sad one, you transform.”

In Lord Buddha’s time, when he taught the Four Noble Truths about suffering –the truth of suffering, the truth of the causes or origins of suffering, the truth of the cessation of suffering and the truth of the way out of suffering– people’s minds instantly shifted, they attained realisations and even achieved liberation from suffering and samsara(our cyclic existence of suffering), there and then.

In this twenty-first century, where our minds are mired in strong delusions of attachment and craving, hatred and anger stemming from ego and self-cherishing, the consequence is a painful reality that we are confronted with every day – a reality of anxiety, loneliness, intolerance, depression, low self-esteem, mental anguish and holding on to hate and anger and a lot of hurting and retaliation. Out of the depths of our misery and caught in the “poor me” syndrome, will we listen to a spiritual teacher, who expounds to us the Four Noble Truth? No. Not really. We may even turn around and ask him: “What do you know of pain and suffering? How can you talk about letting go of what causes suffering so that I can be happy, when you don’t even know how much I am suffering, when you don’t understand the nature of my suffering?”

Thus in order to truly benefit the people of this age, in order to help free us from our suffering, a most compassionate being has sought to be reborn in a suffering situation, to be in an environment to experience, or have people close to him experience, the realities of the suffering of this age, so that he can truly identify and empathise with people and teach the dharma of how to eradicate the causes of suffering and how to be happy. People will listen because he has walked down their road of pain and suffering before, and emerged a winner by overcoming the causes of the suffering that they are currently experiencing.
He becomes our source of inspiration. He makes us want to walk the hard road of mind transformation, like him, and gain our mind of peace and quiet – a happy mind.

Later, in “Be Happy”, Tsem Rinpoche again says that for some people, they actually prayed to be born in difficult situations which will train their mind and accelerate their spiritual progress. Those who were born in very difficult situations and grow up to be great and highly respected people, despite a difficult childhood, become an inspiration to millions of people.

 

Training the Mind For Happiness.

The mind has habituated itself, unwittingly, over a long period of time, to be unhappy. So now, in order to achieve happiness, we need to take a hard look at why and how we have been making ourselves unhappy until this unhappiness has become so deeply habituated in us. After identifying and determining the reasons why we are unhappy, we can then apply Tsem Rinpoche’s methods of training the mind , in “Be Happy”, to dismantle and shed our unhappiness and replace it with happiness. These methods are described to us in this book, with the force of firm conviction, as Tsem Rinpoche has applied them on himself with great positive effect.

The following are the Five Points I learned from “Be Happy” about how I can make myself happy.

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1. Being Happy is About Seeing the Good in Every Person or Situation

Being able to see the good in every person or situation is the result of training the mind to remove a main cause of our unhappiness, and that is wrong perceptions or wrong projections.

We train the mind to focus on the good qualities and not on the faults of another person or situation. We train the mind to discard our deeply habituated way of looking at people and situations from a negative perspective or from negative projections.

The following is an example from Tsem Rinpoche’s own life and experience. In this situation, it was his Guru Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen who taught him to look at his mother from a positive perspective:

When Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen told Tsem Rinpoche to apologise to his mother for hurting her and for running away from home, Rinpoche was at first bewildered. He wondered why he should apologise to his mother. It was not his fault. Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen said he had to do it because he needed to advance in his practice. Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen then explained, “Because you don’t look at the negative things your mother did – you have to look at the positive. You’re here. Someone fed you. Someone gave you a house (to stay). You‘re here in our centre, that’s the result of your mother’s kindness. You call her and you say you’re sorry for the things you said to her and for the things you thought about her.”

Tsem Rinpoche told his teacher that her mother was not going to take his call. But Geshe-la just said, “Never mind, you call her and if she doesn’t pick up, you tried. So, at least when you pray, when you do your sadhana, it comes from your heart, then it’s real.”

Tsem Rinpoche apologised because his Guru had said he should do so. It was difficult for him. There was all the pain he had suffered from his mother’s abuse. There was all the pain he had suffered in running away, because she did not want him to practice the Dharma. Tsem Rinpoche had a lot of reasons to be angry with his mother. However, later he says,”I realised at that time, at seventeen years old, that if I did not apologise to my mother, I would hold on to it. If I held on to the anger, how could I do my sadhanas and retreats? How could I go to India to be a monk? A monk is supposed to be kind. So I did it and have no regrets”.

It is important to train the mind to focus especially on the good qualities of one’s Guru. Our Guru has sacrificed a great deal – giving up his family, his friends, his freedom, his pursuit of personal happiness – and sat through thousands of hours of Dharma teachings, and taken on the vows so that he could bring us the Dharma teachings and be our Spiritual Guide.

When we can train our mind to look at our Guru’s qualities, it becomes easier to also train it to focus on the good qualities of others. This is because our Guru is a beacon of kindness and compassion and only goodness and virtues flow from him.

 

2. Being Happy is About Changing Perceptions

Our unhappiness comes from our wrong perceptions of other people and other people’s wrong perception of us. so we need to change our perceptions from negative to positive.

  1. Our unhappiness comes from our wrong perceptions of other people and from other people’s wrong perception of us. As these wrong or negative perceptions of others have been deeply habituated in us, we have to train our minds to let go of them and replace them with correct or positive perceptions. Then our reactions to these difficult situations will be positive and this in turn will invite positive reactions from others, as their perceptions of us will also have changed from negative to positive.Here is an example of how we react negatively from a wrong perception:

    A wrong perception arises when someone, in your opinion, makes a negative remark about your dress. She meant it as a suggestion or advice. But you instantly see it as a negative remark, that is designed to put you down. You become very hurt and even angry, because your mind has been habituated to view this type of remark as negative. In the past, you had been made out to be a fashion disaster, as people had been repeatedly making remarks about your poor dress sense, which you saw as criticism. Therefore, in the past, you had always reacted with hurt and danger too. Your wrong perception of others will in turn trigger their wrong perception of you. When you react negatively toward them, they perceive you to be a hostile and aggressive person, especially if you retaliate in anger. Therefore, when you react negatively, as you have been habituated to do in the past, you will lose friends and opportunities and cause loved ones to become estranged from you.

    Our habituated wrong perception arose from narrow-mindedness, which Tsem Rinpoche says is due to lack of exposure, study and mostly due to lack of the application of Dharma. Correcting our perception will lead us to face ourselves and not run away or hide, and we will transform and move in the direction of happiness.

  2. Correcting wrong perceptions of one’s Guru who is our spiritual guide and who will lead us to ultimate Freedom and Happiness.

    When we project our habituated negative perceptions and expectations on to our Guru, they will become severe obstacles for us in our spiritual path, and will block our chances of gaining attainments and of progressing.Great Masters of this age will employ unconventional methods to teach us and train our minds to let go of wrong perceptions. For instance, teachers who are monks, know that their lay students usually have very fixed (wrong) perceptions and projections about how they should speak and what they should wear. If these teacher do not follow conventions, then their students will immediately criticise them and see them as misbehaving, because of their wrong perceptions. The teachers will still risk their censure because they want their students to let go of their wrong perceptions and move to a higher level.When Tsem Rinpoche did not shave off his hair, and when he wore lay clothes for a period of time in the past, he was severely criticised. They said he was sneaky because he had worn robes in the monastery and now outside the monastery, he was wearing lay clothes. There was even a rumour that he had disrobed! Yet, this was all done with the approval of his Gurus because of special circumstances then! By criticising him from their wrong perceptions, they were actually putting down Tsem Rinpoche’s Gurus, all of whom were highly realised masters!

 

3. Stop the Blame, Face Yourself, Be Happy!

Being Unhappy and Running Away

Every time we encounter a difficult situation and we cannot cope with it, it seems alright to run away from it. When we examine the reason behind our running away from the situation and our inability to cope with it, we will usually be able to trace it back to some ‘cause’ in our past.

In the past, we might have had a doting mother, who had rescued us from all the difficult situations. So now, even though the situation has changed, and there is no mother to rescue us, we still continue to expect people around us to ‘rescue’ us, by giving us the solution. We still remain, in our perception, the little boy or girl who had always been rescued. We remain helpless, and do nothing. We then become bewildered when the person with us in the situation doesn’t rescue us, because in our mind, we are still the same person, who used to be rescued. On the other hand, the person with us has the perception that we are lazy, selfish and unmotivated and a loser because of our negative reaction!

What is even worse is when we actually know that the situation is different and that we now cannot get what we want. However, we are so habituated in our “helpless, poor me” state of mind that we will not do anything about it.

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Stop the Blame!

At the ordinary psychological level, we will probably be able to trace the source of our unhappiness and our running away to our mother, who, in the past, had time and again rescued us. Then we will be directed to shift the blame to our mother. But this will not help us in the long run. We will not heal. So we should stop the blaming.

However, when we move to a higher level to determine the truth of the situation (that is, when we apply Buddhist psychology), we will see it as the truth of people having lived their lives, as they grew up, based on ‘wrong’ experiences and wrong perceptions . The ‘wrong’ experience is that they had always been rescued in the past by a doting mother. The wrong perception is that in every situation they encounter now there will always be a person like their mother to rescue them. The reality is that, now, the situation and the people they encounter in the situation are different. So, when they continue to have such wrong perceptions, not only do they suffer, they make other people around them suffer as well.

Therefore, when we apply the psychology of this higher level, we will let go of our wrong perceptions and expectations and correct our perceptions. When we correct our perceptions, our reactions will be positive and will lead to positive reactions from others.

If you train yourself not to blame , even if someone else is at fault, you do not blame, then when you come across someone who is right, you will train yourself not to blame. Sometimes, when someone is right and you are in the habit of blaming, you will end up hurting them.
Face yourself!

From a psychological perspective, as long as we keep silent about our faults and continue to hold them within us or hide them, and not acknowledge and confess them, the faults within us will fester inside us like a cancerous growth, while we continue to run away from difficult situations.

From a psychological perspective, we need to open up and face ourselves. When we open up and talk about what we did wrong, we are actually facing ourselves and thus coming to terms with ourselves. We will acknowledge and confess to someone – a teacher, a close friend, parents – that we are wrong, which itself is therapeutic, because we are not hiding anymore. As our habituated wrong perceptions and faults have been ‘exposed’, they will no longer fester within us as they would have been if we had still kept them hidden within us.

On a spiritual level, if we can face ourselves, we will not push the blame on others. We will not run away when we encounter a difficult situation. We will begin to take responsibility for ourselves. We will not end up losers.

Face Yourself and Stop Blaming Others

Being habituated in blaming others and not facing yourself can even be a reason for people turning into criminals. Even serial killers blame people in the past for their criminal behaviour! In hypnotherapy, they trace the source of their ‘psychological’ problem to an uncle or neighbour who had ‘touched’ them!

 

4. Being Happy is About Letting Go! We Let Go Because We Realise it’s Karma!

Letting Go of Anger

Tsem Rinpoche had learned to hold on to anger because he had grown up with a lot of anger in his life. When he was a child, he had watched his mother go coldly silent for days and weeks because she was angry with him. She just ignored him. It was very scary for Rinpoche to live in a house with someone, like her, with so much anger and so much silence. His mother lived for many years holding anger in her heart. So Tsem Rinpoche learned from his mother that when he was angry with someone, he should ignore that person, not talk to them, not look at them and wait for that person to go to him first and apologise. He was repeating exactly what his mother had done.

For years, he ignored and avoided people he was angry with, sometimes for as long as six months. He kept blaming his mother for this and would tell others it was her fault. He would tell them that she had trained him to hold on to anger. This showed that he was far from being healed.

Only after he learnt Dharma with his teacher, Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen, did he move on to the next level, and that was to recognise that he himself had created the karma to be born in this kind of environment and to experience this kind of experience. Only then did he begin to heal.

He later came to understand why his Guru had made him apologise to his mother. ”I realised at that time, at seventeen years old, that if I did not apologise to my mother, I would hold on to it. If I held on to the anger, how could I do my sadhanas and retreats? How could I go to India to be a monk? A monk is supposed to be kind. So I did it and have no regrets”.

Only, when we let go of our anger with others, can our Dharma practice, retreats and Dharma work be meaningful and lead us to gain results. Only when we let go, by letting go of all wrong perceptions and projections and by recognising that we had created the cause for our difficulties and suffering, can we transform.

Unfortunately, for Tsem Rinpoche’s mother ( who had grown up with so much anger from a horrifying girlhood spent in a war zone and in a concentration camp) that anger stayed with her until her death. She went to her death holding all that anger in her. How sad.

When we still hold on to anger, and ignore those we are angry with, we will make many enemies. We will bring our spiritual energy down. We will become depressed, we will be left alone to ourselves and no one will respect us. No one will come near us.

The next time someone hurts you or disappoints you, let go. Letting go is recognising that we created the karma for it to happen. We let go as we have experienced the karma. By letting go, we will avoid creating more negative karma or causes for future suffering.

 

5. Being Happy is About Taking Responsibilities

Buddhist psychology – Knowing that we had created the karma to be born in a certain situation that has brought much unhappiness, we accept the situation and take responsibility. We let go of blaming others.

Buddhist psychology: If you are a failure and a loser, don’t blame your mother, brothers and sisters They were the environmental causes, which is the temporary cause. The real cause is your karma to be born into that situation.

Taking Responsibility and Healing Anger

After recognising the workings of karma that created the source of his suffering, Tsem Rinpoche took responsibility and said “sorry” to his mother. He realised that it was not her fault that he was born into a difficult situation. He was sorry for thinking that she was to blame for his unhappiness and suffering. In fact, he had created a lot of suffering for her shouting back at her when he ran away. His running away must have hurt her quite a lot. Being unwell, she was not responsible and not to be blamed for her actions. His saying sorry to her was a Buddhist way of healing. By taking responsibility he gave himself a chance to heal his anger.

Stop blaming others because they are environmental causes. The real cause is the karma that you created to be born into a difficult situation.

Taking Responsibility Whether You are Born Into a Wealthy or Poor Family.

People who are born into a wealthy family, and do not take responsibility, will live frivolously and waste the wealth by having a good time. They will not make an effort or push themselves to realise their full potential. They will end up being losers, and waste their lives away.

People, who are born into an environment of poverty or adversity, but who take responsibility by taking charge of their lives, have often transcended their adversity to become great successful people.

So, for some, the positive experience of being born into a wealthy family can turn into negative karma, when they do not take responsibility and become losers. For others who are born into a situation of poverty and suffering, it becomes good karma, when they take responsibility and turn their lives around and become great or successful people.

Taking Responsibility and Transforming Ourselves.

When we take responsibility, we will transform ourselves by letting go of grudges, anger, expectations, projections, ignorance. Don’t expect others to transform. We transform because we have the Dharma and our Spiritual Guide.

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The Benefits of Reading “Be Happy”

For me, reading “Be Happy” took me on a personal journey into myself and my past. I found a parallel situation to Tsem Rinpoche’s experience with his mother. Only mine took on a different form. My childhood was traumatic because of an identity crises. “Be Happy” showed me that I cannot blame my parent who precipitated the crisis. I take responsibility because I had created the cause to experience this situation of great pain. It was coming into Kechara and meeting my Guru, Tsem Rinpoche, and listening to his teachings that caused me to start seeing this traumatic past as what it is. My healing began there and then. Reading “Be Happy” is a happy reminder that I was saved by the Dharma and my Guru from spiralling into depression and living a lonely and unhappy life.

“Be Happy” is a must read book for every one of us, as we all wish to live our daily lives peacefully, being able to cope well with whatever difficult situations that arise. This book will benefit everyone if we realise that to be happy and to be able to cope with difficult situations with a calm and peaceful mind, we need to train our minds to develop certain qualities. The benefits will come if we put our mind to it and develop these qualities and propensities for happiness in our minds.

  1. Train our minds to be happy by focusing only on the good qualities. If we apply this principle of focusing on only the good qualities to every person or situation we encounter daily, we will definitely reap the benefit of getting along very well with everyone, and being calm and peaceful, no matter what situation arises.
  2. Train our minds to let go of wrong perceptions about people and situations in our daily life. The benefit is we will react positively from a correct perception, and we will thus have the benefit of people around us being friendly and respectful towards us. We will not suffer disappointments or become hurt from wrong perceptions and wrong expectations.
  3. Let go of anger by correcting wrong perceptions, and by seeing that our anger creates hostility towards us and causes others to stay away from us, no matter how good-looking or pleasant we are in other ways. Ultimately, we let go because we recognise that we had created the cause for the situation that is the source of our anger, to arise. The benefit is that we will not push people away, and those people we had pushed away in the past, will return to us.
  4. Stop complaining and blaming others – face ourselves and acknowledge our faults and how we had acted wrongly. The benefit is we will not run away from every difficult situation and we will not hide our faults, which otherwise will fester inside us and create psychosomatic problems for us. We will transform and become nicer people and people will be more friendly and helpful towards us.
  5. The Law of Cause and Effect is not a law created by Lord Buddha. It is a natural law that governs every sentient being. Lord Buddha discovered this Law on the night of His Enlightenment, together with discovering that reincarnation exists, and that each of us has had countless past lives. Buddhist Psychology revolves around accepting this Law as an ineluctable Truth. Hence, the most liberating step to take, for the mind that has been habituated in unhappiness, is to accept the Law of Cause and Effect and to accept that we are born into an unhappy situation because we had created the cause for it. With this acceptance, we let go of all the hurts and the pain seemingly inflicted on us by others, and we move on with our lives, taking responsibility. We will transform ourselves for happiness and reap all the benefits of a positive and peaceful mind.

We all want to be happy. There is no short cut to developing a happy state of mind. As Tsem Rinpoche shows us here so clearly and convincingly, by using his own life and experiences, we have to train our mind in the way he has prescribed for us here. That happy mind that we achieve will be a wish-fulfilling jewel, yielding optimum benefit to others and ourselves.

When we have the Dharma and our Spiritual Guide to help train our minds toward happiness, what are we waiting for? Life is short. Karma does not wait for any man or woman.

READ “BE HAPPY”, TRAIN OUR MINDS FOR HAPPINESS AND BE HAPPY!

 

About the Book

Author: H.E Tsem Rinpoche
Publisher: Kechara Media and Publications
Paperback: 160 pages
ISBN: 978 967 5365 75 1
Product dimensions: 12.5cm (H) x 10.7cm (W) x 0.8cm (D)
Weight: 82g

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About Pastor Lim Han Nee

A teacher for 30 years, it is no surprise that Pastor Lim Han Nee's life long passion was reading philosophical books to quench her thirst for knowledge. Upon meeting her Spiritual Guide H.E. the 25th Tsem Rinpoche, she was amazed by the brilliance of the Dharma, and began to immerse herself in Buddhist Philosophy through countless of hours listening and studying the Dharma.
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  1. Lin Mun on Apr 25, 2017 at 11:49 am

    Thank you Pastor Han Nee for your sharing your thoughts and review about the book “Be Happy” written by Rinpoche. It is indeed not easy to be happy as we all have various expectation in every situation and people.

    We may think having a big house, lots of cash and good career is happiness but this is the wrong perception. Being happy is not about material and everything about ourselves. It is only when we can do more for others and focus out that we gain happiness. I never realised this until I joined Kechara. I think we have such a fixed mindset of what happiness is and when our expectation is not met, we are unhappy.

    Rinpoche has pointed out many ways for us to rectify our thoughts and methods to be happy. Now it is for us to take initiative to change and transform our mind if we want to be happy.

    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Han Nee for this article.

  2. Lum Kok Luen on Apr 7, 2017 at 1:01 pm

    Dear Pastor Han Nee,

    Thank you for this wonderful article and also for organizing the blog discussion.

    To be happy has everything to do with our state of mind. If we cling onto our attachments, our delusions, our wrong view of people and to keep feeding our ego, we will remain unhappy up to the moment of our death.

    Letting go of anger, hatred, and attachments will be the first steps on our path to happiness.

    I guess why people are so ignorantly unhappy is due to the fact that in today’s community, we are educated to always guard our ourselves and the very natural reaction is to perhaps have less trust on people around us, in case we are cheated. But them again, if our karma requires us to be cheated (financially or otherwise), we have to accept it.

    The points you have highlighted and summarized are so useful for us to constantly come back an make a checklist on how we have progressed in our pursuit of to Be Happy.

    Let’s not make this article a one time read but constantly come back and check our minds, our progress in Dharma and our progress in following our Guru’s teachings.

    Thank you.
    Lum Kok Luen

  3. Echeah on Apr 2, 2017 at 5:10 pm

    Be Happy? When I see this title, what comes to mind is, really? Not possible. You’re asking me to be happy when the whole nature of samsara is suffering? There is no happiness in samsara. If we think we’re happy, perhaps we are just kidding ourselves. With a samsaric mindset, what we get is only snippets of fleeting happiness or pleasures that do not last or which are a prelude to more suffering. The whole impetus of dharma practice is to get out of this samsaric situation so that we can achieve lasting happiness.

    Positive thinking, shifting our perceptions, letting go, ceasing to blame and taking responsibility are mind training steps that we must undertake before we can achieve that state of equilibrium. But as long as our existence is dictated by karma and our delusions, there can be no happiness.

  4. Tek Lee on Mar 30, 2017 at 2:55 am

    Thank you Pastor Han nee for sharing this article. Yes, we must accept karma and accept what happened to us with open heart, face it, and not dwell in the past and sadness and grudge. Me too there was a series of drama happened on me which left a big impact in my life three years ago. Ever since I became Buddhist and joint Kechara, I learnt how to face the situation, and handle it a Buddhist way. That is the only way to let me stand up again, and face the situation with an open heart. It is not easy to gain ultimate happiness, but by reading this book, it shows us the steps in handling unhappy situation, slowly, we will gain ultimate happiness. Thank you Rinpoche for the teaching through this book. As we can see, people living in the world nowadays, holding too much on anger, grudge, sadness, and people tend to blame others for things that happened. I hope this book can reach more people, so that more people will be benefited. _/\_

  5. Stella Cheang on Mar 7, 2017 at 1:47 pm

    Thank you, Pastor Han Nee for sharing with us your review of the book Happy by His Eminence. The book is the solution to all our sorrows and woes in this modern world. We are no longer suffering because of there is not enough food, but we suffer when our friends or rival bought a bigger car or had a better job. This suffering stems from our untamed mind, feeling jealous and angry and unsatisfied no matter what we have. Therefore the antidotes are about fixing the root cause, which is the mind. The solution outlined by Rinpoche and shared by Pastor here is a step-by-step guide to get us out of the conundrum of unhappiness.

  6. Wan Wai Meng on Oct 11, 2016 at 1:43 am

    Many teachers and masters can help us awaken to the fact that, most of the time we are chasing our tails. We are chasing for this or that, which is supposedly going to make us happy. trying to satisfy a ‘inner hunger’ with material things or worldly achievements will not keep us satiated.

    We obviously need to learn from a someone who is more enlightened and mature on the spiritual than ourselves. From past experiences and looking at how people live, it should be very obvious that by focusing on our own happiness, gets us no where. But applying Buddha’s doctrine that talks about interdependence, and that the happiness of one, or the alleviation of suffering from one person, can affect everyone else’s happiness is key to becoming happier and points to happiness that is less fleeting and more stable in its nature.

  7. sonny tan on Aug 25, 2016 at 12:34 pm

    Thank you Pastor Han Nee and Rinpoche on the importance of being happy, it never occurred to me that Rinpoche would ask to be reborn in a situation whereby he would experience pain, disharmony, anger, disillusion particularly in his early childhood.
    It must be very devastating for him to pass through life with an entire emotional discontentment about who he was hanging over his shoulders. Rinpoche must be pretty bewildered to have found out that he was actually adopted by the American family. With all these happening to him yet he has never lost faith in Buddhism speak volumes of his inner strength, faith and strong devotion particularly after having met his root guru.
    Rinpoche has gone through pretty much all the agonies of family life that many of us may not have been privilege to experience and had sail through those tormenting stormy years. We are very privileged to be recipients and most importantly he has accepted many as students under his wings to further propagate authentic Tibetan Buddhism here.
    Whatever we have learned from Rinpoche is not out of a fantasy story book but a true to life experiences of his journey. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing with us your life’s journey and most importantly impart to us your profound knowledge on Tibetan tantric Buddhism. Your presence here in Malaysia would definitely leave a legacy behind and your imprints would encourage many Malaysian to embrace Tibetan Buddhism.

  8. Colin Tan on Aug 5, 2016 at 1:28 pm

    Whenever we are in difficult situations, what we tend to do are either get angry & blame others, or we runaway from it, hide it if we are at fault. As it’s much easier to blame & complain than to face our own vulnerability & fear. Tsem Rinpoche says we created the cause of situations. If we hold the right perception, we no longer see ourselves as the victim in miserable situations. It’s so true that we are blindfolded by our own perceptions which caused lots of misunderstanding & conflicts in relationships. When we stop having the “poor me” victim mentality and realize we created the cause of all situations, we have no reason to get angry at others or hold grudge against them. We can then accept the reality no matter how difficult it is and be at peace with it. We will feel happy.

    Sometimes we run away from difficult situations or hide our mistakes because it’s painful for us to face the dark side of our personality, our feeling of not good enough. We fear that others might look down on us, dislike us or even attack our weaknesses when we admit we are at fault. That’s the reason we would rather hide our mistakes & weaknesses than to expose or confess to others. It’s one of our self-defense mechanisms. If we understand that we are imperfect & there are imperfections in life, and we’re able to accept life as it is and see its beauty, we will stop running away and live a happier life. We eventually realize that no one is actually at fault and each of us just lives out our karma in this life. If everyone takes full responsibilities of our lives & embrace who we are wholeheartedly, we will transform & be truly free and happy.

  9. Sock Wan on Jul 21, 2016 at 8:22 pm

    Thank you Pastor Han Nee for writing this book review, even without reading the book, I am able to benefit from the review.

    Whatever we feel is a state of mind, how we perceive and how we react. To take the responsibility of whatever is happening to us without putting the blame on the environmental factor enable us to take control of our emotions.

    We feel unhappy because someone disappoints us, does not meet our expectation. In this case, we let environmental factor controls how we feel. However, if we take away the expectation, we take the responsibility that things are going the ‘wrong way’ because we have created the Karma for it to happen, we will be able to accept the consequence happily even though it is not what we expected. This way, we are taking control of our emotion, our state of mind. Our emotion will be more stable because regardless of what is happening out of our control will not affect us at all.

    I guess to start to become happy, we have to learn to take the responsibility, stop blaming others for our failure or unhappiness. Taking responsibility is to take control of our happiness.

  10. Carmen Koo on Jul 16, 2016 at 3:49 am

    A small, compact book that is greatly profound and illuminated by precious sharing of Rinpoche’s personal experiences, and commentary on teachings of mind transformation.

    Our greatest displeasure and suffering comes from our own mind. Being happy or unhappy is a choice, we have to make, and if we make a choice to want to be happy, we have to switch our minds from the current state of unhappiness, (or temporal happiness and unhappiness, that switches back and forth), to a state of happiness

    The 5 steps to happiness elucidated above is very clear, and all involves re-tuning our state of mind.

    1. Being Happy is About Seeing the Good in Every Person or Situation
    – No one is perfect, and neither are we. The fact that we can recognise a flaw in someone somehow shows that we have that flaw too. So, look on the bright side, and appreciate the situation or person for the many other good that they are, not the few flaws that originated in your mind due to your perception.

    2. Being Happy is About Changing Perceptions
    – Our perceptions becomes assumptions, which leads to our minds getting wired up. We have perceptions because of expectations. When we kill that, our perceptions change, because, there is nothing to feed the perception or projection that originated in our mind.

    3. Stop the Blame, Face Yourself, Be Happy!
    – We can’t keep blaming others, because one day, someone will sniff us out for being the downer. Having to hide causes more unhappiness, because we spend so much time hiding and justifying for our unhappiness or failure or whatever it is, that we don’t spent time re-tuning and working on our minds. We are in constant fear because we hide from reality. When we let go of self-centricity, peace and calm takes over our minds.

    4. Being Happy is About Letting Go! We Let Go Because We Realise it’s Karma!
    – It takes 2 hands to clap in every situation. If we keep holding on to unhappy memories, grudges, negative events and feelings, of course our minds will be clouded by the same negative feelings. Letting go is key to embracing situations that were against us, and turning it around, because everything that we face and experience originated from a source, that was done by ourselves!

    5. Being Happy is About Taking Responsibilities
    – Success brings a feeling of happiness. And taking responsibility leads to success.

    Thank you for this detailed, mind opening review, that helped me to understand so much more. It was very well written.

    Carmen

  11. Wylfred Ng on Jul 13, 2016 at 7:57 pm

    谢谢仁波切的书以及林汉妮讲法师的读后感。

    林汉妮讲法师以非常易明的方式写出读后感, 让我可以很简单明白这本书。

    第一就是要专注在他人的优点, 而不是放大其他人的缺点, 那么我们会比较开心。 当然每个人也有优缺点, 我们自己也会希望别人会注意我们的优点多过缺点。

    第二个我明白的就是如果我们要快乐, 我们就需要破除我们对于事情的既定印象。 我自己的经验就是比如我是开灯可以睡得着, 那么我也必须接受其他人开灯睡不着觉, 因为任何事情都可以有不同的方式进行, 不只是可以通过我们的既定印象进行。

    第三就是要面对自己的过错。 仁波切以自己的例子来让大家了解这个点。 仁波切虽然不愿, 不过他还是像他的母亲道歉, 让他把这件事情放下。 放下了, 执着就没有了。

    这就是我对于这篇文章的了解。

    谢谢

  12. William Chua on Jul 13, 2016 at 7:49 pm

    We should always look at the positive side of the situation or people because just like a coin, there are two sides. It is because we do not look hard enough and take the easy way out of our habit of looking at the negative. We take the easy way out is because we are conditioned this way throughout our life. Therefore, it became our habit. We are being automatic to react negatively first in any situation like blaming other people of our failures.

    We should not run away from our problem but to face up with it so that we can deal with it. After we deal with the problem, the problem will go away. Do not always expect people to come rescue s. That is the easy way out and we will never learn. We will only learn the lesson when we go through it. Coming to terms with ourselves and accepting ourselves for who we are will then change out perception on things. It could be the same thing or situation, but because we have gone through it, we will react in a positive manner instead of negative.

    Take responsibility and turn the situation around so that we will not suffer as much. It is all within our control and this book does open up the mind to accept ourselves in any situation and turn it around so that we can be happy. It takes practice, but the time to start is now.

  13. Karen on Jul 13, 2016 at 7:41 pm

    Personally i like this book very much, it’s handy yet compact, full with wisdom in such a tiny book! The essence of the teaching here is to let go of anything that hold us back from being happy. It’s always easier said than done. Sometimes when we encounter something over and over again that provoke our anger and hatred and caused much sufferings, as a Dharma practitioner, have we ever dare to ask ourselves, did we apply Dharma in our daily lives? Why would our live full of misery/unhappiness/anger or whatsoever that always makes us unsatisfied with our life?

    Sometimes I don’t even know some of my qualities that are so deep-rooted that caused myself and others suffer. Through Rinpoche’s kindness and of course the fellow Dharma brothers and sisters, I realised my weaknesses. First it was hard to take in, second i have to force myself to face myself, third i accept, change and move on. Never hold any grasps on others who kindly pointed out your weaknesses out of care. I always believe they did that because they care about you.

    I find that when we open up ourselves and face ourselves, acknowledge and confess to our mistakes, it’s a kind of therapy. We all know running away from a problem is coward, but often we can persuade ourselves it’s fine to be coward once in a while or we tend to turn things around to suit ourselves. The more we hide, the more we have to cover, it’s tiring and a lot of effort has to be put into it. It would be easier when we just be genuine, real and honest, even though when we fail, we do not run or hide but have guts to own up our failure and stand up again. I guess this is one of the ingredients of being happy.

  14. Carsden on Jul 13, 2016 at 7:37 pm

    越多的執念與執著,造就越多的不快樂。人們都在追求實質物體所給予的短暫“快樂”,恍恍惚惚盲目的過了一生,赫然回首的那一天才發現浪費了多少的時間在虛無的事物上,然後就這樣終其一生。看淡一切不過於追求什麼,那快樂卻是永久常在的。

    另外文中提到關於我們總是習慣投射我們個人的想法與觀念於別人身上,以至於當別人無法達到我們所“預期”或“期望”的,那不良情緒的產生也是必然的。這種惡性循環,如果一直不去糾正,只一味的活在自己的世界,我們的社會將不存在和平與良善。改變對別人所產生的錯誤投射,把它變成正面的投射,從而散發正能量,這世界絕對會更美好。

  15. jerry_sito on Jul 13, 2016 at 6:38 pm

    感谢HanNee 讲法师的分享,

    在这个E时代里,我们时常会莫名地感到失落与突然间会不开心,突然就会感到郁郁闷闷,即使人们是生存在这个繁华的都市,或是宁静的乡村里,都避免不了思绪的涟漪,起起落落,从出生到一生的尽头,没有止境。

    人们总是尝试透过不同的方式,寻找“快乐”,然而大部分的人选择在灯红酒绿花花世界中不断地里穿梭着,在情感中游离希望能够赶走寂寞的痛苦而得到“快乐”,只是谁能在这娑婆世界得到永恒的快乐呢?

    在尊贵的第廿五世詹杜固仁波切的这一本书里《要快乐》,HanNee 讲法是在上面详细解释了其中部分,与重要的五个点

    1. 看见别人的好 2. 思维的改变 3. 停止埋怨与认清自己 4. 拿起责任 5. 方下

    如果你在这繁华都市中,想要寻找一份内心的平静,倘若你已经用过各种不同的方式寻找快乐,你可以尝试阅读仁波切在这本书的教诲,为什么那五个点可以给予我们快乐。

    谢谢
    Jerry Sito

  16. Yeo Kwai Gin on Jun 21, 2016 at 8:19 pm

    Anger are one of the poison for our emotion. When we always thinking about”me, me , me”, the arrow are always pointed to others and blamed for the mistake. If someone did not fulfill their needs, so anger arise. Also, stop blaming to others, and try to stand in other side to think yhe problem their facing, find the win win solution to solved it . The important are just like Rinpoche mention, the solution are simple and direct, ” Adjust Their Selfishness” . 😊😊😊

  17. shelly tai on Jun 10, 2016 at 1:40 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Han Nee for book review. I think everyone in this world wants to be happy no one wants to be depress, but the problems is most of us do not understand the true happiness is not come from outside not external like if a wealthy person they will more happy than the poor man in actual fact the happiness is come from inside what we call it a inner peace like want Rinpoche said our perception towards anything that happen to us so is about ourselves nothing to do with the external factors, thats why when difficult situation arises we like to blame others, therefore the only way to uproot this problem is the holy dharma and of cause we our guru to deliver the Dharma to us.

  18. Fong on Jun 2, 2016 at 2:54 pm

    Thank you, Pastor Han Nee, for sharing this very interesting book and your journey in and outside the book. The title’ “Be Happy” seems very simple but it is indeed very profound.

    It needs us to first look inside ourselves, find our boundaries or limits as they call it. Only when we recognize the walls, that we can start to chip away at it. Most of us can’t even see the wall. All we know is that there is something there. Being blind, we can try to work at it but will be doing all the wrong things or actions and in the process gets frustrated and make the situation worse.

    Thank you for breaking down the teachings to share with us the details and steps to take for us to help ourselves as Rinpoche intended.

    I look at the situation as if my daughter would like to go out but don’t know how to take the public transport. She knows she needs to get from point A to point B and that transport is required. But if she takes the wrong bus, she’ll end up far from her intended destination. So she must first find out what bus goes where and what are the times they pass a certain bus stop. Similarly, I may want to be happy, but I first have to know the causes and from there the steps to remedy my situation.

    Again, here the Guru is very important. Without the Guru, we may still be able to find our way, but it will take a lot more very hard work in a roundabout way. and, for some, wallowing in Samsara is more comfortable. For that I am grateful to Rinpoche for being compassionate enough o help lost, ignorant people like me.

  19. Boon on May 30, 2016 at 11:53 pm

    Thank you Pastor Han Nee.

    To achieve happiness is to me to live a simple, non-seeking, non-dwelling life. Cut down the layers of wants and needs, the anger, the hatred, then the bag we carry will naturally becomes lighter.

  20. Stella Cheang on May 26, 2016 at 10:45 pm

    Everyone wants to be happy. I have never come across anyone who does not want to be happy. Being happy is a state of mind free of negative emotions. Hence it is very disturbing to read the bitter, vengeful and malicious comments by haters who come to His Eminence’s blog, Fanpage or Facebook. They hurl merciless insult to a high lama; i.e. His Eminence as well as Shugden practitioners just to be seen as pro-HHDL. Seriously, how could being the follower of a world renowned lama be so provocative and barbaric? And how these negative poisons e.g. ignorance, anger and hatred would help them on their spiritual path?

    I am very grateful and extremely lucky to have met with His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche, who tirelessly instill in us impeccable good Dharma practice. He taught us to return hatred and anger with love and kindness. He taught us how to be happy. He taught us Buddha Dharma from pure lineage in a simplistic and humorous manner. He showed us how to cultivate compassion and focus out. Most importantly, He walked the talk.
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Han Nee for this sharing.

    Humbly, bowing down,
    Stella Cheang

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  • Lin Mun
    Friday, Apr 28. 2017 04:00 PM
    Everything we offer to Buddha is a form of mind transformation and practise our mind to be focus even when doing water offering. When pouring the water into the bowl we have to recite Om Ah Hum (3 times), think positively and pouring it slowly so it does not spill and leaving the space of a grain of rice before reaching the top. After offering we also have to clean the bowls properly without leaving stain. All this is to train our mind.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing the many benefits and water offering in a simple to understand article.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/making-water-offerings-to-the-buddhas.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Friday, Apr 28. 2017 03:38 PM
    Trolls are assiociates as beings of Scandinavian folklore.A large number of different mythological creatures continue to live on in Scandinavian folklore.They have different shapes,habitat and filthy features . There are also numerous tales of trolls told and retold.Trolls are also believed to have the magigal powers, which were folktales ,posses capabilities that are beyond human .What ever it was a remnant of a long-lost reality for sure. I do believe that there’s a very high chance trolls had existed in the past.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing ,i do enjoyed all the stories in these article even though it just folk tales.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/the-hidden-nature-of-trolls.html
  • Jason
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 11:54 PM
    People always expect return on some contribution being done especially in charity events. When the return was under their expectations then they will feel sad or unhappy.
    As Rinpoche said, Dharma is a teachings to transform our mind to become bodicitta or selfless to benefit others without condition. Once we practiced selfless mind, our mind will not be affected by others people reaction.
    What will be my legacy? I think this is not really important to me anymore once I know Dharma teachings from Rinpoche.
    Thanks Datuk May for sharing to benefit more people.

    Jason

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/guest-contributors/what-will-be-your-legacy.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 08:56 PM
    Amazing miracles true story …of how Rinpoche helped. With Rinpoche blessing during the children baptismal ceremony,this little boy who had not spoken since 9 years old was able to speake again.Incredible….
    Chef Au truly believes been a vegetarian has help him to collects merits for his son.Rinpoche’s care and compassion has benefited many more people.Through these stories hope more people will be inspired to achieve the state of compassion and attainments.
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Loh Seng Piow for this sharing.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-4.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 07:51 PM
    Having fully trust and faith in Rinpoche ,Fat monk’s mother was well again, after been diagnosed with cancerious tumour at the liver.
    Following instructions given by Rinpoche, his mother recited mantras and Fat monk did a series of pujas as told,his mother recovered then.
    Amazing……Miracles do happen.
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor Loh Seng Piow for sharing.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-3.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 05:27 PM
    We are no strangers to the creatures called Werewolves. They are often depicted as the Jekyll-and-Hyde-like monsters in movies who are unable to control their animal instincts when they shift from human form to a wolf-like creature, usually during the full moon. Together with the Vampires who can transform into bats, are my childhood imagery villains, who triggered my curiosity on mythical creatures during younger days. They still do, lol.

    It is gruesome to learn that real life werewolves are actually brutal even when they are in human forms. It is a far depict from the movies and fictions, where they are civil and level headed when in human form. I hope one day science or technology can provide more proves the existence of werewolves, and debunk the reason of this mystical shapeshifter.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/paranormal/werewolves-the-shapeshifters.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 05:07 PM
    The miraculous power of Protectors’ practice can heal and shield us from negative karma from ripening. Through the blessings of our Guru, coupled with strong faith and trust, the practices will take effect swiftly and effectively. Rejoice to Steven Lee. May he be guided by the Three Jewels always. Thank you, Pastor Seng Piow for sharing the true story with us.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-10.html
  • Lin Mun
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 03:57 PM
    This is a very touching article. I totally agree that dog is a man’s best friend. They are always so loyal to the owner. However it is sad that not all pet owners are such. Some will only treat them literally as an animal and therefore do not take good care of them. Dogs or any other animals are beings that have feeling. There should not be neglected and be abused by us. This article reminds us to always care for all beings and respect them.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this heartwarming article.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/faithful-dog-chases-deceased-owner.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 02:21 PM
    Its a heartfelt touching article of this faithful dog.Cannot imagine this ,such a wonderful relationship between that dog and the deceased owner.The greatest fear dogs know is the fear that we will not come back for them That i noticed from observing from my pet poodle.In this case this faithful dog knew his owner won’t be back.
    Dogs are loyal, patient, fearless, forgiving, capable of pure love and have feelings too.He must have missed the owner badly that he wanted to accompany the owner all the way to the resting place.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing. May that faithful dog ,continue to serve and well taken, love by the other family members.
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/faithful-dog-chases-deceased-owner.html
  • Samfoonheei
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 01:46 PM
    Werewolves are known to be mythical creatures found in fiction instead of lurking in the dark woods,In various parts of the world there were few cases who have gone down in history as real life werewolves Interesting to read it from these post..How far it was true or just legends.,no one really know . Many myths and legends surrounding werewolves .To become a werewolf, it is necessary to be bitten by a werewolf in their form at the time of the full moon. Thats what all of us knew from the movies and from fiction told. Reports of werewolf sightings continued even till this century but mostly in between 1428 and 1447 .The most recent sighting of werewolf sightings in 1972. was in Ohio .but eventually subsided .
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing these interesting article which i do enjoyed reading it,
    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/paranormal/werewolves-the-shapeshifters.html
  • Valentina
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 01:11 PM
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    Twenty-Four Holy Places & Eight Great Charnel Grounds part 2 – (focus topic: Eight Great Charnel Grounds)

    At one time there was a god by the name of Rudra who was originally part of Mahadeva’s retinue. He was a very fierce being who also had many of his own consorts. Together with his consorts he began to oppress sentient beings, and promoted violence and unethical behaviour. At that time, Heruka once again arose, and in a dance of great compassionate wrath, liberated Rudra and his consorts from their physical bodies, sending their minds to pure lands. The places where Rudra’s body parts fell became charnel grounds. …read more by clicking the following link:

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/twenty-four-holy-places-eight-great-charnel-grounds.html
  • Jason
    Thursday, Apr 27. 2017 03:07 AM
    This year Wesak Day fall on 10 of May. This day is very special and meaningful to me because I will visit Kechara Forest Retreat(KFR) to join some meritorious event there.
    For me, Wesak is a day to commemorate Buddha Sakyamuni in three aspect( Birth , Enlightened, Nirwana).
    While we celebrate Wesak, we must remind ourselves to learn from Buddha teachings and practice it in order to gain attainment.
    Thanks Rinpoche and Pastor Seng Piow for sharing in order to create more understanding on Wesak Day.

    Jason

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/wesak-day-special-on-rtm-2.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 06:10 PM
    OMG! This is very touching. To see a doggie who never left go of his owner in spite of death. Way more powerful than many who proclaimed “till death do us part.” Just like the human, not all doggies are as loyal as this tear-jerking pet, but I truly believe almost all doggies offer unconditional love to the person who feeds and cares for them. Even when they are stray animals. There was a stray dog who will run two streets from the entrance of the “Taman” until the car stops in front of the house, just to greet me. You can imagine the warm and conviction in my heart that these beings are more than capable of loving than many of us, human! Thank you for this lovely sharing. I miss my doggie, Sherab.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/animals-vegetarianism/faithful-dog-chases-deceased-owner.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 06:00 PM
    Thank you, Pastor Seng Piow, for this amazing sharing. There is no doubt about the ability of our Guru, His Eminence the 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche. His incarnations have been compassionate and taken rebirth to return and spread the dharma so that sentient beings can benefit and learn some dharma in our short life.

    We shall never doubt our Guru; but must see that He is one with our Yidam and Protector, an attained being. Even if our Guru does not demonstrate clairvoyance abilities, we must never contest our Guru, for he holds the key (dharma) that can liberate us from eternal suffering in samsara.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-1-2.html
  • Stella Cheang
    Wednesday, Apr 26. 2017 05:50 PM
    Thank you, Pastor Seng Piow, for the illustrated miracle story on how Rinpoche guided Cynthia and Marici away from danger through protector’s practice. The unseen exist, whether we like it or not. Some of them are malicious and have the affinity or karma with some of us. Hence they can cause harm and disturbance. By engaging in Protectors’ practice like Dorje Shugden and Setrap that have been practiced by the high lamas of the Gelug school of Tibetan Buddhism, we are protected and guarded against harm.

    Rinpoche is compassionate and only want the best for us. His teachings are not meant to show off the power of the divines but offer us a way out from our desperate samsara conundrum that binds us from engaging in deeper spiritual practice. Rinpoche always teaches us to focus on mind transformation and Tsongkhapa practice. How fortunate we are to have met Rinpoche in this lifetime. We must not let this rare and precious opportunity go to waste.

    http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/personal-attendant/the-miracles-of-tsem-rinpoche-true-story-12.html

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The Known and unknown are both feared,
Known is being comfortable and stagnant,
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One shall never know if one fears the unknown more than the known.
Who says the unknown would be worse than the known?
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Holy Lady Buddha Vajra Yogini\'s blessing can be found when we decide to focus out to others instead of in to only ourselves.
~ Tsem Tulku Rinpoche
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Holy Lady Buddha Vajra Yogini's blessing can be found when we decide to focus out to others instead of in to only ourselves. ~ Tsem Tulku Rinpoche
His Holiness Vajradhara Kyabje Zong Rinpoche of Gaden Monastery who is the refuge of countless, gives a clear explanation of Dorje Shugden. One is able to hear his holy voice and translation by Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen! Please see here and share: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=122352
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His Holiness Vajradhara Kyabje Zong Rinpoche of Gaden Monastery who is the refuge of countless, gives a clear explanation of Dorje Shugden. One is able to hear his holy voice and translation by Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen! Please see here and share: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=122352
: This picture says it all. Click on it to enlarge and read and please share.
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: This picture says it all. Click on it to enlarge and read and please share.
This is a simple chart showing the three main psychic channels used in tantric meditations to control the winds, raise tummo (fire energy), gain higher consciousness and insight and also for gaining siddhis. These channels are used in meditations for controlling the mind, when the mind ejects from the body (phowa) and one\'s death. These three channels are very important. Tsem Rinpoche
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This is a simple chart showing the three main psychic channels used in tantric meditations to control the winds, raise tummo (fire energy), gain higher consciousness and insight and also for gaining siddhis. These channels are used in meditations for controlling the mind, when the mind ejects from the body (phowa) and one's death. These three channels are very important. Tsem Rinpoche
I think my cute doggie Oser is actually Tintin\'s dog Snowy!
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I think my cute doggie Oser is actually Tintin's dog Snowy!
Great Masters of Gaden Shartse Monastery. From left to right: His Eminence Kensur Jampa Yeshe Rinpoche, His Holiness Sharpa Choeje Jetsun Lobsang Nyima, H.E. Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche, H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, His Holiness 101st Gaden Tripa throne holder Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal.
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Great Masters of Gaden Shartse Monastery. From left to right: His Eminence Kensur Jampa Yeshe Rinpoche, His Holiness Sharpa Choeje Jetsun Lobsang Nyima, H.E. Kyabje Zemey Rinpoche, H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche, His Holiness 101st Gaden Tripa throne holder Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal.
 Left to right: Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl. The three of them are my beautiful and loved Schnauzer dogs. They loved looking through the window to see traffic, people and movement. They loved the smells that drifted through their little noses. I love seeing the three of them together like this. I love them. Tsem Rinpoche
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Left to right: Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl. The three of them are my beautiful and loved Schnauzer dogs. They loved looking through the window to see traffic, people and movement. They loved the smells that drifted through their little noses. I love seeing the three of them together like this. I love them. Tsem Rinpoche
Little Mumu boy...he loved balloons. When he saw them, he wanted to get close and perhaps bite them. Cute. I love this picture of Mumu reaching for the balloons. He was young and healthy! This picture captures his energy, enthusiasm, curiosity and high energy. I love this picture of him chasing the balloons. His pictures are always so nice....He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
Little Mumu boy...he loved balloons. When he saw them, he wanted to get close and perhaps bite them. Cute. I love this picture of Mumu reaching for the balloons. He was young and healthy! This picture captures his energy, enthusiasm, curiosity and high energy. I love this picture of him chasing the balloons. His pictures are always so nice....He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
Little Mumu boy and myself.. He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
3 weeks ago
Little Mumu boy and myself.. He was not a pet but family to me. I love him tremendously and always will. Tsem Rinpoche
2017-His Holiness the 101st Gaden Tripa, Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal is doing well and 90 years old. His Holiness Lungrik Namgyal is a powerful master of sutra and tantra and practitioner of Dorje Shugden. Currently residing in France.
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2017-His Holiness the 101st Gaden Tripa, Jetsun Lungrik Namgyal is doing well and 90 years old. His Holiness Lungrik Namgyal is a powerful master of sutra and tantra and practitioner of Dorje Shugden. Currently residing in France.
One of the most sacred statues of Avalokitesvara made of sandalwood housed in Lhasa, Tibet. He has shown miracles also. Every pilgrim wishes to make offerings to this Lord of Compassion.
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One of the most sacred statues of Avalokitesvara made of sandalwood housed in Lhasa, Tibet. He has shown miracles also. Every pilgrim wishes to make offerings to this Lord of Compassion.
 Sacred Avalokitesvara statue in Nepal. Thousands come to worship this special Buddha as it has conferred wishes in the past.
3 weeks ago
Sacred Avalokitesvara statue in Nepal. Thousands come to worship this special Buddha as it has conferred wishes in the past.
Tsem Rinpoche\'s Vajra Yogini statue and offerings
3 weeks ago
Tsem Rinpoche's Vajra Yogini statue and offerings
Two of my teachers from Gaden Shartse Monastery in South India. Left side is Most Venerable Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen whom I lived with for 8 years in Los Angeles where his centre Thubten Dhargye Ling is located. On the right is the abbot emeritus H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche the scholar and yogi. I was very fortunate to have them in my life and learn so much dharma from them. Tsem Rinpoche
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Two of my teachers from Gaden Shartse Monastery in South India. Left side is Most Venerable Geshe Tsultrim Gyeltsen whom I lived with for 8 years in Los Angeles where his centre Thubten Dhargye Ling is located. On the right is the abbot emeritus H.E. Kyabje Lati Rinpoche the scholar and yogi. I was very fortunate to have them in my life and learn so much dharma from them. Tsem Rinpoche
 It is so wonderful to be kind to people, be caring, feed them, make sure they are healthy and share dharma if they are interested with them for their future. But simply to be nice to others is worth getting up and being alive...otherwise why be alive to hurt/use/distrust and hate others? No point living that way..must change that..... It is nice to live our lives to benefit others and be patient even if we have been hurt before because by caring we can heal the hurt and \'defeat\' the ones that hurt us because we don\'t become bitter..... Tsem Rinpoche
4 weeks ago
It is so wonderful to be kind to people, be caring, feed them, make sure they are healthy and share dharma if they are interested with them for their future. But simply to be nice to others is worth getting up and being alive...otherwise why be alive to hurt/use/distrust and hate others? No point living that way..must change that..... It is nice to live our lives to benefit others and be patient even if we have been hurt before because by caring we can heal the hurt and 'defeat' the ones that hurt us because we don't become bitter..... Tsem Rinpoche
Tsem Rinpoche\'s heritage in China. Must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=120499
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Tsem Rinpoche's heritage in China. Must read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=120499
Thank you Buddhist Pastor Chia for sharing your story on how you met His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche over 20 years ago. We can learn much from your story.~Admin  Please read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=116928
4 weeks ago
Thank you Buddhist Pastor Chia for sharing your story on how you met His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche over 20 years ago. We can learn much from your story.~Admin Please read: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/?p=116928
Mumu boy is incredibly photogenic. He is beyond cute. Tsem Rinpoche
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Mumu boy is incredibly photogenic. He is beyond cute. Tsem Rinpoche
 (left to right) Rabten Tulku, Gonsar Rinpoche, Gyume Kensur Rinpoche, Trijang Rinpoche, H.H. Gaden Trisur Rinpoche (France)
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(left to right) Rabten Tulku, Gonsar Rinpoche, Gyume Kensur Rinpoche, Trijang Rinpoche, H.H. Gaden Trisur Rinpoche (France)
Beautiful 200 roses arrived today for me as a gift from Su Ming. Very kind and thoughtful of her as usual. Tsem Rinpoche
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Beautiful 200 roses arrived today for me as a gift from Su Ming. Very kind and thoughtful of her as usual. Tsem Rinpoche
It\'s good to be with kind and sincere people.
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It's good to be with kind and sincere people.
If we are kind, we lose less of ourselves-Tsem Rinpoche
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If we are kind, we lose less of ourselves-Tsem Rinpoche
My Mumu boy didn\'t want to eat. Eating is not one of his favorite activities throughout his life. So I talked to him to let him know why he needs to eat and keep his strength up when this photo was taken. He was listening intently and after my talk with him, he ate. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
My Mumu boy didn't want to eat. Eating is not one of his favorite activities throughout his life. So I talked to him to let him know why he needs to eat and keep his strength up when this photo was taken. He was listening intently and after my talk with him, he ate. Tsem Rinpoche
This is so true. Click to enlarge and understand more about unpleasant people.
1 month ago
This is so true. Click to enlarge and understand more about unpleasant people.
This mahasiddha Kukkuripa is easy to identify as he is accompanied by a small dog whom he loved very much.
1 month ago
This mahasiddha Kukkuripa is easy to identify as he is accompanied by a small dog whom he loved very much.
Mumu taking a rest in the turquoise room. Over the years, I always feel very satisfied when I see him covered with a blanket, safe and sleeping. I always wanted to make sure he was safe from harm, illness and distress. I wanted him to have a happy and loved life. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Mumu taking a rest in the turquoise room. Over the years, I always feel very satisfied when I see him covered with a blanket, safe and sleeping. I always wanted to make sure he was safe from harm, illness and distress. I wanted him to have a happy and loved life. Tsem Rinpoche
I wrapped my little Mumu boy up in my blanket and propped him up on my bed. He didn\'t move or wiggle and just looked at me. He is one funny entertaining little guy. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
I wrapped my little Mumu boy up in my blanket and propped him up on my bed. He didn't move or wiggle and just looked at me. He is one funny entertaining little guy. Tsem Rinpoche
March 2017-Coaxing my little Mumu boy to eat his meal. He was not well and therefore not hungry. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
March 2017-Coaxing my little Mumu boy to eat his meal. He was not well and therefore not hungry. Tsem Rinpoche
Click on picture to enlarge and see what Milarepa says. Profound.
1 month ago
Click on picture to enlarge and see what Milarepa says. Profound.
We are always trying to get somewhere, try something new, find some friends, get some entertainment and in the end we end up in the same place. Time to really practice Dharma seriously and stop wasting time we don\'t have. ~Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
We are always trying to get somewhere, try something new, find some friends, get some entertainment and in the end we end up in the same place. Time to really practice Dharma seriously and stop wasting time we don't have. ~Tsem Rinpoche
March 20, 2017-Mumu is just so adorable with his bright eyes.
1 month ago
March 20, 2017-Mumu is just so adorable with his bright eyes.
More and more people inviting Lord Dorje Shugden home to connect with on their shrines. I am so happy to see this as it will benefit them and their families so much. That is the purpose to be alive which is to benefit others as much as possible. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
More and more people inviting Lord Dorje Shugden home to connect with on their shrines. I am so happy to see this as it will benefit them and their families so much. That is the purpose to be alive which is to benefit others as much as possible. Tsem Rinpoche
His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
1 month ago
His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
1 month ago
His Eminence Tsem Rinpoche is a good sport watching his students do Halloween drag costumes for a charity show. Funny!
The Japanese are very innovative. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
The Japanese are very innovative. Tsem Rinpoche
Read this as it will be interesting
1 month ago
Read this as it will be interesting
Recite this before any meal or drinks for blessings of abundance. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Recite this before any meal or drinks for blessings of abundance. Tsem Rinpoche
This sacred statue of Buddha is in Nepal brought originally from Tibet and has spoken on many occasions. Very blessed to see this holy image and keep a picture...bless you always. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
This sacred statue of Buddha is in Nepal brought originally from Tibet and has spoken on many occasions. Very blessed to see this holy image and keep a picture...bless you always. Tsem Rinpoche
I love Mumu boy tremendously. We went through so much together for so many years. You are a great being to be with. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
I love Mumu boy tremendously. We went through so much together for so many years. You are a great being to be with. Tsem Rinpoche
Dear everyone, I am sharing this beautiful and modern altar to Dorje Shugden in Malaysia. I am glad to see more and more people creating sacred spaces. Tsem Rinpoche
1 month ago
Dear everyone, I am sharing this beautiful and modern altar to Dorje Shugden in Malaysia. I am glad to see more and more people creating sacred spaces. Tsem Rinpoche
Lhamo Karmo, a female buddha form visualized above the crown of one\'s head at the time of death, to encourage consciousness to leave the body via the crown aperture. From my book \"The Female Buddhas.\"- Glenn Mullin
2 months ago
Lhamo Karmo, a female buddha form visualized above the crown of one's head at the time of death, to encourage consciousness to leave the body via the crown aperture. From my book "The Female Buddhas."- Glenn Mullin
The Tibetan female tulku Dorje Pakmo, from a fresco on the wall of the Dorje Pakmo monastery (Samding) in Tibet, near the Turquoise Lake. In Tibet the Dorje Pakmo was ranked with the Dalai Lama, Panchen Lama and Sakya Trizin as the four highest lamas in the country.-from Glenn Mullin
2 months ago
The Tibetan female tulku Dorje Pakmo, from a fresco on the wall of the Dorje Pakmo monastery (Samding) in Tibet, near the Turquoise Lake. In Tibet the Dorje Pakmo was ranked with the Dalai Lama, Panchen Lama and Sakya Trizin as the four highest lamas in the country.-from Glenn Mullin
Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl checking out the scene..cute
2 months ago
Dharma boy, Mumu boy and Oser girl checking out the scene..cute
My Dharma boy has such a cute expression here. He is a good boy!
2 months ago
My Dharma boy has such a cute expression here. He is a good boy!
February 9,2017-My Mumu boy and Oser girl are just relaxing together..super cute
3 months ago
February 9,2017-My Mumu boy and Oser girl are just relaxing together..super cute
Click on the picture to enlarge and see what Suzy from Hawaii commented on the Dorje Shugden issue after much research. She is very candid and honest. Refreshing. Original is posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vl-4lIwxph4
3 months ago
Click on the picture to enlarge and see what Suzy from Hawaii commented on the Dorje Shugden issue after much research. She is very candid and honest. Refreshing. Original is posted here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vl-4lIwxph4
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  • April 20, 2017 10:45
    Ronnie asked: Dear Rinpoche and Pastors, I'm studying abroad and very far away from home, seeking guidance and advice as I have no one else I can talk to about this. Please read with an open mind, I don't know where else to go for help. I'm pregnant and it's an unplanned pregnancy. I'm stuck between keeping it or letting it go. I'm young and having a child at my age in the society we live in now would be considered taboo. The father of the child thinks I should let it go because it may cause a setback to both our careers and cause major family issues. He thinks we aren't ready to raise a child especially since we're both still in university and his parents think badly of me even though they've never met me or tried to get to know me. I'm sure no one would ever have the heart to take away a heartbeat but it seems like it isn't the right time to have a child now and if we did go through with it, the child probably won't be able to have the best things life can offer looking at where we are now in terms of finance and maturity. I'm lost, confused and unsure what the right thing to do is now. Any advice at all would be helpful right now. Thank you so very much for taking time to read my story.
    pastor answered: Dear Ronnie, I’m sorry to read that you are going through this situation. I can understand that this situation is tough to go through. You are always more than welcome to come here to ask questions. May I suggest that you talk to either someone in your family or your friends to help you come to an appropriate solution? This is because, what you feel, what you are going through, will change from time to time and you would need someone to talk to, someone that you can lean on through this situation you are facing. Depending on where you are in the world, professional help can also be sought to help you make a decision, which will be the best option for you seeking help. From a Buddhist perspective, the taking of a life is not considered a positive act, therefore those on the Buddhist path, would normally abstain taking a life if possible. However, that being said, one must always weigh the decision oneself. Everything we do in life, necessarily involves karma both positive and negative. That is why Buddhists try to overcome samsara in general. Your situation is complicated because you are abroad, but if possible you should really open up to someone you are close to in order to help you through making this decision on a personal basis. When you talk to someone, whom you are able to express yourself more, you may able to come to better decision that is right for you. There may be other options open to you if you seek help. I personally know women who have been in similar situations. One of these women, let the child go and the other went through the pregnancy and then gave the child up for adoption. You may or may not have thought of this option, but it is one that could be open to you, depending on where in the world you are. Any decision we make in life, however big or small it may seem, has far reaching consequences whether in this life, or in future lives. This is just a part and parcel of life within samsara. However, we should weigh the decisions we make clearly given the situation we are in. We cannot always do this weighing ourselves, but need to talk about our options with others we can rely on such a friends, family or professionals. You should consider doing this, which will help you greatly emotionally, and may give you the grounding you need to make the correct decision for you. I hope this helps.
  • April 19, 2017 04:57
    Dongho asked: What is a nyung ne practice? According to Lama Zopa Rinpoche, it's a purification sadhana. However, what are the instructions for this? I'm guessing it's to Chenrezig, but how does it work? Also, from what I have read, Vajrasattva practice is only for broken vows while Akshobhya is for regular misdeeds. Does that mean one has to take the Akshobhya practice to purify bad karma from this life and previous instead of Vajrasattva? As for the purification practices, are some like Vajrasattva and Chenrezig only to purify the bad karma and let it come quickly or is it to prevent it from coming? I am confused in it. As for signs, I recited a mantra of White Yangchenma that a Sakya lama, Lama Kunga Thartse Rinpoche, gave me with the Sakya visualizations I read on, and after one mala, I heard some lady call my Korean name even though no one in my neighborhood knows of my name and my family members weren't in the area. What does this mean?
    pastor answered: Dear Dongho, Thank you for your questions, it’s nice to see you back here again. Nyung Ne practice is a purification practice that centres around Chenrezig. It is a very beneficial practice that stems from a holy nun named Gelong-ma Palmo. It is a two and a half day practice that can be repeated many times over and over again to intensify the purification and build a closer relationship with Chenrezig. As well as its purification aspect, the practice is known to generate vast amount of merit, and also compassion, as the practice centres around Chenrezig, the Buddha of compassion. The practice involves taking the eight Mahayana precepts for the duration, fasting, meditating, prostrating and praying. The practice usually entails empowerment into the practice of Chenrezig, therefore the exact meditations, prayers can only be explained to those who have the empowerment. Vajrasattva practice is not necessarily only for repairing broken vows, etc. That’s why it is advised that you engage in the practice at the end of the day, to repair any vows that you may have broken during that day, as well as stopping any negative karma you created that day from multiplying. This would entail reciting the mantra 21 times, together with the four opponent powers. However, if you engage in this practice more intensely, it definitely has the capability to purify all sorts of karma. That is the reason why in Ngondro, or preliminary practices one engages in before tantra, the practice of 100,000 Vajrasattva mantra recitation is an integral part. You can read more about Vajrasattva and his practice here: http://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/prayers-and-sadhanas/an-important-purification-practice.html. Within purification practices, some of the karma will be purified completely, so you do not feel its effects at all, but when purifying other karma you will need to feel its effects somehow. For example if you have the karma to be in a car accident and get seriously injured, and you are engaging in any practice, but especially the purification practice, since you have purified most of the karma, you will only experience being in a very minor car accident, with only very superficial injuries. Therefore, in this case, the karma has been purified to the extent that it does not affect you as much, but you still need to feel part of its effect. In regards to any signs that you receive which engaging in the practices given to you by one of your specific gurus, you should report the happenings to that particular guru. He will be able to give you more of an accurate answer, as it may be related to the particular practice that he gave to you. I hope this helps. Thank you.
  • April 17, 2017 07:06
    Thomas asked: Dear Pastors, When a serkyem set has been used so much and one is ready to get rid of it and replace it with a new one. What is a respecful mode of disposal?
    pastor answered: Dear Thomas, Thank you for your question. Your question shows that you have a lot of respect for offering items, which is very good. If possible, you should try to repair the item if within your means, and doing so make embellishments to make it a better offering item, which can still be used. If this is not possible, then you should dispose of the item with a good motivation. You should think that this item has been used to make offerings to the enlightened beings, but now that it is broken or unusable, you are going to dispose of it, and replace it with a new one. Since it itself is not a receptacle of energies of the enlightened beings, such as a statue, tsa tsa or thangka, it does not require a special dissolution before being disposed of. However since it was used to make offerings, it still requires some form of respect when disposing, and this comes from one’s motivation and the way in which you dispose of it. Usually, when disposing of items in this way, make the motivation that you have used it and that it is now time to dispose of it, and replace it with a new one. When you do this you can dispose of it in a respectful manner. For example, if you are going to throw it away, you do not simply open the trash can and throw it in. You wrap it up in something, like a bag or newspaper and dispose of it respectfully. Another method you can dispose of it is to recycle the object, if the material it is made from can be recycled. That way you are more conscious of the environment as well. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
  • April 16, 2017 22:38
    Curious asked: Dear pastors In a recent youtube video something like paying respect to deceased ones, pastor Nirel Patel explained that merits are like the interest and good karma is like the principal sum. So merits always regenerate themselves and hence do not get used up but good karma is like the principal sum so it gets used up. So my question is what are practices that generate merit? And can we turn a mundane daily activity into a meritorious one? Maybe can you provide an example?
    pastor answered: Dear Curious, Thank you for your question. First, to clarify a point, in regards to good karma, you are right, it is like a principal sum in a bank account, but you take away from it when you experience something good in your life, and you add to it when you do good deeds. Merit on the other hand, once accrued never diminishes, therefore when something is based on merit, it is based on the energies of this never diminishing sum, which you could say is like interest. In short, the principal sum when talking about karma is always added to and subtracted from. However, when talking about merit, once you have it, there is no way to destroy it, you will always benefit from it. There are various ways to explain how to generate merit. I will explain a way that I find easiest to understand. In normal life, when we go about performing any sort of activity, be it ‘good’ or ‘bad’ we do so out of ignorance of the true nature of existence, and it is usually self-motivated. For example, we work our entire lives to generate monetary income, so that we have enough money, resources, and materials goods to be comfortable. This is self-motivated, but it is the accepted way the world works these days, and is part and parcel of being bound to samsaric life. On the other hand, the act of merit making can be categorised into three parts: i) motivation, ii) the act itself, and iii) dedication. Let’s start with motivation, when engaging in various virtuous acts, we should have the motivation that by engaging in the act, we have the motivation to alleviate the suffering of someone else, and that may we gain enlightenment so that we can benefit them in the future. The second is the act itself. The third is to dedicate the energy of the virtuous act to gaining enlightenment. These three are what make merit. This may be a little confusing, so let me give an example: giving help to a homeless person. Whereas in ordinary life, this is something praised as a very good deed, it does not create merit without motivation and dedication. In order for this to become merit, one must set the motivation that one is giving help to the homeless free of the eight worldly concerns, to alleviate their suffering and also making the motivation that you will achieve enlightenment for the sake of the person or people you are helping. Then after you have helped them, you dedicate the energy created to the spiritual journey towards full enlightenment to help all sentient beings, while at the same time benefiting as many sentient beings as possible on the way there. This transforms the act into not only a virtuous action but also one that generates merit. On the other hand, if you were to help the homeless without these, you are creating good karma, which although beneficial, keeps you bound to existence within samsara. As it is the goal of Buddhist practice to overcome the cycle of samsara, a Buddhist would want to generate merit instead of good karma. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
  • April 13, 2017 11:38
    D.A. asked: If Begtse Chan is not from Mongolia, what are his real origins or story exactly? And which lamas offer his empowerment? As for Manjushri Nagarakshasa, which lamas specifically offer his empowerment and practice?
    pastor answered: Dear D.A. Thank you for your question. Begtse, is also known as Chamsing, or Jamsaran in Mongolian. As mentioned in an earlier sharing with someone who also asked a question about Begtse, the practiced was introduced to Tibet from India by the translator Nyen Lotsawa, and is considered one of the main protectors of the Hayagriva cycle of tantras. According to the scriptures that derive from the Sakya tradition, who incorporated the practice from the translators, and in which tradition Begtse became a very important protector, Begtse in a previous life was born many eons ago. In that particular life, he was born as the younger prince in a royal family. His name was Drag Gye, and his older brother’s name was Drag Den. Over time both princes developed differing religious beliefs, to the point where they could not get along with each as they both held their own religious views strongly. As was the custom during that time, they decided to settle their differences through logical debate, with the loser having to convert to the winner’s religion. This custom was also prevalent in ancient India, and there are many stories of such debates occurring between the great masters of the past and those of other faiths. Drag Gye lost the various debates, but ran away instead of converting to his older brother’s religion. Drag Den caught him, and tried to punish him for breaking the rules of debate and going back on his promise. Drag Gye told his brother that even if he was killed he would not give up his religion, however if Drag Den let him go, that in the future when Drag Den became enlightened, he would protect his teachings. With that Drag Den let him go, and gave him a set of copper armour, a stick, and a bow and arrow. Drag Den also gave Drag Gye a new name: Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po. After this incident the two brothers never saw each other again in that lifetime. Many lives after that Drag Den was reborn as Prince Siddharta, who eventually became enlightened and is now known as Buddha Shakyamuni. Drag Gye, or Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po, was reborn in a cemetery in the North West direction. His parents gave birth to two eggs, one was a coral-like colour and the other was an agate-like colour. These two eggs flew high into the sky and reached the heavenly realms, there they subdued the gods. Then flying back down to earth, they subdued many nagas. Eventually they even came to threaten their own parents. The parents petitioned the Dharma protector Ekajati for her help, who threw her own staff (khatvanga) at the eggs, and broke them apart. From the coral-like coloured egg came a ferocious man with yellow hair, he proclaimed that his name was ‘Sog Dag Yam Shi Mar Po’. When he emerged he was wearing a set of copper armour, wielding a stick, copper sword, and a bow and arrow. From the agate-like coloured egg came a female who was blue in colour, her teeth were like shells, she had turquoise eyebrows, and her hair was made of fire. She emerged wielding a copper knife, ritual dagger (phurba), rode a terrifying bear and wore an intricate necklace made of agate and lapis lazuli. It was then that Ekajati once again took action, and subdued them, after which they became Dharma protectors. The male figure became known as Begtse, and the female as his sister. When you propitiate Begtse, his sister is automatically included and aids practitioners as well. As for which lama offer his practice and empowerment, most lamas do not advertise which teachings or practice they hold. Therefore you should respectfully approach lamas and ask them if they have the practice and can bestow it, or if they know of any lamas that have the practice, depending on how much you want to practice Begtse. Similarly, this applies to those lamas who have the practice of Manjushri Nagarakshasa. However, this practice is included in the Rinjung Gyatsa series of empowerments. This unique cycle of teachings, includes all 4 classes of tantric practices, and includes the practice of Manjushri Nagarakshasa. Therefore those lamas who have received the complete transmission, and have kept their commitments for this practice, are qualified to pass this on to others. I hope this explanation helps. Thank you.
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